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Embracing HER

Nathalie Nimah

Most of us learned that love has to be earned, so we over-function, keep the peace and swallow what we need. Embracing Her is about changing that, starting with your relationship to yourself.

Whether you’re dating with an anxious heart, stuck in the same fight with your partner, or tired of carrying the relationship alone, I'll help you understand what’s driving your patterns and build the skills to respond differently.

I'm a certified love and relationship coach who has guided hundreds of women into relationships where they feel safe, seen and met.

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Wednesday · 52 min
#119: How to Work on Explosive Anger in Moments of Conflict!
If you go from zero to volcano in conflict, and then drown in shame afterwards, this one’s for you. I’m sharing my own story of going boom in my relationship, why years of self-abandonment so often end in explosion, how anger becomes armour around something more tender, why our partners can’t be the ones to hold our uncontained anger, and practical ways to build the space between feeling anger and acting it out. 💛 ⁠Come to relationship school with me in RESOURCED WOMAN - Get on the waitlist & snatch a discount!⁠ ✨ ⁠⁠Want personalised support? Apply for private coaching HERE.⁠⁠ DM me on ⁠⁠INSTAGRAM⁠⁠ ⁠Check out my on-demand courses & masterclasses HERE ⁠
October 21 · 32 min
#118: Drowning in Empathy? How to Reclaim Suppressed Anger!
In this episode, I’m talking about why reclaiming your anger is one of the most important things you can do for your relationships. We cover what anger actually is, why it hides under freeze and shame, why big cathartic rage rituals don’t create lasting change, and a simple practice to slowly build your capacity to feel it. 💛 ⁠Come to relationship school with me in RESOURCED WOMAN - Get on the waitlist & snatch a discount!⁠ ✨ ⁠⁠Want personalised support? Apply for private coaching HERE.⁠⁠ DM me on ⁠⁠INSTAGRAM⁠⁠ Check out my on-demand courses & masterclasses HERE
October 14 · 39 min
#117: "How Do I Get Him to Do His Work?" (Why That Question Keeps You Stuck)
In this episode, I'm answering the question I get asked more than almost any other, and sharing why the question itself might be what's keeping you stuck. We talk about over-functioning, why no amount of your work can make up for his, and what changed in my own relationship when I finally stopped carrying it all. ✨ ⁠⁠Ready to do that deeper work of your own? Apply for private coaching HERE.⁠⁠ DM me on ⁠⁠INSTAGRAM⁠⁠ Check out other FREE resources ⁠⁠HERE⁠
October 7 · 54 min
#116: Resentment in Relationships Is a Doorway to Your Power!
Resentment doesn't come out of nowhere. It's a messenger. When we keep ignoring it, it gets louder, until one day we wake up ten years into a relationship and can't stand our partner anymore. In this episode I share what working through resentment in my own relationship has taught me, and why I now see resentment as a doorway back to my power. In this episode: Why the anger behind resentment makes sense, and what it's pointing to Why powerlessness sits at the core of resentment Where you may have given your power away, and how to start seeing your choices again (even the ones you don't like) Why resentment can linger even after he changes How to become your own source of validation by being with your raw pain, not the story ✨ ⁠⁠Want personalised support with your resentment? Apply for private coaching HERE.⁠⁠ DM me on ⁠⁠INSTAGRAM⁠⁠ Check out other FREE resources ⁠⁠HERE⁠
September 30 · 30 min
#115: Why "Heal & You'll Attract The Right Guy" Might Be Keeping You Stuck
"If you keep attracting emotionally unavailable, passive or non-committal men, you're just not healed enough." This idea sells like hotcakes in the self-development space, and in this episode we'll take that idea apart. We talk about why the idea is so seductive, what it costs you, and a different way to measure your growth. ✨ ⁠⁠Want personalised support? Apply for private coaching HERE.⁠⁠ DM me on ⁠⁠INSTAGRAM⁠⁠
September 23 · 1 hr
#114: Making It Work With A Dismissive Avoidant Man
You're with a dismissive avoidant man and you want to make it work, but your needs aren't being met, conflict isn't being resolved, and there just isn't enough closeness. In this episode we cover: The shame wound behind his withdrawal and defensiveness Why you can't do his growth for him The one boundary that has to come first Being realistic about how long his change will take The part nobody wants to hear: your own work This isn't about fixing him. It's about becoming a woman who can have a healthy relationship, with him or with the next man.
September 9 · 39 min
#113: Listen to This When You Feel Stuck in Your Relationship!
If you've been communicating your needs, trying everything you know, and still feel like nothing changes, this episode is for you. I'll unpack why the moments your partner can't meet you aren't a dead end, they're your growth edge. ✨ ⁠⁠Want personalised support? Apply for private coaching HERE.⁠⁠ DM me on ⁠⁠INSTAGRAM⁠⁠ Check out other FREE resources ⁠⁠HERE⁠
September 4 · 39 min
#112: Why You Keep Choosing Someone Who Isn't Choosing You Fully
Why does letting go of someone who won't fully choose us feel harder than staying? In this episode, I unpack why we cling to half-chosen connections and the addictive pull of potential and breadcrumbs, and the deeper belief that not being chosen means we weren't enough. 🌹 Join us in EMPOWERED DATING HERE🌹 ✨ ⁠⁠Want personalised support? Apply for private coaching HERE.⁠⁠ DM me on ⁠⁠INSTAGRAM⁠⁠ Check out other FREE resources ⁠⁠HERE⁠
August 26 · 40 min
#111: "How do I find a secure partner if I'm still anxious in dating?"
In this Dear Nath episode, I'll answer a question I get so often: if my picker is off because of attachment trauma, how do you actually find someone secure? I'll breaks down what anxious attachment looks like in dating, and the real bar to aim for: Not "become secure," but heal enough to catch your own impulses and respond differently. 🌹Join us in EMPOWERED DATING! ✨ ⁠⁠Want personalised support? Apply for private coaching HERE.⁠⁠ DM me on ⁠⁠INSTAGRAM⁠⁠ Check out other FREE resources ⁠⁠HERE⁠
August 20 · 40 min
#110: Dating From Self-Worth
This week, as we gear up for the next round of Empowered Dating, we're talking about what it actually looks like to date from self-worth instead of from a need to be chosen 🌹Join us in EMPOWERED DATING! ✨ ⁠⁠Want personalised support? Apply for private coaching HERE.⁠⁠ DM me on ⁠⁠INSTAGRAM⁠⁠ Check out other FREE resources ⁠⁠HERE⁠
August 12 · 38 min
#109: "How Do I Stay Hopeful After So Much Disappointment in Dating?"
In this Dear Nath Q&A episode, we'll look into how we can support ourselves through the inevitable disappointments of dating! We cover facing the grief instead of bypassing it, redefining what "success" in dating actually means, and learning to spot the patterns your attachment system keeps replaying. Because dating isn't just about finding the right person, it's training ground for becoming the kind of woman (and partner) you actually want to be. ⁠🌹Join us in EMPOWERED DATING ✨ ⁠⁠Want personalised support? Apply for private coaching HERE.⁠⁠ DM me on ⁠⁠INSTAGRAM⁠⁠ Check out other FREE resources ⁠⁠HERE⁠
August 6 · 38 min
#108: How to Spot Passive Men In Dating Early
Most high-functioning women were taught that love is earned through effort which sets us up to choose men we end up mothering instead of partnering with. In this episode we dive into the early red flags of under-functioning men, why knowing these flags isn't enough and why the passivity that shows up 6 months (or 6 years) into a relationship often started as a whisper you talked yourself out of hearing. ⁠⁠🌹Join us in EMPOWERED DATING⁠ ✨ ⁠⁠Want personalised support? Apply for private coaching HERE.⁠⁠ DM me on ⁠⁠INSTAGRAM⁠⁠ Check out other FREE resources ⁠⁠HERE⁠
July 29 · 32 min
#107: "I Always Bring Things Up, He Never Feels Like Anything Is Enough" - How to Work With This Dynamic
You're exhausted from being the one who starts every hard conversation. They're exhausted from feeling like nothing they do ever lands. And the more you push, the more they pull back and the more they pull back, the more you panic. Sound familiar? In this episode we break down one of the most common and draining relationship dynamics there is and why it's not actually a communication problem at its core. It's a nervous system problem. We get into what's really happening for each person when these conversations heat up, why both responses make complete sense, and most importantly what each partner can practically do to break the cycle and make the other feel safe enough to actually meet them. This is a great one to listen to together. 💛 ⁠Come to relationship school with me in RESOURCED WOMAN - Get on the waitlist & snatch a discount!⁠ ✨ ⁠⁠Want personalised support? Apply for private coaching HERE.⁠⁠ DM me on ⁠⁠INSTAGRAM⁠⁠
July 22 · 45 min
#106: This Is The One Thing Most Women Miss in This Work
This week we're talking about self-compassion and why it's actually one of the hardest and most important skills to build, especially if you grew up in an environment where your emotions were met with dismissal or silence. We get into why that harsh inner voice telling you to just push through and get over it isn't a character flaw, it's a protector. And why as long as we keep engaging in this work through the wound rather than from a place of genuine devotion to ourselves, we'll stay stuck on the hamster wheel. ✨ ⁠⁠Want personalised support? Apply for private coaching HERE.⁠⁠ 💛 ⁠Come to relationship school with me in RESOURCED WOMAN - Get on the waitlist & snatch a discount!⁠ DM me on ⁠⁠INSTAGRAM⁠⁠
July 15 · 22 min
#105: "Is He Avoidant or Just Not That Into Me?"
You're trying to decode his behaviour, figure out his attachment style, understand his why when really the more powerful question is: do I even want to be in something that leaves me feeling this confused? In this episode we flip the script on one of the most common questions in dating and get into what your response to his behaviour is actually telling you about yourself and how to take your power back. 👑 FREE Guide on How to Be The CHOOSER in Dating 💛 ⁠Come to relationship school with me in RESOURCED WOMAN - Get on the waitlist & snatch a discount!⁠ ✨ ⁠⁠Want personalised support? Apply for private coaching HERE.⁠⁠ DM me on ⁠⁠INSTAGRAM⁠⁠ Check out other FREE resources ⁠⁠HERE⁠
July 8 · 43 min
#104: "What if my partner isn't doing this work?"
If you've ever held back from doing your own healing work because you're scared of outgrowing your relationship, this episode is for you. This week we're talking about what it actually means to choose yourself, why your growth doesn't have to mean the end of your relationship, and what to do when you're the only one in the dynamic who seems interested in changing. ✨ ⁠⁠Want personalised support? Apply for private coaching HERE.⁠⁠ DM me on ⁠⁠INSTAGRAM⁠⁠ Check out other FREE resources ⁠⁠HERE⁠
July 1 · 50 min
#103: "What if I'm just not attracted to available people?"
You know unavailable men lead to heartache and yet, when someone kind, consistent, and genuinely interested shows up... nothing. No spark. No pull. Just a vague sense that something is missing. In this episode, we're unpacking one of the most common and confusing blocks that comes up once women start to break their pattern with unavailable men. We dig into what attraction actually is , why your nervous system learned to read anxiety and longing as love, and what's really happening underneath the surface when consistency feels boring or even unsafe. ✨ ⁠⁠Want personalised support? Apply for private coaching HERE.⁠⁠ DM me on ⁠⁠INSTAGRAM⁠⁠ Check out other FREE resources ⁠⁠HERE⁠
June 24 · 32 min
#102: How to Respond to DEFENSIVENESS
Does trying to talk to your partner sometimes feel like banging your head against a wall? You come with a genuine concern, and suddenly they're shutting down, deflecting, or turning it back on you, leaving you feeling unheard, lonely, and stuck. In this episode, we're diving into one of the most common and frustrating relationship struggles: defensiveness. We'll unpack what defensiveness actually is, why pushing harder or going quiet both leave you powerless, and the one skill that can genuinely shift the dynamic. We'll explore how shame-based wounds and attachment patterns quietly drive defensive behaviour, how your communication style might be playing a role, and most importantly, how to hold space for both your experience and theirs without losing yourself in the process. This isn't about becoming your partner's therapist or tiptoeing around their feelings forever. It's about building real conflict resolution skills so you can finally feel seen — and stop the cycle for good. ✨ ⁠⁠Want personalised support? Apply for private coaching HERE.⁠⁠ DM me on ⁠⁠INSTAGRAM⁠⁠ Check out other FREE resources ⁠⁠HERE⁠
June 10 · 31 min
#101: Validation - What it actually is (& what it isn't)
Validation might be one of the most misunderstood skills in relationships and also one of the most important. In this episode, Nathalie breaks down what validation actually is, why so many of us resist it, and why if you haven't learned to validate your own experience first, no communication script in the world will save you. We cover self validation, validating your partner in conflict, and why this one skill is the difference between fighting to be understood and actually understanding each other. ✨ ⁠⁠Want personalised support? Apply for private coaching HERE.⁠⁠ DM me on ⁠⁠INSTAGRAM⁠⁠ Check out other FREE resources ⁠⁠HERE⁠ 🎁 ⁠Get my FREE masterclass on turning self-abandonment into unshakable self-trust⁠
June 3 · 43 min
#100: Self-Trust: Why it's so important & how to build it!
In this episode, I go into the one foundation that every other relationship skill is built on: self trust. What it looks like when it's gone, how it got broken, and exactly how to start rebuilding it. If you've ever ignored a red flag, stayed too long, outsourced your reality to everyone around you, or needed someone else to confirm what you already knew, this one is for you. 🎁 ⁠Get my FREE masterclass on turning self-abandonment into unshakable self-trust⁠ ✨ ⁠⁠Want personalised support? Apply for private coaching HERE.⁠⁠ DM me on ⁠⁠INSTAGRAM⁠⁠ Check out other FREE resources ⁠⁠HERE⁠

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