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You Choose with Billy Garton Jr.

Billy Garton Jr.

A podcast designed to inspire a deeper sense of belonging, to self, others and the world. Through intimate dialogues with leading psychologists, self help gurus, and world leaders in business and sport, we explore the nature of consciousness, the psyche and its role in human potential, and why we’re really here. With the chief aim of equipping you with tools to consciously choose a more empowered, aligned & purpose driven life.

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  • #22
    Yesterday · 1 hr 24 min

    #022 - Koa Smith - The 3 RULES for Living an Extraordinary Life

    This may be my favorite conversation we've had on the show so far. Koa Smith is a professional surfer who made a name for himself chasing the biggest and most beautiful waves on earth and capturing them on camera. His career and life was dramatically altered when a collision with a reef caused a traumatic brain injury. He lost his memory, sense of self and fell into a deep depression. This is a conversation on identity, on intimacy, and on integrity. It's about learning to feel again, dissolving the illusion of separate between you and another, but also between you and everything you desire. There aren't many people more equipped to talk about death, about discovering inner peace amidst chaos, and about learning how to find purpose in life again. We talk about 3 rules for life that were given to him by a shaman, 2 words that keep you from having what you desire, and 1 way of being (Hint: trying to figure it out) that keeps us in endless suffering. We also deep dive on the modalities that have changed his life, Transcendental Meditation, Psychedelics, Joe Dispenza...and the most important one, CHOICE. I am reminded that the tools are only as effective as we choose to be with the information that is revealed. That is why life is the ceremony, and the rest are just companions supporting our awareness. After awareness always comes choice, and we must CHOOSE differently if we wish to witness new and better circumstances for our life. Enjoy, and if you do, please subscribe to the show. The chances are, if not subscribed, you will miss future episodes that, I will assert, are life altering. I am grateful for all the love and support. Follow Koa: https://www.instagram.com/koasmith/?hl=enJoin Koa's Community "Spaceship to Many": https://www.skool.com/spaceshiptomany/about?utm_source=ig&utm_medium=social&utm_content=link_in_bioFollow Billy: https://www.instagram.com/billygartonjr/?hl=enFollow the Podcast: https://www.instagram.com/youchoosepodcast/?hl=enChapters0:00 Introduction1:51 Koa's Brain Injury2:11 Facing Identity Crisis without Surfing4:50 Surfing Can Be a Dangerous Addiction5:30 Being Raised by the Ocean7:20 A More Empowering Relationship to Life8:48 Koa's Relationship to Death13:13 Fear Is the Greatest Illusion17:16 Billy on Losing His Own Career18:15 Strip Away Every Vice21:25 Meditation Became His Secret Weapon22:19 The Thought That's Holding You Back24:37 Transcendental Meditation Opened His Eyes25:24 Healing Depression in One Experience28:03 Seven Days With Joe Dispenza30:02 Koa on Learning to Feel His Heart32:34 Fear Is in the Thought34:40 The Two Words That Keep You Separate35:48 The Moment He Felt He Belonged38:56 Humans Longing For More41:26 Crisis Is God's Whisper Getting Louder43:35 How to Hear Your Intuition45:05 Koa's Business, Spaceship to Many47:24 Nine Months Without Alcohol49:14 Billy on Faith, Money and This Show52:07 You Can't Engineer Belonging54:24 The Only Way to Experience True Belonging56:52 Koa on Not Fitting In1:01:59 What's Blocking Your River1:03:08 Challenge Nobody Does1:07:03 The Lesson that Changed Billy's Life1:09:02 The 3 Rules for an Extraordinary Life1:15:17 Turning Down the Noise1:19:41 This Perspective Will Free You to Truly Live1:23:26 What's Next for Koa

  • #21
    September 8 · 1 hr 37 min

    #021 - Elliot Bewick - 21 Year Old Atheist: "There is a Rise in Performative Christianity"

    Does God exist? Are all these Christian people genuine? Is Christianity the way? Are SSRIs and antidepressants harmful? What even is depression? Can I out-will the algorithm? How can I retrain myself to focus? If any of these sound like questions you are asking, give the next 97 minutes your full attention. Elliot Bewick is a 21 year old atheist and the host of The Next Generation, a podcast for...you guessed it. I hope you enjoy, and if you do, let me know by liking, commenting, and subscribing to the show. I am committed out of my mind to bringing you conversations that alter the direction of your life, leading you to a deeper sense of belonging in the context of the world. The views expressed are those of the guest, and this conversation is intended for general informational purposes only. It should not be used as a substitute for professional medical or mental health advice. Never stop or change prescribed medication without speaking to your doctor. Follow Elliot - https://www.instagram.com/elliotbewick Follow the show - https://www.instagram.com/youchoosepodcast/ Follow Billy - https://www.instagram.com/billygartonjr CHAPTERS: 0:00 Why He Hid the Bible 1:28 Why Gen Z Is Flocking to the Pews 2:34 We Have No Blueprint Anymore 4:17 The Two Questions That Give Life Meaning 8:33 What If There Is No Meaning? 10:29 What Happens When You Kill God 11:58 Is Being an Atheist Good for Marketing? 13:15 Christianity Would Be Better for Marketing 14:46 The Rise of the Performative Christian 16:58 "Try Harder. You Don't Love Jesus." 20:27 Nobody Ever Knows That God Is Real 21:14 Faith Is the Whole Point 22:15 Ram Dass and the Insane Asylum 24:31 What Is Love Without God? 24:50 How Many Women Are on Antidepressants 25:42 Nobody Knows What Depression Is 26:19 The Chemical Imbalance Was Invented 29:23 His Friend, the Meds and the Breakup 32:24 19 Yr Old Girl DM's Elliot About Zoloft 33:18 She Couldn't Feel Anything 34:09 Where Most Sexual Dysfunction Comes From 36:55 We Live in a Culture of Too Many Labels 41:02 The Day at the White House 42:40 Who the Girl in the DM Actually Is 45:01 What Filled the Last Gap in His Faith 46:52 Love Is a Choice, Not a Feeling 51:37 The Information Age Promised You a Recipe 52:55 Just Do 53:39 "I'm Confused as F*ck Right Now" 55:26 Gen Z are the Victims 56:39 The Blame Game Has No Solutions 1:00:52 The Girl Who Sued Meta and Won 1:02:00 Your Problem Isn't Doom Scrolling 1:05:00 Compartmentalise Your Scrolling 1:05:31 The Science of Getting into Flow State 1:08:18 Breaking a Social Media Addiction 1:09:38 What a Monk Taught Him About Impulse 1:10:43 Willpower Is the Wrong Frame 1:12:13 Our Generation's Worst Habit 1:13:17 Put Down a Vice, Don't Pick Up a Virtue 1:19:43 Comfort Creates a Numbness to Life 1:24:21 The Study on Choosing the Wrong Answer 1:25:14 What Does It Mean to Belong? 1:29:46 Loneliness Is Not About Other People 1:31:01 The Global Village Problem 1:33:24 Elliot's Sponsor, Shift Your Phone

  • #20
    September 1 · 1 hr 13 min

    #020 - Adam Jackson - Why Most Men Can't Love One Woman Fully

    If you have ever looked at a man you love and wondered what is actually going on in there, watch this. If you are raising a boy and you can feel the internet reaching him faster than you can, watch this. If you are still carrying something left unsaid with your own father, watch this for the way through. And if you're a man who has done years of work on himself and still feels broken, watch this. There is a way back...and it isn't more discipline. Adam Jackson is the cofounder of the largest men's work organization in the world, Sacred Sons. Over 20,000 men have made their way through the Sacred Sons programming. There are few people more equipped to talk about men than this man. Expect to learn why combat is important for men, what twenty thousand men have actually admitted to him behind closed doors, why he doesn't fully trust men and what he means by that, the most important parts of manhood, of fatherhood, and of true intimacy in relationships. This is a timely message for anyone with a boy or. man in their life. If you listen all the way through, you'll leave with clear tools for a more empowered existence. Enjoy! CHAPTERS:0:00 Intro0:04 The Violence Already Exists4:19 The Men Who Don't Fight, Fight in Other Ways10:44 The One Thing More Important Than Honesty15:13 It All Comes Back to Mom17:01 "I Don't Know If I Trust Men"20:58 The Harm Is Happening Inside Your Own Home24:40 Why the Uncles Have to Be Cool29:15 Billy: "Part of Me Is Stuck in Boyhood"30:42 You Cannot Initiate Yourself38:18 Why He Tells His Brothers to Have More Children41:39 They Don't Stop Loving You45:48 Protect Your Children From Yourself49:40 What a Child Actually Needs From a Father53:52 The Way Back to Your Father Is Gratitude55:59 The Age of Ancestral Amnesia59:32 The Moment He Repeated the Pattern1:02:18 The One Message Men Need From Women1:05:39 Love One Woman Completely1:08:00 Choose Wisely Follow Adam - https://www.instagram.com/adam___jackson Sacred Sons - https://www.instagram.com/sacredsons Sacred Sons events - https://sacredsons.com Follow the show - https://www.instagram.com/youchoosepodcast/ Follow Billy - https://www.instagram.com/billygartonjr

  • #19
    August 25 · 1 hr 20 min

    #019 - Jules Horn - You Can't Think Your Way to Peace. Here's How to Actually Find It

    If you are like me and have spent the majority of your life not feeling at home inside your own skin, this conversation is for you. Jules Horn spent over a decade as THE model. Chanel in Paris with Karl Lagerfeld. Magazine covers with Nicki Minaj holding his photo. Dinner tables with with A-list sitting next to him. Yet he calls that entire chapter a bird in a golden cage. He was blackout drunk most weekends, burned out flat in bed for days every couple of months, chasing one campaign for ten years that never came, monitoring every way of being in the world in case an agent didn't like his hair. Today, he helps people release the tension that they have carried in their fascia for decades, retrain their nervous system for safety and find a comfortable home inside their own skin. Jules showed me the perfect way to breathe, we talked about releasing anger and rage, where most people carry tension and how to release it, the rediscovery of God and how he accesses the divine within him. We also shine light on the dysfunction of the modeling industry, what he was really chasing and how he has transitioned from an endless pursuit of external validation to a love like no other, not from the world, but within himself. If you have been trying to think your way into peace, this episode is the other door. It's free, it's always with you, and you have the opportunity through this conversation to touch a felt sense of peace like never before.I hope you enjoy, and if you do, let me know by liking, commenting, and subscribing to the show.I am committed out of my mind to bringing you conversations that alter the direction of your life, leading you to a deeper sense of belonging in the context of the world.
 Chapters:

 0:00 Intro 0:12 The Perfect Breath 2:45 The $150,000 Hyperbaric Chamber Mistake 7:11 Running Half Marathon Nose Breathing Only 10:16 God Is Whispering, the Ego Is Yelling 13:00 A Decade of Modeling and Shallow Breathing 14:00 Growing Up Without Feeling Loved 16:17 Chasing One Campaign for a Decade 17:33 Billy: Four Foot Eleven With Cystic Acne 20:50 Modeling: An Industry of Power and Control 23:20 Blackout Drunk Every Single Weekend 26:02 What You Seek Is Already Looking at You 34:01 A Bird in a Golden Cage 35:53 The Day it All Changed 37:17 "You'll Never Work as a Model Again" 43:40 The Truth Behind Aging 45:48 The Energy of Desperation 49:15 How to Release Your Jaw Tension 53:55 What to Ask the Monster Within You 56:11 Rage, Anger and Suppression 1:00:20 Catholic Altar Boy to a Relationship with God 1:04:12 God Spoke to Him in a Psychedelic Ceremony 1:07:01 Most People's Version of Prayer is Begging 1:12:21 Seeing His Dad in His Son 1:17:19 The Greatest Gift You Can Give a Child

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  • #18
    August 18 · 2 hr 18 min

    #018 - Michael Smoak - 6 Questions You Need to Ask Your Parents Before They're Gone

    If your parents are still alive, watch this for a time sensitive message. If they aren't, watch this for your own current or future children. If neither of those are true, watch this to touch that beautiful place inside of you that is connected to everything. There are questions I've held about my father, about his first marriage, about who he was before he was my dad, that I have not had the courage to ask. Not because I don't want to know, but because there has always been more time. This conversation woke me up. Michael Smoak didn't have more time. He had 7 months to both ask and deliver everything to his father before it was over. Today, we went to the places most people spend an entire life avoiding. The exact questions to ask your parents before it's too late, the two moments that made God undeniable to him, why your father was once a little boy full of fears and dreams and what changes in you the second you remember that, the reason he never missed a single post while his dad was dying, the six things he believes a man must have in place before he is ready for a wife, what he still wants to know from his mother, why the death of a father is the only coming of age ritual men in this culture are given, how to feel grief all the way through instead of letting it quietly run the rest of your life, and what he would say to anyone still telling themselves they'll have that conversation next year. I have had conversations on this show that moved me. This one changed the way I look at my own father, and it changed what I'm going to do about it. If your parents are still here, this episode is a phone call you have been putting off. Please make it. I hope you enjoy, and if you do, let me know by liking, commenting, and subscribing to the show. I am committed out of my mind to bringing you conversations that alter the direction of your life, leading you to a deeper sense of belonging in the context of the world. Follow Michael - https://www.instagram.com/higherupwellness Get Tickets to 'The Purpose Progression Tour' - https://laylo.com/laylo-higheruptour/m/wpPOi3 Follow the show - https://www.instagram.com/youchoosepodcast/ Follow Billy - https://www.instagram.com/billygartonjr Chapters 02:58 What Alex & Leila Hormozi Are Really Like 08:31 Self-Development vs Self-Actualisation 11:09 The Moment God Became Undeniable 14:05 Something Was Wrong With His Dad 17:39 Grief Is an Ocean 24:06 The Prayer That Changed Everything 26:03 Why Surrender Is So Hard for Men 27:54 How to Actually Find Your Purpose 28:21 What to Ask Your Parents Before They Die 38:42 The Sunset Lesson He'll Never Forget 44:59 The Obituary Is Full of People Who Had Plans 50:15 A Prisoner in His Own Body 51:02 What Ifs vs Oh Wells 52:26 Don't Learn This the Hard Way 53:16 The One Question He'd Still Ask His Dad 57:36 Why Men Have No Coming of Age Ritual 59:52 The Lion King & the Death of the Father 1:03:00 Why He Never Missed a Single Post 1:03:59 Building Systems That Survive Anything 1:09:58 The Sermon He Was Never Supposed to Find 1:11:59 Blowing Up Online While His Dad Was Dying 1:14:28 Mend It While They're Still Here 1:15:17 What He Still Wants to Know From His Mom 1:21:38 Is Michael Dating? 1:22:43 The Cost of a Public Relationship 1:25:59 Most Men Have the EQ of a 14-Year-Old 1:26:50 The Danger of "Just Good Enough" 1:29:46 Six Things a Man Needs Before Finding His Woman 1:32:35 Billy's Story: Learning to Date Himself 1:41:09 The Healing Only a Relationship Can Do 1:44:18 It Isn't Easy But It Is Simple: Dating 1:45:35 It Isn't Easy But It Is Simple: Porn Addiction 1:48:40 It Isn't Easy But It Is Simple: Self Love 1:52:10 It Isn't Easy But It Is Simple: Public Speaking 1:57:43 What Makes a Man 1:58:31 The Most Important Thing a Parent Can Give 1:59:40 Three Days Before His Dad Died 2:03:11 What Men and Women Actually Need 2:05:12 It Isn't Easy But It Is Simple: Religion 2:09:03 How to Survive Losing a Parent 2:12:09 What Actually Matters at the End

  • #17
    August 11 · 1 hr 37 min

    #017 - Peter Crone: Dissolving 20 Years of Fear in 97 Minutes

    I’ve never been this vulnerable publicly… 3 years ago I sat in my local library feeling deeply lost. My life seemed to be crumbling before my eyes and I felt confined to a world I was no longer choosing. I made a declaration that day that there was one person I would be coached by, and I’d find a way to get myself in the room with him. Well, 3 years on, having consumed virtually all of his content, invested in his life altering mastermind and shared his work and words with everyone in my life, it is an absolute honor to share this conversation I had with Peter Crone. Widely known as ‘The Mind Architect’, Peter is globally recognized for his ability to help someone reveal the deep, subconscious constraints that have laced their life, and support them in freeing themselves from the mental prisons with which they’ve been confined, so they can lead a life of freedom, love, abundance and possibility. Today, we revealed the primary prisons I’ve been living inside of, how the world is not set up to see us succeed, how to break free from what he calls the “1.0 world” and step into his world of 2.0, how to upgrade your human operating system, the toxic male influences laced throughout culture, the difference between care and worry, where true energy is derived, and the one message Peter would leave behind for generations to come that would serve as a catalyst for both personal and universal change. I would bet, being that you watch this show, that you’re committed to your spiritual evolution. Let me tell you, nothing touched my life more than Peter’s Mastermind. I have invested hundreds of thousands of dollars into coaches, mentors, retreats, books and programs, and the greatest catalyst for inspiration, energy, and true transformation was the 3 months I spent sitting at the feet of this man and soaking up everything he has to offer. The link to learn more about it is below. I hope you enjoy, and if you do, let me know by liking, commenting, and subscribing to the show. I am committed out of my mind to bringing you conversations that alter the direction of your life, leading you to a deeper sense of belonging in the context of the world. Chapters: 2:12 What True Freedom Actually Means 6:21 The Qualities You Were Born With 7:08 The Ten Prisons of the Human Mind 8:21 The Quote That Has Saved Lives 10:13 How Losing Both Parents Shaped Peter 13:17 Turning Grief Into Direction 15:19 Why Divinity Follows the Free 19:28 Stop Seeking, Start Removing Barriers 21:16 The Shame That Won't Let Go 23:53 When Love Comes With Conditions 25:19 Panic Attacks No One Explained 29:02 The Ego Is a Boa Constrictor 30:07 The First Lie You Tell Yourself 32:47 You've Never Done Anything Wrong 36:22 What "Wrong" Actually Means 39:19 Why Risk Doesn't Exist 42:50 Escaping the 1.0 Operating System 44:15 Why You Project Your Parents Onto Everyone 48:08 Guilt Disguised as Accountability 50:49 The Power of Your Words 52:57 Welcome to the 2.0 World 54:50 The Lie That It's Not Safe to Be You 57:34 The Worst Prison a Human Can Live In 1:01:44 Watch the Breakthrough Happen 1:03:36 You Can't Get Enough of What Almost Works 1:06:19 The Difference Between Care and Worry 1:08:31 For Men Afraid of Caring Too Much 1:09:41 Why Love Must Include You 1:12:42 The Truth About Toxic Male Influences 1:15:32 Nothing to Hide, Nothing to Prove 1:17:10 Build a New Model, Don't Fight the Old 1:19:12 Why Longevity Seduces the Ego 1:20:45 Integrating the Two Lies 1:24:36 Instructions for Visiting Earth 1:27:04 Peter's Message for the Planet 1:29:51 The Real Role of the Ego 1:32:41 Advice for Anyone Chasing a Calling 1:36:08 What's Next for Peter Crone Peter's Mastermind: https://www.petercrone.com/mastermind Follow Peter: https://www.instagram.com/petercrone/ Follow Billy: https://www.instagram.com/billygartonjr/ Follow the show: https://www.instagram.com/youchoosepodcast/

  • #16
    August 4 · 2 hr 15 min

    #016 - Laird Hamilton - The King of the Ocean Opens Up on What it Takes to Live an Extraordinary Life

    Everyone is trying to hack, optimize and comfort their way to a better life. Laird Hamilton says the opposite is true: that comfort is the trap, that fear is intelligence, and that the closer you get to death, the more alive you become.Laird Hamilton is widely regarded as the greatest big-wave surfer of all time, the pioneer of tow-in surfing and hydrofoil boarding who redefined what's possible in the ocean. He is the co-founder of Laird Superfood, husband of volleyball legend Gabby Reece for 28 years, and father to three daughters.He explains:◼ Why the closer you are to death, the more alive you feel◼ How a lifetime in the ocean convinced him that God exists◼ The one thing he believes is worse than dying◼ Why fear is intelligence, and how to harness it instead of avoiding it◼ Why parenting is like building a samurai sword, and why it's for you, not your kids◼ He opens up about growing up poor, fatherless and an outsider, and how that pain fueled everything he builtThe views expressed are those of the guest, and this conversation is intended for general informational purposes only. It should not be used as a substitute for professional medical or mental health advice.Chapters00:00 Why You Shouldn't Live For Your Kids04:05 What Really Fueled Laird's Success08:23 How Laird Turned Pain Into Power09:45 The Ocean Gave Laird Everything10:54 The Ocean Taught Laird the Existence of God22:19 How to Never Lose Your Curiosity28:11 Why Nature Always Wins32:01 Why Fear Is Actually Intelligence34:38 Why Laird Is Addicted to Fear37:00 Why Nothing Matters Without Consequence40:16 The Closer to Death, the More Alive44:30 The Simple Code Laird Lives By50:08 Are You Living or Just Surviving?51:22 Why Laird Would Rather Lose His Life55:16 Live Every Day Like Your Last58:23 The Life-Changing Power of Telling the Truth1:05:08 What Three Daughters Taught Laird1:08:01 The Samurai Sword Theory of Fatherhood1:12:19 What Living With Four Women Taught Laird1:17:14 The Secret to a 28-Year Marriage1:24:05 Why Laird Refuses to Use AI1:30:47 Why Laird & Gabby Schedule Sex1:34:58 Why Laird Threw Away His Wearables1:39:22 The Hawaiian Test of Character1:48:04 Never Use Your Kids as an Excuse1:54:09 The #1 Thing Holding You Back1:58:34 Why Most Men Are Harmless, Not Peaceful2:03:38 The Sayings That Shaped Laird's Life2:11:22 We're All in the Same Boat2:13:06 What's Next for Laird

  • #15
    July 28 · 1 hr 35 min

    #015 - Jeremy Jackson - Former Baywatch Star Opens Up on Fame, Meth, Prison and the Pursuit of Self Love

    Strap in for this one folks!At nine years old, Jeremy Jackson beat Leonardo DiCaprio for the role of Hobie Buchanan on Baywatch — the most watched television show on the planet. A billion people knew his face before he could drive. What followed was two decades most people don't come back from: addiction, meth, arrests, facing up to 35 years in prison, and a public collapse narrated by everyone except him. Today, Jeremy is sober, a recovery coach, breathwork facilitator, and spiritual mentor who walks into the rehabs and jails he once occupied — carrying the message to the people still lost in the places he came back from.One line that stuck with me: "If you want God to write the love story of your life, stop taking the pen out of his hand."This conversation goes somewhere neither of us expected. Jeremy speaks for the first time at length about the marriage that gutted him deeper than anything in his life — deeper than the abuse, the kidnapping, the arrests — and the moment he chose to see the person who hurt him most as a suffering addict instead of an enemy. We talk about why fame at fourteen cost him the very authenticity he was chasing, why authenticity is a higher frequency than joy, and why the men who have been broken by life make the most glorious men. He shares the golden keys he lives by, the three words tattooed on his arm that carried him through hell, and what it means to stop being so full of yourself that God can't hand you anything.Enjoy :-)Oh, and if you do, like, subscribe, comment. It really supports in our ability to bring you the best conversations. Chapters1:24 From Baywatch to prison3:24 When the mask drops4:58 The masks he still wears6:39 Owning the loser narrative7:34 The message in the mess10:32 A poem from rehab13:07 Becoming childlike again14:21 Fame at fourteen18:41 Defining authenticity19:53 The highest frequency21:15 More haters than fans22:40 Breaking his silence27:58 A public marriage28:29 Ignoring the warning signs31:57 Seeing her on the street33:57 Softening his heart34:59 The intervention attempt38:35 When helping falls apart40:45 The deepest heartbreak43:01 Jails, institutions, or death43:44 Why addicts refuse help44:45 Why he said yes46:39 Singleness of purpose48:52 Giving God the pen51:04 The rock we're chained to53:17 The golden keys54:27 What are you feeding59:41 How God speaks1:00:42 Full expression of life1:03:28 The fear of being seen1:09:17 The best men are broken1:14:57 The code of self-acceptance1:16:14 The hollow bone1:23:23 Trauma is past tense1:28:42 Everything happens through you1:31:49 Why he came backFollow Jeremy: https://www.instagram.com/jeremyjackson/Follow Billy: https://www.instagram.com/billygartonjr/Follow the show: https://www.instagram.com/youchoosepodcast/

  • July 22 · 1 hr 34 min

    #014 - Timmy the Dreamer - Charlie Rocket's Former Manager: Porn, Ayahuasca, and Why I Left LA

    Have you ever been honest enough to rate yourself as a man?Timmy Bishop — known to the world as Timmy the Dreamer — spent three years living what looked like the dream: managing one of the biggest philanthropic movements on the internet, working alongside Mr. Beast and Oprah, living in a Hollywood Hills content mansion. Then, in December 2023, he got in a boat and rode two hours down the Amazon River to a ceremony that dismantled his entire life. He has never told this story publicly. Until now.A few lines that stuck with me:"If everything I did in private could be seen by everybody in public, would I still be who I say I am? The answer was no.""Not even the medicine could make me release. That's how disconnected I was from being able to feel.""In order to be ready for a queen to walk into your life, you must first make yourself into a king."In this conversation, Timmy shares — for the first time — the ayahuasca ceremony that told him to leave his dream life in LA and move back in with his parents in Minnesota at 27. We talk about the night he rated himself a four out of ten as a man and what he did about it, the addiction to porn that 95% of the men he knows quietly carry, quitting every vice cold turkey and crying every day for a month, redefining authenticity as truthfulness rather than consistency, telling his Christian family he'd left the faith, and the five initiations he believes turn a boy into a man. Three years after the jungle, he rates himself an eight — and he'll tell you exactly what happened in between.Chapters:0:00 The two lives of Timmy Bishop3:31 Why living the dream is a state of mind7:41 The case against shaming your past self11:32 How you can be lonely with hundreds of friends14:51 The day the dream job felt empty17:29 Why your darkness needs to be seen18:48 The gift hidden inside sensitivity21:51 The real definition of authenticity27:47 Telling his Christian parents he left the faith32:48 What happens when the highs stop working34:53 The story he swore he'd never tell35:18 The boat ride into the Amazon38:15 The cleanse his body refused41:45 Inside the ayahuasca ceremony45:19 The visions that made him vomit up LA47:08 The battle between his inner child and warrior49:00 How the shaman knew before he spoke50:46 Trading Hollywood for his childhood bedroom53:04 The month he cried every single day54:52 Quitting porn, weed, and caffeine cold turkey55:23 Why porn is the vice no man admits58:19 The one question that breaks the addiction59:29 What his friends said when he relapsed1:03:03 Proof you can feel deeply and still perform1:05:00 The question every single man should ask1:08:17 The poem about the man in the glass1:10:14 The night he rated himself a 4/10 man1:12:49 Why you must become a king before finding a queen1:14:44 The moment he finally became a man1:17:33 The orange tree theory of growth1:20:12 The five steps from boy to man1:24:00 The power of four months of saying no1:26:24 The three circles every man needs1:28:16 Why a real man serves1:32:14 The closing poem for anyone feeling lostFollow Timmy: https://www.instagram.com/timmy.the.dreamer/Book Timmy to speak: https://dreamerstate.com/dreamologytourFollow Billy: https://www.instagram.com/billygartonjr/Follow the show: https://www.instagram.com/youchoosepodcast/

  • #13
    July 14 · 1 hr 14 min

    #013 - Alaina Booth - The Death of Fun: Why Your Life Feels So Boring (And How to Come Alive Again)

    When did your life start feeling so boring? Alaina Booth has built a following by pointing her camera at something the internet keeps telling us no longer exists: proof that the world is still good. She is a director, videographer, and storyteller whose found-footage videos of strangers, community, and everyday human connection have reached millions — including a series about six generations of women who all lived in the same college house, and a caption that accidentally started a war in her comments: "But what if most people are good?" A few lines that stuck with me: "Courage is a moment of decision where you say, I'm going to trust myself and try something new." "There is no amount of good energy that is ever wasted." "The easiest way to connect with someone is to expect nothing from them." "Never compromise who you are to get closer to the top of the mountain." In this conversation, we explore why life starts to feel boring the moment we automate the play out of it, why the top of courage is simply being seen trying, and what it takes to keep your childlike spirit alive in a world that punishes you for it. Alaina breaks down strangermaxxing, whimsymaxxing, and the difference between someone being unsafe and simply being different. We talk about the Honey House and why people keep finding her videos, why you can automate your entire life into total isolation, the discipline experiment that made her miserable, her Ten Commandments for living, and the Mary Oliver instruction she can't get out of her head: pay attention, be astonished, tell about it. Someone has to dance first so the rest of us remember we can. Alaina is that person. Chapters 0:00 A season of change is coming 3:09 What makes you feel most alive 4:23 Your spirit leaves before your body 6:25 Alaina's thesis on life 7:25 You should try more 9:12 What courage actually is 11:02 Raised by a single mom 13:30 Watching an adult give herself grace 14:46 Let yourself be new at this 15:09 The courage to do it bad 16:57 Whimsy maxing explained 17:49 The stranger maxing formula 19:17 Not safe vs just different 21:38 Life maxing is internal 23:06 Keeping your childlike spirit alive 24:44 The business baddie surprise 26:27 Make room for spontaneity 27:23 The discipline experiment that failed 28:08 The longevity scam 28:45 You never arrive at healed 29:47 Where is the line of enough 30:31 The oil on the spoon parable 33:15 The Honey House story 36:00 The video that went viral 38:31 Why we feel so alone now 41:19 The formula for connection 43:13 The 8 Mile secret 45:01 Stop being a chameleon 47:19 Code to download into humanity 49:34 The middle school sweatshirt 53:02 What if most people are good 55:51 No good energy is wasted 58:30 Integrity as the top value 1:01:28 Alaina's Ten Commandments 1:04:33 Pay attention, be astonished 1:08:54 Inspired by the real world 1:10:30 Keep joy visible Follow Alaina: https://www.instagram.com/lainabooth/ Read Alaina's Substack: https://substack.com/@alainabooth Follow Billy: https://www.instagram.com/billygartonjr/ Follow the podcast: https://www.instagram.com/youchoosepodcast

  • July 7 · 1 hr 39 min

    #012 - Blu of Earth - The Disease of Distraction: Why You Can't Hear God (And How to Finally Listen)

    What would you do if you woke up tomorrow and the world had gone silent? Eight months ago, that's exactly what happened to Blu. After 34 years of hearing, she went deaf overnight — and instead of becoming a victim of the experience, she calls it the most sacred teacher of her life. Blu is an artist, mystic, and storyteller. Alongside her creative partner Lily Ashwell, she spent three and a half years hand-crafting "Heavenly Bodies Tarot" — a tarot deck of 78 original artworks made entirely by human hands, in a world drowning in synthetic noise. She is also the host of the Deja Blu podcast. A few lines from the conversation that stuck with me: "Comfort is the death of the evolution of the soul." "The most sacred thing is what is." "We're running ourselves dry, getting ourselves sick, and wondering why we can't hear God." "It's really inefficient to be an asshole." and...my overwhelming favorite: "The only disability is that of a bad attitude" (original quote from Scott Hamilton) In this conversation, we explore what it means to turn your greatest challenge into your greatest gift, why comfort is the death of the evolution of the soul, and how to tell the difference between synthetic and authentic in the age of AI. Blu shares the story of sending telepathic apologies from a treehouse in the Amazon jungle — and receiving two replies. We talk about why time isn't real, how ritual turns the mundane into magic, why the goal was never to be high vibe but to be honest with what's most alive, why all judgment is a confession, and what it actually takes to live a meaningful life. She went deaf so she could teach the rest of us how to listen. Enjoy! Chapters 0:00 Living with your soul wide open 3:31 Going deaf overnight 5:37 The most sacred thing is what is 7:00 Comfort is the death of the soul 8:46 The only disability is a bad attitude 11:39 When a sense gets taken away 12:38 Synthetic vs authentic 15:36 Three years making a tarot deck 18:27 Telepathy and the Amazon jungle 21:41 The two apologies arrive 26:10 Lazy or built into a system 27:44 Time isn't real 32:01 The hungry ghost inside you 34:08 Ritual and the bed making competition 36:44 The universe gives you who you are 41:39 Silence is psychedelic 43:42 Who you spend time with matters 48:59 The goal isn't high vibes 49:59 Grieving her old life 55:53 It's inefficient to be an asshole 57:17 How to be angry and graceful 1:00:55 Blu's relationship with embarrassment 1:05:24 All judgment is a confession 1:06:25 Jealousy is a roadmap 1:10:25 Creativity and the God pocket 1:16:39 No one is just talented 1:19:24 The demon Mother Mary painting 1:22:09 Your job is your joy of being 1:28:54 What a meaningful life means 1:37:11 Where to find Blu Get Blu's tarot deck "Heavenly Bodies Tarot": https://www.weareheavenlybodies.com Follow Blu: https://www.instagram.com/bluofearth/ Follow Billy: https://www.instagram.com/billygartonjr/ Follow the show: https://www.instagram.com/youchoosepodcast/

  • #11
    June 30 · 1 hr 32 min

    #011 - Ryan Moresby-White - Nice guys do finish last, no one trusts a man who can't say no and women as a man's greatest initiation.

    Something is wrong with men. Not in the way the culture keeps telling us. Not too aggressive, not too dominant, not too much. Wrong in a quieter and far more devastating way. The boy inside never grew up. And nobody noticed. Nobody held a ceremony. Nobody said, that chapter of your life is over, this one begins now. So he kept going. Built the career. Got the girl. Accumulated the evidence. And still woke up every morning feeling like something essential was missing and having absolutely no language for why.Ryan Moresby-White noticed. And he has spent the last decade doing something about it.Born in South Africa, raised in Australia, Ryan walked away from a successful construction career after a breakup cracked him open in a way he didn't expect and couldn't ignore. What he found on the other side became his life's work. Today he has sat with thousands of men at the edge of themselves and helped them cross a threshold they didn't know they needed to cross.You'll hear:Why men keep sabotaging the women they love most. Why the nice guy always ends up alone. Why you can't speak your truth if you were never given the space to discover it. Why it is very easy to be secure when you're single. Why the most powerful men are not the most polished. And why the woman in your life is not the obstacle to your growth. She is the initiation.Chapters03:00 to 09:00 Why men never truly grow up09:00 to 11:10 The difference between trauma and initiation11:10 to 15:30 Why shame runs every male relationship15:30 to 20:00 How shame from childhood shows up in your adult relationship20:00 to 22:00 Ryan's story. The bathroom floor in Bali.22:00 to 25:20 How Ryan let the grief finally bring him to his knees25:20 to 28:00 You can't biohack your way around your grief28:00 to 31:30 Run clubs are just men running from their grief31:30 to 38:00 Ryan climbed to the top and his father still wasn't there38:00 to 41:30 Every man in prison is a hurt little boy41:30 to 44:00 The boy never wanted healing. He wanted holding.44:00 to 48:00 Why your woman is your greatest initiation48:00 to 52:00 Attachment vs authenticity. Why men lose themselves.52:00 to 55:00 The nice guy always loses the woman he loves55:00 to 59:37 No one can trust a man who can't say no59:37 to 01:05:00 What it actually means to be a safe man01:05:00 to 01:12:00 It is very easy to be secure when you're single01:12:00 to 01:18:00 Why men sabotage the love they want most01:18:00 to 01:24:44 Good Will Hunting and the wound that runs everything01:24:44 to 01:32:14 The four archetypes every man needs to integrateWatch Ryan's Documentary "A Rebirth Of The Safe Man":https://youtu.be/BKK9B0o6OAU?is=ozkBqHIMCacJlzjmFollow Ryan: https://www.instagram.com/ryanmoresbywhite/Follow Billy: https://www.instagram.com/billygartonjr/Follow the podcast: https://www.instagram.com/youchoosepodcast/

  • #10
    June 24 · 1 hr 47 min

    #010 - Cory Richards - I Risked My Life In Order to Save It. What I Learned About Creativity, Belonging, and Living a Meaningful Life.

    If you have yet to subscribe to the show, please do so now. It is massively supportive in our ability to keep bringing you powerful conversations. Thank you for all your love!Cory Richards is a National Geographic photographer, world class mountaineer, and the first and only American to summit an 8000 meter peak in winter without supplemental oxygen. He was diagnosed bipolar at 15, dropped out of high school, placed in a psychiatric unit, and put on the street with nothing. He went on to build one of the most celebrated careers in adventure photography the world has ever seen. He also almost lost everything multiple times along the way. And a month and a half before this conversation, he didn't leave his bed for days.Is this a meditation on madness? A masterclass on creativity? A loving interrogation of every label, diagnosis, and story you have ever told yourself about who you are? For me, it was all three.One line in particular has not left me since we recorded this. Cory said that being buried and being planted are often the same thing. Sit with that for a moment.There is wisdom in abundance here, folks. I am grateful to Cory for his radical honesty, for the poetic precision with which he sees the world, and for being willing to go to places in this conversation that he told me he has never gone publicly before.Get ready to hear about why the wellness industry is in Cory's words also quite sick, what your diagnosis is actually giving you and what it is quietly taking away, why you cannot optimize your way out of a lonely life, what belonging really means and why most of what we call belonging is just manipulation with better branding, the story behind the avalanche selfie on the cover of National Geographic and what Cory has never said about it until now, why certainty kills creativity, where God lives in a life like Cory's, and the only thing in the human experience without a duality - love.I left this conversation with eyes more acutely attuned to the color of everything.It was a gift for me. I hope it serves you well. Chapters:03:00 to 08:30 Inspiration vs Compensation08:30 to 17:50 Living madly in order to escape madness17:50 to 23:28 Your ideology is not your identity23:28 to 29:15 Men are in profound struggle right now29:15 to 33:53 Biohacking is bulls**t33:53 to 46:12 We are pathologically self obsessed46:12 to 53:18 What belonging actually means53:18 to 01:02:32 Certainty kills creativity01:02:32 to 01:09:00 Cory was depressed a month ago01:09:00 to 01:23:27 Being buried and being planted are the same thing01:23:27 to 01:33:55 We are all actors playing roles01:33:55 to 01:42:53 Science saves the world. Art makes it worth saving.01:42:53 to 01:47:52 There is only one thing without a dualityBuy Cory's Book for Yourself or a Friend: https://www.amazon.com/Color-Everything-Journey-Quiet-Within/dp/059359679XFollow Cory: https://www.instagram.com/coryrichards/Follow Billy: https://www.instagram.com/billygartonjr/Follow the podcast: https://www.instagram.com/youchoosepodcast/

  • #9
    June 16 · 2 hr 21 min

    #009 - Mastin Kipp - Therapy is making you better at losing...

    If you have yet to subscribe to the show, please do so now!! It is massively supportive in our ability to keep bringing you powerful conversations. Thank you for all your love!Mastin Kipp is a number one best-selling author, speaker and Creator of Functional Life Coaching™ for people who are seeking rapid transformation in their lives. He has been featured on the Emmy Award show, Super Soul Sunday, and recognized as a “thought leader for the next generation” by Oprah Winfrey.Mastin has built a highly successful international personal development company that helps people create rapid change, connect to who they really are and how to live their lives with passion and purpose. Through his writing, online courses, in-person seminars and international retreats, Mastin has worked with over two million people in over 100 countries around the world.Oprah recently also named Mastin “one of 100 awakened leaders who are using their voices and talent to elevate humanity,” alongside other teachers such as Tony Robbins, Caroline Myss, Deepak Chopra, Dr. Brené Brown, Marianne Williamson and Eckhart Tolle to name just a few.Is this a live coaching session? A masterclass on winning? A loving interruption to the part of you that is lying to yourself? For me, it was all 3. There is wisdom in abundance here, folks. One passage in particular that stuck out to me from Mastin - "I am more worried when I'm not afraid, because it means I'm not close enough to the edge."A potent and powerful calling card for a life of true empowerment, accomplishment, and fulfilling on the grand vision you hold for your life. I am grateful to Mastin for his piercing honesty, for choosing not to sugarcoat the topics most dance around, and for being willing to speak boldly into all the ways we prevent ourselves from the very thing we desire. Get ready to hear about why the healing industry benefits from keeping you disempowered, what to do about it, how to really win at anything, Mastin's goal setting framework, the skill that determines whether your relationships will survive, what a healthy relationship to fear looks like, what a "one sign disciple" is, the greatest challenge in the world today, and more...This one will challenge how you think about ambition, relationships, healing, and what it actually means to be a fully expressed human.Follow Mastin: https://www.instagram.com/mastinkipp/Follow the podcast: https://www.instagram.com/youchoosepodcast/Follow Billy: https://www.instagram.com/billygartonjr/Chapters 03:00 to 10:15 The greatest challenge in the world today10:15 to 18:30 Break up with the pattern, not the person18:30 to 27:00 Mastin coaches Billy27:00 to 36:00 Ambition...36:00 to 44:30 Building a healthier relationship to fear44:30 to 56:00 Staying calm while unraveling on the inside56:00 to 01:10:00 The part that saved your life01:10:00 to 01:22:00 Why you stop right before the breakthrough01:22:00 to 01:35:00 Therapy is making you better at losing01:35:00 to 01:47:00 Separate therapists are pulling your relationship apart01:47:00 to 01:56:00 Do what you love so you can do who you love01:56:00 to 02:20:54 You don't need any more signs...

  • #8
    June 2 · 51 min

    #008 - You aren't actually angry at your parents...

    If you have yet to subscribe to the show, please do so now!This is a solo episode. No guest. Just me, a microphone, and one of the most important conversations of our time.Your parents hurt you. That is real. That pain is valid. And this episode is not here to dismiss it. But it is here to ask you a harder question. At what point does the blame that once protected you become the very thing that is keeping you from the life you say you want?I speak from personal experience in this one. A mother with heavily narcissistic tendencies. A father who gaslights and evades. A childhood that left me confused, wounded, and looking for answers. And a long, nonlinear journey from denial to villainization to responsibility to something that finally felt like freedom.This episode covers:- Why most people are more committed to proving they were hurt than actually becoming free- The four stages of processing your relationship with your parents- Why you keep forgiving them but still keep getting activated- The prison of hope and the grief of a relationship that will never become what you secretly wish it might- Why unresolved resentment is almost always unresolved self abandonment- The difference between fitting in and truly belonging- The question that reframes your entire perspective on your parents- How to truly move beyond your parents psychological gripThis one will meet you wherever you are with your parents. And it will ask you to go one step further.Follow the podcast: https://www.instagram.com/youchoosepodcast/Follow Billy: https://www.instagram.com/billygartonjr/CHAPTERS03:00 to 06:30 It is easier to blame your parents than heal. Here is why that keeps you stuck.06:30 to 12:00 You are not actually angry at them. You are angry at this.12:00 to 18:00 The four stages Billy walked through to understand his parents18:00 to 22:00 Why you keep forgiving them but still keep getting hurt22:00 to 27:45 The prison of hope and the vision of the relationship that will never exist27:45 to 30:24 Stop asking why weren't you perfect. Ask this instead.30:24 to 35:30 Unresolved resentment is actually unresolved self abandonment35:30 to 41:43 Shrink your vision or let go of the resentment. You must choose.41:43 to 46:26 Healing is not pretending they didn't hurt you. It is this.46:26 to 51:07 The visualization of resentment. Billy reads the piece that changed everything.

  • #10
    June 2 · 1 hr 27 min

    #007 - Chris Griffin - The one trait we all lack but need

    If you haven't yet, please subscribe to the show! Three years ago Chris Griffin was broke, heartbroken, and boarding a one way flight to Thailand on a credit card with no plan. Today he has one of the biggest podcasts in Australia, millions of followers, and a clarity about himself that most men spend their entire lives chasing.But the most honest moment in this conversation is not about the success. It is about the season when he had millions of fans and no one to call. When he had changed five friend groups in two years and finally had to ask himself the question most men are too proud to ask. Is it them or is it me?In this conversation Billy and Chris go deep on: The real difference between confidence and ego and why most men have it backwards Why naivety and delusion are not weaknesses but the only fuel that gets you through what you cannot yet see How the $200 million thought experiment will permanently change the way you show up today Why people pleasing is secretly serving the belief that you are not enough What it actually means to be okay alone and why most men are terrified of finding out How ego is the childhood wound that protected you then and is destroying you now Why the most freeing thing anyone ever said to Chris was that no one cares about you. This one moves fast. It hits hard. And it ends with the line that might change everything for you.Chapters:03:00 to 08:30 Why do people admire but never commit?08:30 to 15:00 What if not knowing is the secret?15:00 to 23:30 Broke, heartbroken, one way flight to Thailand...23:30 to 30:08 Why knowing nothing brings Chris closer to God30:08 to 38:00 What does people pleasing say about you?38:00 to 44:00 Why can most men not sit alone?44:00 to 55:00 What if $200 million hit your account tomorrow?55:00 to 01:00:50 What happens when you become the person first?01:00:50 to 01:05:37 Millions of followers and no one to call...01:05:37 to 01:15:00 What is your childhood ego still hiding?01:15:00 to 01:27:12 The most freeing thing anyone ever told ChrisFollow Chris: https://www.instagram.com/morechrisgriffin/Follow the podcast: https://www.instagram.com/youchoosepodcast/Follow Billy: https://www.instagram.com/billygartonjr/

  • #6
    May 5 · 1 hr 52 min

    #006 - David Siciliano - Here's why you feel like you're doing it all wrong

    If you have yet to subscribe to the show, please do so now!What does it feel like to spend your whole life knowing you're different?This is the primary theme that threads David Siciliano's story.Raised inside a conservative religious community that rewarded conformity and punished curiosity, David spent years collecting shame for simply being wired differently. He went into acting not because he wanted to perform but because it was the only space that let him explore without judgment. He studied psychology at the Ivy League level, went to therapy every week, and slowly pieced together what it actually meant to be himself.In this episode we cover: What it really means to feel other as a man Why the religious shame so many men carry is actually a rebellion against interpretation and not belief How acting teaches you to see your feelings as information rather than identity What David's one year old son River is teaching him about self acceptance Why most parents are unconsciously parenting from their own discomfort How the body rehearses anxiety the same way an actor rehearses a character The inside out versus outside in approach to regulating your nervous system The improv rule that will change how you show up in every relationship Why the most liberating thing a man can hear is that there is nothing to fix.Chapters:03:00 to 07:20 He spent his whole life feeling different07:20 to 13:56 The shame his church gave him 13:56 to 20:16 He used acting to escape. 20:16 to 28:00 Jacob wrestled God and broke his hip...28:00 to 35:00 His one year old son is healing something in him35:00 to 44:38 Your parents were parenting their own discomfort not yours44:38 to 57:00 Are you actually anxious or have you just rehearsed it?57:00 to 01:04:00 What your voice is telling you about your nervous system01:04:00 to 01:21:00 Being called feminine as a boy 01:21:00 to 01:46:00 The one improv rule that will change every relationship you have01:46:00 to 01:52:43 What David would say to his son if he had 60 secondsThis one goes somewhere most conversations never reach.Follow David: https://www.instagram.com/sicilianod/Follow the podcast: https://www.instagram.com/youchoosepodcast/Follow Billy: https://www.instagram.com/billygartonjr_/

  • #5
    April 29 · 1 hr 54 min

    #005 - Joshua Church - He Built a $20M Company By Partnering With the Universe

    If you have yet to subscribe to the show, please do so now! Joshua Church is a Forbes 30 Under 30 founder, author and podcast host who built Edge Theory Labs into a $20 million company in three years — and then watched it fall apart. But this conversation is not about the rise and fall. It is about what the whole journey revealed about the universe, the self, and what it actually means to follow the path you were put here to walk. Joshua weaves together entrepreneurship, spirituality, Jewish faith, breathwork and a lifelong relationship with his own physical body to arrive at something rare — a man who has genuinely learned how to follow the breadcrumbs. In this episode: What it means to build a profitable partnership with the universe Why your job on this earth is smaller than you think How four major surgeries and a near death experience at 19 led Joshua to his life's work The rise and fall of Edge Theory Labs and what the collapse really taught him Why business is the greatest self development course you can enroll in How to weave spirituality into a business when not everyone sees the world the same way The danger of missing your own life while you are busy building something How he wants to be remembered CHAPTERS 03:00 Who he is beyond the accolades07:00 What cosmic breadcrumbs actually means13:00 The path of least resistance and how to find it20:00 Four surgeries and a near death experience at 1928:00 How the body became his greatest teacher35:00 The rise of Edge Theory Labs44:00 Why the company collapsed and what it taught him57:00 Business as a spiritual and self development practice1:05:00 Three years of business advice in 60 seconds1:15:00 Weaving spirituality into a team that does not share your worldview1:28:00 The greatest fear beneath most people's ambition1:38:00 Living off autopilot — the poem that stopped the conversation1:44:00 How he wants to be remembered Get Joshua's book "Cosmic Breadcrumbs":https://www.amazon.com/Cosmic-Breadcrumbs-Building-Profitable-Partnership/dp/B0GG1NRZWF Follow Joshua:https://www.instagram.com/joshuadeanchurch/ Follow You Choose Podcast:https://www.instagram.com/youchoosepodcast/ Follow Billy:https://www.instagram.com/billygartonjr_/

  • April 21 · 1 hr 55 min

    #004 - Stefanos Sifandos - You're in Conflict With Your Past, Not Your Partner

    If you have yet to subscribe to the show, please do so now!Stefanos Sifandos is a behavioral scientist, author and relationship expert who has worked with special forces soldiers, Olympic gold medalists and world champion fighters. But more than any credential — he is someone who has lived inside the wound he now helps others heal.In this conversation Billy sits down with Stefanos not just as an interviewer, but as a case study of everything Stefanos teaches. This is one of the rawest, most personal conversations you will see online.In this episode: - What mother-son enmeshment actually is and why it is showing up in your adult relationships- Why men who desperately want intimacy keep pushing it away — and what is really happening in the nervous system- Why the work you do outside the argument is the only thing that changes the argument- Billy's own reckoning with shutdown, repressed anger and what happens when sport is no longer the outlet- Why Andrew Tate serves a purpose — and what that says about the men following him- The real reason men cannot find friends who are both ambitious and emotionally deep- What it means to embrace the part of you that wants to burn everything down- Whether some lessons in life can only be learned the hard way- If aliens offered you everything in the cosmos — would you leave this life behindChapters:03:00 Mother son enmeshment and relationships10:00 Why men shut down in intimacy15:00 Regulating your nervous system in conflict28:00 Repressed anger and where it goes37:00 Addiction and the pull toward escape44:00 Monogamy desire and the fear of commitment56:00 Guilt shame and self honesty1:00:00 Finding men who are deep and driven1:06:00 His story — the moment everything changed1:21:00 Andrew Tate and modern masculinity1:30:00 Are some lessons only learned through pain1:38:00 How much do you love this life1:50:00 What stopped him from ending itGet Stefanos' book "Tuned In and Turned On":https://www.amazon.com/Tuned-Turned-Connection-Healing-Lasting-ebook/dp/B0F4QBVX5GFollow Stefanos:https://www.instagram.com/stefanossifandos/https://www.youtube.com/@stefanosssifandosFollow You Choose Podcast:https://www.instagram.com/youchoosepodcast/Follow Billy:https://www.instagram.com/billygartonjr_/

  • #1
    April 14 · 2 hr 1 min

    #001 - Branden Collinsworth - Everything a Man Needs to Hear in 2026

    If you enjoy this episode, please leave us a review and subscribe to the show! This is a masterclass in personal transformation. I believe the greatest compliment I can give to Branden is that he knows what all of us long to know...himself. Expect to hear about the journey of self acceptance, about honoring the process and those who've walked it before you, and the Temple of Mastery that has transformed thousands of lives. What I was most inspired by was Branden's ability to be honest in areas that many of us would tremble and turn from truth. He is embodied because he is true, and that is the place I believe we're all searching for - truth, followed by the courage to embody what's true. Branden Collinsworth is a Nike global performance coach, serial entrepreneur and humanitarian. He founded Warrior Retreats, a rite of passage deep in the heart of the amazon jungle. He has worked 1 on 1 with professional athletes and billionaire clientele to help them find a comfortable place to call home inside of themselves, so they can show up on purpose, in purpose, and with power in the world. Follow Branden:⁠ https://www.instagram.com/brandencollinsworth/⁠ Follow Billy:⁠ https://www.instagram.com/billygartonjr_/⁠ Chapters:03:00 Billy reads "A Man's Worth" live 07:20 How have you become so self-accepting? 08:41 Branden on why pain is the portal to everything 13:28 What does it actually feel like to be in the cave? 18:10 What does sitting in the darkness look like in real life? 21:15 How have you been so radically honest with the women you love? 31:20 What did getting back in alignment actually look like for you? 35:08 You've never made money your highest value. How do you wrestle with that? 38:13 Branden reveals the billionaire he coached who died addicted and alone 43:00 How does a man have inner success AND outer success at the same time? 51:10 Where did the tribe go and what is that costing men?57:00 How does community turn trauma into initiation?01:05:00 Walk me through the Temple of Mastery framework 01:23:16 How does a man build rituals that actually stick?01:47:06 What has losing both parents taught you about the time we have? 01:56:00 If everything you ever created was erased, what one message would you leave behind?

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