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The Kink Compass

Chris

Navigate your desires with confidence, curiosity, and consent.
Hosted by Chris, The Kink Compass is your weekly guide to BDSM and kink — from negotiation and safety to play ideas and power dynamics. Whether you’re new, experienced, or curious, each judgment-free episode explores the practices, psychology, and connections that make kink powerful. New episodes every Sunday at 12 PM CET.

You can follow Chris on Fetlife, where he is found under his nick Tittan

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S2 · E13
Sunday · 26 min
Black Metal, Black Leather, and the People Underneath
Black metal and BDSM. Corpse paint and black leather. Screaming vocals and cracking whips. From the outside, both can look dark, intimidating and even dangerous. But behind the imagery, there's often something quite different: Creativity, passion, community and belonging. In this episode of The Kink Compass, we explore the surprising similarities between two misunderstood subcultures, the people behind the stereotypes, and why appearances rarely tell the whole story. Because sometimes the darkest-looking people are among the warmest you'll ever meet. You can find the script on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Patreon⁠ Music licensed through Soundstripe. Code: V7LAWYLQFGGPI4QC, DL2P1VWTWOFAKZ3Z, DOHIIMR1AGOK4OCL, AFSAX3ZYU3X7OTH1, GMPG1MQ7RVTY55ZL, YVBQMZ6UZC2S0PZ5, XGNNYCCTO39TSVBV, FDIUCGFMGEJFGP4R, AD0QRODCBMOTLMCU
S2 · E12
October 18 · 29 min
Conditioning: Training, Trust and Control
Conditioning. It can create ritual, trust, connection and powerful associations. It can also teach silence, fear and compliance. And sometimes, nobody intended to condition anyone at all. In this episode of The Kink Compass, we explore how Dominants and submissives condition each other, the difference between training and control, and the patterns we create without even noticing. Because perhaps the real question isn't whether conditioning is good or bad. It's: What are we teaching each other? You can find the script on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Patreon⁠
S2 · E11
October 11 · 21 min
The BDSM Olympics - Humour Episode
Welcome to the BDSM Olympics. Rope untangling. Toy bag excavation. Maintaining Dominance during unexpected cramp. Synchronised aftercare snack retrieval. And, of course, the prestigious Getting Up From The Floor Without Making A Noise. Some parts of BDSM deserve to be taken very seriously. Ourselves? Perhaps not quite so much. Inspired by the very real Sublympics we once held in my local community, this week The Kink Compass celebrates the ridiculous, wonderfully human side of kink. Let the games begin.
S2 · E10
October 4 · 24 min
Reparations
What happens after we hurt someone? Saying sorry matters. But an apology doesn't undo harm, restore trust, or guarantee forgiveness. And inside BDSM, where negotiated power is part of the relationship, repair can become even more complicated. In this episode of The Kink Compass, we explore apology, responsibility, punishment, forgiveness, and what it actually means to make reparations when something has gone wrong. Because sometimes sorry isn't where the conversation ends. It's where the work begins.
S2 · E9
September 27 · 19 min
The Journey: Becoming Part of the Community
You walked through the door. Now, months later, someone knows your name. In the final episode of The Journey, we explore what happens when the unfamiliar becomes familiar: finding your place, gaining experience, welcoming newcomers, sharing what you've learned, and perhaps one day becoming the person who teaches others. Because there was never a finish line. Your compass was never supposed to tell you where to end up. It only gave you a direction. And your journey? It's only just beginning.
S2 · E8
September 20 · 26 min
The Journey: I Thought I'd Feel Different
The scene is over. So... how are you supposed to feel now? In this episode of The Journey, we explore what happens afterwards: sub drop, Dom and Top drop, unexpected emotions, reflection, aftercare, talking things through, and why not every difficult feeling needs a label. You might feel incredible. You might cry. You might feel strangely normal. Because experience doesn't always give you the answers you expected. Sometimes... It gives you better questions.
S2 · E7
September 13 · 21 min
The Journey: Your First Scene
You've talked. You've negotiated. And now... You're actually doing this. In this episode of The Journey, we step into your first BDSM scene: excitement, nerves, safewords, checking in, things going wrong, aftercare, and the discovery that reality rarely looks quite like fantasy. Because your first scene doesn't have to be perfect. It just has to give you something fantasy never could. Experience.
S2 · E6
September 6 · 21 min
The Journey: Your First Negotiation
You've met someone. You know what you're curious about. Now comes the terrifying part... Actually telling them. In this episode of The Journey, we explore the first negotiation: wants, boundaries, curiosity, saying no, saying “I don't know,” and why awkward conversations can be some of the most important ones you'll have. Because negotiation isn't about having all the right answers. It's about making it easier for two people to tell each other the truth.
S2 · E5
August 30 · 22 min
The Journey: Finding Your Compass
You don’t have to like everything. You don’t have to collect labels, tick boxes, or somehow become “kinky enough.” In this episode of The Journey, we turn inward and start asking a different question: What do you actually want? We talk about exploration, curiosity, changing preferences, fantasy versus reality, and why “I don’t know yet” can be one of the most useful answers you have. Because finding your compass isn’t about knowing exactly where you’re going. It’s about learning which direction feels like yours.
S2 · E4
August 23 · 28 min
The Journey: Your First Event
Walking into your first kink event can feel like stepping into another world. There’s equipment you’ve only seen in pictures. People actually playing. Sounds you weren’t expecting. Rules you’re trying desperately to remember. And then someone offers you cake. In this episode of The Journey, we step through another door and discover what a real kink event actually feels like. The scenes, the etiquette, the quiet negotiations, the people watching, talking, laughing and drinking coffee. Because sometimes the things you remember most from your first dungeon aren’t the dramatic ones. They’re the small moments that made it feel unexpectedly human.
S2 · E2
August 18 · 21 min
The Kink Compass is one year old!
One year. Fifty-one Sundays out of fifty-two. More conversations about kink, relationships, community, consent, pain, pleasure, mistakes, growth and occasionally sheep than I ever imagined when I pressed publish for the first time. So this bonus episode isn't about teaching anything. It's about looking back. At the episodes, the conversations, the unexpected moments, and especially all of you who listened, commented, questioned, shared, supported, laughed, disagreed and came along for the ride. Whether you've been here since episode one or discovered the podcast yesterday, you're part of this. Thank you for an absolutely bloody awesome first year. Now, let's see where the compass takes us next.
S2 · E3
August 16 · 32 min
The Journey: The Scariest Coffee You'll Ever Drink
Your first munch can feel far scarier than your first scene ever will. You park outside. Sit in the car. Wonder whether everyone inside already knows each other. Whether they'll know you're new. Whether you'll say the wrong thing. Then you open the door. In this episode of The Journey, we follow the moment kink stops being something you've only read about online and becomes something real. Real people. Real conversations. Real communities. Because sometimes the hardest part of finding your place isn't learning about kink. It's finding the courage to walk through the door.
S2 · E2
August 9 · 29 min
The Journey: Falling Down The Rabbit Hole
Every journey begins with curiosity. One question becomes another. One article becomes twenty browser tabs. New words appear everywhere, and before long you realise you've discovered far more than a new hobby. You've stumbled into an entire world. But then something unexpected happens. The experts don't always agree. The internet rewards certainty. And behind every polished photograph lies a very human story you rarely get to see. In this episode of The Journey, we explore what it feels like to fall down the rabbit hole, and why the more you learn, the more fascinating the journey becomes. And somewhere along the way... One little word keeps appearing. Munch.
S2 · E1
August 2 · 13 min
The Journey: So... Kink is real?
There wasn't supposed to be a journey. You were just browsing. Maybe it was a Reddit thread. A YouTube recommendation. A podcast. A documentary. Or a question you'd never dared type into a search engine before. In the first episode of The Journey, we explore the moment everything changes. The moment you realise that kink isn't just fantasy or fiction. It's a real community, filled with ordinary people. And once you know the road exists, curiosity has a habit of asking just one more question.
S2 · E1
August 1 · 7 min
The Journey: Session 0
Every journey has a beginning. In tabletop roleplaying games, a Session 0 is where everyone gathers before the adventure begins to discover the world they're about to enter. This is ours. Before we take our first steps into The Journey, let's meet our traveller and discover why they have no name, no gender, and no predetermined role. Because this story could belong to any of us.
S1 · E50
July 26 · 25 min
Skin Care
Healthy skin heals remarkably well. Healthy kink begins long before the first strike and continues long after the last one. In this season finale, we explore the practical side of looking after skin before, during and after a scene, why small injuries deserve respect, and how good aftercare is about far more than soothing sore muscles. Because the marks we leave on skin are usually temporary. The way we make people feel often isn't. You can find the script on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Patreon⁠
July 19 · 23 min
Doll Play
Doll play is often misunderstood. From the outside it can look like objectification, but for many people it's something far more nuanced. In this episode, we explore the psychology behind doll play, the trust it requires, why stillness can feel surprisingly powerful, and how communication and consent transform a simple fantasy into a deeply intimate experience. As always, we'll separate myth from reality and approach the topic with curiosity rather than judgement. This is one of the first episodes recorded with new editing software, so I hope the music isn't too loud. You can find the script on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Patreon⁠
July 12 · 17 min
Reality Always Gets A Vote
No scene ever unfolds exactly as planned. The doorbell rings. A rope slips. Someone starts laughing. The neighbour knocks. Reality has a habit of interrupting even our most carefully crafted moments. In this episode, we explore why adaptability is one of the most underrated skills in kink. Because confidence isn't about pretending nothing ever goes wrong. It's about responding with calm, care and maybe even a sense of humour when reality inevitably gets a vote. You can find the script on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Patreon⁠
S1 · E47
July 5 · 19 min
Kink in the Wild
Outdoor kink offers possibilities you simply can't recreate indoors. Beautiful locations, fresh air, adventure and memories that last a lifetime. It also comes with mosquitoes, curious dog walkers, unexpected police officers, changing weather and the occasional reminder that reality doesn't always care about your carefully planned scene. Join me as we explore how to enjoy outdoor play safely, respectfully and with a healthy sense of humour. No sheep were harmed during the production of this episode. You can find the script on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Patreon⁠
S1 · E46
June 28 · 18 min
False Masters Final Episode: The People Worth Finding
After several weeks exploring manipulation, unhealthy authority, coercion, dependency, and the misuse of trust, False Masters comes to an end with a very different question: What does healthy power actually look like? In this final episode, Chris reflects on more than three decades in the kink community, not to talk about the people who caused harm, but about the people who made him stay. The friends, partners, mentors, and community members who handled vulnerability with care, welcomed others without ownership, and showed that power, freedom, trust, and compassion can coexist. This episode is about healthy communities, healthy relationships, and the ordinary people who quietly make both possible. Because perhaps the most important lesson isn't how to recognise false masters. It's how to recognise the people worth finding. You can find the script on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Patreon⁠

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