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JONNIE JENSEN

Welcome to The Jonnie Jensen Show – for business owning and career minded dads who want success at home so they can feel like the man and dad they want to be.

Modern dads often put themselves last, thinking being enough for everyone else will make them happy. It won’t.

When you get strong first – mentally, physically and emotionally – everything else improves.

Jonnie is a divorced business owning dad and founder of the High Value Man Project.

Real stories. Honest conversations. No alpha hustle. Just clarity, courage and commitment.

Start here: https://highvaluemanproject.com/group

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  • #193
    August 21 · 27 min

    The Holiday Pressure Trap

    You saved for it. You booked it. You told everyone it was going to be brilliant. That's exactly why it turned into a row by day three. Do not fall into the holiday pressure trap. See exactly where your energy, connection and joy is leaking. The free HVM Scorecard takes three minutes https://highvaluemanproject.com/score Jonnie is back from ten days in France with his two kids and one of their mates, and this episode is the honest version of how a family holiday actually goes well. Not the destination, not the budget, not the itinerary. The pressure a man loads onto the trip before he has even left the house, and what happens to his wife and kids when reality does not match the picture in his head. He shares what he does before he packs the boot, on the drive, at the dinner table and in the moments he deliberately steps back to catch. WHY THIS MATTERS For most men the holiday is the one stretch of the year his family gets all of him, and he arrives too loaded to give it. What he wanted to be the best fortnight of the year becomes the one everyone remembers for the wrong reasons. The cost is not a wasted week. It is another year of his kids and his partner learning what he is like under pressure. HIGH VALUE MOMENTS 01:08 Why Holidays Go Wrong06:29 Plan Less, Enjoy More11:56 Make Mealtimes Matter14:18 Balance Family Time and Freedom15:58 Keep Your Healthy Habits17:11 Make Time for Your Relationship19:37 Choose Peace, Fun and Lasting Memories YOUR HIGH VALUE MAN SCORE Not sure where your life is leaking energy, focus and drive? The free HVM Scorecard takes three minutes and shows you exactly where you are winning and where you are losing ground across focus, impact, relationships and energy. https://highvaluemanproject.com/score SHARE / REVIEW / SUBSCRIBE Send this to the mate whose holiday stories always include a drama or a row! He will hate it and then he will thank you. Give the Jonnie Jensen Show a review. It takes ninety seconds and they are how other dads find the show. On Spotify, hit the three dots and rate it. On Apple, it has to be done on mobile. Listen here: https://highvaluemanproject.com/podcast Watch on YouTube: https://highvaluemanproject.com/video

  • #192
    August 11 · 58 min

    You Think You're Invincible. Then You Turn 45 feat. Oliver Anwar

    You never decided to let your health go. You just kept spending it, because it kept paying out. It stops paying out at about 45. Find out where you're leaking energy, focus and drive. Take your free HVM Score: https://highvaluemanproject.com/score Oliver Anwar is an executive health coach working with entrepreneurs and senior executives around the world, based in Dubai. Eight years ago he was broke and filling vending machines in central London at 4am. He builds his coaching around blood work rather than the scales, and he is blunt about what men are getting wrong before they reach for TRT or a weight loss jab. He and Jonnie get into the crisis that arrives at 40 to 45, why identity beats discipline, and what a man can actually do about it starting tomorrow. WHY THIS MATTERS The men in this conversation are not unwell. They are successful, capable, and quietly running on a baseline nobody has ever measured. The bill for that lands somewhere between 40 and 50, usually in a doctor's room, and by then the options are worse and the price is higher. Nothing in this episode takes more than ten minutes a day to start. HIGH VALUE MOMENTS 06:47 The crisis that lands at 40 to 4514:58 I am a healthy person: identity beats dieting22:51 Shortcuts, jabs, and the blood test your GP isn't doing28:26 You service the car and ignore the body34:17 Ten minutes a day, and the protein you're not eating40:41 Healthy masculinity, polarity, and attracting what you are CONNECT WITH OLIVER Fitness For Entrepreneurs: https://fitnessforentrepreneurs.comLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/theoliveranwarYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@theoliveranwar DISCOVER YOUR HIGH VALUE MAN SCORE Discover your High Value Man score, so you can see where you're leaking your energy, connection and joy. Three minutes, and a personal report the moment you finish.https://highvaluemanproject.com/score SHARE / REVIEW / SUBSCRIBE Know a man who's been telling himself he'll sort his health out after this next quarter? Send this to him directly. Not a broadcast. One specific man. A review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify takes 90 seconds. It's the most useful thing you can do to help more men find this show. Apple: https://highvaluemanproject.com/apple Spotify: https://highvaluemanproject.come/spotify

  • #191
    August 6 · 1 hr 2 min

    Your Marriage Isn't Broken, It's Paused feat. Dr Lee Baucom

    No man wakes up one morning and decides to stop fancying his wife. It happens by a decision neither of you remember making. See exactly where the connection is leaking. Take your free HVM Score: https://highvaluemanproject.com/score Dr Lee Baucom has spent thirty years working with couples and is the author of Save the Marriage. Jonnie bought that programme during his own divorce, ten years ago, and says it changed how he thinks about relationships to this day. They talk about the relationships that aren't broken, just quiet, and what it takes for one man to bring one back to life without waiting for permission. WHY THIS MATTERS Nobody arrives at the end of a marriage. Everybody drifts there, one benign decision at a time, and most men don't notice until the distance is too wide to talk across. Lee names the exact slope, and what a man can do about it on his own. HIGH VALUE MOMENTS 02:38 What Jonnie learned about himself after his divorce 04:41 Good people having bad relationships 08:40 Save the Marriage, and the app that came before it 10:24 The little things that keep love alive 11:29 How couples hit the pause button 14:38 Why "we really love each other" doesn't beat the statistics 15:21 Treating the symptoms instead of the disconnection 17:26 The three levels of connection: physical, emotional, spiritual 20:16 Why the movie stops at happily ever after 24:21 The telltale signs of the pause phase 25:49 Setting the rules early: no eye rolls, no silent moods 30:54 Anger is a secondary emotion 32:29 Why you're more gracious with strangers than your wife 33:34 The disses: from disinterest to disdain 36:30 What constant rejection does to a man 40:04 When the relationship strains, everything strains 45:09 Putting your whole life on one relationship 47:18 Relationship before results 49:37 The three Cs: connect, change, create 50:45 Invitational connection, not date night 52:40 The moment his girlfriend said "believe" 55:49 Breaking up with love CONNECT WITH LEE If your marriage is in crisis: https://savethemarriage.comIf you're stuck and drifting that way: https://unpauseyourmarriage.com YOUR HIGH VALUE MAN SCORE Discover your High Value Man score, so you can see where you're leaking your energy, connection and joy. Three minutes, and a personal report the moment you finish. https://highvaluemanproject.com/score SHARE / REVIEW / SUBSCRIBE Know a man whose marriage has gone quiet? Send this to him directly. Not a broadcast. One specific man. A review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify takes 90 seconds. It's the most useful thing you can do to help more men find this show. Apple: htpps://highvaluemanproject.com/apple Spotify: htpps://highvaluemanproject.com/spotify

  • #190
    July 28 · 16 min

    Clear Mind, Clear Results - Law of Attraction for Men

    A clear mind gets clear results. The reason this is true is much more scientific than most men believe. If you think the Law of Attraction is a load of crap then you may be missing out on the basic principles of "you get what you think about most of the time". This episode is why a clear mind matters and how to fix it. Find out where your thinking is clear and where it's cluttered. The free HVM Score takes two minutes: https://highvaluemanproject.com/score Jonnie Jensen breaks down the law of attraction in real-world terms — not crystals and vision boards, but full body alignment: thoughts, actions and chemistry all pointing in the same direction. Why desire alone isn't enough. Why the doubt underneath is the thought that's actually running the show. And the simple exercise that clears the interference so you can get after what you actually want. WHY THIS MATTERS Most men are working hard and going in circles. Not because they lack effort or a plan, but because their doubts are louder than their desire — even when they can't hear them. This episode names that and gives you a way out. HIGH VALUE MOMENTS 00:00 The Law of Attraction for Men: Alignment, Not Wishful Thinking 01:29 Who the High Value Man Framework Is For 03:48 Get Clear on What You Want 06:22 How Doubt Undermines Your Goals 08:30 The Desire vs. Doubt Exercise 10:38 Why Your Energy Has to Match Your Intention 11:08 The Laser Pointer Test for Focus 11:33 Clear Doubt and Build Momentum YOUR HIGH VALUE MAN SCORE Find out where your thinking is clear and where it's cluttered. The free HVM Score takes two minutes and shows you exactly where you're winning and where you're losing ground across focus, impact, relationships and energy.https://highvaluemanproject.com/score BOOK A POWER CALL Take the scorecard, then book a call with Jonnie to go through your results. If working together is right for you, that's where it starts.https://highvaluemanproject.com/turbocall SHARE / REVIEW / SUBSCRIBE Know a man who's going in circles despite working hard? Send this to him directly. One specific man. A review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify takes 90 seconds and helps more men find this show. Listen on all platforms: https://highvaluemanproject.com/podcast

  • #188
    July 14 · 40 min

    Getting Divorced Is Tough. Being Divorced Should Be Great.

    Divorce does not end your life. It simply ends your marriage. This episode breaks down how to get back on your feet in less time, with fewer mistakes, and more fun. Find out where you're at in the rebuild. The free High Value Man Scorecard takes two minutes and shows you exactly where to focus first: https://highvaluemanproject.com/score Too many men walk out of a marriage and spend the next few years carrying it with them. In this episode, Jonnie Jensen breaks down the high value man route through divorce and rebuild: the six stages of grief and why they don't go in order, the Fab Four support structure, the soul cutting exercise, and how to use the 3XC framework to build something better on the other side. WHY THIS MATTERS Divorce doesn't take men down. The way men respond to divorce takes them down. There's a route through this that's faster, cleaner, and results in a better man on the other side. This episode is that route. HIGH VALUE MOMENTS 00:00 Introduction — Divorce Doesn't End Your Life07:15 The Six Stages of Grief (And Why They Don't Go in Order)14:47 Clarity: Who Are You When She's Not in the Picture?21:34 The Fab Four — Your Divorce Support Team23:04 The Soul Cutting Exercise: How to Actually Let Her Go28:27 Commitment: Minimum Viable Output and Building the New Chapter YOUR HIGH VALUE MAN SCORE Find out where you're at in the rebuild. The free HVM Score takes two minutes and shows you exactly where you're winning and where you're losing ground across focus, impact, relationships and energy.https://highvaluemanproject.com/score BOOK A POWER CALL Take the scorecard, then book a call with Jonnie to go through your results. If working together is right for you, that's where it starts.https://highvaluemanproject.com/powercall SHARE / REVIEW / SUBSCRIBE Know a man who's in this right now? Send this directly to him. Not a broadcast. One specific man. A review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify takes 90 seconds and helps more men find this show. https://highvaluemanproject.com/spotify https://highvaluemanproject.com/apple

  • #187
    June 30 · 47 min

    Work So Hard Burnout Nearly Killed Him feat. Nick Medlock

    If Nick hadn't have been training for a marathon, burnout would have killed him. And he was only 28 at the time! Now 5 years later he sold that business and is growing a second. This is a powerful Comeback Kings episode that will move, motivate and make you laugh. Find out where you're running on empty before your body makes the decision for you. Take your free HVM Score: https://highvaluemanproject.com/score Nick Medlock is 33. He built an outstanding-rated care company from the ground up alongside his mum, sold it when his health gave him no other choice, and is now building again. Jonnie Jensen talks to him about what happens when the drive that makes a man successful becomes the thing that nearly destroys him. WHY THIS MATTERS A man who can't stop isn't strong. He's running on empty and calling it dedication. Nick's story names where that road ends, and what the way back looks like. HIGH VALUE MOMENTS 02:12 Nick's Upbringing and Values05:57 The Importance of Friendships07:55 Career Beginnings and Family Business10:09 Challenges in Adult Care13:47 Burnout and Mental Health Awareness20:12 Realisations and Changes in Life24:22 The Struggle and Realisation25:53 Transitioning from Family Business29:47 Navigating the Sale of a Business30:55 New Beginnings and Business Ventures34:11 Building Trust in Partnerships38:44 Family Values and Parenting Goals CONNECT WITH NICK Blue Circle Surveyors: https://www.bluecirclesurveyors.co.ukLinkedIn: Nick Medlock DISCOVER YOUR HIGH VALUE MAN SCORE The free HVM Scorecard takes two minutes and shows you exactly where you're winning and where you're losing ground across focus, impact, relationships and energy.https://highvaluemanproject.com/score BOOK A TURBO CALL Take the scorecard, then book a call with Jonnie to go through your results. If working together is right for you, that's where it starts.https://highvaluemanproject.com/turbocall SHARE / REVIEW / SUBSCRIBE Know a business-owning dad who needs to hear Nick's story? Send it to him directly. Not a broadcast. One specific man. A review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify takes 90 seconds. It's the most useful thing you can do to help more men find this show. Listen on all platforms: https://highvaluemanproject.com/apple https://highvaluemanproject.com/spotify

  • #186
    June 23 · 32 min

    Man Up: The Three-Step Process to Finding Your Purpose

    A lot of men need to man up. That's not a put down. It is about every man finding his own purpose. Because when men don't have purpose they feel disempowered and voiceless. This episode tells breakdown how you can MAN UP. Start to feel like the man you want to be. Take your free HVM Score now: https://highvaluemanproject.com/score Jonnie's position: "man up" as a put-down is useless. As a rallying cry - for men who've lost their purpose, their direction, their reason for driving the day - it's exactly right. This episode is the how. Built from years of coaching hundreds of business owning dads who have found their energy, connection and joy. WHY THIS MATTERS A man without purpose doesn't sit still. He keeps everyone else's game running instead. Another year passes. The feeling doesn't go away. It just gets easier to ignore. HIGH VALUE MOMENTS 06:28 The 3XC Formula: Clarity, Courage, Commitment 12:40 Finding Clarity in Identity 19:22 The Role of Courage in Transformation 23:55 Commitment: The Key to Lasting Change READY TO LEAD YOUR HIGH VALUE MAN LIFE? Not sure where your life is leaking energy, focus and drive? The free HVM Scorecard takes 2 minutes and shows you exactly where you're winning and where you're losing ground across focus, impact, relationships and energy. https://highvaluemanproject.com/score BOOK A POWER CALL Take the scorecard and book a call with Jonnie to review your results. If Elite one-to-one is right for you, that's where it starts. https://highvaluemanproject.com/powercall SHARE / REVIEW / SUBSCRIBE If this landed, share it with one man in your world who needs to hear it. Leave a review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify - it takes 90 seconds and it makes a real difference. https://highvaluemanproject.com/apple https://highvaluemanproject.com/spotify

  • #185
    June 20 · 9 min

    Fathers Day - It's Massive And It's Meaningless

    Fatherhood is one of the most thankless jobs going. But it's also one of the best. Wherever you are this Father's Day, this one's for you. https://highvaluemanproject.com/score Jonnie Jensen dropped this short special on Father's Day weekend for every kind of dad: the ones who've got their kids around them, the ones who won't see their kids today, the ones in the long game who are quietly wondering if any of it's landing. A single dad himself, Jonnie speaks directly to the men who are fighting for contact, the ones going through divorce, the ones whose teenagers have pulled away, and the ones who are showing up every day to a role that doesn't always come with much gratitude. He talks about the father figures beyond your own dad, about what Father's Day actually means versus what we think it should mean, and about the one thing that gets single dads through: staying focused on what's coming next, not wallowing in what's been lost. This is a short, honest, personal one. No framework. Just one dad talking to others. WHY THIS MATTERS Men don't need permission to celebrate fatherhood or to acknowledge how hard it is. What they do need is someone to say: if it's not working the way you want it to right now, that can change. You don't have to have got it right up until now to start getting it right. The relationship with your kids is the long game. Keep playing it. TAKE THE SCORECARD Not sure where your life is leaking energy, focus and drive? The free HVM Scorecard takes 2 minutes and shows you exactly where you're winning and where you're losing ground across focus, impact, relationships and energy.https://highvaluemanproject.com/score SHARE / REVIEW / SUBSCRIBE Know a dad who needs to hear this today? Send it to him.Leave a review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify.Subscribe so you never miss an episode.

  • #185
    June 16 · 1 hr 21 min

    You'll Never Walk Again: Colin Owensby on Resilience, Loss and a Fulfilled Life

    He was told at 15 he might never walk again. This week's guest, Colin Owensby, rebuilt his body, lost his brother three months later, and went on to model in Milan, double for Ashton Kutcher in Hollywood, finish an Ironman and a 100-mile ultra, and build a life he calls genuinely fulfilled. This episode runs longer than usual but it was a story that just couldn't be cut short. Not sure where your life is leaking energy, focus and drive? Take the free HVM Scorecard: https://highvaluemanproject.com/score Jonnie and Colin get into rebuilding after tragedy, why grief is not the end of the story, the wisdom of children, what five years beside A-list actors taught Colin about excellence, and Colin's Map of Resilience: nine simple, mostly free tools for a fulfilled life. WHY THIS MATTERS Most men never face the question Colin faced at 15: can I come back from this? But every man hits chapters that end, identities that fall away, and moments that ask him to adapt or shut down. This episode is a masterclass in choosing to keep going, and a reminder that fulfilment is available whatever you are going through. HIGH VALUE MOMENTS 09:40 The car accident at 15 19:20 Losing his brother 23:20 What grief really teaches 29:40 A 16-year-old's wisdom and his parents' divorce 41:20 Milan, the runways, and learning every industry 53:40 Hollywood, Ashton Kutcher, and what excellence looks like 1:01:20 Meeting his wife 1:08:30 The Map of Resilience: the nine tools 1:16:30 Loneliness, community and giving back 1:21:00 Spirituality and being the epicentre of your life TAKE THE SCORECARD Discover your High Value Man score and see where you're leaking your energy, connection and joy: https://highvaluemanproject.com/score BOOK A POWER CALL Ready to talk about your next chapter? https://highvaluemanproject.com/powercall CONNECT WITH COLIN Instagram: @theColinOwensby Website: https://theColinOwensby.com PLEASE SHARE, REVIEW AND SUBSCRIBE If this helped, share it with a man who needs it, leave a review, and subscribe so you never miss an episode. Subscribe on YouTube: https://youtube.com/@JonnieJensen?sub_confirmation=1 Spotify: https://highvaluemanproject.com/spotify Apple: https://highvaluemanproject.com/apple

  • #184
    June 9 · 34 min

    Win At Home Before You Lose It All: The 5 Step System For Midlife Men

    You can't keep grinding harder and expecting home life to sort itself out. It won't. The man who's losing at home is going to keep losing until he turns and faces it. Get your High Value Man Score. Find out where your energy and joy are leaking. Takes 2 mins. 👉 https://highvaluemanproject.com/scoreYou've worked your arse off. The business is doing well. The house, the car, the holidays. On paper you've made it. So why does midlife feel like this for men? Why are you knackered all the time. Why does your wife look at you like she's tolerating you. Why are your kids walking around you like you're the angry man in the corner. Why does fun feel like something other people are having. This episode is for every midlife man who can feel it slipping. The man, the dad, the husband he wanted to be. The man he was when she fell in love with him. The man he used to like seeing in the mirror. There are five things you have to nail to come back from that, and they have to be done in the right order. This is the system Jonnie runs men through inside Accelerate and on the "Win At Home Before It's Too Late" webinars this month. The same system that's pulled men back from the brink of divorce, burnout, and quietly losing it all. WHY THIS MATTERS This episode names exactly what's broken and gives you the five-step system to fix it. Identity. Energy. The cost of the wrong life. The hormones running the show whether you like it or not. The diamond alliance most men don't have. And the fun and adventure that gets killed off first when life gets hard. Sort these five and everything else follows. Ignore them and no amount of success will ever feel like enough. HIGH VALUE MOMENTS 00:00 Winning at Home: The Foundation of Success 03:59 The Five Core Elements for Thriving 10:37 Understanding Identity and Energy Levels 16:07 The Importance of Relationships and Support 22:24 Finding Joy and Adventure in Life 28:57 Creating a System for Living REGISTER FOR THE WINNING AT HOME WEBINAR A 60-minute live session running through June. The fastest way to take what's in this episode and turn it into action.👉 https://highvaluemanproject.com/win-at-home DISCOVER YOUR HIGH VALUE MAN SCORE Not sure where your life is leaking energy, connection and joy? The free HVM Scorecard takes 2 minutes and shows you exactly where you're winning and where you're losing ground across focus, impact, relationships and energy.👉 https://highvaluemanproject.com/score BOOK A POWER CALL WITH JONNIE Ready to stop going through the motions and start leading? I have spaces available for Elite 1:1 coaching this month.👉 https://highvaluemanproject.com/powercall SHARE, REVIEW AND SUBSCRIBE Subscribe so you never miss an episode. If this one landed, leave a review and send it to one other man who needs to hear it. Apple: https://highvaluemanproject.com/appleSpotify: https://highvaluemanproject.com/spotify

  • #183
    June 5 · 45 min

    Men's Style Tips: How to Dress Better in Your 40s and 50s with Nick Hems

    Most men get to their 40s and realise they have no idea what they're doing with their wardrobe. They've been wearing the same kind of stuff for years, they don't know what fits, what works, or where to even start. Nick Hems is a men's personal stylist who builds wardrobes for business owners and career-driven men who want to look the part without spending their life shopping. In this episode he breaks down the most common mistakes men make and shares a practical approach to building a wardrobe that actually works. Get your High Value Man Score. Find out where your drive, connection and joy is leaking. Takes 2 mins. 👉 https://highvaluemanproject.com/score WHY THIS MATTERS How you dress is not vanity. It's communication. Within the first seven seconds of meeting you, people make up to eleven decisions about who you are. Whether you trust them. Whether you want to engage. Whether you take them seriously. For business-owning and career-driven men this isn't optional. The way you show up shapes the opportunities you attract, the conversations you have, and how you feel about yourself walking into a room. This episode is a practical, no-nonsense guide to fixing the gap between how you look and how you want to be seen. HIGH VALUE MOMENTS 05:29 The Importance of Appearance in Leadership 09:43 Common Style Mistakes Men Make 14:38 Managing Your Wardrobe Effectively 20:43 Building a Capsule Wardrobe for Success 24:19 The Joy of Shopping 26:59 Navigating the Changing Retail Landscape 29:23 Quality Over Quantity in Wardrobe Choices 31:01 Exploring Unique Shopping Experiences 33:20 The Importance of Honest Feedback 34:50 Investing in Comfort and Quality 38:18 Transformational Power of Style 40:45 Building Confidence Through Wardrobe Choices FIND NICK Website: https://www.nickhemsstyle.co.ukLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/nickhems/ FIND OUT YOUR HIGH VALUE MAN SCORE Not sure where your life is leaking energy, focus and drive? The free HVM Scorecard takes 2 minutes and shows you exactly where you're winning and where you're losing ground across focus, impact, relationships and energy.👉 https://highvaluemanproject.com/score BOOK A POWER CALL WITH JONNIE Ready to stop going through the motions and start leading? I have spaces available for Elite 1:1 coaching this month.👉 https://highvaluemanproject.com/powercall SHARE, REVIEW AND SUBSCRIBE Subscribe so you never miss an episode. If this one landed, leave a review and send it to one other man who needs to hear it. Apple: https://highvaluemanproject.com/apple Spotify: https://highvaluemanproject.com/spotify

  • #182
    May 29 · 34 min

    Being A Step Dad - Are You Getting It Wrong?

    Being a stepdad is one of the hardest jobs a man can take on. Get it right and its a true privilege. Get it wrong and its a recipe for endless stress and drama. Get your High Value Man Score. Find out where your energy and drive are leaking. Takes 2 mins. 👉 https://highvaluemanproject.com/score Jonnie just got off a coaching call about step parenting on Bank Holiday Monday and couldn't wait to record this. In this episode he draws on his own experience as a stepson, as a stepdad, and from over a decade of coaching men through blended family life. Six principles that he genuinely believes work, not because they're easy, but because they're honest about what the job actually requires. WHY THIS MATTERS Blended families are more common than ever and the tension inside them is quietly wrecking relationships. Men stepping into a stepdad role with the wrong mindset, trying to enforce rules, competing with the biological dad, or going half in, create more damage than they realise. And the kids carry it. This episode names what most men get wrong and gives a clear path to getting it right. Whether you're a stepdad, about to become one, or your kids are now spending time with your ex's new partner, there is something in here for you. HIGH VALUE MOMENTS 00:00 Introduction: Being a Stepparent Is Nothing Like Being a Biological Dad 01:20 Who This Episode Is For 02:31 Take the High Value Man Scorecard 03:43 Jonnie's Experience as a Stepson 04:16 Getting a Stepmum Nine Months After Losing His Mum 06:26 Being Stepdad to Archie 09:17 Point 1: Your Role Is Earned Not Given 11:17 Point 2: All In or Not At All 13:25 Point 3: Their Dad Is Their Dad 15:55 When Your Kid Calls the Stepdad Dad 18:01 Point 4: Don't Try to Be the Primary Parent 21:28 Point 5: Pick Your Battles and Don't Sweat the Small Stuff 23:36 How Jo and Rose Got It Right 25:25 Relationship Before Results 26:33 Point 6: The Blended Family Is a Whole Different Game 28:34 The Honest Bit: What Jonnie Got Wrong 30:27 The Win: What Success as a Stepparent Looks Like 33:12 Leave A Review And Share This Episode FIND OUT YOUR HIGH VALUE MAN SCORE Not sure where your life is leaking energy, focus and drive? The free HVM Scorecard takes 2 minutes and shows you exactly where you're winning and where you're losing ground across focus, impact, relationships and energy.👉 https://highvaluemanproject.com/score BOOK A POWER CALL WITH JONNIE Ready to stop going through the motions and start leading? I have spaces available for Elite 1:1 coaching this month.👉 https://highvaluemanproject.com/powercall SHARE, REVIEW AND SUBSCRIBE Subscribe so you never miss an episode. If this one landed, leave a review and send it to one other man who needs to hear it. Apple: https://highvaluemanproject.com/apple Spotify: https://highvaluemanproject.com/spotify

  • #181
    May 20 · 1 hr 1 min

    Ezra Vancil Addiction, Divorce and the Rebuild Nobody Saw Coming

    A Texas musician. Two divorces. A decade of addiction. And a life rebuilt from the ground up. This one will hit you somewhere real. Get your High Value Man Score. Reclaim your energy and drive. Takes 2 mins. 👉 https://highvaluemanproject.com/score Last week Jonnie turned 52 and looked at exactly what he's learned about making sure he's not running himself into the ground. This week his guest has lived the full version of that story, and come out the other side making the best music of his life. Ezra Vancil is a performing songwriter, author, and father from Texas. He plays in a band with his daughter. He's been signed, dropped, divorced twice, through addiction and sobriety, in and out of mental hospitals, and at rock bottom more than once. He got sober at 40 and has spent the thirteen years since rebuilding a life, a marriage, and a creative purpose that actually means something. This is his story. WHY THIS MATTERS Most men who are struggling aren't struggling because of their circumstances. They're struggling because somewhere along the way they lost themselves inside a version of life they were trying to hold together. Ezra did what a lot of men do: kept the ambition running, buried the pain, and let the alcohol do the work of keeping him going. Until it didn't. What makes this conversation worth your time isn't the darkness. It's what came after. Ezra talks about fatherhood, divorce, affairs, custody battles, the moment a therapist told him he could be happy, and what it actually took to change. If you're in a hard chapter right now and can't quite see the next one, this is for you. HIGH VALUE MOMENTS 03:47 — The Importance of Family and Legacy 09:28 — Ezra's Musical Journey Begins 16:38 — Navigating Relationships and Fatherhood 21:20 — The Jekyll and Hyde of Addiction 24:20 — Lessons from Divorce and Relationships 29:56 — Value of Time in Relationships 31:51 — Commitment and Effort in Marriage 33:40 — The Downfall: Affairs and Consequences 36:47 — Navigating Divorce and Child Custody 40:21 — Awareness of Mental Health 44:35 — Catalyst for Change and Recovery 51:06 — Embracing a New Chapter 55:44 — Creativity and Purpose in Music FIND EZRA Website: https://EzraVancil.comInstagram: @EzraVancilMusic on all streaming platforms: search Ezra Vancil FIND OUT YOUR HIGH VALUE MAN SCORE Get your life MOT in under two minutes. Find out exactly where you are leaking focus, energy and joy. 👉 https://highvaluemanproject.com/score BOOK A POWER CALL WITH JONNIE JENSEN Ready to stop going through the motions and start leading? I have spaces available for Elite 1:1 coaching this month. 👉 https://highvaluemanproject.com/powercall SHARE, REVIEW AND SUBSCRIBE Subscribe so you never miss an episode. If this one landed, leave a review and send it to one other man who needs to hear it. Apple: https://highvaluemanproject.com/appleSpotify: https://highvaluemanproject.com/spotify

  • #180
    May 12 · 38 min

    The Decade That Makes or Breaks You: What I've Learned at 52

    Frustrated that you don't feel like the man you want to be? Find out where your energy and drive are leaking.👉 https://highvaluemanproject.com/score 52 is bloody old. Or is it? A couple of decades ago it definitely would have been. But now? The question is how you should be feeling and thinking at this point - and whether you're actually doing it. If you're just turning 40, listen up. This decade matters more than any other. You wouldn't run a high performance car into the ground and wonder why it's falling apart. On his 52nd birthday, Jonnie looks at exactly what he's learned about making sure he's not doing that to himself - and what you can do right now to make sure you're not doing it either. WHY THIS MATTERS A lot of men hit their 40s and start to feel it. Not the age itself - something else. The energy quietly dropping. The spark fading. The sense that life should feel better than this by now They look at it as a motivation problem or a circumstances problem when actually it comes down to a handful of fundamentals they've stopped doing or never really started. This episode names them directly. If you're heading into your 40s or already in them, the gap between where you are and where you want to be probably starts somewhere in here. HIGH VALUE MOMENTS 05:49 — Navigating life changes and commitment 09:03 — Parenting and personal growth 11:50 — Understanding ADHD and personal development 14:29 — Foundational mantras for a successful life 19:44 — The importance of joy and relationships 25:22 — Character and energy in life 30:42 — Taking responsibility for your life FIND OUT YOUR HIGH VALUE MAN SCORE Get your life MOT in under two minutes. Find out exactly where you are leaking focus, energy and joy.👉 https://highvaluemanproject.com/score BOOK A POWER CALL WITH JONNIE Ready to stop going through the motions and start leading? I have spaces available for Elite 1:1 coaching this month.👉 https://highvaluemanproject.com/powercall SHARE, REVIEW AND SUBSCRIBE Subscribe so you never miss an episode. If this one landed, leave a review and send it to one other man who needs to hear it. Apple: https://highvaluemanproject.com/apple Spotify: https://highvaluemanproject.com/spotify

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  • #179
    May 5 · 27 min

    Finding Your Purpose - 4 Steps To Reconnecting With The Man You Want To Be

    Frustrated that you don't feel like the man you want to be? Find out where your energy and focus are leaking. 👉 https://highvaluemanproject.com/score Last week Jonnie said men don't have a mental health problem. They have a purpose crisis. This week he gets into what you actually do about it. In this episode Jonnie walks through the clarity section of the 3XC Formula — the first and most important step in the High Value Man system for living. Drawing on his own story, from a teenage dream of being a TV presenter to two and a half years of lost direction, he breaks down exactly why purpose disappears and what it takes to get it back. This isn't about setting goals. It's about reconnecting with who you actually are, what you stand for, and the reason you get out of bed that's bigger than just you. WHY THIS MATTERS If you know something is missing but can't put your finger on what it is, this episode is for you. A man without a clear purpose doesn't just feel flat. He becomes difficult to be around. His relationship suffers. His kids stop being inspired by him. His motivation drifts in and out. And he mistakes that drift for a motivation problem when it's actually a commitment problem. Purpose isn't something that lands in your lap. It's something you consciously create. Here's how. HIGH VALUE MOMENTS The TV presenter story: what two and a half years of lost direction actually feels like Step one: getting honest about what's working and what isn't in your life right now Step two: your values and why living out of alignment with them creates constant low level frustration The rumble strip: how to recognise when you've drifted off course Step three: your blueprint and why it's not a vision board Why motivation isn't the answer and commitment is The fitness story: how connecting your why to something bigger than yourself changes everything What a man with a clear purpose looks like to his wife, his kids, and everyone around him TAKE THE HIGH VALUE MAN SCORECARDGet your life MOT in under two minutes. Find out exactly where you are leaking focus, energy and joy. 👉 https://highvaluemanproject.com/score BOOK A POWER CALL WITH JONNIEReady to stop drifting and start leading? I have spaces available for Elite 1:1 coaching this month. 👉 https://highvaluemanproject.com/powercall SHARE, REVIEW & SUBSCRIBESubscribe now so that you never miss an episode. If this landed, leave a review and share it with other men in your life. Apple: https://highvaluemanproject.com/apple Spotify: https://highvaluemanproject.com/spotify

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  • #178
    April 27 · 32 min

    The Men’s Mental Health Lie - What Men Need To Realise Instead

    Frustrated that you don't feel like the man you want to be? Find out where your energy and focus are leaking. 👉 https://highvaluemanproject.com/score Everywhere you look, men are being told they have a "mental health problem." We see the posters in public toilets and service stations telling us "it’s okay to talk." But for most successful men, that message is missing the mark. In this episode, Jonnie Jensen argues that the help being offered to men isn't working because it isn't solving the right problem. Most mid-life dads don't have a clinical mental health issue; they have a Purpose Crisis. When a man loses his "Why," he stops showing up in his marriage and for his kids . He enters the Low Value Death Spiral, where burnout and quiet despair become a "four out of ten" existence that too many men simply put up with . Jonnie shares the raw truth of his own journey, from the "five-year slide" of miscarriages and business pressure to the moment the road finally ran out in January 2015 . WHY THIS MATTERSIf you see a mental health poster and think, "That's for someone else, I'm just stressed," you are in denial about a situation that is quietly grinding you down . This episode is about identifying where you sit on the spectrum between Suicide and Thriving . It explores why reclaiming your purpose is like topping up the air in your car's tyres before you hit the central reservation . HIGH VALUE MOMENTS 05:18 The Thriving Spectrum: Why a "4 out of 10" life is a danger sign 11:32 The "That Ain't Me" Trap: Why men switch off from mental health talk 13:49 The 5-Year Slide: Miscarriages, redundancy, and the dream of "having it all" . 20:26 Running Out of Road: When the weight you carry exceeds your capacity . 28:48 The 3XC Shift: Reclaiming Clarity to inspire your wife and kids again TAKE THE HIGH VALUE MAN SCORECARD Get your "Life MOT" in under two minutes. Find out exactly where you are leaking focus and energy.👉 https://highvaluemanproject.com/score BOOK A POWER CALL WITH JONNIE I have two spots opening for Elite 1:1 coaching this month for men who are trying to hold a crumbling world together on their own . Let’s find your path again.👉 https://highvaluemanproject.com/powercall SHARE, REVIEW & SUBSCRIBE I’ve been running this podcast for five years and 180 odd episodes. If this landed, do me a favor: Leave a review. If you don't ask, you don't get!. Apple: https://highvaluemanproject.com/apple Spotify: https://highvaluemanproject.com/spotify

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  • #176
    April 13 · 24 min

    Deciding Enough Is Enough — Drained to Unstoppable

    Frustrated that you don't feel like the man you want to be? Find out where your energy and focus are leaking. 👉 https://highvaluemanproject.com/score There's a moment every man reaches. Not a dramatic moment. Not a breakdown. Just a quiet, honest reckoning with himself where he looks at the life he's living and decides he's done accepting it. That's what this episode is about. In this episode of The Jonnie Jensen Show, Jonnie Jensen gets real. Driving along, no script, no studio — just honesty about the journey that led to the High Value Man Project, why so many men stay stuck in situations that are slowly draining them, and what it actually takes to decide enough is enough. This is episode two of the Drained to Unstoppable series, before the live workshop on Tuesday April 28th. WHY THIS MATTERS Too many men are living a four or five out of ten experience. Not in crisis. Not falling apart. Just putting up with it. Telling themselves if I can just get through this period, everything will be okay. Waiting for the moment it gets better on its own. It doesn't get better on its own. Jonnie knows this because he lived it. Four years of struggle inside his marriage. Three miscarriages. Financial pressure. A business course he could barely focus on because everything at home was falling apart. Putting up with second best until finally realising "enough is enough". As Jonnie puts it in this episode — when you decide you're no longer willing to be the drained version of yourself, that's when everything transforms. That's when you take control and start to live the high value life. HIGH VALUE MOMENTS 05:35 Personal Struggles and Growth 11:01 Taking Responsibility for Change 16:17 Creating a Thriving Environment DRAINED TO UNSTOPPABLE — LIVE WORKSHOP Tuesday April 28th. Zoom. 90 minutes live and interactive with full Q&A. Early bird tickets £35. First 25 — bring a friend for free. 👉 https://highvaluemanproject.com/unstoppable BOOK A POWER CALL WITH JONNIE 45 minutes. One area. Real clarity on what needs to change and how the High Value Man system applies to your life right now. 👉 https://highvaluemanproject.com/powercall JOIN THE HIGH VALUE MAN PROJECT — FREE The FIRE Tracker, the High Value Man Creed, weekly challenges, and a community of men doing the work. 👉https:// highvaluemanproject.com/group SHARE, REVIEW & SUBSCRIBE If this episode landed, share it with a man who needs to hear it. Leave a review. Subscribe so you never miss an episode of The Jonnie Jensen Show. Apple → https://highvaluemanproject.com/apple Spotify → https://highvaluemanproject.com/spotify

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  • #176
    March 25 · 14 min

    You Feel Like Crap Because You Don't Know Who You Are

    Is your identity lifting you higher or taking you down? Get your High Value Man Score and find out where you're leaking masculine energy.👉 https://highvaluemanproject.com/score Most men can tell you exactly what they do. They can tell you what they've built, what they earn, what they're responsible for. But ask them who they are — the whole picture, not just the work bit — and they go quiet. That silence is where the drain starts. In this episode of The Jonnie Jensen Show, Jonnie explores one of the most overlooked causes of exhaustion, frustration, and quiet misery in midlife men — a weak or fractured identity. This is episode one of the Drained to Unstoppable series, running up to the live workshop on April 29th. WHY THIS MATTERS A man who has wrapped his entire identity around one thing - the business, the marriage, the role of provider - is one crisis away from everything falling apart. When the business struggles, he struggles. When the relationship wobbles, he wobbles. Because he hasn't got a foundation that exists beneath those things. And in the absence of a strong identity, most men do the same thing. They reach for distraction. Drinking a bit more. Checking out. Scrolling. Anything to avoid sitting with the question they don't have an answer to. But the distraction doesn't fix it. It just moves them further from themselves. The real work - and the real relief - comes from coming back to the base. Getting clear on who you actually are. Not just what you do. As Jonnie puts it in this episode: "Come back to the base. Look at your identity. Start to work on resolving that from a position of strength. From the position of you." HIGH VALUE MOMENTS 00:00 Introduction to Identity and Purpose 07:08 Crisis and Identity: The Impact of Life Changes 12:14 Building a Positive Identity for Growth 14:29 Outro DRAINED TO UNSTOPPABLE — LIVE WORKSHOP This episode is part of the Drained to Unstoppable series leading up to a live, interactive 90-minute workshop on Zoom on April 29th. First 25 tickets are on early bird pricing. Buy a ticket and bring a friend for free. 👉 https://highvaluemanproject.com/unstoppable JOIN THE HIGH VALUE MAN PROJECT — FREE Inside the free Basecamp community you'll find the FIRE Tracker, the High Value Man Creed, weekly challenges, and a brotherhood of men doing the work. 👉 https://highvaluemanproject.com/group BOOK A POWER CALL WITH JONNIE 45 minutes. One challenging area. Real clarity on what needs to change and how the High Value Man system applies to your life. 👉 https://highvaluemanproject.com/powercall SHARE, REVIEW & SUBSCRIBE If this episode landed, share it with a man who needs to hear it. Leave a review. Subscribe so you never miss an episode of The Jonnie Jensen Show. Apple: https://highvaluemanproject.com/apple Spotify: https://highvaluemanproject.com/spotify All Platforms: https://highvaluemanproject.com/podcast

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  • #175
    March 14 · 58 min

    The Dangerous Truth About Men Without a Mission feat. Ben Price

    Feeling stuck or off your game? Find out where your focus and drive are leaking. Get your High Value Man Score👉 https://highvaluemanproject.com/score Most men spend years trying to prove something. To their boss. To their family. To themselves. They join the army. They build the business. They push harder. Work longer. Take on more. And somewhere in all of that striving, they never stop to ask the one question that changes everything. Whose mission am I actually living? In this episode of The Jonnie Jensen Show, Jonnie sits down with Ben Price — ex-military intelligence, embedded with special forces in Afghanistan and Iraq, gym owner, business builder, father to two boys and now an elite coach for high-performance men who on the outside appear to have it all, but are quietly losing a war inside their own heads. Ben's story is a proper one. Battle fields. Divorce. Business collapse. Identity crisis. The lot. And he came out the other side with a framework for men that is grounded, battle-tested, and genuinely works. They go deep on initiation, purpose, identity, the archetypes of masculinity, and what it actually takes to become the man you're capable of being. WHY THIS MATTERS We have lost initiation for men. For thousands of years, boys were guided into manhood. Elders showed them what it meant to be a man. How to lead. How to handle pressure. How to show up in a relationship. How to face fear. That's gone. In its place, there's Netflix. Porn. Gambling. Infinite scroll. And a culture that is exceptionally good at getting men's attention and selling them things — while quietly keeping them numb, distracted, and purposeless. The result? Men who are unconsciously seeking initiation without knowing that's what they're doing. Running Ironmans, building businesses, signing up for the army — not because they have a clear mission, but because somewhere deep down they're hoping that this will be the thing that finally tells them who they are. It rarely is. This conversation is about what happens when a man stops unconsciously searching and starts consciously choosing. When he figures out his actual mission. And builds his life around that instead of everyone else's version of it. As Ben puts it: "You're not broken. You've just never been taught how to operate as a man." HIGH VALUE MOMENTS 00:00 Introduction to Ben Price's Journey 03:21 Transitioning from Soldier to Civilian Life 06:33 Navigating Relationships and Divorce 09:14 The Impact of Personal Development on Relationships 12:05 The Journey into Entrepreneurship 14:41 Understanding Purpose and Indoctrination 17:39 The Modern Challenges Facing Men 20:34 The Role of Initiation in Masculinity 23:12 Building a Business Amidst Adversity 28:51 Navigating Challenges and Learning to Sell 33:35 The Importance of Coaching and Personal Growth 38:24 Awakening to Authenticity and Self-Discovery 42:19 Transitioning to Coaching and Helping Others 47:30 The Kingmaker Process: Guiding Men Through Archetypes 53:59 Encouragement for Men in Turbulent Times CONNECT WITH BEN Website: https://coachbenprice.comBook: Conversations of a Suicide Bomber — available free at his website SHARE THIS WITH OTHER MEN WHO The whole purpose of the High Value Man Project is to see modern dads thrive. The best way you can help this mission is to share this episode with a man who needs to hear it, leave a review, and subscribe so you never miss an episode. ⁠https://highvaluemanproject.com/podcast⁠ JOIN THE HIGH VALUE MAN PROJECT If you're a man who feels flat, stuck, or slightly disconnected from your edge — start here. Inside the free Basecamp level of the High Value Man Project you'll find the FIRE Tracker, the High Value Man Creed, weekly challenges, and a community of men who are doing the work. 👉 ⁠https://highvaluemanproject.com/group BOOK A FOCUS CALL (1-on-1 with Jonnie) If you're ready to stop drifting and start leading — book a free Focus Call. 👉 ⁠https://highvaluemanproject.com/turbocall

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  • #174
    March 7 · 31 min

    8 Things Men Must Do When A Marriage Ends

    Feeling stuck or off your game? Get your High Value Man Score and find out where your focus and drive are leaking.👉 https://highvaluemanproject.com/score When a relationship or marriage ends, most men go straight into panic. They stop sleeping. They stop eating. Their mind starts racing with worst-case scenarios about losing their children, their home, and their future. But the breakup itself is rarely the thing that destroys men. It's the PANIC! In this episode of The Jonnie Jensen Show, Jonnie shares eight practical principles every man must understand when a relationship ends. Drawing from his own experience of divorce and years of conversations with men going through separation, he explains how to stay grounded, protect your relationship with your children, and rebuild your life with clarity and strength. Because the end of a relationship isn’t the end of your life. But how you handle it really matters. Divorce and separation are among the most emotionally disruptive experiences a man can face. Without guidance, many men spiral into anxiety, anger, and destructive behaviour that damages their reputation, their relationship with their children, and their long-term wellbeing. This episode offers a grounded framework for navigating the early stages of a breakup with clarity, emotional control, and practical leadership. As Jonnie explains: “Breakups are emotional. Your job is to keep it business.” Key Moments 00:00 Navigating the Emotional Turmoil of Breakups 02:56 Understanding the High Value Man Project 06:14 The Importance of Emotional Control 08:36 Accepting the Reality of Relationship Breakdown 11:42 Maintaining Self-Control During a Breakup 14:24 Prioritizing Physical and Mental Well-being 17:28 Being a Present Father 20:02 Getting Smart About the Legal Process 23:16 Organizing Your Life Post-Breakup 26:01 Embracing a New Beginning Share Subscribe & Leave A Review Please subscribe - it means you will never miss an episode of the Jonnie Jensen Show and it helps the podcast services see we are popular. If this episode hit home, leave a review and share it with another man who needs to hear it. Apple → ⁠https://highvaluemanproject.com/apple⁠ Spotify → ⁠https://highvaluemanproject.com/spotify⁠ All Platforms → ⁠https://highvaluemanproject.com/podcast⁠ Join The High Value Man Project The High Value Man Project Basecamp is a free, private community for men who want clarity, structure, accountability, and real conversations about life, fatherhood, relationships, and personal growth. Join here: 👉 ⁠https://highvaluemanproject.com/group⁠ Book A Personal Strategy Call (1-on-1 with Jonnie) If you want direction, accountability, and structure – book a free personal strategy call. 👉 ⁠https://highvaluemanproject.com/turbocall⁠

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