Butch Queen After Dark

David Brandyn

Butch Queen After Dark is a sex-positive podcast hosted by David Brandyn, featuring bold, unfiltered conversations with queer people of color about sex, dating, pleasure, identity, and real life.

From hookup culture and kink to sex education and intimacy, this is after-hours talk with humor, heart, and no judgment.

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S1 · E51
Yesterday · 40 min
Gay in Jamaica with FayJohn!
What's it really like being Black, gay, and sexually liberated in Jamaica? On this episode of Butch Queen After Dark, David Brandyn welcomes Jamaican dancer, performer, content creator, and LGBTQ+ advocate FayJohn, our first international guest! Jamaica has a reputation for being one of the more challenging places to live openly as LGBTQ+, but FayJohn is here to give us a firsthand look at the queer community, including its nightlife, dating scene, cruising culture, and sexual freedom. We get into everything from secret queer parties and hookup apps to sexual fantasies, being vers, and why you should never assume who's a top or bottom based on appearances. FayJohn Instagram/TikTok: @fayjohn_ David Brandyn Instagram/TikTok/X: @davidbrandyn Butch Queen After Dark Instagram: @butchqueen If you enjoyed this conversation, make sure to LIKE, COMMENT, SUBSCRIBE, and SHARE! Subscribe to Butch Queen After Dark for new episodes every Saturday and sometimes Wednesdays! Have a question, story, or topic you'd like us to explore? Email butchqueenpodcast@gmail.com.
S1 · E50
October 10 · 53 min
Sides and Dating with The King of Reads!
This week on Butch Queen After Dark, David Brandyn sits down with content creator, commentator, and internet personality Justin James, aka The King of Reads, for an unfiltered conversation about sex, scandal, dating, and life in the public eye.Justin opens up about his sexual awakenings, his love of intimacy, and why kissing might be the most underrated part of sex. We get into the world of sides, the pressure to perform sexually, and why some gay men feel obligated to top or bottom even when they don't enjoy it.But things get even juicier when Justin addresses the recent online controversy surrounding his dating life. He shares his side of the story, discusses HIV stigma and misinformation, and reflects on the challenges of dating while being a public figure.
S1 · E49
October 7 · 41 min
I want to be Worshipped with Queen Kendall!
Queen Kendall pulls up to Butch Queen After Dark for a conversation about sex, confidence, porn, transition, dating, and why she’ll take a Butch Queen over trade any day. She opens up about her first major sexual awakening, group sex, being a self-described side off camera, and why her personal sex life is all about being taken care of after spending so much time performing for other people. We also get into what attracts her to Butch Queens, her definition of trade, hygiene, dating as a trans woman, and the very specific question she uses to decide whether she’s really attracted to somebody: “Would I eat his ass?” Follow Queen KendallInstagram: https://instagram.com/phuckyotattoozX/Twitter: https://x.com/LongLiveKendall Follow DavidInstagram: https://instagram.com/davidbrandyn X/Twitter: https://x.com/davidbrandyn FOLLOW BUTCH QUEEN AFTER DARKInstagram: https://instagram.com/butchqueen Subscribe to the channel, like the episode, and let us know your thoughts in the comments. Have a longer question or a topic you want discussed on the show? Email: butchqueenpodcast@gmail.com
S1 · E48
October 3 · 50 min
Locktober 101 with Sir Jasper!
It’s Locktober on Butch Queen After Dark, and this week we’re talking chastity, cages, domination, discipline, rubber, fitness, and what happens when you take your penis out of the equation. David sits down with Sir Jasper to talk about his journey from identifying as submissive to becoming a Dom—and how putting on a chastity cage unexpectedly helped him get there. Jasper also opens up about being a Black gay man navigating expectations around masculinity, penis size, topping, and the “BBC” stereotype, and how chastity helped him realize that his dominance didn’t have to come from his dick. Follow Sir Jasper Instagram: https://instagram.com/the_fitness_dom X: https://x.com/the_fitness_dom Bluesky: https://bsky.app/profile/thefitnessdom.bsky.social Check out his book The Discipline System. Follow David Instagram: https://instagram.com/davidbrandyn FOLLOW BUTCH QUEEN AFTER DARK Instagram: https://instagram.com/butchqueen Subscribe to the channel, rate the video, and drop your thoughts in the comments. Have a longer question or a topic you want discussed on the show? butchqueenpodcast@gmail.com New episodes of Butch Queen After Dark every Saturday—and sometimes Wednesday.
S1 · E47
September 26 · 38 min
Spit in My Mouth with Gabriel!
On this episode of Butch Queen After Dark, Gabriel joins David for an inightful conversation about sexual freedom, spirituality, nudism, kink, and living without shame. Gabriel explains how nudism became a form of sensual and artistic self-expression, how shamanism and left-hand path philosophy shape his life, and how tantric practices can create deeper sexual connections.The conversation also gets into spit play, role-playing, dominance and submission, being a switch, navigating an open marriage, and supporting a partner whose interests differ from your own. Have a topic you want discussed or someone you want to see interviewed? Email butchqueenpodcast@gmail.com.Follow David: instagram.com/davidbrandynFollow Butch Queen After Dark: instagram.com/butchqueenFollow Gabriel: instagram.com/mikegabrielcox
S1 · E46
September 19 · 40 min
Damn Daddy with Damn Daddy!
Happy Bisexual Awareness Week! In this episode of Butch Queen After Dark, David sits down with Damn Daddy Onyx for an open, funny, and unapologetically freaky conversation about bisexuality, dominance, leather culture, marriage, and sexual freedom after 40.Damn Daddy shares how exploring his attraction to men became a sexual awakening, why he identifies as a top who enjoys dominating other tops, and how one night at a Black ONYX event changed his understanding of leather culture. He also opens up about navigating kink while married to someone outside the leather community, establishing hard limits, practicing consent, and embracing body confidence as he approaches 47.Follow David instagram.com/davidbrandynFollow Butch Queen After Dark instagram.com/butchqueenFollow Damn Daddy instagram.com/damndaddyonyx
S1 · E46
September 12 · 50 min
From Slutty to Celibate with Chris Renfro!
Actor, comedian, writer, and UCB Artistic Director Chris Renfro joins David Brandyn for a funny, candid conversation about what happens when your relationship with sex completely changes.Chris opens up about going from a self-described capital-S “Slut” in their twenties to nearly two years of celibacy, and how stepping away from sex gave them space to rethink what they actually wanted from hookups, intimacy, gender, and relationships. The conversation also gets into Chris’s evolving relationship with gender fluidity and they/them pronouns, experimenting with different identities during the pandemic, navigating gender expression as a working actor, and the importance of having friends who give you room to change. Follow David instagram.com/davidbrandyn Follow Butch Queen After Dark instagram.com/butchqueen Follow Chris instagram.com/themeatskeleton
S1 · E45
September 5 · 41 min
Fem Queen After Dark with Stasha Sanchez Garcon!
This week on Butch Queen After Dark, David sits down with ballroom and pageant legend Queen Stasha Sanchez Garcon for a conversation about sex, dating, power, beauty, and what it means to truly know who you are.Stasha gets candid about her love for butch queens, how she wants men to approach her, and the difference between attraction and fetishization. She opens up about navigating relationships as a woman who commands attention everywhere she goes — and why she no longer wants to build a man’s confidence for him. As Stasha puts it, she wants you to come already built up.Follow David instagram.com/davidbrandynFollow Butch Queen After Dark instagram.com/butchqueenFollow Stasha instagram.com/stashasanchez
S1 · E43
August 29 · 52 min
Daddy Issues with Mr. Dominus!
On this week of Butch Queen After Dark, David sits down with Mr. Dominus for a conversation about leather, BDSM, daddy dynamics, submission, and what healthy power exchange can actually look like. They get into his sexual awakening, his attraction to authority and masculinity, his journey into Black leather culture, and the difference between simply finding someone sexy and trusting someone enough to give them real power. They also talk about Mr. Dominus’ current dynamic with Daddy Zeus, including protocols, obedience, polyamory, emotional intimacy, and why their relationship was intentionally built without rushing into sex. The episode turns into a deeper conversation about vetting Doms, earning submission, choosing the right Daddy, and why a serious power dynamic should be built on trust, communication, and compatibility—not just chemistry. Follow David Brandyn instagram.com/davidbrandyn Follow Butch Queen After Dark instagram.com/butchqueenFollow Mr. Dominus instagram.com/mrdominus_dc Check out The Freak N See Podcast!
S1 · E40
August 15 · 56 min
Famous & Freaky with Kid Fury!
This week, David sits down with his number one inspiration, comedian, writer, podcaster, and internet icon Kid Fury! They chat about sex, liberation, growing up Black and gay, bottoming, bathhouses, porn, kink, dating, and why having a public career shouldn’t mean giving up your sexuality.Kid Fury takes us back to one of his earliest sexual awakenings, explains how he eventually realized the world was right about his ass, and talks about learning to embrace his sexuality while building a career in entertainment.This episode is sponsored by my friends over at Frolic Beach Club, taking over Fort Lauderdale May 27–30, 2027 for a four-day getaway created for and centered on queer and trans people of color.From the creators of Frolic Weekend, expect high-energy pool parties, round-the-clock parties, community programming, and community-building events designed around one thing: pure, unapologetic queer joy.🎟️ 4-Day Passes start at $199💳 Payment plans are available🏨 The official host hotel is the Courtyard by Marriott Fort Lauderdale Downtown, where Frolic will also host its rooftop pool party.There’s also a Premium Pass that gives you access to both Frolic Beach Club in Florida and Frolic Weekend in Provincetown.Get your tickets, book your room, and learn more at frolicbeach.club.Follow https://www.instagram.com/frolicbeachclub/ for lineup announcements, hotel updates, and everything coming for Memorial Day Weekend 2027.Follow David instagram.com/davidbrandynFollow Butch Queen After Dark instagram.com/butchqueenFollow Kid Fury instagram.com/kidfury
S1 · E40
August 12 · 50 min
Big Meat, Good Suits, and Fem Dominance with Jeremy Scott!
On this episode of Butch Queen After Dark, Jeremy Scott talks fashion, confidence and clapbacks — and somehow we ended up in church basements, physics study sessions, DL hookups, dick prints and the art of being properly dominated. It’s funny, filthy, unexpectedly vulnerable and a conversation about what happens when you stop trying to squeeze sexuality, gender expression and pleasure into neat little boxes. Follow David Brandyn instagram.com/davidbrandyn Follow Butch Queen After Dark instagram.com/butchqueen Follow Jeremy instagram.com/princesssjeremy
S1 · E39
August 8 · 35 min
Pretty, Spiritual, and Vers with Zaya!
In this episode of BQAD, Zaya joins David for a sexy, spiritual and unexpectedly hilarious conversation about becoming a New York City go-go dancer, exploring ballroom and possibly entering his Butch Queen Sex Siren era. Zaya opens up about identifying as sexually fluid, balancing masculine and feminine energy, and what makes him want to dominate—or surrender to—another man. He shares his experiences with public sex, piss play, foot worship, flipping and exploring pleasure beyond the usual body parts. Follow David Brandyn instagram.com/davidbrandyn Follow Butch Queen After Dark instagram.com/butchqueen Follow Zaya instagram.com/inspiredzaya
S1 · E38
August 5 · 1 hr 9 min
It's Bottom Season with The Messy Thoughts Podcast!
On this episode of BQAD, BJ and LeBron from the Messy Thoughts podcast join David for a hilarious, honest and very freaky conversation about bathhouses, cruising, sexual fantasies, communication and consent. We talk about how their friendship and podcast began, their most memorable sexual adventures and what first-timers should know before stepping inside a gay bathhouse. From getting a room and bringing shower shoes to handling rejection and not spending the entire night waiting for “Prince Charming,” we share the lessons we have learned from navigating these spaces. We also discuss the complicated boundaries around touching and consent in sexual environments, why verbal communication still matters and how to confidently say—or receive—a respectful no. Follow David instagram.com/davibrandyn Follow Butch Queen After Dark instagram.com/butchqueen Follow Messy Thoughts instagram.com/messythoughtspod/
S1 · E39
August 1 · 44 min
Creaming and the Power of Submission with Gemini!
On this episode, one of our most requested guests, Gemini, joins David for an intimate conversation about sexuality, submission, confidence, group sex, body image, porn representation, and living without asking anyone’s permission. Known online for his incredible physique—and especially his butt—Gemini opens up about the personality, experiences, and perspective people rarely get to see on social media. Follow David instagram.com/davidbrandyn Follow Butch Queen After Dark instagram.com/butchqueen Follow Gemini instagram.com/gemini_aesthetics/
S1 · E37
July 29 · 56 min
Sex, Religion, and Bating Rituals with jarrett hill!
This week, David sits down with journalist, author, and host Jarrett Hill for a funny and unexpectedly intimate conversation about religion, sexuality, pleasure, and the freedom of refusing to fit inside other people’s boxes.Jarrett discusses how studying religion helped him realize that he no longer needed Christianity to maintain a relationship with God. He opens up about dismantling purity culture, developing a new sexual ethic rooted in consent and mutual pleasure, and learning to live without separating his professional identity from his sexual self. The conversation also explores enthusiastic consent, intentional self-pleasure, and why being a 6'3" Black man who enjoys bottoming challenges the assumptions people attach to race, masculinity, body type, and sexual position. Follow David Brandyn instagram.com/davidbrandyn Follow Butch Queen After Dark instagram.com/butchqueen Follow Jarrett Hill instagram.com/jarretthill
S1 · E36
July 25 · 49 min
Autism, Unmasking, and Primal Sex with Savant thee Prodigy!
What happens when you finally feel safe enough to drop the mask—even in the bedroom? In this episode of Butch Queen After Dark, David Brandyn sits down with late-diagnosed autistic creator and neurodiversity advocate Savant the Prodigy for an open, funny, sexy, and deeply vulnerable conversation about autism, intimacy, sensory needs, consent, relationships, and learning how to experience pleasure fully unmasked. Savant shares how his autism diagnosis transformed his understanding of sex, communication, rejection sensitivity, jealousy, spontaneous intimacy, and the accommodations that help him feel comfortable and connected. We also get into bathhouse adventures, primal sex, navigating nonverbal moments, spiritual energy, cruising, body confidence, finding safety with a partner—and the very specific fantasy he plans to try next. This conversation is a reminder that great sex is not about following a script. It is about communication, curiosity, accommodations, consent, and feeling safe enough to show up as your complete self. Follow David: instagram.com/davidbrandyn Follow Butch Queen After Dark: instagram.com/butchqueen Follow Savant : instagram.com/savanttheeprodigy
S1 · E38
July 22 · 57 min
Sniffing Pits, Used Underwear, and Bears with Coco Montrese!
Drag Race legend, Miss Gay America 2010 and certified lip sync assassin Coco Montrese joins David Brandyn for one of the wildest and most honest conversations yet on Butch Queen After Dark. Coco opens up about the person behind the makeup, including the difference between Coco and Martin, navigating masculinity outside of drag and refusing to let audiences limit her to a single character. Fresh from São Paulo Pride and DragCon Brazil, Coco takes us inside a massive all-night sex party filled with thousands of men, swings and endless possibilities. She also reveals her love of bear parties, older men, armpits, scents and collecting used underwear from dancers. Follow David Brandyn instagram.com/davidbrandyn Follow Butch Queen After Dark instagram.com/butchqueen Follow Coco Montrese instagram.com/theonlycocomontrese
S1 · E34
July 18 · 54 min
Fem Tops, Gooning, and Toys with Mxter Xero!
In this episode of Butch Queen After Dark, David sits down with Mxter Xero for a conversation about kink, pleasure, power, and what it means to play with intention. Mxter Xero opens up about their sexual awakening during the pandemic, exploring toys, body capacity, and becoming what they call “the Divine Baddie.” Together, they get into puppy play, handlers, free use, exhibitionism, worship, hypnosis, and the difference between simply being dominant and being someone’s Dominant. Follow David instagram.com/davidbrandyn Follow Butch Queen After Dark instagram.com/butchqueen Follow Mxter Xero instagram.com/mxter_xero
S1 · E35
July 15 · 40 min
Bottoming and Bulking with Alex, Q, and Darrien!
In this episode of Butch Queen After Dark, David is joined by three personal trainers — Alex, Darrien, and Q — for a hilarious, honest, and very unfiltered conversation about fitness, sex, body confidence, and what really happens when gym culture meets queer hookup culture. The group gets into gym sex, client boundaries, bottom nutrition, fiber, bulking while bottoming, pre-workout before sex, and what tops should eat if they need endurance. It’s sex education, fitness advice, and Black queer comedy all in one sweaty conversation. Follow David Brandyn instagram.com/davidbrandyn Follow Butch Queen After Dark instagram.com/butchqueen Follow Alex instagram.com/newdayfitnessbyalex Follow Q instagram.com/quise_tyme Follow Darrien instagram.com/drivenbydarrien
S1 · E32
July 11 · 51 min
Boys, Sirs, Daddies, and Dynamics with Sir Chris and Boy Vixxen!
This week on Butch Queen After Dark, David sits down with Sir Chris and Boy Vixxen to talk about leather, power exchange, sir/boy dynamics, and Black queer kink.They get into the difference between a relationship and a dynamic, what it means to negotiate power, how trust is built in kink, and why Black men deserve to see themselves in leather spaces. The conversation also explores ballroom culture, impact play, bondage, sensory deprivation, orgasm control, shame, confidence, and asking for what you want.It’s funny, freaky, educational, and affirming — because kink belongs to us too.Follow David Brandyn instagram.com/davidbrandynFollow Butch Queen After Dark instagram.com/butchqueenFollow Sir Chris instagram.com/BXM2099Follow Boy Vixxen instagram.com/lbv_html

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