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U Up?

Betches Media

U Up? is the definitive modern dating podcast presented by Betches co-founder Jordana Abraham and comedian Jared Freid, where they discuss their take on the ebbs and flows of the crazy dating world we live in. From interpreting dating app interactions and weird sexual encounters, to defining the relationship and everything in between - they’re here to make sure you don’t die alone. For more fun dating commentary, polls, and bonus content, follow @u.up.podcast on Instagram. Become a friend (with benefits) of the podcast and subscribe to receive early release and ad-free versions of all our new episodes, plus bonus subscriber-only episodes. To sign up and become a friend (with benefits) today head to: subscribe.betches.com

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#778
July 10 · 33 min
Does Right Person, Wrong Time Exist?
Jared’s Netflix special is coming out in the fall and he recalls a roasting bit with Rob Lowe, and why meeting him completely changed his mind. J&J then debate whether it's petty or prudent for a guy to text his ex that he won a $50 competition just one week after dumping her. They also unpack a breakup over indefinite travel, questioning if it’s a right guys, wrong time moment? They discuss why women convince themselves they'll never find another great connection, and Jared's rule that you should never say "you" in a breakup! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
#777
July 8 · 1 hr 32 min
My GF Is a Phillies Fan and She Won't Shuttap About It
Jared and Jordana debate whether dating a diehard Philly’s sports fan is a harmless quirk or a real relationship problem. Can passion be just plain obnoxious? They also unpack the internet debate over women proposing to men, why Taylor Swift rumors about an MSG wedding sparked such strong reactions, and reminisce about the glory days of Fire Island share houses after college. J&J also discuss first date bill split etiquette: it's not really about the money, it's about the communication. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
#776
July 3 · 49 min
Is Fourth Of July The Best Weekend To Meet Someone?
Jared and Jordana are getting ready for Fourth of July weekend, where Jared will be staying with Jordana, finally! Then Jared shares the funniest wedding guest he's ever met, a guy with Oakleys on the back of his head who somehow became the life of someone else's wedding. Plus, they debate whether sending a hotter guy to pick up your stuff after a breakup is petty or genius, and help a listener whose future in-laws keep letting themselves into the house, cleaning, dog-sitting, and crossing every boundary imaginable. It's an episode about weddings, breakups, overbearing families, and why sometimes "helpful" can go way too far. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
#775
July 1 · 1 hr 28 min
Should Married People Reply To Exes?
Jared is back from his book tour convinced dating is rougher than ever, and he and Jordana break down why so many singles are feeling burnt out. Then they tackle whether asking for someone's Instagram or Snapchat before a first date is a hookup red flag, if you should reply when an ex apologizes 12 years later, and whether all men over 40 on dating apps deserve the bad reputation. Plus, is it fair to ask your boyfriend to wear pants around the house, and does living together "feeling like a vacation" actually mean you're not being taken seriously? It's a packed episode full of dating hot takes, relationship debates, and the kind of questions every couple will end up arguing about. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
#774
June 26 · 30 min
Is Using ChatGPT For Relationship Advice A Red Flag?
Jared shares the wildest piece of weight loss advice he's ever gotten from a fan at a country club, leading to a discussion about criticism, internet comments, and why the people who care enough to complain might actually be your biggest fans. Then, J&J debate whether it's an ick or just being picky when a hinge date pulls out a Bible app and reads a favorite verse at a dive bar over chicken salad sandwiches. Too passionate? Later, a listener discovers her boyfriend secretly asked ChatGPT if he should break up with her and finds a list of complaints about her! Is using AI as a relationship therapist a red flag, or is reading someone's private doubts the real problem? J&J have some thoughts! Our last email was originally inspired by Lindsey Hall's Substack, I Stumbled Across My Boyfriend's ChatGPT and It Ended Our Relationship Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
#773
June 24 · 1 hr 19 min
How Do I Stop Getting Attached So Fast?
The Knicks' recent success is creating a wave of new fans, and Jared explains why sports foster community, connection, and shared experiences, while Jordana compares it to the passion people have for Bravo and reality TV. Then J&J tackle one of adulthood's biggest questions: how do you know if you actually want kids, or if the DINK life is right for you? Plus, they debate a dishes-related relationship standoff, unpack the emotional fallout of being ghosted after a great Hinge date, and ask whether an out of town wedding invite on date five is romantic or a major red flag. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
#772
June 19 · 40 min
Should You Tell Dates You're on a GLP-1?
Jordana risks a parking ticket after creating her own train station parking spot, while Jared celebrates a glowing dentist report and shares why his gums are finally growing back. Then J&J debate whether a hinge date carrying a gallon jug of water everywhere is an instant ICK or just a dedicated hydration habit. They also discuss how GLP-1 medications are changing modern dating, from awkward dinner dates where you barely eat to deciding whether you should tell someone you're taking it. Plus, Jared opens up about his own GLP-1 experience, weight loss, food noise, and waiting to find out if Walking Red Flag made the New York Times Bestseller list!! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
#771
June 17 · 1 hr 22 min
My Fiancé Is Cheating Through The Notes App!
Jared is officially OVER hearing himself talk after weeks on his book tour, but appreciates all the great feedback from fans who have read his book. J&J get into listener questions, reacting to a woman who discovers her fiancé secretly messaging his ex through a shared Notes app, leading to a conversation about “open phone policies” and whether they’re ever a good sign. Later, they tackle an icky or picky about a 32 year old fiancé who wants dinner with his parents four nights a week (or more), and a red flag or dealbreaker involving a date who may have gotten a little too excited from a simple touch on the couch. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
#770
June 12 · 42 min
Would You Date a Man Who Had Four Kids Via Surrogacy?
Summer is finally here, and Jared and Jordana are feeling the relief after what felt like New York's longest winter. They dive into the realities of parenting twins, why single parents deserve way more credit, and the surprising story of Olympic champion Alysa Liu's father choosing surrogacy and solo parenthood. Plus, Chelsea Handler publicly calls Bobby Flay a bad date after he ordered room service and left her with the bill, sparking an "Icky or Picky" debate. Then, a listener's daughter's serious boyfriend says he's "all in" but refuses to meet the parents. Is it normal after a recent divorce, or a red flag? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
#769
June 10 · 1 hr 28 min
My Boyfriend's Side Hustle Is Ruining Our Relationship
Jared recaps his Kelly Clarkson appearance, the launch of his new book, and why seeing your book in an airport might be the ultimate career milestone! J&J then unpack listener questions: a first vacation to Morocco that had daily sex but zero "I love yous," and debate whether a romantic getaway can reveal a deeper compatibility problem. They also tackle an icky or picky about a gym guy who put his number directly into someone's phone, plus a relationship dilemma involving a boyfriend secretly working nearly 80 hours a week between his regular job and Home Depot. And yes, things somehow end with a debate about men's underwear, Simon Cowell, and whether couples who "never fight" are actually communicating at all. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
#768
June 5 · 53 min
Why is My Ex-Fiancé's Profile Picture My Dog?!
Jordana opens this episode with a question for Jared: do some men really think parents find out they’re having twins at the delivery room? That kicks off a hilarious conversation about prenatal care, “punch bowl” movie myths, and just how little some people know about pregnancy. Then J&J debate whether reporting your ex-fiancé’s Facebook profile picture (featuring YOUR dog) is petty or justified, and help a listener stop spiraling after discovering her boyfriend’s Stagecoach cheating scandal. Jared also shares why he avoids hot takes, talks about his upcoming book launch, and reveals his very specific pool temperature requirements for his visit at Jordana’s! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
#767
June 3 · 1 hr 38 min
Does He Just Want a Wife?
Jared is packing a tux for a black-tie-optional wedding, which leads to a debate about plus-one etiquette and who should pay for the wedding gift when you're newly dating. Then they discuss a listener’s theory that the best place to meet men is a Wednesday night bowling alley and introduce Jared’s Summer Strut Challenge: 12 walks in 12 weeks to grow your dating network through friends and family! They then break down whether excessive exclamation points and smiley faces are actually an ick, plus a tough question about dating someone who talks about marriage but never makes you feel cared for. And in Red Flag or Deal Breaker, they cover being compared to an adult star, getting discovered through a viral TikTok crush post, and farting in relationships. Check out Jared's new book! 👉 Order Walking Red Flag: Dating Advice from Your Favorite Guy Friend Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
#766
May 29 · 53 min
Bumble’s New AI Matchmaker “Bumblebee” Explained
J&J get into a recent article where they mention dating has become a luxury in 2026! From $20 coffee dates to the hidden “pink tax” women pay just to get ready, maybe it really is too expensive to date these days. Then they break down Bumble’s new AI matchmaker “Bumblebee,” why Jared thinks dating apps are just slot machines for lonely men, and whether AI is making modern dating even more fake. Plus, an “Icky or Picky” email about a college guy admitting he masturbates to a match’s profile photo sparks a surprisingly nuanced conversation about dating expectations, sexual honesty, and learning how to date in your 20s. Later, they unpack a marriage conflict years in the making after a husband still hasn’t read his wife’s wedding vows, and why “testing” your partner instead of communicating never works. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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