
EP 38 | Mikaela – Birth Trauma, Feeding Challenges, Postpartum Mental Health & Changing Careers
In this episode, Mikaela, mum of two and child and family health nurse, shares her experiences of two challenging births, feeding difficulties, postpartum mental health struggles and navigating a significant career change after becoming a mother. We discuss: Mikaela's journey to motherhood and her experience of pregnancy Working in intensive care while pregnant Preparing for birth and having expectations about how labour would unfold A long and difficult first labour and birth Experiencing a significant postpartum haemorrhage The physical and emotional impact of an extended hospital stay after birth Recovering from birth complications while learning to care for a newborn Breastfeeding difficulties The pressure Mikaela placed on herself to continue breastfeeding, and the physical and emotional toll of this Transitioning to formula feeding Feelings of guilt, shame and perceived judgement around formula feeding The support Mikaela received from her family and child and family health nurse Withdrawing socially and struggling with her mental health during early postpartum The importance of mothers' groups and connection with other women Appearing to cope well while struggling significantly behind the scenes Accessing some early support for birth trauma but finding it difficult to process her experiences Becoming pregnant with Charlie and preparing for a different birth experience Choosing a planned caesarean after her traumatic first birth Requiring a general anaesthetic during her caesarean section due to a failed spinal, and missing Charlie's birth The emotional impact of another birth that didn't go as planned Navigating the transition from one child to two Returning to intensive care nursing after becoming a mother How motherhood changed Mikaela's experience of working in a demanding healthcare environment The emotional toll of critical care nursing and the challenges of shift work Feeling conflicted about stepping away from a career she loved Studying child and family health nursing while on maternity leave with two young children Navigating a career transition and changing professional identity The challenges of combining paid work, parenting and study Mikaela's experience of significant depression and declining mental health The shame she felt about struggling despite having a loving family and supportive people around her The impact of her mental health on her relationship with Michael Why it took Mikaela several years to seek professional support Accessing help through her GP How accessing support has helped Mikaela Finding joy in motherhood and family life again Learning to feel proud of how far she has come Throughout this conversation, Mikaela shares the importance of recognising when we're struggling, allowing ourselves to seek support, and remembering that we don't need to justify our difficulties simply because other parts of our lives are going well. Thank you so much to Breastmates for supporting this episode. You can find out more about their range at breastmates.co.nz. As mentioned in the episode, here are some postpartum support resources. Please reach out if you need help. Australia PANDA (Perinatal Anxiety & Depression Australia) Helpline: 1300 726 306 Website: https://www.panda.org.au Lifeline Australia 13 11 14 (24/7) Website: https://www.lifeline.org.au Beyond Blue 1300 22 4636 Website: https://www.beyondblue.org.au New Zealand PlunketLine 0800 933 922 (24/7) Healthline New Zealand 0800 611 116 (24/7) 1737 Need to talk? Call or text 1737 (24/7) Thank you for listening. Take care x