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The Parenting Reframe

Albiona Rakipi

The Parenting Reframe podcast is a safe space for parents to feel seen, heard, and supported through this wild journey that is parenting. Hosted by educator and parent Albiona Rakipi, we explore some of the biggest parenting challenges: tantrums, potty training, challenging behaviors, neurodivergent learners, teenagers, bedtime, homework, expectations, and more. We'll chat with experts, parents, and even kids about what it means to parent and to be parented.

Albiona's 20 years of experience working with children and families, has brought her insight as she learns from parents and kids alike - even her own. Her only ask is that you stay open and curious, as we reframe parenting together.

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#101
Wednesday · 31 min
Ask Me Anything - Gentle Parenting, Attachment Theory, Strong-Willed Kids, and Why Attuned Parenting Beats All of It (Part 2)
Gentle parenting, attachment theory, highly sensitive kids, strong-willed vs. defiant — Albiona finally weighs in. In Part 2 of her Ask Me Anything, parenting coach Albiona Rakipi shares her honest take on the most-asked parenting style questions, without picking sides or putting any approach on a pedestal. She breaks down what she genuinely likes about gentle parenting and where it tends to create more defiance instead of less, why attachment theory can leave parents burned out, and why she th
#100
August 19 · 34 min
Ask Me Anything: How to Stop Reacting, Handle Back-to-School Anxiety, and Actually Pause in the Hard Moment (Part 1)
How do you actually pause when you’re already activated? Why do you keep overreacting even when you promise yourself you won’t? And what do you do when your child is anxious about going back to school? Parenting coach Albiona Rakipi answers the questions her community sent in most — and this episode is as practical as it gets. Albiona walks through the somatic tools she uses herself to interrupt reactive patterns in real time, explains why exhaling longer than you inhale is the fastest nervous
#99
July 29 · 42 min
The Second Most Downloaded Episode: Taking a Career Pause Without Losing Yourself — with Neha Ruch
What happens to your identity, your ambition, and your sense of self when you step back from a career to make room for motherhood? In this conversation — the second most downloaded episode of The Parenting Reframe — Albiona sits down with Neha Ruch, founder of Mother Untitled and author of The Power Pause, to talk about what it really means to take a career break on your own terms. Neha walks through why the mommy wars persist and what the research actually says, how to have the money conversat
#98
July 22 · 1 hr
The Most Downloaded Episode: Strong-Willed Kids, Breaks, and Why Your Words Aren’t Working — with Joe Newman
The most downloaded episode of The Parenting Reframe is back. In this conversation — Albiona’s first interview with Joe Newman, author of Raising Lions — they dig into why strong-willed and defiant kids push back so hard, why giving more choices and more explanations makes it worse, and what actually works instead. Joe breaks down his break method (not a timeout — a fundamentally different approach), explains why children use conflict to ask questions rather than to misbehave, and shares the re
#97
July 15 · 28 min
The Most Powerful Thing You Can Do for Your Kid Has Nothing to Do with Discipline
What does it actually mean to help your child feel seen — and why does it matter more than most parenting strategies? In this solo episode, parenting coach Albiona Rakipi shares a personal story about a podcast recording that fell completely apart, what her guest Dr. Elisha Goldstein did in that moment, and why his response changed how she thinks about empathy, connection, and storytelling. Albiona breaks down the difference between saying empathetic words and actually making someone feel under
#96
July 1 · 29 min
The Parenting Reframe - Let’s Reframe Reparenting — You Need to Cultivate Your Inner Parent
Is reparenting yourself really about getting a redo on your childhood? Parenting coach Albiona Rakipi challenges that idea in this solo episode and offers a different framework: cultivating your own inner parent. Instead of trying to heal old wounds by giving your child what you didn’t get, this episode teaches you how to recognize when you’re parenting your inner child instead of the child actually in front of you. Albiona shares a real coaching example of a mom whose constant love and attenti
#95
June 24 · 1 hr 4 min
Small Shifts, Big Change: Emotional Regulation for Parents with Dr. Elisha Goldstein
You know you’re supposed to stay calm. You know you shouldn’t snap. So why is it so hard to actually get there in the moment? In this episode, parenting coach Albiona Rakipi sits down with Dr. Elisha Goldstein — psychologist, mindfulness teacher, and author of Tiny Shifts — to answer that exact question. Dr. Goldstein breaks down the emotional loops parents get stuck in — the should loop, the shame loop, the comparison loop — and walks through his four R’s method (Recognize, Release, Refocus, R
#94
June 10 · 1 hr 4 min
Play Isn’t a To-Do — It’s the Thing That Makes Everything Else Work, with Dr. Kim Van Dusen
Does play feel like one more thing you don’t have time for? This episode will change that. Parenting coach Albiona Rakipi sits down with Dr. Kim Van Dusen — registered play therapist and author of Parenting Through Play — to break down what play actually is, why it reduces defiance and meltdowns, and how even the most non-playful parent can use it starting today. Dr. Kim shares the research behind why play-based parenting leads to better behavior, how to use play during the hardest transitions
#93
May 20 · 28 min
Rewards Aren’t Bribes — And Anxiety Isn’t the Opposite of Calm
Are rewards bad for kids? Is a sticker chart a bribe? And what do you do when your child gets so anxious about making a mistake that they stop trying altogether? Parenting coach Albiona Rakipi tackles both in this solo episode — and her take on both might surprise you. Albiona breaks down why rewards aren’t the problem — overusing them is — and walks through how to choose the right motivation for your child, when to use rewards intentionally, and how to fade them so the behavior sticks on its o
#92
May 13 · 23 min
You Can’t Regulate Your Kid If You Can’t Regulate Yourself — Here’s Where to Start
Every parent wants to stay calm in the hard moments. The meltdowns, the arguments, the complete refusal to listen. But wanting to stay calm and actually knowing how to get there are two very different things. In this solo episode, Albiona breaks down what it really means to be a regulated parent — and why it’s the foundation everything else is built on. This one is practical. Albiona walks through her four-step PAR process (Pause, Acknowledge, Respond, Reflect), the two reasons most parents can
#91
May 6 · 52 min
Your Brain Isn’t Broken — It’s Becoming - The Truth About the Postpartum Brain with Dr. Nicole Pensak
Feeling foggy, anxious, or completely unlike yourself after having a baby? You’re not losing your mind — you’re going through one of the most significant neurological shifts of your life. In this episode, Albiona sits down with Dr. Nicole Pensak, Harvard and Yale-trained clinical psychologist and author of Rattled: How to Calm New Mom Anxiety with the Power of the Postpartum Brain, to unpack what’s actually happening in the postpartum brain — and why the reframe matters. Dr. Nikki breaks down m
#90
April 29 · 22 min
Why Kids Don’t Listen — And How to Fix It Without Yelling
Does it feel like your child only listens when you yell? You’re not alone — and you’re not failing. In this episode, parenting coach Albiona Rakipi breaks down one of the most common struggles parents face and reframes it completely: your child isn’t defiant, and you’re not a bad parent. What you have is a defective pattern — and patterns can always be changed. Albiona walks you through exactly how kids learn to tune out directions, why strong-willed children negotiate and push limits, and what
#89
March 25 · 39 min
How to Look for Signs & Talk to Kids About Death & Grief with Jenny Robinson Clark
Your child asks where Grandma went. You freeze. What are you supposed to say when you're barely holding it together yourself? This is one of the questions I get asked most often, and I'll be honest—it's one of the hardest conversations we can have as parents. Not because there's a "right" way to do it, but because we're usually navigating our own grief while trying to shield our kids from pain. Except that's not actually what helps them. In this episode, I sit down with Jenny Robinson Clark, a
#88
March 18 · 21 min
Stop Rescuing Your Kids: How to Build Frustration Tolerance & Resilience
Does your toddler or preschooler have a complete meltdown every time you say it's time to stop playing? Tantrum during transitions from fun activities to tasks they don't want to do? Struggle with frustration the moment something feels hard? What if constantly rescuing your child from discomfort—zipping their coat when they struggle, letting them go first to avoid a meltdown, stepping in to fix every problem—is actually preventing them from building the exact skills they need? In this solo epi
#87
March 11 · 17 min
Good Cop Bad Cop Parenting: How to Stop Fighting & Get on the Same Page
Constantly arguing with your spouse about discipline? Does your partner undermine your parenting by being too permissive—or way too harsh? If you're stuck in the exhausting cycle of good cop/bad cop parenting where one of you is always the strict parent and the other is always the pushover, this episode is for you. In this solo episode, Albiona tackles one of the most common questions she gets in coaching: what do we do when our parenting styles clash and we just can't seem to agree? She intro
#86
March 4 · 1 hr
Episode 86: How to Handle Teenage Disrespect & Defiance with Dr. Cam Caswell
Struggling with a difficult teenager who rolls their eyes, refuses to listen, and shuts you out every time you try to connect? What if the eye rolls, the attitude, and the talking back aren't signs of disrespect—but your teen's dysregulated cry for help? In this game-changing conversation, Albiona sits down with Dr. Cameron Caswell—affectionately known as "The Teen Translator"—an adolescent psychologist and parent coach who helps frustrated parents turn power struggles into connection. Dr. Cam
#85
February 18 · 31 min
Emotion Regulation vs. Nervous System Regulation
What if the secret to managing your parenting triggers isn't about finding the perfect words—but about calming your body first? In this solo episode, Albiona breaks down the difference between emotion regulation and nervous system regulation—two terms that get used interchangeably but are actually completely different. And here's the thing: you need both, in the right order, to show up as the parent you want to be. Albiona explains why your nervous system has to regulate before your emotions c
#84
February 11 · 44 min
Parenting the Spicy Ones with Mary Van Geffen
What if your "difficult" child isn't the problem—but rather your greatest teacher? In this candid, laugh-out-loud conversation, Albiona sits down with Mary Van Geffen, international parenting coach and author of Parenting a Spicy One, to talk about raising strong-willed, spirited, deeply feeling kids—the ones who refuse to fit the mold, challenge every rule, and bring their parents to their knees. Mary opens up about her own experience with her daughter, whom she once saw as a "bad seed" befor
#83
February 4 · 24 min
The One Fear That Stops Us All—And How to Move Through It
What if the biggest thing standing between you and the life you want isn't talent, time, or opportunity—but the fear of being seen? In this candid solo episode, Albiona shifts away from parenting to share the advice she gives most often to aspiring creators, business owners, and anyone looking to step into something new. Whether you're thinking about starting a podcast, growing on social media, asking for a raise, or finally setting that boundary—this conversation is for you. Albiona opens up
#82
January 28 · 1 hr
Navigating Motherhood with Dr. Gertrude Lyons
What if the most important person you need to mother is yourself? In this deeply moving episode, Albiona sits down with Dr. Gertrude Lyons, author of Decoding the Mother Code, for a conversation about the invisible rules we've all inherited about what it means to be a good parent—and what it actually takes to heal and transform. Dr. Lyons shares her personal journey from infertility to home birth, from losing herself in motherhood to reclaiming her own story. This isn't just about parenting ch

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