We Can Do Hard Things

Treat Media and Glennon Doyle

Come do life with Glennon Doyle, Abby Wambach, and Amanda Doyle.

With more than half a billion plays, We Can Do Hard Things is a hilarious, raw, comforting “support system for braving the everyday.” The Pod Squad goes hard ($56 Million raised in global aid) and stays soft: meet here on Tuesdays to laugh, talk, and cry our way through the pain and magic of being human.

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625 episodes
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Sep 7, 2021 · 57 min
24. ALL THE FEELS: Can we experience our emotions—not as good or bad—but as information to guide us?
1. Glennon describes how she’s feeling as her oldest leaves for college—and the survival strategy that’s getting her through. 2. The life secret someone told Glennon in early sobriety that changed her life. 3. Amanda discusses the only two strategies that are proven to help us cope with our emotions and become more resilient. 4. How hard feelings always reveal something to you about you. 5. How the life hack Glennon calls “Save as Drafts” has saved her relationships.
Sep 2, 2021 · 42 min
23. Lightning Love & Not Calming Down
1. Amanda presents a case for “summer rain” love—and rejects “lightning love” as the highest form of romantic love. 2. Glennon’s theory for when to speak up and when to shut up. 3. How Abby’s experience in a mostly male meeting showed her that “silent solidarity” is a cowardly lie. 4. The trick Glennon uses to communicate with highly sensitive kiddos. (Abby swears it works every time.)
Aug 31, 2021 · 54 min
22. REAL TALK: How can we begin to use conversation as a key to unlocking each other?
1. Five communication ideas that might help us connect more deeply with people. 2. How Glennon feels that “everyone is talking but nobody is listening to each other ever” and why that’s one of the reasons most of us feel lonely. 3. The conversation strategy that Glennon and Abby use at the dinner table with their kids and friends. 4. Why we love talking about ourselves—and when it helps (and when it hurts) our relationships.
Aug 26, 2021 · 43 min
21. On Cussing, “Cattiness” & What Feminism Means to G
1. Glennon lets f-ing loose about the misogyny in our cursing lexicon—and how it reveals our hidden conditioning. (Note: Don’t listen with the kiddos.) 2. The connection between how little girls are taught to avoid conflict with each other and how adult women are called “catty.” 3. What Glennon really means when she says she’s a feminist—and why she’s baffled when a group fighting for their own equality turns on another group fighting for theirs. 4. Why Glennon says that the teenage years may be her favorite parenting era yet.
Aug 24, 2021 · 49 min
20. PLAYING OUR ROLES: How does culture’s invention of gender typecast every last one of us?
1. How, in the business world, Amanda is labeled as aggressive and dominant—and why that’s a gender trap. 2. Abby’s experiences of being publicly misgendered—and how that makes her feel. 3. Why is gender the last place we’re agreed it’s acceptable to make identity assumptions? 4. Why do we tell people who they are before they’re even born—and a thousand different ways every day after? 5. Why Glennon says two women in a marriage, handling their own business, rocks the patriarchal boat.
Aug 19, 2021 · 40 min
19. SISTER ACT: Who is Amanda—and seriously, how does she know all the things?
1. The Pod Squad is peeved that Glennon refers to Amanda as “Sister”—so what should we call her? 2. How Glennon and Amanda both spent their college weekends in jail—but for very different reasons. 3. Getting to know Amanda and her innate obsession with the link between our personal experience and our location within systems of power. 4. What’s making life a little easier for the Doyle sisters this week.
Aug 17, 2021 · 53 min
18. “BEAUTY”: How did we get trapped in this cage, and how do we break free?
1. Why are we conditioned to spend so much of our precious time and energy on our appearance? 2. Why is it that when men put work into the world, the world asks if his work is worthy—but when women put work into the world, the world asks if she’s worthy? 3. Why is half the population’s face allowed to exist as is, while the rest of our faces “need” to be covered in concealers, colors, botox, etc., etc....? 4. How is it that the ultimate way to insult a woman is to say that she’s “let herself go”? 5. The better “beauty” standard for women that is liberating Glennon right now.
Aug 12, 2021 · 51 min
17. EASY THINGS: Why, for some of us, is lightening up the hardest thing to do?
1. Glennon’s radical acceptance that she’s always going to be a midnight person in a sunshine world. 2. Our favorite movies and music—and what they reveal about our personalities. 3. Why Abby is objectively hot, but please don’t say that to Glennon at parties.
Aug 10, 2021 · 59 min
16. QUITTING: When is it time to let something or someone go?
1. The one question to ask yourself when deciding whether it’s time to quit something. 2. Why Glennon actually believes that quitting each day is necessary for her survival. 3. The big quits that led Abby to Glennon. 4. Amanda’s unexpected great relief—and hope for your relief—in learning about how we’re all just as happy as we’re ever going to be. (And how, as expected, Glennon disagrees.) 5. Rethinking the ending of a marriage as a positive quit and how to talk to friends going through it.
Aug 5, 2021 · 38 min
15. Sexy Qs, Farewell to Faking It & Vouching for Vibrators
1. If you’re like 75% of women, Amanda’s hot tips for setting yourself up for success in the bedroom. 2. Detoxing from religious purity / sex shame culture, and raising kids with a healthier relationship to sex. 3. The one sex subject that’s a hard no for Abby and Glennon.
Aug 3, 2021 · 1 hr 1 min
14. SILENT SEX QUEEN: Why aren’t we talking about sex more?
1. Glennon, Amanda, and Abby discuss their sex origin stories and how that shapes their current sex fears. 2. Glennon’s high-pressure situation of sex with Abby for the first time—and how it didn’t go quite as you’d expect. 3. The biggest sex challenges in Glennon, Abby, and Amanda’s marriages now. 4. What Amanda regrets about her past sex life—and how she’s already worried about what she’s going to regret when she’s eighty. 5. How Pod Squaders taught Glennon and Abby about “lesbian deathbed.”
Jul 29, 2021 · 45 min
13. Brave Parenting Qs & the Power of Saying YES!
Glennon and Amanda decided to add a second episode each week after Glennon’s big move to California—in the first Thursday episode, they discuss: 1. Glennon’s experiment of Saying Yes to anything the universe invites her to. 2. How much screen time is too much screen time? 3. Are we all just Pendulum Parenting (over-correcting parents’ mistakes and screwing our kids up in the equal and opposite way our parents screwed us up)?
Jul 27, 2021 · 1 hr 1 min
12. PARENTING: How do we make this thrilling, terrifying roller coaster ride a little bit easier?
1. The 5 things Glennon wishes she’d known during those early days with young kids. 2. Why it’s important to let our kids see us mess up, cry, and lose it every once in a while. 3. How to let go of Expectation Parenting and embrace Treasure Hunt Parenting. 4. On teaching kids the most important lesson: How to disappoint everyone else (including you) before they disappoint themselves. 5. Why if you’re listening to this podcast worried about how you’re parenting, things are likely already okay.
Jul 20, 2021 · 1 hr 15 min
11. REDEFINING FAMILY with Craig: Does letting go of what family “should be” help us embrace the family we have?
1. Craig’s first two thoughts the moment Glennon sent him “the text.” 2. How Glennon and Craig told the kids they were divorcing. 3. The big mistake Glennon and Craig agree they made in the early days of blending their family. 4. What Craig says is the most annoying thing about co-parenting with Glennon, and the best thing about co-parenting with Abby. 5. How Craig really feels about Glennon writing their stories.
Jul 13, 2021 · 1 hr 3 min
10. OUR BODIES: Why are we at war with them and can we ever make peace?
TW // eating disorders 1. Glennon’s “final frontier”—her attempt to stop controlling her body. 2. The opportunity costs of a lifetime spent obsessing about our size and shape. 3. How we’ve been taught to fixate over every hair, wrinkle, and pound—but have never been taught how our bodies actually work. 4. How to quit conditioning girls to stay small in body, hunger, ambition, and desire. 5. The tyranny of the weigh-in at the doctor’s office—and why BMI is horseshit.
Jul 6, 2021 · 1 hr 17 min
9. QUEER FREEDOM: How can we be both held and free?
1. How Abby learned from church as a child to hate herself—and the healing moment she realized that God and religion are not the same. 2. The miraculous letter Glennon received from a reader the day after she came out. 3. Glennon’s response to the statement “I disagree with your lifestyle, but I love you anyway.” 4. When it’s time to either raise hell inside of—or leave—the institutions that require us to deny who we are or what we know.
Jun 29, 2021 · 1 hr 2 min
8. SELF CARE: How do we identify our real needs and finally get them met?
1. How to create lives that we don’t need to escape from. 2. Why our resentment toward others is our Secret Self-Care Signal. 3. Why refusing to be selfless is the best way to care for others and the world. 4. How to stop passing down the brutal legacy of martyrdom to our children. 5. Glennon’s life-changing spiritual practice: Habitual Quitting.
Jun 22, 2021 · 1 hr 19 min
7. FIGHTING WELL: Is your conflict style making or breaking your relationships?
In this episode, in which Abby joins Glennon and Amanda, discover: 1. How Glennon and Abby realized that each of their recurring Five Fights (about money, food, etc.) are all actually about the exact same thing—and how it all goes back to their childhoods. 2. The guardrails Abby and Glennon built to protect each other when they fight. 3. How to handle a relationship in which one partner runs from conflict (Team Abby), and the other rushes toward conflict (Team Glennon). 4. The one red flag that Amanda insists is a relationship-ender. TW // eating disorders
Jun 15, 2021 · 1 hr 4 min
OVERWHELM: Is our exhaustion a sign that we’re CareTicking time bombs?
In the episode discover: 1. How the constant to-do list ticker looping in Amanda's brain makes her feel like a dormant volcano. 2. The job description we've somehow accepted for motherhood—and whether self-abandonment is a job requirement. 3. The way gender expectations even creep into Glennon and Abby's marriage. 4. How to know whether your partner is a co-builder or an assistant. 5. How to make the invisible load of caretaking visible—and potentially bearable.
Jun 8, 2021 · 1 hr 19 min
5. ADDICTION: How do we love an addict and how does an addict love herself?
TW // abortion, bulimia, addiction In this episode discover: 1. How Amanda protected their sisterhood from Glennon’s addiction. 2. Which of the 12 steps Glennon refused to take. 3. What it took for Amanda to finally quit the wine. 4. The answer to the Pod Squad’s question about quarantine drinking and how much is too much.

We Can Do Hard Things

24. ALL THE FEELS: Can we experience our emotions—not as good or bad—but as information to guide us?

23. Lightning Love & Not Calming Down

22. REAL TALK: How can we begin to use conversation as a key to unlocking each other?

21. On Cussing, “Cattiness” & What Feminism Means to G

20. PLAYING OUR ROLES: How does culture’s invention of gender typecast every last one of us?

19. SISTER ACT: Who is Amanda—and seriously, how does she know all the things?

18. “BEAUTY”: How did we get trapped in this cage, and how do we break free?

17. EASY THINGS: Why, for some of us, is lightening up the hardest thing to do?

16. QUITTING: When is it time to let something or someone go?

15. Sexy Qs, Farewell to Faking It & Vouching for Vibrators

14. SILENT SEX QUEEN: Why aren’t we talking about sex more?

13. Brave Parenting Qs & the Power of Saying YES!

12. PARENTING: How do we make this thrilling, terrifying roller coaster ride a little bit easier?

11. REDEFINING FAMILY with Craig: Does letting go of what family “should be” help us embrace the family we have?

10. OUR BODIES: Why are we at war with them and can we ever make peace?

9. QUEER FREEDOM: How can we be both held and free?

8. SELF CARE: How do we identify our real needs and finally get them met?

7. FIGHTING WELL: Is your conflict style making or breaking your relationships?

OVERWHELM: Is our exhaustion a sign that we’re CareTicking time bombs?

5. ADDICTION: How do we love an addict and how does an addict love herself?