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Home of the world's most OPEN, HONEST & EXPLICIT conversations! You’ll be hearing all of our juicy sex stories, getting professional sex advice from therapists to dominatrix’s and spilling horny tea with your favorite public figures.

Curious f**kers… welcome to COME CURIOUS the podcast. Hosted by award winning sex & relationship content creators, sex educators & p0rn directors: Florence Bark and Reed Amber.

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Thursday · 1 hr 15 min
Being Insecure About Your Body During S*x - Weight, D*ck Size and Our Advice
Watch the full video, see exclusive content and support the podcast over on ⁠⁠⁠⁠Patreon ⁠⁠⁠ Ever found yourself worrying about how your stomach looks, whether your boobs are sagging, what your vulva smells like or whether your body is attractive enough to be naked in front of someone? You're definitely not alone. ❤️ In this episode of Come Curious, Florence and Reed get properly honest about body insecurities and how they can affect our confidence, intimacy and enjoyment of seggs. From weight and body shape to p3nis size, scars, body hair and everything in between, we're unpacking the hang-ups that can stop us from feeling comfortable in our own skin. We get into: - Body image, weight and the pressure to look a certain way - Boobs, bums, bellies, cellulite and the bits we pick apart - P3nis size, height and the insecurities men experience too - Body hair, vulva appearance, smell and taste — why are we so worried about these things? - Social media, corn and unrealistic beauty standards - How negative self-talk and comparison can sabotage intimacy - How seeing real, diverse bodies can help us feel more comfortable naked - Asking partners for reassurance without constantly putting yourself down - Listener stories about the things they once hated about their bodies that someone else found sexy Plus, we share practical ways to challenge negative thoughts, reframe the way we speak to ourselves and build a healthier relationship with our bodies. Because the sexiest thing isn't a flat stomach, perfect boobs or a six-pack. It's feeling comfortable enough to actually enjoy yourself. Let's stop letting our insecurities get in the way of a good f*cking time. Watch the full video, see exclusive content and support the podcast over on ⁠⁠⁠Patreon ⁠⁠⁠ Follow us on Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠@comecurious⁠⁠⁠ and DM us your questions, stories and voicenotes! Follow Florence ⁠⁠⁠@florencebark⁠⁠⁠ Follow Reed ⁠⁠⁠@reedamberx⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
November 5 · 44 min
Reed + Florence Nerding Out over Seggs Tapes : OnlyFans Content Creation, Cinematic Corn & Professional Filming Tips
We're camera nerds. We're film geeks. And we really, really like making seggs tapes. 🎥🍑Watch the full video, see exclusive content and support the podcast over on ⁠⁠⁠⁠Patreon ⁠⁠⁠⁠ In this episode, Florence and Reed get gloriously geeky about the art of making an er0tic home movie. Drawing on their backgrounds in film and TV production, porn directing and content creation, they're sharing how to take your intimate videos from shaky phone footage to something a little more cinematic. Because why just film yourself having sex when you could give yourself the full director's cut? We get into: - Lighting is everything: Ring lights, soft boxes, diffusers, natural light and coloured LEDs, how to create a sexy, cinematic atmosphere. - Camera equipment: Smartphones vs DSLRs, vlogging cameras, lenses and getting that gorgeous depth-of-field effect. - Location, location, location: Choosing the right setting, styling your space and creating a visual mood. - Camera angles and techniques: POV, multiple cameras and why getting someone else behind the lens can transform your footage. - Scripts, planning and spontaneity: How to create a scene without making your seggs life feel like a film set. - The magic of editing: Turning your footage into something that actually tells a story. - Consent and distribution: What to agree before filming, what happens afterwards and the realities of sharing intimate content online. - Corn brain: Why we sometimes see everyday seggs toys and objects differently when they're on camera. Plus, we're discussing Erika Lust's approach to erotic filmmaking, reading from her new book 'LUST' and exploring why pleasure, nuance and removing shame matter when it comes to porn. Basically, if you've ever wanted to make a home movie with a little more production value, this is your masterclass in getting the shot. Lights, camera, sensation! 😈 --- This episode is brought to you by ERIKA LUST. Er0tic films shot like cinema, with real chemistry and stories that make you feel something. Watch at erikalust.com and use code COME45 for 45% off. And check out Erika's new book, Lust: Pleasure, Performance, Power - a candid exploration of desire, shame, pleasure and her journey building one of the world's most talked-about erotic film studios. Watch the full video, see exclusive content and support the podcast over on ⁠⁠⁠Patreon ⁠⁠⁠ Follow us on Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠@comecurious⁠⁠⁠ and DM us your questions, stories and voicenotes! Follow Florence ⁠⁠⁠@florencebark⁠⁠⁠ Follow Reed ⁠⁠⁠@reedamberx⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
October 29 · 1 hr
The Halloween Episode: Can Sex Get Any Scarier Than This? - BD$M Fantasies, Vampire Roleplay, Knife Play & Spooky Sex Stories
Watch the full video, see exclusive content and support the podcast over on ⁠⁠⁠⁠Patreon ⁠⁠⁠ From vampire roleplay and knife play to terrifying bedroom mishaps and stories that might make you sleep with the lights on, this Halloween we're getting into the spooky, the k'nky and the downright f*cking frightening. Florence and Reed catch up on life behind the scenes, from navigating new motherhood and changing libidos to managing endometriosis and PMDD. Then, things take a darker turn as we play Hot or Not: Scary Sex Edition. We get into: Vampire roleplay: Sexy, spooky or just a bit bloody? Knife play and blood play: Exploring edgy fantasies, personal limits and why consent is everything. Kidnapping fantasies: Why consensual roleplay needs clear boundaries and careful planning. Sounding: What it is, why it's polarising and whether it's hot or horrifying. Terrifying s"x stories: Reed shares a home-invasion roleplay that went wrong before becoming a positive experience. Real-life ghost stories: Unexplained noises, mysterious figures and some seriously creepy encounters. Listener confessions: Bats, dissociation, unexpected accidents and the s'x stories that are almost too scary to tell. Plus, we get honest about how motherhood, chronic health conditions, work and changing hormones can affect intimacy, identity and desire. Whether you're into spooky roleplay or would rather keep the bedroom firmly ghost-free, this episode is packed with k'nky curiosities, creepy encounters and plenty of reasons to ask: is that a turn-on, or should we actually be worried? Sweet dreams, curious fuckers. 😈🎃 Shout out to Beducated - get to know their amazing platform full of educational videos. Head to their website beducate.me/comecurious , take their 2-min Quiz for your personalised roadmap. PLUS you’ll get 50% off when you use our promo code comecurious at checkout. Follow us on Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠@comecurious⁠⁠⁠ and DM us your questions, stories and voicenotes! Follow Florence ⁠⁠⁠@florencebark⁠⁠⁠ Follow Reed ⁠⁠⁠@reedamberx⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
October 22 · 54 min
How to Make Home Movies! - Amateur Corn, POV Filming, Privacy & Creating Intimate Content
Watch the full video, see exclusive content and support the podcast over on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Patreon ⁠⁠⁠⁠ Fancy making a s_x tape? 🎥🔥 Whether it's a private little keepsake for you and a partner or you're thinking about creating your own amateur corn, there are a few things you should know before you hit record. In this episode of Come Curious, Florence and Reed draw on their experience as corn directors and OnlyFans creators to share their guide to making a home movie. From camera angles and lighting to consent, privacy and getting comfortable in front of the camera, we're covering the practical tips and the conversations you absolutely need to have first. We get into: - How to film a s_x tape: Camera angles, POV shots and easy ways to make your footage look intimate and natural. - Lighting that works: Natural light, ring lights and creating the right mood without making everything look like a hospital. - Amateur porn vs professional porn: Why authentic, imperfect and relatable content can be so appealing. - Consent before cameras: How to agree on boundaries, storage, sharing and whether footage should be deleted. - Privacy and leaked n00des: The risks of filming intimate content and what to consider before pressing record. - Feeling confident on camera: Outfits, toys, locations and creating an environment where you can relax and enjoy yourself. And it's a watershed episode so our Patreon subscribers get behind-the-scenes stories from Florence and Reed sharing some of their own unconventional filming adventures. Sign up here! Plus, we discuss the double standards women face when creating sexual content and why making a home movie should be about what feels good to you - not trying to recreate a professional corn scene. The golden rule? Get consent, talk about the risks, and remember that the best home movie is one everyone involved actually wants to make. Ready for your close-up? 😈 Watch the full video, see exclusive content and support the podcast over on ⁠⁠⁠Patreon ⁠⁠⁠ Come and see Reed in London: ⁠At Your Own Risk ⁠- kinky market social, 29 November 2026 ⁠Ticklethusiasm⁠ - 12 December 2026 Follow us on Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠@comecurious⁠⁠⁠⁠ and DM us your questions, stories and voicenotes! Follow Florence ⁠⁠⁠⁠@florencebark⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow Reed ⁠⁠⁠⁠@reedamberx⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
October 15 · 1 hr 3 min
Your kinky questions: I'm kinky but my partner isn't...Help! - BDSM, Fetishes, Sexual Fantasies & Exploring Your Desires
Got a k'nky fantasy you're too embarrassed to ask about? Wondering what your desires mean, how to explore them, or how to bring them up with a partner without making things awkward? 👀 In this episode of Come Curious, Reed - seggs educator, seggs worker and ki'nk and f3tish specialist - answers your questions about the wonderfully weird world of k'nk. From discovering what turns you on to navigating taboo fantasies and negotiating boundaries, we're getting into the things you might be Googling in private. We get into: K'nk vs f3tish: What's the difference, and when does a fantasy become an essential part of your seggs life? Discovering your desires: How to explore new turn-ons, experiment with fantasies and figure out what you're into. Controversy: Navigating a controversial fantasy through trust, consent and honest communication. Cuckolding: How to discuss a partner's desires, set boundaries and avoid resentment. Talking about k'nk: How to have open, non-judgemental conversations about what you want in the bedroom. Listener stories: Anonymous confessions featuring roleplay, power exchange, sensory play and food play. Plus, we discuss seggual health, STI testing and condoms. Whether you're a curious beginner or a seasoned k'nky fcker, this episode is your reminder that having questions is normal, exploring is personal, and consent and communication are always the hottest things in the room. 📍 Come and see Reed in London: At Your Own Risk - kinky market social, 29 November 2026 Ticklethusiasm - 12 December 2026 Come curious. Leave with a few more things to think about. Watch the full video, see exclusive content and support the podcast over on ⁠⁠⁠Patreon ⁠⁠⁠ Follow us on Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠@comecurious⁠⁠⁠ and DM us your questions, stories and voicenotes! Follow Florence ⁠⁠⁠@florencebark⁠⁠⁠ Follow Reed ⁠⁠⁠@reedamberx⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
October 8 · 54 min
Why Don't I Feel Horny? How to get your sex drive back - Libido, Arousal, Hormones & Relationships
Why don't I feel horny anymore? And is there actually anything you can do to get your sex drive back? In this episode of Come Curious, Florence and Reed dive into the surprisingly complicated world of libido, low sex drive and sexual desire - and why feeling less horny doesn't necessarily mean there's something wrong with you. From hormones and medication to stress, relationships, parenthood and mental health, we unpack the many reasons your libido can change throughout your life. We get into: - Why around 1 in 4 couples experience mismatched libidos - How antidepressants, hormonal birth control and other medications can affect desire - How stress, exhaustion, mental load, body image and emotional safety can put the brakes on sex - Why pregnancy, breastfeeding and parenthood can dramatically change your sex drive - How trauma, shame, upbringing and neurodivergence can influence desire - Why asexuality isn't the same thing as having no interest in pleasure or masturbation - Why you don't always have to wait until you're spontaneously horny to start exploring desire And we finish with our four-step toolkit for getting your sex drive back: from identifying what's actually killing your libido to rebuilding your erotic world and making sex easier to want. PLUS: We're giving a big shout out to CHEEX which you can try free for 7 days! Use code 7COME at getcheex.com T&Cs: New customers get a 7-day free trial of the annual membership (£9.90/month, billed £118.80 annually). Cancel anytime during the trial or switch to monthly (£19.90/month). You won't be charged until the trial ends. Offer valid for new customers only, on the annual membership only, and when redeemed with code 7COME. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
October 1 · 53 min
How Motherhood Changed Us - Postpartum Life, Body Changes, Sex After Birth & Maternal Mental Health
Motherhood changes you. Your body, your brain, your relationships, your priorities — sometimes even your sense of who the fuck you are. In this episode, Florence gets brutally honest about the reality of becoming a new mum, from postpartum anxiety and breastfeeding to body changes, sex after birth and the pressure to somehow “bounce back”. We get into: The enormous identity shift that comes with becoming a mother Postpartum anxiety, mental health and why we need to talk about it Breastfeeding, body changes and the judgement new mums face Sex after birth, low libido, pain and learning to listen to your body How social media can affect postpartum body image Returning to work and the reality of corporate parental leave The wildly different ways motherhood can make you feel — from depletion and loss to empowerment and love Plus, we hear from our community about what motherhood changed for them and why there is no such thing as “bouncing back”. Because you don't go back to who you were before. You become someone new. As always, we love hearing what you have to say - let us know, share your stories and be sure to follow us on Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠@comecurious⁠⁠⁠ and DM us your questions, stories and voicenotes! Follow Florence ⁠⁠⁠@florencebark⁠⁠⁠ and learn more about her community @matrescene.collective Follow Reed ⁠⁠⁠@reedamberx⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
September 24 · 38 min
The Future of Sex - would you 'do' a robot? | AI Seggs, AI Companions & The Future of Intimacy
Our question this week is - Would you have seggs with a robot? As loneliness rises and AI becomes increasingly woven into our relationships, Florence and Reed ask a very important question: what happens when technology can give us pleasure, companionship and even something that feels a little like intimacy? In this episode, we explore the future of sex, from AI companions and sex robots to the loneliness epidemic and whether technology could make pleasure more accessible or make real human connection even harder. We get into: - Seggs dolls vs seggs robots and what AI actually changes - AI companions, loneliness and the future of intimacy - Can technology provide pleasure without replacing human connection? - Why Gen Z and millennials are turning to synthetic intimacy - The benefits and potential pitfalls of AI seggs tech - We try out SensOn, an AI-powered interactive pleasure experience where stories, characters and physical sensations respond in real time - Plus we reveal whether we'd actually consider having seggs with a robot... This episode is sponsored by SensOn. Want to try it yourself? Use code CURIOUS15 for 15% off. SensOn AI Web - Explore the experience SensOn S1 - Discover the device Plus, Reed shares details of an upcoming k'nky, queer-friendly and sustainable marketplace in London, and we ask you the question that might define the future of seggs: Would you do a robot? Watch the full video on YouTube and see exclusive content and support the podcast over on ⁠⁠⁠Patreon ⁠⁠⁠ Follow us on Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠@comecurious⁠⁠⁠ and DM us your questions, stories and voicenotes! Follow Florence ⁠⁠⁠@florencebark⁠⁠⁠ Follow Reed ⁠⁠⁠@reedamberx⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
September 17 · 52 min
How To Make Rejection Your B*tch - Dating Rejection, ADHD Rejection Sensitivity, Boundaries & Self-Worth
Rejection fcking hurts. So how do we get better at handling it without taking it as a verdict on our worth? In this episode of Come Curious, Florence and Reed get into the messy reality of rejection across dating, relationships, friendships and work. They explore why rejection can feel so painful, how the way we're rejected can make a huge difference, and why learning to say (and hear) “no” is such an important life skill. We get into: Why rejection activates the same brain regions as physical pain Dating rejection, friendship breakups and workplace rejection ADHD, neurodivergency and rejection sensitivity How to reject someone without making them feel worthless Why people-pleasing and fawning can make rejection harder Navigating rejection inside long-term relationships What kink can teach us about boundaries and respecting “no” The three-step rejection toolkit for having difficult conversations Plus, Florence and Reed share their own experiences of rejection and challenge us to stop treating someone else's “no” as a judgement on who we are. Because rejection isn't proof that you're unlovable. Sometimes it's just information. So let's make rejection our b*tch. Watch the full video, see exclusive content and support the podcast over on ⁠⁠⁠Patreon ⁠⁠⁠ Follow us on Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠@comecurious⁠⁠⁠ and DM us your questions, stories and voicenotes! Follow Florence ⁠⁠⁠@florencebark⁠⁠⁠ Follow Reed ⁠⁠⁠@reedamberx⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
September 10 · 45 min
Do I Like You or Was I Just Ovulating: Attraction, Hormones, Attachment Styles & Toxic Chemistry
Is it chemistry… or is it just hormones? Florence and Reed dive into the science and psychology of attraction - exploring dopamine, adrenaline, ovulation, attachment styles and why the people who make our nervous systems go wild aren't always the people who are actually good for us. We get into: The brain chemistry behind attraction and obsession Can ovulation really change who we fancy? Why intense chemistry doesn't always mean compatibility Hot-and-cold behaviour, anxious attachment and addictive relationship cycles Gen Z, phones during sex and what it says about intimacy K'nk, consent and the criminalisation of str4ngulation in 🌽 How alcohol, stress and hormones can seriously influence our decisions And because this is a watershed episode, our Patreon members get the unfiltered second half - including some very candid stories about recent sexual experiences, orgasm denial, roleplay, tickle torture and the mental aftermath of intense play. Maybe you don't like them. Maybe you're just ovulating. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
September 3 · 1 hr
Everything We Know About Dating: Best vs Worst Dates - dating apps, ghosting, and catfishing
In the first episode of our new dating series, Reed and Florence dive into the realities of modern dating - from dating apps and ghosting to catfishing, first-date disasters and the best dates they've ever been on. With Reed navigating single, polyamorous life and Florence adjusting to life as a new mum, they bring very different perspectives to the dating game. We get into: Dating apps & catfishing - do profiles actually match the people you meet? Ghosting & rejection - why are so many people disappearing instead of communicating? Dating statistics - who's actually initiating dates, and are apps changing how we meet? The worst dates - broken furniture, injuries, bizarre behaviour and some truly chaotic encounters The best dates - including extravagant Mayfair dates and what actually makes a date memorable Dating etiquette - how to communicate when you're interested… and when you're definitely not Plus, Reed and Florence read your best and worst dating stories, discuss LGBTQ+ dating and dating apps, and ask what we're really looking for when we go on a first date. This is the beginning of a whole new Come Curious series about dating, sex, relationships, apps, rejection and everything that happens in between. Watch the full video, see exclusive content and support the podcast over on ⁠⁠⁠Patreon ⁠⁠⁠ Follow us on Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠@comecurious⁠⁠⁠ and DM us your questions, stories and voicenotes! Follow Florence ⁠⁠⁠@florencebark⁠⁠⁠ Follow Reed ⁠⁠⁠@reedamberx⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
August 27 · 59 min
Hair Fetish and Being a Bearded Woman - Body confidence, Beauty standards & Kink
What happens when you stop treating your body hair as something that needs fixing and start seeing it as part of what makes you attractive? In this episode of Come Curious, Reed chats to Bethany, producer of Come Curious and host of The Sassy Show, about being a proudly hairy woman with a beard. They dive deep into body confidence, beauty standards and hair fetishes. Bethany shares her journey from shaving from the age of 10 to embracing her natural body hair and how queer & kinky communities helped her feel more confident in her body. We get into: Being a hairy woman: body hair, beauty standards & body acceptance Hair fetishes: when being fetishised can feel empowering vs objectifying Razor play & grooming: the intimacy of letting someone else care for your body Body confidence: learning to see and touch your body without shame Talking to partners: asking for reassurance, praise and what you actually need Tune in for a conversation about body hair, kink, fetishisation, confidence and unlearning the idea that your natural body needs to be changed. Follow Bethany on IG @bxsassy2 and get to know her platform The Sassy Show Watch the full video, see exclusive content and support the podcast over on ⁠⁠Patreon ⁠⁠ Follow us on Instagram: ⁠⁠@comecurious⁠⁠ and DM us your questions, stories and voicenotes! Follow Florence ⁠⁠@florencebark⁠⁠ Follow Reed ⁠⁠@reedamberx Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
August 20 · 1 hr 3 min
How to Make Friends and Break Friendships - Loneliness, Toxic Friendships & Friends With Benefits
Making Friends After 30? Trying to end a toxic friendship? Dealing with Adult Loneliness? This is the episode for you! In this episode of Come Curious, we get into the messy reality of adult friendship: how to make new friends, how to know when a friendship has run its course, and why ending a platonic relationship can hurt just as much as a romantic breakup. We talk about the loneliness epidemic, introversion and different social capacities, as well as the difference between a friendship naturally fizzling out and deliberately choosing to walk away. They also share their own experiences of friendship breakups — including the dramatic ones — and discuss why honest communication can sometimes be kinder than quietly disappearing. Our audience gets involved too, sharing how Curious Fckers made new friends through Bumble BFF, Instagram, burlesque, bouldering, dance classes, hobbies, local groups and niche communities. Plus, the episode touches on current LGBTQI+ and political news before getting back to the really important stuff: how the hell do you actually make friends when you're an adult? Expect conversations about loneliness, friendship breakups, social anxiety, finding your community, making friends online and IRL, and knowing when it's time to let a friendship go. Watch the full video, see exclusive content and support the podcast over on ⁠⁠Patreon ⁠⁠ Follow us on Instagram: ⁠⁠@comecurious⁠⁠ and DM us your questions, stories and voicenotes! Follow Florence ⁠⁠@florencebark⁠⁠ Follow Reed ⁠⁠@reedamberx Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
August 13 · 55 min
How to Initiate Sex: communicating desire & overcoming rejection anxiety
How do you actually initiate sex with your partner? It sounds simple, but for many couples, making the first move can be surprisingly awkward, vulnerable and even scary. In this episode, we get into why sexual initiation can become so difficult and what you can actually do about it. We discuss the loneliness epidemic and changing dating habits, before getting into the bigger question: how do we ask for sex without making it feel like a high-stakes negotiation? Drawing on ideas from Emily Nagoski's Come As You Are, we explore spontaneous and responsive desire, the "accelerators and brakes" that influence libido, and why initiating sex can start hours before you ever get into bed. We talk about: Why so many couples struggle to initiate sex How fear of rejection can make making a move feel terrifying Why sex can start with connection, safety and feeling understood Using love languages as a form of everyday intimacy and foreplay Spontaneous vs responsive desire How long-term relationships can change the way we experience sexual desire How having children can completely reshape your sex life Why asking your partner how they like to be initiated with could change everything How to communicate about sex without pressure, expectation or mind-reading And then we hit the watershed. The first half of this episode is available to everyone, but if you want to hear the more personal, intimate and unfiltered conversation - including our own stories about sexual initiation - you'll need to head over to Patreon for the full episode. So whether you've been together for ten years, you're newly dating, you're navigating parenthood, or you're simply wondering how to make the first move without dying of embarrassment… this one's for you. Follow us on Instagram: ⁠⁠@comecurious⁠⁠ and DM us your questions, stories and voicenotes! Follow Florence ⁠⁠@florencebark⁠⁠ Follow Reed ⁠⁠@reedamberx Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
August 6 · 1 hr 4 min
My Friend's Having a Baby - WTF?! Friendship changes, parenthood & child-free life
No one really prepares you for what happens when your best friend has a baby. Suddenly your lives look completely different. Messages take longer to reply to, spontaneous plans disappear, priorities shift, and sometimes... it can feel like you're grieving a friendship that's still alive. In this deeply honest episode, Florence and Reed unpack how becoming a parent changes friendships—not just for the person having the baby, but for the friends left wondering where they fit in. We discuss: Why it's normal to grieve a friendship changing after parenthood Feeling left behind when your friends start families How to support a friend who's just had a baby What parents actually need from their child-free friends Navigating jealousy, loneliness and changing priorities Why friendships naturally have "seasons" Creating your own village—whether you have children or not How honest communication can save lifelong friendships Whether you're expecting your first baby, proudly child-free, undecided, or simply watching your friendship group evolve, this episode is for anyone trying to hold onto meaningful relationships through life's biggest transitions. Because growing up doesn't have to mean growing apart. Watch the full video, see exclusive content and support the podcast over on ⁠⁠Patreon ⁠⁠ Follow us on Instagram: ⁠⁠@comecurious⁠⁠ and DM us your questions, stories and voicenotes! Follow Florence ⁠⁠@florencebark⁠⁠ Follow Reed ⁠⁠@reedamberx Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
July 30 · 50 min
What Porn Are You Watching? - Hentai, MILFs & modern porn habits
Porn is everywhere but how much is too much? What are people actually searching for? And should we be worried about our viewing habits? This week we're diving headfirst into the world of pornography. As former porn creators ourselves, we're unpacking how our relationship with porn has changed over the years, what healthy consumption looks like, and why the conversation around "porn addiction" might be more complicated than people think. We explore: Is porn addiction real or is it better understood as a compulsion? When does watching porn become unhealthy? The world's most searched porn categories (including why hentai has dominated global searches) Why Gen Z's porn habits are changing The fastest-growing sexually active age group How porn can affect relationships, intimacy and desire Our own experiences working in the adult industry Wild, weird and wonderful listener-submitted porn searches From anime to MILFs, roleplay to relationship dynamics, this episode explores what our fantasies can tell us, without judgement. Whether you watch porn regularly, occasionally or not at all, this is an honest conversation about fantasy, shame, curiosity and sexual wellbeing. Watch the full video, see exclusive content and support the podcast over on ⁠⁠Patreon ⁠⁠ Follow us on Instagram: ⁠⁠@comecurious⁠⁠ and DM us your questions, stories and voicenotes! Follow Florence ⁠⁠@florencebark⁠⁠ Follow Reed ⁠⁠@reedamberx Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
July 23 · 40 min
0rgies vs G4ng Bangs? - Group Sex, Swinging, Fantasy & Sexual Health
What's the actual difference between an ()rgy and a g4ng bang? And why do these two forms of group sx carry such different cultural baggage? In this episode of Come Curious, we're diving into the definitions, misconceptions, fantasies and realities surrounding two of the most talked-about group sx experiences. We explore where these ideas come from, how they've been shaped by mainstream 🌽orn, and why consent, agency and communication matter so much when discussing group sexual experiences. Along the way, we discuss: The difference between ()rgies and g4ng bangs Why group sex remains one of the world's most common fantasies How porn influences our understanding of group sx Listener stories, unexpected experiences and hilarious mishaps Sexual health, testing and safer group play Why these experiences aren't exclusive to any one gender or sexuality How our own relationships with sx, sobriety and intimacy have evolved over time We also take a look at some recent developments in contraception research, including updates in male contraception trials and conversations around informed contraceptive choices. Whether you're simply curious, have fantasised about group sx, or want to better understand the language and culture surrounding it, this episode offers an open, honest and judgement-free discussion. Watch the full video, see exclusive content and support the podcast over on ⁠⁠Patreon ⁠⁠ Follow us on Instagram: ⁠⁠@comecurious⁠⁠ and DM us your questions, stories and voicenotes! Follow Florence ⁠⁠@florencebark⁠⁠ Follow Reed ⁠⁠@reedamberx Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
July 16 · 48 min
Non Sexy Things That Turn Us On - Acts of Service, Emotional Vulnerability & Why Confidence is So Sexy!
Turns out the sexiest things aren't always sexual. In this episode of Come Curious, we're diving into the unexpected, surprising, and sometimes downright bizarre things that make people feel attracted, connected, and turned on. From fresh bed sheets and gardening to emotional vulnerability and conflict resolution, we're exploring the green flags, personality traits, and everyday moments that can spark desire in ways we never expected. We discuss: Why emotional vulnerability can be incredibly attractive The appeal of emotional regulation and healthy communication Acts of service and why chores can become foreplay Competence, confidence and professional attraction Eye contact, direct communication and feeling desired Nature, scent, fresh sheets and creating an erotic atmosphere Listener submissions about accents, singing, oral fixations and more We also share some personal life updates, including navigating parenthood, balancing work and childcare, and our recent visit to Parliament to discuss the shadow-banning and deplatforming of sx workers, educators and LGBTQ+ creators on social media platforms. Because attraction isn't always about bodies or sex. Sometimes it's about feeling safe, understood, supported or watching someone confidently reverse a car into a parking space. Watch the full video, see exclusive content and support the podcast over on ⁠⁠Patreon ⁠⁠ Follow us on Instagram: ⁠⁠@comecurious⁠⁠ and DM us your questions, stories and voicenotes! Follow Florence ⁠⁠@florencebark⁠⁠ Follow Reed ⁠⁠@reedamberx Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
July 9 · 51 min
Should I Stay If They've Cheated On Me? - Affairs, Trust Issues, Couples Therapy & Recovery
When cheating happens, everyone wants a simple answer: leave or stay. But real relationships are rarely that straightforward. In this episode of Come Curious, we unpack one of the most painful questions a person can face: should you stay with someone who has cheated on you? Drawing on listener stories, expert insights, personal experiences, and relationship research, we explore why affairs happen, what cheating can reveal about a relationship, and whether trust can genuinely be rebuilt after betrayal. Tune in to hear about: Why people cheat in the first place Emotional affairs vs physical affairs When cheating is a symptom of deeper relationship problems The role of communication, accountability and therapy Signs a relationship may be repairable When leaving might be the healthiest choiceListener stories of recovery, separation and ethical non-monogamy The long-term impact of betrayal on mental health and self-worth We also examine the reality that many couples do stay together after infidelity, and why healing looks different for every relationship. Whether you've been cheated on, cheated yourself, or simply want to understand the psychology behind affairs, this conversation offers compassion, honesty and practical perspectives without reducing a deeply human experience to a simple yes-or-no answer. Shout out to therapist Jemma Hardelle who provided her insight on this topic. You can find her online at @hardelle_jemma on IG and www.jemmahardelle.com Sign the petition for 'Holding Meta Accountable for Wrongful Deletion' Watch the full video, see exclusive content and support the podcast over on ⁠⁠Patreon ⁠⁠ Follow us on Instagram: ⁠⁠@comecurious⁠⁠ and DM us your questions, stories and voicenotes! Follow Florence ⁠⁠@florencebark⁠⁠ Follow Reed ⁠⁠@reedamberx Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
July 2 · 1 hr 7 min
Threesomes, Male Multiple Orgasms and Throat Orgasms - Pleasure Skills Nobody Taught You
What if orgasm isn't something you're born knowing how to do but a skill you can learn? This week on Come Curious, we're joined by sex educator, author and pleasure advocate Susan Bratton for a mind-expanding conversation about the incredible range of pleasure our bodies are capable of experiencing. We dive into male multiple o's, prostate pleasure, orgasmic intercourse, throat o's, and why so many people have been taught limiting beliefs about their sexual potential. Susan shares practical techniques for men to separate orgasm from ejaculation, explains the "M Breath" method for full-body pleasure, and reveals how learning to recognise the point of no return can completely transform sexual stamina and confidence. We also explore: Male multiple o's and ejaculatory choice Pr0state massage and blended o's Throat o's and overcoming the gag reflex Why o's are a learnable skill How women can experience more pleasure during penetration The surprising connection between pleasure, health and longevity Long-term non-monogamy and relationship anarchy The future of sx toys and teledildonics Whether you're curious about expanding your orgasmic potential, improving partnered sx, or challenging everything you've been taught about pleasure, this episode is packed with practical advice and fascinating insights. Susan's suggestions: Drive Desire Orgasmic Intercourse Follow Susan online at @susanbratton Learn more about the toys Susan mentions: Keon 2 (Pre-Order) Keon LuXus Pearl 3 ProWand You can also get 10% off storewide at checkout using the code ComeCurious10 Watch the full video, see exclusive content and support the podcast over on ⁠Patreon ⁠ Follow us on Instagram: ⁠@comecurious⁠ and DM us your questions, stories and voicenotes! Follow Florence ⁠@florencebark⁠ Follow Reed ⁠@reedamberx Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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