Therapy Works

Julia Samuel

Bestselling author and psychotherapist, Julia Samuel, invites us into her therapy room as she talks to both known and unknown voices about some of life’s biggest challenges.

Therapy Works is full of therapeutic conversations which may contain difficult emotions but those that can paradoxically bring light, in all its form.

Listeners will hear what the guests have learnt, failed to learn and how they have grown through their experience. At the end of each episode, Julia reflects on her session with her two psychotherapist daughters who will share their thoughts on the conversation. You’ll quickly discover that not all therapists agree on everything!

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Oct 23, 2024 · 57 min
Lotte Bowser on the Challenges of Loving Again After Loss
In this moving episode of the Therapy Works podcast, Lotte Bowser shares her heart-wrenching journey of losing her partner Ben to cancer and COVID-19 complications. She discusses the profound challenges of grief, the impact of his illness and death on her life, and the arduous process of rebuilding her life anew. Lottie reflects on various therapeutic practices, including writing and journalling, which helped her process pain and find a semblance of resolution. The conversation delves into the physical nature of grief, radical self-compassion, and the complexities of starting a new relationship while mourning. Lottie opens up about societal pressures surrounding grief, the duality of life balancing grief and joy, and reentering the dating world. She emphasises the importance of community support, the interplay of sex and death, and the need for sensitivity and understanding from others. This episode offers listeners insights into the enduring nature of grief and the resilience required to embrace new beginnings. 00:35 Facing the Greatest Challenge: Loss of a Partner 03:39 Coping with Grief and Finding Joy 06:22 Rebuilding Life After Loss 11:16 Navigating New Relationships 21:44 Seeking Support and Connection 23:10 Finding Strength in Numbers 24:32 Choosing Life Amidst Grief 24:59 Radical Compassion and Self-Permission 25:30 The Unfixable Nature of Death 27:02 Holding Grief and Joy Simultaneously 27:40 The Taboo of Sex and Grief 31:12 Writing as a Therapeutic Outlet 33:42 Physical Manifestations of Grief 34:46 The Universal Experience of Grief 36:41 The Duality of Bittersweet 38:19 Living Fully After Loss 48:32 The Creative Endeavour of Relationships 50:21 Complexity in Different Types of Bereavement Find Lotte Bowser: Instagram: @lottebowser Read her book, Bittersweet: https://amzn.eu/d/4TMzEmV Listen to her podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/4VffRbs0rN3U2BC3qJ8wW1?si=b04773d8c32a4622 Otherwise, if you’d like to connect, I post regularly on Instagram, with more thoughts and some Monday Top Tips. Follow me on @juliasamuelmbe.And for more info, check out my new website: juliasamuel.co.uk. Wild Nutrition are offering an exclusive limited time offer to Therapy Works’ listeners: 50% off your first 3 months when you visit wildnutrition.com/therapy, that’s wildnutrition.com/therapy for 50% off your first 3 months. T&Cs apply. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Oct 18, 2024 · 11 min
Agony Aunties on Helping Your Child Express Their Emotions Effectively
The Agony Aunties offer advice to a mother concerned about her six-year-old daughter's intense emotions and anger. They recommend techniques such as calm discussions, using books, and physical methods like hitting a pillow to help children manage their feelings. They stress the importance of parents modelling emotional regulation and self-compassion. Additionally, they introduce a daily practice called 'rose, bud, and thorn' to enhance emotional intelligence and gratitude. Wild Nutrition are offering an exclusive limited time offer to Therapy Works’ listeners: 50% off your first 3 months when you visit wildnutrition.com/therapy, that’s wildnutrition.com/therapy for 50% off your first 3 months. T&Cs apply. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Oct 16, 2024 · 1 hr 6 min
Jane Garvey on the joys and juggle of single parenthood
In this interview, Jane Garvey discusses her expansive career in radio broadcasting, from being the first voice on BBC Radio 5 Live to her long tenure at Woman's Hour, and her current role at Times Radio. Jane shares insights into her personal life, particularly her experiences as a single parent and the unique challenges it brought. She highlights the emotional and psychological load of single parenting, emphasising the advantage of having resources and support. The conversation also navigates her career trajectory, public recognition, and work-life balance, particularly through transitions and public interactions. Moreover, Jane reflects on mentoring in media, feminism, and her personal growth, including her significant role during a live broadcast on September 11, 2001. Additionally, she dives into her close professional relationship with Fi Glover and the impact and reception of their successful podcast, Off Air with Jane and Fi. 01:24 Challenges of Single Parenting 03:52 Reflections on Parenting and Family 18:04 Career Beginnings and Aspirations 28:44 Navigating Public and Private Life as a Single Mum 29:12 The Role of Radio in Personal and Public Life 31:41 The Psyche of Broadcasters 38:14 The Impact of Major Events on Broadcasting 41:34 The Evolution of Female Broadcasters 45:44 Reflections on Career and Personal Dreams 48:50 Parenting Challenges and Societal Expectations 50:34 The Importance of Honest Conversations 59:45 The Good Enough Parent Listen to Off Air with Jane and Fi: https://open.spotify.com/show/4fIthFOvAaPBVf5NWyz8Sl Follow Jane and Fi on Instagram: @janeandfi Otherwise, if you’d like to connect, I post regularly on Instagram, with more thoughts and some Monday Top Tips. Follow me on @juliasamuelmbe.And for more info, check out my new website: juliasamuel.co.uk. Wild Nutrition are offering an exclusive limited time offer to Therapy Works’ listeners: 50% off your first 3 months when you visit wildnutrition.com/therapy, that’s wildnutrition.com/therapy for 50% off your first 3 months. T&Cs apply. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Oct 9, 2024 · 1 hr 14 min
Michelle and Richard on Life, Love, and Loss After Their Son's Battle with a Brain Tumour
In this week’s episode of Therapy Works, we sit down with Michelle and Richard, who share their incredibly painful journey of losing their five year old son Rudy to a brain tumor. We’ll talk about our reflections on love, loss, and the balance between treatment and quality of life. They’re both very open about the impact this had on their family, including their daughter Elodie, and the crucial support of community and healthcare professionals. And, what’s very inspiring, is how much they were able to handle the loss and the aftermath with such grace. It’s truly impressive. For our Mother/Daughter segment, Emily, Sophie and I will all delve into the emotional and physical realities of grief, while also celebrating the enduring spirit of love that remains. If you like this episode, and want to connect, I post regularly on Instagram, with more thoughts and some Monday Top Tips - https://www.instagram.com/juliasamuelmbe/ And for more info, check out my new website - https://www.juliasamuel.co.uk Wild Nutrition are offering an exclusive limited time offer to Therapy Works’ listeners: 50% off your first 3 months when you visit wildnutrition.com/therapy, that’s wildnutrition.com/therapy for 50% off your first 3 months. T&Cs apply. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Oct 4, 2024 · 15 min
Agony Aunties on Intimacy Challenges in a Marriage
For this week’s episode of Agony Aunties, we have a very interesting question from a viewer who is struggling with a sexless marriage. The discussion explores the complexities of emotional and physical intimacy, communication challenges with a partner, and potential solutions such as open relationships, which were once unspeakable, but now are gaining more common ground. The conversation delves into societal norms surrounding sex, the stigma of higher female libido, and alternative ways to maintain connection. We also emphasize the importance of exploring underlying issues with professional guidance. Altogether, we - as always - encourages open, honest conversation where we can acknowledge various perspectives on maintaining fulfilling relationships. Also, these are just our thoughts on the matter. We'd really love to hear yours, especially because this is a difficult topic to bring up. I've been very open in talking about grief and loss, which are very difficult to discuss, and I also know that discussing sexuality is a very difficult topic as well. For some, it's too difficult to discuss. If you're open to it, I'd be very interested in hearing how this episode resonated with you. What are your thoughts here? Show Notes: If this topic interests you, a great book on Attachment Styles in Open Relationships is “Polysecure” by Jessica Fern - https://amzn.eu/2hHCCaK Emily mentioned Dan Savage’s podcast. You can find it here - https://savage.love/lovecast/ And I mentioned Esther Perel’s podcast too - https://www.estherperel.com/podcast Otherwise, if you’d like to connect, I post regularly on Instagram, with more thoughts and some Monday Top Tips - https://www.instagram.com/juliasamuelmbe/ And for more info, check out my new website - https://www.juliasamuel.co.uk Wild Nutrition are offering an exclusive limited time offer to Therapy Works’ listeners: 50% off your first 3 months when you visit wildnutrition.com/therapy, that’s wildnutrition.com/therapy for 50% off your first 3 months. T&Cs apply. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Oct 2, 2024 · 1 hr 14 min
James Middleton on His Unbreakable Bond With A Dog That Saved Him
Welcome back to the Therapy Works podcast! We're starting Season 7 with a very special guest, James Middleton, as he opens up about the challenges he faced with dyslexia, self-doubt, and depression. He discusses the impact of societal expectations, the feeling of being a 'square peg in a round hole', and the eventual breakdown that led him to contemplate suicide. James reflects on the pivotal role his dog Ella played in his recovery, providing him with unconditional love and a renewed sense of purpose. The conversation highlights the importance of speaking out, seeking help, and the transformative power of animal companionship in mental health recovery. Tune in to hear James's heartfelt story, the significant support from his family, and the insights he gained on his path to healing. Show Notes You can check out James’ Book here Or find him on Instagram (with many great pictures with his dogs) - Emily mentioned a couple of resources, which I’d like to share here: Team Square Peg / Not Fine in School Otherwise, if you’d like to connect, I post regularly on Instagram, with more thoughts and some Monday Top Tips And for more info, check out my new website Wild Nutrition are offering an exclusive limited time offer to Therapy Works’ listeners: 50% off your first 3 months when you visit wildnutrition.com/therapy, that’s wildnutrition.com/therapy for 50% off your first 3 months. T&Cs apply. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Sep 27, 2024 · 12 min
MINI: Annabel Croft on Keeping the Memory Alive
We're almost ready to start with Season 7 of the Therapy Works podcast, and until then, I've been looking back at some of my favorite moments in the show's history. I can't help but remember this episode with Annabel Croft, where we discuss how one copes after losing a partner, focusing on finding joy, meaning, and connection through everyday activities and family support. We'll also touch on the importance of talking about the deceased, understanding different grieving processes, and the emotional challenges of handling a loved one's ashes while finding the right time to make decisions about them. See you next week for the start of Season 7! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Sep 18, 2024 · 11 min
MINI: Helena Bonham Carter on Not Taking Yourself Too Seriously
While we're getting ready for Season 7 of the Therapy Works podcast, we're sharing some of our favorite moments throughout the years. Here's a small section from my talk with Helena Bonham Carter, as we discuss the risks and trust involved in their profession and how years of experience help in quickly recovering from setbacks. We'll talk about the joys of embodying different personas, the importance of playfulness, and the diverse roles they balance in life. We touch on coping mechanisms like laughter and not taking life too seriously, even amidst challenges like lockdown and self-criticism. The episode also highlights the significance of multi-faceted identities, dealing with internal critics, and maintaining core self-confidence in a demanding career. If you liked this part, you'll love the full episode. Watch it here. If you’d like to connect, I post regularly on Instagram, with more thoughts and some Monday Top Tips And for more info, check out my website Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Sep 11, 2024 · 17 min
MINI: Trinny Woodall on Children Leaving Home and Embracing New Beginnings
As we're ramping up for Season 7 of Therapy Works, I wanted to share some of my favorite moments from our past episodes. In this episode with Trinny Woodall, we explore the emotional challenges of major life transitions, particularly when children leave home. Trinny reflects on the concept of a blended family and its deep personal significance. She shares her journey of coping with the impending departure of her daughter, Lyla, and the emotional aftermath of a car accident. We'll talk about themes of loss, responsibility, and the paradoxical theory of change, emphasizing the importance of acceptance and self-awareness. If you liked this episode, you can see the full episode here - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wKkbGfxubmQ Otherwise, if you’d like to connect, I post regularly on Instagram, with more thoughts and some Monday Top Tips - http://instagram.com/juliasamuelmbe/ And for more info, check out my website - https://juliasamuel.co.uk This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/therapyworks and get on your way to being your best self. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Sep 4, 2024 · 13 min
MINI: Charles Spencer on Boarding School Abuse
As we've just finished Season 6 of Therapy Works, we wanted to share some of our favorite parts from past episodes. Here's part of my talk with Charles Spencer, where he opens up about how he started to uncover parts of his past. Watch the full episode here - https://youtu.be/R7YZHcLhrF8 If you’d like to connect, I post regularly on Instagram, with more thoughts and some Monday Top Tips - http://instagram.com/juliasamuelmbe/ And for more info, check out my website - https://juliasamuel.co.uk Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Aug 29, 2024 · 38 min
EXPERT EPISODE: How to parent teenagers with Sheila Redfern
In this special episode of Therapy Works, we're joined by Dr. Sheila Redfern, a clinical psychologist with 30 years of experience working with young people and their families. Sheila discusses the challenges and intricacies of parenting adolescents, particularly focusing on understanding behaviors through the lens of mentalization. Sheila's new book, 'How Do You Hug a Cactus?' provides practical and insightful guidance on maintaining close relationships with teenagers. Explore how mentalizing can transform parent-teen relationships, the importance of self-reflection for parents, and how to navigate the complexities of a child's inner world. Show Notes: If you found this topic interesting, you’ll love Sheila’s book, “How Do You Huge a Cactus” If you’d like to get in contact with Sheila, you can find out more on her website - https://redfernpsychology.org On the topic of parenting, I’ve been writing some articles about parenting adult children over on my Substack. If this subject interests you, I think you might be interested in these as well - https://juliasamuel.substack.com/p/parenting-adult-children If you’d like to connect, I post regularly on Instagram, with more thoughts and some Monday Top Tips - http://instagram.com/juliasamuelmbe/ And for more info, check out my website - https://juliasamuel.co.uk Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Aug 28, 2024 · 1 hr 12 min
Mimi Kwa on Healing a Fractured Relationship with her Father
For this week's episode of the Therapy Works podcast, we sit down with Mimi Kwa, an Australian presenter, broadcaster, and author of 'House of Kwa'. Mimi opens up about her journey through familial challenges, including being sued by her own father in the Supreme Court, dealing with her mother's undiagnosed schizophrenia, and her path to mindfulness. We explore the impact of intergenerational trauma, the process of forgiveness, and her experiences across three different homes. Mimi's story is a testament to resilience and the power of inner healing. Don't miss this profound conversation, rich with insights on culture, family dynamics, and personal growth. Show Notes: You can find Mimi's book, "House of Kwa" here - https://amzn.eu/d/cRyOK3h And you can learn more about her on her website - https://www.mimitv.com.au/ Also, in the Mother/Daughter section, Emily mentions the Forgiveness Project. Check it out here - https://www.theforgivenessproject.com If you’d like to connect, I post regularly on Instagram, with more thoughts and some Monday Top Tips - http://instagram.com/juliasamuelmbe/ And for more info, check out my website - https://juliasamuel.co.uk Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Aug 23, 2024 · 14 min
Agony Aunties - Should I Have Children in this Climate?
It seems like the world is falling apart, and we’re destroying the climate. Is it responsible for us to still have children? For this week’s Agony Aunties,, we take on this question from a listener inspired by our podcast with Christiana Figueiras. We’ll dive into this existential dilemma, exploring the balance between the responsibilities and joys of parenthood versus the potential environmental impact and uncertain future. We’ll discuss the importance of acknowledging the real fear and anxiety the younger generation feels, the need for a mindset shift towards abundance and creativity, and the significance of making decisions from a place of security rather than fear. The conversation also touches on broadening the concept of family and considering various ways of being a parent. At least, these are our thoughts. How does this resonate with you? How do you feel about bringing children into this world? This seems to be a question that people regularly ask, and were asked after the great wars as well. And so, if now’s not the time to have children, then when? If you’d like to connect, I post regularly on Instagram, with more thoughts and some Monday Top Tips - http://instagram.com/juliasamuelmbe/ And for more info, check out my website - https://juliasamuel.co.uk Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Aug 21, 2024 · 1 hr 6 min
Martine Wright on Surviving the 7/7 Bombings and Becoming a Paralympian
In this week’s episode of Therapy Works, Martine Wright, MBE, shares her incredible journey of resilience and transformation, from surviving the 7/7 London bombings to becoming a Paralympian. Martine recounts the day that changed her life, her struggles in the aftermath, and the unwavering support from her family and guardian angels. She opens up about how she found new life and meaning through sport, and emphasizes the importance of kindness, support, and a positive mindset in overcoming trauma. It’s truly amazing how glass-half-full Martine’s experience has been. Join us as we dive into her lessons of courage, hope, and the unexpected gifts that come from facing life's extreme challenges. Show Notes: You can find out more about Martine and her story over on her website - https://martinewright.co.uk And you can read her book, Unbroken, here - https://amzn.eu/d/bWD6R7W In the Mother/Daughter section, Emily mentioned the Moth Podcast. You can find it here - https://themoth.org/podcast Otherwise, if you’d like to connect, I post regularly on Instagram, with more thoughts and some Monday Top Tips - http://instagram.com/juliasamuelmbe/ And for more info, check out my website - https://juliasamuel.co.uk Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Aug 16, 2024 · 50 min
EXPERT EPISODE: Zoe Blaskey on Navigating Modern Motherhood
In this special edition of Therapy Works, we’re talking with Zoe Blaskey, a mother of two, coach, and founder of the MotherKind podcast, and we’re discussing her new book 'MotherKind: A New Way to Thrive in a World of Endless Expectations.' She shares her motivations for writing the book, emphasizing the need for a consolidated resource for parents facing modern-day challenges. Zoe explores various topics such as the transition into motherhood, the concept of 'matrescence,' and the different pressures faced by mothers and fathers. She delves into the importance of self-compassion, managing the trio of guilt, shame, and perfectionism while offering practical tools to support parents. The episode also touches on the complexities of working motherhood, the significance of community support, and the evolving perspectives on parenting. Resources: You can find out more about Zoe on her website - https://www.motherkind.co/ And find her new book here - https://amzn.eu/d/7tAAhdy If you’re on Instagram, you can follow her here - https://www.instagram.com/zoeblaskey/ If you’d like to connect, I post regularly on Instagram, with more thoughts and some Monday Top Tips - http://instagram.com/juliasamuelmbe/ And for more info, check out my website - https://juliasamuel.co.uk Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Aug 14, 2024 · 1 hr 9 min
Poorna Bell on The Challenge of Feeling Worthy of Love
In this week’s episode of Therapy Works, we sit down with Poorna Bell, esteemed freelance journalist, author, and broadcaster, as she shares her profoundly moving story. Poorna discusses the challenges of feeling worthy of romantic love, primarily as the result of her husband's suicide, and how she found strength through powerlifting and jiu-jitsu. We’ll also discuss her decision not to have children, as Poorna offers insights into navigating cultural expectations and personal fulfillment. Join us as we explore vulnerability, resilience, and the journey to self-acceptance. Resources: You can find out more about Poorna Bell from her website - https://www.poornabell.com/home And you can check out her latest book, “this is fine” here - https://amzn.eu/d/brni7ju Otherwise, we mentioned Survivors of Bereavement by Suicide. You can find them here - https://uksobs.com If you’d like to connect, I post regularly on Instagram, with more thoughts and some Monday Top Tips - http://instagram.com/juliasamuelmbe/ And for more info, check out my website - https://juliasamuel.co.uk Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Aug 9, 2024 · 13 min
Agony Aunties - How Do I Get My Child to Therapy?
In this week's episode of Agony Aunties, we respond to a listener's question about handling a 16-year-old's extreme emotional reactions and difficulty expressing feelings. Our discussion covers understanding teenage behavior, fostering open communication, and offering practical advice on connecting with teens. We emphasize the importance of meeting teens where they are and exploring their inner worlds without imposing worries about their future. Show Notes: Emily mentioned Lisa Damoure. You can find her here - https://www.instagram.com/lisa.damour/ Here’s the book Emily mentioned as well - https://amzn.eu/d/f4x1lzN Otherwise, if you’d like to connect, I post regularly on Instagram, with more thoughts and some Monday Top Tips - http://instagram.com/juliasamuelmbe/ And for more info, check out my website - https://juliasamuel.co.uk Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Aug 7, 2024 · 1 hr 12 min
Uju Asika on Turning Pain into Powerful Parenting
In this week’s episode of Therapy Works, Uju Asika joins to discuss her inspiring journey as a writer and blogger, parent and daughter. Known for her impactful books, Uju opens up about the challenges of parenting in a complex world, facing racism as a child, and the profound grief of losing her parents. She explores how these experiences have shaped her mission to foster kindness and empathy in raising boys and addressing race. The conversation offers deep insights into navigating life's adversities and the importance of empathy, along with some new ways to think about how to connect with our inner child, and why there tends to be some resistance in doing so. Tune in for a powerful discussion on resilience, diversity, and creating a better world for future generations. Show Notes: Find out more about Uju on her website - https://ujuasika.com And check out her book “Bringing Up Race: How to Raise a Kind Child in a Prejudiced World” - https://uk.bookshop.org/p/books/bringing-up-race-how-to-raise-a-kind-child-in-a-prejudiced-world-uju-asika/4812827?ean=9781529368727 Otherwise, if you’d like to connect, I post regularly on Instagram, with more thoughts and some Monday Top Tips - http://instagram.com/juliasamuelmbe/ And for more info, check out my website - https://juliasamuel.co.uk Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Aug 2, 2024 · 11 min
Agony Aunties - The Present Predicament
For this week's episode of Agony Aunties, we address a viewer's concern about her husband's consistent failure to acknowledge her birthday meaningfully, delving into the possible roots of his behavior stemming from his childhood. We'll explore the psychological implications of gift-giving, offer practical advice on how to communicate and understand these emotional blocks, and suggest alternative ways to ensure her birthday feels special. How does this resonate with you? What is your experience of giving and receiving gifts? Do you feel pressured by gift giving, or disappointed by it? We'd love to hear what your experience is like. Let us know in the comments. Otherwise, if you’d like to connect, I post regularly on Instagram, with more thoughts and some Monday Top Tips - http://instagram.com/juliasamuelmbe/ And for more info, check out my website - https://juliasamuel.co.uk Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Jul 31, 2024 · 56 min
Greg Wise on The Transformative Power of Grief
In this episode of Therapy Works, we welcome actor, writer, and campaigner Greg Wise, as he delves into his varied roles and identities, his profound experiences with grief, and the transformative power of awe and creativity. He shares his personal journey of caring for his sister during her terminal illness, the impact of generational trauma, and the continuous work required for personal growth. The conversation also touches on Greg's new venture into writing about grief and the importance of therapy in processing pain and finding joy. In the Mother/Daughter segment, Emily and Sophie reflect on Greg's insights and explore themes of creativity, openness, and the cyclical patterns of trauma. Show Notes: Check out Greg's new book Not That Kind of Love - https://amzn.eu/d/0aMLPAmX And you can follow Greg Wise on Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/gregwiseofficial/ Otherwise, if you’d like to connect, I post regularly on Instagram, with more thoughts and some Monday Top Tips - http://instagram.com/juliasamuelmbe/ And for more info, check out my website - https://juliasamuel.co.uk Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices