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The Resurrection Room with Kelli Shaw

Kelli Shaw

The Resurrection Room is a sacred space for the version of you that’s ready to rise.

This podcast is for the person who’s tired of repeating patterns they don’t even like… but doesn’t know how to become someone different without pretending, performing, or burning out.

I’m Kelli Shaw, a certified integrative health coach and a neuroscience researcher, and each episode blends brain science, nervous system wisdom, and spiritual truth to help you actually change—starting at the root.

Because we work from the top down: Identity is always first. Then perception. Your perception creates your behavior. Your behavior dictates your actions and your actions produce your results. Your results won’t change consistently until your identity does.

Inside The Resurrection Room, you’ll get:

Cinematic, story-driven teaching that hits your real life
Simple frameworks you can repeat when your emotions get loud
Identity tools for rebuilding your self-concept (without shame)
Nervous system resets when you’re stuck in survival mode
Practical exercises so you don’t just feel inspired—you move

If you’ve been surviving on autopilot, shrinking to stay safe, or praying for change while staying the same… come sit with me.

New episodes help you release who you used to be—and resurrect who you’re meant to be.

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#49
October 17 · 19 min
The 4 Things You Need to Create an Updated Identity
You can know what you want your life to look like and still feel unsure how to begin. In this episode, Kelli explores four things that can support you as you practice an updated identity: a clear vision, a sense of safety, repetition, and evidence. Drawing on Habakkuk 2:2, Kelli shares how to make your vision plain even when you do not know every step ahead. She also explains what it can mean for your body to feel safe while you try something new, and offers practical ways to meet uncertainty with steadiness and support. Then, learn how to choose a small daily habit that expresses the identity you are practicing, connect it to a time and cue, and reframe the moment when you do not feel like beginning. Each action gives you experience to learn from and evidence you can recognize. In this episode, you’ll learn: How to clarify your vision without having the entire path mapped out What a sense of safety can feel like in the body Ways to prepare for a new or uncomfortable action How to choose a daily habit, set a time, and plan for resistance How repeated actions create evidence for an updated identity How identity shapes perception, perception dictates behavior, behavior drives actions, and actions produce outcomes Try the listener exercise: Write the vision you are moving toward, name the identity you are practicing, choose one small action, set a time and cue, and record what you did as evidence. If this episode encouraged you, share it with someone who may need it, and please leave a rating and a written review. Stay connected with The Resurrection Room Join the email list Join the Facebook group SHIFT AI If you’re carrying a message, business, or ministry you’re ready to share, explore SHIFT AI through Kelli’s link.
#48
October 9 · 20 min
Be. Do. Have. Are You Wanting It or Are You Becoming It?
Be, Do, Have: Are You Wanting It, or Are You Becoming Her? "I want to own my own business" and "I am an entrepreneur" describe the same dream, but they feel completely different in your body, and your brain treats them differently too. In this episode of The Resurrection Room, Kelli Shaw breaks down the Be, Do, Have principle and shows why so many accomplished women have been building their lives in the reverse order, waiting to have the money, the time, or the clients before they give themselves permission to become the woman who has them. Kelli walks through what your brain does every time you say "I want," why your self-concept works as a prediction your behavior follows, and what research on identity-based motivation reveals about why some women keep going after a rejection while others decide the dream was never for them. Then she takes you into Judges 6, where God calls Gideon a mighty warrior while he is hiding in a winepress, and shows how God has always spoken identity first. In this episode: Why Have, Do, Be keeps the life you want permanently out in front of you The difference you can feel in your body between "I want" and "I am" How your brain's prediction engine and reticular activating system respond to identity statements Christopher Bryan's research on "voting" versus "being a voter," and Daphna Oyserman's work on identity-based motivation The porch and the house: the difference between wanting a life and living inside it The new nurse analogy, and why the identity comes before the evidence Two women, one Saturday morning, and how identity shapes what we do with the same two hours Gideon, called a mighty warrior while he was hiding, and the God who calls into being things that were not Four mistakes that keep women stuck in wanting, including how to use a bridge statement when "I am" feels too far away The Seven-Day Be, Do, Have Practice Mentioned in this episode: Lisa Feldman Barrett, research on the predictive brain Christopher Bryan and colleagues, Stanford research on noun-based identity wording and voter turnout Daphna Oyserman, identity-based motivation Judges 6:12 (NIV): "When the angel of the Lord appeared to Gideon, he said, 'The Lord is with you, mighty warrior.'" Romans 4:17 (NIV): "the God who gives life to the dead and calls into being things that were not." This week's practice: The Seven-Day Be, Do, Have Practice Day 1: Write one thing you have been wanting as an "I want" statement, then rewrite it as an "I am" statement. If it feels too far away, use a bridge statement that begins "I am a woman who..." Day 2: List five small, specific things the woman in your "I am" statement does regularly. Days 3 to 7: Speak your "I am" statement out loud each morning, complete one action from your list each day, and each evening write one sentence of evidence: "Today I lived as [your identity] when I [what you did]." All week: Catch every "I want," "someday," and "once I have," and restate it from your new identity. The Resurrection Room framework: Your identity shapes your perception, your perception dictates your behavior, your behavior drives your actions, and your actions produce your outcomes. Join The Resurrection Room Facebook community, where women doing their own identity work share what they are learning and put these conversations into practice: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61588999984832 Join the email list for deeper identity work, reflections, and resources between episodes: https://kelli-shaw.kit.com/32980db5e9 If this episode helped you, share it with the woman who has been saying "someday" for as long as you have known her, and leave a rating and review so The Resurrection Room can reach more women who are ready to rise. The Resurrection Room with Kelli Shaw, where you rise to who you were always meant to be so you can live the life you were always meant to live.
#47
October 3 · 25 min
How to Set Goals You Actually Achieve
Setting a goal can feel exciting, but excitement alone cannot carry you through the days when progress feels slow, doubt begins speaking, or an old pattern tempts you to stop. In this continuation of Only 30 Days to an Entirely New Reality, Kelli explains how to turn a meaningful goal into a process you can follow. You will learn why achieving a goal requires both an execution plan and an identity plan and how these two plans work together to help you continue after the initial excitement fades. Your execution plan identifies what you want to accomplish, the strategy you will use, the repeated actions that support it, and when those actions will happen. Your identity plan prepares you to recognize the beliefs, emotions, and behaviors that may surface as you begin asking more of yourself. In this episode, you will learn: The difference between a vision and a measurable goal The four parts of an execution plan How to choose a strategy that fits your current season How to turn your intentions into scheduled, repeatable actions Why every meaningful goal creates an identity question How your language can reinforce an old identity or support a new one How to prepare for the moment an old pattern appears How to create evidence that strengthens the identity you are practicing How to use an Evidence Book or Proof Journal during your 30-day practice Your Exercise Choose one meaningful goal and create two plans. Execution Plan What specific result am I working toward? What strategy will I use? What repeated actions does that strategy require? When will I complete those actions? Identity Plan Who am I practicing being as I pursue this goal? What old belief or behavior is likely to appear? How will I respond when it appears? What action can I complete today that creates evidence? At the end of each day, record what you completed, what you learned, and one moment that reflects the identity you are practicing. Every completed action—and every decision to return after a missed day—becomes evidence. Continue the Conversation Download this episode so you can return to the exercise while creating your execution plan and identity plan. Share it with a woman who has a meaningful goal and wants a practical way to continue working toward it. Join Kelli’s email list for practical identity tools, episode updates, and conversations that will help you apply what you are learning: Join the email list Join The Resurrection Room Facebook group to continue the conversation, share your evidence, and connect with women who are practicing new ways of thinking, responding, and living: Join the Facebook group If this episode served you, please leave a written review and a rating. Your words help other women understand what they can expect from The Resurrection Room, and your rating helps more listeners discover the podcast. You are loved, you are seen, you are not forgotten, and you are not too late. You can rise and I believe you will. Go gently. Go boldly. And let your resurrection begin.
#46
September 21 · 22 min
Only 30 Days to an Entirely New Reality
What would you practice today if you truly knew you could grow into the person you’ve been praying to become? You may have a goal that keeps coming back to your heart, even as familiar doubts influence how you approach it. In this episode, we explore how your beliefs about yourself shape your decisions and how intentional daily actions can help you begin building a different understanding of who you are. I’m sharing four practices to bring into the next thirty days: choosing one meaningful goal, protecting your attention, responding thoughtfully to doubt, and expressing gratitude through action. Together, we’ll connect faith, identity, and the everyday choices that give your growth a place in your life. In this episode, we explore: How to identify the deeper reason behind your goal so you have something meaningful to return to when following through becomes inconvenient. How comparison and other people’s opinions can pull your attention away from your own progress. A simple practice for pausing, naming your concern, and choosing your next step when doubt appears. How confirmation bias can reinforce familiar beliefs and cause you to overlook evidence of your growth. How identity statements become more meaningful when you connect them to specific actions. Faith, prayer, and Mark 11:24, with reflection on how you live after you have prayed. How gratitude and a flexible approach can support your next steps. Your thirty-day practice Choose one goal, write down why it matters, and identify the person you want to practice being as you work toward it. Each day, choose a manageable action, decide when you’ll complete it, and record what you did and learned. Review your progress weekly and make adjustments as needed. Keep this question with you: “What would I practice today if I truly knew I could grow into the person I’ve been praying to become?” Continue listening How to Rewire Your Subconscious Mind and Get Rid of Limiting Beliefs for Good Let’s stay connected Join our Email list and Facebook group and tell us the goal you’re choosing and the identity you’re practicing through it. I would love to hear what you’re working toward. Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61588999984832 Email list: https://kelli-shaw.kit.com/32980db5e9 If this conversation encouraged you, follow The Resurrection Room with Kelli Shaw, download the episode, leave a rating and written review, and share it with someone you thought of while listening. Thank you for helping other women find their way into the room. You are loved, you are seen, you are not forgotten, and you are not too late… Go gently. Go boldly. And let your resurrection begin.
#45
September 14 · 21 min
Before Identity Shapes Your Life, Where Does Your Identity Begin?
Before anyone told you who you were, something was already true about you. So where does identity begin? In this episode of The Resurrection Room with Kelli Shaw, Kelli goes beneath the labels, roles, accomplishments, failures, and survival patterns we often mistake for identity. We explore the difference between original identity and acquired identity, including how experiences become interpretations, interpretations become beliefs, and repeated beliefs become part of the way we see ourselves. You’ll hear how this process connects to Kelli’s identity framework: Identity shapes your perception. Your perception dictates your behavior. Your behavior drives your actions. Your actions produce your outcomes. The problem begins when the identity driving this cycle was formed through rejection, fear, comparison, financial struggle, criticism, abandonment, or the need to earn love and approval. A belief such as “my voice causes problems,” “I’m bad with money,” “I never finish anything,” or “I have to hold everything together” starts as a conclusion. After enough repetition, it begins to feel like personality. But what if the identity you’ve practiced isn’t the identity you were created to carry? In this episode, we explore: How acquired identities form through childhood, relationships, experiences, and repetition Why an experience and the meaning you assign to the experience are two different things How identity influences what you notice, expect, avoid, and pursue Why old identities keep producing familiar outcomes The connection between purpose and identity What Scripture teaches about being known and formed by God before receiving the opinions of others How to separate who you are from who you learned to become How to begin living from a purpose-rooted identity without pretending you’ve already mastered everything You’ll also receive a two-list reflection exercise for identifying the beliefs and labels you acquired, tracing where they began, and naming the deeper qualities connected to who you believe you were created to be. This week, ask yourself: Who was I before I learned to evaluate myself through other people’s responses? What remains true about me when nobody is applauding? What does my purpose reveal about my identity? And where did I learn the beliefs I’ve been calling “who I am”? Your purpose didn’t appear when you finally became confident enough to pursue it. And the woman equipped to carry it didn’t appear yesterday. She has been there from the beginning. Scripture referenced: Jeremiah 1:5 Psalm 139 Follow The Resurrection Room with Kelli Shaw, so you don’t miss an episode. Join the FACEBOOK COMMUNITY and EMAIL LIST through the links in the show notes. If this episode encouraged you, share it with another woman who needs this conversation and leave a rating and review to help more women find The Resurrection Room with Kelli Shaw. You are loved. You are seen. You are not forgotten. And you are not too late. Go gently. Go boldly. And let your resurrection begin.
#44
September 6 · 20 min
The Millionaire Identity: Why 100K and 1 Million Are Never About the Money
How to Adopt a Millionaire Identity Most people allow their current circumstances to tell them who they are. They look at an unfinished project and decide they are inconsistent. They remember an opportunity they were afraid to pursue and conclude they lack courage. They look at their present income and allow a number to become a verdict on their future capacity. Once these conclusions become part of your identity, your mind begins collecting evidence to support them. You notice every moment that confirms the belief and discount the experiences that contradict it. In this episode, Kelli explains why building a million-dollar business requires more than increasing your workload. Moving from $100,000 to $1 million often requires a new relationship with value, leverage, visibility, uncertainty, responsibility, and self-trust. A millionaire identity does not wait for present evidence to grant her permission. She chooses beliefs that allow her to create different evidence. In This Episode, You’ll Discover How past behavior becomes a limiting identity when you turn an event into a permanent definition Why “I did not finish” and “I am someone who never finishes” create two very different futures The identity shift commonly required to move from personal effort to scalable value Why present results measure what has already happened without determining what can happen next How self-beliefs influence what you notice, attempt, interpret, and sustain Why visibility may feel threatening when your identity says your voice does not matter How to create believable evidence for a new identity through repeated behavior The difference between looking successful and developing the capacity to carry success How Kelli speaks into the podcast from the belief that The Resurrection Room is reaching millions of listeners One action you can take within 24 hours to begin practicing your millionaire identity The Core Teaching Identity shapes your perception. Perception dictates your behavior. Behavior drives your actions. Actions produce outcomes. We work from the top down. Identity is always first. Your circumstances can provide useful information, but they do not get to assign your identity. When you stop asking your past to predict your capacity, you become available for decisions that can produce different evidence. Reflection Question What does the woman who can create, hold, and multiply a million dollars believe about herself that I am ready to practice believing now? Choose one belief that changes the meaning of your next move: I finish the work that matters. My voice becomes stronger through use. I can make wise decisions without having perfect information. I create value, and I allow myself to be well compensated for it. I can learn to manage what I am asking to receive. Your One Action Take one millionaire-identity action within the next 24 hours. Send the proposal. Publish the offer. Review the numbers. Ask for the introduction. Finish the page. Schedule the sales conversation. Delegate the task someone else can carry. Choose one action the future version of you would recognize as consistent with who she is—and complete it before your present circumstances talk you out of it. Stay Connected Join The Resurrection Room email list for deeper identity teachings, episode updates, and resources: Join the Email List Continue the conversation with women who are releasing former identities and rising into who they were always meant to be: Join the Facebook Community If this episode helped you see yourself differently, follow the show, download the episode, and leave a rating and written review. Your review helps another woman discover The Resurrection Room. Share this episode with the woman who is ready to stop using old evidence to determine what is possible for her next.
#43
August 31 · 23 min
You Don't Have to Wait for Your Life to Fall Apart to Change
Last week, we talked about Joshua and what happens when life changes so dramatically that the identity you’ve been living from can no longer carry you forward. Moses died. Joshua became the leader. His circumstances changed before he had time to decide whether he was ready. That kind of disruption can create a powerful neuroplasticity window. But what happens when there is no crisis? Do you have to wait until something falls apart before your brain becomes available for meaningful change? No. Your brain also changes through repetition, and that means you can participate in shaping your identity before circumstances force you to. In Part 2 of this conversation, we explore the other side of neuroplasticity: how small, consistent experiences can teach your brain something new about who you are. Your brain learns patterns from what you repeatedly think, notice, interpret, and do. Over time, those experiences become familiar, and familiarity influences what your brain expects from you. This is why we always come back to the same principle inside The Resurrection Room: Identity shapes your perception. Your perception dictates your behavior. Your behavior drives your actions. And your actions produce your outcomes. If you keep trying to change the outcome without addressing the identity producing it, you can work incredibly hard and still find yourself recreating familiar patterns. In this episode, we talk about what happens when you move back to the beginning of the chain. You’ll learn why repetition is so important to neuroplasticity, why a changed circumstance doesn’t automatically create a changed identity, how Joshua experienced both disruption and repetition, and how small behaviors can become lived evidence that challenges an identity you have carried for years. Most importantly, I’m giving you one practice for the next seven days: Choose one small behavior that gives your brain evidence for the identity you are building. You aren't trying to overhaul your entire life this week. You're collecting evidence. Seven days. Seven experiences that give your brain another reason to consider: Maybe this is who we are now. Continue the Conversation If The Resurrection Room is helping you see yourself and your life differently, I would love for you to take a moment to rate the podcast and write a review. If you listen on Apple Podcasts, scroll down to the Ratings & Reviews section, choose your star rating, and tap Write a Review. Tell me what the show has meant to you or what you're learning from these conversations. Your ratings and reviews help more women discover The Resurrection Room and find these conversations when they need them. Get on the email list: https://kelli-shaw.kit.com/32980db5e9 The podcast may end each week, but the conversation doesn't. Join the email community for additional teaching, encouragement, resources, and ways to put what you're learning into practice. Join The Resurrection Room Facebook community: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61588999984832 Come connect with other women who are doing this work alongside you. This is where we can continue talking about identity, neuroplasticity, faith, behavior, and what it looks like to live what we're learning. And if someone came to mind while you were listening to this episode, send it to her. She may be waiting for something dramatic to happen before she gives herself permission to change. Maybe she needs to hear that she can begin now. You are loved. You are seen. You are not forgotten. And you are not too late. You can rise, and I believe you will.
#42
August 22 · 22 min
Why Your Brain Was Built for the Kind of Change You Never Expected
Unlocking Your Leadership Identity: Lessons from Joshua's Journey Exploring identity, perception, and transformation through neuroscience. When the only leader you've ever known is suddenly gone, it can feel like the ground beneath your feet has disappeared. This moment, faced by Joshua after Moses' death, is one we can all relate to in some form. It’s about deciding who you will become when everything you’ve built your identity around is stripped away. The Call to Lead Joshua’s challenge was monumental: to lead a nation into uncharted territory after 40 years of wandering. It’s a pivotal moment, where he had to transform from the assistant to the leader. Kelli Shaw dives deep into this transition, emphasizing that it’s not just about taking on a new role; it’s about reshaping one’s identity. "Do you choose success or mediocrity? Do you become like everyone else or do you choose to build something that's unmistakably yours?" The Neuroscience of Change Kelli proposes that the story of Joshua is more than a biblical tale; it serves as a blueprint for personal transformation. She highlights five commands given to Joshua, which serve as a protocol for rewiring the brain: 1. **Be strong and courageous** - Acknowledging and regulating fear is crucial. 2. **Observe and do everything written in the law** - Action is key; belief without action is ineffective. 3. **Do not turn from the left or the right** - Focus is essential for clarity and purpose. 4. **Let this book not depart from your mouth** - Verbalizing your intentions solidifies commitment. 5. **Meditate on it day and night** - Repetition builds new pathways in the brain. Kelli explains that our brains are more malleable during times of change, a phenomenon known as heightened neuroplasticity. Just as fresh snow can be molded easily, our minds are most receptive when faced with novelty or crisis. Identity Reshaped The crux of Kelli's message is that true transformation begins at the identity level. Joshua had to move from being known as Moses' assistant to embracing his new identity as a leader. God reassured him, stating, "As I was with Moses, so I will be with you." This affirmation laid a strong foundation for Joshua's new role. Kelli emphasizes that it’s essential to reshape perception alongside identity. Joshua faced daunting realities, but the way he interpreted those challenges depended heavily on his new identity. By staying grounded in God’s word and continuously speaking it aloud, he retrained his mind to focus on possibilities rather than limitations. "God is teaching Joshua what to continually place before his mind so that God's word, rather than the circumstances, shapes how he perceives what he sees." Reflection Kelli Shaw's insights remind us that moments of change, though uncomfortable, can be the breeding ground for profound growth. By aligning our identity with our purpose and continuously engaging with our beliefs, we can navigate transitions more effectively. Consider what identities you're holding onto and what new paths you might forge. For a deeper dive into this transformative process and the neuroscience behind it, tune into the full episode of the Resurrection Room. Before you close this out — two quick things. Get on the email list. It's where I put what doesn't fit into twenty minutes — the deeper teaching, the extra scripture, the practices I'm still testing before they ever make it into an episode. Consider it the room behind the room. And come find us in the Facebook group. This kind of change was never meant to happen in isolation — half of what actually moves the needle isn't the teaching, it's having somewhere to say out loud what you're working through and have someone nod back. In case no one has told you, you are loved, you are seen, you are not forgotten, and you are not too late. Go gently, go boldly, and let your resurrection begin. I'll meet you in the next episode.
#41
August 16 · 22 min
Your Upper Limit: Can Your Identity Hold the Life You're Asking For?
Your Upper Limit: Can Your Identity Hold the Life You’re Asking For? What happens when the life you’ve been asking for finally begins to arrive—but part of you doesn’t know how to live there yet? You get the opportunity. The business grows. The money increases. Your work gets noticed. The door opens. And then something unexpected happens. You start worrying. You procrastinate. You question yourself. You pull back. You create a problem where there wasn’t one before. In this episode of The Resurrection Room, Kelli explores two powerful concepts from Gay Hendricks’ The Big Leap: the Upper Limit Problem and the Zone of Genius. Hendricks proposes that we can develop an internal ceiling for how much success, love, abundance, happiness, and positive experience we comfortably allow ourselves to experience. When life begins expanding beyond that familiar level, we may unconsciously engage in behaviors that bring us back toward what feels normal. But what if the problem isn’t your ability to create a bigger life? What if your identity hasn’t yet developed the capacity to hold it? In This Episode Kelli explores: What Gay Hendricks means by the Upper Limit Problem Why success itself can sometimes trigger fear, worry, or self-sabotaging behavior The four hidden barriers Hendricks believes can limit our expansion Why belonging can become an invisible barrier to success The difference between your Zone of Excellence and Zone of Genius Why being exceptionally good at something doesn't necessarily mean it's your highest contribution How familiar identity patterns can influence what feels normal Why an extraordinary outcome can feel uncomfortable when it conflicts with your existing self-concept How to turn new outcomes into evidence for a new identity Why identity transformation doesn't end when you get the result The Identity Loop Inside The Resurrection Room, we often work with this framework: Identity → Perception → Behavior → Actions → Outcomes But this episode adds an important final piece: Identity → Perception → Behavior → Actions → Outcomes → Identity Your outcome becomes evidence. The opportunity becomes evidence. The boundary you finally held becomes evidence. The room you walked into becomes evidence. The thing you accomplished becomes evidence. Transformation deepens when you allow those experiences to update what you believe about who you are. Instead of dismissing the breakthrough as luck, begin asking: What does this outcome reveal about who I am capable of being? Your Reflection Imagine that the next level you’ve been pursuing has already happened. You're standing inside the life you've been asking for. Now notice what happens internally. Where do you feel expansion? Where do you feel tension? What thoughts immediately appear? Then ask yourself: What part of this life still feels unfamiliar to me? And finally: Who would I have to believe I am for this life to feel normal? Sit with that question. Journal about it. Notice what comes up. Because you may no longer need to convince yourself that your next level is possible. You may need to expand your identity until you're capable of recognizing yourself inside it. Your Action This Week Make one move from your Zone of Genius. Choose the conversation, proposal, application, video, launch, pitch, decision, boundary, or idea you've been circling—and move. Then consciously acknowledge the evidence: This is who I am now. The goal isn't simply reaching your next level. It's developing the internal capacity to live there. 📚 Read The Big Leap by Gay Hendricks This episode was inspired in part by Gay Hendricks’ book, The Big Leap. If you want to explore the Upper Limit Problem, Zone of Excellence, and Zone of Genius more deeply, get your copy here: 👉 GET THE BOOK: https://www.amazon.com/s?k=the+big+leap+gay+hendricks&crid=LIZEHXQNFMJO&sprefix=the+big+leap%2Caps%2C241&ref=nb_sb_ss_p13n-expert-pd-ops-ranker_3_12 Amazon Affiliate Disclosure: As an Amazon Associate, I earn from qualifying purchases. If you purchase through my affiliate link, I may receive a small commission at no additional cost to you. 💌 Join The Resurrection Room Email Community The podcast is only part of the conversation. Join the email community for deeper identity work, reflections, resources, and updates designed to help you continue becoming intentional about the identity behind the life you're creating. 👉 JOIN THE EMAIL LIST: https://kelli-shaw.kit.com/32980db5e9 🤍 Join The Resurrection Room Facebook Community Come join us inside The Resurrection Room Facebook community, where we continue the conversations we begin on the podcast. It's a place to connect with other women doing their own identity work, share breakthroughs, reflect on what you're learning, and put these conversations into practice. 👉 JOIN THE FACEBOOK GROUP: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61588999984832 Remember Your next level may require more than learning how to achieve something new. It may require learning how to hold something new. To receive more. To lead at a greater level. To allow yourself to be seen. To use your genius. To allow expansion to become familiar. You can live here. You can create here. You can receive here. You can lead here. You can belong here. You can hold what you've asked for. And maybe that is your Big Leap. The Resurrection Room with Kelli Shaw Where you rise to who you were always meant to be so you can live the life you were always meant to live. Follow the podcast • Share this episode • Leave a review • Join the community
#40
August 8 · 17 min
Stop Living In Survival Mode
Is your jaw tight right now? Your shoulders up near your ears? Part of your mind already three steps ahead of this moment? If so, your body has been running one program for so long it's forgotten there's another one available. That program is survival mode, and most of us have moved in and started decorating without ever noticing the shift. In this episode, Kelli breaks down the neuroscience of chronic stress through Dr. Dan Siegel's window of tolerance, Stephen Porges' polyvagal theory, and the real physical difference between a nervous system that's regulated and one that's stuck on high alert. You'll learn why your body can't tell the difference between a real emergency and an overflowing inbox, what's happening in your brain during hyperarousal and hypoarousal, and why rest has to be practiced on purpose long before you desperately need it. This episode weaves neuroscience with scripture, showing how "be still and know that I am God" is one of the oldest instructions for nervous system regulation on record, long before anyone had a word for cortisol or the vagus nerve. If you've been functioning, succeeding even, while running on empty the whole time, this episode is for you. What You'll Learn Why survival mode is a nervous system state, not a personality trait The three zones of the window of tolerance, and how to recognize which one you're standing in Why chronic stress narrows your window of tolerance, and what widens it back out Five practical ways to send your body real, repeated signals that the threat has passed What scripture has to say about rest as an active, intentional practice rather than something you earn Mentioned in This Episode Dr. Dan Siegel's Window of Tolerance framework Stephen Porges' Polyvagal Theory and the concept of neuroception Psalm 23:2 — "He makes me lie down in green pastures" Philippians 4:6 — "Be anxious for nothing" Psalm 46:10 — "Be still, and know that I am God" The Resurrection Room Mantra Identity shapes your perception. Your perception dictates your behavior. Your behavior drives your actions. And your actions create your outcomes. Connect & Go Deeper Come process this episode with other women navigating the same season. Share what came up for you, ask questions, and find support in the Facebook Group: 👉 Join The Resurrection Room Facebook Group Want episodes, tools, and reflections like this delivered straight to your inbox? Join the email list: 👉 Subscribe to The Resurrection Room email list
#39
August 2 · 25 min
Use Your Imagination to Get the Life You Desire
If your life doesn't look like you want it to, it's not because of the debt, the job you don't have yet, or the relationship that's struggling. It's because you haven't SEEN the life you want yet. In this episode, Kelli Shaw breaks down the real mechanics of imagination: the neuroscience behind it, the scripture that named it first, and the habits that keep so many women stuck picturing everyone else's judgment instead of their own future. Kelli walks through why so many people never step into their purpose, what it actually means for your imagination to function as conception, and the brain science behind why nothing shows up in your life that didn't first show up in your mind: the motor cortex, the Reticular Activating System, and the hippocampus. She also breaks down why imagining is the easy part, and why believing your imagination is powerful enough to matter is the real work. By the end of the episode, Kelli hands you The Odyssey Plan, an exercise adapted from Stanford's Life Design Lab, to help you map three genuinely different five-year futures and see, in writing, exactly which one your imagination has been trying to hand you all along. IN THIS EPISODE Why so many people never walk in their purpose, and the fear-and-ridicule cycle that keeps a gift hidden Why your imagination functions as conception, and what it means to protect a dream before it's ready to be seen The neuroscience of imagination: the motor cortex, the Reticular Activating System, and the hippocampus's role in building your future What Abraham, Habakkuk, Proverbs, and Hebrews reveal about vision, written centuries before neuroscience had language for it Why imagining is easy, and why believing your imagination is powerful is the real shift The Odyssey Plan: a step-by-step exercise for mapping three genuinely different five-year futures THIS WEEK'S PRACTICE — THE ODYSSEY PLAN Write three different five-year plans, not variations of one plan, three genuinely different directions. Give each one a six-word title. Plan 1: The Current Path — where you end up if nothing changes. Be honest. Plan 2: The Life You Actually Want — you took the risk, you did the thing. Plan 3: The One Where Opinions Don't Matter — what would you build, or stop, if no one's judgment counted? Read all three back to yourself. Notice which one you were most excited to write, and which one you avoided the longest. That reaction is information. EPISODE QUOTE “Your life will grow to the size of what you believe your imagination can build.” CONNECT Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61588999984832 Join the email list: https://kelli-shaw.kit.com/32980db5e9 If this episode gave you a picture you didn't have this morning, share it with the woman who needs to see something new. Leave a review — it's how The Resurrection Room finds more women ready to see.
#38
July 16 · 28 min
That Which Is Normal To You Will Find You
Whatever is normal to you will find you. If stress and hardship feel normal, that's what keeps showing up. If ease and open doors feel normal, that's what finds you instead. In this episode, we break down how your subconscious mind works like a thermostat — holding whatever "normal" you set, whether you chose it on purpose or picked it up along the way. In this episode: Why your normal didn't just happen to you — you picked it up, and it became wired into your subconscious How your words become instructions your brain follows, not just descriptions of how things are Why focusing on what you don't want trains your brain to keep finding it The three systems running your reality behind the scenes: the RAS, the Default Mode Network, and the amygdala Isaiah 55:11 — why God's Word does not return void, and what that means for what you speak over your life This week's practice: a seven-day exercise to install a new fixed thought through repetition, not one dramatic act Next Steps — The Seven-Day Practice: Becoming is built through repetition, not one dramatic act. Here's the week ahead: Day 1: Write one paragraph, present tense, describing the person you need to become to hold the outcome you're asking for — not the outcome itself. Day 2: Pull the single strongest sentence from that paragraph. This becomes your fixed thought for the week. Days 2–7: Speak that sentence out loud, first person, present tense, morning and night — standing, with conviction, not muttered. Somewhere this week: Make one decision your old identity would have avoided, the way the person in your paragraph would make it. When a contradicting moment shows up: Treat it as your old root system's last resistance, not proof the sentence is false. Repeat the sentence in that moment and keep moving. Day 4: Check yourself — are you speaking the sentence for two minutes, then spending the rest of the day rehearsing the old evidence? If so, that's exactly where to focus for the rest of the week. Day 7: Don't expect the whole tree to have changed. Expect the sentence to feel slightly less untrue. Keep it going next week if it still has more to give, or write a new paragraph and choose a new sentence. Connect: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61588999984832 Join the email list: https://kelli-shaw.kit.com/32980db5e9
#37
July 11 · 22 min
Why Fear Comes Back Even After being Brave
This is one of our most listened-to episodes, so we're bringing it back this week for anyone who missed it the first time. What happens when you take the first brave step, and then fear shows up again? In this episode, Kelli answers the question she's been hearing from listeners all week: "How do I keep going?" This conversation explores why fear often returns after courage, drawing on neuroscience, nervous system alignment, and the way professional athletes train their bodies through repetition. Kelli walks through how real change happens through familiarity rather than force, and shares the Daily Courage Reset, a simple, repeatable practice you can return to when fear gets loud again. In this episode: Why courage doesn't stick after a single moment How repetition teaches the nervous system safety The difference between intention and identity Why rhythm matters more than intensity How small, repeatable actions reshape who you become The Daily Courage Reset practice Identity shapes your perception. Your perception dictates your behavior. Your behavior drives your actions. And your actions create your outcomes. Loved this episode? Join our free Facebook community for more conversations like this: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61588999984832 Want episodes delivered straight to your inbox? Join the email list: https://kelli-shaw.kit.com/32980db5e9
#36
July 2 · 18 min
The Power of Paradigms: What They Are, Where Yours Came From, and How to Shift Them
If you've done the personal growth work — read the books, said the affirmations, made real progress — and still keep landing back at the same income ceiling, the same relationship pattern, the same self-sabotage, this episode explains why. It's neuroscience, and it's called a paradigm. In this episode, you'll learn: What a paradigm actually is — a multitude of ideas fixed in your subconscious mind — and why willpower alone can't override it How your paradigm and your brain's reticular activating system (RAS) work together to filter what you notice and what you miss What predictive coding is and how your brain fills in reality the same way it fills in a missing word in a sentence Where your paradigm actually came from — your genetics, your environment, your family, and what went into your subconscious mind before you could filter any of it Why your capacity was never the problem, and what it means that you were made in the image and likeness of God Why your paradigm is the single thing standing between you and your goals — and how shifting it changes everything downstream The 7 Ways to Shift Your Paradigm — a practical, step-by-step process you can start using today Ready to go deeper? Join our free Facebook community for weekly identity and paradigm work: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61588999984832 Want to stay close to what's next? Get on the email list: https://kelli-shaw.kit.com/32980db5e9
#35
June 25 · 15 min
How to Rewire Your Subconscious Mind and Get Rid of Limiting Beliefs for Good
How to Rewire Your Subconscious Mind and Get Rid of Limiting Beliefs Here's something most people never stop to consider: your subconscious mind drives 95% of your decisions and your emotions. If you don't understand that you actually have two brains running your life — not one — this could be exactly why you keep ending up stuck in the same patterns, no matter how hard you try to think your way out. In this episode, Kelli breaks down the real difference between your conscious and subconscious mind — why one is slow and conceptual while the other is lightning-fast, automatic, and wired directly into your autonomic nervous system. You'll learn how limiting beliefs actually get installed through a process called automaticity, why some beliefs take longer to remove than others, and the one distinction that determines whether you ever actually change: the difference between being interested in releasing a belief and being committed to it. If you've done the personal growth work, read the books, and still feel the same patterns running underneath the surface, this episode gives you the missing piece. In this episode: — Why your subconscious mind controls 95% of your decisions and emotions — The real difference between your conscious brain and your subconscious brain — How your autonomic nervous system runs automatically, even while you sleep — What automaticity is, and how it explains why limiting beliefs feel impossible to "think" your way out of — Why some limiting beliefs take longer to remove than others — The critical difference between being interested and being committed — and which one you're actually living in — What it really takes to replace an old automatic pattern with a new one Connect with Kelli: Join the Resurrection Room Facebook community: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61588999984832 Get on the email list for more identity, neuroscience, and nervous system insights: https://kelli-shaw.kit.com/32980db5e9 If this episode gave you language for something you've felt but couldn't explain, share it with the woman in your life who needs it — and leave a review to get The Resurrection Room to more beautiful souls, just like you.
#34
June 18 · 21 min
The Science of Manifestation, Fear, and the Buffalo Principle
Did you know that when buffalo sense a storm coming, they run toward it? Other animals turn and run the other way — trying to outrun something that is already faster than them. Buffalo run straight through it and come out the other side in a fraction of the time. Most people handle hard seasons the way other animals handle storms. They avoid the hard conversation, delay the decision, hope the pressure passes on its own. And in doing that, they stay inside the storm far longer than they need to. In this episode, Kelli Shaw breaks down what manifestation actually is — not the vision board version, but the neuroscience version — and why the challenge you are walking through today may be the very thing building your capacity to hold what you have been asking for. In this episode: — Why your brain is a prediction engine, not a receiving dish, and what that means for manifestation — The reticular activating system and how identity retrains your brain's filter for what it notices — Why your brain resists new things, even good ones, and how fear quietly blocks the bigger life from registering as safe — The buffalo principle: why running toward difficulty shortens your time in it — If you knew you had to get through 30 no's before your first yes, how fast would you be trying to get through the 30 no's? — A 3-step practice to start moving toward the storm instead of away from it Resources mentioned: Lisa Feldman Barrett — predictive brain research Reticular Activating System — selective attention and identity "Neurons that fire together, wire together" — Hebbian learning principle JOIN THE COMMUNITY The Resurrection Room community is where this work continues beyond the podcast. Come connect with women who are doing the same identity work, share what this episode brought up for you, and stay in the room. 👉 Join the Facebook community here: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61588999984832 STAY CONNECTED Want tools, reflections, and resources delivered straight to your inbox? Join the email list and stay connected to the work between episodes. 👉 Join the email list here: https://kelli-shaw.kit.com/32980db5e9 Identity shapes your perception. Your perception dictates your behavior. Your behavior drives your actions. And your actions create your outcomes. — Kelli Shaw, The Resurrection Room
#33
June 1 · 35 min
The Secret to Stopping Fear That Actually Works | This Is What You Asked For
Fear has been making more of your decisions than you've admitted — about money, judgment, rejection, getting older, being found out. In this episode, Kelli Shaw walks you through David R. Hawkins' Map of Consciousness, where fear sits at an energy level of 100, far below the line at 200 that separates force from power. Then she takes you under the hood into the real neuroscience of fear — the amygdala, the stress response, the brain's threat filter, and the rewiring that makes courage possible — and shows you how a fear circuit becomes an identity you've outgrown. You'll leave with a four-step practice called the Courage Crossing that you can use this week to act from courage in real time. In This Episode Why every level below 200 on Hawkins' Map of Consciousness drains your life, and what crosses you above the line The one healthy fear worth keeping — and the dozens of social fears running most adult lives How fear feeds itself through the world's endless events, and the brain filter that collects the evidence for it What's actually happening in your amygdala when a snake triggers the same response as judgmental comments How a repeated fear circuit gets promoted into identity, and why your nervous system defends it The Courage Crossing: a four-move practice for acting from courage while the fear is still in your body A clear picture of the woman you're becoming on the other side of the line The Courage Crossing (Four Moves) Name it — say the exact fear in a precise sentence to engage your prefrontal cortex and quiet the amygdala Breathe it down — exhale longer than you inhale to bring your body out of fight-or-flight Decide as her — ask what the woman who walks fearlessly would choose Move as her — take one real action before the fear fades, so your brain files new evidence Episode Quote "The cage is not around her. The cage is built out of her own identity, and she has been the one holding the door shut." Approximate Timestamps 00:00 — Cold open: the woman inside you who isn't afraid 02:00 — Welcome and who this episode is for 04:00 — The line at 200: force vs. power, falsehood vs. truth 08:30 — The one healthy fear, and the social fears that run our lives 12:00 — How fear feeds itself, and the neuroscience of the fear loop 18:00 — When fear stops being a feeling and becomes identity 22:00 — Crossing the line at 200: the Courage Crossing practice 26:30 — The identity who walks fearlessly 28:30 — What to do next 29:30 — Outro Connect & Go Deeper Join the free Members-Only Community on Facebook Get on the email list for the practices and breakdowns that don't make the episodes Reference This episode draws on Power vs. Force by David R. Hawkins, PhD, MD. Keywords / Tags neuroscience of fear, how to overcome fear, fear and identity, Map of Consciousness, David Hawkins Power vs Force, amygdala and fear, nervous system regulation, fearless mindset for women, identity transformation, courage over fear, rewire your brain, The Resurrection Room, Kelli Shaw
#32
May 25 · 40 min
The Identity of Manifesting Money
If you are doing everything right and the money still is not moving — this is the episode that explains why. And it gives you the way forward. This episode is not a money episode. It is an identity episode. Kelli breaks down why your brain — an efficiency machine designed to run your most trained patterns — keeps producing the same financial outcomes no matter how hard you work, how much you earn, or how many strategies you try. She walks through the neuroscience of why affirmations fail when your nervous system is bracing, how your subconscious mind has been obediently running a money program you inherited before you ever earned a dollar, and what it actually takes to rewire your financial identity from the inside out. In this episode you will learn: — Why your brain defaults to scarcity and how the reticular activating system filters your financial reality — What money actually is (and why your relationship with it mirrors your relationship with your own value) — The story of Adam and Eve and why abundance was always the original design — How to use your five senses to activate a wealth frequency your nervous system can actually hold — A four-step identity rewire exercise you can start this week — What to do when you say the reframe and your body does not believe it yet — The scripture that proves wealth is covenant, not reward Anchor scripture: Deuteronomy 8:18 and 3 John 1:2 🔗 Join the email list — Every week Kelli sends something to your inbox that goes deeper than the podcast: the language patterns, the nervous system practices, the identity work that makes this transformation stick. It is the inside room for women doing deep work. Head to the show notes to join. 🔗 Join the Members-Only Facebook Community — We just opened the doors. This is where the conversation continues, the community deepens, and the work becomes something you do with other women instead of alone. Get all the details in the show notes. Share this episode with one woman who needs to hear it. She does not need another budget. She needs this conversation. #identity #money #manifesting #wealthidentity #neuroscience #nervousystem #abundance #scarcity #moneyidentity #womenandmoney #mindset #identityshift #faithandwealth #podcast #theresurrectionroom #kellisshaw #personalgrowth #womenempowerment #transformation
#31
May 18 · 24 min
What World Are You Creating with Your Words?
Every world you've ever lived in started as a thought. Then it became a sentence. Then it became a life. In this episode, Kelli sits down with the woman who keeps catching herself thinking the same worn-out loops and speaking sentences she doesn't want to be true anymore. I'm so tired. I always do this. Nothing ever works for me. If those have been on a loop in your head and in your mouth, this one is for you. Inside Episode 31, you'll hear: Why your thoughts and your words are not the same tool — and how they work together to install identity The neuroscience of the reticular activating system, and how your brain hunts for evidence of what you keep thinking and saying How neuroplasticity turns repeated thoughts into highways your brain takes by default Why affirmations alone often fall flat — and what to do instead The full chain from thought, to word, to identity, to perception, to behavior, to outcome A three-part practice you can start today: The Thought and Sentence Audit This episode is for the woman in identity transition. The woman who knows she is called forward but feels stuck inside language and thinking that belong to a previous version of her life. Kelli works in the intersection of identity, nervous system regulation, and visible transformation — and The Resurrection Room is the weekly meeting place for women doing the deep work. Grab your journal. Grab your headphones. Let's get into it. 📧 JOIN THE EMAIL LIST Get the weekly inside-room work that goes deeper than the podcast — thought patterns, language tools, nervous system practices, and identity reconstruction sent straight to your inbox. 👉 Join the Email List 💬 JOIN THE FACEBOOK MEMBERS-ONLY COMMUNITY The private space where the women of The Resurrection Room go deeper together. Real conversations. Real accountability. Real transformation. 👉Join The Resurrection Room Members Only Community ✨ YOUR NEXT STEPS Start the Thought and Sentence Audit this week Join the email list for the weekly inside-room work Step into the Members-Only Community Share this episode with one woman who needs to hear it Follow the show, leave a review, and meet me back here every Monday. Identity. Neuroscience. Transformation. The Resurrection Room — hosted by Kelli Shaw
S1 · E30
May 11 · 13 min
The Identity of the Luckiest Person in the Room
Some people seem to attract opportunity effortlessly — and eventually, the people around them start calling it luck. But what if it was never luck? What if those women had simply trained their nervous system to expect expansion instead of disappointment — and their decisions, their behavior, and their outcomes reorganized around that internal shift? This episode of The Resurrection Room is for the woman who has been circling. The woman carrying an internal expectation that something will eventually go sideways — who hesitates, delays, softens her ambition, and then watches other people move with a confidence she cannot explain. That confidence is not personality. It is neurological conditioning. And it can be built. In this episode, Kelli Shaw breaks down exactly how identity shapes what you notice, pursue, tolerate, and create — and walks you through four practical shifts designed to rewire the pattern: Identity Proclamations that reshape self-perception at the neurological level. Big Moves that give your nervous system new emotional evidence. Speed and Action that build self-trust faster than analysis ever will. And Identity Anchors that train your body to recognize expansion as familiar. You will also experience a guided micro exercise designed to help your nervous system release the old identity and step fully into the woman you are becoming. Identity shapes your perception. Your perception dictates your behavior. Your behavior drives your actions. And your actions create your outcomes. This is identity work. This is neuroscience. And this is how transformation becomes visible. 🎧 Follow The Resurrection Room with Kelli Shaw on Apple Podcasts and leave a review — it helps other women find this space. 📘 Kelli's upcoming book, The Identity You've Outgrown: 12 Weeks to a New Identity, is a structured identity reconstruction process grounded in neuroscience and nervous system regulation. Details coming soon — stay close. For more episodes of The Resurrection Room, start here. Ask Me Anything: your Questions About Identity, Neuroscience, and Manifestation - Answered. When The Calling Feels Too Big: How to Close the Gap Between Who You Are Right Now and Who Your Purpose Requires You to Become The Neuro-Placebo Effect: How to Escape Mediocrity for Good You're a High-level Woman with a Dysregulated Nervous System When They Liked the Old You Better: How to Hold Your New Self When the People Around You Are Pulling for the Old You In case no one has told you, you are loved, you are seen, you are not forgotten, and you are not too late. You can rise and I believe you will.

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