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The Mail-In Podcast

The Mail-In

Your questions, answered. Brett Merriman and Sally deFries tackle the problems faced and questions asked by 20 and 30-somethings on a daily basis.

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  • Yesterday · 1 hr 7 min

    Thanksgiving Family Tension Feat. KJ Ellis

    We're back on The Mail-In this week with Brett Merriman and special guest, KJ Ellis. Here's what we've got: Any advice for newborn parents in the trenches? Tips for going through the process of ending a toxic relationship? Ethical dilemma regarding paid leave? Should I go back? When is enough money... enough? How do I ease tension between my girlfriend's sister and her over the holidays? What's the consensus on splitting holidays between in-laws in different cities? Our Partners: Lola Blankets: Get 35% OFF with code MAILIN at LolaBlankets.com Underdog Fantasy: New users can score $50 in bonus entries when you play $10 by downloading Underdog WRITE IN TO THE MAIL-IN FOLLOW US ON INSTAGRAM Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • November 6 · 1 hr 5 min

    I Just Went On A First Date. Now What?

    We're back on The Mail-In with Brett Merriman and Sally deFries. Here's what we're working with: 1. How does Sally get her blowouts to last all day? Linked @Sal.Gals hair tutorial here. 2. What is the etiquette for texting after a first date? 3. Extended family at a small international wedding? 4. Should I feel guilty about not attending a child's birthday party so close to Christmas? Our Partners: Lola Blankets: Get 35% OFF Lola Blankets with code MAILIN at LolaBlankets.com Underdog Fantasy: Download Underdog today and get $50 in bonus entires when you play $10. Trading involves risk, including total loss on positions. Content is promotional and not a recommendation to trade. Terms apply. Promotion issued by affiliate. For Fantasy contests: Must be 18+ (19+ in AL, NE; 19+ in CO for some games; 21+ in AZ and VA). Concerned with your play? Call 1-800-MY-RESET or 1-800-GAMBLER. NY: Call the 24/7 HOPEline at 1-877-8-HOPENY or Text HOPENY. WRITE IN TO THE MAIL-IN FOLLOW US ON INSTAGRAM Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • October 16 · 1 hr 12 min

    Is This Cheating?

    We're back on The Mail-In this week with Brett Merriman and Sally deFries. Here's what we're working with: 1. I need to elevate my husband's wardrobe. 2. Can we talk about wedding gifts for a sec? 3. A girl who I've been seeing for a bit had a friend kiss her at a concert... how should I proceed? 4. How should I go about feeling less guilty about carving out alone time after putting the kids to bed? 5. Chicago recs? Our Partners: Lola Blankets: Get 40% OFF Lola Blankets products with code MAILIN at LolaBlankets.com Warby Parker: Get 20% OFF an additional pair of glasses at WarbyParker.com/MAIL WRITE IN TO THE MAIL-IN FOLLOW US ON INSTAGRAM Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • October 8 · 54 min

    How Do I Know That She's The One?

    We're back on The Mail-In with Brett Merriman and Sally deFries! Here's what we've got this week: 1. How do I compartmentalize my potential fertility issues with my friend's pregnancy success? 2. How am I supposed to tell if she's really "the one" or if there's a reason why I'm itching for another escape hatch? 3. I'm in the thick of wedding planning and my fiancee feels like I'm not helping enough. 4. My wife is struggling with anxiety and depression right now - how do I best support her? Our Partner: Lola Blankets: Get 40% OFF your order with code MAILIN at LolaBlankets.com WRITE IN TO THE MAIL-IN FOLLOW US ON INSTAGRAM Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • September 25 · 1 hr 8 min

    Should My Boyfriend Pay For His Flight?

    We're back on The Mail-In with Brett Merriman, Randy Trembacki, and the newest member of Washed Media, Brett Nierengarten aka New Brett. Here's what we've got this week: 1. What's the deal with New Brett? 2. What constitutes the Midwest? 3. Should I let my boyfriend pay for his flight to a wedding that I'm invited to? 4. I'm trying to visit every national park. What are your favorites and which ones are must-see? 5. I broke up with my first-ever girlfriend after 2.5 months and I'm not sure if I made the right decision. Our Partners: Lola Blankets: Get 40% OFF Lola Blankets with code MAILIN at LolaBlankets.com. Warby Parker: Get 20% OFF any additional pair of glasses at WarbyParker.com/MAIL WRITE IN TO THE MAIL-IN FOLLOW US ON INSTAGRAM Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • September 4 · 1 hr 21 min

    How Do You Repair Your Reputation After Dating Someone Toxic?

    Happy September, folks! We're back on The Mail-In with Brett Merriman & Sally deFries. Here's what we've got this week: 1. I'm a 30-year-old woman getting back in the dating scene after a decade. What do I need to know? 2. Does Instagram feel blatantly too ad-focused now? 3. How do you repair your reputation after dating a very toxic person? 4. Do I leave my dream job for a job with more money and better benefits? 5. I feel guilty about posting a pregnancy announcement after struggling myself with infertility. Our Partner: Warby Parker: Get 20% OFF an additional pair of glasses at WarbyParker.com/MAIL WRITE IN TO THE MAIL-IN FOLLOW US ON INSTAGRAM Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • August 20 · 1 hr 20 min

    How To Deal With Being Sick Sick?

    We're back on The Mail-In this week with Brett Merriman and Sally deFries. Here's what we've got: 1. Shouts to a listener of ours who's battling cancer. 2. My girlfriend doesn't reciprocate payments for things. 3. My wife has stopped putting effort into anything in our relationship. 4. What's the appeal of being an influencer? Our Partners: Warby Parker: Buy one pair of glasses and get 20% OFF any additional pairs at WarbyParker.com/MAIL Lola Blankets: Get 40% OFF select products with code MAILIN at LolaBlankets.com WRITE IN TO THE MAIL-IN FOLLOW US ON INSTAGRAM Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • August 6 · 58 min

    I'm Thinking About Calling Off My Engagement

    Back on The Mail-In this week with Sally deFries and Brett Merriman. Here's what we're working with: 1. How do you approach your girlfriend about upping her "style"? 2. Give me UK recs? 3. I got engaged three months ago and I think it's time to call it off. 4. Where's the line between moving on and getting my ex back? Our Partner: Factor: Get 50% OFF plus 1 free breakfast item per box with code mail50off at FactorMeals.com/mail50off WRITE IN TO THE MAIL-IN FOLLOW US ON INSTAGRAM Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • July 23 · 1 hr 8 min

    When Are You Ready To Have Kids?

    Back on The Mail-In this week with Brett Merriman and Sally deFries. Here's what we've got: 1. When do you know you're ready to have kids? 2. Can I be nice to my Dad's girlfriend when my Mom is around? 3. Cowboy cocktail attire at a wedding plus Bozeman recs? 4. What gifts should you get for a pregnant friend outside the registry? Our Partner: Warby Parker: Get 20% OFF an additional pair of glasses at WarbyParker.com/MAIL WRITE IN TO THE MAIL-IN FOLLOW US ON INSTAGRAM Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • July 16 · 54 min

    I'm Not Sure I Support My Friend's Engagement

    Back on The Mail-In this week with Brett Merriman and Sally deFries. Here's what we've got: 1. Reciprocating wedding invites? 2. I'm hesitant to start trying to conceive as a woman in finance. 3. How much is too much to ask people to spend on your birthday? 4. I'm not sure I support my friend's engagement. What should I do? Our Partners: Factor: Get 50% OFF plus free daily greens per box with code mail50off at FactorMeals.com/mail50off Lola Blankets: Get 40% OFF select Lola Blankets products with code MAILIN at LolaBlankets.com WRITE IN TO THE MAIL-IN FOLLOW US ON INSTAGRAM Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • July 2 · 56 min

    Is It Weird That My Girlfriend Talks To Her Exes?

    We're back on The Mail-In fresh off a few Europe trips with Brett Merriman and Sally deFries. Here's what we've got: 1. Europe pros/cons 2. Am I right to feel weird about my girlfriend talking to exes? 3. Sally's COSTCO list 4. My friend backed out of our all-inclusive resort room, what should I do? 5. Is it ok to propose in Italy after a wedding? Photographer? WRITE IN TO THE MAIL-IN FOLLOW US ON INSTAGRAM Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • June 11 · 1 hr 8 min

    I Lied About How Much Money I Make

    Back on The Mail-In this week with Brett Merriman and Sally deFries mixing it up. Here's what we've got: 1. The squad goes to Europe. 2. We're terrified of having a baby. What should we know? 3. How do I get over being fired from my last job? 4. How do you make the decision to switch careers from teaching? 5. Am I wrong for lying about how much money I make and having it affect our relationship? Our Partners: Warby Parker: Get 20% OFF any additional pair of glasses when you go to WarbyParker.com/MAIL Factor: Get 50% OFF and free daily greens per box with code mail50off at FactorMeals.com/mail50off Lola Blankets: Get 40% OFF with code MAILIN at checkout at LolaBlankets.com WRITE IN TO THE MAIL-IN FOLLOW US ON IG Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • June 5 · 1 hr 7 min

    Who Is Your Hall Pass?

    Back on The Mail-In this week with Brett Merriman and Sally deFries. Here's what we've got: 1. Instagram story etiquette 2. What are we watching this summer - Love Island UK or USA? 3. We're talking hall passes 4. Can I be annoyed that my MIL put my SIL on her Costco membership? 5. My wife is bummed we're having a boy when she wanted to have a girl... Our Partner: Warby Parker: Buy one prescription pair of glasses and get 20% OFF any additional prescription pair at WarbyParker.com/MAIL WRITE IN TO THE MAIL-IN FOLLOW US ON INSTAGRAM Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • May 21 · 1 hr 3 min

    What Should I Do With My Engagement Ring?

    We're back on The Mail-In with Brett Merriman and Randy Trembacki in the co-host chair. Here's what we've got this week: 1. Am I overreacting about my soon-to-be mother-in-law pressuring us in wedding planning? 2. What should I do with my engagement ring? 3. We purchased a home in our mid 20s and can't seem to get on our neighbors good side. 4. We have three events in one weekend - what should we go to? 5. Is it weird to put my brother-in-law in a separate scramble group on my bachelor party? 6. Should I join an expensive health club? Is it worth the money? Our Partners: Warby Parker: Get 20% OFF an additional pair of prescription glasses at WarbyParker.com/MAIL Lola Blankets: Get 40% OFF with code MAILIN at LolaBlankets.com WRITE IN TO THE MAILIN FOLLOW US ON INSTAGRAM Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • May 14 · 54 min

    I Can't Stop Thinking About Sleeping With Other Girls

    We're back on The Mail-In this week with Brett Merriman & Sally deFries. Here's what we've got this week: 1. My MIL is subtweeting my husband and I... 2. Should I make an effort to build a relationship with extended family after they've made it clear we're different people? 3. Is it a dork move to wear over-the-ear headphones in the office? 4. I'm having trouble adjusting to having a roommate again. 5. I've been with a girl for 2.5 years but I can't stop thinking about sleeping with other girls Our Partner: Factor: Get 50% OFF plus free daily greens with code mail50off at FactorMeals.com/mail50off WRITE IN TO THE MAIL-IN FOLLOW US ON INSTAGRAM FOLLOW US ON TWITTER Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • April 23 · 57 min

    How Do You Deal With Losing A Parent?

    We're back on The Mail-In this week with Brett Merriman & Sally deFries. Here's what we've got this week: 1. I wasn't invited to a school program party. Should I just show up? 2. How do you deal with losing a parent? 3. How do you build a community as a working mom with no past friends/family around? 4. Should I be concerned about not having as many friends as my fiancée at our wedding? Our Partner: Lola Blankets: Get 40% OFF with code MAILIN at LolaBlankets.com WRITE IN TO THE MAIL-IN FOLLOW US ON INSTAGRAM Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • April 16 · 1 hr 14 min

    My Wife Is Trying To Fix Herself With AI

    We're back on The Mail-In with Brett Merriman & Sally deFries. Here's what we've got this week: 1. My married neighbor won't stop sending me reels. Help. 2. My wife is reliant on AI to help "fix" her body and chronic pain and won't see a doctor. 3. What Masters merch would y'all snag? 4. I wan't my girlfriend to fall in love with Austin when she visits. What should we do? 5. Should we get a dog/cat before or after having a kid? Our Partners: Factor: Get 50% OFF plus free daily greens with code mail50off at FactorMeals.com/mail50off Warby Parker: Get 20% OFF any additional prescription pair of glasses at WarbyParker.com/MAIL Lola Blankets: Get 40% OFF select blankets with code MAILIN at LolaBlankets.com WRITE IN TO THE MAIL-IN FOLLOW US ON INSTAGRAM Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • April 2 · 59 min

    How Do You Repair A Friendship?

    We're back on The Mail-In with Brett Merriman & Sally deFries. Here's what we've got this week: 1. I was planning on proposing soon, but now feel emotionally abused and am thinking of calling it off - what should I do? 2. Getting through postpartum anxiety 3. My cousin-in-law wears flip flops and cargo shorts to weddings. How can I stop him from doing that at mine? 4. I asked a girl out who wasn't into me. Where do I go from here? 5. How do you repair a friendship with a former best friend? OUR PARTNER: Ultra Pouches: Get 15% OFF with code MAILIN at TakeUltra.com WRITE IN TO THE MAIL-IN FOLLOW US ON INSTAGRAM Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • March 30 · 1 hr 6 min

    Is My Longtime Best Friend In Love With Me?

    We're back! The Mail-In Podcast with Brett Merriman and Sally deFries. Here's what we've got: 1. Headed to a bachelor party at 32. Do I try to drink like I used to? 2. If I break up with my girlfriend, do I have any right to stay in her condo for a while? 3. Is it weird to wear a tuxedo to a non black-tie wedding? 4. Is my longtime best friend in love with me? 5. I have the opportunity to move wherever coming out of grad school with a remote job. Where should I go? Our Partners: Green Chef: Get 50% OFF your first month then 20% OFF your next two months with code 50mail at GreenChef.com/50mail Warby Parker: Get 15% OFF plus FREE shipping when you buy 2 or more pairs of glasses at WarbyParker.com/MAIL Lola Blankets: Get 40% OFF with code MAILIN at LolaBlankets.com WRITE IN TO THE MAIL-IN FOLLOW US ON INSTAGRAM Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • March 12 · 1 hr 15 min

    How Long Can You Keep Seeing Multiple People?

    Back on The Mail-In with Brett Merriman and Sally deFries. Here's what we've got this week: 1. A follow up on last week's pregnancy-during-the-wedding question. 2. How long can you keep seeing multiple people? 3. Is it wild to listen to podcasts at 3.5x speed? 4. My wife and I have vastly different TV preferences and need a mediator. 5. How do I pack for a 10 day Europe trip with a kid? 6. What are your thoughts on relationship etiquette for two people when one person is fresh out of a relationship but there are strong feelings involved? Our Partners: Factor: Get 50% OFF plus FREE BREAKFAST for a year with code mail50off at FactorMeals.com/mail50off Ridge Wallet: Get 10% OFF with code MAIL at Ridge.com Square: Get up to $200 OFF Square hardware when you sign up at Square.com/go/mail WRITE IN TO THE MAIL-IN FOLLOW US ON INSTAGRAM Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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