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Dating Déjà vu

Dating Déjà Vu

It might be déjà vu but it also might be you!

Join Christina Hathaway, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, as she dives deep into the complexities of relationships and personal growth. Each episode offers practical insights, expert advice, and heartfelt discussions on topics like communication, intimacy, family dynamics, and self-discovery. Whether you're navigating challenges in your marriage, strengthening friendships, or working on your relationship with yourself, Christina provides a compassionate and relatable perspective to help you thrive in all areas of your life!

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  • S1 · E39
    Jul 8, 2025 · 19 min

    43 | 10 Subtle Signs It’s Time to Leave a Relationship (Even If Nothing “Bad” Happened)

    Are you constantly questioning your relationship, but can't quite explain why? In this episode, Christina breaks down 10 subtle yet powerful signs it's time to leave a relationship—even if there hasn’t been a dramatic breakup, betrayal, or obvious red flag. If you're stuck in confusion, this episode will give you the clarity—and permission—you need! Let's connect: Schedule a clarity call with me: https://link.optimafunnels.com/widget/bookings/tmom-clarity-call0b27p0 Send me your questions: https://bit.ly/43FWH70 Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/datingdejavupod/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@DatingD%C3%A9j%C3%A0vuPodcast Timestamps: 00:00 – Introduction 02:20 – Why we tolerate “comfortable” relationships 03:44 – 🚩 Sign #1: You’re constantly negotiating your needs down 04:58 – 🚩 Sign #2: Your body feels more anxious than excited 06:23 – 🚩 Sign #3: You’re walking on eggshells 08:07 – 🚩 Sign #4: You’re clinging to potential, not reality 09:41 – 🚩 Sign #5: Your boundaries are blurry 11:12 – 🚩 Sign #6: You’re doing more emotional labor 12:41 – 🚩 Sign #7: You need others to validate your feelings 13:24 – 🚩 Sign #8: You no longer feel like yourself around them 15:31 – 🚩 Sign #9: They love the idea of you, not the real you 16:56 – 🚩 Sign #10: The idea of leaving brings relief, not fear 18:44 – How to reconnect to yourself after walking away 19:28 – Final thoughts + journaling prompts for clarity

  • S1 · E42
    Jul 1, 2025 · 24 min

    42 | Fantasy vs. Reality: What Love Island’s Olandria Teaches Us About Dating Patterns

    Are you dating someone’s potential... or just their cowboy boots? In this spicy Love Island deep dive, Christina breaks down what Olandria’s journey teaches us about fantasy, red flags, and why holding on too long can cost us our peace. In this week's episode, Christina dissects the latest drama on Love Island USA—specifically the emotional rollercoaster between Olandria, Taylor, and Clark, and connects it to real-life dating patterns. If you’ve ever found yourself fixated on a type (hello, cowboy or baller!) and ignored the red flags just because the fantasy looked good on paper, this episode is your wake-up call. Christina helps listeners unpack the dangerous loop of romantic idealization and shows how to break free from dating déjà vu. Let's connect: Schedule a clarity call with me: https://link.optimafunnels.com/widget/bookings/tmom-clarity-call0b27p0 Send me your questions: https://bit.ly/43FWH70 Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/datingdejavupod/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@DatingD%C3%A9j%C3%A0vuPodcast Timestamps: 00:00 – Introduction 00:45 – Olandria & Taylor 03:30 – Fantasy vs. Reality in dating athletes, cowboys, and “types” 06:00 – What Taylor actually represents—and the red flags 08:45 – Post-Casa Amor: How Taylor showed his true colors 10:14 – Nick vs. Taylor: Real connection vs. performative affection 13:20 – Disrespect on display: The “cowboy” falls off the horse 15:01 – When we protect the fantasy more than our peace 17:25 – Better questions to ask when stuck in romantic loops 19:11 – Cowboy vibes vs. Cowboy values: Know the difference 22:00 – A story about choosing the right kind of partner 23:16 – The real fairytale? Truth, safety, and consistency 23:53 – Final challenge: Are you chasing the wrong cowboy?

  • S1 · E41
    Jun 24, 2025 · 14 min

    41 | Are You Changing for Them—Or Changing for You?

    In this episode, Christina unpacks the subtle (and not-so-subtle) ways we change ourselves to be loved, wanted, or accepted. Are you healing and growing because you want to or are you unconsciously shifting to become more palatable for your partner? She dives into the difference between self-evolution and self-abandonment, explains the psychology behind shape-shifting in dating, and offers powerful self-check questions to help you reclaim your self-worth, authenticity, and voice in relationships. If you're tired of auditioning for love, this one’s for you. Let's connect: Schedule a clarity call with me: https://link.optimafunnels.com/widget/bookings/tmom-clarity-call0b27p0 Send me your questions: https://bit.ly/43FWH70 Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/datingdejavupod/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@DatingD%C3%A9j%C3%A0vuPodcast Timestamps: 00:00 Introduction 00:20 Meet Christina and the podcast 00:31 Are you changing for you or for them 00:53 Inspired by real client conversations 01:11 People shrink themselves in relationships 01:42 Self-growth vs self-abandonment 02:15 Story of someone changing to please a partner 03:05 Change rooted in validation doesn’t last 03:50 The pressure to shape-shift in dating 04:33 People silence themselves without being asked 05:11 Acting feels heavy because it’s not real 05:27 Growth feels expansive, protection feels tight 06:04 Real change aligns with your values 06:33 Would you stay this version if they left 07:30 Childhood teaches us to adapt to be safe 08:39 Dating becomes a performance for approval 09:42 Validation-seeking leads to unhealthy change 10:01 Real love doesn’t ask you to shrink 10:45 Growth means setting boundaries and staying close to self 11:34 Christina shares how healing changed her relationships 12:23 Don’t shame your past self for surviving 12:56 Heal your own holes to become whole 13:29 Do you love yourself when you’re not performing 13:44 Closing thoughts and clarity call invite

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