Excavating you

What happens when you’ve spent decades being dependable, capable, and strong for everyone else—but somewhere along the way, you’ve lost sight of yourself? In this powerful episode of The Wellness Puzzle Podcast, I speak with Kristen Crabtree, author of Be the You That’s More You Than You’ve Ever Been and creator of Paramour Paradox, a self-recovery ecosystem born not from theory, but from lived experience. For 52 years, Kristen describes herself as forgetting who she truly was—including 22 years in a psychologically abusive marriage. Eventually, she began the courageous process of rebuilding her life, peeling back the layers of expectation, conditioning, hurt, and invisibility to rediscover the person who had always been there. Kristen helps people who have spent years being steady, dependable, and often invisible realise an important truth: it is never too late to feel alive again. We explore identity, psychological abuse, self-worth, courage, healing, and what it means to “excavate” the authentic person underneath all the roles we play and stories we’ve accumulated. If you’ve ever wondered, “Who am I now?” or felt there must be more of you waiting to emerge, this conversation is for you. It’s time to start digging, start remembering, and start becoming more YOU than you’ve ever been. This is an honest, hopeful, and empowering conversation—not to be missed. To find out more about Kristen, Click Here My website is www.andrewjobling.com.au