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Unashamed Unafraid

Unashamed Unafraid is a show dedicated to being unashamed about sexual addiction recovery and unafraid of coming unto Christ for healing. Pornography and sexual addiction are not something you are stuck with to manage your whole life. We share real stories of recovery, the best resources, information from experts, and answer anonymous questions with those who know. All to help you on the path of being 100% healed from pornography and sexual addiction.

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Wednesday · 32 min
EP 227: Live Unashamed - Breaking Isolation
In this episode of Unashamed, Unafraid, Sam, Chris and Joshua discuss how isolation fuels relapse and undermines recovery from sexual addiction. Sam shares relapsing while his wife was away, connecting it to unprocessed emotions, blaming his spouse, and failing to plan for connection; the group emphasizes ownership, accountability, and reaching out in temptation as a key recovery skill. Joshua describes months of isolation amid financial strain, work instability, and possible re-injury that removed fitness as a coping tool, plus feeling distant from God; a child’s spontaneous hug prompts him to recognize repeated “love notes” through people reaching out. They reject isolation as ineffective, commit to renewed community and group support, and invite listeners to email their plans to get connected. Make a donation and become an Outsider! Follow us on social media! Instagram, Facebook & TikTok Subscribe to our YouTube Check out our recommended resources Want to rep the message? Shop our MERCH! For more inspiration, read our blog Do you have a story you are willing to share? Send us an email! contact@unashamedunafraid.com Timestamps: 01:31 Relapse and Heavy Heart 02:25 Isolation Triggers 04:48 Ownership Over Blame 06:52 Make the Call 09:08 Sobriety vs Recovery 10:44 Refusing to Isolate 13:29 Stressors Behind Isolation 17:40 God Reaching Out 21:20 Affirmations and Identity 23:33 System for Temptation 27:04 Commitments and Next Steps 29:33 Audience Challenge and Wrap
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August 19 · 46 min
EP 226: Hypnotherapy and Porn Addiction
In this episode of Unashamed, Unafraid, Sam and Austin welcome clinical hypnotherapist and master hypnotist Erin from familiesgettinghelp.com. Together, they explore how hypnotherapy functions as a powerful, non-traditional tool in sexual addiction recovery. Erin dispels common pop-culture myths surrounding hypnosis, breaks down the neurochemistry of shame, and demonstrates how tapping into theta brain waves allows clients to rewrite subconscious beliefs formed in childhood. The conversation dives deep into both bottom-up approaches—like shifting core identity and future pacing—and top-down somatic tools you can use in real-time to manage temptation. Whether you are struggling with unwanted behaviors or supporting someone who is, this episode offers actionable insights on integration, emotional regulation, and step-by-step healing. --- Families Getting Help helps people break free from the subconscious patterns that drive pornography use, rebuild trust and stronger relationships, and change the inner dialogue that keeps them stuck in unwanted patterns. Learn More: FamiliesGettingHelp.com Book Your Introduction Call Now: https://familiesgettinghelp.com/#ghl-calendar. Discount code: UNASHAMED Free Automatic Impulse Control Video: Want the free workshop where you learn how to automatically turn down a temptation? Go here - https://help.familiesgettinghelp.com/turndowntemptationsnow ---- Make a donation and become an Outsider! Follow us on social media! Instagram, Facebook & TikTok Subscribe to our YouTube Check out our recommended resources Want to rep the message? Shop our MERCH! For more inspiration, read our blog Do you have a story you are willing to share? Send us an email! contact@unashamedunafraid.com Timestamps 03:40 - Introducing Guest Erin & Demystifying Hypnotherapy Basics 08:33 - The Role of Shame, Dopamine Loops, & Neurochemistry in Addiction 12:00 - Brain Waves, Subconscious Memories, & Rewiring Neural Pathways 17:15 - Comparing Hypnotherapy to EMDR & Sam/Austin's Personal Experiences 24:20 - Bottom-Up Identity Shift vs. Top-Down Somatic Recovery Tools 27:50 - Automatic Impulse Control Demonstration: Using Somatic Tools for Urges 32:55 - Connecting with Erin (FamiliesGettingHelp.com) & St. George/Zoom Services 36:30 - Personal Readiness, Emotional Maturity, & Taking Recovery Ownership 41:15 - Advice for Families, Final Takeaways on Identity, & Episode Sign-Off
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August 12 · 30 min
EP 225: Live Unashamed - Brotherhood is Not Optional
In this episode of Unashamed Unafraid, Chris, Sam, Mason, and Austin discuss why building a real male brotherhood is essential—not optional—for recovering from sexual addiction. They explore the common hurdles men face in seeking support, such as fatherlessness, isolation, and the tendency to minimize their struggles rather than open up. The hosts emphasize that true brotherhood requires both deep vulnerability during moments of temptation and lighthearted fun to build genuine connection. Ultimately, they encourage listeners to stop isolating, step out in courage, and clearly communicate what they need from supportive peers to achieve lasting healing. Make a donation and become an Outsider! Follow us on social media! Instagram, Facebook & TikTok Subscribe to our YouTube Check out our recommended resources Want to rep the message? Shop our MERCH! For more inspiration, read our blog Do you have a story you are willing to share? Send us an email! contact@unashamedunafraid.com Timestamps: 0:43 – Welcome to Unashamed, Unafraid & Four Brothers in the House 2:18 – "Brotherhood is Not Optional" & Trying to Recover Alone 4:05 – Mason & Sam’s Story: Realizing Dudes Don't Talk About Porn Addiction 6:27 – Why Men Avoid Brotherhood: Fatherlessness & Unhealthy Patterns 8:52 – The Wild Hearts Group & The Power of "Will You Pray For Me?" 11:41 – Reaching Out Before a Relapse vs. Calling After the Fact 14:08 – The Young Single Adult Trap: Isolation & Minimizing the Problem 16:34 – Attending a Group vs. Actually Being Known 19:12 – What Blocks Men From Making the Call During Temptation? 21:55 – Balancing Dynamic Brotherhood: Serious Healing + Stupid Jokes 24:23 – Teaching Other Dudes What You Need (Listening vs. Fixing) 27:14 – Reaching Out & Community Meetup Announcements
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August 5 · 1 hr
EP 224: Mike's Story
This episode of Unashamed Unafraid introduces guests Mike (“Sacramento Mike”) and his son Weston, with Mike visiting Utah from Hawaii for his daughter’s wedding. Mike describes growing up in an LDS family near Sacramento, first encountering pornography at 11, becoming compulsively drawn to it, and being forcibly sexually assaulted by older boys around age 13–14, which deepened his shame and porn use; he later learned those boys were arrested for raping family members. At 18, after drug use, he prayed on a beach, quit drugs, served a mission in Ecuador, married, and raised a family while hiding a long-term pornography problem that escalated alongside law-enforcement work in Oakland and PTSD. After multiple deaths in his care and suicidal crises, he sought help, was retired from duty, and recounts a 2018 moment when his wife, prompted by God, prevented a planned suicide, helping him recognize God’s love. Mike has now been sober from pornography and sexual acting out for 8 years. Make a donation and become an Outsider! Follow us on social media! Instagram, Facebook & TikTok Subscribe to our YouTube Check out our recommended resources Want to rep the message? Shop our MERCH! For more inspiration, read our blog Do you have a story you are willing to share? Send us an email! contact@unashamedunafraid.com Timestamps: 01:28 Wedding Weekend Banter 03:02 First Exposure To Porn 05:25 Sexual Assault And Confusion 07:14 Shame And Silence 08:43 Beach Prayer Wake Up 11:32 Mission And Marriage 13:51 Law Enforcement And Trauma 15:22 Confessing and Hiding Secrets 16:30 PTSD and Relapse Cycle 18:14 Family Distance and Regrets 21:07 Deaths on the Job 23:24 Retired and Identity Crisis 25:22 Therapy and Escalation 26:10 2018 Suicide Crisis 27:31 Gods Love and Closing 28:25 The Dream 32:59 Weston's thoughts on dad's recovery 39:11 Life After Disclosure 41:34 Warrior Heart Boot Camp 49:15 Helping Other Men 54:19 Gratitude by Brandon Lake
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July 28 · 23 min
EP 223: Live Unashamed - Recovery Check-in
In this episode, James, Sam, Joshua, and Mason sit down for a follow-up on the commitments they made in past episodes (EP 151: Filling the Void of Addiction and EP 193: How Can I Trust God?). They dive open-honestly into what accountability actually looks like in practice—from putting software on phones to actively battling for true brotherhood and moving away from transactional faith to find God directly in the present moment and pain. Make a donation and become an Outsider! Follow us on social media! Instagram, Facebook & TikTok Subscribe to our YouTube Check out our recommended resources Want to rep the message? Shop our MERCH! For more inspiration, read our blog Do you have a story you are willing to share? Send us an email! contact@unashamedunafraid.com Timestamps: 01:29 – James’s update (Revisiting EP 151): Putting Ever Accountable on his phone and achieving over a year of sobriety 03:20 – Healthy accountability vs. using tools to bypass inner healing 05:10 – Proud of the journey: Overcoming the nonchalance and habit of slip-ups after 13 years 06:50 – Sam’s update (EP 151): Overcoming father wounds and learning how to cultivate authentic brotherhood 09:15 – Battling for your brothers: Second chances, slumber parties, and overcoming codependency 11:20 – Joshua’s update (EP 151): Moving past checking religious boxes and learning to trust God with hard conversations 14:30 – Facing the fear of outcomes: Asking God for direction instead of avoiding conflict 15:30 – Mason’s update (Revisiting EP 193): Shifting away from black-and-white thinking and learning to feel pain 16:15 – Redefining recovery: Finding a true relationship with God beyond just quitting pornography 18:15 – Psalm 23: How God prepares a table for us in the presence of difficulty, not just comfort 20:20 – Finding God in the "Now": Moving past prayers focused only on the past or future 22:15 – Closing commitments: Bringing Jesus into the center of brotherhood 23:10 – How to reach out and wrap-up
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July 21 · 51 min
EP 222: Mike's Story
Mike recounts early exposure to pornography, shame shaped by church messaging, family dynamics, and later learning his biological father’s sexual addiction, then baptizing him before his mission. He describes a canceled temple wedding due to church discipline, continued struggles after marriage, and his shift toward inner work, self-compassion, and a reframe of repentance as metanoia—a fresh view of self, God, and the world—emphasizing wholeness over perfection and connection as the antidote. He recommends “Lean on Me” as his recovery song. He discusses his pivot from branding and graphic design into men’s work, retreats, and breathwork, including co-founding the HEARE Brotherhood. Connect with Mike and get resources here: - www.thelightinus.org - www.hearebros.com - LinkedIn Make a donation and become an Outsider! Follow us on social media! Instagram, Facebook & TikTok Subscribe to our YouTube Check out our recommended resources Want to rep the message? Shop our MERCH! For more inspiration, read our blog Do you have a story you are willing to share? Send us an email! contact@unashamedunafraid.com Timestamps: 01:11 Making Repair Story 03:05 Meet Mike Allen 03:20 Career Pivot and Purpose 06:32 Family Crest Breakthrough 07:41 First Mens Retreat Leap 10:05 Breathwork Heart Opening 12:22 HearBrotherhood Origin 13:46 Early Porn Exposure 14:39 Family Context and Masculinity 17:28 Shame and Church Messages 20:43 Bio Dad Addiction Reveal 23:11 Baptizing His Dad 23:48 Engagement Secrets 25:02 Recommend Taken Away 27:40 Wedding Canceled 30:28 Marriage Did Not Fix It 31:24 Beyond Twelve Steps 34:51 Metanoia Not Shame 37:30 Opposition And Shadow 40:04 Golden Nuggets 45:06 Find Mike Online 45:47 Lean On Me Finale
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July 14 · 23 min
EP 221: Live Unashamed - Fire the Old God
Sam, Mason, James, and Austin discuss “firing the old God and hiring the new one.” They define the “old God” as transactional, shaming, distant, perpetually disappointed, and often rooted in childhood, family-of-origin dynamics. The "old God" is a false God that uses reward systems, shame, and sometimes spiritual manipulation. To embrace a new God, you can: 1. Explicitly name false beliefs about God, 2. Identify their impact on relationships, nervous system 3. Reality-test beliefs through scripture and Christ’s character 4. Examine how the belief once protected parts of the self 5. Grieve the loss of the familiar but harmful God-image, and 6. Use rituals (termination letter, speaking aloud, burning notes) to “fire” it. To close, Austin recommends John Eldredge’s One Minute Pause App feature "20 Days to Experience Jesus.” Make a donation and become an Outsider! Follow us on social media! Instagram, Facebook & TikTok Subscribe to our YouTube Check out our recommended resources Want to rep the message? Shop our MERCH! For more inspiration, read our blog Do you have a story you are willing to share? Send us an email! contact@unashamedunafraid.com Timestamps: 01:19 Meet the Old God 03:27 Where Shame Begins 05:38 Why Fire Him 08:29 Dismantle the Belief 10:45 Grieve the Old Image 12:03 Steps and Rituals 14:52 Hire the New God 16:47 Relational Exposure Practice 17:47 Relapse and Rework 20:30 Resources and Reflections 22:05 Listener Challenge Outro
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July 7 · 1 hr 3 min
EP 220: Austin and Becca's Story
In this episode of Unashamed, Unafraid, Austin and his wife Becca share how traumatic sexual experiences shaped their views of sexuality, secrecy, and control, and how that led Austin to pornography addiction. Austin describes hiding his compulsive porn use and masturbation due to fear and shame reinforced by religious shame, then later relapsing on his mission, engaging in digital relationships and sexting, and facing a highly shaming disciplinary process, including being labeled a “sexual predator,” disfellowshipped, and shamed by a therapist. Becca recounts being excluded from the process while engaged to be married, not learning full details years into marriage, while also navigating her own trauma and intimacy struggles. Through supportive therapy, Warrior Heart Boot Camp and Heart of a Woman Retreat, vulnerability, and surrendering to God, the two begin healing, rebuilding trust. Austin reaches nearly six months sobriety; they emphasize shared recovery, communication, and “Broken Together” as their song. Make a donation and become an Outsider! Follow us on social media! Instagram, Facebook & TikTok Subscribe to our YouTube Check out our recommended resources Want to rep the message? Shop our MERCH! For more inspiration, read our blog Do you have a story you are willing to share? Send us an email! contact@unashamedunafraid.com Timestamps: 00:43 Meet Austin and Becca 01:53 Austin's Childhood Sexual Grooming 03:25 Porn Exposure and Control 05:23 Shame Culture and Secrecy 08:02 Becca’s Sexual Abuse 14:10 How Trauma Shaped Sexuality 15:37 Vulnerability and Early Disclosure 19:08 Mission Struggles and iPad Temptation 24:34 Confession and Church Discipline 28:29 Disfellowshipped and Silenced 29:03 Therapy That Shamed 30:41 Becca Left Outside 35:34 Marriage Under Pressure 39:28 A Bishop Who Got It 41:15 Finding Real Therapy 43:44 Warrior Heart Breakthrough 47:26 Healing as a Team 50:55 Rock Bottom to Surrender 56:40 Broken Together
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June 30 · 18 min
EP 219: Live Unashamed - Talking to Strangers About My Porn Addiction
In this episode of Unashamed Unafraid, Austin shares how keeping a small journal of unfiltered “Dear God” letters for six months became a record of his recovery, transformed his relationship with God, improved communication with his wife, and supported about four months of sobriety. He describes feeling prompted to write “I’m a porn addict in recovery. Ask me anything.” on a poster board and sit at Utah Valley University; after three hours, one student approached, discussed shame and feeling unlovable, and later asked to keep talking. Sam connects this to his own prayer for guidance to expand the platform, then joins Austin in Salt Lake City near City Creek Mall to hold the sign with Austin, where several strangers engage in meaningful conversations. They discuss de-shaming addiction, the most common question they received, and invite listeners to try writing letters to God and email Sam to get involved. Make a donation and become an Outsider! Follow us on social media! Instagram, Facebook & TikTok Subscribe to our YouTube Check out our recommended resources Want to rep the message? Shop our MERCH! For more inspiration, read our blog Do you have a story you are willing to share? Send us an email! contact@unashamedunafraid.com 01:17 Letters to God 04:00 Sobriety Breakthrough 04:36 Share About Your Porn Addiction 07:30 Finding The One 08:40 Why Vulnerability Matters 11:04 Taking It to Salt Lake 12:06 De-Shaming Porn Addiction 14:50 Hard Questions Real Answers 16:30 Hope Without Pressure
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June 23 · 42 min
EP 218: Live Therapy with Jason Dausses
In this episode of Unashamed Unafraid, Sam and Mason discuss sexual addiction recovery with their shared therapist, Jason Dausses of Accepted Therapy. Sam opens up about longstanding self-judgment rooted in verbally abusive coaches and bosses, and Jason frames healing as both rescuing past wounds and then empowering oneself to live from “zero to ten” through real-time choices, community, and effective communication of needs. They explore why “95% honesty” still leaves a hidden 5% that fuels shame, how to ask others for specific support to create safety, and how boundaries relate to unmet needs and validation-seeking. Jason emphasizes grieving lost time, widening one’s window of tolerance for discomfort, accepting God’s unchanging acceptance even during acting out, and using mindfulness and inner-monologue journaling/parts work to observe thoughts non-judgmentally and reduce shame. Schedule an appointment with Jason Make a donation and become an Outsider! Follow us on social media! Instagram, Facebook & TikTok Subscribe to our YouTube Check out our recommended resources Want to rep the message? Shop our MERCH! For more inspiration, read our blog Do you have a story you are willing to share? Send us an email! contact@unashamedunafraid.com Timestamps: 00:00 Raw Check In 01:15 Shame Spiral Confession 02:08 Inner Critic Origins 03:07 Meet The Therapist 05:36 Rescue Then Empower 07:42 The Hidden Five Percent 12:55 Asking For What You Need 15:07 Safety And Self Rescue 16:25 Boundaries Or Validation 18:35 Grief Stage In Recovery 20:46 Grieving Unmet Progress 21:59 Widening Tolerance Window 23:03 God Accepts You Always 24:43 Reintegrating Prayer Life 28:01 Mindfulness After Acting Out 29:47 Inner Monologue Journaling 31:11 Applying Skills Beyond Sex 35:03 No Silver Bullet Recovery 39:03 Living in the Gray 40:33 Wrap Up and Next Steps
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June 16 · 24 min
EP 217: Live Unashamed - Warrior Heart, The Best Resource in Recovery
In this episode, Sam and James are joined by Dan Ostler to discuss their recent experiences at Warrior Heart Boot Camp. Sam shares a powerful, God-orchestrated moment of healing where confronting shame led to emotional breakthrough and support from God and his brothers. The trio highlight Warrior Heart Boot Camp, the best resource for sexual addiction recovery, and how unplugging in the mountains for three days with Christ fosters healing. They also mention Glory and Heart of a Woman as equivalent programs for women. First time attending Warrior Heart? Use the code UNASHAMED100 for $100 off. WARRIOR HEART - Register for Warrior Heart - Request a scholarship through Unashamed Unafraid Heart of a Woman Retreat - Register for Heart of a Woman - Request a scholarship through Unashamed Unafraid The GLORY Retreat - Register for GLORY - Request a scholarship through Unashamed Unafraid Make a donation and become an Outsider! Follow us on social media! Instagram, Facebook & TikTok Subscribe to our YouTube Check out our recommended resources Want to rep the message? Shop our MERCH! For more inspiration, read our blog Do you have a story you are willing to share? Send us an email! contact@unashamedunafraid.com Timestamps: 01:25 Why Warrior Heart Matters 01:53 Divine Masculinity Breakdown 04:19 God Orchestrates the Prayer 07:12 Boot Camp Changes Recovery 08:28 Dan’s Boot Camp Journey 09:53 How Dan Invites Men 13:51 Why We Share What Heals 15:35 What Makes It Safe 18:53 Sam’s Prayer and Marriage Struggles 20:34 Call to Action Scholarships 21:49 Final Testimonies and Offer
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June 9 · 49 min
EP 216: Mike's Story
In this episode of Unashamed, Unafraid, Mason and Sam welcome Mike Farr, a rock photographer, Spartan racer, husband to Jenny, and father to Wesley. Mike shares how his father leaving early, conflict with a stepfather, and feeling unlovable fueled a “character” that chased acceptance through music, drugs, escalating sexual behavior, and crime. He describes immersion in the late ’60s–’80s music scene, cocaine dealing, and eventual heroin addiction, repeated arrests, rehab attempts, and a Salvation Army program that helped him rebuild sobriety and career. After a six-year relapse, an overdose coma, and another arrest, he surrendered, returned to meetings, and found sustained recovery and service, including coaching sobriety on the Vans Warped Tour, framing God as his Father and a source of healing. Make a donation and become an Outsider! Follow us on social media! Instagram, Facebook & TikTok Subscribe to our YouTube Check out our recommended resources Want to rep the message? Shop our MERCH! For more inspiration, read our blog Do you have a story you are willing to share? Send us an email! contact@unashamedunafraid.com 00:43 Recovery Check In 02:34 Introducing Mike Farr 04:03 How We Met 05:23 Childhood Wounds 07:49 Music And Drugs 12:08 Sex Addiction Escalates 15:54 God And Fatherhood 19:40 Tahoe Marriage Fallout 20:19 Stevie Ray Vaughan Wakeup 21:52 Wicked Wanda 22:34 Heroin Hooked and Sick 24:07 Intervention and Jail 26:00 Rehab Fail and Rick 28:02 Tank Talk and Release Mistake 30:33 Salvation Army Turnaround 32:35 Relapse 33:45 Overdose and Two Week Coma 37:23 Surrender 39:30 God's Tender Mercy 43:06 Service Life and Father God 45:14 Closing Song
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June 2 · 16 min
EP 215: Live Unashamed - Gratitude
Sam shares a previously unreleased conversation with Chris and Joshua about gratitude in recovery and healing through Christ. They discuss how gratitude helps overcome shame, challenges entitlement, and creates lasting change, while sharing personal stories of recovery, relationships, and faith. Buy Chris's favorite gratitude journal here Make a donation and become an Outsider! Follow us on social media! Instagram, Facebook & TikTok Subscribe to our YouTube Check out our recommended resources Want to rep the message? Shop our MERCH! For more inspiration, read our blog Do you have a story you are willing to share? Send us an email! contact@unashamedunafraid.com Timestamps: 00:00 Lost Clip Intro 00:56 Welcome and Gratitude Banter 01:21 Sam on God and Grace 02:13 Chris Gratitude List 03:06 Hair Talk Break 03:39 Why Gratitude Helps Recovery 05:01 Opposite of Gratitude 06:10 Entitlement vs Gods Love 06:49 Daily Gratitude Text Habit 10:10 Gratitude Journal Practice 11:41 Autumns Three Things 13:56 Three Things Challenge 15:04 Tag Us and Wrap Up
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May 26 · 34 min
EP 214: Cam's Story
In this story episode of Unashamed, Unafraid, Sam and Mason interview Cam, a BYU construction management student preparing to commission as a combat engineer officer. He tells how his porn addiction grew out of achievement pressure, comparison with high-achieving siblings, and deep shame. After moving frequently and living in a high-performance community, Cam internalized “you’re stupid,” then attended a harmful youth program that taught him to see sexuality as evil and God as vengeful. Family stress, his dad losing a job, not getting into West Point, and later COVID intensified depression and escalated acting out, including on his mission. Through honest disclosure, therapy, sponsors, and “rescuing little Cam” with connection, self-care, and patience, Cam’s view of God shifted to a loving, patient healer, and with support from his wife he now reports 15 months sober and a renewed sense of purpose. Make a donation and become an Outsider! Follow us on social media! Instagram, Facebook & TikTok Subscribe to our YouTube Check out our recommended resources Want to rep the message? Shop our MERCH! For more inspiration, read our blog Do you have a story you are willing to share? Send us an email! contact@unashamedunafraid.com Timestamps: 00:00 Welcome and UCAP Update 01:41 Meet Cam 02:31 Pressure and Shame Growing Up 04:23 Porn Exposure and Toxic Program 06:22 Family Stress and West Point Collapse 08:55 Rock Bottom and Escalation 09:42 Mission Struggles and God Image 12:28 Therapy and Finding Little Cam 16:04 Healing Through Pain and Self Care 19:41 Relationships and Marriage Safety 22:18 A New View of God 25:19 Your Own Recovery
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May 19 · 16 min
EP 213: Live Unashamed - Making Repair
This episode explores the emotional impact of criticism and how unresolved shame can fuel relapse in recovery. Sam shares a personal experience of being hurt by a negative review, which triggered old beliefs and led to a setback, while highlighting the importance of connection over isolation. Chris centers his comments on the concept of repair, taking accountability, seeking forgiveness, and asking others what healing looks like for them. Chris emphasizes that true repair is ultimately demonstrated through consistent change and living in alignment with one’s values. Lasting recovery is rooted in rebuilding trust, fostering connection, and pursuing ongoing personal growth. Make a donation and become an Outsider! Follow us on social media! Instagram, Facebook & TikTok Subscribe to our YouTube Check out our recommended resources Want to rep the message? Shop our MERCH! For more inspiration, read our blog Do you have a story you are willing to share? Send us an email! contact@unashamedunafraid.com
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May 12 · 44 min
EP 212: Forgotten in the Battle Part III - Boundaries
In Part III of our series with returning guest Roxy Johnson, author of Forgotten in the Battle with Sexual Addiction, we dive deep into the role boundaries play in healing relationships impacted by sexual addiction and betrayal trauma. Roxy brings powerful insight and hard-earned wisdom on how boundaries protect peace, create honesty, and invite real recovery. Jasmine and Sam also open up about their own journey, discussing how surrendering a spouse to God while taking responsibility for yourself can transform a marriage. This conversation challenges the belief that boundaries are selfish and shows why healthy conflict can actually be a sign that healing is happening. If you or someone you love is navigating recovery, this episode offers practical hope, courage, and direction. Forgotten in the Battle With Sexual Addiction: The Journey of a Spouse www.forgottenspouse.com Purchase the book! Instagram Facebook Make a donation and become an Outsider! Follow us on social media! Instagram, Facebook & TikTok Subscribe to our YouTube Check out our recommended resources Want to rep the message? Shop our MERCH! For more inspiration, read our blog Do you have a story you are willing to share? Send us an email! contact@unashamedunafraid.com
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May 5 · 25 min
EP 211: Live Unashamed - Unafraid of Coming Unto Christ for Healing
In part two of the Unashamed, Unafraid series, the hosts discuss becoming unafraid to come unto Christ for healing in sexual addiction recovery by first learning who God truly is. He is kind, loving, forgiving, and relentless rather than judgmental. They explore how shame, secrecy, and “shame goggles” distort church, relationships, and one’s view of God, creating fear that keeps people from seeking healing. Chris shares a financial secrecy that nearly ended his marriage and how turning to God helped him accept support and accountability. Sam admits coasting in “manageable” relapse and delaying deeper healing. James identifies fear of God’s hard answers and commits to daily stillness, honesty, and obedience as a path to identity change and lasting recovery. Make a donation and become an Outsider! Follow us on social media! Instagram, Facebook & TikTok Subscribe to our YouTube Check out our recommended resources Want to rep the message? Shop our MERCH! For more inspiration, read our blog Do you have a story you are willing to share? Send us an email! contact@unashamedunafraid.com Timestamps: 00:00 Welcome Back and Series Setup 02:08 Who God Really Is 03:41 Shame Goggles and Safe Spaces 06:20 Chris Financial Shame Story 10:31 Sam Coasting in Recovery 12:23 Peter in The Chosen Lesson 15:16 James Afraid of the Answer 18:49 Commitments 24:12 Wrap Up and Accountability
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April 28 · 43 min
EP 210: King's CORE with Ryan Carnahan
Chris and Sam sit down with Ryan Carnahan from King’s Core to explore the deeper layers of addiction recovery. From relapse and discouragement to identity shifts and emotional resilience, this conversation dives into what actually creates lasting change. Ryan shares his personal 15-year journey through pornography addiction, the turning points that led to healing, and the core framework he now uses to help other men break free. Together, they unpack the difference between surface-level sobriety and true transformation—highlighting the role of identity, community, and mindset in recovery. Free resources from Ryan here: kings-core.com/coaching-discovery-call kings-core.com/are-you-the-man-you-want-to-be-assessment skool.com/kings-core-9726/about?ref=1799799b641c438eb9c78eeb7805c734 https://www.kings-core.com/emotions-are-superpowers-training Make a donation and become an Outsider! Follow us on social media! Instagram, Facebook & TikTok Subscribe to our YouTube Check out our recommended resources Want to rep the message? Shop our MERCH! For more inspiration, read our blog Do you have a story you are willing to share? Send us an email! contact@unashamedunafraid.com
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April 21 · 26 min
EP 209: Part I - Unashamed of Sexual Addiction Recovery
Sam, Chris, and James discuss what it means to be “unashamed” in sexual addiction recovery. Shame thrives in secrecy, silence, and judgment and that speaking openly breaks isolation. They explore how context and boundaries matter when sharing, distinguishing healthy vulnerability from “vomiting,” and noting that relapse often intensifies shame. Sam shares how he’s become able to admit recent relapse without spiraling, crediting safe community, repeated honest conversations, trauma therapy, and a spiritual experience that helped him accept he is still good even when he relapses. The group encourages listeners to cultivate emotionally safe relationships, face fear within that community, and find a personal “why” for living unashamed. Make a donation and become an Outsider! Follow us on social media! Instagram, Facebook & TikTok Subscribe to our YouTube Check out our recommended resources Want to rep the message? Shop our MERCH! For more inspiration, read our blog Do you have a story you are willing to share? Send us an email! contact@unashamedunafraid.com Timestamps: 00:00 Welcome and Series Setup 01:04 What Unashamed Means 02:33 Shame Thrives in Silence 05:14 Sharing With Boundaries 07:00 Sobriety and Confidence 09:10 Sam Journey to Openness 11:12 God Moment Breakthrough 12:53 How to Get Unashamed 18:14 Cultivating Safe Community 19:27 Find Your Why 22:37 Brotherhood and Acceptance 25:24 Closing and Support the Show
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April 14 · 38 min
EP 208: Healing The Inner Child with Drew Boa
In this episode of Unashamed Unafraid, Sam and Mason welcome Drew Boa, author of Outgrow Porn and founder of Husband Material Ministries, who explains inner child work as understanding sexual temptation and intolerable emotional pain as implicit “body memory” rather than mature adult desire. Drew shares how recognizing his own sexual imprinting and connecting it to childhood trauma replaced self-hatred with self-compassion and inviting Jesus into wounded places. Using the cave rescue documentary as an analogy, he outlines a process of locating, loving, and leading multiple “inner boys,” emphasizing connection over control, co-regulation, curiosity-based questions, and identifying attachment needs beneath cravings, framing porn as a pacifier and a protest while encouraging courageous, hope-filled “redemptive risks.” Connect with Drew Boa: https://www.husbandmaterial.com/ https://www.drewboa.com/outgrow-porn Make a donation and become an Outsider! Follow us on social media! Instagram, Facebook & TikTok Subscribe to our YouTube Check out our recommended resources Want to rep the message? Shop our MERCH! For more inspiration, read our blog Do you have a story you are willing to share? Send us an email! contact@unashamedunafraid.com Timestamps: 00:00 Recovery Check In 03:23 Meet Drew Boa 06:01 What Is the Inner Child 09:10 Drew Story And Imprinting 12:33 Rescue The Boy Within 17:20 When Pain Triggers Relapse 21:14 Befriending Questions 23:55 Porn As Pacifier and a Protest 28:25 Face, Feel and Co Regulate 32:49 Hope And Redemptive Risk 34:32 Where To Find Drew 36:37 Wrap Up And Subscribe
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