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The Too Into You podcast from Women’s Aid is here to explore the difference between love that lifts you up, and love that holds you back. With expert insights, real stories, and honest conversations, each episode will unpack red flags, celebrate green flags, and help you spot when someone is too into you. Listen now wherever you get your podcasts.

If you are worried about your own or a friend’s relationship:

  • Call Women’s Aid 24Hr National Freephone Helpline on 1800 341 900.
  • Chat for support at toointoyou.ie


Both are completely free and confidential.

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  • Monday · 43 min

    Chatting romance and race with the GALPAL Collective

    TW: Episode mentions intimate relationship abuse, emotional abuse, racism, violence against women. What is it like to date in Ireland? What were we taught to expect from relationships growing up? What does a healthy relationship look like? In this episode of the Too Into You Podcast, we’re joined by ¾ of the GALPAL Collective, Aisha Bolaji, Ashley Chadamoyo Makombe, and Oyin Adeyemi, to answer these questions. The GALPAL Collective is an arts and media collective dedicated to the celebration and creation of works by young queer folk, women, and BIPOC. Throughout our conversation we discuss: What dating and relationships are like for young women in Ireland How gender roles and race play a part in relationships Red flags for young Black women You can connect with our guests and the GALPAL Collective below! GALPAL Collective - @thegalpalcollective Aisha - @whosaisha Ashley -@ashleychadamoyo Oyin - @miel.etlait For information on relationships and abuse, you can visit toointoyou.ie. You can also take the Relationship Quiz at toointoyou.ie to see if yours is healthy or not. If you're worried about your relationship, or even a friend's relationship, you can: Call Women’s Aid 24Hr National Freephone Helpline on 1800 341 900 Chat for support at toointoyou.ie Both are completely free and confidential. Please follow @toointoyou on TikTok and Instagram to support the Too Into You campaign and if you enjoyed the episode, please rate us 5 stars and leave us a comment, it helps us reach! The Too Into You Podcast is hosted by Mary Hayes, Too Into You Project Coordinator, and Madeline Campbell, Too Into You Project Officer.

  • August 3 · 49 min

    ‘Relationship red flags and how to spot them’

    TW: Episode mentions stalking, sexual abuse, sexual assault, intimate relationship abuse, and violence against women. In this episode, Mary and Madeline break down the common red flags of abuse in relationships and how to spot them. We chat about: How abuse and coercive control are hard to spot Sex as a tool of manipulation The power of isolation How financial abuse keeps your trapped We also talk about good news in Ireland for victims and survivors of gender based violence, and feature some answers from people we spoke to about healthy relationships. For information on relationships and abuse, you can visit toointoyou.ie. You can also take the Relationship Quiz at toointoyou.ie to see if yours is healthy or not. If you're worried about your relationship, or even a friends relationship, you can: · Call Women’s Aid 24Hr National Freephone Helpline on 1800 341 900 · Chat for support at toointoyou.ie Both are completely free and confidential. Please follow @toointoyou on TikTok and Instagram to support the Too Into You campaign. If you enjoyed the episode please rate us 5 stars and leave us a comment, it makes our day! The Too Into You Podcast is hosted by Mary Hayes, Too Into You Project Coordinator, and Madeline Campbell, Too Into You Project Officer.

  • July 6 · 44 min

    More Than Obsessed: The Reality of Stalking with Eve McDowell

    TW: Episode mentions stalking, harassment, intimate relationship abuse, and violence against women. In this episode, we’re joined by Eve McDowell, a survivor of stalking who, alongside Una Ring, successfully campaigned for the introduction of stalking legislation in Ireland. Stalking legislation was introduced in 2023 and now provides legal protections for victims of stalking. Since then, she has been developing and delivering workshops and resources to a range of people to help tackle issues on stalking, sexual violence and harassment. Eve is passionate about the promotion of consent and safer nightlife. She has a Masters degree in Public Advocacy & Activist, is qualified in Sexual Consent Promotion and Mental Health Promotion. We chat with Eve about: · The signs of stalking and the motivations of stalkers · How the experience of stalking impacts your life · How she helped change the laws around stalking in Ireland · What to do if you think you’re being stalked For information on stalking and supports you can visit: https://www.toointoyou.ie/what-is-abuse/#Stalking If you're worried about your relationship, or even a friends, you can Call Women’s Aid 24Hr National Freephone Helpline on 1800 341 900 Chat for support at toointoyou.ie You can take the Relationship Quiz at toointoyou.ie to see if yours is healthy or not Both are completely free and confidential. Please follow @toointoyou on TikTok and Instagram to support the Too Into You campaign. If you enjoyed the episode please rate us 5 stars and leave us a comment, it makes our day! The Too Into You Podcast is hosted by Mary Hayes, Too Into You Project Coordinator, and Madeline Campbell, Too Into You Project Officer.

  • June 1 · 55 min

    Incels, red-pills, and the manosphere ft Prof Debbie Ging

    TW: Episode mentions violence against women, domestic violence, intimate relationship abuse, self-harm, and coercive control. For this episode, Madeline and Mary sit down with Debbie Ging, Professor of Digital Media and Gender in the School of Communications at Dublin City University. Debbie teaches and researches on gender, sexuality and digital media, with a focus on digital hate, online anti-feminist and men's rights politics, incel subculture and the radicalisation of boys and men into male supremacist ideologies. Her research also addresses youth experiences of gender-based and sexual abuse online and educational interventions to tackle this issue. Debbie been researching the manosphere for over 10 years watching it grow from a subculture on the fringes of the internet to a mainstream force reaching most young boys. Together we'll chat about: The manosphere and how it targets and exploits young men Red-pill, the ‘Male loneliness epidemic’ and incel culture The impact this is having on young men and their intimate relationships The real world impact for women and girls Call Women’s Aid 24Hr National Freephone Helpline on 1800 341 900. Chat for support at toointoyou.ie Both are completely free and confidential. You can take the Relationship Quiz at toointoyou.ie to see if yours is healthy or not. Please follow @toointoyou on TikTok and Instagram to support the Too Into You campaign. If you enjoyed the episode please rate us 5 stars and leave us a comment, it makes our day! The Too Into You Podcast is hosted by Mary Hayes, Too Into You Project Coordinator, and Madeline Campbell, Too Into You Project Officer. About Too Into You: Too Into You a project from Ireland focused on teaching young people about coercive control and the difference between healthy and unhealthy behaviours. We help educate young women in particular how to spot when someone is ‘too into you’ and provide dedicated support for young people subjected to intimate partner abuse at toointoyou.ie.

  • May 4 · 36 min

    Euphoria, Wuthering Heights, The Manopshere and more.

    TW: Episode mentions domestic violence, intimate relationship abuse, and coercive control. For this episode, Madeline and Mary chat all things pop culture, what sexism and misogyny looks like in the world and online and the impact it’s having on our intimate relationships. We chat about: The portrayal of women in Euphoria How Wuthering Heights romanticizes control The manosphere and online content shaping men's views of women And some wins for feminism! If you are worried about your own or a friend’s relationship you can: Call Women’s Aid 24Hr National Freephone Helpline on 1800 341 900. Chat for support at toointoyou.ie Both are completely free and confidential. You can take the Relationship Quiz at toointoyou.ie to see if yours is healthy or not. Please follow @toointoyou on TikTok and Instagram to support the Too Into You campaign. If you enjoyed the episode please rate us 5 stars and leave us a comment, it makes our day! The Too Into You Podcast is hosted by Mary Hayes, Too Into You Project Coordinator, and Madeline Campbell, Too Into You Project Officer. About Too Into You: Too Into You a project from Ireland focused on teaching young people about coercive control and the difference between healthy and unhealthy behaviours. We help educate young women in particular how to spot when someone is ‘too into you’ and provide dedicated support for young people subjected to intimate partner abuse at toointoyou.ie.

  • April 6 · 34 min

    ‘Life After Abuse’ ft Juliana Shiel

    TW: Episode mentions domestic violence, intimate relationship abuse, and coercive control. For this episode, Madeline and Mary are joined by Juliana Shiel. Juliana is an artist and beauty influencer with a following of over 300k people. When Juliana was 19, she was in an abusive relationship. Since then, she has become a Too Into You Ambassador, spending the last 5 years raising awareness of abuse in young relationships and the supports available at toointoyou.ie. We chat with Juliana about: Why she didn’t think her ex was abusing her How her ex made her feel trapped and isolated Why she wants to change people’s understanding of the ‘perfect victim’ What she wants other victims of abuse to know Follow Juliana on socials: Instagram: @juliana_shiel TikTok: @julianashiel If you are worried about your own or a friend’s relationship you can: Call Women’s Aid 24Hr National Freephone Helpline on 1800 341 900. Chat for support at toointoyou.ie Both are completely free and confidential. You can take the Relationship Quiz at toointoyou.ie to see if yours is healthy or not. Please follow @toointoyou on TikTok and Instagram to support the Too Into You campaign. If you enjoyed the episode please rate us 5 stars and leave us a comment, it makes our day! The Too Into You Podcast is hosted by Mary Hayes, Too Into You Project Coordinator, and Madeline Campbell, Too Into You Project Officer. About Too Into You: Too Into You a project from Women’s Aid Ireland focused on teaching young people about coercive control and the difference between healthy and unhealthy behaviours. We help educate young women in particular how to spot when someone is ‘too into you’ and provide dedicated support for young people subjected to intimate partner abuse at toointoyou.ie.

  • March 9 · 37 min

    International Women’s Day: Being a Young Woman Today ft Jenny Maguire and Destiny Ayo Vaughan

    TW: Episode mentions violence, intimate relationship abuse, and coercive control. Welcome back to Season 2 of the Too Into You Podcast! It’s International Women’s Day, and to celebrate, hosts Mary and Madeline chat to Destiny Ayo Vaughan and Jenny Maguire. Jenny Maguire is a writer, campaigner and commentator. Having previously served as president of Trinity Students’ Union, she is now a columnist for the Irish Independent. Jenny is also coorganiser of Trans and Intersex Pride Dublin. Destiny Ayo Vaughan is a clinical psychology student at Queen’s University Belfast, a recognised social entrepreneur, TEDx speaker, founder of Mind the Gap Ireland, and award‑winning activist. As a survivor of child abuse, trafficking, and the foster care system, she has transformed her lived experience into a catalyst for national change. We chat with them about: What it’s like to be a girl in the world today What messages young women are learning about dating and relationships and what brings them hope for the future of women’s rights If you are worried about your own or a friend’s relationship: Call Women’s Aid 24Hr National Freephone Helpline on 1800 341 900. Chat for support at toointoyou.ie Both are completely free and confidential. Take the Relationship Quiz at toointoyou.ie to see if yours is healthy or not. Follow @toointoyou on TikTok and Instagram. The Too Into You Podcast is hosted by Mary Hayes, Too Into You Project Coordinator, and Madeline Campbell, Too Into You Project Officer. About Too Into You: Too Into You a project from Women’s Aid Ireland focused on teaching young people about coercive control and the difference between healthy and unhealthy behaviours. We help educate young women in particular how to spot when someone is ‘too into you’ and provide dedicated support for young people subjected to intimate partner abuse at toointoyou.ie.

  • Nov 3, 2025 · 54 min

    What is Femicide? The Killing of Natalie McGuinness

    TW: Episode mentions violence, domestic abuse, and coercive control. Since 1996, 276 women have been killed in violent circumstances in Ireland. This is known as femicide, the intentional killings of women and girls precisely because of their gender. For the final episode of the season, we sit down with Jodie McGuinness, sister of Natalie McGuinness. 10 years ago, Natalie was killed by Oisin Conroy, a man she saw as a close friend. She was just 23 years old. This October marks 10 years since Natalie’s killing. We are also joined by Sarah Benson, CEO of Women’s Aid, whose expertise on violence against women spans over 25 years. In this episode, we ask questions like: What is femicide? Who was Natalie McGuinness? Why did Oisin Conroy kill his close friend Natalie? What role does gender inequality play in the killing of women? If you are worried about your own or a friend’s relationship: Call Women’s Aid 24Hr National Freephone Helpline on 1800 341 900. Chat for support at toointoyou.ie Both are completely free and confidential. Take the Relationship Quiz at toointoyou.ie to see if yours is healthy or not. Follow @toointoyou on TikTok and Instagram.

  • Oct 6, 2025 · 39 min

    Is It Love or a Trauma Bond? Unpacking Trauma & Shame

    Why do people stay in relationships that hurt them? This month on the Too Into You Podcast, we dive into the complex links between love, shame, and trauma. Mary is flying solo for this episode while Madeline is away, but she’s joined by Suzanna Knight and Niamh Wilson from Women’s Aid’s Training Department. With over 30 years’ combined experience, they’re experts in coercive control and the impact of trauma in intimate relationships. Together, we unpack what a trauma bond really is, how shame keeps people feeling stuck, and why leaving an abusive relationship is never as simple as “just walking away.” We’ll explore: How trauma bonds are formed in abusive relationships. The role shame plays in keeping survivors silent. Why your brain and body respond the way they do. The antidote to trauma If you’ve ever wondered “Why didn’t they leave?” or asked yourself “Why do I feel this way?”, this episode will give you real answers, and remind you that you’re not alone. If you are worried about your own or a friend’s relationship you can: Call Women’s Aid 24Hr National Freephone Helpline on 1800 341 900. Chat for support at toointoyou.ie Take the Relationship Quiz at toointoyou.ie to see if yours is healthy or not. Follow @toointoyou on TikTok and Instagram, and don’t forget to leave us a review and comment. Chapters: 00:00 - Intro 03:19 – What is trauma? 06:49 - Fight, flight and freeze – Why Your Body Reacts This Way 16.45 – How abusers use shame to keep you trapped 25.51 – Trauma Bonds: Why Leaving Isn’t Simple 28.49 – Why do people control their partners? 31.48 – Healing: The antidote to trauma and shame

  • Sep 1, 2025 · 56 min

    The truth about her ‘sex tape’ ft Alexandra Ryan

    TW: Episode mentions suicide, suicidal ideation, image based sexual abuse, sexual abuse, coercive control. In this powerful episode of Too Into You, host Mary Hayes sits down with Alexandra Ryan, award winning journalist, law graduate, founder and CEO of Goss.ie and survivor of image based sexual abuse. When Ali was 25, she was filmed, without her knowledge or consent, having sex with a man she knew and trusted. She bravely shared her story on Goss.ie and has gone on to advocate for survivors of image based sexual abuse. Ali now acts as an Ambassador for the Department for the Justice and helped them launch a campaign to combat the sharing of intimate images without consent. In this episode, we talk about: The real impact on victims — from shame and isolation to rebuilding trust. What does ‘revenge porn’ really mean? Coco’s Law and changes in Irish law that criminalise intimate image abuse. The pressures young women face to send nudes and sexually explicit imagery. Why it’s never your fault and what support is out there. If someone shares or even threatens to share explicit images or videos of you without your permission, this is image based sexual abuse and it is a crime. If this has happened to you, you can: Learn more at: https://www.toointoyou.ie/get-help/sharing-of-intimate-images/ Report it at: https://hotline.ie/ Read Ali’s full story here: https://goss.ie/gallery/featured-2-the-truth-about-my-sex-tape-by-alexandra-ryan-232458-232458 If you are worried about your own or a friend’s relationship you can: Call Women’s Aid 24Hr National Freephone Helpline on 1800 341 900. Chat for support at toointoyou.ie Take the Relationship Quiz at toointoyou.ie to see if yours is healthy or not. Follow @toointoyou on TikTok and Instagram, and don’t forget to leave us a review and comment. Chapters: 00:00 - Intro 01:40 – Who is Ali Ryan? 09:23 – Ali’s story and the impact of image based sexual abuse 22:46 – The truth about ‘revenge porn’ 26:12 – Taking back control and going public 29:32 – Pressure, porn and consent 37:00 – Shifting the public conversation 47.29 – A message of hope for anyone affected 49:49 – Episode wrap up with Madeline Campbell

  • S1 · E8
    Aug 4, 2025 · 44 min

    Emotional Abuse 101: It’s Not Just in Your Head

    Ever felt like you’re walking on eggshells in your relationship? Or like your partner blames for their actions? Or like things are moving way too fast in the honeymoon stage? You’re not alone, and it’s not your fault. In this episode of the Too Into You podcast, we break down emotional abuse in young relationships, what it is, how it shows up, and why it’s so harmful. We dive into the early red flags like love bombing, gaslighting, negging, and isolation, and explore how they chip away at your confidence and leave you feeling confused, anxious, or stuck. Whether you’re in a relationship, just getting out of one, or want to help a friend, this episode is here to remind you: real love doesn’t make you feel small. Because emotional abuse is real, it’s serious, and you deserve better. TW: Episode mentions domestic abuse, emotional abuse, intimate partner abuse, physical abuse and financial abuse. If you are worried about your own or a friend’s relationship: Call Women’s Aid 24Hr National Freephone Helpline on 1800 341 900. Chat for support at toointoyou.ie Both are completely free and confidential. Take the Relationship Quiz at toointoyou.ie to see if yours is healthy or not. Follow @toointoyou on TikTok and Instagram. Chapters 00:00 Intro 02:16 What is Emotional Abuse? 06:20 What is Love bombing? 15:00 What is Gaslighting? 26:10 What is Negging? 31:41 What about Isolation

  • Jul 7, 2025 · 41 min

    Worried About Your Relationship and Scared to Reach Out? This Is What You Can Expect ft Women’s Aid

    Thinking about reaching out for help but not sure what to expect? In this episode, we chat Linda Smith, Head of National Helpline Services, and Eavan Ward, Head of Regional Services, from Women’s Aid to break down what actually happens when you ask for support. We break down: What it’s like to call the Women’s Aid Helpline or use the chat service at toointoyou.ie What to expect from an appointment with Women’s Aid What it’s like to report abuse to the Gardaí How to gather evidence of abuse And much more Whether you’re in a relationship that feels off, worried about a friend, or just unsure if what you're experiencing is OK—this episode is for you. No judgment, no pressure—just honest answers. TW: Episode mentions domestic abuse, emotional abuse, intimate partner abuse, physical abuse and financial abuse. If you are worried about your own or a friend’s relationship: Call Women’s Aid 24Hr National Freephone Helpline on 1800 341 900. Chat for support at toointoyou.ie Both are completely free and confidential. Take the Relationship Quiz at toointoyou.ie to see if yours is healthy or not. Follow @toointoyou on TikTok and Instagram. Chapters: 00:00 - Intro 04:35 Are the support services right for me? 07:53 “My situation isn’t bad enough” and “ I don’t want to take time from someone who really needs it.” 11:13 What are the things people ask about on the helpline? 13:18 Staying together for the kids? 17:17 If I call Women’s Aid, will they just tell me to break up? 18:30 What happens when I call the Helpline? What will I be asked? 23:18 What to expect from an appointment with Women’s Aid? 25:33 What is the Drop in Service? How to get a Protection Order? 28:28 What to expect when you go to the Gardaí? 31:03 How to gather evidence of abuse 34:54 A message of hope for you 37:27 Episode chat with Madeline Campbell

  • Jun 2, 2025 · 45 min

    Control Isn’t Love: Abuse in LGBTQ+ Relationships

    On this episode, we chat to James O’Hagan from LGBT Ireland. James coordinates the LGBTQI+ Intimate Partner Violence Network. We’ll be chatting about things like: - Does abuse happen in LGBTQ+ relationships? - What are the red flags of abuse in LGBTQ+ relationships? - What does a healthy queer relationship look like? - Where can young LGBTQ+ people find support? Take the Relationship Quiz at toointoyou.ie to see if yours is healthy or not. Remember, if you are worried about your own or a friend’s relationship: Call Women’s Aid 24Hr National Freephone Helpline on 1800 341 900. Chat for support at toointoyou.ie Both are completely free and confidential. Contact LGBT Ireland: Call National LGBT Helpline on 1800 929 539 Find information and support at lgbt.ie Don’t forget to give us a 5 star rating and leave a comment Chapters 00:00 Intro 04:01 Who is LGBT Ireland and LGBTQI+ Community Intimate Partner Abuse Network 06:17 How coming out impacts young LGBTQ+ relationships 14:38 Common red flags of abuse in LGBTQ+ relationships 18:41 Dating someone who is already out 22:13 How abuse happens in LGBTQ+ relationships 26:10 Barriers to seeking support 29:08 Where to go for support 31:34 Supporting a friend or family member 34:00 Episode chat with Madeline Campbell

  • S1 · E5
    May 5, 2025 · 37 min

    You Asked, We Answered

    We’re answering your questions about dating and relationships, intimate partner abuse, and what healthy love really looks like.

  • S1 · E3
    Mar 3, 2025 · 29 min

    Myth Busting

    On this episode, the Too Into You team - Mary and Madeline - break down myths and misconceptions about abuse.

  • S1 · E1
    Feb 7, 2025 · 58 sec

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