Why, Dad?

Andrew Stolpestad, Paul Wandrey

Andrew, an aspiring dad, and Paul, a dad of two, dig deep to find out what it means to be/become the best dad possible, why it matters, and how to do so.

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55 episodes
Updated July 21
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Jul 1, 2025 · 57 min
Gentle Parenting: Spineless or Stronger Than You Think?
In this episode of Why, Dad?, Paul and Andrew unpack one of the most misunderstood parenting ideas out there: Gentle Parenting. They break down what it is, what it isn’t, and why so many dads (especially those who grew up with stricter models) find themselves confused by it. This is not a conversation about letting your kids walk all over you. It’s about holding boundaries and connection at the same time. With real-life moments, honest disagreements, and practical reflections, this episode cha
Jun 17, 2025 · 1 hr 7 min
Parenting on Empty: Why Showing Up Still Matters
In this episode, Paul and Andrew down in person with their friend Nick Jensen to talk about one of the most overlooked aspects of parenting: what it means to still show up, even when you're exhausted, overwhelmed, or emotionally tapped out. Nick reflects on his own fatherhood journey — juggling long days at work with the desire to be fully present at home, even when he’s got nothing left in the tank. They talk about guilt, grace, and the hard-earned wisdom of learning that presence doesn’t requ
Jun 3, 2025 · 49 min
How Do You Give What You Don't Have? Taking Care of Yourself to Take Care of Your Kids
In this episode, Paul and Baba get real about what it takes to stay healthy as a dad — not just physically, but emotionally too. From therapy and fatigue to donuts and discipline, this episode explores how taking care of yourself helps you show up better for the people who need you most.
May 20, 2025 · 50 min
Raising Whole Humans With Jon Fogel
In this episode, Paul and Andrew welcome their very first guest — parenting educator, counselor, and author Jon Fogel (aka @wholeparent). Jon unpacks the difference between punishment and consequences, challenges traditional ideas of discipline, and offers a completely reframed vision of what it means to raise emotionally healthy, curious, and confident kids. This episode explores why parenting shouldn’t be about control, how we often sabotage our long-term goals in the name of short-term obedi
May 6, 2025 · 51 min
Are We Raising Brainless Automatons?
In this episode, Paul and Andrew dig into one of the most powerful (and often under-discussed) parenting skills: teaching our kids how to think. From silly moments like mistaking cows for horses to deeper reflections on autonomy and identity, they explore how critical thinking shows up in everyday parenting—and how easy it is to accidentally shut it down. You’ll hear personal stories, lots of questions, and practical ways to help raise thoughtful, independent kids in a world full of easy answer
Apr 22, 2025 · 47 min
Putting the Gratitude in Attitude: the Power of a Gratitude Mindset
Disclaimer: Please don't close your eyes as instructed if you are driving or doing anything else dangerous. In this episode of the Why, Dad? Podcast, we explore the transformative power of gratitude and how it shapes us as fathers. "Putting the Gratitude in Attitude: The Power of a Gratitude Mindset" dives into the essential role gratitude plays in our lives, from strengthening our parenting to improving our personal well-being. Join us as we discuss practical ways to embrace a gratitude minds
Apr 8, 2025 · 45 min
Should We Teach Our Children?
Disclaimer: expect some minor audio issues due to one of our hosts calling in from a remote location. In this episode, Paul and Andrew dive into a thought-provoking clip from a popular parenting influencer, where the idea that parents shouldn’t teach their kids "what" to learn, but instead create an environment where they can discover "what they want to learn," is explored. This leads to a deep discussion about the role of fathers in guiding their children. Should we just get out of the way an
Mar 25, 2025 · 39 min
The Aspiring Dad: Preparing for Fatherhood
What does it mean to prepare for fatherhood before it even begins? In this episode, Paul and Andrew explore the journey of an aspiring dad—Andrew's personal reflections on his desire to become a father, the challenges of preparing for that role, and the intentional steps he's taking to become the best version of himself. From discussing the influence of their own fathers to the values and habits that shape a strong future dad, this conversation offers a unique perspective for both seasoned fath
Mar 11, 2025 · 39 min
Sneak Peek Into Becoming a Dad (Again)
In this behind the scenes episode of 'Why, Dad?', Paul and Andrew dive into one of the biggest milestones in parenthood—welcoming a new child into the family. Paul opens up about the birth of his son, Liam, and reflects on the emotions, challenges, and joys of transitioning from a family of three to four. They discuss the mix of relief and excitement, the struggles of early parenthood, and how older siblings adapt to a new baby in the house. The conversation also touches on postpartum emotions f
Feb 25, 2025 · 1 hr 23 min
The Power of Habits: Designing Your Life One Brick at a Time
Habits shape who we are, whether we realize it or not. In this episode, Paul and Andrew break down the science of habits, why they matter, and how to leverage them to take control of your life. From battling the 'whack-a-mole' cycle of self-improvement to stacking small wins for big success, they share practical tips for building better habits and breaking bad ones.
Feb 11, 2025 · 1 hr 27 min
Grit(s): The Recipe for Success
What separates those who thrive from those who are stuck drifting aimlessly or in an unending loop of failed habits? One word: Grit. In this episode, Paul and Andrew peel back the onion of resilience—what it is, why it matters, and how we can develop it in ourselves and our kids. Learn practical ways to help push through challenges, embrace failure, and build grit.
Jan 27, 2025 · 1 hr 10 min
A Dad's Search for Purpose
In this introspective and relatable episode of Why, Dad?, Paul and Andrew dive into a question that many of us have asked ourselves: What are you doing with your life? Through candid conversation and lighthearted banter, they explore what it means to find purpose, align your actions with your values, and navigate the chaos of life with intention. Whether you're feeling stuck, seeking direction, or just curious how others approach this timeless question, this episode will leave you feeling inspir
Jan 7, 2025 · 1 hr 25 min
Beyond Responsibility: The Power of Accountability
Get ready to dive deep into the powerful concept of responsibility with Andrew and Paul on this episode of the "Why Dad?" podcast! Forget the boring old definitions – they're tackling responsibility as a game-changer for both personal growth and raising awesome kids.
Dec 27, 2024 · 1 hr 33 min
Fatherhood as a Legacy and Responsibility
This episode of the Why Dad Podcast dives deep into the profound idea of fatherhood as both a legacy and a responsibility. Hosts Paul and Andrew explore what it truly means to build something that endures, not just for your children, but for their children's children and beyond. Whether you're a seasoned dad, considering fatherhood, or simply striving to be a better man, this conversation will challenge your perspective on what it means to leave your mark. They discuss moving beyond the traditio
Nov 15, 2024 · 37 min
Raising Kids, Raising Ourselves: The Why Dad Podcast
Andrew Stolpestad and Paul Wandrey, long-time friends and practically brothers, launch the 'Why Dad?' podcast. Aimed at helping themselves and others navigate the challenges and joys of fatherhood, the podcast addresses key questions about raising children, self-improvement, and building a supportive community for dads and aspiring dads. Andrew, aspiring to be a father, and Paul, a father of a three-year-old with another on the way, share their personal stories, values, and experiences. They hop