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Annie Grace

Bestselling author Annie Grace invites you to explore the role of alcohol in our lives and culture without rules, pain, or judgement. Ready to make a change? Join The Alcohol Experiment - a FREE 30-day challenge designed to deliver happiness, wellbeing and self-respect. Check out The Alcohol Experiment at alcoholexperiment.com


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  • #943
    Tuesday · 1 hr 4 min

    Why Do I Think Something Is Wrong With Me?

    Trigger Warning: This episode mentions death by suicide and death from alcohol use. Something is wrong with me. Five words, but they can resonate in your brain over and over again for decades. That's the reality Lisa and Michelle have been living with day in and day out. To the point where drowning that voice out with wine was the only way to find peace. Or so they thought. Coaches Cole and Zoe offer a new perspective and a pathway to healing. Lisa discusses: The list of 15 friends who disappeared from her life, and what she'd decided it meant about her The one letter her father ever wrote her, sent the year before he died of alcoholism Why "people just lose touch" was the hardest reframe she'd ever been asked to try on The difference between giving from love and giving to keep someone from leaving Michelle discusses: The exact age she started drinking, and what it gave her that nothing else did Why "turn that frown upside down" became the rule that shaped her whole childhood Becoming a people pleaser, and what it cost her to keep speaking up Learning to re-parent the little girl who never got to just be herself And more… Ready to take the next step? Visit https://learn.thisnakedmind.com/podcast-resources for free resources, programs, and more. Until next week, stay curious! Cole Harvey is a certified Naked Mind Senior Coach. As a habit change and mindset coach, Cole helps men understand themselves, build better habits, and find meaning. Learn more about Coach Cole: https://thisnakedmind.com/coach/cole-harvey/ Zoe Ewart is a Certified Naked Mind Senior Coach who brings her experience and understanding to help with the tricky parts of life's big changes. Her coaching gives you an enjoyable, light-hearted, and safe environment to effortlessly take back control of alcohol. Learn more about Coach Zoe: https://thisnakedmind.com/coach/zoe-ewart/ Episode links: Join The Path - nakedmindpath.com More on this episode: https://thisnakedmind.com/podcast/something-is-wrong-with-me-alcohol-freedom-coaching-ep-943/ Related episodes: You Are Not the Problem, Alcohol Is | Naked Life Story | EP 733 – https://thisnakedmind.com/you-are-not-the-problem-alcohol-is-naked-life-story-ep-733/ Living Judgement-Free | Alcohol Freedom Coaching | E764 – https://thisnakedmind.com/living-judgement-free-alcohol-freedom-coaching-e764/ How Do You Deal With Feeling Ashamed or Embarrassed About Drinking? | Reader Question | EP 406 – https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-406-reader-question-how-do-you-deal-with-feeling-ashamed-or-embarrassed-about-drinking/ Follow on Apple Podcasts: podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/this-naked-mind-podcast/id1287269357 Follow on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0UB06sNguPjVvgAYFBcR9I?si=b7568f24c21249ff This episode is sponsored by Instant Hydration, Quince, Shopify, Primal Queen, and Hungryroot: Quince: Get free shipping and 365-day returns at ⁠⁠quince.com/naked⁠⁠ Shopify: Sign up for free trial at ⁠⁠shopify.com/mind⁠⁠ Hungryroot: Save 40% on your first order PLUS a free item at ⁠⁠hungryroot.com/mind⁠ CODE: mind Primal Queen: Get a free month of Primal Queen plus FOUR FREE GIFTS at PrimalQueen.com/⁠NAKEDMIND⁠ Instant Hydration: Save 40% on your first subscription order at instanthydration.com/nakedmind CODE: NAKEDMIND

  • #942
    Saturday · 45 min

    The Job That Almost Kept Her Drinking

    How do you quit drinking when your job is getting other people to drink? For years, that was Kelly's daily reality. She sampled wine and liquor with retailers all day, then went out drinking with her coworkers once the samples were done, and some nights she couldn't drive home afterward. She kept a tablecloth in the back seat of her car for exactly those nights, climbing back there to sleep it off instead of getting behind the wheel. Quitting drinking while working in alcohol sales meant unlearning her entire job description, and almost ten months later, she no longer needs that tablecloth. Kelly and Coach Cole discuss: Growing up with wine treated as a nightly ritual, and how that shaped her first years of drinking Losing her senior season and her team captaincy after one night out with alcohol What working in alcohol sales and distribution did to her drinking, and what daily industry culture looked like from the inside Tracking her drinks in an app and mistaking a lower number for freedom Learning to treat a slip as a data point instead of a reason to quit trying Naming her drunk self "Kelly Lynn," and what it took to stop holding her at arm's length And more on rediscovering travel, music, and finding her way back to who she was before alcohol took over… Ready to take the next step? Visit https://learn.thisnakedmind.com/podcast-resources for free resources, programs, and more. Until next week, stay curious! Episode links: Read This Naked Mind: thisnakedmind.com/book The Alcohol Experiment: https://www.alcoholexperiment.com More on this episode: https://thisnakedmind.com/podcast/quit-drinking-while-working-in-alcohol-sales-kellys-naked-life-ep-942/ Related episodes: Working in the Alcohol Industry | Sam's Naked Life - https://thisnakedmind.com/working-in-the-alcohol-industry/ How to Control Alcohol Consumption | Alcohol Freedom Coaching | E772 - https://thisnakedmind.com/alcohol-freedom-coaching-e772/ Is Drinking In Moderation Possible? | Reader Question | EP 08 - https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-08-reader-question-moderation-possible/ Follow on Apple Podcasts: podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/this-naked-mind-podcast/id1287269357 Follow on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0UB06sNguPjVvgAYFBcR9I?si=b7568f24c21249ff This episode is sponsored by Instant Hydration, Quince, Shopify, Primal Queen, and Hungryroot: Quince: Get free shipping and 365-day returns at ⁠⁠quince.com/naked⁠⁠ Shopify: Sign up for free trial at ⁠⁠shopify.com/mind⁠⁠ Hungryroot: Save 40% on your first order PLUS a free item at ⁠⁠hungryroot.com/mind⁠ CODE: mind Primal Queen: Get a free month of Primal Queen plus FOUR FREE GIFTS at PrimalQueen.com/⁠NAKEDMIND⁠ Instant Hydration: Save 40% on your first subscription order at instanthydration.com/nakedmind CODE: NAKEDMIND

  • #941
    September 15 · 1 hr 18 min

    How Honest Can You Be?

    Trigger warning: This episode mentions disordered eating and self-harm. “You either drink, or you don’t,” Kelly’s husband actually said to her. If only it were that simple, like there’s a switch you can just flick and the desire to drink evaporates. While that might be true for some people, most of us find the path to freedom much harder. Jules knows that, and she knows how hard being honest with the people you love about your drinking can be. When you’re stuck in the loop between blame, shame, and guilt, honesty seems hard to come by. Coaches Zoe and Cole help Kelly and Jules find peace with what was and hope for what’s to come. Kelly discusses: Realizing her drinking was a way to make an unsustainable marriage feel sustainable How her husband’s “black and white” view of quitting fed a cycle of shame and blame The one idea from The Path that reframed everything for her, and what changed once she stopped drinking alone in her bedroom Renaming herself from “Blackout Kelly” to “Clear Kelly,” and what created that shift Jules discusses: Fearing she’s already failed her kids as a mother because of her drinking A memory from a backyard badminton game with her daughter that she can’t shake Coach Cole’s reframe of shame and guilt What having the alcohol conversation with her kids might look like And more… Ready to take the next step? Visit https://learn.thisnakedmind.com/podcast-resources for free resources, programs, and more. Until next week, stay curious! Zoe Ewart is a Certified Naked Mind Senior Coach who brings her experience and understanding to help with the tricky parts of life's big changes. Her coaching gives you an enjoyable, light-hearted, and safe environment to effortlessly take back control of alcohol. Learn more about Coach Zoe: https://thisnakedmind.com/coach/zoe-ewart/ Cole Harvey is a Certified Naked Mind Senior Coach. As a habit change and mindset coach, Cole helps men understand themselves, build better habits, and find meaning. Learn more about Coach Cole: https://thisnakedmind.com/coach/cole-harvey/ Episode links: Join The Path - nakedmindpath.com More on this episode: https://thisnakedmind.com/podcast/being-honest-with-the-people-you-love-about-drinking-alcohol-freedom-coaching-ep-941/ Related episodes: Reclaim Your Life | Alcohol Freedom Coaching | EP 762 – https://thisnakedmind.com/reclaim-your-life-alcohol-freedom-coaching-e762/ Healing Through Self-Love – Cole’s Naked Life | EP 737 – http://thisnakedmind.com/healing-through-self-love-coles-naked-life-e737/ How Do You Pull Yourself Out of the Guilt Around Drinking? | Reader Question | EP 42 – https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-42-reader-question-how-do-you-pull-yourself-out-of-the-guilt-around-drinking/ Follow on Apple Podcasts: podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/this-naked-mind-podcast/id1287269357 Follow on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0UB06sNguPjVvgAYFBcR9I?si=b7568f24c21249ff This episode is sponsored by Instant Hydration, Quince, Shopify, Primal Queen, and Hungryroot: Quince: Get free shipping and 365-day returns at ⁠⁠quince.com/naked⁠⁠ Shopify: Sign up for free trial at ⁠⁠shopify.com/mind⁠⁠ Hungryroot: Save 40% on your first order PLUS a free item at ⁠⁠hungryroot.com/mind⁠ CODE: mind Primal Queen: Get a free month of Primal Queen plus FOUR FREE GIFTS at PrimalQueen.com/⁠NAKEDMIND⁠ Instant Hydration: Save 40% on your first subscription order at instanthydration.com/nakedmind CODE: NAKEDMIND

  • #940
    September 12 · 42 min

    I Am Not Drinking Again

    Twenty-four hours of food poisoning on an all-inclusive holiday, and Helen's body made a decision before her mind caught up. She'd been drinking that week too, the way she always did with her sister, and somewhere in the middle of being violently sick she found herself pleading with her own stomach: no more, nothing else toxic, please. She got home and never drank again. You don't need an excuse not to drink once your body has already made the case for you, and two years later, she still describes the moment as a decision made in an instant. Helen and Coach Cole discuss: ● Sneaking sips of wine and gin as a kid, and how alcohol felt like the ultimate grown-up, exciting thing ● Getting so drunk on her 18th birthday that her parents thought she'd been spiked with something worse than alcohol ● Needing “a valid reason” not to drink once her kids weren't little anymore, and how strange that felt to admit out loud ● The bout of food poisoning on holiday with her sister that made the decision for her, in an instant ● Why reading This Naked Mind felt like confirmation instead of a wake-up call ● And more on finding an alcohol-free music festival and what she'd tell her teenage self about dancing… Ready to take the next step? Visit https://learn.thisnakedmind.com/podcast-resources for free resources, programs, and more. Until next week, stay curious! Episode links: thisnakedmind.com/book More on this episode - https://thisnakedmind.com/podcast/you-dont-need-an-excuse-not-to-drink-helens-naked-like-ep940/ Related episodes: Building Confidence on Your Terms – Madison's Naked Life | E761 – https://thisnakedmind.com/building-confidence-on-your-terms-madisons-naked-life-e761/ How To Set Healthy Boundaries With Alcohol | Alcohol Freedom Coaching | E815 – https://thisnakedmind.com/how-to-set-healthy-boundaries-with-alcohol-e815/ How To Turn Down A Drink | Reader Question | EP 288 – https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-288-reader-question-how-can-i-turn-down-a-drink-but-avoid-saying-im-sober-or-i-stopped-drinking/ Follow on Apple Podcasts: podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/this-naked-mind-podcast/id1287269357 Follow on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0UB06sNguPjVvgAYFBcR9I?si=b7568f24c21249ff This episode is sponsored by Instant Hydration, Quince, Shopify, Primal Queen, and Hungryroot: Quince: Get free shipping and 365-day returns at ⁠⁠quince.com/naked⁠⁠ Shopify: Sign up for free trial at ⁠⁠shopify.com/mind⁠⁠ Hungryroot: Save 40% on your first order PLUS a free item at ⁠⁠hungryroot.com/mind⁠ CODE: mind Primal Queen: Get a free month of Primal Queen plus FOUR FREE GIFTS at PrimalQueen.com/⁠NAKEDMIND⁠ Instant Hydration: Save 40% on your first subscription order at instanthydration.com/nakedmind CODE: NAKEDMIND

  • #939
    September 8 · 1 hr 6 min

    I Never Gave Myself a Chance

    What does it take to stop shaming yourself for drinking again? Sarah and Katie are trying to figure that out. It's easy to say that you need to change through compassion, self-love, and empathy, but putting that into practice is a much different story. Coach Hayley and Coach Cole use their training and their own experiences with drinking again to help Sarah and Katie use curiosity instead of blame and shame. Sarah discusses: Why over 100 days alcohol-free hasn't erased the fear that one bad day could send her back to hair of the dog Trusting the tools she's learned instead of the shame and blame she used to reach for first Bartending without missing the version of herself who used to drink through her shifts The intervention her sister and best friend staged, and why she couldn't hear it at the time Katie discusses: The "why" she keeps circling back to after relapsing months into a daily wine habit Reframing withdrawal agitation as her body healing instead of a sign something's wrong The 90 percent of her negative thoughts that turn out to be rumination, not fact Why being a "fixer" makes it harder to get curious about her own drinking pattern And more from both guests… Ready to take the next step? Visit https://learn.thisnakedmind.com/podcast-resources for free resources, programs, and more. Until next week, stay curious! Hayley Scherders is a certified TNM Coach with training from the Canadian Addiction and Mental Health Association. Hayley understands how tough change can be and provides a safe, compassionate, and judgment-free space where her clients can feel supported. Learn more about Coach Hayley: https://thisnakedmind.com/coach/hayley-scherders/ Cole Harvey is a certified Naked Mind Senior Coach. As a habit change and mindset coach, Cole helps men understand themselves, build better habits, and find meaning. Learn more about Coach Cole: https://thisnakedmind.com/coach/cole-harvey/ Episode links: nakedmindpath.com More on this episode: https://thisnakedmind.com/podcast/stop-shaming-yourself-for-drinking-again-alcohol-freedom-coaching-ep-939/ Related episodes: Overcoming the Fear of Drinking Again | Naked Life Story | EP 741 – https://thisnakedmind.com/overcoming-the-fear-of-drinking-again-erins-naked-life-e741/ Progress Over Perfection, Learn to Embrace Self-Compassion | Alcohol Freedom Coaching | EP 730 – https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-730-coaches-podcast-coach-ellie-with-lauri-m-tina-m/ Overcoming Shame and Embarrassment After Drinking | Reader Question | EP 722 – https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-722-readers-question-overcoming-shame-and-embarrassment-after-drinking/ Follow on Apple Podcasts: podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/this-naked-mind-podcast/id1287269357 Follow on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0UB06sNguPjVvgAYFBcR9I?si=b7568f24c21249ff This episode is sponsored by Instant Hydration, Quince, Shopify, Primal Queen, and Hungryroot: Quince: Get free shipping and 365-day returns at ⁠⁠quince.com/naked⁠⁠ Shopify: Sign up for free trial at ⁠⁠shopify.com/mind⁠⁠ Hungryroot: Save 40% on your first order PLUS a free item at ⁠⁠hungryroot.com/mind⁠ CODE: mind Primal Queen: Get a free month of Primal Queen plus FOUR FREE GIFTS at PrimalQueen.com/⁠NAKEDMIND⁠ Instant Hydration: Save 40% on your first subscription order at instanthydration.com/nakedmind CODE: NAKEDMIND

  • #938
    September 5 · 56 min

    How to Quit Drinking as a Mom

    Six years ago, Payal looked in the mirror the morning after a blackout and finally had enough of herself. She's back on Where Are They Now to talk about how to quit drinking as a mom when mommy wine culture makes it feel normal, and what six years actually built: a dad and two sisters who gave up alcohol right along with her, and two boys who have never once seen their mom drunk. Payal and Coach Hayley discuss: Growing up believing a drink was the only way to build real confidence, and what she knows now that she didn't then The four-pack of small wine bottles hidden at the bottom of the trash, and the mommy wine culture that made it feel normal Why she could never just have one, and the single therapist conversation that finally connected the dots What it actually looks like to quit drinking as a mom when your spouse still drinks Learning how to have fun without alcohol again, after believing for years it wasn't possible And more on the "playing the tape forward" trick she still uses today, and finding your own path to alcohol freedom… Ready to take the next step? Visit https://learn.thisnakedmind.com/podcast-resources for free resources, programs, and more. Until next week, stay curious! Coach Hayley Scherders is a certified TNM Coach trained through the Canadian Addiction and Mental Health Association. Learn more about Coach Hayley: https://thisnakedmind.com/coach/hayley-scherders/ Episode links: Follow Payal on Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/payalforstyle/ More on this episode: Join The Path: nakedmindpath.com Related episodes: Partying and Parenthood | Naked Life Story | EP 461 - https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-461-naked-life-story-payal/ What If My Marriage Is Dependent On Alcohol? | Reader Question | EP 222 - https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-222-reader-question-what-if-my-marriage-is-dependent-on-alcohol/ Shifting Mindset for Lasting Change | Alcohol Freedom Coaching | E783 - https://thisnakedmind.com/shifting-beliefs-changing-habits-alcohol-freedom-coaching-e783/ Follow on Apple Podcasts: podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/this-naked-mind-podcast/id1287269357 Follow on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0UB06sNguPjVvgAYFBcR9I?si=b7568f24c21249ff This episode is sponsored by Instant Hydration, Quince, Shopify, Primal Queen, and Hungryroot: Quince: Get free shipping and 365-day returns at ⁠⁠quince.com/naked⁠⁠ Shopify: Sign up for free trial at ⁠⁠shopify.com/mind⁠⁠ Hungryroot: Save 40% on your first order PLUS a free item at ⁠⁠hungryroot.com/mind⁠ CODE: mind Primal Queen: Get a free month of Primal Queen plus FOUR FREE GIFTS at PrimalQueen.com/⁠NAKEDMIND⁠ Instant Hydration: Save 40% on your first subscription order at instanthydration.com/nakedmind CODE: NAKEDMIND

  • #937
    September 1 · 1 hr

    Regular Drinkers Don't Exist

    Learning how to stop feeling left out when you quit drinking starts, for Brenda, with a very specific list: people who can supposedly drink like it's nothing and never seem to pay for it. Kate's experience looks different: a friend in recovery who stopped getting invited to things, and a dinner this weekend she's already rehearsing lines for. Listen as our coaches help Brenda and Kate separate fact from fiction and learn why regular drinkers don’t exist. Brenda discusses: Why "regular drinkers" turned out to be a myth she was ready to test A "party with a price tag," and what that persona actually cost her Three years in a weight loss program, and the math she'd never done The two rooms Coach Zoe asks her to choose between, and which one she picks Kate discusses: Why she'd rather say "I'm taking a break" than let anyone use the word "problem" The word "stigma," and why it fits alcohol in a way it never fit quitting smoking The specific tactics for a dinner, a band, and zero big announcements The two truths Coach Hayley asks her to hold at the same time And more from both guests… Ready to take the next step? Visit https://learn.thisnakedmind.com/podcast-resources for free resources, programs, and more. Until next week, stay curious! Zoe Ewart is a Certified Naked Mind Senior Coach who brings her experience and understanding to help with the tricky parts of life's big changes. Her coaching gives you an enjoyable, light-hearted, and safe environment to effortlessly take back control of alcohol. Learn more about Coach Zoe: https://thisnakedmind.com/coach/zoe-ewart/ Hayley Scherders is a certified TNM Coach with training from the Canadian Addiction and Mental Health Association. Hayley understands how tough change can be and provides a safe, compassionate, and judgment-free space where her clients can feel supported. Learn more about Coach Hayley: https://thisnakedmind.com/coach/hayley-scherders/ Episode links: nakedmindpath.com More on this episode: https://thisnakedmind.com/podcast/how-to-stop-feeling-left-out-when-you-quit-drinking-alcohol-freedom-coaching-ep-937/ Related episodes: Drinking Less in Wine Country | Alcohol Freedom Coaching | EP 740 – https://thisnakedmind.com/drinking-less-in-wine-country-alcohol-freedom-coaching-ep-740/ Happy Hours, Lonely Nights | Brian's Naked Life | EP 777 – https://thisnakedmind.com/being-fully-present-alcohol-free-e777/ Are There Normal Drinkers? | Reader Question | EP 400 – https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-400-reader-question-are-there-normal-drinkers/ Follow on Apple Podcasts: podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/this-naked-mind-podcast/id1287269357 Follow on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0UB06sNguPjVvgAYFBcR9I?si=b7568f24c21249ff This episode is sponsored by Instant Hydration, Quince, Shopify, Primal Queen, and Hungryroot: Quince: Get free shipping and 365-day returns at ⁠quince.com/naked⁠ Shopify: Sign up for free trial at ⁠shopify.com/mind⁠ Hungryroot: Save 40% on your first order PLUS a free item at ⁠hungryroot.com/mind CODE: mind Primal Queen: Get a free month of Primal Queen plus FOUR FREE GIFTS at PrimalQueen.com/NAKEDMIND Instant Hydration: Save 40% on your first subscription order at instanthydration.com/nakedmind CODE: NAKEDMIND

  • #936
    August 29 · 43 min

    Drinking Out of Boredom

    Trigger Warning: This episode includes mentions of a medical emergency and a homicide. Sunday morning, and Brenda can't get out of bed. Her head is pounding hard enough that she genuinely believes she might die from it, so she turns over and doesn't get up again until one in the afternoon. She'd been retired for years by then, a daily schedule and routine filled with wine instead, and what she labeled relaxing was really drinking out of boredom. A couple of glasses had turned into a full box, then a bottle most nights, one more way to use up hours a twenty-year police career used to take up on its own. A week later, she threw that box of wine in the trash. Brenda and Coach Cole discuss: Starting the police academy, getting married, and quitting drinking, all in the same month, years apart Why retiring in 2013 removed the one thing that had kept her drinking in check Naming the voice in her head Dave, and talking back to him out loud in the car The pink cloud moment driving home along the lake six weeks after her last drink The Sunday morning hangover that convinced her she was dying, and why it became her turning point Why she filled her newly empty days with sewing for her local theater and mornings back at the SPCA And more on rebuilding her marriage and finally learning to put herself first… Ready to take the next step? Visit https://learn.thisnakedmind.com/podcast-resources for free resources, programs, and more. Until next week, stay curious! Episode links: Alcohol Freedom Challenge - https://go.controlalcohollive.com/2026-challenge-registration More on this episode - https://thisnakedmind.com/podcast/drinking-out-of-boredom-brendas-naked-life-ep-936/ Related episodes: Naked Life Story – Irene | EP 295 – https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-295-naked-life-story-irene/ Finding Purpose and Direction After Quitting Alcohol | Alcohol Freedom Coaching | E817 – https://thisnakedmind.com/finding-purpose-and-direction-after-quitting-alcohol-e817/ How Do I Overcome the Trigger of Boredom? | Reader Question | EP 32 – https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-32-reader-question-how-do-i-overcome-the-trigger-of-boredom/ Follow on Apple Podcasts: podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/this-naked-mind-podcast/id1287269357 Follow on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0UB06sNguPjVvgAYFBcR9I?si=b7568f24c21249ff This episode is sponsored by Quince, Hungryroot, and BetterHelp Quince: Get free shipping and 365-day returns at ⁠⁠⁠quince.com/naked⁠⁠⁠ Hungryroot: Save 40% on your first order PLUS a free item at ⁠⁠⁠hungryroot.com/mind⁠⁠ CODE: mind BetterHelp: Visit BetterHelp at ⁠⁠betterhelp.com/nakedmind

  • #935
    August 25 · 1 hr 6 min

    When You Quit and They Don't

    Trigger warning: This episode contains references to disordered eating and the death of a parent following a medical complication. “I'm actually on day twenty-six alcohol-free right now, the first time since I was pregnant with my daughter,” Bethany says. Bev has been counting differently: hers started January 13th, and her husband hasn't missed a single one of his own drinking nights since. Bethany and Bev work with Coaches Hayley and Cole on how to quit drinking when your spouse still drinks. Bethany discusses: • The exact moment four years ago that changed everything, and the nights she still can't escape it • Why she calls herself a “cheater” when it comes to quitting, and what she means by it • The one word she used to describe what alcohol really was to her • What Coach Hayley asked her about her father, and what Bethany said back Bev discusses: • A resentment she didn't know she was carrying, until the alcohol was gone and there was nowhere left to hide it • Living with a cancer diagnosis that makes quitting drinking a matter of life and death • The one sentence about her marriage she's never said out loud, not even to her husband • What Coach Cole told her to do about a husband who won't quit too, and why it wasn't what she expected • And more… Ready to take the next step? Visit https://learn.thisnakedmind.com/podcast-resources for free resources, programs, and more. Until next week, stay curious! Hayley Scherders is a certified TNM Coach with training from the Canadian Addiction and Mental Health Association. Hayley understands how tough change can be and provides a safe, compassionate, and judgment-free space where her clients can feel supported. Learn more about Coach Hayley: https://thisnakedmind.com/coach/hayley-scherders/ Cole Harvey is a certified Naked Mind Senior Coach. As a habit change and mindset coach, Cole helps men understand themselves, build better habits, and find meaning. Learn more about Coach Cole: https://thisnakedmind.com/coach/cole-harvey/ Episode links: nakedmindpath.com More on this episode: https://thisnakedmind.com/podcast/how-to-quit-drinking-when-your-spouse-still-drinks-alcohol-freedom-coaching-ep-935/ Related episodes: I Quit Drinking But My Spouse Has Not, Any Advice? | Reader Question | EP 48 | https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-48-reader-question-i-quit-drinking-but-my-spouse-has-not-any-advice/ How Quitting Drinking Can Improve a Relationship | Gavin's Naked Life | EP 842 | https://thisnakedmind.com/how-quitting-drinking-can-improve-a-relationship-gavins-naked-life-e842/ How To Stop Drinking To Avoid Emotions | Alcohol Freedom Coaching | EP 845 | https://thisnakedmind.com/drinking-to-avoid-emotions-afc-e845/ Follow on Apple Podcasts: podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/this-naked-mind-podcast/id1287269357 Follow on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0UB06sNguPjVvgAYFBcR9I?si=b7568f24c21249ff This episode is sponsored by Quince, Hungryroot, and BetterHelp Quince: Get free shipping and 365-day returns at ⁠⁠⁠quince.com/naked⁠⁠⁠ Hungryroot: Save 40% on your first order PLUS a free item at ⁠⁠⁠hungryroot.com/mind⁠⁠ CODE: mind BetterHelp: Visit BetterHelp at ⁠⁠betterhelp.com/nakedmind

  • #934
    August 22 · 1 hr 11 min

    The Drink Responsibly Myth | Interview - The Shift

    Annie Grace grew up in a cabin with no running water, no electricity, and a dad who never drank. A decade later, in a corporate job in New York City, she was pouring close to two bottles of wine a night, buying the boxed kind so nobody would notice when one ran out. In this episode, she sits down with Mike Marshall, CEO of the U.S. Alcohol Policy Alliance, on his podcast The Shift, to talk about what the alcohol industry doesn’t want you to know, and why “drink responsibly” was never really about you. Annie and Mike discuss: Annie’s own story, from a childhood with no drinking in the house to two bottles of wine a night, and the moment that finally stopped her in her tracks Why “drink responsibly” sounds helpful but was never really written with the drinker in mind What a former alcohol industry executive admitted about targeting the heaviest drinkers, and building the alcopop to hook teenagers Why alcohol has carried a carcinogen label for decades, and why most of us never got the memo Annie’s “grace first” approach to changing your relationship with alcohol, and why shame just isn’t the answer And more on policy, parenting, and what real freedom from alcohol’s grip actually feels like… Ready to take the next step on your journey? Visit https://learn.thisnakedmind.com/podcast-resources for free resources, programs, and more. Until next week, stay curious! Episode links: This Naked Mind: https://thisnakedmind.com Big Alcohol Wants Your Kids (video): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AC7ubYky_zM More on this episode: [full show notes URL — add once this episode is live on thisnakedmind.com] Related Episodes: Does Alcohol Advertising Really Work? | Reader Question | EP 184 - https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-184-does-alcohol-advertising-really-work-2/ Is Drinking In Moderation Possible? | Reader Question | EP 08 - https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-08-reader-question-moderation-possible/ How to Break Free From Rules Around Drinking | Reader Question | EP 482 - https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-482-reader-question-how-to-break-free-from-rules-around-drinking/ This episode is sponsored by Quince, Hungryroot, and BetterHelp Quince: Get free shipping and 365-day returns at ⁠⁠⁠quince.com/naked⁠⁠⁠ Hungryroot: Save 40% on your first order PLUS a free item at ⁠⁠⁠hungryroot.com/mind⁠⁠ CODE: mind BetterHelp: Visit BetterHelp at ⁠⁠betterhelp.com/nakedmind

  • #933
    August 18 · 1 hr 14 min

    Why One Drink Never Stays One Drink

    Why can’t I just have one drink? For Pamela, that question comes from her struggle to moderate her drinking, and for Claude, it sits in her fear of never being able to drink again. Same question but from two very different perspectives. Coaches Cole and Hayley work with Pamela and Claude to discover what sits behind these questions and to find out why one drink never stays one drink for most of us. Pamela discusses: Fifty-three easy days, then a Friday night phone call from friends that flipped the switch Why the third night lined up with the anniversary of her ex-husband's death Why she uses alcohol to "let go of what's heavy," and what it's really protecting her from Coach Cole's question about her daughter that undid six years of believing she had to handle things alone Her real commitment for the next time the Ferris wheel comes back around Claude discusses: Why the idea of "never again" feels like free fall and grief, not relief Tracing the "glitter" back to cocktails, galas, and a stressful career, and finding it elsewhere An experiment with an untouched glass of wine, left behind on an Adirondack chair Why a firm 30-day non-negotiable feels lighter than deciding fresh every single day The question Coach Hayley keeps circling back to: what if there's no such thing as failure? And more… Ready to take the next step? Visit https://learn.thisnakedmind.com/podcast-resources for free resources, programs, and more. Until next week, stay curious! Cole Harvey is a certified Naked Mind Senior Coach. As a habit change and mindset coach, Cole helps men understand themselves, build better habits, and find meaning. Learn more about Coach Cole: https://thisnakedmind.com/coach/cole-harvey/ Hayley Scherders is a certified TNM Coach with training from the Canadian Addiction and Mental Health Association. Hayley understands how tough change can be and provides a safe, compassionate, and judgment-free space where her clients can feel supported. Learn more about Coach Hayley: https://thisnakedmind.com/coach/hayley-scherders/ Episode links: nakedmindpath.com More on this episode: https://thisnakedmind.com/podcast/why-cant-i-just-have-one-drink-alcohol-freedom-coaching-ep-933/ Related episodes: How to Control Alcohol Consumption | Alcohol Freedom Coaching | EP 772 – https://thisnakedmind.com/alcohol-freedom-coaching-e772/ How to Stop Daily Drinking | Pierre's Naked Life | EP 790 – https://thisnakedmind.com/how-to-stop-daily-drinking-e790-pierre/ Is Drinking in Moderation Possible? | Reader Question | EP 08 – https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-08-reader-question-moderation-possible/ Follow on Apple Podcasts: podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/this-naked-mind-podcast/id1287269357 Follow on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0UB06sNguPjVvgAYFBcR9I?si=b7568f24c21249ff This episode is sponsored by Quince, Hungryroot, and BetterHelp Quince: Get free shipping and 365-day returns at ⁠⁠⁠quince.com/naked⁠⁠⁠ Hungryroot: Save 40% on your first order PLUS a free item at ⁠⁠⁠hungryroot.com/mind⁠⁠ CODE: mind BetterHelp: Visit BetterHelp at ⁠⁠betterhelp.com/nakedmind

  • #932
    August 15 · 48 min

    Twenty-Five Years Trying to Quit Drinking

    Judd never considered that he would quit drinking before turning forty. After all, for twenty-five years he would pick the idea up and put it down as regularly as if it were his morning coffee. But one day he picked up a receipt for a book he'd bought two years earlier yet never read. Suddenly the countdown was on, and he was no longer willing to keep the idea of quitting drinking before forty on the shelf. It was now time to change. Judd and Coach Cole discuss: How buying The Alcohol Experiment in January 2020 and not reading it for months planted the seed that eventually took hold Why turning quitting into a 30-day, then 90-day, then six-month goal made an impossible habit feel achievable The moment his now-wife suggested he aim for a year instead of six months, and why he said yes How he used the rawness of his first alcohol-free months to write a novel exploring AI, free will, and addiction Why naltrexone and other medications raise real questions about free will, even when they work What it was like to travel internationally alcohol-free for the first time, from Sydney's hidden NA bar scene to San Juan's early morning joggers How realizing most people at parties were not drinking as much as he assumed changed the way he saw every social event And more on goal-setting, dating after quitting, and what it really means to find your own path to alcohol freedom… Ready to take the next step? Visit https://learn.thisnakedmind.com/podcast-resources for free resources, programs, and more. Until next week, stay curious! Episode links: alcoholexperiment.com More on this episode: https://thisnakedmind.com/podcast/quit-drinking-before-turning-forty-judds-naked-life-ep-932/ Judd's Book - Syncope: https://amzn.to/44Y2964 When you buy something we recommend, we may get an affiliate commission — but it never affects your price or what we pick. Related episodes: Escaping The Hamster Wheel of Drinking | Alcohol Freedom Coaching | EP 847 - http://thisnakedmind.com/why-cant-i-quit-drinking-after-so-many-tries-afc-e847/ Beer at 10 – Jim's Story | Naked Life Stories | EP 383 - https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-383-naked-life-story-jim/ Reader Question – What are Naltrexone and The Sinclair Method? | Reader Questions | EP 82 - https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-82-reader-question-naltrexone-sinclair-method/ Follow on Apple Podcasts: podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/this-naked-mind-podcast/id1287269357 Follow on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0UB06sNguPjVvgAYFBcR9I?si=b7568f24c21249ff This episode is sponsored by Quince, Hungryroot, and BetterHelp Quince: Get free shipping and 365-day returns at ⁠⁠⁠quince.com/naked⁠⁠⁠ Hungryroot: Save 40% on your first order PLUS a free item at ⁠⁠⁠hungryroot.com/mind⁠⁠ CODE: mind BetterHelp: Visit BetterHelp at ⁠⁠betterhelp.com/nakedmind

  • #931
    August 11 · 1 hr 2 min

    Stop Borrowing Confidence From a Glass

    What does it take to figure out how to stop relying on alcohol for confidence? Amy needed eleven months alcohol-free, followed by more stops and starts than a city bus has, to decide something needed to change. For Dee, it was an entire wedding weekend and the fear of being the only one without a drink in her hand that made her realize alcohol was holding way too much headspace for her. Coaches Zoe and Cole help both women discover the confidence that was already inside them all along. Amy discusses: Going 30 days alcohol-free, then 11 months, then letting red wine back in "on a limited basis" and watching it unravel The cognitive dissonance between her morning self and her evening self, and why they actually want the same thing An ADHD diagnosis at seventeen and a lifelong feeling of being unpredictable to herself A snowy backyard, a hot tub, and proof that an urge really does pass if you outlast it Dee discusses: An entire wedding weekend built around alcohol, and the fear she hadn't said out loud yet Why a glass of wine became her stand-in for confidence since college The shift from "I'm not allowed to drink" to "I'm choosing not to," and why that one distinction changed everything Visualizing the wedding ahead of time, the same way she used to visualize a swim race And more… Ready to take the next step? Visit https://learn.thisnakedmind.com/podcast-resources for free resources, programs, and more. Until next week, stay curious! Zoe Ewart is a Certified Naked Mind Senior Coach who brings her experience and understanding to help with the tricky parts of life's big changes. Her coaching gives you an enjoyable, light-hearted, and safe environment to effortlessly take back control of alcohol. Learn more about Coach Zoe: https://thisnakedmind.com/coach/zoe-ewart/ Cole Harvey is a Certified Naked Mind Senior Coach. As a habit change and mindset coach, Cole helps men understand themselves, build better habits, and find meaning. Learn more about Coach Cole: https://thisnakedmind.com/coach/cole-harvey/ Episode links: nakedmindpath.com More on this episode - https://thisnakedmind.com/podcast/how-to-stop-relying-on-alcohol-for-confidence-alcohol-freedom-coaching-ep-931/ Related episodes: How Do I Become Socially Confident Without Alcohol? – Reader Question – https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-582-readers-question-how-do-i-become-socially-confident-without-alcohol/ Drinking Less in Wine Country – Alcohol Freedom Coaching – https://thisnakedmind.com/drinking-less-in-wine-country-alcohol-freedom-coaching-ep-740/ Feel Like Yourself Again – Alcohol Freedom Coaching – https://thisnakedmind.com/feel-like-yourself-again-alcohol-freedom-coaching-e756/ Follow on Apple Podcasts: podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/this-naked-mind-podcast/id1287269357 Follow on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0UB06sNguPjVvgAYFBcR9I?si=b7568f24c21249ff This episode is sponsored by Quince, Hungryroot, and BetterHelp Quince: Get free shipping and 365-day returns at ⁠⁠⁠quince.com/naked⁠⁠⁠ Hungryroot: Save 40% on your first order PLUS a free item at ⁠⁠⁠hungryroot.com/mind⁠⁠ CODE: mind BetterHelp: Visit BetterHelp at ⁠⁠betterhelp.com/nakedmind⁠

  • #920
    August 8 · 53 min

    62 Wasn't Too Old to Stop Drinking

    Deb's Naked Life | EP 920 If you're thinking about stopping drinking in your 60s but keep telling yourself you're too old, too set in your habits, or too far gone, Deb's story is the one you need to hear. She was a registered nurse who had directed a hospital addiction recovery program and still didn't see herself in it. She was caring for a dying parent, married to a heavy drinker, and drinking three to four glasses of wine every night before a single book changed the entire frame. She became alcohol-free at 62 and hasn't looked back once. Deb and Coach Cole discuss: Growing up alcohol naive, not drinking until her late 20s, and watching it quietly become a nightly habit, she barely chose Directing a hospital addiction recovery program and still telling herself she wasn't like the patients in it Reading This Naked Mind cover to cover with wine in hand, crying at the parts that felt like her own story Stopping drinking while caregiving for her mother with dementia, and finding she could finally be present in those visits Staying alcohol-free while her husband continued to drink, kept trying to pull her back, and what the honest reckoning that followed looked like Talking herself out of the This Naked Mind coaching program four years in a row before finally committing at 62, after years of retirement Why a slip isn't a relapse, it's a data point, and the language of growing and evolving versus changing And more on curiosity, caregiving, and what it means to build a life you don't want to escape from… Episode links: thisnakedmindinstitute.comfullheartcoaching.net Related episodes: Self-Awareness Around Alcohol | Dr. Gina Slejko - Naked Life Story | EP 535 — https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-535-naked-life-story-dr-gina-slejko/ I Quit Drinking But My Spouse Has Not — Any Advice? | EP 48 — https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-48-reader-question-i-quit-drinking-but-my-spouse-has-not-any-advice/ Using Alcohol Over 60: Lorna Wilson | EP 418 — https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-418-coaching-questions-with-scott-pinyard/ CTA Follow on Apple Podcasts: podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/this-naked-mind-podcast/id1287269357 Follow on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0UB06sNguPjVvgAYFBcR9I?si=b7568f24c21249ff Ready to take the next step? Visit https://learn.thisnakedmind.com/podcast-resources for free resources, programs, and more. Until next week, stay curious! This episode is sponsored by Quince, Hungryroot, and BetterHelp Quince: Get free shipping and 365-day returns at ⁠⁠⁠quince.com/naked⁠⁠⁠ Hungryroot: Save 40% on your first order PLUS a free item at ⁠⁠⁠hungryroot.com/mind⁠⁠ CODE: mind BetterHelp: Visit BetterHelp at ⁠⁠betterhelp.com/nakedmind⁠

  • #929
    August 4 · 1 hr 7 min

    Who Am I Without Alcohol?

    ⚠️ Trigger warning: This episode contains references to domestic violence and a mental health crisis. Who am I without alcohol? Does that question sound eerily familiar? Steph and Nicole both find themselves grappling with that very idea and wondering what the answer will mean for them. Steph is 55, and alcohol has been by her side and has helped define her for most of her adult life. Nicole looks to alcohol for the answers and to smooth the rough edges, and isn’t sure if she’s capable of being herself with a glass in her hand. Coaches Cole and Hayley help provide guidance and hope in this week’s episode. Steph discusses: Why "loss of identity" became the real subject of her coaching call, not just the drinking The belief that she'd failed herself and her friends, and how that belief kept her stuck Why chasing a "finished" identity by a deadline backfires The threshold metaphor, and why stepping into the unknown feels safer than staying somewhere familiar but unwanted Her plan to resign from teaching by May 1st, and what she's choosing to let go of first Nicole discusses: How alcohol became tangled with her identity before she ever turned 21 The seven-year relationship and the night that ended with her in a hospital for three days November 5, 2025: the day she sat in her car and decided something had to change Why grace and curiosity did more for her than willpower ever did What she calls her "2D glasses" moment, and what she sees now that alcohol's gone And more… Ready to take the next step? Visit https://learn.thisnakedmind.com/podcast-resources for free resources, programs, and more. Until next week, stay curious! Cole Harvey is a certified Naked Mind Senior Coach. As a habit change and mindset coach, Cole helps men understand themselves, build better habits, and find meaning. Learn more about Coach Cole: https://thisnakedmind.com/coach/cole-harvey/ Hayley Scherders is a certified TNM Coach with training from the Canadian Addiction and Mental Health Association. Hayley understands how tough change can be and provides a safe, compassionate, and judgment-free space where her clients can feel supported. Learn more about Coach Hayley: https://thisnakedmind.com/coach/hayley-scherders/ Episode links: More on this episode: https://thisnakedmind.com/podcast/who-am-i-without-alcohol-alcohol-freedom-coaching-ep-929/Join The Path: nakedmindpath.com Related episodes: How To Uncouple Alcohol and Identity | Naked Life Story | EP 549 -https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-549-naked-life-story-andrew/Who Am I Without Wine?: Identity & Sophistication | Alcohol Freedom Coaching | E801 - https://thisnakedmind.com/creating-a-new-identity-after-quitting-drinking-alcohol-freedom-freedom-coaching-e801/Why Do I Feel Detached When I’m Not Drinking? | Reader’s Question | EP 122 - https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-122-reader-question-feel-detached-im-not-drinking/ Follow on Apple Podcasts: podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/this-naked-mind-podcast/id1287269357 Follow on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0UB06sNguPjVvgAYFBcR9I?si=b7568f24c21249ff This episode is sponsored by Quince, Hungryroot, and BetterHelp Quince: Get free shipping and 365-day returns at ⁠⁠⁠quince.com/naked⁠⁠⁠ Hungryroot: Save 40% on your first order PLUS a free item at ⁠⁠⁠hungryroot.com/mind⁠⁠ CODE: mind BetterHelp: Visit BetterHelp at ⁠⁠betterhelp.com/nakedmind⁠

  • #928
    August 1 · 1 hr 2 min

    The Life You Stop Needing to Escape

    What does building a life you don't want to escape from actually take? Donna joined The Path in March 2021 after a COVID grocery store moment she couldn't unsee and hasn't had a drink since. Now five years in, she's back with Coach Hayley to share what's genuinely changed, what she's still working through, and a question that keeps getting more interesting. Donna and Coach Hayley discuss: That COVID grocery store moment, four wine clubs in a week, and what she calls "the gift COVID gave her" The beta reader who said her memoir should have said more about her drinking, and what she heard two weeks later Why confidence was her number one benefit from stopping, and how alcohol was worsening her anxiety while she believed it was helping The 90-second rule for processing difficult emotions without numbing, and the morning practice she's built over five years Why building a life you don't want to escape from is still the deeper work at year five And more on forgiveness, gratitude, and what five years of alcohol freedom actually sounds like... Episode links: nakedmindpath.com Related episodes: Naked Life Story — Donna | NLS | EP 465 - https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-465-naked-life-story-donna Why Does Drinking Alcohol Make Me Anxious? | Reader Question | EP 684 - https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-684-readers-question-why-does-drinking-alcohol-make-me-anxious/ The Cost of Fitting In | Alcohol Freedom Coaching | EP 785 - https://thisnakedmind.com/the-cost-of-fitting-in-alcohol-freedom-coaching-e785/ Follow on Apple Podcasts: podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/this-naked-mind-podcast/id1287269357 Follow on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0UB06sNguPjVvgAYFBcR9I?si=b7568f24c21249ff Ready to take the next step? Visit https://learn.thisnakedmind.com/podcast-resources for free resources, programs, and more. Until next week, stay curious! This episode is sponsored by Quince, Hungryroot, and BetterHelp Quince: Get free shipping and 365-day returns at ⁠⁠quince.com/naked⁠⁠ Hungryroot: Save 40% on your first order PLUS a free item at ⁠⁠hungryroot.com/mind⁠ CODE: mind BetterHelp: Visit BetterHelp at ⁠betterhelp.com/nakedmind

  • #927
    July 28 · 1 hr 32 min

    How to Give Yourself Grace About Drinking

    ⚠️ Trigger warning: This episode contains references to childhood abuse, parental alcoholism, and the death of a parent from alcohol-related illness. Most of us were never taught how to give ourselves grace about drinking, only how to judge ourselves for it. Kelly and Amber are proof that the shame and guilt show up no matter how different the situation looks. For Kelly, it shows up after a weekend of drinking that went further than she planned. For Amber, it shows up the moment someone she's dating asks why she's not drinking, and a much older fear takes over. Kelly discusses: Why her biggest data point yet, a full night out at a friend's timeshare, left her more unsettled than any smaller one had The real difference between "I've proven I can" drink moderately and "I've proven I can" have a great time without it Why Coach Hayley adds the word "yet" every time Kelly says she can't figure out why she drinks Admitting she's skipped a Path call because she didn't want to say out loud that she'd had a fun night of drinking Using the ACT technique on the belief "it's part of my culture," and what that opens up Amber discusses: Why she can turn down a drink at work without blinking but freezes the second a date asks why she doesn't drink The exact body sensation she calls "bracing for impact," and the part Coach Cole admits he carries too Asking the part of her that calls itself broken what it's actually trying to protect her from The Sharon Salzberg line about meditation that becomes her new mantra for catching herself mid-spiral The exact phrase Amber swaps in for "I'm broken," and why it changes how she shows up on a date And more… Ready to take the next step? Visit https://learn.thisnakedmind.com/podcast-resources for free resources, programs, and more. Until next week, stay curious! Coach Hayley Scherders is a certified TNM Coach trained through the Canadian Addiction and Mental Health Association. Learn more about Coach Hayley: thisnakedmind.com/coach/hayley-scherders/ Coach Cole Harvey is a Certified Naked Mind Senior Coach and habit change and mindset coach. Learn more about Coach Cole: thisnakedmind.com/coach/cole-harvey/ Episode links: More on this episode: https://thisnakedmind.com/podcast/how-to-give-yourself-grace-about-drinking-alcohol-freedom-coaching-ep-927/ The Path: nakedmindpath.com Related Episodes: Alcohol Addiction and Shame - Hayley's Naked Life - EP 679 - https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-679-naked-life-story-hayley-s/ Healing Through Self-Love - Cole's Naked Life - EP 737 - https://thisnakedmind.com/healing-through-self-love-coles-naked-life-e737/ How Do I Get Over the Fear of Being Kind to Myself? - Reader Question - EP 552 - https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-552-reader-question-how-do-i-get-over-the-fear-of-being-kind-to-myself/ Follow on Apple Podcasts: podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/this-naked-mind-podcast/id1287269357 Follow on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0UB06sNguPjVvgAYFBcR9I?si=b7568f24c21249ff This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp, Quince, Shopify, Zazzle, and OSEA. BetterHelp: BetterHelp is offering our listeners 10% off at ⁠betterhelp.com/nakedmind⁠ Quince: Get free shipping and 365-day returns at ⁠quince.com/naked⁠ Shopify: Sign up for free trial at ⁠shopify.com/mind⁠ Zazzle: Save 25% on your first order at ⁠zazzle.com⁠ OSEA: Get 10% off your first order sitewide with code NAKEDMIND at ⁠OSEAMalibu.com⁠

  • #926
    July 25 · 57 min

    When Using Alcohol to Self-Soothe Stops Working

    Trigger warning: This episode contains references to drunk driving, DWIs, and thoughts of not wanting to live. Zita was in her kitchen in 2017, working up the nerve for a hard conversation with her boyfriend, when the thought arrived: "You know what would make this easier?" She took a shot to self-soothe before the conversation, and it worked so well that her brain filed alcohol away as the answer to hard moments from then on. She's a registered nurse in her mid-30s who felt nothing when she watched other people drink, all the way through nursing school, with no reason to think that thought would change anything. It did. Three years and several DWIs later, one blacked-out night finally made her stop and ask what she was doing. Now approaching five years alcohol-free, she shares her story. Zita and Coach Cole discuss: How one shot before a hard conversation taught her brain a lesson it never unlearned Why year two brought DWIs and car accidents, then a family intervention she wasn't ready to hear The hiding stage, and what it costs to act unaffected while drunk around people who love you Waking up unable to remember the night she drove food to her sick brother Why she never missed a nursing shift while everything else came apart The promise to her mom she couldn't keep, and what that finally broke open How one addiction specialist's number, 90 days, became the only thing she could hold onto And more on faith, filling her own cup, and what it really means to find your own path to alcohol freedom… Ready to take the next step? Visit https://learn.thisnakedmind.com/podcast-resources for free resources, programs, and more. Until next week, stay curious! Episode links: thisnakedmind.com/book More on this episode: https://thisnakedmind.com/podcast/using-alcohol-to-self-soothe-zita-naked-life-ep-926/ Related episodes: Naked Life Story | Simone | EP 207 - https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-207-naked-life-story-simone/ How Do You Deal With Stress Without Alcohol? | Reader Question | EP 158 - https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-158-how-do-you-deal-with-stress-without-alcohol/ When Alcohol Is The Only Coping Tool You Know | Alcohol Freedom Coaching | EP 917 - https://thisnakedmind.com/how-to-stop-using-alcohol-to-cope-alcohol-freedom-coaching-ep-917/ Follow on Apple Podcasts: podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/this-naked-mind-podcast/id1287269357 Follow on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0UB06sNguPjVvgAYFBcR9I?si=b7568f24c21249ff

  • #925
    July 21 · 1 hr 14 min

    The Real Reason You Drink

    ⚠️ Trigger warning: This episode contains references to psychological and emotional abuse in a marriage. The answer to "why I use alcohol to cope" is rarely what you expect. For Will, it’s buried in a need for control he's carried since a chaotic childhood. For Kathleen, it comes from decades of being the one everyone else leans on. Coaches Cole and Zoe help Will and Kathleen take steps towards freeing themselves from that weight. Will discusses: Decades of using alcohol to quiet a busy brain, and what happens after the first beer Why knowing the pattern isn’t enough The childhood fear of instability that shows up as a desperate need for answers and control Coach Cole’s reframe: curious versus combat, connect versus control A body scan moment where he notices tension in real time and releases it The video game map metaphor — taking the next step without needing to see the whole path Kathleen discusses: Being introduced to alcohol at 16 as a social crutch when she moved to a new town What her mother modeled, and how she replicated it without realizing it for decades The hero child dynamic — being her father’s favorite and her mother’s confidant, and what that cost her A 28-year emotionally abusive marriage, and how alcohol became her numbing agent Learning to ask for what she needs directly, rather than hoping her husband picks it up The unexpected parallel: she’s now modeling her mother’s behavior by going alcohol-free …and more Ready to take the next step? Visit https://learn.thisnakedmind.com/podcast-resources for free resources, programs, and more. Until next week, stay curious! Cole Harvey is a certified Naked Mind Senior Coach. As a habit change and mindset coach, Cole helps men understand themselves, build better habits, and find meaning. Learn more about Coach Cole: https://thisnakedmind.com/coach/cole-harvey/ Zoe Ewart is a Certified Naked Mind Senior Coach who brings her experience and understanding to help with the tricky parts of life's big changes. Her coaching gives you an enjoyable, light-hearted, and safe environment to effortlessly take back control of alcohol so you can feel better physically, mentally, and spiritually. Learn more about Coach Zoe: https://thisnakedmind.com/coach/zoe-ewart/ Episode links: More on this episode - https://thisnakedmind.com/podcast/why-i-use-alcohol-to-cope-alcohol-freedom-coaching-ep-925 Start your alcohol freedom journey: https://nakedmindpath.com Related episodes: Healing Through Self-Love: Cole’s Naked Life — E737 — https://thisnakedmind.com/healing-through-self-love-coles-naked-life-e737/ Healing Emotional Pain Without Alcohol - Reader’s Question - EP 706 – https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-706-readers-question-healing-emotional-pain-without-alcohol/ Reclaiming Your True Self: Alcohol Freedom Coaching — E770 — https://thisnakedmind.com/reclaiming-your-true-self-alcohol-freedom-coaching-e770/ Follow on Apple Podcasts: podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/this-naked-mind-podcast/id1287269357 Follow on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0UB06sNguPjVvgAYFBcR9I?si=b7568f24c21249ff This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp, Quince, Shopify, Zazzle, and OSEA. BetterHelp: BetterHelp is offering our listeners 10% off at ⁠betterhelp.com/nakedmind⁠ Quince: Get free shipping and 365-day returns at ⁠quince.com/naked⁠ Shopify: Sign up for free trial at ⁠shopify.com/mind⁠ Zazzle: Save 25% on your first order at ⁠zazzle.com⁠ OSEA: Get 10% off your first order sitewide with code NAKEDMIND at ⁠OSEAMalibu.com⁠

  • #924
    July 18 · 59 min

    How Grief Built Perfectly Made AF

    Trigger warning: This episode contains references to the alcohol-related death of a family member. Is it possible to build something meaningful out of the worst loss of your life? For Kelly, the answer arrived just five months after she got free from alcohol herself. That's when her brother died from the same thing she'd spent years measuring her own drinking against. She built Perfectly Made AF in response, a nonprofit funding alcohol freedom scholarships in his memory and an annual Boulder gala designed to prove an alcohol-free life is anything but boring. Kelly's Naked Life story traces how she got there, from years of comparing her own drinking to his, to the two days after his funeral when she had to choose what came next. Kelly and Coach Cole discuss: What almost happened two days after her brother's funeral, five months into her own alcohol-free life Why "I'm not him" was the comparison that let her avoid her own drinking for years The message she wrote her brother a month before he died, and why it came too late How a scholarship fund turned into a full nonprofit with 18 people currently enrolled The thinking behind this year's Perfect Gala, from a mobile planetarium to a "grounding portal" Why Kelly keeps the scholarship recipients anonymous, even from herself What she's hoping to build next, from new partnerships to content for schools And more on decision fatigue, mommy wine culture, and what it really means to find your own path to alcohol freedom… Ready to take the next step? Visit https://learn.thisnakedmind.com/podcast-resources for free resources, programs, and more. Until next week, stay curious! Episode links: nakedmindpath.com https://www.perfectlymadeaf.com/ More on this episode: https://thisnakedmind.com/podcast/how-grief-built-perfectly-made-af-ep-924/ Related episodes: Naked Life Story: Paul Churchill | EP 61 - https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-61-naked-life-story-paul-churchill/ Reader Question - Do I Need to Quit Drinking Forever? | EP 296 - https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-296-reader-question-do-i-need-to-quit-drinking-forever/ Reclaim Your Life | Alcohol Freedom Coaching | E762 - https://thisnakedmind.com/reclaim-your-life-alcohol-freedom-coaching-e762/ Follow on Apple Podcasts: podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/this-naked-mind-podcast/id1287269357 Follow on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0UB06sNguPjVvgAYFBcR9I?si=b7568f24c21249ff

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