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Overcome Pornography for Good

Sara Brewer

This podcast is for anyone who wants to overcome pornography for good. It will teach you about your brain and how to completely quit a pornography habit, 100% shame-free. If your ideal life doesn't include a porn habit, then this is the show for you.

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Today · 15 min
303. The Limiting Beliefs Keeping You Stuck in Porn
The beliefs you hold about yourself and your ability to change can have a bigger impact than you realize. In this episode, I explore how limiting beliefs can keep you stuck in pornography use, even when the things you believe about yourself are no longer true. I share the elephant rope story to illustrate how we can become conditioned to believe that we're incapable of changing. We’ll look at some of the common beliefs surrounding pornography, sexuality, and addiction that can hold you back, and why being willing to question those beliefs is an important part of creating change. In this episode, you'll discover how to recognize the beliefs that may be keeping you stuck, practice new thoughts that feel believable, and start building confidence in your ability to change. You'll also learn how changing what you believe about yourself can open up possibilities far beyond quitting pornography. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/limiting-beliefs-keeping-you-stuck Mentioned in this episode: Podcast Resources: Workbook + Call with Hunter Want to dive deeper into the work you’re hearing about on the podcast? Check out the workbook to learn how to apply these concepts. You can also book a low-pressure call with Hunter or text him to learn more about working together. Explore the workbook + book a call with Hunter here!
November 2 · 12 min
302. How to Make Progress Quitting Porn Every Day with Hunter
Making progress toward quitting porn can feel overwhelming when you focus too far into the future. In this episode, Coach Hunter Garrett shares the daily practice that helped him work toward overcoming pornography and learn to process urges without fear. Hunter walks through the CTFAR model, a tool for understanding how circumstances, thoughts, feelings, and actions influence the results you create. He explains how using this model every day helped him set a goal he could work toward in the present, recognize which thoughts supported his progress, and choose actions that moved him toward the result he wanted. Tune in this week to learn how to apply the CTFAR model to your own goals, build a daily practice that supports your progress, and focus on small wins as you develop the skills to overcome pornography. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/progress-quitting-porn-every-day-hunter Mentioned in this episode: Podcast Resources: Workbook + Call with Hunter Want to dive deeper into the work you’re hearing about on the podcast? Check out the workbook to learn how to apply these concepts. You can also book a low-pressure call with Hunter or text him to learn more about working together. Explore the workbook + book a call with Hunter here!
October 26 · 39 min
301. Masturbation: Myths, Shame, and What the Research Says
Masturbation can bring up a lot of shame, fear, and conflicting messages about what is healthy or acceptable. In this episode, I explore the research and common myths surrounding masturbation, including why it’s important to understand the difference between the behavior itself and the distress you may feel about it. I explain what the research says about masturbation, when it can become harmful, and how misinformation and sexual shame can shape the way you think about your sexuality. We’ll also explore how religious beliefs, guilt, and black-and-white thinking can influence your experience, and why you get to make your own decisions about your body and sexual behavior. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/masturbation-myths-shame-research Mentioned in this episode: Podcast Resources: Workbook + Call with Hunter Want to dive deeper into the work you’re hearing about on the podcast? Check out the workbook to learn how to apply these concepts. You can also book a low-pressure call with Hunter or text him to learn more about working together. Explore the workbook + book a call with Hunter here!
October 19 · 14 min
300. The Role of Nervous System Healing in Quitting Porn
Have you ever pushed yourself to keep going when what you really needed was to slow down and take care of yourself? In this episode, I explain why understanding your nervous system and learning to recognize what your body needs can help you make different choices when you're struggling with urges or difficult emotions. I share why prioritizing nervous system care before you reach a point of overwhelm is so important, and how pushing through stress without listening to your body can leave you feeling burned out. You'll learn why building awareness of your body's signals and learning to trust them can help you approach quitting porn differently. Tune in this week to learn how nervous system healing can support your progress, explore practical techniques for helping your body feel more regulated, and understand why making time for rest and preventative care can help you show up more consistently in your life. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/nervous-system-healing-quitting-porn Mentioned in this episode: Podcast Resources: Workbook + Call with Hunter Want to dive deeper into the work you’re hearing about on the podcast? Check out the workbook to learn how to apply these concepts. You can also book a low-pressure call with Hunter or text him to learn more about working together. Explore the workbook + book a call with Hunter here!
October 12 · 22 min
299. Becoming a New Person (Pillar Four of Quitting Porn)
Quitting porn is about more than stopping a behavior. It’s about becoming the person you want to be. In this fourth and final episode of the series on the pillars needed to overcome pornography, I talk about why changing your identity is such an important part of quitting for good. I explain why many people focus only on removing porn from their lives and miss the deeper transformation that comes with learning new skills, changing how they see themselves, and becoming someone who can follow through with themselves. This episode will help you see quitting porn as an opportunity to build a stronger relationship with yourself and the life you want to create. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/becoming-new-person-pillar-three Mentioned in this episode: Podcast Resources: Workbook + Call with Hunter Want to dive deeper into the work you’re hearing about on the podcast? Check out the workbook to learn how to apply these concepts. You can also book a low-pressure call with Hunter or text him to learn more about working together. Explore the workbook + book a call with Hunter here!
October 5 · 21 min
298. Emotional Regulation (Pillar Three of Quitting Porn)
Unwanted porn use is often connected to the emotions you’re trying to escape. In this third episode of a four-part series on the pillars needed to overcome pornography, I talk about emotional regulation and why learning to feel your feelings is such an important part of quitting porn. I explain how pornography can become a way to escape emotions like loneliness, stress, shame, boredom, or anxiety, and why learning to recognize what you are trying to escape can change the way you approach your habit. You’ll learn more about emotional regulation, including techniques you can use to start processing difficult emotions in a healthier way. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/emotional-regulation-pillar-three Mentioned in this episode: Podcast Resources: Workbook + Call with Hunter Want to dive deeper into the work you’re hearing about on the podcast? Check out the workbook to learn how to apply these concepts. You can also book a low-pressure call with Hunter or text him to learn more about working together. Explore the workbook + book a call with Hunter here!
September 28 · 19 min
297. Mindful Urge Management (Pillar Two of Quitting Porn)
Urges are not something you have to fear or fight against. In this second episode of a four-part series on the pillars needed to overcome pornography, I talk about mindful urge management and how learning to work with your urges can help you stop feeling controlled by them. I explain why resisting urges or reacting to them often keeps you stuck, and why learning to allow them without pushing them away or giving in can help you build confidence in your ability to experience discomfort. We’ll explore the difference between an urge and the meaning you assign to it, and why neutralizing your urges is an important part of changing your relationship with them. You’ll learn how to change your relationship with urges, why getting out of your head and into your body can help you process discomfort differently, and how learning from slip-ups can help you create new results. This episode will help you understand your urges in a new way and develop the skills to respond with more awareness and intention. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/mindful-urge-management-pillar-two Mentioned in this episode: Podcast Resources: Workbook + Call with Hunter Want to dive deeper into the work you’re hearing about on the podcast? Check out the workbook to learn how to apply these concepts. You can also book a low-pressure call with Hunter or text him to learn more about working together. Explore the workbook + book a call with Hunter here!
September 21 · 26 min
296. Shame-Free Commitment (Pillar One of Quitting Porn)
Commitment is required to quit pornography, but the kind of commitment you create matters. In this first episode of a four-part series on the pillars needed to overcome pornography, I talk about why shame-free commitment is the foundation for lasting change. I explain why commitment does not mean being perfect, never struggling, or quitting immediately. Instead, true commitment means being willing to do the work, learn the skills you need, and continue moving forward even when things do not go exactly as planned. You’ll learn how all-or-nothing thinking can interfere with your commitment, how to identify the limiting beliefs that may be keeping you stuck, and why creating commitment from a place of worthiness and dignity instead of shame can change the way you approach quitting pornography. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/shame-free-commitment-pillar-one Mentioned in this episode: Podcast Resources: Workbook + Call with Hunter Want to dive deeper into the work you’re hearing about on the podcast? Check out the workbook to learn how to apply these concepts. You can also book a low-pressure call with Hunter or text him to learn more about working together. Explore the workbook + book a call with Hunter here!
September 14 · 21 min
295. Choosing Your Future Self Over Your Present Desire
Your present desire and your future desire can feel like they’re competing with each other. In this episode, I talk about the difference between these two desires and why understanding them can help you create a more compelling reason to quit pornography. I explain why your present desire often focuses on immediate pleasure, escape, or relief, while your future desire is connected to the life you want to create. You’ll learn why fear and shame are not strong motivators for change and how connecting with your future self can help you make choices that align with what you truly want. You’ll learn how to identify what your pornography use may be keeping you from creating, why shifting from consumption to creation can change your perspective, and how to love your future self enough to make choices that support the life you want. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/choosing-future-self-present-desire
September 7 · 35 min
294. What’s Possible with Jeff: Quitting Porn at Age 75
It’s never too late to change your life. In this episode, I’m sharing Jeff’s story of quitting pornography at age 75 after struggling with porn for more than 60 years. His journey is a powerful reminder that no matter how long you’ve been stuck, change is still possible. Jeff shares how shame, secrecy, and using pornography as a way to escape difficult emotions kept him stuck for decades. You’ll hear how learning to understand his triggers, process urges, and change the way he thought about pornography helped him finally break the cycle and move forward. You’ll learn how Jeff went from believing porn would always be part of his life to becoming porn-free, how quitting porn transformed his relationship with his wife, his faith, and himself, and what he believes is possible for anyone willing to do the work. This episode will give you hope that your past does not determine your future. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/whats-possible-jeff-age-75 Mentioned in this episode: Podcast Resources: Workbook + Call with Hunter Want to dive deeper into the work you’re hearing about on the podcast? Check out the workbook to learn how to apply these concepts. You can also book a low-pressure call with Hunter or text him to learn more about working together. Explore the workbook + book a call with Hunter here!
August 31 · 20 min
293. Why Accepting Yourself Makes Change Easier
What if accepting yourself can actually be the thing that helps you change? In this episode, I talk about why self-acceptance can feel confusing when you’re trying to quit pornography or become a better version of yourself. It can seem like accepting where you are means giving up, but the opposite is often true. I explain why the more you accept yourself, the easier it becomes to change, and why shame, defeat, and feeling like you’re not good enough often make it harder to take sustainable action. We’ll explore the difference between acceptance and justification, and why changing from a place of self-love creates a stronger foundation for growth. You’ll learn why acceptance is not the same as staying stuck, how your thoughts and emotions influence the actions you take, and how practicing self-acceptance can help you create lasting change. This episode will help you shift from fighting yourself to supporting yourself as you work toward the life you want. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/accepting-yourself-makes-change-easier Mentioned in this episode: Podcast Resources: Workbook + Call with Hunter Want to dive deeper into the work you’re hearing about on the podcast? Check out the workbook to learn how to apply these concepts. You can also book a low-pressure call with Hunter or text him to learn more about working together. Explore the workbook + book a call with Hunter here!
August 24 · 18 min
292. You’re Worthy Right Now
What if you didn’t have to change anything about yourself to be worthy? In this episode, I talk about why so many of us believe we have to earn worthiness through our actions, accomplishments, or the changes we make. But worthiness doesn’t come from your circumstances, your past, or what you do. It comes from the way you think about yourself. I share why feeling worthy isn’t something you achieve after you quit porn or create the life you want, but something that helps you create those results. When you operate from a belief that you are not enough, shame keeps you stuck. When you learn to believe that you are worthy right now, you can show up for yourself from a place of love instead of trying to prove that you are good enough. You’ll learn why worthiness is not dependent on your actions, how changing the way you see yourself can change the way you approach quitting porn, and why believing you are enough can become the foundation for meaningful change. This episode will help you practice seeing yourself through a new lens and recognize the possibility that your struggles do not change your worth. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/youre-worthy-right-now Mentioned in this episode: Podcast Resources: Workbook + Call with Hunter Want to dive deeper into the work you’re hearing about on the podcast? Check out the workbook to learn how to apply these concepts. You can also book a low-pressure call with Hunter or text him to learn more about working together. Explore the workbook + book a call with Hunter here!
August 17 · 43 min
291. Using Your Sexuality for Good with Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife
Could your sexuality be something you learn to embrace instead of something you need to fear or control? In this episode, I talk with Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife, a psychologist and teacher who helps people work through sexuality and develop healthier, more intimate relationships. We discuss moving beyond the idea that sexuality is simply something to manage or suppress and exploring how it can create connection, strength, and goodness in our lives. Jennifer shares why sexual shame often creates more fear and disconnection, and why the goal is not to reject our sexuality but to learn how to relate to it in a way that aligns with our values. We discuss what it means to make thoughtful choices, see yourself as the architect of your life, and move from “I can’t” toward “I’m choosing.” You’ll learn how to reframe your relationship with your sexuality, why shame can make it harder to make wise choices, and how embracing your sexual nature can help you create a life that reflects who you want to be. Jennifer also shares a powerful perspective on moving from fear and prohibition toward intentionality, self-respect, and love. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/sexuality-for-good-jennifer-finlayson-fife Mentioned in this episode: Podcast Resources: Workbook + Call with Hunter Want to dive deeper into the work you’re hearing about on the podcast? Check out the workbook to learn how to apply these concepts. You can also book a low-pressure call with Hunter or text him to learn more about working together. Explore the workbook + book a call with Hunter here!
August 10 · 21 min
290. What to Do With Urges: Resist, React, or Allow
What if the way you respond to your urges is the thing keeping you stuck? In this episode, I break down the three ways you can respond when an urge to view pornography comes up: resisting it, reacting to it, or allowing it. Understanding the difference between these approaches can completely change the way you handle urges. I explain why using willpower and trying to push urges away doesn’t work long term, and why many people end up stuck in a cycle of resisting and reacting. Instead, I teach you what it means to allow an urge, process it, and build your ability to sit with discomfort without acting on it. You’ll learn how to recognize the difference between resisting, reacting, and allowing, why processing urges builds your tolerance for discomfort, and how this skill can help you create more freedom in your life. This episode will help you approach urges differently and understand what becomes possible when you stop fighting them. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/urges-resist-react-allow Mentioned in this episode: Podcast Resources: Workbook + Call with Hunter Want to dive deeper into the work you’re hearing about on the podcast? Check out the workbook to learn how to apply these concepts. You can also book a low-pressure call with Hunter or text him to learn more about working together. Explore the workbook + book a call with Hunter here!
August 3 · 18 min
289. The 7 Steps to Stop Fearing Your Feelings
What if the emotions you’re trying to avoid are actually the key to creating the life you want? In this episode, I talk about why so many of us fear our feelings and how avoiding emotions can keep us stuck. Whether it’s loneliness, stress, shame, or the desire to view pornography, learning to feel your emotions is a skill that can change everything. I explain why emotions are not dangerous or harmful, but simply sensations in your body that you can learn to experience. When you resist feelings, they often become bigger and lead to buffering behaviors that help you escape them. I also walk you through the seven steps for feeling a feeling so you can learn how to process emotions instead of running away from them. You’ll learn why feeling your emotions is essential for quitting pornography, how to stop resisting uncomfortable feelings, and how building this skill can help you handle whatever life brings your way. This episode will help you see your emotions differently and discover what becomes possible when you stop fearing them. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/steps-stop-fearing-your-feelings Mentioned in this episode: Podcast Resources: Workbook + Call with Hunter Want to dive deeper into the work you’re hearing about on the podcast? Check out the workbook to learn how to apply these concepts. You can also book a low-pressure call with Hunter or text him to learn more about working together. Explore the workbook + book a call with Hunter here!
July 27 · 12 min
288. Sexual Shame: We Are Sexual Beings
What if the sexual feelings you’ve been taught to fear are actually a normal part of being human? In this episode, I talk about sexual shame and why so many people, especially those raised in religious or conservative communities, learn to see normal sexual feelings as something wrong or bad. Sexuality is a part of being human, and shame around it creates unnecessary suffering. I share why shame around sexuality doesn’t help you create the relationship you want with your body or your sexual desires. When we believe we are broken or unworthy because of our sexuality, it can actually create more struggles with pornography and unwanted sexual behaviors. Instead, we can learn to approach our sexuality from a place of worthiness and wholeness. You’ll learn why sexual feelings are not something to fear, how shame impacts your relationship with yourself and your sexuality, and why dropping sexual shame is essential if you want to quit pornography for good. This episode will help you rethink what it means to be a sexual human and create a healthier relationship with this part of yourself. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/shame-we-are-sexual-beings
July 20 · 41 min
287. What’s Possible with Thomas
What’s possible when you see that change is within reach? In this episode, Thomas shares his story of struggling with pornography on and off for 40 years and what finally helped him break free. Hearing someone who has navigated the same challenges helps build belief that it is possible to make lasting change. He explains how committing fully to the process, being intentional with his choices, and applying structured support allowed him to handle urges and stressful situations differently. Thomas shares the turning points that helped him shift his responses, build confidence, and reclaim control over his actions, highlighting how small steps and consistent practices compound into meaningful progress. You’ll learn how he overcame binge cycles and how one-on-one coaching with Kat helped him navigate challenges and make lasting change. This episode shows what’s possible when you approach obstacles with intention and consistency. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/whats-possible-with-thomas Mentioned in this episode: Podcast Resources: Workbook + Call with Hunter Want to dive deeper into the work you’re hearing about on the podcast? Check out the workbook to learn how to apply these concepts. You can also book a low-pressure call with Hunter or text him to learn more about working together. Explore the workbook + book a call with Hunter here!
July 13 · 22 min
286. How to Guarantee Success (Part 5)
Is it possible to guarantee success in overcoming pornography? In this episode, I explain the difference between goals that are impossible to execute and goals that a living person can realistically pursue. Many people struggle because they focus on outcomes that are abstract or unattainable, which makes progress feel impossible. I share why noticing the patterns in your responses and focusing on small, consistent steps is more effective than chasing unattainable outcomes. By paying attention to how you actually behave and making intentional choices, you can start to move forward in a way that feels practical and sustainable. You’ll learn why unattainable goals create pressure, how focusing on actionable steps promotes momentum, and how practicing this approach consistently opens new possibilities. You’ll also hear more about the 12-week live program that guides you to apply these principles and explore what’s possible when you align your actions with your intentions. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/how-to-guarantee-success Sign up for the Befriend Your Sexuality program here: https://centerforovercoming.com/workwithme Mentioned in this episode: Podcast Resources: Workbook + Call with Hunter Want to dive deeper into the work you’re hearing about on the podcast? Check out the workbook to learn how to apply these concepts. You can also book a low-pressure call with Hunter or text him to learn more about working together. Explore the workbook + book a call with Hunter here!
July 6 · 27 min
285. The Cost of Inaction
What’s the real cost of not taking action on the things that matter most to you? In this episode, I explore how putting off change, whether with pornography, health, or personal goals, creates compounding effects over time. Inaction doesn’t just keep you where you are. It often makes challenges worse and limits the life you could be living. I explain why waiting for the “right time” or relying on willpower alone keeps you stuck. Using examples from life, health, and pornography, I highlight how small, consistent actions compound over time. I also explain why approaching change like a scientist, observing without judgment, helps you take the first step without shame or fear. You’ll learn why the cost of inaction grows over time, how tiny, consistent actions create meaningful change, and how committing to support and guidance accelerates progress. I also share the 12-week live program that guides you step by step through these principles so you can continue building momentum and experience what’s possible. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/cost-of-inaction Sign up for the Befriend Your Sexuality program here: https://centerforovercoming.com/workwithme Mentioned in this episode: Podcast Resources: Workbook + Call with Hunter Want to dive deeper into the work you’re hearing about on the podcast? Check out the workbook to learn how to apply these concepts. You can also book a low-pressure call with Hunter or text him to learn more about working together. Explore the workbook + book a call with Hunter here!
June 29 · 25 min
284. What if I’m Single, Divorced, or in a Sexless Marriage? Can I Still Befriend My Sexuality? (Part 4)
What’s possible when your sexuality belongs to you first? In this episode, I address a common question for those who are single, divorced, or in a sexless marriage: can you still befriend your sexuality? Many people are taught that sexual energy only belongs in a relationship, which creates confusion, shame, and reliance on others for regulation. I explain why outsourcing your sexual relationship to a partner or marriage doesn’t resolve underlying issues and often leads to dependency or resentment. Befriending your own sexuality allows you to reclaim this energy, experience aliveness, and bring vitality and presence into all areas of your life. You’ll hear why this process is about returning to yourself, not self-abandonment. You’ll learn why sexuality is yours to steward, how shame and distorted beliefs limit your vitality, and how curiosity and intentional practices help you integrate sexual energy safely and meaningfully. You’ll also learn about a 12-week live program that guides you to apply these principles and explore what’s possible when you befriend your sexuality. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/single-divorced-befriend-sexuality Sign up for the Befriend Your Sexuality program here: https://centerforovercoming.com/workwithme Mentioned in this episode: Podcast Resources: Workbook + Call with Hunter Want to dive deeper into the work you’re hearing about on the podcast? Check out the workbook to learn how to apply these concepts. You can also book a low-pressure call with Hunter or text him to learn more about working together. Explore the workbook + book a call with Hunter here!

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