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Growing with Sol

Marisol Moran

Life's little lessons with a big impact.

Welcome to Growing with Sol, where we explore the moments and stories that shape who we're becoming. I'm Marisol, and I love having conversations about growth, self-discovery, and learning to put yourself first.

Whether we're diving into books that change our perspective or unpacking personal experiences that teach us something new, this podcast is for women who are done playing small and ready to embrace their own journey.

If you've struggled with putting everyone else first or battled self-doubt, you're in the right place. This isn't about perfection—it's about the messy, beautiful process of growing into yourself.

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Let's stay connected! Join our growing community @YourCoachMari and @GrowingWithSolPod on Instagram, and catch me on TikTok @YourCoachMari for bite-sized growth tips between episodes.

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#176
Yesterday · 17 min
The Value of Boredom for Your Creativity and What It Means to Me
Boredom feels like a luxury I can't afford anymore. I'm busy, and constantly reaching for my phone the second I feel even slightly bored. But here's what I've learned: boredom is actually essential for creativity, stress relief, and mental health. Our phones have rewired us to escape boredom instead of experiencing it, and it's affecting our ability to think, create, and rest. Why boredom matters right now: Boredom allows your mind to wander and create (showers, mindless activities, that's where ideas come from) Phone escaping is actually making you more anxious and depressed (doomscrolling doesn't help, it hurts) You can practice boredom again without a full digital detox (meditation, reading, waiting without your phone) Boredom used to be something I experienced all the time as a kid. Now I actively avoid it. My generation grew up with enough boredom to know how to handle it, but now I need to relearn that skill. We're all reaching for our phones constantly, and it's stopping us from the creativity and mental clarity that comes from just sitting with our thoughts. Subscribe. Share. Remember that your phone is a tool, not a requirement. Small steps, big healing. Keep growing! ✨ Join the conversation! Do you find yourself reaching for your phone whenever you're bored? DM me on Instagram @YourCoachMari! 💬 LET'S CONNECT: Instagram | TikTok | Growing with Sol Podcast Buy Me a Cafecito Mari's Book List: https://bookshop.org/shop/Marisol-Book-List 🌱 LET’S GROW TOGETHER: Schedule your discovery call 👓 Research referenced: ‣ Potential Benefits of Boredom ‣ Boost your brain with boredom ‣ 5 Benefits of Boredom
#175
September 3 · 20 min
Four Nonfiction Books I'm Actually Reading
Nonfiction audiobooks are my strategy for learning when traditional reading feels like a struggle. I'm out of my reading slump and ready to learn about investing, feminism, economics, and tech through four books that are calling to me. All of these have changed how I think about women, money, and society. What's drawing me to these books right now: Financial independence is a feminist issue (investing means women can have freedom and agency) Retirement is personal (as a millennial without a pension, I need to understand my future) Everything connects to economics (feminism, attraction, democracy, even tech fascism all tie back to economic systems) The four nonfiction books I'm reading are: "Friends That Invest" by Simran Kaur, "How to Be a Rich Old Lady" by Amanda Holden, "Why Women Have Better Sex Under Socialism" by Kristen R. Ghodsee, and "The Nerd Reich" by Gil Duran All are also audiobooks because that's how I actually finish nonfiction. Subscribe. Share. Remember that learning through nonfiction is an investment in yourself. Small steps, big healing. Keep growing! ✨ Join the conversation! What nonfiction audiobooks are you reading? DM me on Instagram @YourCoachMari! 💬 LET'S CONNECT: Instagram | TikTok | Growing with Sol Podcast Buy Me a Cafecito Mari's Book List: https://bookshop.org/shop/Marisol-Book-List 🌱 LET’S GROW TOGETHER: Schedule your discovery call
#174
August 27 · 14 min
4 Books For a Cozy Girl Fall: My Must-Read Recommendations This Autumn
Reading slumps happen, especially when life gets chaotic and burnout creeps in. But the thing is, reading makes me feel alive. So finding cozy fall books is my strategy to break out of the slump and fall back in love with reading during the season I love most. These four books are exactly what I need right now: low stakes, autumn vibes, romance, and the kind of stories that heal. What I'm looking for in cozy fall reads: Low stakes stories that don't demand emotional labor (give me bookshops, tea shops, tea, dragons, magic without the heavy plot trauma) A little bit of romance mixed with cozy vibes (the kind that makes you feel safe while still feeling butterflies) Stories about understanding and connection (whether it's goblins and halflings bridging cultural gaps or vampires finding love) The four books I'm reading this fall are "Can't Spell Treason Without Tea" by Rebecca Thorne, "My Vampire Plus One" by Jenna Levine, "They Love Me Not" by Winnie Aster, and "How to Lose a Goblin in 10 Days" by Jessie Sylva. Some are cozy fantasy, some are romance with low stakes. All of them are exactly what my nervous system needs right now. Subscribe. Share. Remember that fun is part of a healthy lifestyle. Small steps, big healing. Keep growing! ✨ Join the conversation! What are you reading this fall? DM me on Instagram @YourCoachMari! 💬 LET'S CONNECT: Instagram | TikTok | Growing with Sol Podcast Buy Me a Cafecito Mari's Book List: https://bookshop.org/shop/Marisol-Book-List 🌱 LET’S GROW TOGETHER: Schedule your discovery call 📚 Books mentioned: Can't Spell Treason Without Tea: Rebecca Thorne My Vampire Plus-One: Jenna Levine They Love Me Not: Winnie Aster How to Lose a Goblin in 10 Days: Jessie Sylva (All linked in the show notes with affiliate links)
#173
August 22 · 12 min
You're Not Shy, They're Not Your People and That's Okay
You're not shy and they're not your people. This is about understanding that not vibing with certain people doesn't mean something is wrong with you. It means you've found people who don't match your energy or compatibility, and that's completely okay. Acceptance here is powerful. Three things about finding your people: Shy is a label, not who you are (kids are honest, not shy, about who their people are) Energy compatibility matters more than commonality (demanding vs welcoming interaction types are different) Accepting they're not your people brings peace (stop trying to force friendships that don't work) Growing up I was labeled shy for being honest about who my people were. I spent years trying to figure out what was wrong with me when I didn't vibe with certain people. The truth is simpler. Some people are your people. Some aren't. And that's not a character flaw in either direction. As an introvert, my segment of people who are my people might be smaller, but that doesn't make it worse. It just makes it real. Subscribe. Share. Remember that not everyone is supposed to be your people. Small steps, big healing. Keep growing! ✨ Join the conversation! Have you experienced the "they're not my people" moment? DM me on Instagram @YourCoachMari! 💬 LET'S CONNECT: Instagram | TikTok | Growing with Sol Podcast Buy Me a Cafecito Mari's Book List: https://bookshop.org/shop/Marisol-Book-List 🌱 LET’S GROW TOGETHER: Schedule your discovery call
#172
August 13 · 18 min
What It Really Means To Be a Quiet Person: The Science and Lived Experience
Being quiet isn't a character flaw or something that needs fixing. It's about how your brain is wired to process stimulation and manage energy. Understanding introversion means understanding that quiet people aren't antisocial or shy, we're just selective with our energy and the people we engage with. Three things that define being quiet: Energy management is everything (introversion is an energetic style, not a personality flaw) Selectivity with people and activities matters (it's about how your brain handles stimulation) Your brain chemistry is different (dopamine vs acetylcholine means you need different things to feel good) From childhood until I understood what introversion actually was, I thought something was wrong with me. But learning that Carl Jung defined introversion in the 1920s and understanding the science behind it changed how I see myself. My quiet nature isn't a flaw to fix. It's just how my brain works. Subscribe. Share. Remember that quiet doesn't mean boring or broken. Small steps, big healing. Keep growing! ✨ Join the conversation! Which introvert trait do you most relate to? DM me on Instagram @YourCoachMari! 💬 LET'S CONNECT: Instagram | TikTok | Growing with Sol Podcast Buy Me a Cafecito Mari's Book List: https://bookshop.org/shop/Marisol-Book-List 🌱 LET’S GROW TOGETHER: Schedule your discovery call 👓 Articles: Introverts and Extroverts: The Brain Chemistry Behind Their Differences What Makes Someone an Introvert: Definition, Personality Traits, and Self-Care Tips
#171
August 6 · 13 min
There Was Nothing Wrong With Me: Being Introverted Isn't a Character Flaw
Being introverted isn't a character flaw or a weakness that needs fixing. It's part of who you are. I spent years believing my quiet nature was something wrong with me, something I needed to change. But accepting my introversion became the foundation of real confidence and self-acceptance. Three things I learned: Your introversion doesn't make you broken (accepting yourself is the first step to confidence) Confidence has nothing to do with being extroverted (quiet confidence is real confidence) You can learn social skills without changing who you fundamentally are (both can coexist) From childhood pressure to be more outgoing to forcing myself into activities I didn't want, I learned that trying to change your fundamental nature is exhausting. It doesn't work. The moment I stopped fighting my quiet nature and started honoring it, everything changed. Subscribe. Share. Remember that there's nothing wrong with being an introvert. Small steps, big healing. Keep growing! ✨ Join the conversation! Are you an introvert on a similar journey to acceptance? DM me on Instagram @YourCoachMari! 💬 LET'S CONNECT: Instagram | TikTok | Growing with Sol Podcast Buy Me a Cafecito Mari's Book List: https://bookshop.org/shop/Marisol-Book-List 🌱 LET’S GROW TOGETHER: Schedule your discovery call
#170
July 30 · 14 min
Solo Dating Survival Guide for the Anxious Girlie
How to solo date when you have social anxiety. Everyone's watching you. Everyone's judging. But the truth is far less dramatic, and building confidence happens through small, sustainable steps, not forcing yourself into discomfort. Solo dating is how you build your own life and prove to yourself you're capable. Three key strategies: People aren't thinking about you at all (they're thinking about themselves) Work with your anxiety, not against it (force creates burnout) Take small steps outside your comfort zone (incrementally build tolerance) Solo dating saved my life because it taught me I don't need anyone else to do things I love. I became my own companion. I stopped waiting for someone to be available. I started living. That confidence shift changed everything. Subscribe. Share. Remember that you don't need permission from anyone to live your life. Small steps, big healing. Keep growing! ✨ Join the conversation! What's one thing you want to do solo? DM me on Instagram @YourCoachMari! 💬 LET'S CONNECT: Instagram | TikTok | Growing with Sol Podcast Buy Me a Cafecito Mari's Book List: https://bookshop.org/shop/Marisol-Book-List 🌱 LET’S GROW TOGETHER: Schedule your discovery call
#169
July 23 · 20 min
The Most Impactful Books I've Read in 2026 (And Why I Can't Stop Thinking About Them)
Three books changed how I see the world in 2026. Even though I'm behind on my reading goal, these specific books stuck with me and taught me things I never learned before. Reading recommendations that matter and why these stories need to be heard. Three impactful books: The Undocumented Americans by Karla Cornejo Villavicencio - hidden stories of invisible communities Everything is Tuberculosis by John Green - how everything connects to systems and history A Magical Girl Retires by Park Seolyeon - depression and recognition in the pages What they taught me: History I never learned in school. Systems I couldn't see before. Myself reflected on the page. These books showed me perspectives that matter and stories that need hearing. Subscribe. Share. Remember that books show us what we need to see. Small steps, big healing. Keep growing! ✨ Join the conversation! What book changed how you see the world? DM me on Instagram @YourCoachMari! 💬 LET'S CONNECT: Instagram | TikTok | Growing with Sol Podcast Buy Me a Cafecito Mari's Book List: https://bookshop.org/shop/Marisol-Book-List 🌱 LET’S GROW TOGETHER: Schedule your discovery call
#168
July 16 · 10 min
How to Center Yourself and Actually Achieve Your Goals This Year
It's July and your goals have derailed. Instead of pushing harder, sink into yourself and ask three questions that will show you exactly what's wrong. Centering yourself is the key to achieving goals that actually align with who you are. Three questions to recalibrate: Why do you want this goal? (Check your connection and investment) How will you feel when you achieve it? (Remember the emotional payoff) Is the process enjoyable? (Sunk cost fallacy check and making it better) Goals are tied to your self-perception, confidence, and self-esteem. When you sink into yourself, you ensure you're working toward something that actually matters. Make the process enjoyable with micro goals, progress tracking, and self-compassion instead of negative self-talk. Subscribe. Share. Remember that your goals should serve you, not the other way around. Small steps, big healing. Keep growing! ✨ Join the conversation! What's one goal you need to recalibrate? DM me on Instagram @YourCoachMari! 💬 LET'S CONNECT: Instagram | TikTok | Growing with Sol Podcast Buy Me a Cafecito Mari's Book List: https://bookshop.org/shop/Marisol-Book-List 🌱 LET’S GROW TOGETHER: Schedule your discovery call
#167
July 9 · 13 min
Healing Books That Changed My Life: A Reading Journey Through Recovery
Books became essential to my healing journey from trauma, depression, and emotional abuse. Three specific books guided me through understanding what happened, building unbreakable boundaries, and reconnecting with the parts of myself I'd lost. Three healing books: "Whole Again" by Jackson MacKenzie validates your experience and teaches self-forgiveness "Boundaries After a Pathological Relationship" by Adelyn Birch is short, direct, essential ACOTAR by Sarah J. Maas helped me reconnect with my love of reading and myself My coach gave me assigned reading as part of my healing work. These books became homework, validation, strategy, and eventually, joy. Reading for healing isn't just about information. It's about seeing yourself in the pages and knowing you're not alone. Reconnecting with reading was reconnecting with who I was before the trauma. Old Marisol loved reading. That got lost. Getting it back was getting myself back. Subscribe. Share. Remember that healing has many forms and sometimes it comes through the pages of a book. Small steps, big healing. Keep growing! ✨ Join the conversation! What book has helped you heal? DM me on Instagram @YourCoachMari! 📚 Books mentioned: Whole Again: Jackson MacKenzie Boundaries After a Pathological Relationship: Adelyn Birch ACOTAR (A Court of Thorns and Roses): Sarah J. Maas 💬 LET'S CONNECT: Instagram | TikTok | Growing with Sol Podcast Buy Me a Cafecito Mari's Book List: https://bookshop.org/shop/Marisol-Book-List 🌱 LET’S GROW TOGETHER: Schedule your discovery call
#166
July 4 · 13 min
Mid-Year Check-in: What I'm Keeping, What I'm Changing, What I'm Letting Go Of
Mid-year check-in on my two main goals for 2026 and where I stand at six months. Instead of setting goals in every area of my life, I narrowed focus to financial freedom by paying off credit card debt and getting back into shape. This approach is working better than years of overachieving and doing too much. Two goals and real progress: Credit card debt: Started with $12,500, now paying $1,400 monthly, adjusted strategy in May when progress felt too slow Fitness: Lost 5 pounds, increased muscle definition in legs and glutes through lifting and cardio, struggling with nutrition consistency Why two goals work: Less overwhelming, more achievable, better for accountability than setting ten goals I struggled with emotional eating while healing from depression and CPTSD. The deeper I healed, the more emotions surfaced, leading me to emotionally eat through the recovery process. Now working on consistency with nutrition while maintaining a healthy food relationship. Subscribe. Share. Remember that focusing on two goals creates better outcomes than trying to achieve ten at once. Small steps, big healing. Keep growing! ✨ Join the conversation! What are your one or two goals for 2026? DM me on Instagram @YourCoachMari! 💬 LET'S CONNECT: Instagram | TikTok | Growing with Sol Podcast Buy Me a Cafecito Mari's Book List: https://bookshop.org/shop/Marisol-Book-List 🌱 LET’S GROW TOGETHER: Schedule your discovery call
#165
June 25 · 9 min
6 Life Lessons I Wish I Knew at 26 About Self-Esteem, Friendship, and Love
Six life lessons about self-esteem, friendship, and toxic relationships I wish I'd known at 26. Self-acceptance and radical acceptance are the foundation for real confidence. Your flaws are not a moral failing and you deserve to celebrate your achievements. Six lessons across three categories: Self-esteem and confidence: Your flaws are not a moral failing, celebrate your achievements Friendship lessons: Deep friendships require intentionality, friends are your village Love life lessons: If your creativity dies because of him, leave him, one hard conversation shouldn't end a relationship I learned these lessons through mistakes, painful friendships that faded, and a toxic relationship that took my creativity. Looking back, I wish I'd known my flaws didn't define me and that I deserved to celebrate my wins. Subscribe. Share. Remember that the lessons you learn the hard way are worth sharing so others don't have to wait 10 years to understand them. Small steps, big healing. Keep growing! ✨ Join the conversation! What's a life lesson you wish you'd known sooner? DM me on Instagram @YourCoachMari! 💬 LET'S CONNECT: Instagram | TikTok | Growing with Sol Podcast Buy Me a Cafecito Mari's Book List: https://bookshop.org/shop/Marisol-Book-List 🌱 LET’S GROW TOGETHER: Schedule your discovery call
#165
June 18 · 37 min
Poetry as Medicine: A Conversation With Poet Leisly Roman about her Latest Collection
Poetry and mental health intersect beautifully in this conversation with award-winning poet Leisly Roman about her seasonal poetry collection that guides intentional living and personal growth. Her latest book "All That a Season Can Carry (In Me)" is organized by seasons to help readers explore the emotional landscapes of winter, spring, summer, and fall while understanding how their inner world connects to nature. What we cover: How seasons guide self-reflection, healing, and intentional living throughout the year Winter as an opportunity for peace and quiet self-reflection instead of just depression and darkness Moving intentionally through seasons instead of carrying the same goals and guilt all year long About Our Guest: Leisly Roman is an award-winning Dominican American poet and mental health advocate from New York City. Her debut bilingual collection "Living in Phases" explores mental health journey with honesty. Her latest work uses poetry to help readers connect their emotional experiences to nature's rhythms and find healing through self-reflection. The book shows that each season offers different emotional and spiritual opportunities. Winter brings rest and self-discovery. Spring brings growth. Summer brings action. Fall brings completion. When you move intentionally through seasons, you let go of what each season teaches before carrying it into the next. Subscribe. Share. Remember that your inner world connects to the world around you and moving intentionally through seasons helps you let go of weight you've been carrying all year. Small steps, big healing. Keep growing! ✨ Join the conversation! Which season are you in emotionally right now? DM me on Instagram! 📖 Get Leisly's Books: Living in Phases All That a Season Can Carry (In Me) 💌 Follow Leisly: Instagram Website & Links 💬 LET'S CONNECT: Instagram | TikTok | Growing with Sol Podcast Buy Me a Cafecito Mari's Book List: https://bookshop.org/shop/Marisol-Book-List 🌱 LET’S GROW TOGETHER: Schedule your discovery call
#163
June 11 · 17 min
Breaking the Generational Curse: People Pleasing and Family Patterns
People pleasing in parenting is costing your children their self-worth, emotional regulation, and healthy boundaries. Kids learn through observation, so if you're a people pleaser, your children are picking up those same behaviors and internalizing them as normal. This is how generational trauma works and how the cycle continues unless you heal it. How people pleasing affects your children: Kids learn interpersonal skills through observation and copy your people pleasing behavior You normalize overextending yourself and putting everyone else's needs first constantly Toxic family members stay around because you can't set boundaries, exposing kids to potential harm People pleasing parents struggle with consistent discipline and handling conflict, making parenting inconsistent. This becomes generational trauma that your children inherit. In my Growing Pains, I recognize how my parents' people pleasing affected me. Now as an adult healing, I understand this is a generational curse I want to break with my future kids. Subscribe. Share. Remember that your healing is your children's healing and breaking the generational curse starts with you doing the work. Small steps, big healing. Keep growing! ✨ Join the conversation! How has people pleasing shown up in your family? DM me on Instagram. 💬 LET'S CONNECT: Instagram | TikTok | Growing with Sol Podcast Buy Me a Cafecito We might just have the same taste in books Check out my Book List (Bookshop affiliate) 🌱 LET’S GROW TOGETHER: Schedule your discovery call
#162
June 4 · 19 min
People Pleasing at Work: How It Ruins Your Salary, Raises, and Career Growth
People pleasing in your career is costing you money, promotions, and career growth. If people pleasing is ruining your love life, chances are it's also ruining your finances. People pleasers take on more work for free, can't say no, avoid negotiating, and don't assert themselves for opportunities like promotions or raises. How people pleasing shows up in your career: Taking on more work for free and to the detriment of your own projects Unable to say no so you're always the last to leave, missing deadlines on your own tasks Taking blame for things that aren't your fault, damaging your professional reputation This directly impacts promotions, raises, and how much money you make. Good leaders are authentic but people pleasers can't be authentic so they stay stuck. Money impacts everything: healthcare access, where you live, what food you buy, your overall quality of life. Subscribe. Share. Remember that healing people pleasing requires recognizing how it's affecting your career and finances, and taking small steps to assert yourself. Small steps, big healing. Keep growing! ✨ Join the conversation! What's one thing you said yes to at work that you wish you'd said no to? DM me on Instagram! 💬 LET'S CONNECT: Instagram | TikTok | Growing with Sol Podcast Buy Me a Cafecito We might just have the same taste in books Check out my Book List (Bookshop affiliate) 🌱 LET’S GROW TOGETHER: Schedule your discovery call
#161
May 28 · 19 min
People Pleasing in Your Love Life: How It's Sabotaging Your Relationships
People pleasing in your love life is ruining your relationships, whether you're dating or in a committed partnership. If people pleasing has been ruining your life, I guarantee it's affecting your love life too. I've both experienced and witnessed how people pleasing leads down a path of feeling unloved and unfulfilled relationships. In the dating stage, people pleasers ask the wrong questions: Does he like me instead of do I like him, are they right for me You accept low and minimal effort because low self-worth has you feeling undeserving Minor red flags and small transgressions become the foundation of disrespect later I was a people pleaser with low self-worth and ended up in an emotionally abusive relationship. It led to years of depression and CPTSD. But healing is possible. I'm now a healed people pleaser in healthy relationships. Subscribe. Share. Remember that healing people pleasing is possible and you deserve to be truly loved and cherished. Small steps, big healing. Keep growing! ✨ Join the conversation! What red flag did you ignore early that you wish you hadn't? DM me on Instagram! 💬 LET'S CONNECT: Instagram | TikTok | Growing with Sol Podcast Buy Me a Cafecito We might just have the same taste in books Check out my Book List (Bookshop affiliate) 🌱 LET’S GROW TOGETHER: Schedule your discovery call
#160
May 21 · 25 min
Stories that Shape Us: What A Magical Girl Retires Teaches About Radical Self-Acceptance and Choosing Yourself
In this Stories That Shape Us episode, I'm breaking down A Magical Girl Retires by Park Seolyeon, a book about depression, hope, and stepping into your power when you least expect it. The unnamed protagonist is 29, depressed, drowning in debt. As a 35-year-old American with three degrees, hard relate. She's saved from attempting suicide by a clairvoyant magical girl and discovers she might be the one who saves the world. 🚨 Major spoiler alert for A Magical Girl Retires and trigger warning for attempted suicide. What this book teaches about hope and transformation: By the mere act of trying, there is hope—persistence shows something worth living for You dare to hope then boom disappointment—that quick switch to "yeah that makes sense" From suicidal self-doubt to saving the world, then choosing yourself by retiring The story shows that for those of us struggling with depression and mental health challenges, we can't deny how much hope we still have. The mere fact that you keep moving forward shows there's still a kernel of self-love, love for your dog, friends, family, something beautiful enough to keep going. Even if it doesn't feel good. Subscribe. Share. Remember that finding hope in unexpected places and choosing yourself, even after achieving something amazing, is radical self-acceptance. Small steps, big healing. Keep growing! ✨ Join the conversation! What book unexpectedly taught you about hope? DM me on Instagram @YourCoachMari! 🎧 Related episode: Embracing the Dichotomy: How to Hold Space for All of Yourself 💬 LET'S CONNECT: Instagram | TikTok | Growing with Sol Podcast Buy Me a Cafecito We might just have the same taste in books Check out my Book List (Bookshop affiliate) 🌱 LET’S GROW TOGETHER: Schedule your discovery call
#159
May 14 · 17 min
Embracing the Dichotomy: Holding Space for All of Yourself (Even the Parts That Don't Make Sense)
Do you ever struggle with loving yourself at the beginning of your healing journey when you're not a finished product? That constant feeling of not being good enough, not worthy, not deserving, even of things you've worked for. One day you feel confident like "Yeah, one step at a time, let's go." The next day you feel so low: "Is this even for me? Maybe I'm not meant to get better." The highs and lows of healing and transformation: Happens at beginning stages when you want change but haven't gotten there yet Affects your mood, mental space, and progress creating a vicious cycle High achievers attach self-worth to achievement—slow progress triggers self-hatred I also talk about being a writer. It feels like a "was" even though it's an "is." I lost my creativity in a toxic relationship and it took years to heal it back. Now I get frustrated with myself for not writing "enough", even though I recognize my life is busier and I need more sleep now than I did before. Subscribe. Share. Remember that radical self-acceptance means you can have love for yourself now while you are at the beginning of your journey. Small steps, big healing. Keep growing! ✨ Join the conversation! How do you practice self-acceptance during transformation? DM me on Instagram @YourCoachMari! 💬 LET'S CONNECT: Instagram | TikTok | Growing with Sol Podcast Buy Me a Cafecito We might just have the same taste in books Check out my Book List (Bookshop affiliate) 🌱 LET’S GROW TOGETHER: Schedule your discovery call
#158
May 7 · 11 min
Soft Life vs. Hustle Culture: Who Actually Gets to Opt Out?
You want the soft life. You're tired of hustling. I texted my friend this morning: "Girl, I wish I had one job that paid for everything." But who actually gets to have a soft life? And is it even possible for most of us right now? What we're unpacking about soft life vs hustle culture: Trad wife isn't soft life, it's unpaid labor unless you're wealthy enough to hire help for everything Who gets to opt out, successful influencers can slow down, but most of us are working multiple jobs just to make ends meet Economic reality check, gas prices, living expenses increasing, gig work most accessible, we're hustling just to afford life Influencers are finally being honest that there's no such thing as work-life balance. Sometimes work demands everything, sometimes life does. You can't have a perfect 50/50 pie chart. And for most of us right now? Not having a soft life is just a fact of life. But that doesn't mean you can't work toward it, financial baseline, knowing your security number, recalibrating how you hustle. Subscribe. Share. Remember that hustling to make ends meet isn't something to be ashamed of. Small steps, big healing. Keep growing! ✨ Join the conversation! Are you in your hustling era or have you found your soft life? DM me on Instagram @YourCoachMari! 💬 LET'S CONNECT: Instagram | TikTok | Growing with Sol Podcast Buy Me a Cafecito We might just have the same taste in books Check out my Book List (Bookshop affiliate) 🌱 LET’S GROW TOGETHER: Schedule your discovery call
#157
April 30 · 22 min
Single, Centered, and Whole: Decentering Men in 2026
Life becomes a waiting game. Waiting for texts, commitment, apologies, explanations. Always from someone who isn't really interested in getting back to you. So what does decentering men actually mean, and how do you do it without giving up on wanting love? What decentering men really is: Men stop being the reference point for what you do, look like, where you go, what you tolerate, and prioritize Not outsourcing your worth to male attention or treating relationships as your main source of life success Not shrinking yourself to keep someone else comfortable I also talk about why this feels louder now. Emotional burnout from being the project manager of connection. Information everywhere, we're comparing notes in real time and can't be gaslit as easily. Economic reality where relationships add stress instead of support. And what you actually reclaim: time, money, body autonomy, ambition, deeper friendships, and peace. Single isn't a consolation prize, it's your home base. Subscribe. Share. Remember that you're not behind for being single, not incomplete, and not waiting for life to start. Small steps, big healing. Keep growing! ✨ Join the conversation! What are you reclaiming by decentering men? DM me on Instagram @YourCoachMari! 💬 LET'S CONNECT: Instagram | TikTok | Growing with Sol Podcast Buy Me a Cafecito We might just have the same taste in books Check out my Book List (Bookshop affiliate) 🌱 LET’S GROW TOGETHER: Schedule your discovery call

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