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Artwork for Relationship Radio: Marriage, Sex, Limerence & Avoiding Divorce
Relationship Radio: Marriage, Sex, Limerence & Avoiding Divorce · April 24 · 8 min

How To Stop Your Spouse From Leaving... Stop Trying

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! Take our free marriage crisis assessment → https://bit.ly/4mKItuy ------------------------------------------------------------ If your spouse is leaving, your instinct is to stop them. Block the exit. Monitor their phone. Guilt them into staying. That doesn't work. In this video, Marriage Helper coach Nathan shares a story about his daughter Valerie, and how it perfectly illustrates what most people get wrong when trying to save their marriage. You're focused on the exterior pull. The other person. The new life. The thing pulling them away. But you can't control that. What you can control is what's happening inside the marriage. Stop chasing the thing that's pulling them out. Start bringing the pull back in. Nathan walks through a real client story. A woman whose husband was living overseas and showing signs he wasn't coming back. She was snooping, pain shopping, and letting her frustration poison every interaction. Then she made a shift. She stopped obsessing over what she couldn't change and started becoming the woman her husband married. Months later? He was back in the States. Back in the house. And sitting next to her at a Marriage Helper Workshop. That's what happens when you bring the pull inside. Want to know where your marriage stands right now? Take our free marriage crisis assessment. It'll show you where you are and what your next right step looks like. If you're struggling in your marriage, don’t wait. Get our FREE resource: The 7 Steps to Rescue Your Marriage 👉 https://marriagehelper.com/free 📞 BOOK A CALL WITH OUR TEAM: https://bit.ly/4fhb9Yz 🔗 Website: https://marriagehelper.com 📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/marriagehelper 👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@marriagehelper Follow our other channels! 📺 https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes 📺 https://youtube.com/@drjoebeam

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Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!

Take our free marriage crisis assessment → https://bit.ly/4mKItuy

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If your spouse is leaving, your instinct is to stop them.

Block the exit.
Monitor their phone.
Guilt them into staying.

That doesn't work.

In this video, Marriage Helper coach Nathan shares a story about his daughter Valerie, and how it perfectly illustrates what most people get wrong when trying to save their marriage.

You're focused on the exterior pull.

The other person. The new life. The thing pulling them away.

But you can't control that.

What you can control is what's happening inside the marriage.

Stop chasing the thing that's pulling them out.

Start bringing the pull back in.

Nathan walks through a real client story. A woman whose husband was living overseas and showing signs he wasn't coming back. She was snooping, pain shopping, and letting her frustration poison every interaction.

Then she made a shift.

She stopped obsessing over what she couldn't change and started becoming the woman her husband married.

Months later? He was back in the States. Back in the house. And sitting next to her at a Marriage Helper Workshop.

That's what happens when you bring the pull inside.

Want to know where your marriage stands right now? Take our free marriage crisis assessment. It'll show you where you are and what your next right step looks like. 

If you're struggling in your marriage, don’t wait. Get our FREE resource: The 7 Steps to Rescue Your Marriage 👉 https://marriagehelper.com/free

📞 BOOK A CALL WITH OUR TEAM: https://bit.ly/4fhb9Yz

🔗 Website: https://marriagehelper.com
📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/marriagehelper
👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@marriagehelper

Follow our other channels!
📺 https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes
📺 https://youtube.com/@drjoebeam


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