What I Love About Sex

Stephanie Ganowski

What I Love About Sex is the podcast for high-achieving men who feel like they're successful everywhere but their sex life.
It's hosted by clinical sexologist and men's sex coach Stephanie Ganowski and each weekly episode helps men to understand their relationship more clearly and learn the skills it takes to show up to their woman with confidence, conviction and connection.

Stephanie directly coaches men on topics most men were never taught: sexual performance anxiety, desire and arousal, lasting longer, intimacy vs sex, emotional intelligence, emotional leadership, and how to actually communicate about sex... so you can have more of it.

You'll get practical, judgment-free, science-backed tools to become the man you want to be in your relationship and sex life.
New episodes every week.

🎧 Want to learn more? Go to stephanieganowski.com

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Yesterday · 10 min
3 MORE Tips Every Man Needs to Know to Give Her Pleasure (part II) #436
In this episode, I'm sharing three more ways to give her more pleasure during sex and these are separate from the tips in Part 1, so if you haven't caught that one yet, go back and listen first :) I'm Stephanie, sexologist and sex coach for men. I help men overcome performance pressure and have great sex! Here's what I cover in this episode: 1. Why great sex doesn't have to follow a linear "porn script" as most men learn. 2. Why moving slower and paying attention to the "winning spot" will give your woman more pleasure. 3. What it means to "pay attention to the cumdown" If you want to learn how to feel pleasure and stay present in your own body during sex instead of stuck in your head, get my app, Ronan: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/ronan/id6760799274
July 23 · 10 min
3 Sex Tips Every Man Needs to Know to Give her Pleasure #435
In this episode I'm breaking down 3 things that actually bring most women more pleasure during sex. 1️⃣ Getting her fully turned on before penetration 2️⃣ Trading the nonstop fast pace for intentional, slower thrusting and why pausing can feel amazing 3️⃣ Letting her grind instead of bounce when she's on top If you've ever asked her what feels good and received an "I don't know" back, this video will help you both figure it out together. Also mentioned: Ronan, the app I built to help men understand their own bodies so they can show up better for their partners, especially if you're dealing with premature ejaculation, delayed ejaculation, ED, porn reliance, or low confidence. Free week trial available now (only on the app store- for now) 👉 Ronan App: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/ronan/id6760799274 👉 Submit Ronan feedback: https://stephanieganowski.typeform.com/to/RZx1CtzM
July 9 · 36 min
You Trained Yourself Into Anxiety. You Can Train Yourself Out. Find a Way! #434
Most people give up too easily and the people around you, the Reddit threads venting, the "this is just normal" advice from doctors and therapists, are actually reinforcing the belief that you're stuck (when you are not!). In this episode, I break down why so much performance anxiety, ED, PE, and delayed ejaculation comes down to one thing: a lack of self-trust. I share the moment climbing Mount Shasta that taught me what trust actually means, how I let go of "I'm an anxious person" as an identity, and why the language you use with yourself is either working for you or against you. You'll hear real client stories, plus the mindset shift that changes everything: you trained yourself into anxiety, which means you can train yourself into trust. If you're tired of being in your head, outsourcing your power, and letting the "What-if" thoughts control your sex life, this one's for you! Ronan App is now live on the App Store. It's built to help you masturbate in a way that actually improves your sex life --> meditations plus an all-new identity piece to shift how you see yourself before you begin. If you're dealing with porn reliance, delayed or premature ejaculation, ED, or you just want to build sexual confidence, start here. First week is free. Feedback form for Ronan - I would love to hear your thoughts so I can make Ronan the best sex app for men! Ready for 1:1 coaching to overcome your performance issues and make sex feel easy again? Apply for a sex audit and we'll hop on a call to see if we're a good fit!
June 17 · 14 min
This is what gives you the confidence you've been wanting #433
To make changes for yourself and your relationship, it requires acting before you're "ready" so you can build trust in yourself and learn that no matter what happens, you will adapt and be more than ok. If you don't trust yourself in your relationship it looks like: You not addressing 'elephants in the room' with her and waiting for her to that discussion. You asking for her permission, 'letting her' plan things or 'reading her' instead of talking to her directly. You waiting for sex to happen or guessing instead of understanding exactly what leads to it happening. She will not trust you unless you fully trust yourself first. If she cannot trust you, she cannot connect with you. If she cannot connect with you, she will not want to have sex with you. When you're ready to own that your relationship and sex life is not in a good place and realize there is work to do that you're no longer willing to put to the side- apply for a Sex Audit.
June 10 · 16 min
When You Stop Needing Sex, You Take The Pressure Off It #432
When you need sex (or other external things) because it's the only way you can feel a certain way (love, connection, masculinity, feeling seen, appreciation, etc.), you lose trust in yourself and you lose options. Relying on yourself provides you a sense of freedom and ease in your body and in your relationship with your partner. That ease and those options allow you to practice other ways to feel what you want to feel and this is where you build confidence and also more attraction within yourself and your relationship. Something I want to add that I didn't mention in this episode when I shared my boyfriend's take on this, is how it impacts me as his partner. I feel his ease and his want for sex over his pressure and need for sex. It makes our sex life be something we do to add to our love and connection, not the only source. Do you have a specific situation in your relationship you want to be coached on so you have specific actions for moving forward? Whether it's around your delayed ejaculation, ED, premature ejaculation, sex skills, mindset or a situation with your woman where you feel stuck... Join Built Daily You'll be anonymous and you'll see the questions and coaching I provide other men in Built Daily (which I'm sure you can relate to).
June 2 · 15 min
Changing the Feedback Loop of Your Sex Life #431
When the sex you're having doesn't go according to plan, most men go quiet, spiral into "woe is me," and wait for their partner to reassure them, instead of taking the lead. In this episode, I break down a recent client breakthrough that shows why that pattern keeps your sex life stuck and what changes this feedback loop. The real win isn't staying hard or "performing" perfectly. It's how you respond when things don't go ideal. That's the moment that sets a new trajectory and standard, builds your partner's trust, and starts a completely different feedback loop. We get into why this is a pressure problem rather than a sex problem, the difference between chasing relief and feeling calm and grounded, and how showing up with conviction changes how your partner responds to you. If you're tired of waiting for things to magically go right in your sex life, this one's for you. Want personalized help with your specific sex challenge? Check out my new offer, Built Daily: You can submit your question anonymously and get an audio coaching answer with your next step to take.
May 27 · 16 min
The 3 Ways Men Initiate Sex That Almost Guarantee Rejection #430
Ever turned to your partner at 9:30pm, asked "you wanna…?" and rolled over disappointed when she said no? She didn't reject you... she rejected the way you initiated. In this episode, I break down the three ways most men initiate sex that almost guarantee a "no". None of them are your fault, you weren't taught this. But once you see which one you fall into, you can stop blaming her (or yourself) and start building the kind of connection that makes sex feel inevitable instead of awkward. I'll walk you through what real initiation looks like... the small, intentional moments throughout the day, the touch, the eye contact, the way you talk to her like she's your woman and how that completely changes what happens at night. This is about creating the frame and the energy that sex actually lives inside of. If you want me coaching you on your situation, not just teaching you in general, that's what Built Daily is for. Founding 20 men get $50/month locked in for life: Join Built Daily
May 22 · 8 min
Don't avoid the "sensitive topics" #429
In this episode, I teach you why it's so important to be able to talk about everything with your woman - especially when it impacts your relationship. Book your Attraction Audit for 1:1 coaching
May 17 · 13 min
The 1% Relationship: Doing What Most People Won't #428
If you want a relationship most people don't have, you have to do what most people won't. Sometimes that's uncomfortable and that's ok! In this episode, I'm breaking down just a few of the behaviors that separate the 1% of relationships from the rest These skills aren't something you're born with. They're built. And the freedom on the other side of building them is unmatched. Ready to do the work? Book Your Attraction Audit Here
April 29 · 21 min
Last longer in bed with this move! #427
Listen to this episode and learn: How shallow penetration can help you last longer in bed What it means for men to be "black and white" in their thinking around sex while women are like "rainbows" That maybe you can think twice before going down on her for the purpose of making her horny The 1% Man's Guide to the Sex Life You Were Built For: 5 Mindset Audio Trainings
April 22 · 7 min
Are you having 'relational conversations' with her? #426
In this episode, I'm reminding you of why it's important to have conversations about your relationship instead of either conversations about planning/family stuff or conversations that are very sex-specific. There is this whole middle area that you're probably not capitalizing on and it's where comfort and trust around sex is actually built! If you're ready to join the 1% Man: Sexual Leadership System: Apply here
April 8 · 24 min
Settling for a 'good' sex life? (Your tricking yourself) #425
In this episode, I'm showing you the difference between a man who has an "ok" sex life that he even tricks himself into thinking that it's "good", and a man who has a great sex life and he knows it and feels it. I did not edit any of this episode so hopefully it didn't need editing lol. Work with me: https://stephanieganowski.typeform.com/to/Fm6LGfa9?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=1on1_coaching
March 30 · 51 min
Les Chandelles: What It's Really Like Inside Paris's Exclusive Sex Club #424
In this episode, I'm taking you inside one of Paris's most talked-about and notoriously hard-to-get-into sex clubs: Les Chandelles (aka "The Candlesticks"). Andrew and I had been planning this Europe trip for a while, and visiting this club was on our list. I share what it was actually like getting in (yes, the stilettos and suits are non-negotiable), the stark cultural differences between American and European sex clubs, and how the experience ended up being a sexy, fun, trust-building moment in our relationship. I also get real about timing- why my boyfriend and I waited until we were truly secure as a couple before exploring this kind of experience and why trying to use something like this to "fix" a relationship is often a recipe for disaster based on my professional opinion. Whether this is something you're curious about or just want to understand better, I hope this episode gives you an honest, thoughtful perspective into what a great first experience can look like! The 1% Man’s Guide to the Sex Life You Were Built For: https://www.stephanieganowski.com/the-shift/
March 13 · 47 min
Q&A: Your Sex, Intimacy & Relationship Questions Answered #423
Stephanie answers your sex questions (from Instagram audience) in this juicy Q&A episode. Covering everything from how to be more romantic and intimate outside the bedroom, to what's really behind a woman's low libido (hint: it's usually not what you think). She also gets personal about navigating breakups, grief, and why "it just takes time" might be the most overrated advice out there. Plus, she breaks down why building emotional connection is the foundation of a thriving sex life and answers the question everyone was really waiting for at the end. Don't miss this one! 🔗 Grab the Texter Tool mentioned in the episode and get on the Standard newsletter: https://stephanieganowski.com/lp/texther.html
March 9 · 13 min
Sexless Marriage: What Vulnerability sounds like #422
Most men know they're "supposed to be vulnerable." Almost none of them know what that actually means in practice... what to say, how to say it, and why it works. In this episode, I break down what real vulnerability sounds like in a relationship and what it does to your partner when you show up that way. Then you'll hear directly from Danny, a guy who'd been with his wife for 24 years, ended up in a sexless marriage with her, and turned everything around in five months without ever hiring a coach. This is what doing the work actually looks like! Apply for 1:1 Coaching: https://stephanieganowski.typeform.com/to/Fm6LGfa9?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=1on1_coaching Show your woman some love right now: https://stephanieganowski.com/lp/texther.html
February 25 · 16 min
Are you attracted to yourself? #421
Do you find yourself desirable? When's the last time you actually felt sexy- not because she told you, but because you believed it? In this episode, Stephanie breaks down why self-attraction is the foundation of how you show up in your relationship and your sex life. In this episode, you'll learn: Why relying on your partner's desire to feel attractive keeps you stuck in an insecure loop How you choose to show up determines your confidence and sex appeal more than looks or money Why doing things for yourself (not to impress her) is what actually gains respect and attraction How feeling sexy changes the energy dynamic of how you show up in bed Why age has nothing to do with your sex appeal A tool to help you build confidence through flirty texting Start flirting with her now using this: https://stephanieganowski.com/lp/texther.html
January 31 · 1 hr 1 min
What sex coaching for men really looks like (Kyle's story) #420
If you're a man who feels lost, insecure, or unsure of how to own your sexual confidence, this episode will hit home. My client, Kyle, came to coaching after a divorce, a career change, and a lifetime of quiet shame around sex. Kyle opens up about the uncomfortable but sexually freeing journey of learning to trust himself, express his desire, and feel sexy again. His story is raw, relatable, and inspiring. If you're wondering what real transformation looks like for men, this is it. I hope you enjoy this episode. If you're interested in 1:1 coaching with me you can apply here: https://stephanieganowski.typeform.com/to/Fm6LGfa9?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=1on1_coaching If you're interested in joining Ronan, start here: http://stephanieganowski.ac-page.com/ronan-landing-page If you're a man who has used my content (or worked with me 1:1 in the past!) and want to share your story on the podcast, you can email me at stephanie@stephanieganowski.com
January 9 · 25 min
Don't Expect Desire If You've Stopped Being Desirable #419
Attraction doesn’t die because of time. It dies because of complacency. In this episode, we talk about the uncomfortable reality many men avoid: how comfort, routine, and a lack of self-leadership quietly erode sexual desire in long-term relationships. This isn’t about shaming men or blaming partners. It’s about understanding how vitality, effort, and self-respect directly affect attraction — and why desire can’t survive when men stop engaging with their own lives. We’ll explore: Why “letting yourself go” is more energetic than physical How comfort kills polarity and erotic tension Why trying “for her” backfires — and what actually works How sexual confidence is built through self-respect, not performance If your relationship feels stable but disconnected… If sex feels pressured, rare, or obligatory… If you sense you’ve lost your edge — and want it back… This episode will challenge you, ground you, and call you forward. Not to be perfect. But to be present. Alive. And intentional again. Ready to improve your sex life? Apply to work with me: https://www.stephanieganowski.com/coaching-application-video/ Find me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/stephganowski/ Learn more about Ronan: https://stephanieganowski.ac-page.com/ronan-landing-page Join my weekly "sex topics" newsletter: https://www.stephanieganowski.com/
Dec 12, 2025 · 22 min
The Mind-Body Disconnect Problem #418
In this episode, Stephanie lists the reasons why so many men feel disconnected from their sex lives and how her new app Ronan can help! Join the early access list for Ronan here. When you do, you'll get more info on the exact day it launches and the bonuses you get if you join in the first 3 days :) Ready to improve your sex life? Apply to work with me: https://www.stephanieganowski.com/coaching-application-video/ Find me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/stephganowski/ Learn more about Ronan: https://stephanieganowski.ac-page.com/ronan-landing-page Join my weekly "sex topics" newsletter: https://www.stephanieganowski.com/
Dec 6, 2025 · 29 min
Your Sex Life Changes When You Do #416
You’re not born confident. You build confidence by stepping into the man you want to be, even when it feels unknown or uncomfortable. In this solo episode, Stephanie breaks down why who you’re being: in your relationship, your sex life, and your mindset - is everything. ✅ You’re not your past. ✅ Courage first. Confidence later. ✅ Your sex life changes when you change. This episode is your reminder that you already have what it takes you just have to define it more clearly and then consciously choose it moment to moment. Ready to improve your sex life? Apply to work with me: https://www.stephanieganowski.com/coaching-application-video/ Find me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/stephganowski/ Learn more about Ronan: https://stephanieganowski.ac-page.com/ronan-landing-page Join my weekly "sex topics" newsletter: https://www.stephanieganowski.com/