EP 6: "Single-ish" "Dating While Poly"

Dating is already complicated. Now add multiple partners, honesty, boundaries, and a whole lot of communication. This week, Koko and Lala talk about what dating while poly actually looks like, past the myths and the judgment. They start with Ne-Yo going public and the backlash he received for it. Then they get into hierarchy, the thing everyone new to poly worries about. Koko tells the story of a woman who went on two dates with her and her partner and decided the next day that the three of them were in a relationship. Her answer to the hierarchy fear: there's a hierarchy until there isn't. Let us get to know you first. Then it gets personal. Lala was out alone at a bar in DC when one of her partners walked in on a date with someone else. He came over and hugged her, and she says that made her like him more. Koko was with the same guy from 16 to 23 and picked her college because he was going there. Lala enlisted in the military because she was sleeping with her recruiter, then found out he had a wife and kids back home. They also try to figure out what solo poly is (Lala's verdict: that's just single), introduce this week's word, single-ish, debate whether jealousy is normal and whether one partner should meet all of your emotional needs, run through their green and red flags, and answer an Open Letter from a listener with two partners and a third who wants more. How do you tell someone you like them, but you're full? Next week is the sex episode. Send your Open Letters to our DMs. We keep them anonymous. #TripleHearts #Polyamory #DatingWhilePoly #EthicalNonMonogamy #Singleish