Relationship Radio: Marriage, Sex, Limerence & Avoiding Divorce

Dr. Joe Beam & Kimberly Beam Holmes: Experts in Fixing Marriages & Saving Relationships

Want help for your real-life relationship problems? We address issues that couples face every day and provide tools to deal with: affairs, limerence, sexual rejection, lying, communication issues, and much more. If you want to know how to make your relationships stronger - this podcast is for you. https://www.MarriageHelper.com

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Yesterday · 12 min
Do Cheaters Always Cheat?
Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! Do cheaters always cheat? You've heard it from your mom. Your best friend. Maybe even a counselor who has never met your spouse. After 30 years of working with marriages in crisis, we can tell you it isn't true. Not for most people. In this video, Dr. Joe Beam breaks down three different kinds of affairs, because the answer to your question changes completely depending on which one you're actually dealing with. The high opportunity, low involvement affair. Wrong place, wrong time, no real emotional connection. The emotional affair. Limerence. Consuming, powerful, and it has a shelf life. The habitual affair. The one that keeps repeating until something underneath it finally gets addressed. Three very different situations. Three very different answers. Here's what decades of workshops and couples have shown us. When both spouses figure out how it happened, and then repair what made it possible, the vast majority never cheat again. But "figure out" is doing a lot of work in that sentence. You can't just reset and hope. You have to understand it. Then you have to build something different in its place. So the real question isn't whether cheaters always cheat. The real question is this. Is your spouse a good person who did a bad thing, or a bad person who did a bad thing? Because one of those can be repaired. In this video, Dr. Joe walks you through how to tell the difference, why almost everyone advising you right now is a biased source, and what it takes to build a marriage that's stronger than the one you had before the affair. If you're struggling in your marriage, don’t wait. Get our FREE resource: The 7 Steps to Rescue Your Marriage 👉 https://marriagehelper.com/free 📞 BOOK A CALL WITH OUR TEAM: https://bit.ly/4fhb9Yz 🔗 Website: https://marriagehelper.com 📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/marriagehelper 👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@marriagehelper Follow our other channels! 📺 https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes 📺 https://youtube.com/@drjoebeam
July 31 · 12 min
Standing When Your Spouse Checks Out
Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! Everyone around you is starting to ask the same question. Why are you still trying? Your spouse is checked out. Maybe they've stopped sleeping in the same bed. Maybe they've moved out completely. Maybe there's someone else. And nothing you've tried has moved the needle even an inch. So the people who love you start looking at you sideways. They think you're standing in a graveyard. Here's what they're missing. Standing for your marriage doesn't require certainty. It requires confidence. You can't be certain what your spouse will do. They're a grown adult making their own choices, and nobody can honestly promise you a specific ending. But you can be confident that change is possible, because we've watched thousands of couples walk out of situations that looked exactly like yours. And here's the part almost nobody tells you. Standing changes you long before it changes anything else. In this video, one of our coaches shares what three years of standing actually looked like. His wife stayed in the affair the whole time. The marriage ended in divorce. And he still says he'd do it all over again. Not because standing saved the marriage. Because standing made him someone worth being. If your confidence has been living inside your spouse's approval, this one is going to sting a little. In the best way. Because it's never wrong to do the right thing. If you're struggling in your marriage, don’t wait. Get our FREE resource: The 7 Steps to Rescue Your Marriage 👉 https://marriagehelper.com/free 📞 BOOK A CALL WITH OUR TEAM: https://bit.ly/4fhb9Yz 🔗 Website: https://marriagehelper.com 📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/marriagehelper 👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@marriagehelper Follow our other channels! 📺 https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes 📺 https://youtube.com/@drjoebeam
July 24 · 57 min
Dr. John Gottman Reveals All The Top Secrets For Great Relationships
Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! Most marriage advice is recycled fluff. This is not. I sat down with Dr. John Gottman, the man who has spent 40+ years studying what actually makes marriages work and what destroys them. Not opinions. Not theories. Exposed-to-thousands-of-couples-in-a-research-lab findings. And what he told me? Some of it will surprise you. The couples who last, the "masters," aren't the ones who avoid conflict. They're the ones who lean into it without getting defensive. They stay curious instead of critical. They treat their spouse's complaints like information, not attacks. We also got into the stuff nobody talks about openly. Why most couples are embarrassed to discuss sex. Why compatibility is actually a myth. What commitment really looks like on a Tuesday morning when you're frustrated. And how the way you respond to "no" in the bedroom determines everything. Dr. Gottman told me that after 35 years of marriage, he still looks forward to talking to his wife at breakfast every single morning. If your marriage feels disconnected, boring, or like you're roommates, this conversation will show you why. And more importantly, what the research says you can do about it. This is one of my favorite interviews I've ever done. If you're struggling in your marriage, don’t wait. Get our FREE resource: The 7 Steps to Rescue Your Marriage 👉 https://marriagehelper.com/free 📞 BOOK A CALL WITH OUR TEAM: https://bit.ly/4fhb9Yz 🔗 Website: https://marriagehelper.com 📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/marriagehelper 👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@marriagehelper Follow our other channels! 📺 https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes 📺 https://youtube.com/@drjoebeam
July 17 · 16 min
Affairs, AI, and a 30 Year Crush – Reacting To Unhinged YouTube Comments
Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! You leave the comments. I read them. This week I'm going straight into the ones that made me stop scrolling. The bold ones. The angry ones. The ones that questioned everything I teach. A woman still carrying a crush from 30 years ago, wondering why it still hurts. A commenter convinced that saving a marriage means forcing two miserable people to stay together. Someone who swears you could never ask your spouse what makes them feel loved and actually get an answer. A person certain that once a cheater, always a cheater. And one comment about AI that I could not let go of. Here's what I keep coming back to. The future doesn't have to look like the past. But only if you're willing to fix what was actually broken. You can walk away and start over, but if you never deal with what pushed the other person away, you carry it straight into the next relationship. That's the push and the pull. The things you do that make your spouse feel seen. And the things you do that quietly make them feel like you don't love them. Most of us are moving too fast to even notice the difference. Then there's AI. I'm not scared of the technology. I'm scared of what happens when people turn to their phone at 2am instead of to God, to a friend, to the hard and vulnerable conversation with the person sitting right in front of them. I'm scared of a generation losing the skill to actually be a good husband or a good wife. Rant included. Hope included. Because there is always hope. If you're struggling in your marriage, don’t wait. Get our FREE resource: The 7 Steps to Rescue Your Marriage 👉 https://marriagehelper.com/free 📞 BOOK A CALL WITH OUR TEAM: https://bit.ly/4fhb9Yz 🔗 Website: https://marriagehelper.com 📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/marriagehelper 👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@marriagehelper Follow our other channels! 📺 https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes 📺 https://youtube.com/@drjoebeam
July 10 · 10 min
How To Identify A Limerent Affair
Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! You're convinced nobody has ever felt what you're feeling right now. I understand why. But I've sat with hundreds of people who felt the exact same thing. The obsessive pull toward someone who isn't your spouse. The daydreaming that swallows most of your day. The spiral when they don't text back fast enough. The certainty that this one person is the only thing standing between you and a happy life. It has a name. Limerence. It feels like the deepest love you've ever known. It isn't. It's a spike. A chemical high wrapped around a fantasy you've built in your mind, one where you can't see their flaws and they can't see yours. And here's what nobody in the middle of it wants to hear: it ends. Every time. In this video, you'll hear the story of a man who was sure he was the exception. He walked away from his marriage, his family, all of it, because being with her felt like the only thing that mattered. Three years later he was back, trying to rebuild the life he'd torn apart. Limerence draws people together. It was never built to keep them together. That takes a different kind of love entirely. If you're in the early stages, deep in the thick of it, or trying to pick up the pieces after it, this one is worth your time. If you're struggling in your marriage, don’t wait. Get our FREE resource: The 7 Steps to Rescue Your Marriage 👉 https://marriagehelper.com/free 📞 BOOK A CALL WITH OUR TEAM: https://bit.ly/4fhb9Yz 🔗 Website: https://marriagehelper.com 📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/marriagehelper 👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@marriagehelper Follow our other channels! 📺 https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes 📺 https://youtube.com/@drjoebeam
July 3 · 16 min
"My Husband Paid Me $2000 To Marry Him" – Answering Listener Questions
Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! You made a commitment. But you're not sure you'd make it again. That's where a lot of people are. And in this episode, I answer their questions honestly. One woman has been married 41 years. She loves her husband. She's just never been in love with him. She's asking if it's too late, or if this whole thing was a 41-year mistake. Another asks the thing most separated spouses are afraid to say out loud. If we're both doing fine apart, if we're both becoming our best selves, what would ever bring us back? And one man wants an answer to something bigger. Does God change hearts? Or has his wife's decision already settled it? Here's what I keep coming back to. Love is a choice. But it's also a process. Follow the path and you can fall in love with almost anyone. Stop following it and you can fall out of love without ever meaning to. PIES is where it starts. Physical, intellectual, emotional, spiritual. But it's the first step, not the finish line. Becoming your best self doesn't pull someone back on its own. Two people don't fall in love just by standing side by side as their best selves. There has to be a lean in. There has to be acceptance. A safe place where someone is finally allowed to be who they are without being asked to change. If you're struggling in your marriage, don’t wait. Get our FREE resource: The 7 Steps to Rescue Your Marriage 👉 https://marriagehelper.com/free 📞 BOOK A CALL WITH OUR TEAM: https://bit.ly/4fhb9Yz 🔗 Website: https://marriagehelper.com 📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/marriagehelper 👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@marriagehelper Follow our other channels! 📺 https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes 📺 https://youtube.com/@drjoebeam
June 26 · 15 min
How to Get Your Spouse to ACTUALLY Talk to You Again
Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! What to do in the first 72 hours after your marriage crisis: Watch Here 👉 https://bit.ly/4wgrNiq Most conversations with your spouse aren't going anywhere. They're stale. They're tense. Or they've stopped happening altogether. Every time you try to talk, it turns into the same fight. You go in circles. And somehow you land worse than where you started. Here's the shift: stop circling. Start looping. A circle erases. Every fight burns down whatever progress you made and resets you to zero. Sometimes below zero. A loop builds. You lay one track, you save it, you build on it. Layer by layer, day by day, until you look up and it's a real marriage again. In this video, I'll show you how to do it. The first track you always lay down (hint: it's not the problem you think you need to solve). How to bank a win instead of tearing it back down with your very next sentence. And the six loops you move through in order, because you don't get to pick where you start. You earn your way up. Same couple. Same conversation. Two completely different outcomes. I'm Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes, and for 14 years I've helped people save marriages everyone else said were over. If you're tired of having the same fight on repeat, this is where you start. If you're struggling in your marriage, don’t wait. Get our FREE resource: The 7 Steps to Rescue Your Marriage 👉 https://marriagehelper.com/free 📞 BOOK A CALL WITH OUR TEAM: https://bit.ly/4fhb9Yz 🔗 Website: https://marriagehelper.com 📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/marriagehelper 👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@marriagehelper Follow our other channels! 📺 https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes 📺 https://youtube.com/@drjoebeam
June 22 · 37 min
Our Counselor Told Us To Divorce... We Saved Our Marriage Instead
Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! Everyone told Scott to walk away. The affair. The lies. The cold distance that built for months. On paper, this was the marriage other people would tell you to end and not feel bad about it. He didn't walk away. Not because he was naive. Not because he excused anything. Because he still loved his wife, and he could not live with never having tried. In this conversation, Scott takes me back to 2019, the year his marriage came apart, and walks me through how it came all the way back. He found out at 4 in the morning. The phone going off. His wife not in the bed. The search he ran to figure out who was texting her is the thing that led him to Marriage Helper. What he learned there changed how he showed up. He stopped reacting. He stopped trying to control her. He stayed calm in the exact moments most people detonate. By the time his daughter pulled him aside and asked if he knew, he was already further into his own healing than anyone around him realized. Here is the part people argue with me about. "You're letting the cheater off the hook." "Once a cheater, always a cheater." We see it in the comments every week. Scott answers it head on. He never permitted anything. He was powerless to control someone else's choices. Accepting what you cannot control is not the same as excusing it. For a year, they were divorced in every way but the judge's signature. She moved states away. The settlement was nearly done. Then she came home. One year to the day after the workshop they attended together. Today their marriage is stronger than it was in the first 24 years. Scott coaches on our team now. His wife leads breakout groups at our workshops. If your marriage is the one everyone says can't be saved, this is the story to sit with. If you're struggling in your marriage, don’t wait. Get our FREE resource: The 7 Steps to Rescue Your Marriage 👉 https://marriagehelper.com/free 📞 BOOK A CALL WITH OUR TEAM: https://bit.ly/4fhb9Yz 🔗 Website: https://marriagehelper.com 📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/marriagehelper 👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@marriagehelper Follow our other channels! 📺 https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes 📺 https://youtube.com/@drjoebeam
June 19 · 19 min
What To Do When You're Stuck In A Sexless Marriage
Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! You think it's a sex problem. Most of the time, it isn't. When the spark is gone and one of you is always "too tired," the instinct is to fix the bedroom. Buy something. Try harder. Schedule it. But the bedroom is almost never where the problem started. Up to a third of couples are living in what researchers call low-sex or no-sex marriages. You are not broken. You are not the only ones. And you are not stuck. Here's the part nobody tells you. A fatigued woman cannot get aroused. That isn't an attitude problem. It's physiology. So if she's running on empty all day and you're waiting for her to come alive at night, you're working against her body, not with it. Real intimacy is "into-me-see." It's what happens when the relationship outside the bedroom is healthy enough to follow you into it. Everything outside affects everything inside. And everything inside affects everything outside. This video walks through what's actually driving the distance. The exhaustion. The resentment. The slow drift where your passion quietly moved toward the kids, the job, the to-do list, and away from each other. It also covers what this won't fix. Physiological issues need a doctor. Past trauma needs a trained counselor. Those are real, and they matter. But if the problem is the relationship itself, that's the good news. Because that's the part you can actually change. If you're struggling in your marriage, don’t wait. Get our FREE resource: The 7 Steps to Rescue Your Marriage 👉 https://marriagehelper.com/free 📞 BOOK A CALL WITH OUR TEAM: https://bit.ly/4fhb9Yz 🔗 Website: https://marriagehelper.com 📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/marriagehelper 👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@marriagehelper Follow our other channels! 📺 https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes 📺 https://youtube.com/@drjoebeam
June 15 · 23 min
Am I Wrong For Questioning My Marriage After What My Husband Told Me?
Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! Watch the video about our 7 step process here: https://bit.ly/3QfOjsj He sent me a message. He said he wants to work on his mistakes. He wants to move forward. He doesn't want our kid raised in a divided home. She read it and printed divorce papers. Her question. Is that even communication? Or is he just asking me to forget everything that happened? Here's where almost everyone gets this wrong. She thinks he's gaslighting her. She keeps a record of every conversation so she can prove she's not crazy. She feels unheard, dismissed, blamed. But I don't think he's gaslighting her at all. I think they're talking past each other. Two different worldviews. Two different ways of processing the same fight. And the record of wrongs she's keeping to feel grounded is the exact thing pushing him further away. In this video I read Reddit posts and respond to three real marriages. The husband with a female best friend he just handed 25% of his business. The husband who can't hold a job. And this one. He's trying. She just can't hear it yet. I'll show you what it actually takes to fix a marriage like this one. If you're struggling in your marriage, don’t wait. Get our FREE resource: The 7 Steps to Rescue Your Marriage 👉 https://marriagehelper.com/free 📞 BOOK A CALL WITH OUR TEAM: https://bit.ly/4fhb9Yz 🔗 Website: https://marriagehelper.com 📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/marriagehelper 👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@marriagehelper Follow our other channels! 📺 https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes 📺 https://youtube.com/@drjoebeam
June 12 · 21 min
The 4 Things That Make Your Spouse Want to Come Home
Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! Your spouse wants to leave. Okay. Let them. But here's what nobody tells you. Even if they walk out that door, there's still one person you're left with. You. So you might as well become someone you actually like living with. And here's the secret most people miss. That's also the one thing most likely to bring your spouse back. In this video, I teach you the framework I call the PIES. Four areas of your life. Four ways you become the most attractive version of yourself. Physical. Intellectual. Emotional. Spiritual. And I teach it while making an actual pie, because every ingredient matters, and so does every part of you. Physical isn't about a magazine cover. It's sleep, movement, food, and the energy to handle a marriage in crisis. Intellectual is becoming a fascinating person to talk to again. Emotional is being the sugar, not the salt. The compliments, not the complaints. Spiritual is living in line with what you actually believe. Here's the part you have to hear. This only works when you do it for you. Not as a tactic. Not to manipulate them back. People don't leave what they have unless they believe what they're going to is better. So be the better. I'll show you how. If you're struggling in your marriage, don’t wait. Get our FREE resource: The 7 Steps to Rescue Your Marriage 👉 https://marriagehelper.com/free 📞 BOOK A CALL WITH OUR TEAM: https://bit.ly/4fhb9Yz 🔗 Website: https://marriagehelper.com 📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/marriagehelper 👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@marriagehelper Follow our other channels! 📺 https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes 📺 https://youtube.com/@drjoebeam
June 5 · 1 hr 17 min
The Ultimate Guide To Saving Your Marriage When You're The Only One Trying
Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! Click here to get the Save My Marriage Course or learn about out Couples Workshops: https://bit.ly/4vzEaps You can't control whether your spouse fights for the marriage. You can only control whether you do. That's the hardest part of saving a marriage alone. You're pouring everything in while they've checked out, filed, or already walked away. And every instinct you have right now (the pleading, the chasing, the trying to make them see) is most likely pushing them further away. In this video, I break down the three things you can start doing today, with or without your spouse on board. How to calm down so you stop reacting out of panic. How to spot the behaviors that are quietly driving them away. And how to start becoming the person they fell in love with in the first place. I've lived this. I was the one crying on the bathroom floor, convinced my husband was the whole problem. Two things turned out to be true at once. He was doing things he shouldn't have, and I was contributing to where we ended up. Owning my part is what changed everything. You can get halfway there on your own. Here's how to start. If you're struggling in your marriage, don’t wait. Get our FREE resource: The 7 Steps to Rescue Your Marriage 👉 https://marriagehelper.com/free 📞 BOOK A CALL WITH OUR TEAM: https://bit.ly/4fhb9Yz 🔗 Website: https://marriagehelper.com 📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/marriagehelper 👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@marriagehelper Follow our other channels! 📺 https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes 📺 https://youtube.com/@drjoebeam
May 29 · 23 min
Stop Asking Your Spouse To Work On The Marriage – Part 1
Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! Click here to watch part 2! https://bit.ly/4dLDJRu Asking your spouse to work on the marriage isn't working. Because they don't want to work on the marriage. That's the whole problem. Stop asking. Nobody wants more counseling. Nobody wants another conversation about "us." Nobody wants to be handed a printout of what's wrong with them on Halloween night. They need a different reason to walk through the door. In this video, Amber and I break down how to actually get a resistant spouse to a Marriage Helper workshop, even when they've filed, even when there's an affair partner, even when they've already said it's over. The shift: Stop selling the marriage. Find what actually motivates them. Take "us" off the table. Treat it like a business agreement. Your job is to get them through the door. Our job is the next 3 days. That's how marriages get saved, not by convincing your spouse to love you again, but by getting them in the room where the work actually happens. If you're struggling in your marriage, don’t wait. Get our FREE resource: The 7 Steps to Rescue Your Marriage 👉 https://marriagehelper.com/free 📞 BOOK A CALL WITH OUR TEAM: https://bit.ly/4fhb9Yz 🔗 Website: https://marriagehelper.com 📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/marriagehelper 👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@marriagehelper Follow our other channels! 📺 https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes 📺 https://youtube.com/@drjoebeam
May 22 · 12 min
How To Choose Between Yourself And Your Marriage
Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! Click here to sign up for coaching → https://marriagehelper.com/coaching ---------------------------------------------------- You don't have to pick between yourself and your marriage. That's the lie that keeps people stuck. Stay and shrink. Leave and grieve. Endure the mistreatment or end the marriage. Those aren't your only options. In this video, Nathan breaks down the difference between pain and damage, and why getting this wrong is the reason so many marriages either dissolve or destroy the people inside them. Pain is what makes you stronger. Damage is what breaks you. One you push through. The other you stop. And most people can't tell them apart. He walks through two real client stories. Both women were hurting. Both were asking the same question. "Do I keep showing up, or do I walk away?" But the right answer for one was the exact opposite of the right answer for the other. One needed to lean in. The other needed to put up boundaries. And the moment they figured out which was which, everything changed. Not just for them, but for their marriages too. Because here's what nobody tells you: What's best for you is often what's best for the marriage. You don't have to choose. But you do have to know the difference between the pain that's making you stronger and the damage that's slowly killing you. That's what this video is about. How to tell which one you're in. What to do about it. And how to stop walking on a broken leg in the name of saving your marriage. If you're struggling in your marriage, don’t wait. Get our FREE resource: The 7 Steps to Rescue Your Marriage 👉 https://marriagehelper.com/free 📞 BOOK A CALL WITH OUR TEAM: https://bit.ly/4fhb9Yz 🔗 Website: https://marriagehelper.com 📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/marriagehelper 👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@marriagehelper Follow our other channels! 📺 https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes 📺 https://youtube.com/@drjoebeam
May 15 · 14 min
I've Been Teaching This Marriage Principle Wrong For 14 Years...
Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! Take The Free Marriage Crisis Assessment Here → https://bit.ly/4nD2kfW ----------------------------------------------------------- I've been teaching this marriage principle for 14 years. And I've been getting it wrong. The principle: your spouse's perception trumps your intention. It's true. But it's only half the story. Because perception can be weaponized. "He scheduled a reminder to send me flowers... if he really loved me, he wouldn't need one." "He spent $60 on roses and didn't even put them in water." "He moved my stuff again." That's not perception. That's negative sentiment override. And it'll kill your marriage faster than the original hurt ever could. In this video, I break down what I missed for 14 years... the push-pull dynamic underneath every interaction, why your spouse's good intentions still land as wounds, and how to respond without weaponizing your perception against the person trying to love you. Grace is needed on both sides. If you're struggling in your marriage, don’t wait. Get our FREE resource: The 7 Steps to Rescue Your Marriage 👉 https://marriagehelper.com/free 📞 BOOK A CALL WITH OUR TEAM: https://bit.ly/4fhb9Yz 🔗 Website: https://marriagehelper.com 📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/marriagehelper 👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@marriagehelper Follow our other channels! 📺 https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes 📺 https://youtube.com/@drjoebeam
May 13 · 1 hr 1 min
Counseling vs. Marriage Helper Coaching... What's The Difference? – MH LIVE
Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! If you're struggling in your marriage, don’t wait. Get our FREE resource: The 7 Steps to Rescue Your Marriage 👉 https://marriagehelper.com/free 📞 BOOK A CALL WITH OUR TEAM: https://bit.ly/4fhb9Yz 🔗 Website: https://marriagehelper.com 📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/marriagehelper 👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@marriagehelper Follow our other channels! 📺 https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes 📺 https://youtube.com/@drjoebeam
May 8 · 20 min
3 Things To Know Before You Start Standing For Your Marriage
Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! Marriage advice isn't dead. Bad marriage advice is dead. Nobody wants to "just give it time." Nobody wants to be told to punish their spouse into coming back. Nobody wants a counselor telling them to have a revenge affair to "even the score." (Yes, real counselors actually say that.) You want your marriage back. With your dignity intact. In this video, Dr. Joe Beam walks through the 3 things you HAVE to do before you start standing for your marriage. Decide if you really want this. Get honest about your own contribution. Pick the right path. Not nothing. Not the wrong thing. Most people skip step one and burn out by week three. Most people refuse step two and stay stuck for years. Most people fall into step three's trap and make everything worse. 32 years. Hundreds of thousands of couples. A 70% success rate. If your spouse just told you they want out, watch this before you make a single move. If you're struggling in your marriage, don’t wait. Get our FREE resource: The 7 Steps to Rescue Your Marriage 👉 https://marriagehelper.com/free 📞 BOOK A CALL WITH OUR TEAM: https://bit.ly/4fhb9Yz 🔗 Website: https://marriagehelper.com 📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/marriagehelper 👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@marriagehelper Follow our other channels! 📺 https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes 📺 https://youtube.com/@drjoebeam
May 1 · 27 min
The First 3 Steps To Save Your Marriage
Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! Book a call with someone on our team → https://bit.ly/4udufow ---------------------------------------------------------------- Your marriage didn't fall apart overnight. It won't be saved overnight either. But it can be saved. Most people in a marriage crisis do the wrong things. Not because they're bad people, but because they're in pain. They beg. They plead. They give ultimatums. They go silent and call it "boundaries." They follow every piece of bad advice the internet throws at them. And it pushes their spouse further away. In this video, I walk you through the first 3 steps of our 7-step plan to rescue your marriage and your sanity. Calm down. Get clarity. Stop your pushes and start your pulls These aren't fluffy concepts. They're the same framework we've used with thousands of couples over the past 25+ years. Couples you'd look at and say "there's no way that marriage survives." It survived. The truth is, every marriage is two imperfect people. Both bringing baggage. Both doing things that slowly erode the relationship, sometimes for 6 years before anyone asks for help. You don't need a perfect spouse. You don't need a perfect situation. You need a framework that actually works. That's what this video gives you. I'll show you the breathing technique that resets your brain, the mindset shift that changes everything, and the push-pull dynamic that is the foundation of every healthy relationship. Even mine. If you're struggling in your marriage, don’t wait. Get our FREE resource: The 7 Steps to Rescue Your Marriage 👉 https://marriagehelper.com/free 📞 BOOK A CALL WITH OUR TEAM: https://bit.ly/4fhb9Yz 🔗 Website: https://marriagehelper.com 📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/marriagehelper 👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@marriagehelper Follow our other channels! 📺 https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes 📺 https://youtube.com/@drjoebeam
April 24 · 8 min
How To Stop Your Spouse From Leaving... Stop Trying
Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! Take our free marriage crisis assessment → https://bit.ly/4mKItuy ------------------------------------------------------------ If your spouse is leaving, your instinct is to stop them. Block the exit. Monitor their phone. Guilt them into staying. That doesn't work. In this video, Marriage Helper coach Nathan shares a story about his daughter Valerie, and how it perfectly illustrates what most people get wrong when trying to save their marriage. You're focused on the exterior pull. The other person. The new life. The thing pulling them away. But you can't control that. What you can control is what's happening inside the marriage. Stop chasing the thing that's pulling them out. Start bringing the pull back in. Nathan walks through a real client story. A woman whose husband was living overseas and showing signs he wasn't coming back. She was snooping, pain shopping, and letting her frustration poison every interaction. Then she made a shift. She stopped obsessing over what she couldn't change and started becoming the woman her husband married. Months later? He was back in the States. Back in the house. And sitting next to her at a Marriage Helper Workshop. That's what happens when you bring the pull inside. Want to know where your marriage stands right now? Take our free marriage crisis assessment. It'll show you where you are and what your next right step looks like. If you're struggling in your marriage, don’t wait. Get our FREE resource: The 7 Steps to Rescue Your Marriage 👉 https://marriagehelper.com/free 📞 BOOK A CALL WITH OUR TEAM: https://bit.ly/4fhb9Yz 🔗 Website: https://marriagehelper.com 📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/marriagehelper 👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@marriagehelper Follow our other channels! 📺 https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes 📺 https://youtube.com/@drjoebeam
April 17 · 14 min
How To Stand Up For Your Marriage Without Ending It
Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! Click here to learn about our Marriage Saving Workshop Program 👉 https://bit.ly/485yuKm --------------------------------------------------------------------- Standing for your marriage isn't being a doormat. Nobody wants to beg. Nobody wants to plead. Nobody wants to text their husband's affair partner tips on how to cure his headache. Yes. That actually happened. To a friend of mine. She chose misery over being alone. She ended up in the hospital. Her house stayed dark for months. She became a shell of the woman she used to be. All because she was too scared to stop allowing it. In this video, I break down the difference between being a doormat and being a bulldozer, and why there's a third option most people never learn. You can't control what your spouse does. You can control what you allow. You can control how you treat yourself. That's the shift. I'll walk you through the three changes in thinking that help you respect yourself again, set the right kind of safeguards, and actually make your spouse take notice. Not by punishing them. Not by pleading with them. By becoming someone worth respecting again. Because here's the truth. You'll keep enduring whatever you keep allowing. Life is already hard enough. Don't let a lack of self-respect make it harder. If you're struggling in your marriage, don’t wait. Get our FREE resource: The 7 Steps to Rescue Your Marriage 👉 https://marriagehelper.com/free 📞 BOOK A CALL WITH OUR TEAM: https://bit.ly/4fhb9Yz 🔗 Website: https://marriagehelper.com 📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/marriagehelper 👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@marriagehelper Follow our other channels! 📺 https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes 📺 https://youtube.com/@drjoebeam