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Welcome to 'The Whole Parent Podcast,' where we dive deep into evidence-based parenting strategies, blending cutting-edge psychology with real-world experience. Each episode offers insightful discussions, expert interviews, and practical tips to empower you and your family through the joys and challenges of raising children. Join us as we explore not just the highs of parenting, but navigate the complexities and embrace the journey together.

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  • Wednesday · 47 min

    Training Wheels Are A Menace (with Strider Bike Founder Ryan McFarland) #98

    Watching your kid learn to ride a bike can feel weirdly intense. It looks like a simple childhood skill, but it pokes at something bigger: our fear of seeing our kids struggle, our urge to step in, and the thin line between support and rescue. I sit down with Ryan McFarland, founder of Strider Bikes, to talk about why this milestone is so emotional and why it can shape a child’s confidence far beyond two wheels. Ryan built the first Strider balance bike in his garage for his two-year-old son, then watched how mobility changed everything: focus, decision making, strength, and that quiet “I can do hard things” energy. We dig into the practical side too, including why so many kids’ bikes are basically shrunken adult bikes that are too heavy, too tall, and too mismatched for short legs. When the gear doesn’t fit, kids don’t just fail, they get scared, and fear can stick. We also get a little nerdy in the best way about skill development. Balance is the foundation; pedaling is just propulsion. Ryan explains why training wheels can actually teach the wrong steering pattern, making the transition to two wheels feel confusing and risky for thoughtful kids. The parenting takeaway is simple and hard: let learning look like learning. Struggle often means growth is happening. Our job is to be a cheerleader, protect play, and give kids the right-sized challenge so resilience can form naturally. Get a Strider for YOUR Toddler HERE If this conversation helps you, subscribe, share it with a parent who needs it, and leave a review so more families can find the show. Send us Fan Mail Support the show If parenting has felt hard lately… you don’t have to figure it out alone. Inside The Parent Lab, I’ll help you understand what’s actually going on underneath your child’s behavior — and give you simple, in-the-moment tools that actually work in real life. You’ll get access to my full course library, live coaching calls with me, practical workshops, and our 21-Day Sibling Challenge designed to help reduce the fighting and build better relationships between your kids. If you want support, tools, and a clear plan instead of just guessing your way through parenting… come join us inside The Parent Lab. CLICK HERE to Try the Parent Lab Today Other Links to help you and me: Get Jon’s Book Punishment-Free Parenting Preorder Jon’s Children’s Book Set My Feelings Free Follow Whole Parent on Instagram, Tiktok, Facebook,...

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  • September 2 · 54 min

    Survival Of The... Friendliest? (with Jessica Joelle Alexander) #97

    Denmark shows up near the top of the Happiness Index year after year, yet it is not topping every academic ranking or outspending everyone else. So what is going on? We talk with author, speaker, and cultural researcher Jessica Joelle Alexander about the Danish Way of Parenting and why Danish children are so often described as secure, resilient, and genuinely happy. We dig into the simplest but most overlooked driver of well being: meaningful relationships. From hygge and “weefulness” to collaboration over comparison, Jessica explains how Danish culture builds connection on purpose and how that changes the way kids handle stress, emotions, and belonging. We also unpack why Denmark treats play as essential learning, why respect based parenting matters, and how empathy becomes something kids live rather than something they memorize. Then we get practical. Jessica walks us through her PARENT framework (Play, Authenticity, Reframing, Empathy, No Ultimatums, Togetherness) and we wrestle with a uniquely American trap: turning even the healthiest parenting ideas into another achievement badge. Finally, we shift to modern parenting pressure around screens and phones, including Jessica’s digital citizenship conversation cards that help families set values around consent, bullying, critical thinking, communication, and online well being in a calm, in person way. Get Jessica's Book HERE Visit her website HERE Subscribe for more conversations on conscious parenting, child development, emotional safety, and family culture, and if this helped you, share it with a parent who needs it and leave a review. What is one Danish idea you want to try first? Send us Fan Mail Support the show If parenting has felt hard lately… you don’t have to figure it out alone. Inside The Parent Lab, I’ll help you understand what’s actually going on underneath your child’s behavior — and give you simple, in-the-moment tools that actually work in real life. You’ll get access to my full course library, live coaching calls with me, practical workshops, and our 21-Day Sibling Challenge designed to help reduce the fighting and build better relationships between your kids. If you want support, tools, and a clear plan instead of just guessing your way through parenting… come join us inside The Parent Lab. CLICK HERE to Try the Parent Lab Today Other Links to help you and me: Get Jon’s Book Punishment-Free Parenting Preorder Jon’s Children’s Book Set My Feelings Free Follow Whole Parent on Instagram, Tiktok, Facebook,...

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  • July 21 · 43 min

    Honest Motherhood (With Libby Ward) #96

    This conversation on honest motherhood explains why so many parents feel like they’re disappearing—and what actually helps. If you’ve ever snapped at your kids, felt crushed by the mental load, or wondered why parenting feels so much harder than everyone else makes it look, this episode with Libby Ward (Diary of an Honest Mom) will hit deeply. We talk about people-pleasing, perfectionism, emotional regulation, childhood trauma, mom guilt, resentment, and the invisible pressure many parents carry every day. Most importantly, we unpack how self-abandonment quietly fuels burnout—and why meeting your own needs is not selfish parenting. What You’ll Learn: • Why overwhelmed moms often feel angry, resentful, or emotionally exhausted • The hidden connection between people-pleasing, burnout, and parenting triggers • How childhood experiences shape the way we respond to stress, tantrums, and emotional overwhelm • Why “being a good parent” doesn’t mean ignoring your own needs • Practical mindset shifts that reduce shame, power struggles, and emotional reactivity This episode is grounded in developmental psychology, nervous system science, and the real emotional realities of parenting young kids. No perfect-parent messaging. No guilt. Just honest conversations that help parents understand what’s happening beneath the behavior—both in their kids and in themselves. If you’re tired of second-guessing yourself, carrying the entire mental load, or feeling like you’re failing during hard moments, this channel is here to help parenting feel calmer, clearer, and more manageable—one small shift at a time. Libby Ward’s book “Honest Motherhood” Send us Fan Mail Support the show If parenting has felt hard lately… you don’t have to figure it out alone. Inside The Parent Lab, I’ll help you understand what’s actually going on underneath your child’s behavior — and give you simple, in-the-moment tools that actually work in real life. You’ll get access to my full course library, live coaching calls with me, practical workshops, and our 21-Day Sibling Challenge designed to help reduce the fighting and build better relationships between your kids. If you want support, tools, and a clear plan instead of just guessing your way through parenting… come join us inside The Parent Lab. CLICK HERE to Try the Parent Lab Today Other Links to help you and me: Get Jon’s Book Punishment-Free Parenting Preorder Jon’s Children’s Book Set My Feelings Free Follow Whole Parent on Instagram, Tiktok, Facebook,...

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  • July 7 · 41 min

    Parenting A Spicy One (with Mary Van Geffen) #95

    In this conversation, parenting coach Mary Van Geffen explains why “spicy kids” don’t respond to traditional discipline—and what actually helps instead. If your child refuses to listen, melts down over small things, pushes back on everything, or seems emotionally intense all day long, this episode will help you understand what’s really happening beneath the behavior. We talk about emotional regulation, ADHD and PDA traits, shame cycles, demand avoidance, connection vs. control, and why some kids need a completely different parenting approach. This is a grounded, practical conversation for overwhelmed parents who are exhausted by yelling, punishment, and constant conflict—and want calmer, more connected ways to parent without losing authority. What You’ll Learn: • Why strong-willed and deeply feeling kids often resist traditional discipline • How shame, punishment, and power struggles make behavior worse • What “connection over control” actually looks like in real life • Practical ways to reduce meltdowns, increase cooperation, and stay calm under pressure • How to parent explosive, sensitive, ADHD, PDA, or demand-avoidant kids without walking on eggshells This episode blends developmental psychology, neuroscience, and real-world parenting tools in a way that’s actually usable when you’re in the middle of hard moments. The focus isn’t on “perfect parenting.” It’s on understanding behavior more deeply so you can respond with clarity, confidence, and connection—even when your child is intense, reactive, or hard to reach. If you’ve been second-guessing yourself, wondering why typical parenting advice isn’t working, or feeling stuck in daily battles with your toddler or preschooler, this channel is here to help parenting feel lighter, calmer, and more doable—one hard moment at a time. Check out Mary Van Geffen's book: Parenting a Spicy One Send us Fan Mail Support the show If parenting has felt hard lately… you don’t have to figure it out alone. Inside The Parent Lab, I’ll help you understand what’s actually going on underneath your child’s behavior — and give you simple, in-the-moment tools that actually work in real life. You’ll get access to my full course library, live coaching calls with me, practical workshops, and our 21-Day Sibling Challenge designed to help reduce the fighting and build better relationships between your kids. If you want support, tools, and a clear plan instead of just guessing your way through parenting… come join us inside The Parent Lab. CLICK HERE to Try the Parent Lab Today Other Links to help you and me: Get Jon’s Book Punishment-Free Parenting Preorder Jon’s Children’s Book Set My Feelings Free Follow Whole Parent on Instagram, Tiktok, Facebook,...

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  • June 23 · 37 min

    DILF Dad I'd Like to Friend (with Kevin Seldon) #94

    In this Father’s Day conversation, we unpack the hidden mental health struggles of modern fatherhood, from postpartum anxiety in dads to feeling isolated, shut out, or unsure how to bond with your baby. If you’ve ever felt like parenting changed your identity, strained your relationship, or left you quietly struggling while everyone focused on the baby, this episode will hit home. Jon sits down with Kevin Seldon — founder of Dad Supporting Dads and author of The DILF Handbook — to talk about the emotional realities of fatherhood, why so many men suffer silently, and how better support for dads helps the entire family. This conversation covers paternity leave, emotional regulation, parenting partnerships, burnout, mental health, and what kids actually need most from us. What You’ll Learn: • Why many dads don’t feel an instant bond with their baby — and why that’s more common than people think • The hidden signs of paternal postpartum depression and perinatal anxiety • How parenting can trigger a major identity shift for both moms and dads • Why “good parents always put their kids first” can quietly lead to burnout and resentment • Practical ways dads can become more confident, connected, and emotionally engaged parents This episode is grounded in developmental psychology, attachment research, and the real lived experience of parenting young children. The goal isn’t perfection or “expert parenting” — it’s helping families feel more connected, supported, and less alone in the hard moments that nobody prepares you for. If parenting has felt heavier lately — more overstimulating, more isolating, more emotionally exhausting than you expected — this channel is here to help you make sense of what’s happening beneath the behavior so you can respond with more confidence and less second-guessing. Check out Kevin Seldon's book: "The DILF Handbook" Send us Fan Mail Support the show If parenting has felt hard lately… you don’t have to figure it out alone. Inside The Parent Lab, I’ll help you understand what’s actually going on underneath your child’s behavior — and give you simple, in-the-moment tools that actually work in real life. You’ll get access to my full course library, live coaching calls with me, practical workshops, and our 21-Day Sibling Challenge designed to help reduce the fighting and build better relationships between your kids. If you want support, tools, and a clear plan instead of just guessing your way through parenting… come join us inside The Parent Lab. CLICK HERE to Try the Parent Lab Today Other Links to help you and me: Get Jon’s Book Punishment-Free Parenting Preorder Jon’s Children’s Book Set My Feelings Free Follow Whole Parent on Instagram, Tiktok, Facebook,...

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  • June 16 · 44 min

    I Can Do It (With Mama Nous) #93

    Toddler emotional regulation feels impossible some days—especially when your child melts down over socks, refuses to listen, or completely falls apart at bedtime. In this conversation with Mama Nous, we talk about why music can calm tantrums, reduce power struggles, and actually help kids build confidence and resilience in everyday moments. If you’ve ever wondered how to help your toddler cooperate without yelling, how to stay calm during hard parenting moments, or why emotionally intelligent songs seem to “work” when nothing else does, this episode connects the neuroscience with real life. We talk about toddler meltdowns, emotional regulation, parenting triggers, power struggles, confidence-building, and the hidden ways our own childhood experiences shape how we parent today. What You’ll Learn: • Why singing can help toddlers transition, cooperate, and calm down faster • How music supports emotional regulation and reduces power struggles • Practical ways to help kids build confidence without pressure or shame • Why “good enough parenting” matters more than perfection • How to model emotional resilience without hiding your own feelings This episode blends developmental psychology, neuroscience, and honest parenting conversations in a way that’s practical enough to use during the hardest parts of the day. No rigid parenting scripts. No shame. Just tools that help parents stay regulated, connected, and more confident while raising emotionally healthy kids. If parenting feels overwhelming lately, and you want calmer days, fewer battles, and more confidence in how you respond to your child’s behavior, this channel is here to help. Subscribe so you have grounded, research-informed support the next time your toddler melts down, refuses to cooperate, or pushes every button you have. Check out Mama Nous' book: "I Can Do It!" Send us Fan Mail Support the show If parenting has felt hard lately… you don’t have to figure it out alone. Inside The Parent Lab, I’ll help you understand what’s actually going on underneath your child’s behavior — and give you simple, in-the-moment tools that actually work in real life. You’ll get access to my full course library, live coaching calls with me, practical workshops, and our 21-Day Sibling Challenge designed to help reduce the fighting and build better relationships between your kids. If you want support, tools, and a clear plan instead of just guessing your way through parenting… come join us inside The Parent Lab. CLICK HERE to Try the Parent Lab Today Other Links to help you and me: Get Jon’s Book Punishment-Free Parenting Preorder Jon’s Children’s Book Set My Feelings Free Follow Whole Parent on Instagram, Tiktok, Facebook,...

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  • June 2 · 42 min

    The Thing MORE important than Emotional Regulation (with Dr Ross Greene) #92

    In this conversation with Dr. Ross Greene, we unpack why so many kids struggle with frustration, big emotions, and power struggles… and why the usual parenting advice often makes things worse. If you’ve ever wondered why your child explodes over small things, refuses to cooperate, or seems overwhelmed by everyday expectations, this episode will completely shift how you see challenging behavior. We talk about toddler tantrums, emotional regulation, frustration tolerance, ADHD, anxiety, school stress, collaborative problem solving, and why kids do well if they can—not when we punish them hard enough. This is a practical, research-backed conversation for exhausted parents who want fewer meltdowns, less yelling, and a calmer way to parent through hard moments. What You’ll Learn: Why emotional regulation is not the first skill kids need What toddler meltdowns and explosive behavior are actually communicating How to reduce power struggles without becoming permissive Why punishment and consequences often fail with “challenging” kids A simple mindset shift that helps parents stay calmer during difficult behavior This conversation is grounded in developmental psychology, neuroscience, and decades of real clinical experience working with kids who struggle with frustration, flexibility, and emotional overwhelm. The goal isn’t to control behavior—it’s to understand what’s beneath it so parents can respond more effectively and raise emotionally healthy, resilient kids. If you’re tired of second-guessing yourself every time your child melts down, refuses to listen, or spirals emotionally, this channel is here to help parenting feel clearer, calmer, and more doable in real life. Check out Dr. Ross Greene's Book: The Kids Who Aren't OK Send us Fan Mail Support the show If parenting has felt hard lately… you don’t have to figure it out alone. Inside The Parent Lab, I’ll help you understand what’s actually going on underneath your child’s behavior — and give you simple, in-the-moment tools that actually work in real life. You’ll get access to my full course library, live coaching calls with me, practical workshops, and our 21-Day Sibling Challenge designed to help reduce the fighting and build better relationships between your kids. If you want support, tools, and a clear plan instead of just guessing your way through parenting… come join us inside The Parent Lab. CLICK HERE to Try the Parent Lab Today Other Links to help you and me: Get Jon’s Book Punishment-Free Parenting Preorder Jon’s Children’s Book Set My Feelings Free Follow Whole Parent on Instagram, Tiktok, Facebook,...

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  • May 26 · 39 min

    The REAL thing leading to mental disorders in kids and teens (not technology) with Dr. Peter Gray #91

    In this conversation with Dr. Peter Gray, we unpack what may actually be driving the mental health crisis in kids—and why so many parents still feel overwhelmed trying to help. If you’ve ever wondered whether technology is really the problem, why your child seems more stressed than you remember being as a kid, or how modern parenting and schooling may be affecting emotional regulation, independence, and resilience… this episode will challenge a lot of assumptions in the best way. We talk about toddler and preschool behavior, autonomy, anxiety, school stress, emotional health, and what kids actually need to thrive. What You’ll Learn: • Why many researchers don’t believe screens are the main cause of rising anxiety in kids • The hidden ways stress, pressure, and over-structured childhoods affect behavior • Why autonomy, free play, and independence matter for emotional regulation • What overwhelmed parents can do to reduce power struggles and raise more resilient kids • How to think critically about parenting trends without fear or guilt This channel is built around practical, evidence-based parenting that helps you understand what’s happening underneath your child’s behavior—not just react to it in the moment. Every episode is designed to help you stay calmer, feel more confident, and make parenting feel a little less overwhelming. If you’re tired of second-guessing yourself during tantrums, meltdowns, bedtime battles, or emotional outbursts, subscribe and follow along. The goal here isn’t perfect parenting—it’s helping you understand your child well enough that hard moments start feeling easier to navigate. 📚 Check out Peter Gray's book “Restoring Childhood”: https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/784213/restoring-childhood-by-peter-gray/ Send us Fan Mail Support the show If parenting has felt hard lately… you don’t have to figure it out alone. Inside The Parent Lab, I’ll help you understand what’s actually going on underneath your child’s behavior — and give you simple, in-the-moment tools that actually work in real life. You’ll get access to my full course library, live coaching calls with me, practical workshops, and our 21-Day Sibling Challenge designed to help reduce the fighting and build better relationships between your kids. If you want support, tools, and a clear plan instead of just guessing your way through parenting… come join us inside The Parent Lab. CLICK HERE to Try the Parent Lab Today Other Links to help you and me: Get Jon’s Book Punishment-Free Parenting Preorder Jon’s Children’s Book Set My Feelings Free Follow Whole Parent on Instagram, Tiktok, Facebook,...

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  • May 19 · 33 min

    Is it HARMFUL to Ask Older Siblings to Help? #90

    A viral clip says that telling your older child to “help your sister” damages both kids. I get why that message spreads fast, especially if you grew up as the oldest and felt like too much landed on your shoulders. But developmental psychology is more nuanced than a scroll-stopping soundbite, and mixing up parentification with age-appropriate help can leave parents stuck and anxious about every request they make. I break down what the research actually supports: yes, it can be unhealthy when an older child feels like the parent, carries ongoing responsibility, or becomes the default caregiver. That’s real, and it matters. But it’s also true that families thrive on cooperation, and small, bounded responsibilities can build autonomy, confidence, and trust. We talk about the difference between equality and equity, why “everyone gets the same” often fails in real homes with real ages and stages, and how to give kids what they need without trying to force a perfectly balanced scoreboard. You’ll hear practical ways to frame sibling teamwork, assign roles that fit each child’s capacity, and avoid resentment by keeping parents in charge while still letting kids contribute. If you want less sibling conflict and more cooperation, this conversation gives you a clear line between healthy helping and too much. Send us Fan Mail Support the show If parenting has felt hard lately… you don’t have to figure it out alone. Inside The Parent Lab, I’ll help you understand what’s actually going on underneath your child’s behavior — and give you simple, in-the-moment tools that actually work in real life. You’ll get access to my full course library, live coaching calls with me, practical workshops, and our 21-Day Sibling Challenge designed to help reduce the fighting and build better relationships between your kids. If you want support, tools, and a clear plan instead of just guessing your way through parenting… come join us inside The Parent Lab. CLICK HERE to Try the Parent Lab Today Other Links to help you and me: Get Jon’s Book Punishment-Free Parenting Preorder Jon’s Children’s Book Set My Feelings Free Follow Whole Parent on Instagram, Tiktok, Facebook,...

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  • May 12 · 1 hr 4 min

    MOTHER'S DAY Shenanigans with Emily Vondy #89

    Toddler parenting feels hardest when your child won’t listen, melts down over everything, or you’re running on empty trying to stay calm through the chaos. In this Mother’s Day conversation with Emily Vondy, we talk honestly about what parenting little kids actually feels like—and why so many overwhelmed parents feel both exhausted and deeply grateful at the same time. From toddler tantrums and emotional overwhelm to screen time, mom guilt, nap traps, and the hilarious reality of raising little kids, this episode is full of relatable moments and grounded parenting wisdom. If you’ve ever hidden snacks from your kids, questioned every parenting decision at 2 a.m., or wondered if you’re “doing enough,” this conversation will make you feel a little less alone—and a little more confident in the season you’re in. What You’ll Learn: • Why connection matters more than perfect parenting • How to stay grounded when parenting feels nonstop and overstimulating • The hidden pressure modern parents feel from social media and comparison • Why “enjoying your kids” can feel harder than it sounds—and how to reconnect • Practical mindset shifts that reduce guilt, power struggles, and overwhelm This channel is built around evidence-based parenting, emotional regulation, child development, and the real-life challenges of raising toddlers and preschoolers. The goal isn’t perfection—it’s helping parents understand behavior, stay calmer during hard moments, and build stronger relationships with their kids in ways that actually work in everyday life. If parenting has been feeling loud, exhausting, or like you’re constantly second-guessing yourself, subscribe here so you have practical, research-backed support that helps daily life feel lighter, calmer, and more manageable—especially in the moments nobody prepares you for. Check out Emily Vondy's Book: Nap Trapped! Send us Fan Mail Support the show If parenting has felt hard lately… you don’t have to figure it out alone. Inside The Parent Lab, I’ll help you understand what’s actually going on underneath your child’s behavior — and give you simple, in-the-moment tools that actually work in real life. You’ll get access to my full course library, live coaching calls with me, practical workshops, and our 21-Day Sibling Challenge designed to help reduce the fighting and build better relationships between your kids. If you want support, tools, and a clear plan instead of just guessing your way through parenting… come join us inside The Parent Lab. CLICK HERE to Try the Parent Lab Today Other Links to help you and me: Get Jon’s Book Punishment-Free Parenting Preorder Jon’s Children’s Book Set My Feelings Free Follow Whole Parent on Instagram, Tiktok, Facebook,...

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  • May 5 · 46 min

    The Thing Hijacking Your Kid's Brain With Michaeleen Doucleff #88

    If your toddler refuses to listen, has big meltdowns after screens, or seems obsessed with “just one more,” this video will help you understand what’s really going on beneath the behavior. We break down how dopamine drives your child’s need for more—not because they love it, but because their brain is being pulled into a loop. You’ll learn how this affects emotional regulation, why transitions feel so explosive, and what to do instead of constant limiting, negotiating, or power struggles. What You’ll Learn: Why your child’s brain treats screens and snacks like a “need,” not just a want What’s actually happening during tantrums when you turn something off The difference between real enjoyment vs. dopamine-driven “wanting” Why limiting alone often backfires—and what works better Simple, realistic ways to reduce meltdowns and shift habits quickly This approach is grounded in modern neuroscience and behavioral psychology—but translated into real-life parenting. The goal isn’t perfection or eliminating screens entirely. It’s helping you stay calm, reduce daily friction, and guide your child toward things that actually leave them feeling good (not just wanting more). If you’re tired of second-guessing your decisions or dreading the next meltdown, this channel is here to make those hard moments feel more manageable—and a lot less confusing. Michaeleen Doucleff's book: Dopamine Kids Send us Fan Mail Support the show If parenting has felt hard lately… you don’t have to figure it out alone. Inside The Parent Lab, I’ll help you understand what’s actually going on underneath your child’s behavior — and give you simple, in-the-moment tools that actually work in real life. You’ll get access to my full course library, live coaching calls with me, practical workshops, and our 21-Day Sibling Challenge designed to help reduce the fighting and build better relationships between your kids. If you want support, tools, and a clear plan instead of just guessing your way through parenting… come join us inside The Parent Lab. CLICK HERE to Try the Parent Lab Today Other Links to help you and me: Get Jon’s Book Punishment-Free Parenting Preorder Jon’s Children’s Book Set My Feelings Free Follow Whole Parent on Instagram, Tiktok, Facebook,...

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  • April 28 · 43 min

    Why Smart Kids Shut Down In School #87

    Homeschool vs traditional school: a former principal explains what helps kids learn (and what gets in the way). If your child is melting down after school, refusing to listen, or suddenly “shutting down” around learning, this conversation will likely hit close to home. We unpack what’s really happening beneath behaviors like school resistance, emotional outbursts, and loss of motivation—and how factors like environment, pacing, and lack of autonomy can quietly overwhelm kids. Whether you’re considering homeschooling or staying in the system, this episode gives you a clearer, research-informed lens on how kids actually learn and what they need to feel safe, engaged, and regulated. What You’ll Learn: Why kids often fall apart after school (and what it says about their nervous system) What “learning” is supposed to feel like for toddlers and young kids How traditional classrooms can unintentionally block curiosity and independence Simple ways to advocate for your child inside the school system How to trust your child’s pace without constant fear of them “falling behind” This episode is grounded in developmental psychology and real classroom experience—from a former teacher and principal who saw firsthand how the system works (and where it breaks down). The goal isn’t to tell you what choice to make—it’s to help you understand your child more clearly, reduce daily power struggles, and respond in ways that actually support long-term learning and emotional health. If you’ve ever second-guessed your parenting when your child resists school, or wondered if things could feel easier and more aligned, consider staying connected here. The more you understand what’s driving your child’s behavior, the more confident and calm you’ll feel in those hard, everyday moments. Check out Mandy Davis' book: The Homeschool Bible: A Step-by-Step Guide for Beginners to Curriculum, Lesson Planning, State Laws, and Daily Schedules Send us Fan Mail Support the show If parenting has felt hard lately… you don’t have to figure it out alone. Inside The Parent Lab, I’ll help you understand what’s actually going on underneath your child’s behavior — and give you simple, in-the-moment tools that actually work in real life. You’ll get access to my full course library, live coaching calls with me, practical workshops, and our 21-Day Sibling Challenge designed to help reduce the fighting and build better relationships between your kids. If you want support, tools, and a clear plan instead of just guessing your way through parenting… come join us inside The Parent Lab. CLICK HERE to Try the Parent Lab Today Other Links to help you and me: Get Jon’s Book Punishment-Free Parenting Preorder Jon’s Children’s Book Set My Feelings Free Follow Whole Parent on Instagram, Tiktok, Facebook,...

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  • April 21 · 38 min

    Do Schools Kill Curiosity? #86

    Why some kids stop asking questions (and what to do at home to protect their curiosity). If your child seems disengaged, says “I’m not good at this,” or melts down over learning, it’s easy to assume it’s about attention, behavior, or motivation. But often, what looks like defiance or lack of focus is actually a loss of curiosity. In this video, we break down what’s happening in your child’s brain when learning becomes about performance instead of exploration—and how that shift can lead to resistance, overwhelm, and disconnection from learning itself. What You’ll Learn: Why toddlers and preschoolers are naturally wired to learn—and what disrupts that The hidden impact of rewards, praise, and “getting the right answer” How to respond when your child says “I can’t” or “I’m bad at this” Simple ways to rebuild curiosity and intrinsic motivation at home How to reduce power struggles around learning, homework, or skill-building This approach is grounded in developmental psychology and neuroscience, but translated into real-life parenting. No scripts, no quick fixes—just a clear understanding of how kids actually learn, and how to support that without shutting it down. The goal isn’t to make your child perform better—it’s to help them stay connected to their natural drive to explore, think, and figure things out. If you’re tired of second-guessing how to handle resistance, meltdowns, or “not listening,” this channel will help you respond with more clarity and confidence—especially in those everyday moments that feel the hardest. Send us Fan Mail Support the show If parenting has felt hard lately… you don’t have to figure it out alone. Inside The Parent Lab, I’ll help you understand what’s actually going on underneath your child’s behavior — and give you simple, in-the-moment tools that actually work in real life. You’ll get access to my full course library, live coaching calls with me, practical workshops, and our 21-Day Sibling Challenge designed to help reduce the fighting and build better relationships between your kids. If you want support, tools, and a clear plan instead of just guessing your way through parenting… come join us inside The Parent Lab. CLICK HERE to Try the Parent Lab Today Other Links to help you and me: Get Jon’s Book Punishment-Free Parenting Preorder Jon’s Children’s Book Set My Feelings Free Follow Whole Parent on Instagram, Tiktok, Facebook,...

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  • April 16 · 39 min

    How To Deal With Your %&#$ So Your Kids Don't Have To #85

    If you feel overwhelmed, snap more than you want to, or keep repeating parenting patterns you swore you’d break… this will explain why (and what to do instead). Most parenting advice focuses on what to do when your toddler refuses to listen, has meltdowns, or pushes every limit. But what if the real challenge isn’t just their behavior, it’s what gets activated in you? In this conversation, we unpack why parenting can feel so triggering, how your own emotional patterns show up in daily moments, and how learning to regulate yourself can dramatically reduce power struggles, overwhelm, and reactivity. What You’ll Learn: Why toddler behavior feels so triggering (and what’s actually happening in your brain and body) How to stop repeating reactive parenting patterns, even if they’re deeply ingrained A practical way to handle emotions like anger, anxiety, or feeling rejected by your child What “emotional regulation” actually looks like in real-life parenting moments How to become the calm, steady parent your child can rely on, without being perfect This approach is grounded in developmental psychology and attachment science, but translated into something you can actually use on a hard day. It’s not about fixing your child, it’s about understanding yourself well enough to respond differently, even when things feel intense. If you’re tired of second-guessing your reactions or feeling like you’re “messing it up,” this is where things start to get easier. Subscribe so you have clear, grounded guidance to come back to in those moments when parenting feels the hardest, and you want to handle it differently. Check out Eli Harwood's book: How To Deal With Your ____ So Your Kids Don't Have To: An Encyclopedia For Ditching Your Emotional Baggage Send us Fan Mail Support the show If parenting has felt hard lately… you don’t have to figure it out alone. Inside The Parent Lab, I’ll help you understand what’s actually going on underneath your child’s behavior — and give you simple, in-the-moment tools that actually work in real life. You’ll get access to my full course library, live coaching calls with me, practical workshops, and our 21-Day Sibling Challenge designed to help reduce the fighting and build better relationships between your kids. If you want support, tools, and a clear plan instead of just guessing your way through parenting… come join us inside The Parent Lab. CLICK HERE to Try the Parent Lab Today Other Links to help you and me: Get Jon’s Book Punishment-Free Parenting Preorder Jon’s Children’s Book Set My Feelings Free Follow Whole Parent on Instagram, Tiktok, Facebook,...

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  • April 14 · 37 min

    Your Child Is Attaching to Someone (And It Might NOT be You) #84

    Why kids stop listening to parents (and how to rebuild connection without power struggles or punishment). If your child suddenly seems more influenced by friends, more sensitive to what others think, or harder to reach at home, you’re not imagining it. This video breaks down what’s actually happening beneath the surface when kids become more peer-focused, why it can lead to emotional instability, defiance, or withdrawal, and how to gently re-anchor your relationship without forcing control. If you're dealing with backtalk, disconnection, big emotions, or a child who just won’t listen anymore, this will help you understand the “why” behind it—and what actually works. What You’ll Learn: Why kids become more attached to peers than parents (and when it becomes a problem) The early signs your child is “pulling away” (before it gets worse) 3 simple ways to rebuild connection without nagging, yelling, or control How to become the safe place your child actually turns to (even during meltdowns) What attachment really means—and how it shapes behavior, listening, and emotional regulation This approach is grounded in developmental psychology and neuroscience, but translated into real, usable parenting tools. No scripts, no quick fixes—just a clear way to understand your child’s behavior and respond in a way that strengthens your relationship instead of straining it. If parenting has been feeling harder lately, more pushback, more second-guessing, more distance, this is exactly the kind of shift that makes things feel easier again. Subscribe if you want practical, research-backed guidance that helps you stay calm, feel more confident, and actually enjoy your child again (even in the messy moments). Send us Fan Mail Support the show If parenting has felt hard lately… you don’t have to figure it out alone. Inside The Parent Lab, I’ll help you understand what’s actually going on underneath your child’s behavior — and give you simple, in-the-moment tools that actually work in real life. You’ll get access to my full course library, live coaching calls with me, practical workshops, and our 21-Day Sibling Challenge designed to help reduce the fighting and build better relationships between your kids. If you want support, tools, and a clear plan instead of just guessing your way through parenting… come join us inside The Parent Lab. CLICK HERE to Try the Parent Lab Today Other Links to help you and me: Get Jon’s Book Punishment-Free Parenting Preorder Jon’s Children’s Book Set My Feelings Free Follow Whole Parent on Instagram, Tiktok, Facebook,...

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  • April 9 · 39 min

    Unconditional Parenting with Alfie Kohn #83

    If you feel stuck in tantrums, power struggles, or constant “do this / don’t do that”… this shifts how you see it completely Most parenting advice focuses on fixing behavior, timeouts, consequences, sticker charts, but what if that’s the very thing keeping you stuck? In this conversation, we unpack why common tools like rewards and punishments often lead to more resistance, more meltdowns, and less real cooperation over time. If your toddler refuses to listen, pushes boundaries, or seems “unmotivated” unless there’s a reward, this will help you understand what’s actually driving their behavior, and what to do instead when you’re overwhelmed in the moment. What You’ll Learn: Why rewards and punishments often create short-term compliance but long-term struggles What’s really happening underneath “bad behavior” (and how to respond to it) How to shift from control-based parenting to connection-based cooperation A simple mindset shift that reduces power struggles immediately What to focus on instead of “getting your child to listen” This approach is grounded in developmental psychology and decades of research on motivation, behavior, and parent-child relationships. It’s not about being permissive or “letting things go,” it’s about understanding your child deeply enough that you don’t have to rely on control in the first place. When you shift the goal from obedience to long-term growth, your responses start to change in a way that actually works. If you’re tired of second-guessing yourself in hard moments, and you want a clearer, calmer way to handle tantrums, defiance, and everyday struggles, this is exactly what we focus on here. Subscribe so parenting starts to feel more manageable, and you feel more confident in what you’re doing, even on the hard days. Here's a link to Alfie Kohn's book: Unconditional Parenting: Moving From Rewards and Punishments to Love and Reason Send us Fan Mail Support the show If parenting has felt hard lately… you don’t have to figure it out alone. Inside The Parent Lab, I’ll help you understand what’s actually going on underneath your child’s behavior — and give you simple, in-the-moment tools that actually work in real life. You’ll get access to my full course library, live coaching calls with me, practical workshops, and our 21-Day Sibling Challenge designed to help reduce the fighting and build better relationships between your kids. If you want support, tools, and a clear plan instead of just guessing your way through parenting… come join us inside The Parent Lab. CLICK HERE to Try the Parent Lab Today Other Links to help you and me: Get Jon’s Book Punishment-Free Parenting Preorder Jon’s Children’s Book Set My Feelings Free Follow Whole Parent on Instagram, Tiktok, Facebook,...

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  • April 7 · 40 min

    Your Kid Needs Less Stuff #82

    If your child jumps from toy to toy, asks for screens, or says “I’m bored” all day, this might be the real reason If your toddler or preschooler seems overwhelmed, constantly switching activities, refusing to play independently, or needing you to step in all the time, it’s easy to assume they need more stimulation. But often, the opposite is true. Too many toys can lead to shorter attention spans, more meltdowns, and less meaningful play. In this video, we break down what’s actually happening in your child’s brain, and how simplifying your environment can reduce overwhelm, support emotional regulation, and help your child engage more deeply (without you constantly entertaining them). What You’ll Learn: Why too many toys can lead to boredom, frustration, and shorter attention spans What’s happening in your child’s brain when they feel “overwhelmed” by options How to reduce toys in a realistic, doable way (without going full minimalist) The difference between open-ended play and “quick dopamine” toys How to handle “I’m bored” without jumping in, and why that moment matters This approach is grounded in developmental psychology and neuroscience, but translated into real-life parenting, what actually works when your kid is melting down, ignoring you, or bouncing from one thing to the next. The goal isn’t perfection or rigid systems. It’s helping you create a calmer home, reduce power struggles, and raise a child who can focus, play, and think independently. If you’re tired of second-guessing your parenting or feeling like you have to constantly “fix” your child’s behavior, this channel is here to make things clearer and easier, one small shift at a time. Send us Fan Mail Support the show If parenting has felt hard lately… you don’t have to figure it out alone. Inside The Parent Lab, I’ll help you understand what’s actually going on underneath your child’s behavior — and give you simple, in-the-moment tools that actually work in real life. You’ll get access to my full course library, live coaching calls with me, practical workshops, and our 21-Day Sibling Challenge designed to help reduce the fighting and build better relationships between your kids. If you want support, tools, and a clear plan instead of just guessing your way through parenting… come join us inside The Parent Lab. CLICK HERE to Try the Parent Lab Today Other Links to help you and me: Get Jon’s Book Punishment-Free Parenting Preorder Jon’s Children’s Book Set My Feelings Free Follow Whole Parent on Instagram, Tiktok, Facebook,...

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  • April 2 · 36 min

    Risky Play Might Save Your Kid #81

    When to step in vs. hold back, so you don’t accidentally raise a more anxious, less capable kid If your toddler is constantly climbing, jumping, or doing things that make your heart race, this video will help you understand what’s actually happening and what to do about it. We’re talking about risky play: why kids need it, how it builds real confidence (not just reassurance), and how overprotecting, often without realizing it, can lead to more anxiety, hesitation, and power struggles. If you’ve ever said “be careful” on repeat, worried about injuries, or felt judged at the playground, this will give you a clearer, calmer way forward. What You’ll Learn: The difference between real danger and healthy risk (and why it matters) Why risky play actually reduces anxiety and builds better judgment over time What’s happening in your child’s brain when they climb, fall, and try again 5 simple, practical ways to support risky play without feeling reckless How to stop interrupting learning in those high-stress parenting moments This approach is grounded in developmental psychology and neuroscience, but translated into what actually works in real life, when your kid is halfway up the playground and your instinct is screaming to intervene. The goal isn’t to step back completely, it’s to step back intentionally, so you can raise a child who trusts themselves, not just relies on you to keep them safe. If you’re tired of second-guessing every decision at the park or at home, and you want to feel more confident knowing when to step in and when to let growth happen, this is exactly the kind of support that will make parenting feel lighter and clearer over time. Send us Fan Mail Support the show If parenting has felt hard lately… you don’t have to figure it out alone. Inside The Parent Lab, I’ll help you understand what’s actually going on underneath your child’s behavior — and give you simple, in-the-moment tools that actually work in real life. You’ll get access to my full course library, live coaching calls with me, practical workshops, and our 21-Day Sibling Challenge designed to help reduce the fighting and build better relationships between your kids. If you want support, tools, and a clear plan instead of just guessing your way through parenting… come join us inside The Parent Lab. CLICK HERE to Try the Parent Lab Today Other Links to help you and me: Get Jon’s Book Punishment-Free Parenting Preorder Jon’s Children’s Book Set My Feelings Free Follow Whole Parent on Instagram, Tiktok, Facebook,...

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  • March 31 · 34 min

    The Secret to Raising Successful Kids #80

    If your child resists helping, makes a bigger mess, or melts down during cleanup—this changes how you’ll see it. If you’ve ever thought “it’s just faster if I do it myself,” you’re not alone. When your toddler refuses to listen, turns simple tasks into chaos, or has a meltdown over cleaning up, it can feel pointless to even try. But what looks like small, frustrating moments—spilled food, ignored requests, messy “helping”—are actually shaping your child’s emotional regulation, confidence, and long-term behavior in powerful ways. This video breaks down what research really says about chores, and how to use them in a way that reduces power struggles instead of creating more of them. What You’ll Learn: Why chores build confidence, emotional resilience, and real-world skills (not just “helpfulness”) The hidden reason kids resist helping—and how to shift it without bribing or nagging How chores reduce entitlement and increase empathy over time 3 simple, age-appropriate ways to start involving your toddler or preschooler today Why paying for chores can backfire (and what to do instead) This approach is grounded in developmental psychology and neuroscience—but translated into real-life parenting. No scripts that fall apart the moment your child is overwhelmed. No pressure to be perfect. Just practical ways to help your child feel capable, connected, and motivated to contribute—without turning every moment into a battle. If you’re tired of second-guessing yourself or feeling like every small moment turns into a struggle, this is exactly the kind of shift that makes parenting feel lighter. Subscribe so you can handle these everyday challenges with more clarity, more confidence, and a lot less stress. Send us Fan Mail Support the show If parenting has felt hard lately… you don’t have to figure it out alone. Inside The Parent Lab, I’ll help you understand what’s actually going on underneath your child’s behavior — and give you simple, in-the-moment tools that actually work in real life. You’ll get access to my full course library, live coaching calls with me, practical workshops, and our 21-Day Sibling Challenge designed to help reduce the fighting and build better relationships between your kids. If you want support, tools, and a clear plan instead of just guessing your way through parenting… come join us inside The Parent Lab. CLICK HERE to Try the Parent Lab Today Other Links to help you and me: Get Jon’s Book Punishment-Free Parenting Preorder Jon’s Children’s Book Set My Feelings Free Follow Whole Parent on Instagram, Tiktok, Facebook,...

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  • March 26 · 40 min

    Strike Hard, Strike Fast, No Mercy (Jess + Jon) #79

    Jess and Jon talk about tae kwon do, obedience, and navigating different cultural values with kids Send us Fan Mail Support the show If parenting has felt hard lately… you don’t have to figure it out alone. Inside The Parent Lab, I’ll help you understand what’s actually going on underneath your child’s behavior — and give you simple, in-the-moment tools that actually work in real life. You’ll get access to my full course library, live coaching calls with me, practical workshops, and our 21-Day Sibling Challenge designed to help reduce the fighting and build better relationships between your kids. If you want support, tools, and a clear plan instead of just guessing your way through parenting… come join us inside The Parent Lab. CLICK HERE to Try the Parent Lab Today Other Links to help you and me: Get Jon’s Book Punishment-Free Parenting Preorder Jon’s Children’s Book Set My Feelings Free Follow Whole Parent on Instagram, Tiktok, Facebook,...

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