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The Self-Hype Podcast

Self-Hype

Welcome to ”The Self-Hype Podcast,” hosted by Eli Vazquez – your ultimate destination for unfiltered discussions on dating, love, personal development, and relationships. Get ready for Eli’s No-BS advice, raw talk on love, and empowering insights from expert guests in the dating and personal development sphere. Join us as Eli cuts through the noise, providing practical tips, relatable stories, and transformative wisdom to navigate the modern landscape of love and self-improvement.

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#121
Saturday · 23 min
Delulu Is Blind: Why the New Season Proves You Can’t Fast-Track Love
If you spent the entire new season of Love Is Blind screaming at your television, you are not alone. This week, Eli returns to the mic for a highly anticipated, wildly unfiltered deep dive into the latest mess of the pods. He breaks down why this season was simultaneously boring and incredibly telling, exposing the reality that "love" isn't blind—insecurity, desperation, and infatuation are. Eli roasts the "half-cooked chicken" maturity levels of the cast, explains why a guy who drops the F-bomb during a minor disagreement is showing you his true colors, and why staying out late kissing a stranger's bicep at your bachelorette party is not "wifey energy." Tune in for a hilarious, insightful masterclass on why you can't microwave a relationship, how to spot an F-boy in disguise, and why you need to see how a man handles conflict before you say "I do." Join My Coaching Membership Below? JOIN HERE Healthly Love Club JOIN HERE Want A Free Call To Learn About My 8-Week Healing Bootcamp? SCHEDULE HERE Follow The Pod And Eli: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez https://instagram.com/itselivazquez https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/@EliVazquez All rights reserved. ©2026 SELF-HYPE LLC #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #relationships #relationshipadvice
#120
October 23 · 45 min
How to Turn Your Pain Into Connection (And Feel Less Alone) w/ Shannon Lane
If you’ve ever wanted to literally paint a picture of your trauma and stare it right in the face, this episode is for you. Eli brings on viral artist Shannon Lane, who took the internet by storm by literally painting the "demons" of depression and anxiety. Shannon gets incredibly raw about turning to a paintbrush when she couldn’t afford expensive therapy, how her viral "You Are Not Alone" project became a digital safe haven for thousands of grieving people, and why avoiding your dark feelings only makes them stronger. Tune in for a deeply emotional, hilarious, and inspiring conversation on why you need to stop outrunning your anxiety, how to set strict boundaries as an empath, and why giving yourself permission to make "rubbish" art might actually save your mental health. About the Guest: Shannon Lane is a UK-based artist and digital creator known for her profoundly moving mental health paintings. After using art to navigate her own severe depression and anxiety, Shannon went massively viral for her "You Are Not Alone" project—a powerful visual representation of community solidarity against the "demons" of mental illness. She uses her growing platform to destigmatize mental health, share her journey with ADHD and anxiety, and encourage others to find healing through creative expression. Follow Shannon on Instagram: @shannonroselane Learn More About Shannon: shannonindreamland.com Join My Coaching Membership Below? JOIN HERE Healthly Love Club JOIN HERE Want A Free Call To Learn About My 8-Week Healing Bootcamp? SCHEDULE HERE Follow The Pod And Eli: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez https://instagram.com/itselivazquez https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/@EliVazquez All rights reserved. ©2026 SELF-HYPE LLC #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #relationships #relationshipadvice
#119
October 17 · 29 min
The External Validation Trap: Why Your Need To Be "Chosen" is Ruining Your Love Life
Are you making a relationship your ultimate life goal just so a man can finally validate your existence? Eli is here to violently dismantle that mindset. Stepping away from the usual dating mechanics, Eli unpacks the heavy, terrifying reality of finding your actual life purpose. He shares his own journey of moving to Chicago, slowing down, and mourning the fact that he missed out on long-term love in his 20s because he was too busy chasing the dopamine high of industry success. This episode is the ultimate wake-up call to stop outsourcing your self-esteem, stop dating your fear of being alone, and realize you are already enough. Join My Coaching Membership Below? JOIN HERE Healthly Love Club JOIN HERE Want A Free Call To Learn About My 8-Week Healing Bootcamp? SCHEDULE HERE Follow The Pod And Eli: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez https://instagram.com/itselivazquez https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/@EliVazquez All rights reserved. ©2026 SELF-HYPE LLC #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #relationships #relationshipadvice
#118
October 9 · 44 min
Even Beyoncé Got Cheated On: Spilling Celebrity Tea with Divorce Attorney Michele Locke
If Shakira and Beyoncé can get cheated on, absolutely nobody is safe. In this highly requested return episode, Eli sits down with badass divorce attorney Michele Locke to rip the glamorous filter off of celebrity marriages. They go totally unfiltered on the delusions of the Hollywood elite—from J.Lo’s endless lack of accountability to Tom Brady treating his supermodel wife like an off-season hobby. Michele drops some heavy truths about the damage of parental alienation in the Brangelina split and explains exactly why narcissists flock to the limelight. Tune in for a wildly entertaining masterclass on why celebrity relationship drama is exactly like regular toxic dating, just with a bigger yacht and a PR team. About the Guest: Michele Locke is a seasoned family law and divorce attorney, digital creator, and the host of the Love, Lust, Law podcast. With years of experience battling it out in the courtroom, Michele brings a sharp legal and psychological perspective to modern dating, marriage, and messy high-profile breakups. When she isn't breaking down the rampant personality disorders of Hollywood's elite, she’s empowering everyday people to navigate the realities of love and the legal system. Follow Michele: @attorneymichelelocke Join My Coaching Membership Below? JOIN HERE Healthly Love Club JOIN HERE Want A Free Call To Learn About My 8-Week Healing Bootcamp? SCHEDULE HERE Follow The Pod And Eli: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez https://instagram.com/itselivazquez https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/@EliVazquez All rights reserved. ©2026 SELF-HYPE LLC #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #relationships #relationshipadvice
#117
October 3 · 29 min
The Anxious Attachment Intervention: Why the "Spark" is BS and Other Listener Questions
Grab your notebook ya’ll. In this highly requested community Q&A episode, Eli battles through a nasty sinus infection to deliver the ultimate intervention for your anxious attachment. He holds nothing back as he roasts the delusion of waiting for a guy who literally told you he belongs to the streets, breaks down why you need to stop mistaking a panic attack for "the spark," and explains why healthy love feels more like Baked Lays than Flamin' Hot Cheetos. If you’re constantly spiraling over unreturned texts, missing a toxic ex just because you're lonely, or wondering why you keep attracting avoidants, this episode is your wake-up call to stop dating your own fear. Join My Coaching Membership Below? JOIN HERE Healthly Love Club JOIN HERE Want A Free Call To Learn About My 8-Week Healing Bootcamp? SCHEDULE HERE Follow The Pod And Eli: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez https://instagram.com/itselivazquez https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/@EliVazquez All rights reserved. ©2026 SELF-HYPE LLC #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #relationships #relationshipadvice
#116
September 26 · 58 min
How To Get Fit And Lose Weight When You’re Busy AF w/ Fitness Coach Ambrose Amin
Are you exhausted by Instagram trainers promising you'll drop 30 pounds in 30 days if you just "grind harder"? In this unfiltered guest episode, Eli sits down with his own personal trainer, Ambrose, to expose the absolute BS of the modern fitness industry. Ambrose breaks down why he walked away from a six-figure tech job at Meta to become a trainer who actually gives a damn about your mental health. They dive deep into the real reasons you aren't seeing results—unpacking how stress, binge eating, and a society designed to keep you sedentary are secretly sabotaging your goals. From redefining what it means to track your habits to realizing why your late-night Uber Eats habit is just a coping mechanism for your anxiety, this episode is a massive reality check. Get ready to stop beating yourself up over the scale and finally learn the mental shifts required to build a body (and a life) you actually love. About the Guest: Ambrose is an online fitness coach, athlete, and the founder of Body by Ambrose. After leaving behind a six-figure corporate career in tech (including a stint at Meta) and leveraging his background as a forensic accountant, Ambrose pivoted to the fitness industry to relentlessly call out its BS. He specializes in helping everyday people—especially women—achieve massive physical and mental transformations by focusing on habit-tracking, stress management, and realistic performance goals rather than toxic diet culture. Get 15% Off All Ambrose Coaching Services w/ Promo Code SelfHype15 Follow And Learn More: @bodybyambrose // https://bio.to/bodybyambrose Join My Coaching Membership: JOIN HERE Healthly Love Club: JOIN HERE Want A Free Call To Learn About My 8-Week Healing Bootcamp? SCHEDULE HERE Follow The Pod And Eli: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez https://instagram.com/itselivazquez https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/@EliVazquez All rights reserved. ©2026 SELF-HYPE LLC #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #relationships #relationshipadvice
#115
September 18 · 28 min
The Rom-Com Trap: How Rom Coms Ruined Modern Dating
In this highly requested solo episode, Eli takes a hilarious, unfiltered deep dive into why romantic comedies are secretly ruining our dating lives. Calling out everything from Notting Hill to cheesy Hallmark Christmas movies, Eli breaks down why we are all addicted to the "spark" and delusional fairy tales. He roasts your favorite cinematic heroines for emotionally cheating on their perfectly fine, hardworking fiancés just to run off with some guy who bakes gingerbread in a small town. Eli unpacks the bizarre lack of actual communication in these films, why "big romantic gestures" are usually just massive red flags for selfish behavior, and why real, sustainable love is about building a safe support system, not chasing a manufactured high. Get ready to laugh, feel incredibly called out, and finally unlearn the toxic relationship porn that Hollywood sold you. Join My Coaching Membership Below? JOIN HERE Healthly Love Club JOIN HERE Want A Free Call To Learn About My 8-Week Healing Bootcamp? SCHEDULE HERE Follow The Pod And Eli: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez https://instagram.com/itselivazquez https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/@EliVazquez All rights reserved. ©2026 SELF-HYPE LLC #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #relationships #relationshipadvice
#114
September 11 · 1 hr 1 min
How To Use Vulnerability As A Superpower w/ Author & Poet Cailin Hargreaves
If you’re currently sobbing over someone who abruptly decided to walk away, this episode is a massive, warm hug for your nervous system. Eli sits down with poet and bestselling author Cailin Hargreaves (whose viral words probably saved you at 3 AM) to talk about the brutal, unfiltered reality of sudden heartbreak. Cailin gets incredibly vulnerable about her own current separation, breaking down the literal physiological shock and trauma of experiencing an avoidant discard. They unpack why you absolutely cannot force yourself to "heal" in the middle of a storm, how childhood trauma shapes our coping mechanisms, and why your body is just trying to protect you. Tune in to learn why you need to stop aggressively rushing your healing process, how to find meaning in your absolute deepest pain, and why getting left behind is sometimes the exact catalyst you need to meet the most evolved version of yourself. About the Guest: Cailin Hargreaves is a London-based poet, digital creator, and author of the poetry collections Be the Light and Glimmers. After surviving a life-altering autoimmune diagnosis and sudden hearing loss at age 10, Cailin turned to writing as a survival tool to process her trauma and find the light in the darkness. Today, she uses her massive platform to create a safe, comforting corner of the internet for anyone navigating grief, chronic illness, and heartbreak. She is currently working on her debut memoir. Follow Cailin: @cayswords_ Join My Coaching Membership Below? JOIN HERE Healthly Love Club JOIN HERE Want A Free Call To Learn About My 8-Week Healing Bootcamp? SCHEDULE HERE Follow The Pod And Eli: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez https://instagram.com/itselivazquez https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/@EliVazquez All rights reserved. ©2026 SELF-HYPE LLC #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #relationships #relationshipadvice
#113
September 5 · 38 min
Diary Of A Former F*Boy: Why I Rebounded
Why does someone seem to move on so quickly after a breakup, especially when you’re still trying to pick up the pieces? In this deeply personal episode of The Self Hype Podcast, Eli Vazquez shares his own experience as a former avoidant who entered a rebound relationship while still emotionally raw from heartbreak. He opens up about the fear, loneliness, need for validation, childhood wounds, and emotional patterns that can make a new connection feel intoxicating before the old relationship has truly been processed. Eli also reflects on how avoidant attachment affected his relationships, why forgiveness without communication isn’t enough, and how his biggest dating mistakes ultimately forced him to confront the parts of himself he needed to change. Most importantly, this episode isn’t about obsessing over why your ex chose someone else. It’s about understanding that their next relationship is not a measurement of your worth, taking the lessons from what happened, and using heartbreak as an opportunity to become a healthier version of yourself. Sometimes moving on isn’t about finding someone better. Sometimes it’s about running from feelings you haven’t learned how to face. Join My Coaching Membership Below? JOIN HERE Healthly Love Club JOIN HERE Want A Free Call To Learn About My 8-Week Healing Bootcamp? SCHEDULE HERE Follow The Pod And Eli: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez https://instagram.com/itselivazquez https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/@EliVazquez All rights reserved. ©2026 SELF-HYPE LLC #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #relationships #relationshipadvice
#112
August 28 · 19 min
Why Men Won't Settle Down In Modern Dating & What To Do About It
In this spicy, highly requested solo episode, Eli dives deep into the controversial truth about why modern men are so terrified of settling down. He spills the tea on the male psychology behind dating, breaking down how the endless dopamine loop of hookup culture has completely warped men's sense of self-worth. Eli gets real about the massive difference in social pressure between men and women, using a brilliant Matthew Hussey analogy to explain the timeline gap. But this isn't just about dragging guys who are stuck in their 20s—Eli flips the script to show you how to stop dating your own abandonment wounds, why a man's inability to commit is actually a massive blessing in disguise, and how to set boundaries that protect your peace. Prepare to be frustrated, liberated, and ready to make rejection your new best friend. Join My Coaching Membership Below? JOIN HERE Want A Free Call To Learn About My 8-Week Healing Bootcamp? SCHEDULE HERE Follow The Pod And Eli: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez https://instagram.com/itselivazquez https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/@EliVazquez All rights reserved. ©2026 SELF-HYPE LLC #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #relationships #relationshipadvice
#111
August 21 · 51 min
Unlearning Toxic Masculinity: Body Counts, Brotherhood, & Real Allyship w/ Sander Jennings
In this powerhouse guest episode, Eli sits down with digital creator and advocate Sander Jennings to completely dismantle the toxic man playbook. Sander gets totally unfiltered about his journey from a college guy to politically active advocate who knows true strength means crying with your friends. They roast the red pill manosphere’s obsession with "getting rich, ripped, and laid," and break down why emotional intelligence, empathy, and respecting women is the actual flex. If you've ever wondered if healthy masculinity exists—or if guys actually talk about this stuff behind closed doors—this episode is your proof that doing the inner work is the absolute hottest thing a man can do. About Our Guest: Sander Jennings is a digital creator, strategist, and founder of DigiEmpower with 1.7M+ followers across platforms. He creates authentic content bridging lifestyle and politics, using his platform to advance LGBTQ+ rights, reproductive freedom, and healthy masculinity. His work extends beyond the camera through creator training programs, nonprofit partnerships, and digital strategy consulting that helps movements build community and shift culture. He believes real impact comes from showing up authentically, doing the work to know yourself, and using whatever privilege and platform you have to stand up for others. Follow Sander: https://www.instagram.com/sander_jennings/ Join My Coaching Membership Below? JOIN HERE Want A Free Call To Learn About My 8-Week Healing Bootcamp? SCHEDULE HERE Follow The Pod And Eli: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez https://instagram.com/itselivazquez https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/@EliVazquez All rights reserved. ©2026 SELF-HYPE LLC #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #relationships #relationshipadvice
#110
August 14 · 40 min
Why Red Pill Is Bull Sh*T: A Breakdown Of How Manosphere is Just Weaponized Insecurity
In this highly requested episode, Eli steps slightly outside of his usual relationship advice to go completely unfiltered on the manosphere. As a reformed "dusty man" turned dating coach, he debunks the most toxic Red Pill myths currently poisoning modern romance. From tearing apart the "80/20 rule" to calling out why the obsession with being a stoic, dominant "Alpha Male" is actually just a massive neon sign for deep-seated insecurity, Eli holds absolutely nothing back. He breaks down the delusion that women hit a "wall" at 30, why suppressing your emotions makes you weak (not strong), and how internet echo chambers are terrifying an entire generation into avoiding real love. If you’re tired of the algorithmic gender wars and want the real tea on what healthy masculinity and high-value dating actually look like, this episode is your ultimate antidote. Join My Coaching Membership Below? JOIN HERE Want A Free Call To Learn About My 8-Week Healing Bootcamp? SCHEDULE HERE Follow The Pod And Eli: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez https://instagram.com/itselivazquez https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/@EliVazquez All rights reserved. ©2026 SELF-HYPE LLC #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #relationships #relationshipadvice
#109
August 7 · 25 min
Stop Being A Dick To Yourself: Grieving Your Timelines & Finding Real Joy
In this raw and unfiltered solo episode, Eli hits pause on the usual relationship psychology to get real about aging, anxiety, and why getting everything you ever wanted can actually feel like a massive letdown. Celebrating his 36th birthday from his new Chicago apartment, Eli takes us through the terrifying "exposure therapy" of slowing down after years of digital nomading and chasing dopamine. He breaks down the hard truth that we are all secretly mourning the timeline of our goals—and why the fantasy of success rarely matches the reality. From unpacking why you can't just slap "numbing ointment" on deep emotional wounds, to realizing that surviving your messy 20s means your 30s are primed for greatness, Eli holds nothing back. You’ll feel seen, you’ll feel called out, and you’ll leave with a reality check on why stopping the relentless hustle—and refusing to be a dick to yourself—is the ultimate flex. Join My Coaching Membership Below? JOIN HERE Want A Free Call To Learn About My 8-Week Healing Bootcamp? SCHEDULE HERE Follow The Pod And Eli: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez https://instagram.com/itselivazquez https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/@EliVazquez All rights reserved. ©2026 SELF-HYPE LLC #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #relationships #relationshipadvice
#108
July 3 · 27 min
Can He Process the Breakup While Rebounding And More! Your Community Questions Answered
In this AMA episode, Eli dives into the Instagram mailbag to answer your most burning questions about avoidant exes, messy breakups, and the reality of the healing era. He tackles the ultimate question: can an avoidant ex actually process your breakup while monkey-branching into a new relationship? (Spoiler: Hell no.) Eli breaks down the neuroscience of heartbreak, explaining why your brain goes through literal drug withdrawals and why your biological "tribal" instincts trick you into feeling guilty for leaving a toxic situation. He also unpacks why avoidant men use rebounds as emotional crutches to avoid facing their own core wounds. You’ll leave this episode understanding that heartbreak isn't just sadness—it's grief—and why sitting in the discomfort is the only way to truly rewire your nervous system. Join My Coaching Membership Below? JOIN HERE Want A Free Call To Learn About My 8-Week Healing Bootcamp? SCHEDULE HERE Follow The Pod And Eli: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez https://instagram.com/itselivazquez https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/@EliVazquez All rights reserved. ©2026 SELF-HYPE LLC #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #relationships #relationshipadvice
#107
June 26 · 24 min
How To Get Over The Fear Of Rejection To Find Healthy Love
Welcome back to the Selfhype Podcast! This week, Eli is diving into the sweet, beautiful, and absolutely terrifying world of rejection. If you’re letting the fear of a "no" hold you back from your dream career, your personal growth, or filtering out that dusty-ass ex, it's time to wake up. We’re talking all about rejection therapy, having the audacity to take up space, and training your nervous system to realize that a "no" is just a stepping stone to your true potential. Stop living in your comfort zone and start building iron-clad discipline over fleeting motivation. Hit play, take notes, and then go out and get rejected—you deserve it. Join My Coaching Membership Below? JOIN HERE Want A Free Call To Learn About My 8-Week Healing Bootcamp? SCHEDULE HERE Follow The Pod And Eli: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez https://instagram.com/itselivazquez https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/@EliVazquez All rights reserved. ©2026 SELF-HYPE LLC #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #relationships #relationshipadvice
#106
June 20 · 48 min
Rewiring Your Mind To Create The Life You Deserve w/ NASA Mental Coach Dani B.
If your knee-jerk reaction to conflict is to shut down or freak out, your subconscious might be stuck in the third grade. In this incredibly nerdy and insightful episode, Eli geeks out with Danny B, a certified aerospace mental fitness coach who works directly with the teams at NASA. Dani breaks down the literal neuroscience of how our brains get programmed, and hands you the exact blueprint to rewire those outdated neural pathways. From mastering the STEA process (Stimulus, Thought, Emotion, Action) to shifting out of a chronic fight-or-flight state, this episode bridges the gap between rocket science and relationship psychology. You’ll learn why your phone is a "weapon of mass distraction," how to physically change through repetition, and why regulating your nervous system is the ultimate life hack. Join My Coaching Membership Below? JOIN HERE Want A Free Call To Learn About My 8-Week Healing Bootcamp? SCHEDULE HERE Follow The Pod And Eli: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez https://instagram.com/itselivazquez https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/@EliVazquez All rights reserved. ©2026 SELF-HYPE LLC #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #relationships #relationshipadvice
#105
June 5 · 22 min
The No BS Truth On Healing: How to Bounce Back When You Break No Contact
If you just caved and texted your toxic ex, hooked up with him, or stalked his new girlfriend’s Instagram story—take a deep breath. In this solo episode, Eli is letting you off the hook. He breaks down why failure in your healing era is not actually failure; it's a completely normal biological response to losing your "tribe." Eli explains why beating yourself up is a waste of energy and challenges you to ask a different question: What did touching the hot stove teach me this time? You’ll learn how to reframe your missteps as vital data points, why true mental fitness requires daily practice (just like going to the gym), and how to translate your momentary "failures" into strict new boundaries. Join My Coaching Membership Below? JOIN HERE Want A Free Call To Learn About My 8-Week Healing Bootcamp? SCHEDULE HERE Follow The Pod And Eli: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez https://instagram.com/itselivazquez https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/@EliVazquez All rights reserved. ©2026 SELF-HYPE LLC #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #relationships #relationshipadvice
#104
May 29 · 19 min
The Independence Blueprint: How to Love Without Losing Yourself
If you have a history of making a man the absolute center of your universe and abandoning your own life, this episode is your intervention. Eli is breaking down exactly how to protect your independence without sacrificing a secure partnership. He unpacks the harsh truth that your partner is supposed to be your support system, not your cure—and if you expect him to fix your anxiety or loneliness, you're setting the relationship up for failure. Eli shares the "blueprint" for maintaining your personal non-negotiables, why "bending" for a partner breeds resentment but "considering" them builds trust, and why keeping your friendships alive is actually crucial for the health of your romance. If you’re terrified of losing yourself again, tune in to learn how to keep your tribe, protect your joy, and make yourself a priority. Join My Coaching Membership Below? JOIN HERE Want A Free Call To Learn About My 8-Week Healing Bootcamp? SCHEDULE HERE Follow The Pod And Eli: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez https://instagram.com/itselivazquez https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/@EliVazquez All rights reserved. ©2026 SELF-HYPE LLC #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #relationships #relationshipadvice
#103
May 22 · 1 hr
How To Use Joy To Rebuild Your Life After Heartbreak w/ SC Perot
What happens when your "perfect on paper" life suddenly falls apart? In this episode, Eli sits down with author and former corporate lawyer SC Perot to talk about surviving the ultimate life plot twist. SC opens up about the acute grief of navigating divorce during the pandemic—losing not just a partner, but her community, her house, and her dog. She explains how she traded her corporate blazers for feather boas, using long walks and a Harry Styles-themed "Eat, Pray, Love" adventure to slowly regulate her nervous system and find herself again. Eli and SC break down her four-pillar framework for cultivating joy, why true joy requires us to embrace our grief, and how to unlearn the toxic conditioning that happiness is something you have to constantly achieve. If you are going through a messy life transition, this episode is your reminder to trust the process. Join My Coaching Membership Below? LEARN MORE ABOUT SC Join My Coaching Membership Below? JOIN HERE Want A Free Call To Learn About My 8-Week Healing Bootcamp? SCHEDULE HERE Follow The Pod And Eli: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez https://instagram.com/itselivazquez https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/@EliVazquez All rights reserved. ©2026 SELF-HYPE LLC #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #relationships #relationshipadvice
#102
May 15 · 18 min
How To Do "The Inner Work" While Single (So You Don't Repeat Toxic Cycles)
If you are terrified of losing yourself in another relationship or repeating the same toxic patterns, this episode is your official game plan. Eli answers one of the most common questions he gets: How do I actually "do the work" when I don't currently have a partner triggering me? He breaks down why you can't truly simulate a romantic relationship while single, but how you can still prep your nervous system for a secure one. Sharing his own current journey of facing fears (like finally signing a 12-month apartment lease after years of being a digital nomad), Eli explains how to identify the deep-rooted fears running your life. You’ll learn how to trace your people-pleasing and overachieving back to your childhood, how to reframe your survival traits as gifts, and exactly how to practice setting boundaries in your daily life before you ever go on another first date. Join My Coaching Membership Below? JOIN HERE Want A Free Call To Learn About My 8-Week Healing Bootcamp? SCHEDULE HERE Follow The Pod And Eli: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez https://instagram.com/itselivazquez https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/@EliVazquez All rights reserved. ©2026 SELF-HYPE LLC #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #relationships #relationshipadvice

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