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Why Men Get to Succeed and Women Get Exhausted with Quinn Otrera

June 16 · 1 hr 53 min · Episode 111 · 81.5 MBExplicit

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Episode 111: Hey loves! Welcome back to the podcast. Today, Quinn and I are wrapping up our two-part series on historian Gerda Lerner, and we are diving deep into her incredible book, The Creation of Feminist Consciousness. We’re unpacking exactly how women have spent the last 1,500 years fighting to break free from patriarchal programming and own their minds. 🧠✨

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In today's episode, Quinn and I are looking at what it means to actually "self-authorize"—to believe you have a right to your own thoughts and choices. For centuries, women were taught that our only purpose was to pour all our energy into the emotional, sexual, and professional development of a man (shoutout to fucking Jerry! 😂). We talk about how women's history was systematically erased, forcing generations of brilliant women to reinvent the wheel in isolation like lonely Robinson Crusoes on desert islands. 🏝️

We also break down the four things women absolutely need to turn their dreams into real-world freedom:

Economic independence 💰
Reproductive control 🤰
Equal access to education 📚
Autonomous social spaces outside the family unit 👯‍♀️

That fourth piece is exactly what we’ve built in our community—a space away from the male gaze where you can realize you aren't "too much," you're just brilliant. Once you see through the matrix of patriarchal thought, you can never unsee it. 🌍✨

Pop in your headphones and let’s dive in!

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The Creation of Feminist Consciousness - Gerda Lerner

Who Cooked Adam Smith's Dinner? by Katrine Marçal

The Exceptions by Kate Zernike

Invisible Women: Data Bias in a World Designed for Men by Caroline Criado Perez

The Power by Naomi Alderman