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Not As We Planned

Tash Gershfield & Carly Harris

New episodes every Thursday, with exclusive bonus episodes every Monday on Patreon.

Welcome to Not As We Planned, the honest podcast about relationships, dating, marriage, divorce and motherhood, and all the things no one really talks about.

From becoming a mum and navigating divorce, to rebuilding life as a single mum and dating again in your 30s, we’re sharing the real, messy and unexpected sides of it all.

Life doesn’t always go to plan, and neither do relationships. This is a space for open conversations, shared experiences and saying the things most people avoid.

If you have a question or want to share your story, email us at notasweplannedpodcast@gmail.com


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  • March 12 · 43 min

    When Hope Ends Up Costing You A Lot | Not As We Planned Podcast

    Tash shares the hurdles she’s had to face during her break-up, when you stick by your partner through his addiction, a man shares an extremely moving explanation of his addiction, and needing the courage to walk away from a man who has allowed you to carry him through your whole relationship. Watch the podcast on YouTube Get a weekly BONUS episode on Patreon: Join Our Community Instagram TikTok Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

  • March 5 · 1 hr 10 min

    Sabrina Zohar: Everything You Need to Know About Dating & Relationships | Not As We Planned Podcast

    Dating can feel confusing, frustrating and at times completely overwhelming. In this episode, renowned dating and relationship expert Sabrina Zohar joins us to answer your most pressing questions - from navigating no contact and mixed signals to building healthy, secure relationships that actually last. Watch the podcast on YouTube Get a weekly BONUS episode on Patreon: Join Our Community Instagram TikTok Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

  • February 25 · 40 min

    I Can’t Stop Sleeping With My Daughters Boyfriend | Not As We Planned Podcast

    It’s a dating episode guys and we have delivered the goods! First up, the man that shat himself on a first date, the most shocking affair we have EVER come across, the romantic stroll along the dirty river and being the third wheel with the ‘platonic bestie’ Watch the podcast on YouTube Get a weekly BONUS episode on Patreon: Join Our Community Instagram TikTok Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

  • February 19 · 42 min

    Poor Excuse of a Man | Not As We Planned Podcast

    We’ve had some shocking updates from our listeners. In one case, an affair turned out not to be just one, but two. Another story involved a man desperately trying to hide his whereabouts during a FaceTime call. One mum was excited for her family holiday, only to discover her partner had already been frolicking in the sea with another woman. Another man had an affair with someone 13 years younger and, as if that wasn’t enough, she later found out he had been visiting prostitutes… more than 40 in just six months. Watch the podcast on YouTube Get a weekly BONUS episode on Patreon: Join Our Community Instagram TikTok Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

  • February 12 · 41 min

    You Need To Leave This Relationship NOW!! | Not As We Planned Podcast

    Tash gives us an update on finally going no contact but what occurred beforehand, we share some dating stories just in time for valentines day… the man who wanted to drive into a brick wall, playing hide and seek when the date isn’t going well, being presented with a penis in the car, wanting to leave your marriage but guilt is stopping you and when you get caught in the lie! Watch the podcast on YouTube Get a weekly BONUS episode on Patreon: Join Our Community Instagram TikTok Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

  • February 5 · 49 min

    The Worst Affair Story You've Ever Heard | Not As We Planned Podcast

    When you realise you’re carrying your whole relationship, when your partner leaves you for someone else, when your baby daddy is mia for a year and then you find out the most shocking news as to why, and stopping the cohabiting with your ex! Watch the podcast on YouTube Get a weekly BONUS episode on Patreon: Join Our Community Instagram TikTok Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

  • January 29 · 48 min

    Me & My Boyfriend Broke Up | Not As We Planned Podcast

    Tash shares the sad update that her and her boyfriend have broken up. When the man you’re with punishes you for keeping your baby, a random Facebook message that brings you the truth about your partner and the worst pocket dial confession Watch the podcast on YouTube Get a weekly BONUS episode on Patreon: Join Our Community Instagram TikTok Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

  • January 15 · 44 min

    I've Been Sleeping With My Boss... Who's Married

    This week, we hear a confession from someone sleeping with her married boss, a long-term boyfriend exposed on an Are We Dating the Same Guy page and our advice as to whether we think a listener's boyfriend might be cheating on her. Watch the podcast on YouTube Get a weekly BONUS episode on Patreon: Join Our Community Instagram TikTok Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

  • Dec 18, 2025 · 48 min

    Don’t Be a Ho Ho Ho!! | Not As We Planned Podcast

    We speak about the struggles we can face over xmas, being newly single or not having your children, when staying for the kids is not an option, an email that sets us off emotionally with a lovely thank you, and we hear from a male listener whose repeatedly being cheated on…. Watch the podcast on YouTube Get a weekly BONUS episode on Patreon: Join Our Community Instagram TikTok Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

  • Dec 11, 2025 · 49 min

    The Neighbourhood Bicycle Where Everyone Had a Ride | Not As We Planned Podcast

    Trigger warning: Domestic Abuse When your ex partner is using drugs and tries it on with your sister, a very abusive relationship that’s hard to get out of when you’re in it, and when your perfect life falls apart when he decides he wants to leave out of nowhere! Watch the podcast on YouTube Get a weekly BONUS episode on Patreon: Join Our Community Instagram TikTok Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

  • Nov 27, 2025 · 47 min

    The Truth Is They Never Change... | Not As We Planned Podcast

    We unpack the lies we’ve told ourselves to stay in an unhappy relationship, when your husband blames your appearance for the reason he left and when all the lies get uncovered from the dreaded phone!!! Watch the podcast on YouTube Get a weekly BONUS episode on Patreon: Join Our Community Instagram TikTok Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

  • Nov 20, 2025 · 41 min

    The Not So Magic Mike Show... | Not As We Planned Podcast

    When your ex gives you an unintentional strip tease, the Christmas party affair that eventually comes out, when you’re chasing closure from the wrong person and questioning if you gave up too soon on your marriage due to motherhood. Watch the podcast on YouTube Get a weekly BONUS episode on Patreon: Join Our Community Instagram TikTok Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

  • Nov 13, 2025 · 51 min

    The Messy Wife Swap | Not As We Planned Podcast

    We hear about the constant betrayal throughout a marriage with some brutal advice given, a shocking story which left someone homeless, the reality of ignoring every red flag and the when love turns into survival Watch the podcast on YouTube Get a weekly BONUS episode on Patreon: Join Our Community Instagram TikTok Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

  • Nov 6, 2025 · 50 min

    When Your Situationship Even Lied About His Name!!! | Not As We Planned Podcast

    We give our brutal opinion on what we believe is bare minimum rather than princess treatment, when the guy you’re dating even lied about his name and figuring out whether a second chance could work. Watch the podcast on YouTube Get a weekly BONUS episode on Patreon: Join Our Community Instagram TikTok Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

  • Oct 30, 2025 · 43 min

    The Intentional Affair | Not As We Planned Podcast

    We hear from a broken listener who we give some much needed advice to, when the trust is broken and if you can really move forward from the deceit, and we hear from an ‘imposter’ who shares a different story! Use code CARLY20 for 20% off anything site wide @ruci_uk Watch the podcast on YouTube Get a weekly BONUS episode on Patreon: Join Our Community Instagram TikTok Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

  • Oct 15, 2025 · 39 min

    It's Giving Desperate Housewives | Not As We Planned Podcast

    We actually beg a listener to take our advice, or she will regret it, the lying boyfriend who made out he ended it to do her a favour, the shocking 9-year affair and watching history repeat itself! Watch the podcast on YouTube Get a weekly BONUS episode on Patreon: Join Our Community Instagram TikTok Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.