Why Won't You Date Me? with Nicole Byer

Headgum & Nicole Byer

Love and dating can be messy—so let’s talk about it! On this multi-award-winning podcast, comedian Nicole Byer explores romantic highs, lows, and all the juicy stuff in between, alongside comedians, experts, and sometimes an ex or two. New episodes every Friday!

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Friday · 59 min
The 'Goblintimacy' Dating Trend (w/ Devon Walker)
Comedian Devon Walker (SNL, Big Mouth) returns to the podcast to join Nicole for a chat about "goblintimacy", the new dating trend where you skip putting your best foot forward. Nicole shares the details of her terrifyingly chaotic NYC taxi ride, the wild energy of the city after the Knicks championship win, and addresses those recent internet comments about her hair. Plus, they conduct a very important investigation into Willem Dafoe's notoriously huge hog, Nicole breaks down the extensive list of Hollywood actors in her romantic "stable," and they discuss the importance of knowing your STD status. Check out Devon's podcast, My Favorite Lyrics. You can watch Nicole's episode here: youtube.com/watch?v=LnjB1YWatF8 Watch this episode on our YouTube channel at https://www.youtube.com/@WhyWontYouDateMePodcast Follow: All Links: linktr.ee/whywontyoudateme Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastaken YouTube: @WhyWontYouDateMePodcast TikTok: @whywontyoudatemepod Instagram: @nicolebyer X: @nicolebyer This is a Headgum podcast. Advertise on Why Won't You Date Me? via Gumball.fm. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
July 24 · 45 min
The Truth About TV Showmances (w/ Lydia B Kollins)
Drag queen Lydia B Kollins (Drag Race S17, All Stars S10) joins Nicole to spill the behind-the-scenes tea on her iconic Drag Race showmance with Kori King. Find out just how strict production really is when it comes to off-screen flirting, what it was like having their first kiss during a lip sync for your life, plus the reason why she fully ghosted Kori after filming wrapped. Plus, Lydia opens up about her history of dating women and "dabbling in the puss." She explains why she believes it's easier to love a woman than a man, and why she builds her live shows specifically for her sapphic fans. Finally, hear the story of why RuPaul personally bestowed her with the middle name "Butthole." Get tickets to her tour with Kori King and Suzie Toot, "ButtTootKing" at ButtTootKing.com. Watch this episode on our YouTube channel at https://www.youtube.com/@WhyWontYouDateMePodcast Support this podcast by checking out our sponsors: • SmileSet: Listeners of our show get an additional 35% discount when they go to smileset.com/dateme. With this discount, you can get the smile of your dreams for under 13 hundred bucks! • Squarespace: Head to squarespace.com/DATEME to save 10% off your first purchase of a website or domain using code DATEME. • Sleep Doctor: Take back your sleep. Find out how at sleepdoctor.com. • Planned Parenthood: Donate to support Planned Parenthood now at plannedparenthood.org/defend Check out all of our sponsors and discount codes at wwydm.notion.site/sponsors. Follow: All Links: linktr.ee/whywontyoudateme Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastaken YouTube: @WhyWontYouDateMePodcast TikTok: @whywontyoudatemepod Instagram: @nicolebyer X: @nicolebyer This is a Headgum podcast. Advertise on Why Won't You Date Me? via Gumball.fm. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
July 17 · 59 min
Sharing Trade (w/ Willam Belli)
Drag queen icon Willam (Drag Race S4, host of Race Chasers) returns! She joins Nicole to break down the mathematical formula for the optimal orgy, the proper etiquette for passing good trade around to your drag sisters, and what really goes down inside LA's underground sex dungeons. Willam also reveals her pro tips for scheduling multiple hookups in one night and confesses the absolute kinkiest thing she's ever done. Plus, hear the hot story of how she met her 6'6" lawyer ex-husband at the door of Micky's, why she turned to OnlyFans to pay her two mortgages, and why she simply has to stop hooking up with the contestants on her new dating show, Love's a Drag. Watch this episode on our YouTube channel at https://www.youtube.com/@WhyWontYouDateMePodcast Support this podcast by checking out our sponsors: • Firstleaf: Get personalized wines, delivered. Head to TryFirstleaf.com/DATEME to sign up and you'll get 50% off your first box PLUS free shipping for an entire year • Cash App: Download Cash App Today: https://capl.onelink.me/vFut/3v6r90n6 #CashAppPod Cash App is a financial services platform, not a bank. Banking services provided by Cash App’s bank partner(s). Prepaid debit cards issued by Sutton Bank, Member FDIC. Cash App Visa® Debit Flex Cards issued by Sutton Bank, Member FDIC, and The Bancorp Bank, N.A., pursuant to a license from Visa U.S.A. Inc. See terms and conditions for the Sutton prepaid card, Sutton debit flex card, and Bancorp debit flex card. Discounts and promotions provided by Cash App, a Block, Inc. brand. Visit cash.app/legal/podcast for full disclosures. • Audible: Listen to Heads Will Roll: Heir Apparent, available now on Audible. Go to Audible.com/headswillrollseries to start listening today. • Wayfair: Ready to upgrade your home for way less? Head to Wayfair.com right now to shop all things home and get your space ready for less. Check out all of our sponsors and discount codes at wwydm.notion.site/sponsors. Follow: All Links: linktr.ee/whywontyoudateme Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastaken YouTube: @WhyWontYouDateMePodcast TikTok: @whywontyoudatemepod Instagram: @nicolebyer X: @nicolebyer This is a Headgum podcast. Advertise on Why Won't You Date Me? via Gumball.fm. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
July 10 · 47 min
My Career Ruined my Relationships (w/ June Jambalaya)
Drag queen June Jambalaya (Drag Race S14) joins Nicole to discuss hiding her drag career from her dates, being engaged twice, and leaving her fiancé to compete on Drag Race. Plus, Nicole and June discuss the best city to be depressed in, reveal the wildest things they've done to impress a man, and June shares her amazing date after being set up by Kerri Colby. Watch this episode on our YouTube channel at https://www.youtube.com/@WhyWontYouDateMePodcast Support this podcast by checking out our sponsors: • Warby Parker: Our listeners can buy one prescription pair and get 20% off any additional pairs at WarbyParker.com/DATEME — and using our link helps support the show. #WarbyParker #ad • Squarespace: Head to squarespace.com/DATEME to save 10% off your first purchase of a website or domain using code DATEME. • Audible: Listen to Heads Will Roll: Heir Apparent, available now on Audible. Go to Audible.com/headswillrollseries to start listening today. • Planned Parenthood: Donate to support Planned Parenthood now at PlannedParenthood.org/defend Check out all of our sponsors and discount codes at wwydm.notion.site/sponsors. Follow: All Links: linktr.ee/whywontyoudateme Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastaken YouTube: @WhyWontYouDateMePodcast TikTok: @whywontyoudatemepod Instagram: @nicolebyer X: @nicolebyer This is a Headgum podcast. Advertise on Why Won't You Date Me? via Gumball.fm. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
July 3 · 1 hr 1 min
Hiring a Zoom Stripper (w/ Liza Treyger)
Comedian and friend Liza Treyger (Night Owl, host of That's Messed Up) returns to the podcast! She shares her sobering experience hiring a Zoom stripper for a bachelorette party, how Heated Rivalry changed her life, and the struggle of making friends easily while her dating life remains in the dumps. Liza tells the story about how she got scammed by a stylist while making her Netflix special, her goal to quit weed for a relationship, and why she believes it's an actual safety hazard to date a man who isn't completely obsessed with you. Watch Liza's special, Night Owl on Netflix. Watch this episode on our YouTube channel at https://www.youtube.com/@WhyWontYouDateMePodcast Support this podcast by checking out our sponsors: • BetterHelp: This show is sponsored by BetterHelp. Visit betterhelp.com/dateme today to get 10% off your first month. • Audible: Listen to Heads Will Roll: Heir Apparent, available now on Audible. Go to Audible.com/headswillrollseries to start listening today. Check out all of our sponsors and discount codes at wwydm.notion.site/sponsors. Follow: All Links: linktr.ee/whywontyoudateme Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastaken YouTube: @WhyWontYouDateMePodcast TikTok: @whywontyoudatemepod Instagram: @nicolebyer X: @nicolebyer This is a Headgum podcast. Advertise on Why Won't You Date Me? via Gumball.fm. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
June 26 · 49 min
Tossing Shade (w/ Bosco)
Drag queen icon Bosco (Drag Race S14, All Stars S10) makes her return to toss even more shade. She shares why the secret to polished drag is having mean friends, how to filter out dumb men in your dating life, and trades stories with Nicole about their most questionable fashion eras. They also discuss facial feminization surgery (and the boy queens getting it) and why we all need some more razzle dazzle in our lives. Plus, Nicole has become a human white noise machine for the nice man in her life. See Bosco on tour! Get tickets at dragfans.com. Buy 2 tickets, get the 3rd free. The whole polycule can come! Check out Bosco's new Magic The Gathering show, Spell Slayers on YouTube. Watch this episode on our YouTube channel at https://www.youtube.com/@WhyWontYouDateMePodcast Support this podcast by checking out our sponsors: • Warby Parker: Our listeners can buy one prescription pair and get 20% off any additional pairs at WarbyParker.com/DATEME — and using our link helps support the show. #WarbyParker #ad • Chime: Chime is not just smarter banking, it is the most rewarding way to bank. Join the millions who are already banking fee free today. Head to Chime.com/DATEME. • Squarespace: Head to squarespace.com/DATEME to save 10% off your first purchase of a website or domain using code DATEME. • Audible: Listen to Heads Will Roll: Heir Apparent, available now on Audible. Go to Audible.com/headswillrollseries to start listening today. Check out all of our sponsors and discount codes at wwydm.notion.site/sponsors. Follow: All Links: linktr.ee/whywontyoudateme Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastaken YouTube: @WhyWontYouDateMePodcast TikTok: @whywontyoudatemepod Instagram: @nicolebyer X: @nicolebyer This is a Headgum podcast. Advertise on Why Won't You Date Me? via Gumball.fm. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
June 19 · 58 min
Creatively Building a Family (w/ Sabrina Jalees)
Comedian Sabrina Jalees (Mating Season) returns to the podcast! Sabrina talks about how she and her wife made a family, including picking out a sperm donor and performing a home insemination using a dog catheter. They break down the recent news about websites hosting non-consensual "sleep content" and the terrible networks of men coaching each other on how to assault their partners. Sabrina shares her attempt at a magic trick proposal while her partner dealt with a bathroom emergency, and they discuss: Can 2 butches make a right? Plus, why we need to rethink how we speak about pregnancy loss, and Sabrina makes a strong case for freezing your eggs. Check out Mating Season on Netflix. Watch this episode on our YouTube channel at https://www.youtube.com/@WhyWontYouDateMePodcast Support this podcast by checking out our sponsors: • FirstLeaf: Get personalized wines, delivered. Head to TryFirstleaf.com/DATEME to sign up and you'll get 50% off your first box PLUS free shipping for an entire year • Cash App: Download Cash App Today: https://capl.onelink.me/vFut/3v6r90n6 #CashAppPod Cash App is a financial services platform, not a bank. Banking services provided by Cash App’s bank partner(s). Prepaid debit cards issued by Sutton Bank, Member FDIC. Cash App Visa® Debit Flex Cards issued by Sutton Bank, Member FDIC, and The Bancorp Bank, N.A., pursuant to a license from Visa U.S.A. Inc. See terms and conditions for the Sutton prepaid card, Sutton debit flex card, and Bancorp debit flex card. Discounts and promotions provided by Cash App, a Block, Inc. brand. Visit cash.app/legal/podcast for full disclosures. Follow: All Links: linktr.ee/whywontyoudateme Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastaken YouTube: @WhyWontYouDateMePodcast TikTok: @whywontyoudatemepod Instagram: @nicolebyer X: @nicolebyer This is a Headgum podcast. Advertise on Why Won't You Date Me? via Gumball.fm. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
June 12 · 48 min
Having A Self-Love Affair (w/ Jujubee)
You ready for some good juju? This week, iconic drag queen Jujubee (Drag Race, Stop! That! Train!) joins Nicole to talk about the power of self-love and why she’s officially stopped looking for a relationship. Nicole pays tribute to her first dog, Charlie, and the two discuss why the true soulmates are actually the animals in our life. Jujubee shares her philosophy on why love never dies, and opens up about the clarity she's found from being 9 years sober. She shares her best advice on having the ultimate solo date, and the two Delta Diamond Divas share their travel tips. Go see Stop! That! Train! in theatres today. Check out Jujubee's latest EP, MESS FOR YOU. Watch this episode on our YouTube channel at https://www.youtube.com/@WhyWontYouDateMePodcast Support this podcast by checking out our sponsors: • Jones Road Beauty: Use code DATEME at jonesroadbeauty.com to get a Free Gift with your first purchase! #JonesRoadBeauty #ad • Warby Parker: Our listeners can buy one prescription pair and get 20% off any additional pairs at WarbyParker.com/DATEME — and using our link helps support the show. #WarbyParker #ad • Squarespace: Head to squarespace.com/DATEME to save 10% off your first purchase of a website or domain using code DATEME. • Wayfair: Patio season is here and these deals won’t last! Head to Wayfair.com right now to get your outdoor space ready for way less. Follow: All Links: linktr.ee/whywontyoudateme Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastaken YouTube: @WhyWontYouDateMePodcast TikTok: @whywontyoudatemepod Instagram: @nicolebyer X: @nicolebyer This is a Headgum podcast. Advertise on Why Won't You Date Me? via Gumball.fm. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
June 5 · 1 hr 15 min
Setting Relationship Boundaries (w/ Trixie Mattel)
Drag queen Trixie Mattel (Drag Race S7, All Stars 3) returns to the podcast! After experiencing how exhausting it is to navigate a private breakup while smiling through a press tour, Trixie opens up about why she is now fiercely protective of her new relationship. Nicole explains why Drag Race S7 is her all-time favorite season, and the girls discuss wild dating reality TV shows like 90 Day Fiancé, Love After Lockup, and Love on the Spectrum, plus whether Trixie would ever actually compete on The Traitors. Trixie also discusses her impersonator recent retirement, gives her honest advice to all the gay singles out there, and reveals her obsession with crime scene cleanup. Watch this episode on our YouTube channel at https://www.youtube.com/@WhyWontYouDateMePodcast Take our listener survey and shape the future of the podcast! Support this podcast by checking out our sponsors: • Jones Road Beauty: Use code DATEME at jonesroadbeauty.com to get a Free Gift with your first purchase! #JonesRoadBeauty #ad • Betterhelp: This show is sponsored by BetterHelp. Visit betterhelp.com/dateme today to get 10% off your first month. • Cash App: Download Cash App Today: https://capl.onelink.me/vFut/3v6r90n6 #CashAppPod Cash App is a financial services platform, not a bank. Banking services provided by Cash App’s bank partner(s). Prepaid debit cards issued by Sutton Bank, Member FDIC. Cash App Visa® Debit Flex Cards issued by Sutton Bank, Member FDIC, and The Bancorp Bank, N.A., pursuant to a license from Visa U.S.A. Inc. See terms and conditions for the Sutton prepaid card, Sutton debit flex card, and Bancorp debit flex card. Discounts and promotions provided by Cash App, a Block, Inc. brand. Visit cash.app/legal/podcast for full disclosures. Follow: All Links: linktr.ee/whywontyoudateme Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastaken YouTube: @WhyWontYouDateMePodcast TikTok: @whywontyoudatemepod Instagram: @nicolebyer X: @nicolebyer This is a Headgum podcast. Advertise on Why Won't You Date Me? via Gumball.fm. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
May 29 · 52 min
Measuring Love & Male Delusion (w/ Tracie Thoms)
Tracie Thoms (RENT, The Devil Wears Prada 2) joins Nicole to discuss her 8-year journey to join the iconic cast of RENT, the wild logic men use to avoid commitment, and why some of them want all the benefits of a girlfriend with zero of the responsibility. Tracie also breaks down the nightmare of having dated someone who tried dictate her career, and reveals why living apart from her partner has actually been the ultimate relationship hack. Plus, why does true love make you feel sleepy? And Nicole opens up about her PMDD diagnosis. I'm just such a big fan of RENT and so happy we have Joanne on, omg folks this is a big one for me personally. Rentheads unite! Watch this episode on our YouTube channel at https://www.youtube.com/@WhyWontYouDateMePodcast Take our listener survey and shape the future of the podcast! Support this podcast by checking out our sponsor: • Squarespace: Head to squarespace.com/DATEME to save 10% off your first purchase of a website or domain using code DATEME. Follow: All Links: linktr.ee/whywontyoudateme Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastaken YouTube: @WhyWontYouDateMePodcast TikTok: @whywontyoudatemepod Instagram: @nicolebyer X: @nicolebyer This is a Headgum podcast. Advertise on Why Won't You Date Me? via Gumball.fm. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
May 22 · 1 hr 6 min
Would You Date YOU? (w/ Relationship Therapist Esther Perel)
World famous relationship therapist Esther Perel has been studying relationships for over 40 years. She joins Nicole to share the most common problems couples seek therapy for, the 3 types of conflicts we fight over, and how to productively resolve them. Esther discusses how to get over "icks" while dating, and challenges us to ask ourselves: what "icks" would people find in you? They also explore exactly why modern dating feels so incredibly tough right now, the fact that therapy speak has gone mainstream thanks to shows like The Sopranos, and whether that's a good or bad thing. Plus, Esther shares a wild story about her first therapy session between a man and his AI girlfriend, and she totally flips the script on Nicole to ask the ultimate question: Would you date you? Celebrate the 20th anniversary of her groundbreaking book, Mating in Captivity. Watch this episode on our YouTube channel at https://www.youtube.com/@WhyWontYouDateMePodcast Take our listener survey and shape the future of the podcast! Support this podcast by checking out our sponsor: • Chime: Chime is not just smarter banking, it is the most rewarding way to bank. Join the millions who are already banking fee free today. Head to Chime.com/DATEME. Follow: All Links: linktr.ee/whywontyoudateme Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastaken YouTube: @WhyWontYouDateMePodcast TikTok: @whywontyoudatemepod Instagram: @nicolebyer X: @nicolebyer This is a Headgum podcast. Advertise on Why Won't You Date Me? via Gumball.fm. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
May 15 · 47 min
Writing Heated Rivalry (w/ Rachel Reid)
Author Rachel Reid (Heated Rivalry) joins Nicole to chat about the wild, viral success of her steamy queer romance novels and the hit TV adaptation. She shares how she met her husband while performing a smelly, hockey-themed burlesque act, and the dynamic that keeps their 20-year one sided open marriage working for them. She discusses the creative process behind writing explicit romance between men, and exactly why she absolutely does not want to hear your glowing reviews of her work. Plus, Rachel opens up about navigating her recent Parkinson's diagnosis. Watch this episode on our YouTube channel at https://www.youtube.com/@WhyWontYouDateMePodcast Take our listener survey and shape the future of the podcast! Support this podcast by checking out our sponsors: • FirstLeaf: Get personalized wines, delivered. Head to TryFirstleaf.com/DATEME to sign up and you'll get 50% off your first box PLUS free shipping for an entire year • Wayfair: Get prepped for patio season for way less. Head to Wayfair.com right now to shop all things home. Wayfair. Every style. Every home. Follow: All Links: linktr.ee/whywontyoudateme Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastaken YouTube: @WhyWontYouDateMePodcast TikTok: @whywontyoudatemepod Instagram: @nicolebyer X: @nicolebyer This is a Headgum podcast. Advertise on Why Won't You Date Me? via Gumball.fm. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
May 8 · 51 min
Farting All Night on a First Date (w/ Beck Bennett)
Comedian and actor Beck Bennett (SNL, What's Our Podcast?) joins Nicole to talk about meeting his wife on a sketch shoot and how his wallet-less first date turned into a romantic, fart-filled sleepover. Beck opens up about surviving long-distance dating while shooting SNL, why he believes "love is trust," and the Joshua Tree engagement trip that ended with them sleeping in separate twin beds. He shares the creative ways he jerked off as a kid (including using a Sock'em Bopper and a vibrating pen), and Nicole admits to stealing her first vibrator from Spencer’s Gifts. Watch this episode on our YouTube channel at https://www.youtube.com/@WhyWontYouDateMePodcast Take our listener survey and shape the future of the podcast! Support this podcast and get discounts by checking out our sponsors: • Jones Road Beauty: Use code DATEME at jonesroadbeauty.com to get a Free Gift with your first purchase! #JonesRoadBeauty #ad • Warby Parker: My listeners can buy one prescription pair and get 20% off additional pairs at WarbyParker.com/DATEME — and using our link helps support the show. #WarbyParker #ad • Squarespace: Head to squarespace.com/DATEME to save 10% off your first purchase of a website or domain using code DATEME. Follow: All Links: linktr.ee/whywontyoudateme Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastaken YouTube: @WhyWontYouDateMePodcast TikTok: @whywontyoudatemepod Instagram: @nicolebyer X: @nicolebyer This is a Headgum podcast. Advertise on Why Won't You Date Me? via Gumball.fm. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
May 1 · 58 min
Pikachu, I Choose You! (w/ Sarah Natochenny)
Voice actress Sarah Natochenny (Pokémon) joins Nicole for a chat about how voicing Ash Ketchum inspired her to become the adventurous protagonist of her own life. Sarah shares her method for vetting a first date, why she has absolutely zero tolerance for men who neg her, and why animal companions (like her cat, Pikachu) will always be better than a boyfriend. Plus, the gals discuss Cher's wild 40-year age gap relationship, share tips for traveling solo as a single woman, and Nicole recounts a horrifying road rage incident that still haunts her. Watch this episode on our YouTube channel at https://www.youtube.com/@WhyWontYouDateMePodcast Take our listener survey and shape the future of the podcast! Support this podcast and get discounts by checking out our sponsors: • Jones Road Beauty: Use code DATEME at jonesroadbeauty.com to get a Free Gift with your first purchase! #JonesRoadBeauty #ad • Cash App: Download Cash App Today: https://capl.onelink.me/vFut/3v6r90n6 #CashAppPod. Cash App is a financial services platform, not a bank. Banking services provided by Cash App’s bank partner(s). Prepaid debit cards issued by Sutton Bank, Member FDIC. See terms and conditions at https://cash.app/legal/us/en-us/card-agreement. Discounts and promotions provided by Cash App, a Block, Inc. brand. Visit http://cash.app/legal/podcast for full disclosures. • BetterHelp: This show is sponsored by BetterHelp. Visit betterhelp.com/dateme today to get 10% off your first month. • Quince: Head to quince.com/dateme for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. Now available in Canada, too. Follow: All Links: linktr.ee/whywontyoudateme Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastaken YouTube: @WhyWontYouDateMePodcast TikTok: @whywontyoudatemepod Instagram: @nicolebyer X: @nicolebyer This is a Headgum podcast. Advertise on Why Won't You Date Me? via Gumball.fm. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
April 24 · 1 hr 7 min
Looksmaxxing Is Psychotic (w/ Tan France)
Fashion icon Tan France (Queer Eye, Honorable Gays) joins Nicole for a chat about how a planned "slut tour" accidentally resulted in an 18-year marriage, his secret past designing clothes for Mormon women, and why he really, really didn't want to be on Queer Eye. Tan gets real about the intense racism he faced dating in the UK - including the multiple times guys forced him to keep their dates a secret. Plus, he shares a horrifying first date story that had him walking out of dinner early, and they rip apart the bizarre new "looksmaxxing" trend. Watch this episode on our YouTube channel at https://www.youtube.com/@WhyWontYouDateMePodcast Take our listener survey and shape the future of the podcast! Support this podcast and get discounts by checking out our sponsors: Jones Road: Use code DATEME at jonesroadbeauty.com to get a Free Shimmer Face Oil with your first purchase! #JonesRoadBeauty #ad Chime: Chime is not just smarter banking, it is the most rewarding way to bank. Join the millions who are already banking fee free today. Head to Chime.com/DATEME. Squarespace: Head to squarespace.com/DATEME to save 10% off your first purchase of a website or domain using code DATEME. Wayfair: Way Day is THE sale to shop the best deals in home – we’re talking up to 80% OFF with fast and FREE shipping on everything! Head to Wayfair.com April 25th through the 27th to shop Way Day. Follow: All Links: linktr.ee/whywontyoudateme Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastaken YouTube: @WhyWontYouDateMePodcast TikTok: @whywontyoudatemepod Instagram: @nicolebyer X: @nicolebyer This is a Headgum podcast. Follow Headgum on Twitter, Instagram, and Tiktok. Advertise on Why Won't You Date Me? via Gumball.fm. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
April 17 · 59 min
Dating with Borderline Personality Disorder (w/ Makhyli)
Artist and actress Makhyli (Boys World) joins Nicole to chat about her experience dating while in a pop girl group. Makhyli shares how she literally created a "Build-A-Boy" slideshow presentation to manifest her current boyfriend - and it actually worked! The girls swap their worst car-date horror stories, from a guy so cheap he forced Makhyli to share a single McDonald's french fry, to a man who casually had rotting food in his backseat. Makhyli opens up about navigating relationship paranoia with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD), and the two discuss tips they've picked up for dating with ADHD. Plus they chat about their love for the latest season of Love on the Spectrum. Makhyli's new single, I Need You (Cat and Mouse) is out now! Watch this episode on our YouTube channel at https://www.youtube.com/@WhyWontYouDateMePodcast Take our listener survey and shape the future of the podcast! Support this podcast and get discounts by checking out our sponsors: Jones Road: Use code DATEME at jonesroadbeauty.com to get a Free Shimmer Face Oil with your first purchase! #JonesRoadBeauty #ad Warby Parker: Our listeners can buy one prescription pair and get 20% off additional pairs at WarbyParker.com/DATEME — and using our link helps support the show. Lola Blankets: Get 40% off your entire order at Lolablankets.com by using code DATEME at checkout. Experience the world’s #1 blanket with Lola Blankets. Follow: All Links: linktr.ee/whywontyoudateme Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastaken YouTube: @WhyWontYouDateMePodcast TikTok: @whywontyoudatemepod Instagram: @nicolebyer X: @nicolebyer This is a Headgum podcast. Follow Headgum on Twitter, Instagram, and Tiktok. Advertise on Why Won't You Date Me? via Gumball.fm. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
April 10 · 45 min
Astrology's Effect in Relationships (w/ Nathan Mitchell)
Actor Nathan Mitchell (The Boys, Ginny & Georgia) joins Nicole to discuss being in relationship limbo, and why it’s actually great to be on the same page about not being on the same page. He shares the boat date gone horribly wrong when his date air-humped a stranger, a make-out session that left him bloody, and he addresses the theories that his Ginny & Georgia character is AI. Nicole shares her experience with a man who thought a picture of a sandwich was an appropriate thirst trap. Plus, Nathan explains the importance of astrology in dating and gives Nicole a deep-dive birth chart reading that uncovers her karmic weight. Watch this episode on our YouTube channel at https://www.youtube.com/@WhyWontYouDateMePodcast Take our listener survey and shape the future of the podcast! Support this podcast and get discounts by checking out our sponsors: Jones Road: Use code DATEME at jonesroadbeauty.com to get a Free Shimmer Face Oil with your first purchase! #JonesRoadBeauty #ad Wayfair: Way Day is THE sale to shop the best deals in home – we’re talking up to 80% OFF with fast and FREE shipping on everything! Head to Wayfair.com April 25th through the 27th to shop Way Day. Cash App: Download Cash App Today: https://capl.onelink.me/vFut/3v6r90n6 #CashAppPod. Cash App is a financial services platform, not a bank. Banking services provided by Cash App’s bank partner(s). Prepaid debit cards issued by Sutton Bank, Member FDIC. See terms and conditions at https://cash.app/legal/us/en-us/card-agreement. Discounts and promotions provided by Cash App, a Block, Inc. brand. Visit http://cash.app/legal/podcast for full disclosures. Follow: All Links: linktr.ee/whywontyoudateme Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastaken YouTube: @WhyWontYouDateMePodcast TikTok: @whywontyoudatemepod Instagram: @nicolebyer X: @nicolebyer This is a Headgum podcast. Follow Headgum on Twitter, Instagram, and Tiktok. Advertise on Why Won't You Date Me? via Gumball.fm. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
April 3 · 53 min
Life as a 90s Sex Symbol (w/ Danielle Fishel)
Actor and director Danielle Fishel (Boy Meets World, Girl Meets World) joins Nicole for a chat about how it felt to be treated as a "sex symbol" in the 90s before she was even an adult. Danielle talks about the gross public countdowns to her 18th birthday, and the trauma of being mocked on her own show for being "fat" at a size 4. She shares what it was like taking Lance Bass to her high school prom during the absolute peak of *NSYNC, having Sabrina Carpenter and John Mayer in her wedding party, and details a 3-day nightmare date from her matchmaker era that might just be the worst dating story we've ever heard on this podcast. Plus, the sweet story of marrying her high school acquaintance after reconnecting on Twitter 18 years later. Watch this episode on our YouTube channel at https://www.youtube.com/@WhyWontYouDateMePodcast Want more Danielle? Check out her many podcasts! Teen Beat - The show where she interviews other child stars and actors about their upbringings and experiences in the industry. Pod Meets World - Fishel rewatches Boy Meets World and shares behind-the-scenes stories with her co-stars. American Idol Official Podcast - Fishel Interviews the eliminated contestants. Take our listener survey and shape the future of the podcast! Support this podcast and get discounts by checking out our sponsors: » HelloFresh: Go to HelloFresh.com/dateme10fm now to Get 10 Free meals + Free Nutribullet® Ultra Plus+ 2-in-1 Compact Kitchen System (a $189.99 value) on your 3rd box. *Free meals applied as a discount on the first box, new subscribers only, varies by plan. Disclaimer: Must order the 3rd box by May 31st, 2026. » IQBar: Text DATE to 64000 to get 20% off all IQBAR products, plus FREE shipping. Message and data rates may apply. » The Man of Many Fathers: Available everywhere audiobooks are sold. » Squarespace: Head to squarespace.com/DATEME to save 10% off your first purchase of a website or domain using code DATEME. » Betterhelp: This show is sponsored by BetterHelp. Visit betterhelp.com/dateme today to get 10% off your first month. Follow: All Links: linktr.ee/whywontyoudateme Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastaken YouTube: @WhyWontYouDateMePodcast TikTok: @whywontyoudatemepod Instagram: @nicolebyer X: @nicolebyer This is a Headgum podcast. Follow Headgum on Twitter, Instagram, and Tiktok. Advertise on Why Won't You Date Me? via Gumball.fm. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
March 27 · 47 min
There's a Yelp for BJs (w/ Drew Droege)
Comedian Drew Droege (Search Party, Bob's Burgers) joins Nicole for a chat about why you should never blow out your own candle in a relationship, the creepy phenomenon of couples who look like twins, and how pop culture's been romanticized abusive relationships. Drew introduces Nicole to a new hookup app that is basically Yelp for blowjobs, and reads some of the incredible BJ reviews that are written like romance novels. Plus, they break down the new Alexander Skarsgård dom/sub rom-com movie, Pillion. Los Angeles! See Drew Droege's show, Theatre Idiot at Dynasty Typewriter on April 1st. Get tickets at dynastytypewriter.com/calendar-squad-up?event-id=131942 Take our listener survey and shape the future of the podcast! Watch this episode on our YouTube channel at https://www.youtube.com/@WhyWontYouDateMePodcast Support this podcast and get discounts by checking out our sponsors: » Jones Road Beauty: Use code DATEME at jonesroadbeauty.com to get a Free Shimmer Face Oil with your first purchase! #JonesRoadBeauty #ad » Equip: Learn more about Equip’s virtual eating disorder treatment at equip.health/dateme » Planned Parenthood: Donate to support Planned Parenthood now at plannedparenthood.org/defend. » NOCD: If you're struggling with OCD or unrelenting intrusive thoughts, NOCD can help. Book a free 15 minute call to get started: learn.nocd.com/DATEME » Cash App: Download Cash App Today: https://capl.onelink.me/vFut/3v6r90n6 #CashAppPod. Cash App is a financial services platform, not a bank. Banking services provided by Cash App’s bank partner(s). Prepaid debit cards issued by Sutton Bank, Member FDIC. See terms and conditions at https://cash.app/legal/us/en-us/card-agreement. Discounts and promotions provided by Cash App, a Block, Inc. brand. Visit http://cash.app/legal/podcast for full disclosures. Follow: All Links: linktr.ee/whywontyoudateme Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastaken YouTube: @WhyWontYouDateMePodcast TikTok: @whywontyoudatemepod Instagram: @nicolebyer X: @nicolebyer This is a Headgum podcast. Follow Headgum on Twitter, Instagram, and Tiktok. Advertise on Why Won't You Date Me? via Gumball.fm. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
March 20 · 53 min
Our Healthy Era (w/ Kym Whitley)
Legendary comedian and actress Kym Whitley (Curb Your Enthusiasm, Young and Hungry) joins Nicole to chat about entering their healthy era. She fixes Nicole's hydration habits, shares easy ways she incorporates exercise into her routine, and they discuss their life post-weight loss. Kym shares her wildest dating stories, including jumping an ex's fence in a catsuit and cape, and the televised blind date she had with an unexpected star. Plus, Kym teaches us the lost art of flirting. Take our listener survey and shape the future of the podcast! Watch this episode on our YouTube channel at https://www.youtube.com/@WhyWontYouDateMePodcast Support this podcast and get discounts by checking out our sponsors: » Jones Road Beauty: Use code DATEME at jonesroadbeauty.com to get a Free Shimmer Face Oil with your first purchase! #JonesRoadBeauty #ad » Squarespace: Head to squarespace.com/DATEME to save 10% off your first purchase of a website or domain using code DATEME. » MeUndies: Right now as a listener of my show, you can get to get 20% off your first order, plus free shipping at MeUndies.com/DATEME, promo code DATEME. » Jones: Ready to quit for good? Go to quitwithjones.com/DATEME to start your personalized quitting journey and get 15% off with code DATEME. » Planned Parenthood: Donate to support Planned Parenthood now at plannedparenthood.org/defend. Follow: All Links: linktr.ee/whywontyoudateme Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastaken YouTube: @WhyWontYouDateMePodcast TikTok: @whywontyoudatemepod Instagram: @nicolebyer X: @nicolebyer Nicole's book, #VERYFAT #VERYBRAVE: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 This is a Headgum podcast. Follow Headgum on Twitter, Instagram, and Tiktok. Advertise on Why Won't You Date Me? via Gumball.fm. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Why Won't You Date Me? with Nicole Byer

The 'Goblintimacy' Dating Trend (w/ Devon Walker)

The Truth About TV Showmances (w/ Lydia B Kollins)

Sharing Trade (w/ Willam Belli)

My Career Ruined my Relationships (w/ June Jambalaya)

Hiring a Zoom Stripper (w/ Liza Treyger)

Tossing Shade (w/ Bosco)

Creatively Building a Family (w/ Sabrina Jalees)

Having A Self-Love Affair (w/ Jujubee)

Setting Relationship Boundaries (w/ Trixie Mattel)

Measuring Love & Male Delusion (w/ Tracie Thoms)

Would You Date YOU? (w/ Relationship Therapist Esther Perel)

Writing Heated Rivalry (w/ Rachel Reid)

Farting All Night on a First Date (w/ Beck Bennett)

Pikachu, I Choose You! (w/ Sarah Natochenny)

Looksmaxxing Is Psychotic (w/ Tan France)

Dating with Borderline Personality Disorder (w/ Makhyli)

Astrology's Effect in Relationships (w/ Nathan Mitchell)

Life as a 90s Sex Symbol (w/ Danielle Fishel)

There's a Yelp for BJs (w/ Drew Droege)

Our Healthy Era (w/ Kym Whitley)