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Therapy Works

Julia Samuel

Bestselling author and psychotherapist, Julia Samuel, invites us into her therapy room as she talks to both known and unknown voices about some of life’s biggest challenges.


Therapy Works is full of therapeutic conversations which may contain difficult emotions but those that can paradoxically bring light, in all its form.


Listeners will hear what the guests have learnt, failed to learn and how they have grown through their experience. At the end of each episode, Julia reflects on her session with her two psychotherapist daughters who will share their thoughts on the conversation. You’ll quickly discover that not all therapists agree on everything!


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  • Feb 28, 2024 · 1 hr

    Henrietta Copeland on the silent grief of childlessness

    In this emotionally charged episode, Henrietta opens up about her journey through permanent childlessness and shares the complexities of her grief. Henrietta describes how there isn't a singular reason for her childlessness – not meeting the right partner and the element of luck being 50% out of her control. She recalls making a promise to herself, keeping the door half-shut, and the heartbreak that then followed. Key Points Discussed: Confronting Sadness: Exploring the depths of her grief, Henrietta opens up about the sadness that accompanies the longing for children never conceived. The challenges of feeling alienated and misunderstood during the second year of her journey come to the forefront. Disenfranchised Grief: Henrietta sheds light on the disenfranchised grief experienced by childless individuals, where the loss remains invisible and delegitimized. She addresses the staggering statistic that one in five people faces this unacknowledged sorrow. Creating a Supportive Tribe: Discovering solace in a newfound community, Henrietta emphasises the significance of creating spaces for childless women to openly discuss their pain. She underscores the power of validation and the healing that can occur when individuals facing similar struggles come together. Existential Anguish: Henrietta bares her soul, sharing moments of anger and betrayal intertwined with the existential loneliness that accompanies childlessness. She articulates the ongoing struggle of holding onto the idea of having her own child. This episode serves as a powerful testament to the often silent grief of permanent childlessness. It provides a compassionate space for validation and understanding. Henrietta's story unfolds as a narrative of resilience and strength in the face of unseen struggles. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

  • Feb 23, 2024 · 13 min

    Agony Aunties: The complexities of parenting adult children

    In this episode, a listener seeks advice on parenting adult children. The Agony Aunties encourage active listening, allowing for diverse perspectives without necessarily agreeing. They suggest using feedback formats, like expressing what one hears, sees, feels, and relates, to avoid judgement. The conversation explores the importance of compromise, acknowledging emotional subtext in disagreements, and understanding the generational shift in parenting dynamics. They emphasise the evolving nature of the parent-adult child relationship, acknowledging the dance between letting go and remaining close. They reflect on the challenge of finding a balance between abandonment and enmeshment, offering insights into the worry that comes with children growing into adulthood. The episode concludes with wisdom on processing loss, accepting the evolving roles, and trusting adult children to navigate their lives while providing a supportive presence. If you're navigating the complexities of parenting adult children, this episode offers thoughtful guidance and relatable perspectives. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

  • Feb 21, 2024 · 1 hr 8 min

    Annabel Croft on navigating the shock of a sudden diagnosis

    In today's deeply moving conversation, I am honoured to be joined by the incredible Annabel Croft. Annabel graciously shares her poignant journey through the rapid and tragic loss of her husband to cancer. We delve into the realms of loss, love, and the indomitable spirit of hope that persists in the face of grief. In this episode, we discuss: Sudden Diagnosis and Profound Journey: Annabel recounts the shocking moment they learned of her husband's terminal diagnosis, marking the beginning of a profound journey through grief and acceptance. She discusses the brutal reality of receiving such news, the swift progression of her husband's illness, and the emotional turmoil that ensued for her and her family. Brutal Delivery of News: We explore the brutal way in which healthcare practitioners handled their situation, making what's already devastating worse. We reflect on the lasting impact it has on individuals and families facing terminal illnesses. Strength in Vulnerability: Annabel's courage to be vulnerably open, allowing her emotions to be seen and felt, offers a beacon of understanding for anyone navigating the turbulent waters of loss. Therapeutic Power of Dance and Hope: The conversation highlights the importance of hope, the therapeutic power of dance in Annabel's life, and the significance of finding joy and meaning despite the presence of grief. Annabel's Reflections: Reflecting on her experience, Annabel's story serves as a testament to the strength found in vulnerability and the resilience of the human spirit. Though uniquely hers, it echoes universal truths of love's depth, the pain of loss, and the enduring quest for solace and understanding. As we share in Annabel's journey, let us remember the capacity of the human heart to heal, to find light amidst darkness, and to continue loving in the memory of those we've lost. Annabel expresses her desire to support the work of a brilliant scientist, Isabella Cooper. For those interested, you can read more about Isabelle's work here: https://www.foreveryounggroup.com/about-us Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

  • Feb 16, 2024 · 17 min

    Agony Aunties: Love, trust and navigating the rollercoaster

    In this special episode of our Agony Aunties mini series, our wise trio – Emily, Sophie, and Julia – dive deep into the intricacies of love and relationships. The first question addresses the delicate balance of approaching a new relationship with both excitement and caution. Emily's candid response reminds us that every relationship comes with its share of risks, emphasising that the beauty of love lies in its unpredictability. She encourages embracing the vulnerability that comes with love rather than succumbing to the fear of potential hurt. Moving on to the challenge of maintaining the spark in long-term relationships, Sophie shares invaluable insights. Recognising the monotony that can set in, she suggests cultivating personal sources of joy and excitement. Whether it's engaging in a dance class or enjoying time with friends, maintaining an individual sense of fun and spontaneity can breathe life back into the relationship. The trio concludes with Julia addressing the difficult subject of grief around Valentine's Day. She emphasises the importance of acknowledging the pain, legitimising emotions, and seeking support, offering a compassionate approach for those navigating the complexities of love and loss. Tune in for a heartfelt episode filled with wisdom, laughter, and guidance on matters of the heart. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

  • Feb 14, 2024 · 52 min

    Josiah Hartley on depression as an illness and not a personal failure

    In today's conversation, I am joined by Josiah Hartley, who generously shares the complexities of his struggle with depression, emphasising the pivotal importance of early recognition of signs and the transformative power of self-kindness and professional support. His story serves as a testament to vulnerability, resilience, and the gradual path to recovery, offering valuable insights for both individuals facing similar challenges and parents seeking to connect with their children going through depression or having suicidal thoughts. Key Discussion Points: Understanding Depression: Delving into the subtle onset of depression, Josiah recounts the critical moment when he shifted his perspective, recognising depression as a mental illness rather than a personal failure. This realisation became a turning point, steering him towards the path of recovery. The Role of Support: Josiah highlights the pivotal role of a trusted psychiatrist who guided him through the complexities of treatment, underscoring the transformative potential of compassionate professional care. This discussion emphasises the need for empathy in healthcare interactions and the profound impact it can have on a patient's journey. Daily Self-Care and Mindfulness: Emphasising the significance of self-care and mindfulness practices, Josiah shares how simple acts of kindness towards oneself played a foundational role in his healing process. From daily routines to mindful practices, these small but impactful steps collectively contributed to a profound improvement in his mental health. This episode stands as a powerful testament to the resilience of the human spirit, the importance of seeking help, and the possibility of leading a fulfilling life despite the challenges posed by mental illness. Read Josiah's book: https://amzn.eu/d/3O6nFAf For those seeking additional support, please see the below resources that were mentioned in the episode: Emily mentioned a PDF on DBT which you can view here: https://drive.google.com/file/d/1xR9c-LW8gK5RqJ-Src611kheCT-jNWky/view Charlie Waller Trust - https://www.charliewaller.org/ Papyrus - https://www.papyrus-uk.org/ Campaign Against Living Miserably - https://www.thecalmzone.net/ A big thank you to our sponsor Brora who are offering Therapy Works listeners a fabulous 10% off on full-price pieces. Head to their website broraonline.com and use the code TW10 at checkout before the end of April. Find Julia Samuel: Website: https://juliasamuel.co.uk/ Instagram: @juliasamuelmbe Produced by Rutherford Productions Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

  • Feb 9, 2024 · 12 min

    Agony Aunties: Grief in relationships

    In this heartfelt episode of Agony Aunties, the team addresses a poignant question from a listener who has recently lost their mother, with the added complication of a sister attempting to take control. Sophie sensitively navigates the complexities of grief, highlighting the common occurrence of competition among siblings when parents pass away. She delves into the intricacies of such dynamics, where the struggle for control often becomes a representation of love and value in the eyes of the departed parent. Julia adds a valuable perspective, emphasising the importance of surrendering the need for control and focusing on validating the significant relationship with the mother. The Agony Aunties also explore the grieving process in a difficult relationship, addressing a listener's question on how to honestly grieve its loss. Emily provides insights on allowing oneself to feel the range of emotions and the significance of being honest about the complexities of the relationship. Tune in for compassionate advice on navigating familial dynamics, grief, and the journey towards emotional honesty. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

  • Feb 7, 2024 · 1 hr 5 min

    Julia Bradbury on overcoming challenges with positivity and purpose

    To kick off Season 5, I am joined by Julia Bradbury, a best-selling author, TV presenter, and ardent advocate for nature, health, and hiking. Renowned for her passion for the outdoors, Julia has embarked on a transformative journey following her cancer diagnosis and surgery, dedicating herself to promoting healthy living and nature therapy. In this episode, Julia shares her inspiring story, emphasising the importance of investigating our default responses to adversity and finding purpose amid life's challenges. In this episode we discuss: Emphasising Self-Compassion: Julia Bradbury underscores the importance of avoiding self-blame during challenging times and encourages listeners to explore their default responses to adversity. Navigating Medical Challenges: The episode delves into Julia Bradbury's journey with breast cancer and the emotional toll of a rigorous biopsy, shedding light on the intricacies of her medical experiences. Tarot Wisdom: She touches on the use of tarot cards, delving into their symbolism, including the snake representing change and medicine, as part of her exploration of diverse modalities. Action Over Stagnation: Julia Bradbury advocates for taking action in challenging situations, emphasising that proactive measures propel personal growth rather than becoming stuck. Purposeful Living Post-Cancer: The cancer journey offers Julia a renewed sense of purpose, paving the way for a life filled with positivity. In this transformative episode, Julia Bradbury shares her resilient journey, inviting listeners to explore their responses to adversity, navigate medical challenges and ultimately find renewed purpose and balance in the tapestry of life. A big thank you to our sponsor Brora who are offering Therapy Works listeners a fabulous 10% off on full-price pieces. Head to their website broraonline.com and use the code TW10 at checkout before the end of April. Find Julia Bradbury: Book: Walk Yourself Happy Instagram: @juliabradbury Find Julia Samuel: Website: https://juliasamuel.co.uk/ Instagram: @juliasamuelmbe Produced by Rutherford Productions Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

  • Feb 2, 2024 · 8 min

    Agony Aunties: Dealing with a narcissist

    In this episode of Agony Aunties, Julia, Sophie, and Emily tackle a poignant question from a listener: How to deal with a narcissistic mother whose behaviour seems to be escalating with age. The conversation explores the challenge of dealing with someone who lacks insight into how their actions affect others. They discuss the emotional toll this behaviour takes on those in a relationship with a narcissist, highlighting the importance of recognising that the issue lies with the narcissist and not the individual experiencing the effects. They offer valuable insights on coping strategies for individuals dealing with a narcissistic parent, emphasising the significance of staying calm, taking a step back, and recognising that the behaviour is a reflection of the narcissist rather than a reflection of the individual. This episode serves as a compassionate and informative guide for anyone navigating the complexities of relationships with narcissistic individuals, offering practical advice and reassurance for those facing the challenges of a narcissistic parent. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

  • Jan 26, 2024 · 11 min

    Agony Aunties: Mastering boundaries

    In this episode of Agony Aunties, the trio delves into the intricate realm of boundaries, addressing the following listener question: "This new stance of boundaries that have taken hold on social media. I'm in my 60s and my initial thought is that boundaries prevent mending, being vulnerable, listening and can be misused. Of course, natural normal boundaries are needed when one is suffering abuse. My instinct tells me people can use putting up boundaries as an excuse not to hear what others think and feel." Emily acknowledges concerns around the potential misuse of therapy language and defends the enduring value of boundaries. Sophie reframes boundaries as tools for safety, self-worth, and the ability to adapt based on perceived threats. Julia emphasises the transformative power of boundaries as a form of self-care, offering clear guidelines adaptable across diverse relationships and contexts. Together, they explore the delicate balance of setting boundaries to enhance well-being and nurture richer connections. Join Agony Aunties as they navigate life's challenges with wisdom and compassion. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

  • Jan 19, 2024 · 11 min

    Agony Aunties: Sibling struggles

    The Agony Aunties are back with a heartfelt episode delving into the complex world of sibling relationships. Question 1: Dealing with an Estranged Sibling: "How to deal with an estranged sibling who knows me and wants no contact?" The Agony Aunties dive into the delicate realm of estrangement, exploring the often unspoken feelings of shame and guilt experienced by those with distant siblings. They share insights on the importance of self-reflection, the potential for reconnection, and the empowerment that comes with keeping the possibility of a future relationship open. Question 2: Sibling Scapegoating and Pain: "My brother scapegoats me and causes me pain. Should I move away?" In response to a listener grappling with a sibling's harmful behaviour, the Agony Aunties explore the concept of being a scapegoat and the toll it takes on one's well-being. They offer guidance on stepping out of this role, establishing healthy boundaries, and discuss the liberating power of finding one's voice. The Agony Aunties leave listeners with actionable advice and a reminder that, even in the complexities of family dynamics, personal growth and healing are possible. This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/therapyworks and get on your way to being your best self. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

  • Jan 12, 2024 · 12 min

    Agony Aunties: Navigating divorce and affairs

    Join Julia, Emily, and Sophie as they delve deep into the complexities of relationships, focusing on the intricate web of divorce and affairs. With compassionate hearts and keen insights, our Agony Aunties are here to offer guidance and support. The Agony Aunties answer the following questions: "My three kids are 19, 17 and 13 and they regularly ask their dad had an affair. The affair woman is now his wife and their stepmother." "My husband had an affair and he's left the family home. We have two young children. Can you give me tips to build my strength?" "I'm weathering divorce and an ex who moved on immediately. How do I rebuild my self-esteem?" As the episode concludes, Julia, Emily, and Sophie reiterate the importance of self-love, open communication, and seeking support during tumultuous times. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

  • Jan 5, 2024 · 6 min

    BONUS: How do I know when it's time to end therapy?

    In this special bonus episode of Therapy Works, we tackle a critical question many individuals grapple with: "How do I know when it's time to end therapy?". We navigate the complexities of concluding a therapeutic journey, discussing the nuanced factors that contribute to recognising the right time for transition. We explore scenarios where individuals may feel they've achieved specific goals or addressed particular challenges, as well as moments when unexpected issues arise, prompting a desire for continued therapeutic support. We emphasise the significance of mutual recognition between therapist and client, discussing the gradual reduction of sessions and the importance of fostering open communication throughout this process. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

  • Dec 29, 2023 · 9 min

    BONUS: How can therapy help me?

    In this special bonus episode of Therapy Works, we demystify the question, "How can therapy help me?". We underscore that therapy isn't a magic wand but a transformative journey that offers a confidential space to explore patterns, relationships, and life's complexities. Whether navigating destructive relationship patterns or monumental life events, therapy serves as a unique relationship characterised by empathy, trust, and confidentiality. Highlighting the multifaceted benefits of therapy, we discuss its relevance across different stages of life and emphasise its distinct role in providing personalised support. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

  • Dec 22, 2023 · 21 min

    BONUS: A guide to navigating Christmas

    In this special bonus episode, Julia and Emily offer listeners insightful strategies for navigating the complexities of Christmas. The discussion covers a range of topics, including gracefully handling awkward questions from family members, embracing the experience of spending Christmas alone, and managing the overwhelming pressures that often accompany this festive period. Julia and Emily provide practical advice on setting boundaries, fostering self-care, and cultivating meaningful connections, whether with family or within oneself. Additionally, the episode emphasizes the importance of recognizing and appreciating peaceful moments amidst the holiday chaos. This episode aims to empower listeners with the tools and understanding needed to navigate the emotional landscape of the festive season, fostering resilience and well-being in the midst of family gatherings, solitude, and societal pressures. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

  • Dec 20, 2023 · 1 hr 1 min

    Alain de Botton’s insights on psychotherapy, love and navigating Christmas

    To mark the end of a wonderful series, I am joined by the insightful Alain de Botton, an author, respected philosopher and founder of The School of Life. Get ready for a journey through the history of psychotherapy, the nuances of the true and false self, and the power of the inner child. In this episode, we discuss: The Gift of the Modern Age: Unveiling the History of Psychotherapy We explore the evolution of psychotherapy as a novel concept in the modern age, delving into its transformative power as both an idea and a treatment. The Annoying Power of the Inner Child We unpack the concept of the inner child and its significant influence on adult behaviour, and our desire for 'the tender heart of a small child and the wisdom of an old man.' Navigating the Layers of Identity We engage in a thoughtful discussion on the duality of the true and false self, examining the impact of understanding these layers on personal growth and authenticity. The Senses as Gateways to Emotion: Art as the Conduit to Self We explore how the senses shape emotions, both positively and negatively, uncovering the profound connection between art and the journey of self-discovery. A Unique Perspective on Breakdowns Gain insights into the concept of 'mental reversals' and their influence on mental health, receiving original perspectives on coping with breakdowns and the potential benefits they might offer. Love and Self-Sabotage We delve into the complexities of love and the common tendency to sabotage our deepest desires, exploring strategies to overcome self-destructive patterns when it comes to love. Navigating the Challenges of Christmas Alain ends the conversation with practical perspectives on navigating the challenges presented by the festive season. Bamford are inviting listeners of the podcast an exclusive 15% off all spa bookings until the end of December. To book your treatment at their wellness spas in London or the Cotswolds phone quoting ‘THERAPY WORKS’ to receive your exclusive discount or online at bamford.com. The code THERAPYWORKS is valid on all spa bookings. Find Alain: Website: https://www.alaindebotton.com/ Buy Alain's new book, A Therapeutic Journey: Lessons from the School of Life: https://amzn.eu/d/8bfHmqB The School of Life: https://www.theschooloflife.com/ Find Julia: Website: https://juliasamuel.co.uk/ Instagram: @juliasamuelmbe Produced by Rutherford Productions Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

  • Dec 13, 2023 · 56 min

    Gabby Logan on her strength beyond sports

    Today's guest is the remarkable Gabby Logan, a prominent sports and radio presenter with a wealth of experience. In this insightful conversation, Gabby brings forth her intelligence, empathy, and articulate perspectives as we explore the powerful intersection of sports, strength, and life. In the episode, we discuss: Physical and Mental Strength: Discover the profound link between physical and mental strength as Gabby reflects on her journey in sports. Learn how the lessons of discomfort, growth, and stepping out of the comfort zone in sports translate into valuable life skills. Discipline, Endurance, and Commitment: Uncover the tools of discipline, endurance, practice, and commitment cultivated through sports, which have been pivotal in guiding Gabby through life's challenges. Grief and Transformation: Delve into the profound impact of the tragic death of Gabby's brother Daniel, exploring how such significant loss shapes one's personal and professional life. Understand the transformative journey of grief and personal growth. Generational Perspectives on Trauma: Explore the generational differences in responding to trauma, acknowledging the limitations faced by Gabby's father in accessing therapy and the evolving dynamics of seeking support. Marriage and Love as a Practice: Gain insights into the complexities of marriage as Gabby emphasises the importance of choosing to love and the ongoing practice of honesty within relationships. Humour and Lightness: Despite the serious themes, experience moments of humour and lightness in this conversation that touch the heart and leave a lasting impact. Tune in for a compelling episode that navigates the intricacies of life, resilience, and the transformative power of strength with Gabby Logan. Bamford are inviting listeners of the podcast an exclusive 15% off all spa bookings until the end of December. To book your treatment at their wellness spas in London or the Cotswolds phone quoting ‘THERAPY WORKS’ to receive your exclusive discount or online at bamford.com. The code THERAPYWORKS is valid on all spa bookings. Find Gabby: Website: https://www.gabbylogan.com/ Instagram: @gabbylogan Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/the-mid-point-with-gabby-logan/id1527545442 Find Julia: Website: https://juliasamuel.co.uk/ Instagram: @juliasamuelmbe Produced by Rutherford Productions Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

  • Dec 6, 2023 · 1 hr

    Lesley on the impact of unearthing family secrets

    In this riveting episode, Lesley takes us on a profound journey into the unexpected consequences of contemporary DNA tests. What's marketed as a tool to uncover "ancestry, traits, and health" for informed health decisions can, in reality, deliver life-altering bombshells. Lesley's experience began innocently enough with a DNA test given to her on her birthday. Little did she know, this seemingly fun present would shatter her sense of self and family. The revelation that her father wasn't her biological dad sent shockwaves through her life. Key Discussion Points: Impact of How Bad News is Delivered: Lesley shares insights into how the delivery of life-altering news can exacerbate its emotional impact. Secrets in Families: The complexities surrounding family secrets and the turbulence that arises when these secrets are unveiled. Reconfiguring Identity: The emotional journey of reconfiguring one's sense of self when faced with the revelation that a parent is not biological. Managing Unanswered Questions: Strategies for navigating the challenges of unanswered questions that emerge from these revelations. Navigating the Search for "New" Family: The emotional rollercoaster of seeking and meeting newfound family members, from the underwhelming to the overwhelming. Nature vs. Nurture Dance: An exploration of how our family experiences, both biological and chosen, shape our identities. Supportive Communities: Lesley highlights the supportive power of podcasts and Facebook communities in connecting with others who share similar experiences. Lesley's honesty, warmth, and openness make this episode a compelling exploration of family, change, identity, and love. Bamford are inviting listeners of the podcast an exclusive 15% off all spa bookings until the end of December. To book your treatment at their wellness spas in London or the Cotswolds phone quoting ‘THERAPY WORKS’ to receive your exclusive discount or online at bamford.com. The code THERAPYWORKS is valid on all spa bookings. Additional links: Books: Uprooted by Peter J. Boni (he was donor conceived in the 1950s and it includes his memoir and some history regarding artificial insemination). Inheritance by Dani Shapiro What Makes a Baby by Cory Silverberg Facebook groups: We Are Donor Conceived DNA Surprises support group NPE Only: After the Discovery Podcasts to listen to: NPE Stories on Stitcher DNA Surprises – Sharing the journeys of people who were shocked by a DNA discovery, mostly through modern DNA testing. (dnasurprisespodcast.com) Everything's Relative Podcast | DNA Surprises - EVE STURGES Find Julia: Website: https://juliasamuel.co.uk/ Instagram: @juliasamuelmbe Produced by Rutherford Productions Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

  • Nov 29, 2023 · 1 hr 5 min

    Lorraine Candy on unravelling, menopause, and the power of identity

    In this insightful episode, I sit down with Lorraine Candy, former Editor of Elle, Cosmopolitan, and Style Magazine, who has spent her career thinking about, writing about, and interviewing women. Despite external markers of success, including a successful career, a husband, and four children, Lorraine candidly shares her journey, revealing that life isn't always as sussed as it seems. Key Discussion Points: The Unravelling in Mid-Life: Lorraine opens up about the shaming and frightening experience of unravelling in mid-life, challenging the assumptions tied to external success. Navigating Menopause: The episode delves into the often misunderstood and myth-laden topic of menopause. Lorraine sheds light on the importance of accurate information about Hormone Replacement Therapy (HRT) and the alarming statistics linking hormone imbalances to mental health challenges, including suicide. Identity at the Heart of Change: Explore the core principles of identity and how understanding ourselves plays a crucial role in navigating change, particularly for Lorraine as a parent. Adaptability and Change: The conversation emphasizes the importance of embracing adaptability and change in all aspects of our identities, with a spotlight on Lorraine's experiences as a parent. Slowing Down and Making Space: Discover the significance of slowing down, learning to say no, and creating space for curiosity—a concept referred to as 'a fertile void.' Lorraine advocates for making space to explore new possibilities in our lives. The Role of Humor and Friendship: Lorraine highlights the importance of humor and the support of friends in maintaining mental and emotional well-being. Routes to Safety and Connection: Learn about personal routes to a sense of safety and feeling at home in our bodies. This can include activities such as cold water swimming, reading, dancing, and embracing the power of human connection through hugs. Tune in as Lorraine Candy shares her wisdom on navigating life's complexities, challenging societal expectations, and finding true well-being from within. Find Lorraine: Book: https://amzn.eu/d/jbDQUUx Instagram: @lorrainecandy Podcast: https://play.acast.com/s/postcardsfrommidlife Find Julia: Website: https://juliasamuel.co.uk/ Instagram: @juliasamuelmbe Produced by Rutherford Productions Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

  • Nov 22, 2023 · 53 min

    Gulsom Gohar on survival, hope and crossing borders

    Welcome to a truly unique episode that transcends the boundaries of a traditional therapy session, offering a gripping narrative more akin to a drama. Join us for a revealing and compelling conversation with Gulsom, a story that is sure to stir your emotions. In this episode, Gulsom shares poignant aspects of her life: Independence Against Odds: Gulsom's remarkable journey from a poor, uneducated farming family to becoming a qualified solicitor in Afghanistan. Traumatic Escape: An intense account of how her life changed during the shocking Taliban military offensive in Afghanistan, leading to a terrifying escape to London. Navigating Trauma and Grief: Gulsom delves into the depths of the trauma she experienced and the profound grief of leaving everything behind. Resilience and Hope: Discover what fuels Gulsom's resilience and the audacity to hope as she fights for a new future. As you listen, you'll find yourself reflecting on the privileges often taken for granted in our lives. This episode serves as a powerful reminder that it's not the events that define us, but our responses to them that truly shape our lives. We've all experienced those transformative moments that divide our lives into a distinct "before" and "after." This episode magnifies such a moment, emphasising how life can undergo seismic shifts in an instant. It's crucial to recognise that while these moments can be swift, the journey to rebuild and reshape our lives afterward can span a lifetime. Additional Links: Breaking Barriers charity: https://breaking-barriers.co.uk/ Find Julia: Website: https://juliasamuel.co.uk/ Instagram: @juliasamuelmbe Produced by Rutherford Productions Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices