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No One Told Us

Rachael Shepard-Ohta

No One Told Us the truth about parenthood. WHY?!

Welcome to No One Told Us, the podcast where we uncover the raw, unfiltered truths about parenthood. I'm your host, Rachael Shepard-Ohta, mom of three and founder of Hey, Sleepy Baby. Each week, join me as we dive deep into the joys, challenges, and surprises of raising children with a mix of expert insights, personal anecdotes, and candid conversations.

From navigating postpartum anxiety to mastering the art of making mom friends, and from introducing solids to tackling tantrums, we cover it all. Whether you're a first-time parent or a seasoned pro, this podcast is your go-to resource for honest advice, relatable stories, and plenty of laughs along the way.

Join me as I sit down with experts in their fields, as well as friends, family, celebrities, and influencers, to share their experiences and wisdom on everything from sleepless nights to rocky relationships. No topic is off-limits, and no story goes untold on No One Told Us.

So grab a cup of coffee, pop in your headphones and join the conversation. This is the podcast everyone needed before they had kids- because now that those little ones are here, there's a lot to unpack. So let's pull back the curtain on becoming a first-time mom (or dad!) to share the good, the bad and the ugly. A little education, a little fun, and a whole lot of heart goes into each and every episode of No One Told Us to have you feeling less alone and way more empowered.

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Thursday · 52 min
Episode 115: Perimenopause, PMDD & What Women Need to Know with Dr. Rebecca Dunsmoor-Su and Dr. Amy Voedisch
What if more women actually knew what to expect from perimenopause before they were in the middle of it? In this episode, Rachael sits down with Dr. Rebecca Dunsmoor-Su and Dr. Amy Voedisch to talk about perimenopause, PMDD, menopause, and the hormonal changes that can impact both physical and mental health during this stage of life. Together, they break down what’s actually happening to our hormones and brain chemistry, why symptoms can look so different from person to person, and what treatment options are available. They also discuss birth control, SSRIs, hormone therapy, supplements, mental health risks, and why understanding your medical history and tracking your symptoms can make such a difference in getting the right care. Inside this episode: When perimenopause can begin and how long it can last The signs and symptoms of perimenopause and menopause Understanding PMDD and how it differs from typical PMS How hormonal fluctuations can affect mood, anxiety, and brain chemistry Why mental health symptoms can become more intense during perimenopause Treatment options including birth control, SSRIs, and hormone therapy Common misconceptions about birth control and hormone therapy Supplements, unregulated products, and what women should know before taking them Why tracking symptoms can help you advocate for better care How your medical and reproductive history can impact future health risks The importance of taking anxiety, depression, and suicidal thoughts seriously during this stage of life Why personalized care matters when navigating hormonal changes And so much more! Mentioned in this episode: Estrogen, Interrupted: A Guide to Surviving and Thriving in Perimenopause: order here Listen to the OvaryActive Podcast here Follow on Instagram here If you enjoyed this episode, please rate 5⭐️ and write us a review! ⬇️✨ For sleep support and resources, visit heysleepybaby.com and follow @heysleepybaby on Instagram! 😴☁️🤎✨ Rachael is a mom of 3, founder of Hey, Sleepy Baby, and the host of this podcast. Instagram | Tiktok | Website Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
September 17 · 45 min
Episode 114: Rethinking the Mental Load & Teaching Kids to “Notice and Do” with Sam Kelly
What if we stopped waiting to be asked and started teaching our kids to notice what needs to be done? In this episode, Rachael sits down with therapist-turned-feminist coach Sam Kelly to talk about the mental load, gender norms, family dynamics, and her “notice and do” philosophy for creating more equitable homes. Together, they unpack why the mental load is a whole-family issue and how parents can teach children to recognize needs and take action without constantly being reminded. Sam also shares practical strategies for building independence through routines, visual cues, and scripts, including ways to adapt these ideas for neurodivergent children and adults. Inside this episode: What “notice and do” means and where the idea came from Why the mental load is a whole-family issue How gender norms and cultural conditioning shape household responsibilities Teaching kids to notice what needs to be done without being asked Practical strategies for building independence through routines, visual cues, and scripts Creating a more equitable division of household responsibilities Adapting “notice and do” for neurodivergent children and adults Helping kids navigate multi-step tasks and attention challenges How sharing the mental load can reduce burnout Why teaching kids to contribute is about more than chores How “notice and do” can build confidence and independence And so much more! Mentioned in this episode: Preorder: Sam Kelly’s “Notice and Do” Follow Sam on instagram: @samkelly_world If you enjoyed this episode, please rate 5⭐️ and write us a review! ⬇️ ✨For sleep support and resources, visit heysleepybaby.com and follow @heysleepybaby on Instagram! 😴☁️🤎✨ Rachael is a mom of 3, founder of Hey, Sleepy Baby, and the host of this podcast. Instagram | Tiktok | Website Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
September 10 · 46 min
Episode 113: Rethinking Picky Eating & Building a Healthy Relationship with Food with Jennifer Anderson
What does it actually mean to be a “picky eater,” and how can we help our kids develop a healthy relationship with food without pressure, shame, or anxiety? In this episode, Rachael sits down with registered dietitian and author Jennifer Anderson to talk about picky eating, childhood nutrition, feeding routines, food boundaries, and the many ways our parenting practices can shape our children’s relationship with food. Together, they unpack what picky eating really means, how to create structure and boundaries around food while still honoring a child’s autonomy, and how diet culture and social media can influence the way we approach feeding our kids. Jennifer also shares practical strategies for navigating snacks, Halloween candy, food labels, and helping children develop embodied independence and trust in their own bodies. Inside this episode: What picky eating really means and why it’s so common How parenting practices can influence children’s relationships with food How to create structure and boundaries around meals without shame or pressure The role of snacks and routines in children’s eating habits How diet culture and social media can impact the way we feed our kids Strategies for navigating Halloween candy and other treats Why black-and-white thinking about food can be harmful How to model healthy behaviors without creating shame around food Understanding sensory and developmental factors that can contribute to picky eating The importance of embodied independence and helping kids trust their bodies How parental language can influence body image and food relationships How to talk to kids about food choices without labeling foods as “good” or “bad” Resources and support for families dealing with extreme picky eating How to foster healthy independence around food as kids grow And so much more! Mentioned in this episode: Jennifer’s book, Feed Them Well: Pre-order here Pediatric Screener for ARFID and Extreme Picky Eating (PSA-Eat): Take the screener BetterBites: Learn more If you enjoyed this episode, please rate 5⭐️ and write us a review! ⬇️ ✨For sleep support and resources, visit heysleepybaby.com and follow @heysleepybaby on Instagram! 😴☁️🤎✨ Rachael is a mom of 3, founder of Hey, Sleepy Baby, and the host of this podcast. Instagram | Tiktok | Website Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
September 3 · 55 min
Episode 112: Postpartum OCD, Intrusive Thoughts & Learning to Trust Yourself with Jenna Overbaugh
What happens when the thoughts that scare you most become the thoughts you can’t stop thinking about? In this episode, Rachael sits down with licensed professional counselor Jenna Overbaugh to talk about postpartum OCD, intrusive thoughts, anxiety, and the ways sleep deprivation, perfectionism, and the need for control can fuel OCD symptoms. Together, they unpack what separates common intrusive thoughts from OCD, why OCD often latches onto the things we care about most, and how parents can begin breaking the cycle of reassurance seeking, avoidance, and compulsions. Jenna also explains how exposure and response prevention (ERP) can help parents build confidence and learn to trust themselves again. Inside this episode: What postpartum OCD really looks like The difference between intrusive thoughts and OCD How sleep deprivation and anxiety can feed each other Why OCD often latches onto what we care about most How perfectionism and the need for control can fuel OCD The role of reassurance seeking and why it can reinforce OCD How social media can contribute to anxiety and compulsive behaviors What exposure and response prevention (ERP) is and how it works How compulsions and safety behaviors keep the OCD cycle going Understanding ego-dystonic thoughts and fears of harming your baby What research tells us about the risk of harm in parents with OCD When postpartum OCD requires specialized or intensive treatment How parents can reduce avoidance and step outside their comfort zones Why learning to tolerate uncertainty is such an important part of recovery How to find specialized support for postpartum OCD And so much more! Mentioned in this episode: Jenna Overbaugh’s resources: https://www.jennaoverbaughlpc.com/resources Jenna’s book, Making Peace with a Noisy Mind, coming February 2027 Jenna on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jenna.overbaugh Jenna’s Substack: https://www.thenoisymind.substack.com If you enjoyed this episode, please rate 5⭐️ and write us a review! ⬇️ ✨For sleep support and resources, visit heysleepybaby.com and follow @heysleepybaby on Instagram! 😴☁️🤎✨ Rachael is a mom of 3, founder of Hey, Sleepy Baby, and the host of this podcast. Instagram | Tiktok | Website Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
August 27 · 51 min
Episode 111: Too Sensitive? Understanding Emotional Sensitivity, ADHD & Regulation with Dr. Sasha Hamdani
What does it really mean to be “too sensitive”? In this episode, Rachael sits down with psychiatrist, author, and ADHD expert Dr. Sasha Hamdani to unpack emotional sensitivity, ADHD, rejection sensitive dysphoria, and the ways our understanding of ourselves can shape how we parent.Inside this episode: What emotional sensitivity really means and how it exists on a spectrum Why labels can become part of our internal narrative Understanding rejection sensitive dysphoria and intense emotional responses How ADHD can impact emotional regulation…not just attention Why ADHD is often diagnosed later in women, especially after becoming parents How ADHD and emotional sensitivity can show up differently in girls and women The role social media plays in ADHD awareness, education, and misinformation How parenthood can reveal previously unrecognized neurodivergent traits Practical tools for managing big emotional responses and building regulation skills How we can help emotionally sensitive children develop resilience Why emotional regulation should be taught early….and even in schools And so much more! Mentioned in this episode: Too Sensitive by Dr. Sasha Hamdani Dr. Sasha Hamdani on Instagram Dr. Sasha Hamdani on TikTok If you enjoyed this episode, please rate 5⭐️ and write us a review! ⬇️ ✨For sleep support and resources, visit heysleepybaby.com and follow @heysleepybaby on Instagram! 😴☁️🤎✨ Rachael is a mom of 3, founder of Hey, Sleepy Baby, and the host of this podcast. Instagram | Tiktok | Website Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
August 20 · 48 min
Episode 110: Parenting the Spicy Kid with Mary Van Geffen
What does it really mean to parent a “spicy” kid? In this episode, Rachael sits down with parenting expert and author Mary Van Geffen to talk about strong-willed, sensitive, and neurodivergent children and what parents can do when everyday parenting feels especially challenging. Together, they discuss emotional regulation, parenting shame, boundaries, meltdowns, bedtime struggles, and the importance of doing our own inner work. Mary shares practical tools and compassionate strategies for staying connected to your child while also learning how to regulate yourself, repair after hard moments, and parent with more confidence. Inside this episode: What makes a child “spicy” and how to understand their unique temperament Why parental self-regulation is one of the most important parenting tools How childhood experiences can shape the way we parent Navigating neurodivergence, diagnosis, and finding the right support Practical strategies for managing meltdowns, tantrums, and big emotions How routine, predictability, and connection can help sensitive kids thrive Setting firm boundaries while staying kind and connect The role of self-compassion, repair, and doing your own inner work And so much more! Mentioned in this episode: Parenting a Spicy One by Mary Van Geffen Mary Van Geffen on Instagram Mary Van Geffen on TikTok If you enjoyed this episode, please rate 5⭐️ and write us a review! ⬇️ ✨For sleep support and resources, visit heysleepybaby.com and follow @heysleepybaby on Instagram! 😴☁️🤎✨ Rachael is a mom of 3, founder of Hey, Sleepy Baby, and the host of this podcast. Instagram | Tiktok | Website Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
August 13 · 52 min
Episode 109: Parenting Wisdom from Around the World with Michaeleen Doucleff
What if many of the things we believe about parenting aren't actually universal? In this episode, Rachael sits down with journalist and author Dr. Michaeleen Doucleff to explore what different cultures around the world can teach us about raising children, building strong family relationships, and rethinking some of our most deeply held parenting beliefs. Together, they discuss parenting myths, child development, autonomy, screen time, dopamine, sleep, and what it can look like to approach family life with more respect, connection, and trust. Inside this episode: Why so many common parenting practices aren't universal What different cultures can teach us about raising children The importance of respect, autonomy, and contribution in child development How dopamine actually affects motivation and screen time Rethinking the way we approach sleep and separation How to build stronger, more connected parent-child relationships Practical ways to encourage independence and healthy motivation And so much more! Mentioned in this episode: Hunt, Gather, Parent by Michaeleen Doucleff Dopamine Kids by Michaeleen Doucleff Michaeleen Doucleff's website If you enjoyed this episode, please rate 5⭐️ and write us a review! ⬇️ ✨For sleep support and resources, visit heysleepybaby.com and follow @heysleepybaby on Instagram! 😴☁️🤎✨ Rachael is a mom of 3, founder of Hey, Sleepy Baby, and the host of this podcast. Instagram | Tiktok | Website Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
August 6 · 46 min
Episode 108: The Power of Hobbying for Parents and Adults with Marina Cooley
What if making time for a hobby wasn't selfish but one of the best things you could do for yourself and your family? In this episode, Rachael sits down with writer and researcher Marina Cooley to explore why hobbies matter, how Danish culture approaches work-life balance, and what we can learn about slowing down, finding joy, and supporting our mental health. Together, they discuss how hobbies can reduce screen time, ease mom guilt, strengthen community, and help parents reconnect with themselves, even in the busiest seasons of life. Inside this episode: Why hobbies are essential for parents' well-being How Danish culture approaches happiness and balance Reducing screen time through meaningful hobbies Reframing productivity, self-care, and mom guilt The role of community in happier family life Practical ways to make hobbies fit into a busy schedule And so much more! Mentioned in this episode: The Geography of Bliss If you enjoyed this episode, please rate 5⭐️ and write us a review! ⬇️ ✨For sleep support and resources, visit heysleepybaby.com and follow @heysleepybaby on Instagram! 😴☁️🤎✨ Rachael is a mom of 3, founder of Hey, Sleepy Baby, and the host of this podcast. Instagram | Tiktok | Website Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
July 30 · 49 min
Episode 107: The Parenting Advice We Need to Unlearn with Fiona Weaver
What if the hardest part of parenting isn't your child's sleep, but the pressure to do everything "right"? In this episode, Rachael sits down with parenting educator and maternal mental health advocate Fiona Weaver for an honest conversation about the parenting advice we may need to unlearn. Together, they discuss the myths surrounding sleep training and independence, why "good enough" parenting is actually the goal, and how societal expectations can fuel mom guilt and self-doubt. Fiona also shares her experience parenting three children, navigating toddler sleep challenges, and embracing a more flexible, compassionate approach that supports both children and their parents. Whether you're questioning the parenting advice you've been given or simply looking for reassurance that you're doing enough, this episode offers practical wisdom, encouragement, and a refreshing perspective on modern motherhood. Inside this episode: Why "good enough" parenting is the gold standard Common myths about sleep training and infant independence The emotional and developmental needs of children How societal expectations contribute to mom guilt and shame Why you can't hang your mood on your baby's sleep The connection between infant sleep and maternal mental health Letting go of rigid sleep tracking and unrealistic expectations Building stronger family relationships through flexibility and connection How community and support can transform the parenting experience And so much more! Mentioned in this episode: Mama Matters website Fiona Weaver on Instagram If you enjoyed this episode, please rate 5⭐️ and write us a review! ⬇️ ✨For sleep support and resources, visit heysleepybaby.com and follow @heysleepybaby on Instagram! 😴☁️🤎✨ Rachael is a mom of 3, founder of Hey, Sleepy Baby, and the host of this podcast. Instagram | Tiktok | Website Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
July 23 · 46 min
Episode 106: Rethinking Baby Sleep: A Holistic Approach with Dr. Pamela Douglas
What if your baby's sleep challenges weren't something to fix but a clue to better understanding their unique needs? In this episode, Rachael sits down with physician, researcher, and founder of the Possums Program, Dr. Pamela Douglas, to explore a holistic, evidence-based approach to infant sleep, feeding, and development. Together, they discuss why sleep, feeding, sensory development, and emotional well-being are deeply connected, how societal pressures can increase stress for parents, and why responsive, flexible caregiving often leads to better outcomes for the whole family. Whether you're navigating an unsettled baby or simply looking for a gentler approach to infant sleep, this episode offers practical, reassuring guidance. Inside this episode: Why sleep, feeding, and sensory development are all connected The philosophy behind the Possums approach to infant care The five domains that can contribute to an unsettled baby Common myths about overstimulation and baby sleep Why outdoor play and sensory experiences support healthy development How parental stress can impact the parenting experience Practical ways to respond to your baby's unique cues Why flexibility…not rigid routines…helps families thrive And so much more! Mentioned in this episode: The Discontented Little Baby Book by Dr. Pamela Douglas Possums Program If you enjoyed this episode, please rate 5⭐️ and write us a review! ⬇️ ✨For sleep support and resources, visit heysleepybaby.com and follow @heysleepybaby on Instagram! 😴☁️🤎✨ Rachael is a mom of 3, founder of Hey, Sleepy Baby, and the host of this podcast. Instagram | Tiktok | Website Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
July 16 · 49 min
Episode 105: Dad Brain Explained: The Science of Fatherhood with Dr. Darby Saxbe
What if becoming a dad changes the brain just as much as becoming a mom? In this episode, Rachael sits down with psychologist, researcher, and author Dr. Darby Saxbe to explore the science behind "dad brain," how fatherhood reshapes the brain, and why great parenting is built through experience, not instinct. Together, they discuss the neurological changes fathers experience during the transition to parenthood, the importance of paternity leave and hands-on caregiving, and how supporting dads benefits the entire family. Whether you're a new parent or expecting a baby, this conversation will change the way you think about fatherhood. Inside this episode: What "dad brain" really is and how fatherhood changes the brain Why great parents are made…not born The truth about maternal and paternal instinct How paternity leave supports dads, babies, and families Why hands-on parenting builds confidence and stronger attachment The role of maternal gatekeeping and working as a team The importance of supporting dads' mental health How couples can better navigate the postpartum transition And so much more! Mentioned in this episode: Dad Brain by Dr. Darby Saxbe Natal Gazing on Substack @Darbysaxbe If you enjoyed this episode, please rate 5⭐️ and write us a review! ⬇️ ✨For sleep support and resources, visit heysleepybaby.com and follow @heysleepybaby on Instagram! 😴☁️🤎✨ Rachael is a mom of 3, founder of Hey, Sleepy Baby, and the host of this podcast. Instagram | Tiktok | Website Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
July 9 · 39 min
Episode 104: Mom Brain Explained: The Science of the Postpartum Brain with Dr. Nikki Pensak
What if "mom brain" isn't something to laugh off, but evidence that your brain is undergoing one of the biggest transformations of your life? In this episode, Rachael sits down with clinical psychologist and author Dr. Nikki Pensak to explore the science behind the postpartum brain, why anxiety is so common after having a baby, and what every mother deserves to know about her mental health. Together, they unpack the brain changes that occur during motherhood, why maternal instinct isn't as automatic as we're often told, and how sleep deprivation, stress, and trauma can shape the postpartum experience. Dr. Pensak also shares why healing is possible, how mothers can recognize when they need support, and the hope that can come through post-traumatic growth. Inside this episode: What "mom brain" really is and why it happens How neuroplasticity reshapes the brain during motherhood Why postpartum anxiety is so common and often overlooked The myth of maternal instinct and what actually builds confidence as a parent How stress and sleep deprivation affect the maternal brain Understanding birth trauma and the possibility of post-traumatic growth Signs it may be time to seek support for postpartum anxiety or depression Why self-care is a vital part of maternal mental health How social media can impact new moms….for better and for worse Dr. Nikki's inspiration for writing Rattled and helping mothers feel less alone And so much more! Mentioned in this episode: Rattled by Dr. Nikki Pensak If you enjoyed this episode, please rate 5⭐️ and write us a review! ⬇️ ✨For sleep support and resources, visit heysleepybaby.com and follow @heysleepybaby on Instagram! 😴☁️🤎✨ Rachael is a mom of 3, founder of Hey, Sleepy Baby, and the host of this podcast. Instagram | Tiktok | Website Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
July 2 · 44 min
Episode 103: Parenting Around the World with Elodie Ferchaud
What if raising your kids didn't have to look like everyone else's? In this episode, Rachael sits down with entrepreneur and Boundless Life founder Elodie Ferchaud for a conversation about choosing a different path, raising resilient kids, and creating a family life that feels aligned with your values…not someone else's expectations. From leaving the corporate world to raising four children while living around the globe, Elodie shares how travel has changed the way she parents, why she's become a more relaxed mom over the years, and what different cultures have taught her about childhood, education, and community. Whether you're dreaming of worldschooling or simply looking for inspiration to parent more intentionally, this episode will leave you thinking differently about what family life can look like. Inside this episode: Why Elodie left the corporate world to build a life of more freedom and flexibility How parenting four kids has shifted her perspective over the years What different cultures can teach us about raising children How travel helps kids build confidence, resilience, and independence The surprising ways parenting support looks different around the world What inspired Elodie to create Boundless Life Rethinking school, learning, and what children really need to thrive The power of community, especially when you're far from home Why stepping outside your comfort zone can transform your family How to create a life that feels intentional, connected, and true to your values And so much more! Mentioned in this episode: Boundless Life Montessori Method If you enjoyed this episode, please rate 5⭐️ and write us a review! ⬇️ ✨For sleep support and resources, visit heysleepybaby.com and follow @heysleepybaby on Instagram! 😴☁️🤎✨ Rachael is a mom of 3, founder of Hey, Sleepy Baby, and the host of this podcast. Instagram | Tiktok | Website Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
June 25 · 40 min
Episode 102: How to Protect Your Kids Without Parenting From Fear with Holly Choi
In this episode, Rachael sits down with child safety educator and founder of Safe Beginnings, Holly Choi, to talk about one of the biggest challenges of parenting: keeping our kids safe without feeling like we have to bubble-wrap them. If you've ever worried about baby-proofing your home, questioned whether your car seat is installed correctly, wondered which safety recommendations actually matter, or felt overwhelmed by all the potential dangers parents are told to watch out for, this conversation is for you. Holly shares practical, evidence-based safety tips for babies and toddlers while helping parents understand the difference between healthy risk-taking and true hazards. This episode is equal parts educational, empowering, and reassuring and will leave you feeling more confident about creating a safer environment for your child. Inside this episode: The most common injuries babies and toddlers experience Understanding the difference between risks and hazards Hidden dangers many parents overlook in their homes The childproofing essentials every family should know How to think one step ahead when it comes to safety Common car seat mistakes parents make How to make sure your car seat is installed correctly Water safety basics every parent should know The importance of layers of protection around water Balancing safety with independence and exploration How to protect your child without parenting from fear And so much more! Mentioned in this episode: Safe Beginnings Instagram: @safebeginnings Child Passenger Safety Technicians (CPSTs) Water safety resources If you enjoyed this episode, please rate 5⭐️ and write us a review! ⬇️ ✨For sleep support and resources, visit heysleepybaby.com and follow @heysleepybaby on Instagram! 😴☁️🤎✨ Rachael is a mom of 3, founder of Hey, Sleepy Baby, and the host of this podcast. Instagram | Tiktok | Website Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
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June 18 · 47 min
Episode 101: Why Good Enough Parenting Is Enough with Eli Harwood
We're BACK for Season 2! In this kick-off episode, Rachael sits down with therapist, author, and attachment expert Eli Harwood (aka Attachment Nerd) to separate fact from fiction when it comes to attachment. If you've ever worried that one parenting decision could ruin your child's attachment, wondered if sleep training permanently damages connection, or felt pressure to parent perfectly, this conversation is for you. Eli shares what secure attachment actually looks like, why repair matters more than perfection, and how parents can break generational patterns without carrying shame for their own mistakes. This episode is equal parts reassuring, validating, and empowering and will leave you feeling a little lighter about the job you're doing. Inside this episode: What secure attachment really means (hint: it's not attachment parenting) The biggest myths parents believe about attachment Why "good enough" parenting is actually the goal The barriers that make connection feel harder in modern parenthood The truth about attachment and sleep How to repair after parenting mistakes and difficult moments Why boundaries and secure attachment go hand in hand Navigating parenting differences with your partner How self-awareness, forgiveness, and self-compassion shape the parent-child relationship Why your child doesn't need a perfect parent…they need YOU! & so much more! Mentioned in this episode: Eli's website: attachmentnerd.com Instagram: @attachmentnerd Book: How to Deal With Your Sht So Your Kids Don't Have To* If you enjoyed this episode, please rate 5⭐️ and write us a review! ⬇️ ✨For sleep support and resources, visit heysleepybaby.com and follow @heysleepybaby on Instagram! 😴☁️🤎✨ Rachael is a mom of 3, founder of Hey, Sleepy Baby, and the host of this podcast. Instagram | Tiktok | Website Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Oct 30, 2025 · 39 min
Rewind: In-Laws and Tricky Relationship Changes After Baby with Dr. Tracy Dalgleish ⁠⁠@drtracyd⁠⁠
Have you ever found yourself navigating a tricky situation with your in-laws? In this conversation, Rachael interviews Dr. Tracy, a psychologist and couples therapist, all about the topic of in-laws and how they can affect relationships with significant others. Dr. Tracy provides lots of tips for communication and speaking up in uncomfortable situations and how to handle challenging family dynamics with respect. Inside this episode: How in-law and family dynamics impact relationships How to set and enforce healthy boundaries with in-laws and parents The difference between requests vs. boundaries Navigating relationship challenges as new parents How to handle relationships with toxic family members and the option of going no contact Help finding ways to nurture the connection with your partner The power in trusting yourself and tuning out outside advice And so much more! Mentioned in this episode: Dr. Tracy’s website: ⁠https://www.drtracyd.com/⁠ Dr. Tracy’s podcast: ⁠I’m Not Your Shrink⁠ Dr. Tracy’s instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/drtracyd/?hl=en⁠ Dr. Tracy’s Book: ⁠I Didn’t Sign Up for This ⁠ If you enjoyed this episode, please rate 5⭐️ and write us a review! ⬇️ ✨For sleep support and resources, visit⁠ heysleepybaby.com⁠ and follow⁠ @heysleepybaby⁠ on Instagram! 😴☁️🤎✨ Rachael is a mom of 3, founder of⁠ Hey, Sleepy Baby⁠, and the host of this podcast. ⁠Instagram⁠ |⁠ Tiktok⁠ | ⁠ Website⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Oct 23, 2025 · 51 min
Rewind: Reimagining Boyhood with Ruth Whippman
What does it mean to raise boys in a world where masculinity feels impossible to get right? This week on No One Told Us, Rachael is joined by author and cultural critic Ruth Whippman to talk about her powerful new book, BoyMom: Reimagining Boyhood in the Age of Impossible Masculinity. We’re digging deep into the unspoken challenges of parenting boys today—gendered expectations that begin before birth, the emotional isolation of boys in our culture, and the ways that patriarchy harms everyone, not just women. Ruth brings a compassionate, sharp, and often funny lens to topics like toxic masculinity, feminism, screen time, school struggles, and why our young boys are struggling so much right now. Inside this episode….. Ruth’s own experience raising 3 boys as a feminist Unhelpful stereotypes like “boys will be boys” and how they harm our children Ruth’s opinion on Netflix’s show "Adolescence" and its portrayal of modern boyhood Why today’s world is a “perfect storm” for young boys and men to be radicalized How do we hold young men accountable without sending them into shame and shutdown? How patriarchy harms both men and women, and Ruth’s recommendations for both #boymoms and #boydads And what can we do—today—as parents, to change the story for our little boys? Plus so much more! This episode is for anyone raising boys, loving boys, or trying to understand them in a culture that so often gets masculinity wrong. 💙 Mentioned in this episode: Ruth’s Book: ⁠BoyMom: Reimagining Boyhood in the Age of Impossible Masculinity ⁠ Ruth’s Substack: ⁠I Blame Society ⁠ If you enjoyed this episode, please rate 5⭐️ and write us a review! ⬇️ ✨For sleep support and resources, visit⁠ heysleepybaby.com⁠ and follow⁠ @heysleepybaby⁠ on Instagram! 😴☁️🤎✨ Rachael is a mom of 3, founder of⁠ Hey, Sleepy Baby⁠, and the host of this podcast. ⁠Instagram⁠ |⁠ Tiktok⁠ | ⁠ Website⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Oct 16, 2025 · 42 min
Rewind: We Have Good Reason to Be Angry with Yara Heary
Did you feel totally unprepared for just how angry you might feel after becoming a mom? You’re not alone. In this episode, Rachael sits down with psychologist Yara Heary to unpack why anger shows up so often in early motherhood and why it’s not something to feel ashamed of. Together, they explore the identity shifts that happen postpartum, the strain on relationships, and the nervous system challenges that can leave us feeling triggered. Yara offers compassionate, practical tools to understand your anger, support yourself before it boils over, and move through motherhood with more ease and self-compassion. Inside this episode: Why anger is a normal and valid part of postpartum life How shifting identities and relationship changes fuel resentment The role of expectations in couples after a baby Tools to support your nervous system before anger escalates What to do when you feel triggered by your kids or partner Practicing self-compassion and connecting with your inner child How to assume the best of our children and others around us Mentioned in this episode: Fair Play by Eve Rodsky Follow Yara on Instagram Life After Birth with Yara Podcast If you enjoyed this episode, please rate 5⭐️ and write us a review! ⬇️ ✨For sleep support and resources, visit heysleepybaby.com and follow @heysleepybaby on Instagram! 😴☁️🤎✨ Rachael is a mom of 3, founder of Hey, Sleepy Baby, and the host of this podcast. Instagram | Tiktok | Website Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Oct 9, 2025 · 49 min
Rewind: How to Fight for Your Rights at Work with Daphne Delvaux
In this episode, Rachael sits down with attorney and women’s rights advocate Daphne Delvaux to uncover what every working parent needs to know about their rights in the workplace. Known as The Mamattorney, Daphne has built her career fighting for fair treatment, equal pay, and family-friendly policies and she’s here to share the essential tools you need to advocate for yourself at work. Together, they dive into pregnancy and postpartum protections, how to navigate discrimination, and why knowing your rights is one of the most empowering things you can do as a parent. Inside this episode: What to line up before and after announcing your pregnancy at work How and when to share your pregnancy with your employer Your legal rights around maternity leave, partner’s leave, and pumping accommodations How to handle discrimination, unfair treatment, or wrongful termination Negotiating family-friendly policies for better work-life balance Tips for easing the transition back after maternity leave Why knowledge is power when it comes to planning your family and your career And so much more! Mentioned in this episode: The Mamattorney Academy membership Employment Rights Guide If you enjoyed this episode, please rate 5⭐️ and write us a review! ⬇️ ✨For sleep support and resources, visit heysleepybaby.com and follow @heysleepybaby on Instagram! 😴☁️🤎✨ Rachael is a mom of 3, founder of Hey, Sleepy Baby, and the host of this podcast. Instagram | Tiktok | Website Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Oct 2, 2025 · 41 min
Rewind: Fostering a Secure Attachment with Michelle Charriere
Rachael chats with birth-to-five mental health specialist Michelle Charriere about what it really takes to build (and repair) a secure attachment with your child. They cover the four attachment styles, why repair matters more than perfection, and how to choose childcare that supports connection...plus real talk on daycare and sleep training without the internet drama. And because they couldn’t resist, they end with a little Bravo TV fun, including Michelle’s pick for the best Housewives franchise to start with and a round of “F**k, Marry, Kill” (Bravo edition). Inside this episode: The four attachment styles (and why secure is the goal) How repair builds trust after ruptures Choosing childcare that supports emotional connection Thoughts on daycare and sleep training What to look for in a caregiver Bravo TV picks and guilty pleasures Mentioned in this episode: @babiesandbrains Parenting Through Attachment Course Childcare & Preschool Guide New Sibling Guide If you enjoyed this episode, please rate 5⭐️ and write us a review! ⬇️ ✨For sleep support and resources, visit heysleepybaby.com and follow @heysleepybaby on Instagram! 😴☁️🤎✨ Rachael is a mom of 3, founder of Hey, Sleepy Baby, and the host of this podcast. Instagram | Tiktok | Website Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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