Hotter Than Ever

Erin Keating

Why are we so scared of change? The second half of your life can be happier, sexier and more fulfilled, but you may need to blow some stuff up. To find out how, we're bringing you interviews and frank, irreverent, inexpert advice on everything from career and aging to sex and body image in what used to be called "middle age." Laugh, get honest, break the rules and stop caring what other people think. Join us, and we can be hot together!

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Dec 14, 2023 · 54 min
How to Get Through Your Mid-Life Crisis with Lauren Zander
“I am impressed with the midlife crisis.” We’re thrilled to welcome Lauren Zander, CEO and founder of the Handel Group, back to Hotter Than Ever. As a life coach, whose coaching technique, the Handel Method, has been taught at MIT, Stanford Business School, and to the likes of CEOs and celebrities, Lauren is no stranger to helping her clients navigate through midlife crises. Yet when Lauren experienced a midlife crisis of her own, it rocked her to her core ways that she could have never anticipated. Join us for a candid and introspective conversation as Erin and Lauren share their personal midlife crisis journeys, what they learned in the aftermath, and how they rebuilt their lives and relationships into something more authentic and profound. We discuss: Breaking stereotypes and why midlife crises are sexy and liberating for women—not just men How the ending of their respective marriages ignited Lauren and Erin’s midlife transformations Reconstructing your identity after a long marriage Discerning true friendships and gaining clarity on what you need out of relationships Coming out on the other side of a midlife crisis—embracing self-honesty, listening to your body, and focusing on what’s most important Discovering the beauty in rebuilding a life, relationships, and aspirations with deeper significance and alignment OUR GUEST: Lauren Zander is the Founder and CEO of Handel Group®, a renowned life coaching company. She's the creator of The Handel Method®, taught in over 35 world-class institutions like MIT, NYU, and Stanford Graduate School of Business. Lauren is the creator of Inner.U: Learn to Human Better®, the online coaching course that teaches the entirety of The Handel Method. With two decades of coaching experience, Lauren has empowered countless clients, including top executives from companies like Vogue and AOL. She's also authored "Maybe It’s You," a practical guide to achieving your life goals. Lauren's expertise has been featured in The New York Times, Forbes, and more. Want more Lauren Zander? Find her coaching company online at https://www.handelgroup.com/ and follow her on: Instagram: @laurenzander_coach @inneru.coach Facebook: @laurenzander Want more Hotter Than Ever? Find us and episode transcripts online at www.hotterthaneverpod.com and sign up for our mailing list! Follow us on: Instagram: @hotterthaneverpod TikTok: @hotterthaneverpod Youtube: @hotterthaneverpod Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100090728330453 Follow Hotter Than Ever wherever you listen to podcasts so you never miss an episode! We’d love to hear what you think about the show - tell us what stories are resonating with you by writing us a review on Apple Podcasts. DM us on Instagram @hotterthaneverpod or call in to the Hotter Than Ever Hotline at (323) 844-2303. Mentioned in this episode: Broad Collective Learn more about Broad Collective and our membership network for midlife women entrepreneurs at broadcollective.com. Apply to join Broad Collective at https://broad-collective-co.mn.co/landing
Dec 7, 2023 · 43 min
Boldly Navigating Cancer, Caregiving and Career Change with Laura Stratte
When Laura Stratte was diagnosed with breast cancer at age 35, she didn't just fight it—it transformed her life’s path. Following nursing school, Laura became a superhero of sorts—a nurse navigator—guiding cancer warriors through the tangled mess of the healthcare system, from diagnosis to survivorship. Now in the world of health tech, she’s helping women own their menopause and master their health. In this episode, Erin sits down with Laura to discuss navigating health challenges that so many women find themselves in. This includes the complexities of cancer care, the need for improved support beyond medical treatment, and the impact of toxicities—financial and time-related—on patients and caregivers. Beyond healthcare, Laura sheds light on how she pivoted her career, and how you can too, no matter what life throws at you. Join us, as we discuss: How Laura's breast cancer diagnosis at 35 shaped her nursing career trajectory Why you should always ask for a nurse navigator if you’re diagnosed with cancer The importance of integrated care for cancer patients and beyond The financial and time toxicities of treating and managing cancer— it’s a full time job and requires better support systems How Laura blazed a career transition into health tech at 47 How Laura embraced her shaved head and found empowerment and freedom during her cancer journey OUR GUEST: Laura Stratte is a mother, wife, nurse, and 2x cancer survivor. Three years ago at the ripe old age of 47, Laura Stratte decided to leave the security of traditional healthcare as an oncology RN and enter the unpredictable and unknown-to-her world of startups and digital health at Elektra Health. Switching her speciality from breast cancer care to the overlapping field of menopause care, she continues to help women navigate major life changes. Want more Laura? Find her on: Instagram/Threads: @lstratte Elektra Health: @Elektrahealth FB: @LauraHoffmannStratte Twitter: @lstratte Want more Hotter Than Ever? Find us and episode transcripts online at www.hotterthaneverpod.com and sign up for our mailing list! Follow us on: Instagram: @hotterthaneverpod TikTok: @hotterthaneverpod Youtube: @hotterthaneverpod Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100090728330453 Follow Hotter Than Ever wherever you listen to podcasts so you never miss an episode! We’d love to hear what you think about the show - tell us what stories are resonating with you. DM us on Instagram and write us a review on Apple Podcasts! Mentioned in this episode: Broad Collective Learn more about Broad Collective and our membership network for midlife women entrepreneurs at broadcollective.com. Apply to join Broad Collective at https://broad-collective-co.mn.co/landing
Nov 30, 2023 · 1 hr 1 min
How Perfectionism Can Be Positive and Powerful with Katherine Morgan Schafler
“Can you assume that nothing is wrong with you?” Self-defined perfectionist, psychotherapist, writer, and former on-site therapist at Google, Katherine Morgan Schafler wants you to know that it’s ok to be a perfectionist. In her book "The Perfectionist's Guide to Losing Control, A Path to Peace and Power,” Katherine challenges the stigma surrounding perfectionism in our culture by defining both its healthy and unhealthy manifestations, exposes its harmful gender biases towards women, and advocates for redefining the call for “balance.” In conversation with host (and fellow perfectionist!) Erin, Katherine offers insights into perfectionism’s impact on relationships, work, and personal growth. Unveiling insights into navigating ambition, embracing fluidity, and prioritizing values aligned with current life seasons, they explore: Defining perfectionism and why it's not a flaw, but a facet of your unique brilliance The dynamic relationship between perfectionism and mental health How perfectionism became a gendered term for women and a hindrance to embracing ambition and power Redefining ‘balance’ —it's about internal well-being, not checking off tasks How to prioritize values that align most with the current season of your life Managing your energy vs. managing your time (read the Harvard Business Review article Katherine mentions HERE) Distinguishing between meaningful pursuits and the allure of immediate gratification OUR GUEST: Katherine Morgan Schafler, LMHC, is a psychotherapist, writer and speaker based in New York City. Formerly an on-site therapist at Google, she earned her degrees and training at UC Berkeley and Columbia University, with post-graduate certification from the Association for Spirituality and Psychotherapy. Want more Katherine? Find her online at https://www.katherinemorganschafler.com/ and follow her on Instagram @katherinemorganschafler Want more Hotter Than Ever? Find us and episode transcripts online at www.hotterthaneverpod.com and sign up for our mailing list! Follow us on: Instagram: @hotterthaneverpod TikTok: @hotterthaneverpod Youtube: @hotterthaneverpod Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100090728330453 Follow Hotter Than Ever wherever you listen to podcasts so you never miss an episode! We’d love to hear what you think about the show - tell us what stories are resonating with you. DM us on Instagram and write us a review on Apple Podcasts! Mentioned in this episode: Broad Collective Learn more about Broad Collective and our membership network for midlife women entrepreneurs at broadcollective.com. Apply to join Broad Collective at https://broad-collective-co.mn.co/landing
Nov 23, 2023 · 26 min
It’s Not Always Sunny: Navigating the 'Dips' with Grace and Gratitude
“This too shall pass.” Being human means understanding that challenging times, as tough as they may be, won’t last forever. It’s the highs and lows, the ebbs and flows that make up our everyday existence. But how do we work through those lows–or as Erin likes to call them, the ‘dips’? In this episode, we navigate the intricate terrain of managing the ‘dips’ – those moments when darkness creeps in and threatens our optimism and resilience. Whether it’s seasonal affective disorder, single parenthood, career demands, or the struggle with self-care and transitions, this episode is your reminder that life isn't always sunshine and roses–and that’s ok. Tune in for tips, tools, and wisdom from Erin’s personal experiences on how to maneuver these curves, including: Acknowledging that life isn't a constant upward trajectory; it's about embracing the blend of light and shadow that shapes our journey Understanding that challenging times will pass, support is there for you if you reach out, and that setting boundaries is self-care Find solace in gratitude by recognizing the blessings, small joys, and connections that anchor us in turbulent times Embracing vulnerability and recognizing that it's okay not to have everything figured out Want more Hotter Than Ever? Find us and episode transcripts online at www.hotterthaneverpod.com and sign up for our mailing list! Follow us on: Instagram: @hotterthaneverpod TikTok: @hotterthaneverpod Youtube: @hotterthaneverpod Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100090728330453 Follow Hotter Than Ever wherever you listen to podcasts so you never miss an episode! We’d love to hear what you think about the show - tell us what stories are resonating with you. DM us on Instagram and write us a review on Apple Podcasts! Mentioned in this episode: Broad Collective Learn more about Broad Collective and our membership network for midlife women entrepreneurs at broadcollective.com. Apply to join Broad Collective at https://broad-collective-co.mn.co/landing
Nov 16, 2023 · 46 min
Handle Your Money Trauma and Build Wealth like a Grownup with Veronica Grant
There’s nothing hotter than using your finances as the ultimate tool to build the life of your dreams. But how do we get there? On this week’s episode of Hotter Than Ever, we’re joined by Veronica Grant, a financial expert and host of the Run Your Money podcast. Veronica is not your typical financial guru; she's a certified financial wellness consultant who intertwines personal finance wisdom with coaching and a keen awareness of the social and economic systems affecting women's wealth. Join Erin and Veronica as they delve into Veronica’s personal money journey, the impact our relationships have on our finances, and practical tips for managing and growing your income, including: How starting to build wealth at a young age helped Veronica develop a money-savvy mindset she carried into adulthood How money trauma in childhood impacts adult financial behavior and what you can do to re-write these narratives Why comparing your cash flow to others’ can skew your financial reality Unpacking the intersection of politics and personal finance and how political decisions directly influence our financial well-being Why it’s important to start money conversations early on in relationships and how to continue to the conversation throughout a partnership or marriage Practical ways to increase income and financial strategies for being self-employed Finding the harmony between chasing financial success and being present in other aspects of your life OUR GUEST: Veronica Grant, a financial powerhouse with a unique story that defies the typical "money makeover" narrative, has always had a knack for financial savvy. She started her financial journey at 11 as a sought-after baby sitter and opened a 401k on day one of her first job. However, launching her own business in 2015 brought unexpected challenges, teaching her that managing money goes beyond budgets. Armed with degrees in International Studies and Social and Economic Justice, plus certification as a Financial Wellness Consultant, Veronica empowers women to overcome systemic barriers and claim the wealth they deserve. Want more Veronica? Find her online at https://www.veronicagrant.com/ and follow her on: Instagram: @veronicaegrant TikTok: @veronicaegrant Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/run-your-money-show/id1077479098 Want more Hotter Than Ever? Find us and episode transcripts online at www.hotterthaneverpod.com and sign up for our mailing list! Follow us on: Instagram: @hotterthaneverpod TikTok: @hotterthaneverpod Youtube: @hotterthaneverpod Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100090728330453 Follow Hotter Than Ever wherever you listen to podcasts so you never miss an episode! We’d love to hear what you think about the show - tell us what stories are resonating with you. DM us on Instagram and write us a review on Apple Podcasts! Mentioned in this episode: Broad Collective Learn more about Broad Collective and our membership network for midlife women entrepreneurs at broadcollective.com. Apply to join Broad Collective at https://broad-collective-co.mn.co/landing
Nov 9, 2023 · 44 min
Family Secret Bombshells and Choosing Self-Love with Carmen Rita Wong
Imagine discovering that the man you believed was your dad was not your biological father. What would that do to your sense of self and identity? Carmen Rita Wong lived that reality, and it sparked an electrifying journey of self-discovery that shares in her memoir, "Why Didn't You Tell Me?" Get ready for a rollercoaster of revelations as she uncovers her heritage and answers the age-old question: Who the hell am I? But Carmen's life isn't just about secrets and ancestry. It's a relentless journey of reinvention in both her personal and professional spheres. From multiple successful career pivots to navigating the complexities of family and parenting, Carmen's story is an inspiring tale of resilience and the audacity to be unapologetically herself. Join Erin and Carmen for a conversation that dives deep into self-discovery, family mysteries, smashing stereotypes, and a rebellious spirit in a world that insists on fitting into its tiny, boring boxes. Here's what’s on the table: Discovering the difference between who you are, who the world says you are, and who your parents tell you to be Carmen’s journey that followed learning about her father’s true identity The challenges Carmen faced as a Latina and Chinese woman in predominantly white environments Why 50 is a transformative and liberating age for women and helps us see what’s most important in life Carmen's magnetic career transitions, from magazine editor to advice columnist, to writer and more! Exploring parent-child relationships and the importance of letting your kids be their own unique selves Embracing change and redefining what family and relationships mean - it's a pathway to epic connections OUR GUEST: Carmen Rita Wong is a writer, producer, and non-profit board leader, including the boards of The Moth and the Planned Parenthood Federation of America. She is the former co-creator and television host of On the Money on CNBC and was a national advice columnist for Glamour, Latina, Essence, Men’s Health, and Good Housekeeping. Carmen is the author of a series of novels and two bestselling advice books, including her latest memoir "Why Didn't You Tell Me?". She is the founder and CEO of Malecon Productions, LLC, where she develops female-focused media and entertainment. Want more Carmen? Find her and her books online at https://www.carmenritawong.com/ and follow her on: Instagram: @carmenritawong Twitter: @CarmenSense Want more Hotter Than Ever? Find us online at www.hotterthaneverpod.com and sign up for our mailing list! Follow us on: Instagram: @hotterthaneverpod TikTok: @hotterthaneverpod Youtube: @hotterthaneverpod Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100090728330453 Follow Hotter Than Ever wherever you listen to podcasts so you never miss an episode! We’d love to hear what you think about the show - tell us what stories are resonating with you. DM us on Instagram and write us a review on Apple Podcasts! Mentioned in this episode: Broad Collective Learn more about Broad Collective and our membership network for midlife women entrepreneurs at broadcollective.com. Apply to join Broad Collective at https://broad-collective-co.mn.co/landing
Nov 2, 2023 · 37 min
Single Moms! Have a Sex Life! with Writer Rebecca Woolf
“I don’t believe in rules.” Rebecca Woolf is a rule-breaker: she doesn't believe in following society's cookie-cutter definitions of motherhood. In this unapologetic episode, she takes us on a journey through her life as a mother who fully embraces her sexuality and autonomy. Just like we say at the beginning of each episode, Rebecca has not only broken the rules in her own life, but also found her path to being freer, happier, sexier, and more self-expressed. Rebecca's path to this point is unconventional, and she's here to share every raw, honest, and sexy detail. With an award-winning personal blog, "Girl's Gone Child," her Substack “The Braid,” the column "Sex and the Single Mom" on Romper.com, and her memoir "All of This," Rebecca has shattered the rules and redefined what it means to be a single mom. In this episode, Erin and Rebecca dive headfirst into the intricate world of motherhood, sexuality, and self-expression. Together, they unpack: Why it feels scandalous to be a mom writing about sex in our culture and what we can do to challenge those beliefs What it means when someone tells you you're "more than just a mom" and how it robs us of thinking of moms as multifaceted humans. Navigating parenting as a single mom: being both mom and dad, and the complexities of bringing new partners into one’s life Why blended families shouldn't always be the goal - there are other options beyond falling back into conventional relationships The liberating power of creating a shame-free home OUR GUEST: Rebecca Woolf, a personal essayist since her teens, is renowned for her award-winning blog, "Girl’s Gone Child," and essays featured in Refinery29, LitHub, Entertainment Weekly, Huffington Post, and more. She writes the column "Sex & the Single Mom" on Romper.com and “ The Braid" newsletter on Substack. Her published works include "Rockabye: From Wild to Child" and the best-selling memoir "ALL OF THIS: a memoir of death and desire." Based in Los Angeles, she shares her life with her son and three daughters. Want more Rebecca? Find her and her writing online at https://rebeccawoolf.com/ and follow her on: Instagram: @rebeccawooolf Twitter: @GirlsGoneChild Want more Hotter Than Ever? Find us online at www.hotterthaneverpod.com and sign up for our mailing list! Follow us on: Instagram: @hotterthaneverpod TikTok: @hotterthaneverpod Youtube: @hotterthaneverpod Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100090728330453 Follow Hotter Than Ever wherever you listen to podcasts so you never miss an episode! We’d love to hear what you think about the show - tell us what stories are resonating with you. DM us on Instagram and write us a review on Apple Podcasts! Mentioned in this episode: Broad Collective Learn more about Broad Collective and our membership network for midlife women entrepreneurs at broadcollective.com. Apply to join Broad Collective at https://broad-collective-co.mn.co/landing
Oct 25, 2023 · 46 min
Loving Men while Dismantling the Patriarchy with Author Sonora Jha
What would you do if you weren’t afraid of failing? Dr. Sonora Jha., essayist, novelist, and professor of journalism at Seattle University, is the embodiment of this very question. From forsaking math and sciences growing up in Mumbai, to entering the male-dominiated field of journalism, to writing the memoir “How to Raise a Feminist Son'' and the novel “The Laughter” (which is told from a white male perspective), today’s guest has consistently defied societal expectations. True to her life story, Dr. Jha doesn't mince words. She fearlessly dives into charged topics like 'patriarchy,' 'white supremacy,' and 'the male gaze,' revealing how these forces influence both societal norms and our personal choices. Prepare for a fascinating, honest and insightful conversation that touches on love, feminism, identity, how we tell our own stories, and so much more, including: How discovering the freedom to fail allowed Dr. Jha to explore her passion for storytelling The challenges of working in a male-dominated field The harsh truths about the 'having it all' mythExploring the crossroads of white supremacy and colonization and their impact on education, culture, and our personal choices Dr. Jha’s journey writing from the white male perspective in "The Laughter" and how it became a vehicle for truth and self-expression as a brown woman The revelation that we're all unreliable narrators in our life stories and the complexities of human perception and storytelling The challenges of being a woman of color in a relationship with a conservative white man, exploring the intricate dance of love and politics Rediscovering the beauty in the institution of marriage and choosing love over fear in our daily lives and relationships OUR GUEST: Sonora Jha, PhD, is a renowned essayist, novelist, and journalism professor at Seattle University. She's the author of 'How to Raise a Feminist Son,' 'Foreign,' and 'The Laughter.' Sonora's op-eds and essays have graced publications like the New York Times and The Establishment. With an extensive background in journalism, she's taught writing at prestigious institutions like Hugo House and Hedgebrook Writers’ Retreat and serves on the boards of Hedgebrook Writers’ Retreat, Artist Trust, and Hugo House. Want more Dr. Jha? Find her and her books online at https://www.sonorajha.com/ and follow her on: Instagram: @sonorajha1 Facebook: @sonorajha Twitter: @ProfSonoraJha Want more Hotter Than Ever? Find us online at www.hotterthaneverpod.com and sign up for our mailing list! Follow us on: Instagram: @hotterthaneverpod TikTok: @hotterthaneverpod Youtube: @hotterthaneverpod Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100090728330453 Follow Hotter Than Ever wherever you listen to podcasts so you never miss an episode! We’d love to hear what you think about the show - tell us what stories are resonating with you. DM us on Instagram and write us a review on Apple Podcasts! Mentioned in this episode: Broad Collective Learn more about Broad Collective and our membership network for midlife women entrepreneurs at broadcollective.com. Apply to join Broad Collective at https://broad-collective-co.mn.co/landing
Oct 19, 2023 · 42 min
The Lies We Tell Ourselves That Keep Us Stuck with Life Coach Lauren Zander
“What do you think will happen first, world peace or the end of lying?” Lauren Zander, CEO and founder of The Handel Group, was a life coach long before being a life coach was a “thing”. Forget the clichés; Lauren's trademarked coaching technique, the Handel Method, isn't about hand-holding—it's about getting sh*t done. She's taught it at prestigious institutions like MIT and Stanford Business School and counts celebrities, CEOs, and entrepreneurs among her clients. In this episode, Lauren takes the wheel as your personal life coach to expose the truths we're afraid to confront. First stop: our culture, which, let's be real, thrives on lying. But Lauren's on a mission to change that. She'll lay out why we're all so prone to being “pleasey” (especially women!), the role behavioral epigenetics plays in our life choices, and how self-sacrifice leaves us high and dry. We also discuss: Lauren’s journey from being an environmental studies graduate to becoming a life-coaching guru Behavioral epigenetics and why knowing your family history is like holding the treasure map to your future Why we're trained to lie, and how it holds us back, making us feel like we're imposters Unmasking the origin of people-pleasing, the invisible puppeteer that hijacks our desires The concept of parallel relationships—you don't have to agree and overlap on everything Lauren dissects the three main voices in our heads: the chicken (fear), the brat (self-sabotage), and the weather reporter (judgment and commentary). Learn how to master these voices, drop the excuses, and step into authenticity Why doing what we know will get results feels like trying to move mountains and why big achievements aren't microwaveable The power of transparency and authenticity in coaching. Lauren believes in laying it all out, and she's got the results to prove it OUR GUEST: Lauren Zander is the Founder and CEO of Handel Group®, a renowned life coaching company. She's the creator of The Handel Method®, taught in over 35 world-class institutions like MIT, NYU, and Stanford Graduate School of Business. Lauren is the creator of Inner.U: Learn to Human Better®, the online coaching course that teaches the entirety of The Handel Method. With two decades of coaching experience, Lauren has empowered countless clients, including top executives from companies like Vogue and AOL. She's also authored "Maybe It’s You," a practical guide to achieving your life goals. Lauren's expertise has been featured in The New York Times, Forbes, and more. Want more Lauren Zander? Find her coaching company online at https://www.handelgroup.com/ and follow her on: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/laurenzander_coach/ https://www.instagram.com/inneru.coach/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/laurenzander Want more Hotter Than Ever? Find us online at www.hotterthaneverpod.com and sign up for our mailing list! Follow us on: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hotterthaneverpod/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@hotterthaneverpod Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UChwbEXbAVqoNYd_g5ok7VPg Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100090728330453 Follow Hotter Than Ever wherever you listen to podcasts so you never miss an episode! We’d love to hear what you think about the show - tell us what stories are resonating with you. DM us on Instagram and write us a review on Apple Podcasts! Mentioned in this episode: Broad Collective Learn more about Broad Collective and our membership network for midlife women entrepreneurs at broadcollective.com. Apply to join Broad Collective at https://broad-collective-co.mn.co/landing
Oct 12, 2023 · 31 min
Making Peace with Divorce and Opening Your Heart To Love
What if you dared to let go of the old to make room for the new? In today’s episode, Erin gets raw and vulnerable when reflecting on the seismic shifts in her life. From getting a divorce after 17 years of marriage, navigating the maze co-parenting, and the plot twist of finding an unexpected new love. If you've ever found yourself in the midst of a divorce, a crumbling relationship, or a job that sucks the soul out of you, Erin’s got a message: It’s ok to let it go. Erin’s story is a reminder that each time we let something go, we are given the gift to begin again and take control of our own destiny. Here’s your sign to embrace the beauty in life’s unpredictability and savor the freedom in new beginnings. Buckle-up as we discuss: Divorce Isn't a Dirty Word: It's okay to admit when a relationship has run its course. Divorce can be mutual, liberating, and the right decision for both parties Sharing Your Truth: Why Erin talks openly about her personal life on the podcast and a reminder that your story is yours to tell Co-Parenting After Divorce: How setting boundaries and maintaining respect can lead to a peaceful and functional arrangement for everyone involved Making Room for the Unexpected: Erin’s journey to falling in love again and why we shouldn’t be afraid to embrace the unexpected and let relationships evolve naturally Want more Hotter Than Ever? Find us online at www.hotterthaneverpod.com and sign up for our mailing list! Follow us on: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hotterthaneverpod/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@hotterthaneverpod Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UChwbEXbAVqoNYd_g5ok7VPg Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100090728330453 Follow Hotter Than Ever wherever you listen to podcasts - we’re on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, and more! That way you’ll never miss an episode. We’d love to hear what you think about the show, too - it helps us know what stories are resonating with you. DM us on Instagram and write us a review on Apple Podcasts! Mentioned in this episode: Broad Collective Learn more about Broad Collective and our membership network for midlife women entrepreneurs at broadcollective.com. Apply to join Broad Collective at https://broad-collective-co.mn.co/landing
Oct 5, 2023 · 1 hr 10 min
Manifesting Your Destiny like a Boss with Adult Film Star Lisa Ann
Lisa Ann is a name synonymous with adult film fame, but her journey goes far beyond the screen. She has also been a talent agent, written two books, and is now a radio host for fantasy sports, including the "Lisa Ann Does Fantasy Bettor" show on Youtube. Lisa's story is one of resilience, reinvention, and empowerment. Her ability to navigate two vastly different worlds and emerge as a strong, influential figure is a testament to her determination and unwavering commitment to personal growth. Join Erin as she delves deep into Lisa Ann's remarkable life story, from her early years as a teenager to her evolution from adult film stardom to becoming a respected voice in the world of sports radio and fantasy football, including the wisdom and life lessons she learned along the way. Get ready as we discuss: Lisa Ann's journey to achieve three essential goals: traveling the world, achieving financial independence, and making her own schedule Building a strong sense of self and learning to prioritize your own thoughts and values over others' opinions How Lisa’s time in the p*rn industry helped foster her sexual self-discovery and taught her the importance of connection and communication in sex Her unwavering advocacy for female empowerment and “interracial” representation within the adult entertainment industry. Insights into the changing landscape of adult content, from strict regulations in the '90s to the rise of aggressive and degrading material in today’s online world The complexities and risks of platforms like OnlyFans and the importance of online safety Lisa’s transition into the world of fantasy sports–a lesson in maximizing the opportunities you’re given by doing your homework and working hard OUR GUEST: Lisa Ann is an icon in the Adult Industry with over two decades of success. Her career spans from being the most searched adult star to feature dancing, producing, directing, and running a talent agency for adult performers. In 2014, Lisa Ann shocked the world with her retirement, driven by her newfound passion for SiriusXM Fantasy Sports Radio. She dominated the Fantasy Football scene, winning the SiriusXM Celebrity Host League in her debut year. Her retirement mantra was simple, "it’s time to get out of bed and put some clothes on!" Since her retirement, she has written two books, including her autobiography, "The Life," providing an unfiltered look into the world of an adult star. This marked the beginning of her love for writing and a world of opportunities. Want more Lisa Ann? Find her online at https://thereallisaann.social/ and follow her on: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thereallisaann/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheRealLisaAnn/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/thereallisaann TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thereallisaann Twitter: https://twitter.com/thereallisaann WATCH “Lisa Ann Does Fantasy Bettor” every Wednesday night 7-9pm (ET) at https://www.youtube.com/@bettornetwork LISTEN to “The Lisa Ann Experience” https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-lisa-ann-experience/id1525220847 Lisa Ann’s BOOKs are: “The Life”: https://thelifelisaann.com/products/the-life-by-lisa-ann “The Life Back”: https://thelifelisaann.com/products/the-life-back-hardcover Want more Hotter Than Ever? Find us online at www.hotterthaneverpod.com and sign up for our mailing list! Follow us on: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hotterthaneverpod/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@hotterthaneverpod Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UChwbEXbAVqoNYd_g5ok7VPg Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100090728330453 Follow Hotter Than Ever wherever you listen to podcasts - we’re on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, and more! That way you’ll never miss an episode. We’d love to hear what you think about the show, too - it helps us know what stories are resonating with you. DM us on Instagram and write us a review! Mentioned in this episode: Broad Collective Learn more about Broad Collective and our membership network for midlife women entrepreneurs at broadcollective.com. Apply to join Broad Collective at https://broad-collective-co.mn.co/landing
Sep 28, 2023 · 44 min
Using Improv to Get Unstuck and Silence Your Inner Critic (with Katie Goodman)
Can improv comedy be used as a tool to improve your life? Drawing from her wealth of experience teaching improv to groups from nuclear physicists to CEOs, award-winning comedian, author, and speaker Katie Goodman demonstrates how the principles of improv can help you live more creatively, spontaneously, and courageously. Whether it’s learning to navigate the unexpected, being present with what’s right in front of us, or silencing your inner critic, Katie’s contagious enthusiasm and practical wisdom prove that there’s so much more that can be gleaned from improv than just making you laugh. In this episode, Erin gets specific with Katie to extract those practical gems you can apply right now. Here's what's on the table: The 8 ways improv comedy can serve as a practical tool for dealing with the unexpected, effective communication, being present, and more! Learn more HERE How constraints can breed creativity Gagging your inner critic and replacing it with an inner coach to guide your towards your goals and avoid the negative self-talk Learning to embrace small changes and the thrill of ‘getting lost’ to uncover your authentic self Showing up as our authentic selves, in both our professional and personal lives. Find your niche and rock it. OUR GUEST: Katie Goodman is an acclaimed comedian, author, and speaker with a comedic career garnering 3+ million online views and TV appearances. She's the creator of "Broad Comedy," a national Off-Broadway touring show blending comedy and self-help, recognized by luminaries like Arianna Huffington, Comedy Central, and more. With a Philosophy degree from the University of Pennsylvania, Katie's diverse expertise led to her MacArthur Genius Grant nomination for theater work. With over two decades of experience, she's empowered 30,000+ individuals through improv comedy tools to enhance creativity, courage, and confidence. Beyond her New York City base, Katie travels nationwide, sharing her wisdom through speaking events, comedy shows, and corporate workshops, helping people thrive in handling life's challenges. She's also the author of "Improvisation For The Spirit," offering insights into leading a more creative, spontaneous, and courageous life using improv comedy techniques. Want more Katie? Find her online at https://www.katiegoodman.com/ and follow her on: IG: https://www.instagram.com/thekatiegoodman/ FB: https://www.facebook.com/KatieGoodmanComedy/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/KatieGoodman Want more Hotter Than Ever? Find us online at www.hotterthaneverpod.com and sign up for our mailing list! Follow us on: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hotterthaneverpod/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@hotterthaneverpod Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UChwbEXbAVqoNYd_g5ok7VPg Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100090728330453 Follow Hotter Than Ever wherever you listen to podcasts - we’re on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, and more! That way you’ll never miss an episode. We’d love to hear what you think about the show, too - it helps us know what stories are resonating with you. DM us on Instagram and write us a review! Mentioned in this episode: Broad Collective Learn more about Broad Collective and our membership network for midlife women entrepreneurs at broadcollective.com. Apply to join Broad Collective at https://broad-collective-co.mn.co/landing
Sep 21, 2023 · 27 min
Likeability and the Cost of Faking It
Why do we care so much about what others think of us? We've all been there, meticulously curating our lives to be oh-so likable. But guess what? It's time to shed that people-pleasing skin and unleash our unfiltered, unapologetic, and authentic selves. In this episode, Erin fearlessly tackles the age-old conundrum of whether you'd rather be liked by everyone (yawn) or adored by those who truly get you. In a culture that breeds chameleons, it’s time to start being the neon unicorn you were born to be. From middle school drama to navigating the corporate world, Erin shares laugh-out-loud anecdotes and hard-earned wisdom on why being your authentic self is not just liberating; it's downright magnetic. This includes: Getting honest: are you willing to settle for being liked by many but not truly known, or do you crave deep connections with those who genuinely understand you? Focusing on connecting with those who truly resonate with you, rather than the approval of the herd Why your job in life is to be the best version of yourself and share your unique gifts with the world How people-pleasing and faking happiness can limit your self-expression and personal growth Cultivating a positivity bias and how it can help you attract the right people and opportunities Want more Hotter Than Ever? Find us online at www.hotterthaneverpod.com and sign up for our mailing list! Follow us on: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hotterthaneverpod/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@hotterthaneverpod Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UChwbEXbAVqoNYd_g5ok7VPg Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100090728330453 Follow Hotter Than Ever wherever you listen to podcasts - we’re on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, and more! That way you’ll never miss an episode. Mentioned in this episode: Broad Collective Learn more about Broad Collective and our membership network for midlife women entrepreneurs at broadcollective.com. Apply to join Broad Collective at https://broad-collective-co.mn.co/landing
Sep 14, 2023 · 46 min
Can Your Body Reverse Menopause? Science and Hope with Dr. Anna Cabeca
When we say women over 40 are “Hotter Than Ever”, we mean it and so does Dr. Anna Cabeca. As a triple-board certified OBGYN, best selling author, and host of “The Girlfriend Doctor" podcast, Dr. Anna is on a mission to break the stigma that menopause means “it’s all downhill from here” and instead help women reclaim their vibrancy, sexuality, health, and happiness before, during, and after menopause. Through her multi-decade medical career and her own personal experiences, Dr. Anna has not only been able to successfully reverse her own early onset menopause and infertility, but help countless women thrive in this phase of life. It’s all part of what Dr. Anna refers to as getting in touch with your vitality during your “second spring” of life. Join Erin and Dr. Anna in this insightful conversation as they discuss the importance of holistic health and reclaiming your agency to enjoy a healthier and happy life in your second spring when confronting menopause. Other topics include: Discussing the gaps in women’s healthcare that Dr. Anna experienced first hand How discovering ancient healing practices, medicinal foods, and lifestyle shifts that reversed Dr. Anna’s early menopause diagnosis and enabled her to naturally conceive a child at 41 How a “food as medicine” approach and the mind-body connection play crucial roles in women's health and challenge conventional medicine Empowering oneself to take control of their health and address root causes rather than merely managing symptoms Debunking menopause myths and shedding light on perimenopause Bio-identical hormones and the potential for rejuvenation during menopause How removing stress, choosing positivity, and reconnecting with love and intimacy can help you become happier and healthier in menopause OUR GUEST: Anna Cabeca, DO, OBGYN, FACOG, is best selling author of The Hormone Fix and Keto-Green 16 and MenuPause . Dr. Anna is triple-board certified and a fellow of gynecology and obstetrics, integrative medicine, and anti-aging and regenerative medicine. She holds special certifications in functional medicine, sexual health, and bioidentical hormone replacement therapy. She lectures frequently on these topics throughout the world to large audiences and is known nationally as The Girlfriend Doctor and is host of The Girlfriend Doctor show. She has personally developed natural products to help women balance hormones and thrive through menopause including the highly acclaimed Julva® cream for the vulva and MightyMaca® Plus , a powerful superfood blend. She now lives in Dallas with her daughters, horses and dogs. Want more Dr. Anna? Find her and her products online at https://drannacabeca.com/ and follow her on: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thegirlfrienddoctor/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thegirlfrienddoctor/ YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCmWLoqXyvtSyylB7bjCipnA You can find her books at: The Hormone Fix https://drannacabeca.com/products/the-hormone-fix Keto-Green™ 16: https://drannacabeca.com/products/keto-green-16 MenuPause: https://drannacabeca.com/pages/f-menupause-sneak-peek-opt-in Want more Hotter Than Ever? Find us online at www.hotterthaneverpod.com and sign up for our mailing list! Follow us on: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hotterthaneverpod/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@hotterthaneverpod Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UChwbEXbAVqoNYd_g5ok7VPg Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100090728330453 Follow Hotter Than Ever wherever you listen to podcasts - we’re on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, and more! That way you’ll never miss an episode. We’d love to hear what you think about the show, too - it helps us know what stories are resonating with you. DM us on Instagram and write us a review! Mentioned in this episode: Broad Collective Learn more about Broad Collective and our membership network for midlife women entrepreneurs at broadcollective.com. Apply to join Broad Collective at https://broad-collective-co.mn.co/landing
Sep 7, 2023 · 1 hr 5 min
Finding Your Sexual Agency with Sex Therapist Dr. Juliana Hauser
“If you’re breathing, you’re sexual.” Dr. Juliana Hauser is on a mission to connect people with their essence – their truest self – through uncovering, demystifying, and reclaiming their unique sexuality. Through her work as a sex therapist and educator with countless clients, Dr. Juliana has demonstrated how showing up for yourself in the bedroom can help you show up for yourself in EVERY corner of your life. In this episode, Erin and Dr. Juliana strip away societal taboos, inviting you to explore the hidden depths of your desires and rediscover your sexual agency to lead a happier and more fulfilled life. Other topics include: Why sexuality is both a core expression of us and a core experience for us Defining “holistic sexuality” and how it encompasses sensuality, connection, love, intimacy, desire, and pleasure Sexual agency, and how it helps you better understand who you are and seek what you want in life, unapologetically Rediscovering your desires by breaking free from societal expectations How hearing “no’s” can help you better trust “yes’s” How to apply skills from your sex life into other parts of your life (and vice versa!) to create success and fulfillment Creating a sex plan and changing the discourse around sex What sexual fantasies can tell us about ourselves and why they shouldn’t be judged OUR GUEST: Dr. Juliana Hauser, is a licensed marriage and family therapist (LMFT), licensed professional counselor (LPC), and holds a PhD in Counseling Education. As a seasoned therapist and educator with a focus on sex positivity, she's authored sex-positive programs for Planned Parenthood, managed a halfway house, and worked with sexual abuse survivors and abusers. Her conversational therapy style has earned her the nickname 'you’re like my best girlfriend…with a PhD.' Join Dr. Hauser in her mission to spread holistic, non-intimidating sex positivity worldwide. Want more Dr. Juliana? Find her online at https://dr-juliana.com/ and follow her on: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drjulianahauser/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/drjulianamorris/ Want more Hotter Than Ever? Find us online at www.hotterthaneverpod.com and sign up for our mailing list! Follow us on: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hotterthaneverpod/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@hotterthaneverpod Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UChwbEXbAVqoNYd_g5ok7VPg Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100090728330453 Follow Hotter Than Ever wherever you listen to podcasts - we’re on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, and more! That way you’ll never miss an episode. We’d love to hear what you think about the show, too - it helps us know what stories are resonating with you. DM us on Instagram and write us a review! Mentioned in this episode: Broad Collective Learn more about Broad Collective and our membership network for midlife women entrepreneurs at broadcollective.com. Apply to join Broad Collective at https://broad-collective-co.mn.co/landing
Aug 31, 2023 · 22 min
The Universe, Spirituality, and Being Woo-Adjacent
Step into the mystical as we delve into the realm of the "Woo". Erin ponders the enigmatic world of modern spirituality, offering a fresh perspective on astrology, human design, crystals, manifestation, intention setting, mantras, altars, and the belief that everything happens for a reason. Basically, Erin sorts all the bullsh*t that can come with contemporary interpretations of these practices, so you don’t have to. And once the dust settles, it becomes clear the power these tools can hold in helping us show up as our best selves each day and in savoring the present. In this episode, Erin shares why after a long relationship with skepticism, she has since dubbed herself “Woo-Adjacent”, covering topics like: Embracing the Woo: How contemporary spirituality offers an alternative to conventional religion Astrology Alchemy: Erin’s secret horoscope obsession and how even the most rational minds can find solace and guidance in the stars Manifestation Magic: The power of intention setting and vision boards in shaping your dreams and desires into reality Mantras and Altars: Unearthing the significance of daily rituals and grounding practices that empower your journey toward authenticity Force vs. Flow: Shifting from a mindset of control and force to one of ease and trust in the universe's guidance Embracing the Unknown: Exploring the mysterious third path where life's surprises and opportunities unfold Want more Hotter Than Ever? Find us online at www.hotterthaneverpod.com and sign up for our mailing list! Follow us on: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hotterthaneverpod/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@hotterthaneverpod Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UChwbEXbAVqoNYd_g5ok7VPg Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100090728330453 Follow Hotter Than Ever wherever you listen to podcasts - we’re on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, and more! That way you’ll never miss an episode. We’d love to hear what you think about the show, too - it helps us know what stories are resonating with you. DM us on Instagram and write us a review! Mentioned in this episode: Broad Collective Learn more about Broad Collective and our membership network for midlife women entrepreneurs at broadcollective.com. Apply to join Broad Collective at https://broad-collective-co.mn.co/landing
Aug 24, 2023 · 49 min
Moms on Mushrooms Creator Tracey Tee on her Heart Opening Radical Reinvention
Magic mushrooms? Psychedelics? Microdosing? Drugs once considered countercultural are being reinvented as part of the plant medicine movement. As Tracey Tee, the founder of “Moms on Mushrooms” (M.O.M) explains, it’s perhaps the best ‘assistant’ you can find when it comes to your unique healing and personal growth. In a world overwhelmed by information and distractions, Tracy helps women forge a new path to reconnect with their hearts and true selves through the power of psychedelics. Whether you're a seasoned advocate or a curious skeptic, join Erin as she delves into this eye-opening conversation with Tracy, who takes us on a journey from the depths of COVID-induced despair to the transformative power of micro-dosing with magic mushrooms, including: Tracy’s journey, from co-creating "The Pump and Dump Show" for moms to her current role in the plant medicine movement What is micro-dosing and how does it differ from traditional therapies? Magic mushrooms’ role in mental wellness and personal growth Changing the approach to mental health to empower individuals to take charge of their healing journey. The cultural shift surrounding plant medicine and its potential to offer new perspectives on life, emotions, and inner peace. Importance of community, intention, and readiness for change in the context of personal growth. Exploring the skepticism about "woo”, while acknowledging its potential for healing and growth Challenging preconceptions and encourages self-compassion, exploring the transformative power of psychedelics. OUR GUEST: Tracey Tee, active in the momosphere for over a decade, co-created The Pump and Dump Show, starred in its nationally touring comedy, and co-produced the Band of Mothers Podcast. She's also the CEO of Band of Mothers Media. Inspired by her own psilocybin journey during the pandemic, in 2022, she launched M.O.M. (Moms on Mushrooms), an online microdosing course for moms. Tracey's mission is to unite mothers through plant medicine for personal growth and healing. M.O.M. has gained widespread recognition, featuring on NPR, Today Show, Piers Morgan, Rolling Stone, CBS Saturday Morning, PBS, Colorado Public Radio, NBC News, and Romper Magazine. Tracey resides in Denver, Colorado, with her husband of 21 years and their 12-year-old miracle daughter. She aims to create a conscious, Sacred Feminine-inspired model of doing business. Want more Tracey? Find her online at https://www.momsonmushrooms.com/ and follow her work on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/momsonmushroomsofficial/ Want more Hotter Than Ever? Find us online at www.hotterthaneverpod.com and sign up for our mailing list! Follow us on: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hotterthaneverpod/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@hotterthaneverpod Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UChwbEXbAVqoNYd_g5ok7VPg Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100090728330453 Follow Hotter Than Ever wherever you listen to podcasts - we’re on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, and more! That way you’ll never miss an episode. We’d love to hear what you think about the show - it helps us know what stories are resonating with you. DM us on Instagram and write us a review! Mentioned in this episode: Broad Collective Learn more about Broad Collective and our membership network for midlife women entrepreneurs at broadcollective.com. Apply to join Broad Collective at https://broad-collective-co.mn.co/landing
Aug 17, 2023 · 48 min
How to Be Brave-ish with Travel Expert Lisa Niver
Despite traveling to 102 countries and scuba-diving with shark countless times, writer and travel expert Lisa Niver wouldn’t call herself “brave”. She prefers “brave-ish”. As Lisa explains in her memoir Brave-ish: One Breakup, Six Continents and Feeling Fearless After Fifty, cultivating bravery is like planting seeds—it takes patience and practice to see it grow. Years later, the fruits of those seeds have led Lisa on an incredible journey of self-discovery, adventure, and transformation. In this captivating episode, Lisa reminds us that it’s never too late to live our own "Brave-ish" life, explore the world, and create the life we dream of. In addition, Erin and Lisa discuss: Lisa's transformation and liberation after getting divorced at 47 Her pursuit of 50 new adventures before turning 50 and the lessons she learned along the way The significance of self-care, rest, and reflection in achieving personal growth Redefining bravery as a muscle that grows through practice and facing fears The power of embracing change, stepping out of our comfort zones, and taking challenges head-on The importance of honest self-assessment, finding balance between adventure and community Crafting a unique, unconventional life path OUR GUEST: Lisa Niver, an award-winning travel expert, has explored 102 countries on six continents. A University of Pennsylvania graduate, she spent seven years sailing with cruise lines like Princess Cruises and Royal Caribbean, and three years backpacking across Asia. Her articles appear in esteemed publications like AARP and WIRED, and she hosts the podcast Make Your Own Map, featuring interviews with figures like Deepak Chopra and Olympic medalists. With multiple journalism awards and finalist recognition, Niver is also a #3 travel influencer in 2023. She shares her insights on KTLA TV, YouTube (2 million views), and in her memoir "Brave-ish, One Breakup, Six Continents and Feeling Fearless After Fifty." Want more Lisa? Find her online at http://wesaidgotravel.com/ and follow her on: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lisaniver TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@lisaniver Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lisa.niver Twitter: https://twitter.com/lisaniver YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@LisaNiver Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/wesaidgotravel/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lisaellenniver/ You can find her book at: https://lisaniver.com/braveish/ Want more Hotter Than Ever? Find us online at www.hotterthaneverpod.com and sign up for our mailing list! Follow us on: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hotterthaneverpod/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@hotterthaneverpod Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UChwbEXbAVqoNYd_g5ok7VPg Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100090728330453 Follow Hotter Than Ever wherever you listen to podcasts - we’re on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, and more! That way you’ll never miss an episode. We’d love to hear what you think about the show, too - it helps us know what stories are resonating with you. DM us on Instagram and write us a review! Mentioned in this episode: Broad Collective Learn more about Broad Collective and our membership network for midlife women entrepreneurs at broadcollective.com. Apply to join Broad Collective at https://broad-collective-co.mn.co/landing
Aug 10, 2023 · 54 min
Leaving a Life you Love to Save Yourself with Author Kelly McMasters
What do you do when you are faced with the choice between leaving a life you love or leaving yourself behind? These are the questions that essayist, professor, and mother Kelly McMasters explores in her memoir The Leaving Season, as she details her remarkable journey from being a sophisticated writer in New York City to a rural mom of two in Pennsylvania. It was in this transition that Kelly came to define her unique relationship to motherhood, find liberation in divorce, and discover the beauty that comes with choosing yourself and unapologetic happiness. Join us for a deeply emotional and powerful conversation, as Kelly and Erin explore themes of love, loss, transformation, motherhood, self-discovery, and freedom, including: Breaking free from a life that no longer allows you to be you Raw emotions of motherhood: when you don’t think of yourself as a “natural mother”; the freeing feeling of becoming a single mother after divorce The fantasy of marriage and how it masks the reality of what happens when relationships grow apart Complexities of divorce, finding critical distance, and softening anger from past relationships Reinvention as a mother and finding empowerment on your own terms Dating after divorce: creating a relationship in a way that works best for you and letting go of the fantasy What it means to no longer apologize for using your voice OUR GUEST: Kelly McMasters is an essayist, professor, mother, and former bookshop owner. She is the author of several books including her recent memoir-in-essays The Leaving Season, and co-editor of the ABA national bestseller Wanting: Women Writing About Desire (Catapult, 2023). Her essays, reviews, and articles have appeared in The New York Times, The Washington Post Magazine and The Paris Review. Kelly serves as an Associate Professor of English and Director of Publishing Studies at Hofstra University. Want more Kelly? Find her online at www.kellymcmasters.com and follow her on: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kelly_mc_masters/ Facebook: www.facebook.com/kelly.mcmasters.3 You can find her books at: The Leaving Season: A Memoir in Essays: https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/the-leaving-season-kelly-mcmasters/1142386744 Wanting: Women Writing About Desire: https://bookshop.org/p/books/wanting-women-writing-about-desire-margot-kahn/18576719?ean=9781646220113 Want more Hotter Than Ever? Find us online at www.hotterthaneverpod.com and sign up for our mailing list! Follow us on: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hotterthaneverpod/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@hotterthaneverpod Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UChwbEXbAVqoNYd_g5ok7VPg Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100090728330453 Follow Hotter Than Ever wherever you listen to podcasts - we’re on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, and more! That way you’ll never miss an episode. We’d love to hear what you think about the show, too - it helps us know what stories are resonating with you. DM us on Instagram and write us a review! Mentioned in this episode: Broad Collective Learn more about Broad Collective and our membership network for midlife women entrepreneurs at broadcollective.com. Apply to join Broad Collective at https://broad-collective-co.mn.co/landing
Jul 27, 2023 · 48 min
Dating Coach Bela Gandhi Helps You Avoid Dumpster Fire Relationships
What does it mean to find “the lid to your pot?” Bela Gandhi, founder of Smart Dating Academy, shares her journey from business school to unlocking her gift for igniting meaningful connections. From her work with countless clients, Bela delivers insights on love, attachment, and embracing the best version of ourselves on the journey to finding lasting happiness. Bela takes the reins as your love life's personal trainer in this transformational conversation with Erin. They delve deep into relationships, from the evolutionary roots of our romantic preferences, to the impact of family dynamics on dating patterns, and so much more, including: Unmasking the truth behind relationship failures Why someone “good on paper” is not always worth the paper it’s written on The fascinating role of DNA in our dating preferences, including the allure of tall men Understanding the difference between what we think we want vs. what we truly need for lasting love Discovering your "elevator people" and aligning happiness with potential partners Breaking free from destructive relationship cycles fueled by family of origin dynamics Debunking misconceptions about attraction and chemistry Why we’re acculturated to want the wrong things in a relationship Why Bela has her clients wait 15+ dates before exploring physical intimacy (WHAT?!) and the importance of standing in your emotional strength Redefining relationships as fundamentally contractual and knowing when to renegotiate those contracts OUR GUEST: Bela Gandhi is a born cupid with a gift for helping people find love. Her matchmaking journey began in college when she had a lightning bolt moment, predicting a perfect match for her roommate who eventually got married and had beautiful kids. While getting degrees in Finance and German and working in Mergers & Acquisitions, Bela's passion for matchmaking persisted. After her family business was acquired, she founded Smart Dating Academy in 2009, incorporating online dating into her proven process. Now, with a life she adores, a fantastic husband, and two amazing kids, Bela is dedicated to spreading love and helping others find their perfect match. Want more Bela? Find her online at http://www.smartdatingacademy.com/ and follow her on: Smart Dating Academy Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/smart-dating-academy-the-podcast/id1583496218?uo=4 YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCyIAVW4NhaLg7TbTJSVZlew Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/smartdatingacademy/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/BelaGandhiLove Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/smartdatingacademy Want more Hotter Than Ever? Find us online at www.hotterthaneverpod.com and sign up for our mailing list! Follow us on: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hotterthaneverpod/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@hotterthaneverpod Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UChwbEXbAVqoNYd_g5ok7VPg Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100090728330453 Mentioned in this episode: Broad Collective Learn more about Broad Collective and our membership network for midlife women entrepreneurs at broadcollective.com. Apply to join Broad Collective at https://broad-collective-co.mn.co/landing