All In Podcast

You're Not Going To Die Alone (How To Not Lose Hope In Dating)

Have you ever asked the question, "Am I going to die alone?" For a lot of people, that fear can make dating feel hopeless.The guys are here to help unpack the fear of never finding "the one." It can be scary dating as a young adult, and that fear could lead to a lot of feeling like there isn't any hope, but there is hope with just a little perspective change. John Michael and Luke also talk about the two stereotypes they see in men who are looking to date: the guy who wants to get married but never actually asks anyone out, and the guy who thinks he needs to “fix himself” before dating.Throughout the episode they also talk dating apps like Hinge, whether or not blind setups are a good idea, and cover the concept of “dropping the glove.” If you’re single and wondering if you’re ever going to find someone, or if you know someone who is struggling with hope in dating, this episode is for you. JOIN US! At the SEEK27 Conference. Register here. https://bit.ly/4cMLabj Use the code ALLIN in your registration to receive 13 exclusive SEEK talks you can't find anywhere else!

5 Ways To Keep The Peace And Your Sanity In Your Home

Tension is inevitable, but how we handle it can change everything. This week, the fellas unpack what happens when tension shows up in our household relationships. From roommates to spouses, they talk about why the tension we feel isn’t always about the situation itself, how our own internal struggles can get projected onto the people around us. They also cover how sometimes, just addressing the issue could solve a lot of problems and remove tension. They also break down five practical ways to navigate conflict. If you've ever found yourself avoiding a difficult conversation, blowing up over something small, or wondering how to actually build more peace in your relationships, you should be all in for this episode. JOIN US! At the SEEK27 Conference. Register here. https://bit.ly/4cMLabj Use the code ALLIN in your registration to receive 13 exclusive SEEK talks you can't find anywhere else!

5 Reasons Why College Football Is Good For America & For You

College football season is upon us again, and to celebrate the guys are unpacking why college football is more than just a sport. From tailgates and rivalries to family traditions passed down for generations they talk about how simply wearing a jersey can give you an instant connection with a stranger, why college football gives people an excuse to gather, and how a shared love for a team can bring people together even when they disagree about almost everything else. If you've ever wondered why people care so much about college football, or why something as simple as a game can create such a powerful sense of belonging, this episode is for you.

How To Handle Change When It Comes

This week on the All-In Podcast, we’re talking about why change can feel so overwhelming, and how to navigate it without losing yourself. Before that though, we're introduced to our NEW HOST, Luke Landiak! We hear about what brought him to be on the podcast, and what makes him All In. John Michael and Luke then break down controllable vs. uncontrollable change, the blame game, choosing your environment intentionally, and the difference between exterior and interior surrender. Most importantly, they unpack why change isn’t just a shift in circumstances—it can feel like a complete change in how we see ourselves. The key? Finding the things that don’t change, especially our identity as sons of God.

The Breakup And What Comes Next

Breakups are a difficult thing to go through, especially when we don't know what's going to happen next. Unfortunately, this episode is going to change how All In looks permanently as the fellas say goodbye to two of the founding hosts of the podcast. Luckily though, they're not leaving us in the lurch, there's already an amazing plan going forward, and amazing new topics to dive into, as we enter this new era of All In. You're not going to want to miss this!

Surface Level Is Ruining Friendships—3 Ways to Stop It From Happening

Do you have friends but still feel like nobody really knows you? This week, the guys unpack the unofficial “friendship tier system,” why deep friendships get harder as we get older, and how to take a Tier 4 friend and turn him into a Day One homie. They talk about why vulnerability doesn’t have to mean oversharing, how trust actually develops, and why the best friendships require someone to make the first move. Along the way, they share stories about college friendships, moving to new cities, marriage and kids, friendship “relegation,” and the difference between simply hanging out and actually inviting someone into your life. If you want deeper friendships but aren’t sure how to get there, this episode is for you.

Why “She’s Just A Friend” Is A Lie

This week, we're tackling one of the most debated questions in dating and friendship: Can men and women really be just friends? We unpack where healthy friendships become emotionally confusing, why so many relationships stay stuck in the gray area, and the subtle boundaries that can protect your heart without making you afraid of genuine friendship. Along the way, we share embarrassing college stories, friendships we got wrong, advice from wise priests, and the practical rules that have shaped how we navigate relationships today. If you've ever wondered, "Are we just friends... or is this becoming something more?" this conversation is for you.

How To Stop Being The Pushover Friend

This week, the guys unpack why boundaries feel so awkward to set, why so many of us confuse them with rejection, and how healthy communication can actually make friendships stronger instead of weaker. They share stories about calling friends too often after switching to remote work, having the courage to lovingly challenge a friend, navigating friendships after marriage and kids, and learning that sometimes "I can't make it" isn't personal—it's simply part of a healthy friendship. If you've ever felt guilty for protecting your time, struggled to say "no" to someone you love, or wondered whether setting a boundary could actually strengthen a friendship, this episode is for you.

Work Friends: The Good, The Bad, The Ugly

Some coworkers become lifelong friends. Others become the people you avoid in the break room. This week, the guys clock in to the world of work friendships—the good, the bad, and the ugly. They talk about how workplace friendships start with trust, how a project at work can lead to close friends, and they struggle with how to show charity and understand to that one coworker you just can't stand. Along the way, they share awkward office bathroom stories, Clayton's transition into the commercial paint industry, and 3 key moments that determine your friendship outside of the workplace. Whether you love your coworkers, tolerate them, or are already thinking of your office nemesis while reading this, this episode will help you navigate those work relationships with more wisdom, charity, and intentionality.

How To Avoid Just Saying "You're Wrong"

Most people avoid hard conversations. We stay silent to keep the peace, or we say everything at once and call it "honesty." Real relationship lives somewhere in the middle ground.This week, the guys unpack why correction is one of the hardest—and most important—parts of any healthy relationship. They talk about why we instinctively resist being corrected, how fear keeps us from speaking up, and why trust has to come before truth. They also confront the hard question, "why are we hardest on the people we love the most?"Along the way, they swap stories about giving unwanted advice, marriage conflicts, lessons in parenting, and why you have to build trust before you can correct the people in your life. If you've struggled to give feedback, need to have a tough conversation, or are avoiding just saying "you're wrong" this episode is for you! *LISTEN & FOLLOW US EVERYWHERE*Listen on Spotify → https://open.spotify.com/show/4vnHBKphp6xEBUsJNerBdT?si=59poYSVvQVOzj8TOIaHPaQ Listen on Apple Podcasts → https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/all-in/id1831854757---*CONNECT WITH FOCUS ON SOCIAL MEDIA:*Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/focuscatholic/ ---*HAVE A QUESTION OR GUEST SUGGESTION?*Email us at *allin@focus.org* or leave a comment!Join Our Email List → http://seekreplay.com For more original content and early releases, please visit http://seekreplay.com All In is a production of FOCUS. http://www.focus.orgSynID: MB01RN8RZW5FOHO

Is Locking In Keeping You Lonely?

The world tells men to work harder, stay disciplined, cut out distractions. But what if that isolation for success is what is stopping you from becoming the man you're meant to be? This week, the guys unpack the rise of the lone wolf mentality and explore why so many driven men see friendships as obstacles instead of assets. How the "lock in" mentality is actually inhibiting real connections and actual success. If you've ever felt like pursuing your goals meant doing life alone—or wondered how to build meaningful community without losing your ambition—this episode is for you.

Immature Friendships And When To Let Them Go

Some friendships are meant to last a lifetime. Others were only meant for a season. This week, the guys tackle one of the hardest parts of adulthood: realizing you've outgrown certain friendships. They unpack the difference between healthy distance and avoidance, why some friendships naturally fade as life changes, and how to know when it's time to invest deeper in a smaller circle instead of trying to keep everyone close. Along the way, they share stories of high school teammates, college friendships that fizzled out, moving across the country, navigating different stages of life, and the awkward reality of wondering if something feels "off" in a friendship. They also wrestle with when difficult conversations are necessary—and when it's okay to simply recognize that a friendship has become seasonal. If you've ever wondered whether you're growing apart from someone—or how to let go of a friendship with grace—this episode is for you.

5 Ways To Solve The Loneliness Crisis

Most guys don’t wake up one day and decide to be lonely. It usually happens overtime, when life changes some in, you feel disconnected from the rest of your peers, or sometimes when you just think you can do it all by yourself. This week, the guys tackle the loneliness epidemic facing men today. They share personal stories of feeling alone, navigating major life transitions, and realizing that having lots of acquaintances isn’t the same as being truly known. The guys also dive into some of their fourth-grade friendships, remote work struggles, and why sometimes the best way to not feel lonely, is to just make that phone call. If you've ever felt like everyone else has their people while you're trying to figure it out on your own, this episode is for you.

Cultural Catholicism Is Killing Your Faith

A lot of people say they’re Catholic. Way fewer actually live like it. The guys break down the gap, from Pew Research stats to real-life experience, between identifying as Catholic and actually practicing the faith. Why do so many people claim it but not live it? And what’s the difference between someone who inherited their faith and someone who actually chose it? They talk about growing up around “cultural Catholicism,” hiding their faith when it wasn’t cool, and the moment things started to shift when they met people who actually lived it. Not perfectly, but authentically. Because that’s the difference. It’s not about knowing more. It’s about living differently. This episode is about moving your faith from something you say… to something that shapes everything you do. Hit follow or subscribe so you don’t miss future episodes! LISTEN & FOLLOW US EVERYWHERE: Listen on Spotify → ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/4vnHBKphp6xEBUsJNerBdT?si=59poYSVvQVOzj8TOIaHPaQ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Listen on Apple Podcasts → ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/all-in/id1831854757⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Listen on YouTube→ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@All-In-focus-c⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ CONNECT WITH FOCUS ON SOCIAL MEDIA: Instagram → ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/focuscatholic/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ HAVE A QUESTION OR GUEST SUGGESTION? Email us at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠allin@focus.org⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ or leave a comment! Join Our Email List → ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠seekreplay.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ For more original content and early releases, please visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠seekreplay.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ All In is a production of FOCUS. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.focus.org

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Why God Feels Distant Even When He Isn’t

A lot of people think finding God means doing something more going somewhere else, becoming a different version of yourself. But what if He’s already in your day and you’re just missing it? The guys talk about what we actually mean when we say “God feels distant” and why it usually has more to do with us than Him. From retreat highs and “honeymoon” faith to the slow return to normal life, they unpack why faith can start to feel routine and even boring. And then they get practical. From “fencepost” habits throughout the day to the role of discipline over emotion, they talk about how to actually build a life where you notice God in the middle of your commute, your work, your family, and the same responsibilities you show up to every day. Because most of your life isn’t lived in big moments. It’s lived in the ordinary. And that’s exactly where God meets you. Hit follow or subscribe so you don’t miss future episodes! LISTEN & FOLLOW US EVERYWHERE: Listen on Spotify → ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/4vnHBKphp6xEBUsJNerBdT?si=59poYSVvQVOzj8TOIaHPaQ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Listen on Apple Podcasts → ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/all-in/id1831854757⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Listen on YouTube→ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@All-In-focus-c⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ CONNECT WITH FOCUS ON SOCIAL MEDIA: Instagram → ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/focuscatholic/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ HAVE A QUESTION OR GUEST SUGGESTION? Email us at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠allin@focus.org⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ or leave a comment! Join Our Email List → ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠seekreplay.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ For more original content and early releases, please visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠seekreplay.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ All In is a production of FOCUS. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.focus.org

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Why Surrender Feels Like Losing But Isn’t

This week, the guys unpack why surrender feels so hard, why men often confuse it with losing, and how trying to control every outcome can leave us frustrated, anxious, and exhausted. From golf-course meltdowns to family struggles, they explore what it actually looks like to trust God without checking out of the fight. If you've ever prayed, “Lord, I surrender this,” and then immediately tried to take it back, this episode is for you. Hit follow or subscribe so you don’t miss future episodes! LISTEN & FOLLOW US EVERYWHERE: Listen on Spotify → ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/4vnHBKphp6xEBUsJNerBdT?si=59poYSVvQVOzj8TOIaHPaQ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Listen on Apple Podcasts → ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/all-in/id1831854757⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Listen on YouTube→ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@All-In-focus-c⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ CONNECT WITH FOCUS ON SOCIAL MEDIA: Instagram → ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/focuscatholic/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ HAVE A QUESTION OR GUEST SUGGESTION? Email us at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠allin@focus.org⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ or leave a comment! Join Our Email List → ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠seekreplay.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ For more original content and early releases, please visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠seekreplay.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ All In is a production of FOCUS. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.focus.org

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Am I Going to Miss My Calling?

A lot of guys aren’t afraid of choosing the wrong thing. They’re afraid of missing the one thing that would make their life work. The guys talk about decision paralysis from spending way too long picking an energy drink to overthinking major life choices like jobs, relationships, and where to live. Why do small decisions feel so heavy? And why do we treat every choice like it determines our entire future? They unpack the fear behind it: the belief that there’s only one “right” path and if you miss it, you’re stuck. But the conversation shifts. What if calling isn’t one narrow road? What if God isn’t waiting for you to mess it up? And what if discernment actually requires action not just overthinking? This episode is about learning to move, trusting your formation, and realizing that faith isn’t about finding the perfect path. It’s about walking with God wherever you are. Hit follow or subscribe so you don’t miss future episodes! LISTEN & FOLLOW US EVERYWHERE: Listen on Spotify → ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/4vnHBKphp6xEBUsJNerBdT?si=59poYSVvQVOzj8TOIaHPaQ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Listen on Apple Podcasts → ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/all-in/id1831854757⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Listen on YouTube→ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@All-In-focus-c⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ CONNECT WITH FOCUS ON SOCIAL MEDIA: Instagram → ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/focuscatholic/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ HAVE A QUESTION OR GUEST SUGGESTION? Email us at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠allin@focus.org⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ or leave a comment! Join Our Email List → ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠seekreplay.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ For more original content and early releases, please visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠seekreplay.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ All In is a production of FOCUS. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.focus.org

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Why Someone Has to Lead and Why It Might Be You

What happens when something goes wrong and no one steps up? The guys kick things off with a chaotic Mount Rushmore of leaders from Dumbledore to Vince Lombardi, but quickly turn to the real question: what actually makes someone a leader? Because most of the time, leadership doesn’t show up as a title. It shows up as a moment. A gap. A responsibility. A situation where someone needs to go first. They talk about the men who shaped them including stories of quiet, everyday leadership that didn’t come with recognition and why influence matters more than position. And then the conversation gets deeper: what happens to a generation that’s grown comfortable? Why do men still crave a battle to fight? And what does leadership look like when the “battle” isn’t obvious? This episode is about stepping up before you feel ready, saying yes in the small moments, and realizing that leadership isn’t something you wait for. It’s something you choose. Hit follow or subscribe so you don’t miss future episodes! LISTEN & FOLLOW US EVERYWHERE: Listen on Spotify → ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/4vnHBKphp6xEBUsJNerBdT?si=59poYSVvQVOzj8TOIaHPaQ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Listen on Apple Podcasts → ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/all-in/id1831854757⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Listen on YouTube→ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@All-In-focus-c⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ CONNECT WITH FOCUS ON SOCIAL MEDIA: Instagram → ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/focuscatholic/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ HAVE A QUESTION OR GUEST SUGGESTION? Email us at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠allin@focus.org⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ or leave a comment! Join Our Email List → ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠seekreplay.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ For more original content and early releases, please visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠seekreplay.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ All In is a production of FOCUS. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.focus.org

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How to Build a Life You Don’t Need a Vacation From

A vacation can be amazing. But if it’s the only time you feel like you can breathe, something’s off. The guys talk about why some trips leave you refreshed and others just make you feel like you need another vacation when you get back. From Cancun conversations and 8 hours of sleep to jam-packed schedules and exhausting group dynamics, they unpack what actually makes something feel restorative. But the real conversation goes deeper: why a vacation can’t fix a life that’s overloaded. They get into overcommitting (even to good things), the pressure to say yes to everything, and how easy it is to build a life that looks full, but doesn’t feel sustainable. And what it actually looks like to create rhythms at home, at work, and in your relationships that make everyday life something you don’t need to escape from. Because rest isn’t something you visit a few times a year. It’s something you build into your life. Hit follow or subscribe so you don’t miss future episodes! LISTEN & FOLLOW US EVERYWHERE: Listen on Spotify → ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/4vnHBKphp6xEBUsJNerBdT?si=59poYSVvQVOzj8TOIaHPaQ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Listen on Apple Podcasts → ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/all-in/id1831854757⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Listen on YouTube→ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@All-In-focus-c⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ CONNECT WITH FOCUS ON SOCIAL MEDIA: Instagram → ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/focuscatholic/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ HAVE A QUESTION OR GUEST SUGGESTION? Email us at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠allin@focus.org⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ or leave a comment! Join Our Email List → ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠seekreplay.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ For more original content and early releases, please visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠seekreplay.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ All In is a production of FOCUS. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.focus.org

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When Working Hard Turns Against You

Hustle culture has a weird rule: if you’re not tired, you must not be doing life right. The guys talk about how “busy” became a status symbol, why being always available (Teams, email, texts at 7pm) quietly fries your brain, and how work can become an endless cycle of reacting instead of actually moving the needle. They unpack the difference between excellence and overwork, why boundaries feel impossible in a culture that rewards instant replies, and how “tired” somehow became a badge of honor. Then they flip the conversation: what if the antidote isn’t laziness, but leisure? Not scrolling. Not numbing out. Actual rest that brings you back to God, your family, and the responsibilities in front of you. Also included: Kobe stories, “finance slop,” Brick device evangelism, and a ranked list of the day’s monologues. If hustle has started costing you more than it’s paying you, this one’s for you. Hit follow or subscribe so you don’t miss future episodes! LISTEN & FOLLOW US EVERYWHERE: Listen on Spotify → ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/4vnHBKphp6xEBUsJNerBdT?si=59poYSVvQVOzj8TOIaHPaQ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Listen on Apple Podcasts → ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/all-in/id1831854757⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Listen on YouTube→ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@All-In-focus-c⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ CONNECT WITH FOCUS ON SOCIAL MEDIA: Instagram → ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/focuscatholic/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ HAVE A QUESTION OR GUEST SUGGESTION? Email us at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠allin@focus.org⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ or leave a comment! Join Our Email List → ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠seekreplay.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ For more original content and early releases, please visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠seekreplay.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ All In is a production of FOCUS. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.focus.org

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