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Oversharing

Betches Media

Oversharing from Betches Media is all about the challenges we face in all kinds of relationships; from friendships to family, long term partnerships or even dealing with the customer service rep that makes you want to scream into a pillow. Betches co-founder and relationship enthusiast Jordana Abraham has teamed up with her big sister, licensed clinical therapist Dr. Naomi Bernstein, to answer your questions and try to get to the bottom of the things that bother us most. Think of Jordana and Dr. Naomi as your BFF and your therapist, sitting side-by-side at the brunch table trying to help you get through your problems. Each week they’re responding to listener emails, tackling difficult ethical questions, playing games, and so much more. Because sometimes we really need advice from people with no skin in the game. And let’s face it, your friends can’t stand to hear that story one more time.

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#237
June 23 · 1 hr 17 min
Is My Husband Emotionally Ready To Buy A House With Me?
Jordana and Dr. Naomi kick things off by catching up about Naomi’s visit with Jordana’s twins and the humbling reality that babies don’t always warm up to eager aunts right away. They discuss the emotional pull of reconnecting with old friends, whether New York is calling Naomi back, and Jordana’s surprisingly complicated reaction to the Knicks’ championship win. Then they jump into listener complaints, starting with house-hunting tensions between newlyweds. A Betchesist shares her very real experience of gender disappointment during pregnancy. We set an intention this week that the feeling arising from grief is not always a call to action. Lastly, our brave Triggered listener seeks solace from her mother-in-law, whose wrath is so strong that the baby won’t even look at her. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
#236
June 16 · 1 hr 9 min
How Do I Communicate My Boundaries With My In Laws?
To kick things off, Dr. Naomi and Jordana get into why keeping your space tidy is starting to feel less like a chore and more like a form of self-care—especially for busy parents. Then, they hear from a listener struggling to navigate boundaries with her in-laws… whom she’s somehow already seeing multiple times a week. This week’s Betchicist also dives into in-law dynamics, but from a different angle: a listener whose husband feels uncomfortable with her breastfeeding in front of her family. Later, they respond to a voicemail from a beginner tennis player who’s having trouble maintaining her composure in a competitive league. To wrap things up, they unpack two triggering scenarios: a “I knew it!”-style therapist who then avoids engaging with the listener’s trauma, and a neighbor whose connection to a listener’s father might be crossing a line. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
#235
June 9 · 1 hr 22 min
The Difference Between Setting Boundaries and Avoiding Accountability
This week on Oversharing, Jordana and Dr. Naomi unpack why it can feel more upsetting when someone quietly backs out of a commitment than when they simply say no. A listener writes in after a friend offers to dog-sit, only to seemingly retract the offer without actually owning the change of heart. The hosts discuss the difference between setting boundaries and avoiding discomfort, why indirect communication can feel so invalidating, and how a little honesty can go a long way in preserving trust. Plus, they share advice for navigating disappointment when expectations don't match reality. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
#234
June 2 · 1 hr 16 min
Can I Maintain A Friendship With My Boss?
Jordana spirals over posting her kids on social media, and Dr. Naomi talks her off the ledge while shamelessly lobbying for more niece content. After surviving law school together, one Betch is struggling not to resent the fact that her partner works fewer hours, makes way more money, and somehow still has time to relax. Another listener is convinced she’s torched her relationship with her boss after reacting less-than-gracefully to a workplace screw-up. Looking to break her phone-call phobia, one woman asks the hosts for the verbal equivalent of being thrown into the deep end. A boudoir shoot meant to celebrate a hard-earned glow-up takes a nosedive when the makeup artist decides honesty is the best—and most brutal—policy. And finally, a Betch who spent months crafting the perfect baby name is seeing red after a friend lands suspiciously close to her masterpiece. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
#233
May 26 · 1 hr 25 min
How Can I Handle My House Buying Dread?
Dr. Naomi got a Mother’s Day gift that left her feeling like her family didn’t understand her and she shares her disappointment while Jordana reveals that she forgot a friends birthday and is concerned she came off as a bad friend. A recent bride reveals that one of her bridesmaids got too drunk to enjoy the wedding and she is feeling like it might be time to sunset this friendship. Seeking advice for how to handle a neighborhood situation, a woman writes in about a dog owner that lets their pet run loose in the playground and wonders if she is being a “Karen” for wanting to shut the situation down before something happens. After purchasing a home, a Betch is feeling buyer’s remorse and can’t stop worrying that she has made a grave error in her decision. Finally, a woman shares that her Doctor recently commented on her face structure and she is feeling triggered that she brought up things that weren’t of concern. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
#232
May 19 · 1 hr 26 min
Is My Jealousy Obvious?
Jordana is discovering that motherhood hits a little different when the night nurse clocks out and suddenly the tiny screaming roommates are fully her problem. During an extra hot hike a listener has a panic attack that has left her dreading her happy place and Dr. Naomi breaks down how episodes like these can lead to phobias. A Betch wrestles with the modern mom dilemma of when you see another parent posting objectively unsafe nonsense online and Jordana and Dr. Naomi give their take on how best (or not) to butt in with your two cents. Another listener wonders if her jealousy is as obvious to other people as it is in her own brain, and whether it’s quietly nuking her ability to form meaningful relationships. A woman politely tells a guy she’s not feeling a romantic connection after a date, only for him to respond with the emotional maturity of a dropped Xbox controller. And finally, one exhausted mom tries to figure out how to explain to her partner that an iPad for the kids slash “access to mommy’s nighttime Netflix” is not, in fact, a Mother’s Day gift. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
#231
May 12 · 1 hr 4 min
Do I Have To Divulge My Affair?
Jordana is nervous about flying with two infants and Dr. Naomi reminds her that mothers have survived far worse with less caffeine and fewer snacks. A listener who’s the breadwinner in her marriage is annoyed after a friend decides to cosplay as a relationship economist and make wildly out-of-pocket comments about their dynamic. After an affair earlier in her life, a Betch wonders how important it is to divulge this past transgression to future partners. One woman is emotionally held hostage by her cat son, feeling exhausted by his constant demands for play and she’s looking for a way to stop panicking every time he starts parkouring off the furniture for attention. One couple’s chaotic toddler got injured while dad may or may not have been supervising, and now mom is being blamed for messed-up bandages like she personally caused the incident. And finally, a woman who’s been working hard to feel confident in her body is sent into a tailspin after a neighbor congratulates her on a “pregnant belly” that is, unfortunately for everyone involved, not a pregnancy. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
#230
May 5 · 1 hr 9 min
Is My Partner A Bad Gift Giver?
Dr. Naomi admits that “self-care” is basically just doing your chores but romanticizing them, and she and Jordana swap what mundane tasks they find “healing.” After enduring a difficult pregnancy and trauma bonding with another new mom, a mom is feeling the friendship has run its course but doesn’t know how to gracefully exit the relationship. With Mother’s Day looming, one Betch is spiraling because her husband—historically allergic to good gift ideas—swears he has a “surprise,” which honestly feels more like a threat. Jordana also sets an intention for a listener deep in the TTC anxiety spiral, trying to reclaim some chill when her brain refuses to log off. Plus, one woman’s already-shaky nerves are sent into overdrive after a chaotic dog encounter—not because of the bite, but because everyone suddenly became a judgmental dog behavior expert. Lastly, a listener who got a wildly condescending work email is left wondering of their rage is justified, or if they need to take several deep breaths and draft a “per my last email” response… again. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
#229
April 28 · 1 hr 11 min
How Can I Cope With Ambiguous Loss?
As Jordana racks up firsts with her baby girls, she’s reacquainting herself with the wondrous magic of childlike wonder and Dr. Naomi drops in with the science of why awe is emotional medicine. After a listener’s pet goes missing, she sheds her shame about the guilt she feels for letting it happen and the hosts break down the grief of ambiguous losses. Elsewhere, one Betch side-eyes a “healthy” company discount that turns out to be less of a perk and more of a pyramid-shaped red flag. Another mom is stuck in her own head about her kids eating “junk” and is desperate for a mental mute button on the guilt chatter. A chronically ill listener leaves therapy feeling gaslit after being told her pain might be “in her head,” and a new mom gets unexpectedly scorched by a passive-aggressive Facebook comment that somehow turned stroller discourse into a personal attack. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
#228
April 21 · 1 hr 12 min
Is My Partner Flirting At The Office?
Jordana lets Dr. Naomi go off about the absolute pyramid scheme vibes of kids’ sports leagues, and in the process starts side-eyeing the whole operation herself. One listener spirals over a brutally honest comment she dropped on her partner—could it wreck the relationship, or is this just her messy past popping off again? Meanwhile, a woman deep in IVF limbo wonders if bringing her first kid to appointments is thoughtful or wildly tone-deaf, and Jordana weighs in with a take. One woman finds that she is a sponge for her fiance’s bad moods and she asks for an intention that can help her not absorb his negative energy. A betrayed betch is still not over her lying bridesmaid and wants to resurrect the drama years later and a woman is triggered after an awkward encounter at a her husband’s holiday work party that has her questioning the coziness with his coworkers. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
#227
April 14 · 1 hr 13 min
How Can I Overcome My Interview Nerves?
As Dr. Naomi embraces being a teen mom, she and Jordana get into the age old topic when it comes to raising kids: are you raising a child or a bestie? One listener shares how her best friend let her live in a rent-stabilized dream for years only to take it back via text with five weeks’ notice and she ponders if that was enough to end the entire friendship. A bride writes in after her fiancé’s random female friend asks for a plus-one and the hosts debate whether the guest was out of line or just trying to have some fun at a party where she knows literally no one. A career-driven Betch who somehow crushes networking but blackouts in interviews asks for help channeling that same confident energy when it actually counts. After a new neighbor with plenty of garage space moves in and starts monopolizing the street parking, a woman is triggered by his lack of thought for his neighbors. Finally, after the devastating loss of her father, a new mom feels that her mother in law cares more about the recent passing of a family dog than her dad, and she writes in looking for some validation. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
#226
April 7 · 1 hr 8 min
Why Do Women Still Change Their Last Names?
Jordana is knee-deep in the name-change process, which spirals into an analysis with Dr. Naomi about why women are *still* doing this and why even the most self-proclaimed feminist men suddenly get real traditional when it’s their last name on the line. Meanwhile, one woman is desperately trying to figure out how to politely uninvite a new friend from her recipe club after a series of truly rancid vibe clashes, sparking a broader convo about how groups love to turn cliquey the second you look away. Elsewhere, a Betch navigating a family estrangement wants to know if she’s justified in holding a healthy boundary or if she’s about to get guilt-tripped into emotional self-sabotage. A young woman whose college years were basically sponsored by alcohol, is now stuck in a cycle of nightly wine-fueled anxiety management and intrusive thoughts, looking for an intention that doesn’t involve popping another bottle. A new mom, still rattled, seeks validation after a sketchy off-leash dog encounter that could’ve gone very differently (and not in a cute viral video way). And finally, one engaged couple is planning their wedding and realizing they may be expected to invite nine total strangers—because nothing says “our special day” like a guest list full of people you wouldn’t recognize in a lineup. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
#225
March 31 · 1 hr 15 min
Am I Stuck In This Over-Scheduled Life?
After a family trip to the middle of nowhere (aka a “serene national park”), Dr. Naomi spirals into a full-on meaning-of-life crisis while Jordana gently asks if she’s about to abandon civilization and start churning her own butter. Meanwhile, one new mom is side-eyeing her friend’s nonstop baby updates and wondering: is this motherhood… or a humblebrag Olympics? One Betch questions the ethics of calling yourself a “Dr.” when the degree might not exactly be for doctoring, and Dr. Naomi brings some of her expertise to the debate. Devastating news from an amino scan has a listener and her partner worrying about a potential bad outcome with nerve wracking odds, but the hosts share some ways to calm the anxiety and see light at the end of the tunnel for the new parents. A request for some to-go boxes at a wedding triggers a bride who is likely more angry at the child centric world in which she's living. Burned by the lack of effort from a friend at a recent book club gathering, a woman wonders if her pal is sending a signal that indicates she just doesn't really care. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
#224
March 24 · 1 hr 10 min
Am I Too Selfish For Motherhood?
As Jordana shares stories of her dog Ron’s jealousy of the new babies, Dr. Naomi remembers her pet Ralphie and wonders if he felt ignored when her children arrived many years ago. A fellow “type-b mother” sheds her shame and confesses her maternal instincts are often second nature to her personal survival skills, and she asks if it spells trouble for her kids. On the topic of dogs again, a woman is irked that her co-workers' fear of four legged creatures is banning the office mascot from bringing joy to her cubicle every Friday and she is hell bent on making a case for the pooch. After her son received no party invitations from his classmates at daycare, a tear-filled mother spills her feelings in a voicemail and the hosts unpack the source of these painful emotions. Feeling the stress of keeping a newborn safe, a new mom is triggered after finding her husband and baby asleep in an unsafe position and she is worried he doesn't take safety as seriously. Finally an accidental text message spoils a (somewhat) surprise engagement and a Betch is left lamenting her dream proposal scenario. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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