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The Season of Self Love · June 1 · 29 min

When They Weaponize Your Past"

💬 Got something to share? Text or voice note me This week, Nyomi's celebrating her mother's 75th birthday. Her mother is living with dementia—her memories are fading. But she's MORE herself now. Without the masks. Without the performance. Just HER. The truth: You are not your past. You are who you ARE now. When people bring up your past to diminish you, control you, or justify mistreatment—that's not about YOU. That's about THEM. It's about their limitation. In this powerful episode, Nyomi breaks down three real stories (Drake, a young lady in chat, and her own inbox) and teaches you how to recognize weaponization and set boundaries around it. You'll learn: Why people weaponize your past (it's about THEIR limitation, not your worth) What to do in 5 steps How to reclaim your truth Your past doesn't define you. Their inability to see beyond it defines them. Next Wednesday: Setting Boundaries (Action Wednesday with 5 exercises) Connect: @TheRealNyomiBanks | YouTube: @TheSeasonofSelfLovewNyomiBanks #UnderestimatedAndUnstoppable #ReclaimedAndUnashamed #BoundariesAreSelfLove Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-season-of-self-love--6003379/support. "Thank you for spending this time with me on The Season of Self Love. Remember, self-love isn't selfish – it's sacred. You are worthy of the love you so freely give to others. If today's episode resonated with you, share it with someone who needs this reminder. And don't forget to rate and review the show – it helps us reach more beautiful souls. Connect with me on Instagram @TheRealNyomiBanks and @TheSeasonofSelfLovePodcast visit theseasonofselflovecom for resources and our downloadable workbook. Want to be a guest on The Season of Self Love? Send Nyomi Banks a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/171967138753618818df2d7f3 Until Monday – keep choosing YOU. This is your girl, the goddess Nyomi Banks. Stay in your season." Elevate Me: Self Discovery App 4-phase self-love journey: meditations, workbooks, coaching chat & journaling. Goli Ashwagandha Gummies Daily wellness support for grounding & stress relief. Use code AskNyomi for a discount! --- ## 💬 CONNECT WITH ME **Text or Voice Note:** Use the link below to send me a message or voice note directly through Buzzsprout. I read and listen to everything! **Instagram:** @TheRealNyomiBanks | @TheSeasonofSelfLovePodcast **Website:** theseasonofselflove.com **YouTube:** Subscribe to @TheSeasonofSelfLove for video episodes, behind-the-scenes content, and more! --- ## 🎯 ELEVATE ME: SELF-DISCOVERY APP Ready to go deeper with guided support? **Elevate Me: Self-Discovery** is an AI-powered coaching app with 4 transformation phases, guided meditations, body scans, journaling prompts, and personalized daily practices. 👉 **Learn more:** studio.com/nyomi Join the mailing list: elevatemenyomi.com --- ## 📋 SHOW NOTES & RESOURCES All links, templates, exercises, and resources mentioned in this episode are available in the full show notes above. --- ## 🙏 CLOSING Be good to one another and yourselves, and always keep it sexy. Love yourself first so you can love others well. **Have a good one.** 💜 --- ...

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💬 Got something to share? Text or voice note me

This week, Nyomi's celebrating her mother's 75th birthday. Her mother is living with dementia—her memories are fading. But she's MORE herself now. Without the masks. Without the performance. Just HER.

The truth: You are not your past. You are who you ARE now. When people bring up your past to diminish you, control you, or justify mistreatment—that's not about YOU. That's about THEM. It's about their limitation.

In this powerful episode, Nyomi breaks down three real stories (Drake, a young lady in chat, and her own inbox) and teaches you how to recognize weaponization and set boundaries around it. You'll learn:
  • Why people weaponize your past (it's about THEIR limitation, not your worth)
  • What to do in 5 steps
  • How to reclaim your truth
Your past doesn't define you. Their inability to see beyond it defines them.
Next Wednesday: Setting Boundaries (Action Wednesday with 5 exercises)
 Connect: @TheRealNyomiBanks | YouTube: @TheSeasonofSelfLovewNyomiBanks #UnderestimatedAndUnstoppable #ReclaimedAndUnashamed #BoundariesAreSelfLove

Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-season-of-self-love--6003379/support.

"Thank you for spending this time with me on The Season of Self Love. Remember, self-love isn't selfish – it's sacred. You are worthy of the love you so freely give to others.

If today's episode resonated with you, share it with someone who needs this reminder. And don't forget to rate and review the show – it helps us reach more beautiful souls.

Connect with me on Instagram @TheRealNyomiBanks and @TheSeasonofSelfLovePodcast
visit theseasonofselflovecom for resources and our downloadable workbook.

Want to be a guest on The Season of Self Love? Send Nyomi Banks a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/171967138753618818df2d7f3

Until Monday – keep choosing YOU.
This is your girl, the goddess Nyomi Banks. Stay in your season."


Elevate Me: Self Discovery App
4-phase self-love journey: meditations, workbooks, coaching chat & journaling.


Goli Ashwagandha Gummies
Daily wellness support for grounding & stress relief. Use code AskNyomi for a discount!

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## 💬 CONNECT WITH ME

**Text or Voice Note:** Use the link below to send me a message or voice note directly through Buzzsprout. I read and listen to everything!

**Instagram:** @TheRealNyomiBanks | @TheSeasonofSelfLovePodcast

**Website:** theseasonofselflove.com

**YouTube:** Subscribe to @TheSeasonofSelfLove for video episodes, behind-the-scenes content, and more!

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## 🎯 ELEVATE ME: SELF-DISCOVERY APP

Ready to go deeper with guided support?

**Elevate Me: Self-Discovery** is an AI-powered coaching app with 4 transformation phases, guided meditations, body scans, journaling prompts, and personalized daily practices.

👉 **Learn more:**  studio.com/nyomi  

Join the mailing list: elevatemenyomi.com

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## 📋 SHOW NOTES & RESOURCES

All links, templates, exercises, and resources mentioned in this episode are available in the full show notes above.

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## 🙏 CLOSING

Be good to one another and yourselves, and always keep it sexy.

Love yourself first so you can love others well.

**Have a good one.** 💜

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