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Hello Me, It's Me : Vulnerable AF

Nikki D Lovely

A Nikki D Lovely podcast that addresses raw & real revelations and conversations. Five years after writing the book, No F*** boys Allowed, and practicing celibacy Nikki moves from LA to La, dives into dating, and attempts to find herself again. She realizes that over the years she has never allowed herself to be vulnerable so this is her - being as open and honest as one can be for the first time. Join in, you might learn something about yourself during her process of self-discovery.

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  • 20 episodes
  • fortnightly
  • Avg 32 min
  • English
  • August 13 · 14 min

    The Brown Diaries Mother/Daughter Talk: So We’re Looking for Husbands Now?

    We were supposed to be recapping her first days at Brown Pre-College but somehow, we ended up discussing a boy and talking about my 15-year-old's HUSBAND list. 😂 So naturally, we had questions: Do you sit next to him? Make the first move? Play it cool? How do you show someone you’re interested without doing entirely too much? What started as a Brown recap turned into a whole conversation about crushes, chemistry, planting seeds, knowing what you want. Now let's see in the next 2 weeks whether Mama’s dating advice still holds up. Either way, apparently, we’re looking for husbands at Brown now. Enjoy!

  • July 18 · 23 min

    The Wealth Degree of Separation

    I posted a thread, " She Just Needed to Be Her Full Authentic Self, " about my daughter not feeling like herself at an Ivy League school. The story that reached so many people wasn't where this journey began. It was where one very long day ended. The conversation you're about to hear was recorded earlier that day, before my daughter called asking if she could spend the night with me. At the time, I knew she was processing a difficult classroom discussion. What I didn't realize was just how deeply it had affected her. In this episode, we talk about what it feels like to be one of the few students in the room whose understanding of poverty comes from lived experience instead of observation. We discuss privilege, public health policy, belonging, and the emotional weight of walking into spaces where you sometimes wonder if you have to leave pieces of yourself behind just to fit in. This conversation isn't about criticizing one school or one classroom. It's about asking a much bigger question: How do we create policies for people if we've never truly understood the lives they're living? I hope you'll listen with an open heart. And if this conversation resonates with you, I'd love for you to leave a comment. I'd especially love to hear from those of you who have ever walked into a room and questioned whether you belonged there. Your stories matter too. Thank you for being here. — Nikki

  • July 3 · 22 min

    What My Teenage Daughter Wants Parents to Understand

    In this episode of Hello Me, It's Me, I'm joined by my youngest daughter, Amiyah, for one of our most honest conversations yet. Together, we dive into what it's really like growing up in today's teen culture from the pressure to jump into relationships quickly, to how social media has changed the way teenagers view love, sex, commitment, and self-worth. We talk openly about why so many young people lose themselves in relationships before they've had the chance to discover who they are, how confidence changes the choices we make, and what healthy love should actually feel like. This isn't a lecture. It's a real conversation between a mother and her teen daughter about the questions many families are already facing but often aren't talking about. Whether you're raising a teenager, navigating dating yourself, or simply trying to understand the world young people are growing up in today, this conversation offers perspective, honesty, and plenty to think about. In this episode we discuss: • Why teens often rush into relationships • The pressure created by social media and online dating culture • Teenage sex culture and changing expectations • Building self-worth before building a relationship • What healthy love actually looks like • Why you should never lose yourself trying to keep someone else The walk away? Healthy love doesn't ask you to become less of yourself; it gives you more freedom to become who you already are. If this episode resonates with you, share it with another parent or a teenager who needs to hear this conversation.

  • June 26 · 23 min

    Letting Go of your "Adult" Children...

    In this episode, Nikki shares her personal journey of letting go as a parent, navigating her daughter's independence, and managing her own emotions. She offers insights into love, trust, and the importance of letting go of control to foster growth and peace. Key topics The importance of letting go for personal peace Understanding and supporting your child's independence Managing fears and emotional triggers as a parent The role of trust and faith in parenting Balancing love and boundaries in adult relationships Takeaways Letting go is not about cutting off emotionally, but about trusting your child. Parents often project their fears; recognizing this helps in letting go. Supporting your child's independence involves setting boundaries and offering love. Releasing control can lead to peace and healthier relationships. Trust that you have prepared your child for adulthood.

  • June 18 · 18 min

    Trusting Yourself Through the Transition

    Life doesn't always go according to plan. In this episode, Nikki shares what it's been like navigating major life changes as a single mom, from unexpected setbacks to starting over in ways she never anticipated. She talks about resilience, self-trust, and the lessons that come from rebuilding when the path ahead isn't clear. If you're in a season of transition, uncertainty, or reinvention, this conversation is a reminder that growth isn't always loud and sometimes the most important progress happens when nobody else can see it. ❤️ key topics Life transitions and personal growth Managing change as a single parent The importance of self-belief and resilience Healing from past experiences and moving forward Takeaways Plans can change, but growth is always possible. Facing fears and embracing change leads to empowerment. Self-belief and confidence are crucial during transitions. Healing and self-awareness enable better handling of life's challenges.

  • June 11 · 14 min

    I've Been Quiet & That's OK: The Importance of Silence & Rebuilding

    I've been quiet, but that is ok. I'm in a rebuilding season right now where I am figuring things out, letting go of what no longer fits, and learning to trust myself in the middle of the unknown. In this episode, I share what I've learned about navigating uncertainty, regulating emotions, and finding peace during the quiet seasons of life. If you're in the middle of a reset too, this episode is for you. ❤️ Key topics The importance of quiet seasons in rebuilding Financial independence and stability Emotional regulation and self-trust during transitions Takeaways Rebuilding often requires quiet seasons and emotional regulation. It's okay to not have everything figured out and to take time for yourself. Trust in your ability to rebuild and trust the process.

  • January 28 · 26 min

    Learning to Ask for What You Want

    In this episode, Nikki explores the importance of vulnerability and the necessity of asking for what you want, particularly in the context of parenting. She shares personal experiences emphasizing the need to break free from societal conditioning that discourages assertiveness, especially in women. The conversation encourages listeners to practice asking for their needs and desires, highlighting the emotional and psychological benefits of doing so. Join us!

  • January 13 · 47 min

    When Healing Brings You Home : Moving Back in with Parents

    What happens when healing brings you back to the place that shaped you? In this episode of Hello Me, It’s Me, Vulnerable AF, Nikki D. Lovely sits down with Nicole to talk about what it really means to return home during a season of rebuilding. Together, they explore vulnerability, healing in real time, and the complicated emotions that surface when you’re navigating family dynamics, cultural expectations, and generational trauma, all under one roof. This conversation isn’t about having it all figured out. It’s about learning to set boundaries, advocate for yourself, and choose rest in a world that rewards burnout. Nikki and Nicole reflect on the lessons this season has taught them and why healing doesn’t erase triggers, it changes how you meet them. At its heart, this episode asks an honest question: How do you keep growing when healing leads you back home?

  • January 6 · 16 min

    The Cost of Independence in Modern Dating

    In this episode, Nikki discusses the complexities of independence for women, particularly in the context of dating and relationships. She reflects on her personal experiences and the societal pressures that influence women's choices. The conversation explores the emotional toll of being independent, the challenges of dating in today's economy, and the importance of knowing one's values and not settling for less in relationships. Nikki emphasizes the need for support and partnership while navigating these challenges, encouraging listeners to ask the right questions and prioritize their emotional well-being.

  • Dec 30, 2025 · 21 min

    The Version of Me I’m Not Taking Into 2026

    Healing doesn’t mean you stop getting triggered. It means you stop abandoning yourself when it happens. This episode is a year-end reflection on what we’re leaving in 2025 and what we’re intentionally carrying into 2026. We’re talking about healed reactions versus old patterns, emotional awareness, and how growth shows up when life still life’s. Healing is about recognizing, taking responsibility, and choosing differently than you have in the past. The question we begin with and leave you with is simple but honest: What are you leaving behind in 2025, and changing about yourself into the new year?

  • Dec 24, 2025 · 24 min

    From Pride to Peace: Just Keep Going

    In this episode, Nikki shares her journey of temporarily moving back in with her parents, reflecting on personal growth, family dynamics, and the challenges of managing debt. She discusses the importance of healing, forgiveness, and the lessons learned about pride and peace, while also emphasizing the need for self-reflection while navigating life's challenges. Join us if you know the feeling!

  • Aug 31, 2025 · 16 min

    Packing Up & Letting Go (with Gratitude)

    In this episode, Nikki shares her personal struggles with moving, self-compassion, and the emotional challenges that arise during transitions. She reflects on her past decisions, the importance of giving oneself grace, and the lessons learned from her experiences. The conversation emphasizes the need for self-reflection, understanding emotions, and the journey of personal growth.

  • Jul 13, 2025 · 1 hr 15 min

    Attachment Styles: From Avoidance to Authenticity

    Join us as we discuss the journey from avoidant and anxious attachment styles to achieving a secure and healthy mindset. My guest, Nicole Yvette, shares her experiences with social media detox, the impact of algorithms on self-perception, and the importance of self-reflection and therapy. Together, we unpack the challenges of dating, why I needed 5 years of celibacy, the significance of vulnerability, and the power of healing. If you're suffering from emotional unavailability, this is an insightful conversation you won't want to miss.

  • Jun 9, 2025 · 1 hr

    When Friendships Shift & So Do You

    In this soul-stirring conversation, Nikki and ShebaSpeaksVolumes unpack the quiet heartbreak of transactional friendships, the ache of abandonment, and the power of choosing yourself. They reflect on how friendships evolve, how self-worth shifts with healing, and why it's okay to outgrow what no longer fits. This episode is a tender reminder: don’t just show up for others, show up for you, too.

  • May 10, 2025 · 37 min

    When Life Doesn’t Go as Planned?

    Nikki shares her journey of navigating life's unexpected turns, managing expectations, and the importance of healing and self-discovery. She emphasizes that it's never too late to pursue new dreams and encourages listeners to relinquish old expectations while setting new goals. Through her reflections, she highlights the significance of self-awareness, the healing process, and the power of resilience in overcoming life's challenges.

  • Apr 30, 2025 · 39 min

    Single Parenting & Navigating The Sacrifices We Make...

    Are you a single parent? This week, Nikki reflects on her journey as a single mother, balancing her dreams and aspirations. The conversation delves into the importance of being present, financial struggles, and the significance of breaking generational cycles through therapy and open communication. Ultimately, Nikki emphasizes the value of embracing the journey of motherhood and self-discovery, encouraging listeners to prioritize presence over perfection in their parenting.

  • Apr 2, 2025 · 41 min

    Single, Celibate & Dating

    In this episode, Nikki and Nickole discuss the complexities of dating as single parents, mainly focusing on celibacy and abstinence. They explore personal experiences, the importance of vetting partners, and the cultural pressures surrounding relationships. They explore the themes of celibacy, dating, and self-discovery, recognizing red flags in dating and the necessity of healing from past relationships. Join Us as we highlight the emotional complexities involved in dating and the transformative power of self-reflection and intentional healing.

  • Mar 7, 2025 · 37 min

    The Secret to Emotional Intelligence & How to Gain It

    In this episode, we explore vulnerability, emotional intelligence, and personal growth. Nikki shares her journey of becoming more emotionally in tune, discussing the importance of self-awareness, empathy, and setting boundaries in relationships with an emphasis on healing from past traumas and the impact of celibacy on her dating experiences. If you'd like to improve your emotional intelligence and engage in self-reflection for healthier relationships, this podcast is for you!.

  • Feb 18, 2025 · 57 min

    Navigating Dating As a Single Mom

    In this engaging conversation, Nickole Evette and Nikki discuss the complexities of dating as single mothers. They explore the shifting priorities that come with age, the challenges of online dating, and the importance of empathy and shared experiences in relationships. The discussion also delves into attachment styles, the impact of past traumas on current dating experiences, and the necessity of effective communication in navigating conflicts ultimately, emphasizing the importance of self-love and healing for successful dating and relationships.

  • Feb 7, 2025 · 34 min

    Love Bombed: Why We Fall for Love Bombers and How to Break the Cycle

    Love Bombed or Love Bomber? This week, Nikki explores the concept of love bombing, sharing personal experiences and insights on how to recognize and deal with it. This week we discuss the dynamics of love bombing, the psychological reasons behind it, and the importance of setting boundaries in relationships. We also address the need for self-awareness and reflection, therapy and attachment styles awareness to avoid falling victim to love bombing in the future.

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