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Sheila Gregoire

Tired of Christian pat answers about marriage? The podcast that goes in-depth into marriage, parenting, and even sex--to see how we can live the passionate life we were meant for. Paired with Bare Marriage--the blog!

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S11 · E347
Thursday · 1 hr 11 min
Episode 347: Uniquely Us—Neurodivergence and Marriage with Dr. Stephanie Holmes
Send us Fan Mail What happens when one spouse is neurotypical and the other is neurodivergent, or when both spouses have different neurodivergent needs? Rebecca sits down with Dr. Stephanie Holmes, co-author of Uniquely Us, to explore the realities of neurodiverse marriage, including emotional regulation, mental load, accommodations, gender expectations, and why traditional Christian marriage advice can sometimes make things harder. Together, they unpack how couples can extend grace without enabling, take responsibility without sacrificing themselves, and build a marriage that works for the actual people in it—not some imaginary version of Christian marital perfection! BARE MARRIAGE ANNOUNCEMENTS Preorder Fawn, Sheila's New Book Our Spanish Site is live! TO SUPPORT US: Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work (and get access to the book club!) And check out our Merch, or any of our courses! Give to the Good Fruit Faith Initiative of the Bosko Foundation Join our email list! LINKS MENTIONED: Dr. Stephanie Holmes’ professional bio & website Stephanie & Dan’s bio Stephanie & Dan’s book, “Uniquely Us” Stephanie & Dan’s Website & Podcast “NeuroDiverse Christian Couples” Support the show Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com! Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too! Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.
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S11 · E346
October 29 · 1 hr 27 min
Episode 346: Carl Lentz Has a New Book on Overcoming Infidelity. Should He Have a Platform?
Send us Fan Mail Can a pastor bounce back from scandal and reclaim the spotlight? Sheila and Rebecca unpack Carl & Laura Lentz’s book Overcoming Infidelity, exploring the difference between forgiveness and accountability, the privilege of celebrity pastors, and what genuine healing after betrayal requires. We also ask some bigger questions about evangelical celebrity culture, who deserves a platform, and why supporting the betrayed partner matters just as much as believing in redemption. BARE MARRIAGE ANNOUNCEMENTS Preorder Fawn, Sheila's New Book Our Spanish Site is live! TO SUPPORT US: Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work (and get access to the book club!) And check out our Merch, or any of our courses! Give to the Good Fruit Faith Initiative of the Bosko Foundation Join our email list! LINKS MENTIONED: People Magazine article on Carl Lentz Carl & Laura Lentz’s book, “Overcoming Infidelity” The Whole Story puberty course Daniel Silliman’s book analysis article on Roy’s Report Jay Mallow substack article Carl's convo with Lauren DeMoss Support the show Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com! Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too! Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.
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S11 · E345
October 22 · 47 min
Episode 345: Why is the Old Testament So Cavalier about Abuse of Women? feat. Dr. Helen Paynter
Send us Fan Mail What do we do with Bible passages that seem to portray God as indifferent to violence against women? Sheila sits down with Dr. Helen Paynter of the Centre for the Study of Bible and Violence to explore disturbing Old Testament stories, the historical context of biblical laws, and the difference between describing violence and endorsing it. Together, they consider how reading Scripture through the lens of Jesus can help us wrestle honestly with difficult questions, take survivors' experiences seriously, and rediscover God's care for the vulnerable. BARE MARRIAGE ANNOUNCEMENTS Preorder Fawn, Sheila's New Book Our Spanish Site is live! TO SUPPORT US: Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work (and get access to the book club!) And check out our Merch, or any of our courses! Give to the Good Fruit Faith Initiative of the Bosko Foundation Join our email list! LINKS MENTIONED: Journal for the Study of Bible & Violence Rev. Dr. Helen Paynter’s bio Dr. Helen’s book on Judges 19 Dr. Helen’s blog post on Judges 19 Bare Marriage Podcast Episode 299 with Dr. Helen Paynter The Miss.Judged study on marginalized women of the Bible Support the show Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com! Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too! Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.
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S11 · E344
October 15 · 1 hr
Episode 344: Do Only Wives Have to Act Like Jesus in Marriage? (A Look at Kathy Keller)
Send us Fan Mail Is Philippians 2 a biblical argument for male headship, or is it a call for ALL Christians to give up status and power in the way Jesus did? In this episode we unpack Kathy Keller’s teaching in “The Meaning of Marriage,” examining the assumptions behind complementarianism, the difference between sacrificial love and unequal authority, and what it really means to take Scripture seriously. Join us as we ask whether our ideas about gender roles reflect the upside-down kingdom of Jesus - or preserve the very power structures He came to challenge. BARE MARRIAGE ANNOUNCEMENTS Preorder Fawn, Sheila's New Book Our Spanish Site is live! TO SUPPORT US: Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work (and get access to the book club!) And check out our Merch, or any of our courses! Give to the Good Fruit Faith Initiative of the Bosko Foundation Join our email list! LINKS MENTIONED: CBE International Paper N.T. Wright podcast Mr. Jambo reel The Marriage You Want, our book with a study guide, small group resources, premarital curriculum, and more! Support the show Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com! Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too! Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.
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S11 · E343
October 8 · 1 hr 13 min
Episode 343: Called to Serve - Are We Burying Women's Talents in the Ground?
Send us Fan Mail What happens when women who simply want to serve Jesus keep running into barriers to ministry? First, Hannah Hunt joins us as we hear the remarkable stories behind Called to Serve. Then we talk with Dr. Adam Harbaugh about what it actually takes for churches to rethink theology, history, bylaws, and leadership structures around women in ministry. It's an episode about calling, courage, disruption, and the hopeful possibility of a church where women and men can serve side by side - with Jesus at the center. BARE MARRIAGE ANNOUNCEMENTS Preorder Fawn, Sheila's New Book Our Spanish Site is live! TO SUPPORT US: Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work (and get access to the book club!) And check out our Merch, or any of our courses! Give to the Good Fruit Faith Initiative of the Bosko Foundation Join our email list! LINKS MENTIONED: Called to Serve book Called to Serve website Called to Serve stories & podcast The Whole Story Sex and Puberty Course Dr. Adam Harbaugh’s dissertation Dr. Adam Harbaugh’s website Support the show Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com! Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too! Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.
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S11 · E342
October 1 · 47 min
Episode 342: Mica Miller’s Death and “The Sex Is For Men” Problem
Send us Fan Mail Mica Miller’s Death and “The Sex Is For Men” Problem The tragic Mica Miller documentary The Death of a Pastor’s Wife reveals a deeply evil pastor husband with entitled, misogynistic views about sex. But those views didn’t come out of nowhere. In this interview that Sheila did with Called to Peace Ministries, she connects the dots of how evangelical teaching around sex centers the male experience, feeds entitlement, and creates breeding grounds for abuse. BARE MARRIAGE ANNOUNCEMENTS Preorder Fawn, Sheila's New Book Our Spanish Site is live! TO SUPPORT US: Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work (and get access to the book club!) And check out our Merch, or any of our courses! Give to the Good Fruit Faith Initiative of the Bosko Foundation Join our email list! LINKS MENTIONED: Called to Peace Ministries Called to Peace on Facebook Called to Peace on Instagram The Whole Story Sex and Puberty Course Friday Roundup on the Miller case Support the show Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com! Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too! Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.
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S11 · E341
September 24 · 1 hr 12 min
Episode 341: What’s the Dignity Line? Feat. Dawn from The Minimal Mom
Send us Fan Mail In this episode, we sit down with Dawn from The Minimal Mom to talk about the “dignity line,” a simple framework for recognizing if our relationships are characterized by respect, accountability, trust, and safety - and why patterns matter more than labels. We also dig into the complicated reality of marriage advice, boundaries, divorce, and the pressure Christian women can feel to keep trying no matter what. Then Rebecca joins in for a fiery discussion of a pastor’s sermon on sex and asking whether Christian conversations about sexual generosity actually account for women’s experiences. This week is a wide-ranging conversation about dignity, discernment, healthy relationships, and why sometimes the most important question isn’t “How do we save this marriage?” but “How do we help people become safe and whole?” This is one you don’t want to miss! OUR SPONSOR Thanks to Brazos Press for sponsoring this podcast, so we could tell everyone about the amazing book Look Like a Lady! Listen to our podcast with Elissa BARE MARRIAGE ANNOUNCEMENTS Preorder Fawn, Sheila's New Book Our Spanish Site is live! CHECK OUT OUR OCTOBER SIMULCAST EVENT We're doing our sex talk and a one-day marriage conference! Check it out for more information. Find the church info page here! TO SUPPORT US: Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work (and get access to the book club!) And check out our Merch, or any of our courses! Give to the Good Fruit Faith Initiative of the Bosko Foundation Join our email list! LINKS MENTIONED: Dawn’s Website, “The Minimal Mom” Dawn’s Dignity Line Resources The Big Reasons For Divorce - Podcast Episode 212 The Power of a Praying Wife Review - Podcast Episode 197 Our Love & Respect Deep Dive Series Elissa Yukiko Weichbrodt’s book, “Look Like a Lady” Friday Roundup on Ryan Visconti Ryan Visconti full sermon Support the show Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com! Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too! Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.
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S11 · E340
September 17 · 1 hr 25 min
Episode 340: Live, Laugh, Love with Kristin Du Mez
Send us Fan Mail What if many of the ideas we’ve been taught about “biblical womanhood” have a much stranger history than we realized? We sit down with historian & author Kristin Du Mez to unpack the fascinating—and sometimes surprising—story behind Christian womanhood, from Hannah Whittall Smith and Elisabeth Elliot to Christian fiction, publishing, blogging, and today’s influencer culture. What happens when we stop sanitizing the past, let go of formulas that promise happiness, and make room for a faith that can actually grapple with reality? Let’s find out together! BARE MARRIAGE ANNOUNCEMENTS Preorder Fawn, Sheila's New Book Our Spanish Site is live! CHECK OUT OUR OCTOBER SIMULCAST EVENT We're doing our sex talk and a one-day marriage conference! Check it out for more information. Find the church info page here! TO SUPPORT US: Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work (and get access to the book club!) And check out our Merch, or any of our courses! Give to the Good Fruit Faith Initiative of the Bosko Foundation Join our email list! LINKS MENTIONED: Kristin Du Mez’s book, "Live, Laugh, Love" Kristin’s Website Kristin’s Substack Elissa Yukiko Weichbrodt’s website Elissa’s book, “Look Like a Lady” The Whole Story Holding It Together: How Women Became America’s Safety Net Episode 104: Jesus & John Wayne Katharine Bushnell Episode Support the show Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com! Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too! Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.
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S11 · E339
September 10 · 1 hr 19 min
Episode 339: Look Like a Lady--the 5 Visual Tropes of Womanhood that Keep Us Small
Send us Fan Mail What if some of the messages we've absorbed about “what it means to be a woman” have less to do with the Bible and more to do with centuries of art, culture, and storytelling? Today we have a fascinating conversation with art historian Elissa Yukiko Weichbrodt about five powerful visual tropes—the Venus, Maiden, Vessel, Mother, and Monster—and the surprising, life-giving counter-stories that have been there all along. Together, we explore what happens when we stop seeing women as objects, prizes, symbols, perfect mothers, or threats, and start seeing them as whole people invited to witness, move, create, cultivate, and partner in God's kingdom. CHECK OUT OUR OCTOBER SIMULCAST EVENT We're doing our sex talk and a one-day marriage conference! Check it out for more information. Find the church info page here! TO SUPPORT US: Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work (and get access to the book club!) And check out our Merch, or any of our courses! Give to the Good Fruit Faith Initiative of the Bosko Foundation Join our email list! LINKS MENTIONED: Elissa Yukiko Weichbrodt’s website Elissa’s book, “Look Like a Lady” Elissa’s Instagram Elissa’s Substack Support the show Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com! Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too! Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.
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S11 · E338
September 3 · 1 hr 2 min
Episode 338: What if God is Like a Mother Too? (Love Like a Mother)
Send us Fan Mail What if the Bible has been giving us maternal pictures of God all along—and we've simply been overlooking them? Today we talk with Elizabeth Berget, author of “Love Like a Mother,” about God's compassion, childbirth, motherhood, grief, protection, exhaustion, and the surprising ways women's embodied experiences can illuminate the character of God. Together, we explore how seeing God as both Father and Mother can offer women a deeper sense of belonging, challenge unhealthy ideas about motherhood and spiritual performance, and invite the church into a fuller, more expansive theology. CHECK OUT OUR OCTOBER SIMULCAST EVENT We're doing our sex talk and a one-day marriage conference! Check it out for more information. Find the church info page here! TO SUPPORT US: Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work (and get access to the book club!) And check out our Merch, or any of our courses! Give to the Good Fruit Faith Initiative of the Bosko Foundation Join our email list! LINKS MENTIONED: Elizabeth Berget’s Website Elizabeth’s book, “Love Like a Mother” Elizabeth’s Substack Elizabeth’s Instagram Support the show Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com! Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too! Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.
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S11 · E337
August 27 · 1 hr 1 min
Episode 337: Why Do Evangelicals Ask Women to Do Such Risky Things if They Say They Protect Women?
Send us Fan Mail What happens when “protecting women” actually leaves them with fewer choices, less financial security, and nowhere to go when a marriage becomes unsafe? Today we unpack the hidden risks behind certain conservative Christian teachings about gender, money, work, and submission before sitting down with Sally Hope to talk about abuse, faith, anger, healing, and her survivor resource "No Visible Scars." It’s a thoughtful - and occasionally fiery - conversation about what genuine protection looks like when the goal is not female dependence, but healthy partnership, autonomy, justice, and healing. CHECK OUT OUR OCTOBER SIMULCAST EVENT We're doing our sex talk and a one-day marriage conference! Check it out for more information. Find the church info page here! GET NO VISIBLE SCARS here TO SUPPORT US: Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work (and get access to the book club!) And check out our Merch, or any of our courses! Give to the Good Fruit Faith Initiative of the Bosko Foundation Join our email list! LINKS MENTIONED: CortneyGetsFit TikTok Dynamics of Abusive Relationships Study Sally Hope’s Website Sally’s book “No Visible Scars” Sally’s Always Hopeful program Download the One-Sheet on The Empowered Wife Bare Marriage ToolKit Support the show Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com! Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too! Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.
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S11 · E336
August 20 · 1 hr 51 min
Episode 336: The Problems with The Empowered Wife by Laura Doyle
Send us Fan Mail Bethany Jantzi and Dr. Merry Lin join us in taking a very close—and occasionally incredulous—look at Laura Doyle’s The Empowered Wife, unpacking its promises, “six intimacy skills,” and insistence that women can transform their marriages by changing themselves. They explore where self-care, respect, vulnerability, and intimacy can sound appealing while still becoming dangerous when they encourage women to self-silence, ignore serious problems, or take responsibility for a husband’s behavior. Ultimately, this is a conversation about discernment: what does genuine marital intimacy actually require, and how can we tell the difference between healthy accommodation and simply learning to disappear inside a relationship? It’s a longer one, but 100% worth the listen! CHECK OUT OUR OCTOBER SIMULCAST EVENT We're doing our sex talk and a one-day marriage conference! Check it out for more information. Find the church info page here! TO SUPPORT US: Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work (and get access to the book club!) And check out our Merch, or any of our courses! Give to the Good Fruit Faith Initiative of the Bosko Foundation Join our email list! LINKS MENTIONED: One-Sheet on Laura Doyle’s “The Empowered Wife”: https://baremarriage.com/2026/08/the-problems-with-the-empowered-wife-by-laura-doyle-a-review-with-download/ Bethany Jantzi’s Website: freefromcontrol.ca Dr. Merry Lin’s Website: https://www.drmerry.com/ Pre-Order Sheila & Dr. Merry’s new book “Fawn” Support the show Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com! Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too! Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.
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S11 · E335
August 13 · 1 hr 5 min
Episode 335: If Men Are Leaders...Why Do They Need Women to Fix Them?
Send us Fan Mail What happens when “Christlike manhood” starts sounding suspiciously like Victorian gender roles, male entitlement, and a whole lot of covert nudging? This rage-read of Eric Ludy’s “Warrior Poet Manhood” article unpacks the deeper assumptions behind a theology that tells women to manage, encourage, and even manipulate men into becoming better husbands while men remain in charge. We explore gender stereotypes, power and emotional attunement, the “angel in the house,” and why the upside-down kingdom of Jesus offers a radically different picture of maturity, partnership, and servant leadership. CHECK OUT OUR OCTOBER SIMULCAST EVENT We're doing our sex talk and a one-day marriage conference! Check it out for more information. Find the church info page here! TO SUPPORT US: Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work (and get access to the book club!) And check out our Merch, or any of our courses! Give to the Good Fruit Faith Initiative of the Bosko Foundation Join our email list! LINKS MENTIONED: Eric Ludy’s full article Zach Wagner’s book, “Men of Virtue” Emerson Eggerichs podcast episode Love & Respect 3-Part Docuseries Socioeconomic Status Study The Marriage You Want book & Study Guide Pre-Order Sheila’s new book “Fawn” Support the show Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com! Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too! Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.
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S11 · E334
August 6 · 1 hr 19 min
Episode 334: What Should Accountability for Purity Culture Authors Look Like?
Send us Fan Mail Buckle up for the final episode of our 3-part series on purity culture! In this episode we dig into what genuine accountability actually looks like when influential Christian leaders (namely Dannah Gresh) recognize the harm their teachings have caused. Through a thoughtful discussion of repentance, public responsibility, and the lasting impact of purity culture, we continue to ask why admitting specific mistakes remains so difficult—and why doing so matters for healing and preventing future harm. Also, is Dannah’s rewrite of “And the Bride Wore White” really any better? Tune in to find out! CHECK OUT OUR OCTOBER SIMULCAST EVENT We're doing our sex talk and a one-day marriage conference! Check it out for more information. Find the church info page here! TO SUPPORT US: Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work (and get access to the book club!) And check out our Merch, or any of our courses! Give to the Good Fruit Faith Initiative of the Bosko Foundation Join our email list! LINKS MENTIONED: Bare Marriage Episode 290 on Authoritarianism The free book The Authoritarians (Includes the quizzes you can take to see where you score!) Bare Marriage Facebook Page She Deserves Better The Whole Story resource for parents Support the show Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com! Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too! Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.
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July 30 · 1 hr 16 min
Episode 333: Good Fruit - Are We Measuring It Right When It Comes to Christian Marriage Teaching?
Send us Fan Mail What does Jesus actually mean when he tells us to judge a tree by its fruit - and what happens when we apply that idea to marriage and Christian teaching? Today Joanna, our resident statistician, joins us as we dig into the biblical meaning of “good fruit,” unpack the research behind our marriage studies, and explore what trust, spiritual fruit, and decision-making have to do with one another. We also welcome Dr. Camden Morgante and discuss her amazing book “Recovering From Purity Culture”. Settle in for Part 2 of our 3-part series to kick off this new season - you don’t want to miss this one! CHECK OUT OUR OCTOBER SIMULCAST EVENT We're doing our sex talk and a one-day marriage conference! Check it out for more information. TO SUPPORT US: Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work (and get access to the book club!) And check out our Merch, or any of our courses! Give to the Good Fruit Faith Initiative of the Bosko Foundation Join our email list! LINKS MENTIONED: About Josh Butler’s book “Beautiful Union” Our podcasts referencing Josh Butler: Episode 260 Episode 301 M.J. Langham Thread link Dr. Camden Morgante’s book, “Recovering From Purity Culture” Dr. Camden’s Substack Harmful Outcomes of Purity Culture Facebook Quotes Support the show Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com! Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too! Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.
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July 23 · 1 hr 13 min
Episode 332: When Purity Culture Supporters Try to Rewrite History (Dannah Gresh Case Study)
Send us Fan Mail And….we’re BACK with a fresh new season of the Bare Marriage podcast! We’re kicking things off with a lively deep dive into the debate over purity culture, asking what happens when influential Christian voices revise their past teachings, redefine the terms, and rewrite the history of what they once taught. We unpack the difference between biblical chastity and shame-based purity culture, take on straw man arguments and shifting definitions, and explore how messages about sex, marriage, authority, and obligation can shape the church in ways we may not always recognize. Real change requires more than just saying something was harmful - it requires honesty, accountability, and a willingness to pursue better fruit. This is Part 1 of a 3-part series, so let’s get to it and be sure to tune in next week! CHECK OUT OUR OCTOBER SIMULCAST EVENT We're doing our sex talk and a one-day marriage conference! Check it out for more information. TO SUPPORT US: Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work (and get access to the book club!) And check out our Merch, or any of our courses! Give to the Good Fruit Faith Initiative of the Bosko Foundation Join our email list! LINKS MENTIONED: Friday Round-Up link on Alisa Childers Our statement on Shaunti Feldhahn (with links to her statement) Roys Report article on Sheila calling out Focus on the Family The Whole Story Course Our book, “She Deserves Better” Dannah’s interview with Juli Slattery Dannah’s interview with Focus on the Family Zachary Wagner’s book, “Men of Virtue” Support the show Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com! Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too! Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.
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June 4 · 1 hr 13 min
Episode 331: Keith & Sheila Respond to Crazy Clips (Is it That Jezebel Spirit Again?)
Send us Fan Mail In this season finale we take a dive into social media, examining the messages behind viral clips from popular marriage and church influencers, and challenge fear-based teachings about marriage, parenting, gender, and authority. Through our thoughtful (and often hilarious) analyses and lively discussion, we hope this conversation encourages you to pursue healthier, Christ-centered relationships rooted in mutual respect, truth, and genuine spiritual freedom. CHECK OUT OUR OCTOBER SIMULCAST EVENT We're doing our sex talk and a one-day marriage conference! Check it out for more information. TO SUPPORT US: Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work (and get access to the book club!) And check out our Merch, or any of our courses! Give to the Good Fruit Faith Initiative of the Bosko Foundation Join our email list! LINKS MENTIONED: Zachary Wagner’s Book “Men of Virtue” Podcast Episode 262: Problems with Marriage on the Rock by Jimmy Evans Episode 262 Blog Post Sheila’s Substack Alex Falcone's reel about divorce stats (he's the good one!) Support the show Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com! Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too! Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.
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S10 · E330
May 28 · 58 min
Episode 330: Men of Virtue with Zachary Wagner
Send us Fan Mail What does it actually mean to be a “good man” in today’s world—and does Christianity offer something deeper than dominance, leadership clichés, or internet manosphere culture? In this thoughtful and surprisingly hopeful conversation, Zachary Wagner joins us to unpack masculinity through the lens of the fruits of the Spirit, exploring everything from loneliness and power to marriage, self-control, parenting boys, and the modern crisis of meaning for men. Together, we challenge shallow cultural narratives and argue that true strength looks a lot more like love, service, courage, and emotional maturity than performance or control. Listen in as we propose a healthier vision of manhood for both men and the people who love them. TO SUPPORT US: Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work (and get access to the book club!) And check out our Merch, or any of our courses! Give to the Good Fruit Faith Initiative of the Bosko Foundation Join our email list! LINKS MENTIONED: Zachary Wagner’s Website Zachary’s Book: “Men of Virtue” Our conversation with Zachary about his book Non-Toxic Masculinity Support the show Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com! Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too! Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.
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May 21 · 1 hr 13 min
Episode 329: Parenting With Confidence Without Messing Up Your Kids with Wendy Snyder
Send us Fan Mail What happens when you know the old “because I said so” parenting style isn’t healthy…but you also don’t want to raise entitled little tyrants? In this episode, parenting coach Wendy Snyder joins us for a deeply practical, heartfelt, (and hilariously honest) conversation about strong-willed kids, emotional regulation, yelling, boundaries, anxiety, and what healthy authority actually looks like in family life. Together, we unpack the difference between authoritarian, permissive, and powerful parenting—and why so many parents swing wildly between all three. From power struggles and picky eaters to shame spirals and unmet emotional needs, this episode is packed with compassionate, evidence-based wisdom that will leave you feeling both challenged and hopeful. If you’ve ever wondered how to parent with confidence without fear, guilt, or constant battles, this conversation is for you. CHECK OUT OUR OCTOBER SIMULCAST EVENT We're doing our sex talk and a one-day marriage conference! Check it out for more information. TO SUPPORT US: Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work (and get access to the book club!) And check out our Merch, or any of our courses! Give to the Good Fruit Faith Initiative of the Bosko Foundation Join our email list! LINKS MENTIONED: Wendy Snyder’s Book “Fresh Start Your Family” Pre-Order Link & Bonuses Wendy’s Website Wendy’s Instagram Support the show Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com! Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too! Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.
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May 14 · 58 min
Episode 328: The Billy Graham Rule and What It Does to Men Too
Send us Fan Mail What if the “Billy Graham rule” (or the evangelical distortion of it) says more about fear than integrity? In this episode, Danielle Strickland helps us unpack the assumptions behind the idea that men and women can’t be alone together—and ask whether it protects integrity or quietly reinforces suspicion, segregation, and control. Drawing on Scripture, leadership research, and real-world church experiences, our conversation explores how transparency—not isolation—is a stronger safeguard against abuse and moral failure. We also dig into how purity culture, pornography narratives, and fear-based systems shape the way we interpret opposite-sex friendships, mentoring, and authority. If you’re ready to rethink gender, leadership, and trust through a more Jesus-centered lens, this one will give you plenty to chew on. TO SUPPORT US: Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work (and get access to the book club!) And check out our Merch, or any of our courses! Give to the Good Fruit Faith Initiative of the Bosko Foundation Join our email list! LINKS MENTIONED: Danielle’s Book, “Better Together” Danielle’s Website Danielle’s Substack “The Billy Graham Rule” aka The Modesto Manifesto Podcast Episode 192: How Every Young Man's Battle Makes Everything Worse: "Recovering From Purity Culture" by Dr. Camden Morgante The Whole Story courses Support the show Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com! Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too! Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.
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