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The Hook Up is about love, sex and relationships. We answer your questions, learn things together, cry over heartbreak and normalise shit. Every Tuesday Dee and Pip debate your dating dilemmas and hear your cooked stories. Every Thursday it's the sex ed you never had — we call on an expert to go deep and find answers with Dee.

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Yesterday · 26 min
Struggling In Love? You Might Need To Unpack Your Childhood
If you’re someone who seems to struggle in love, or you keep having the same fights in relationships - it might have something to do with what you learnt in your childhood. In this ep, Dee chats to psychotherapist Nichlolas Purcell about how much our parents/caregivers shape the patterns we emulate in love and how to start ‘doing the work’. SHOW NOTES: Nicholas Purcell’s Guardian article - https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2026/jun/22/childhood-trauma-learnt-behaviours-narcissist-mo
Monday · 35 min
“They Said They Were Open!”: Should You Check Someone’s Relationship Status?
If you’re hooking up with someone who says they’re on a break, non-monog, ENM, or in an open relationship - do you need to do your homework and find out if they’re telling the truth? In this episode, we debate whether the ethics of investigating someone’s relationship status and hear your takes on whether it’s important to get evidence, if the burden of proof is on them, or if it’s none of your business. DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG o
October 28 · 53 min
What It’s Like Having Boobs That Won’t Stop Growing w/ Summer Robert
Summer Robert’s breasts have been growing excessively since she was 8 years old. She has an extremely rare and under-researched condition called Macromastia which means she doesn’t know when that growth will stop. In this chat, she shares her experience and her journey with large boobs, her diagnosis, the impact it’s had on her life including dating and having sex, but also getting to a place where she’s really embraced them after becoming a huge creator on OnlyFans. SHOW NOTES: Most Extreme
October 26 · 40 min
Your Horniest Erogenous Zones From Head To Toe
We all know the classic hotspots when it comes to places on your body that turn you on like lips, breasts, nipples and genitals. But what about your undiscovered underdogs of pleasure - like belly buttons, outer thighs, fingers, ears and wrists? We find out all your erogenous zones from head to toe, how you discovered them and how you tell your partners to get all up in them. DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: thehookup@abc.net.au
October 21 · 34 min
“I Used To Think I Owed Men Thinness.” w/ Bella Davis
When she was younger Bella Davis thought in order to be loved she needed to be thin. After years of hating her body and dating people who made her feel shit about herself, she decided she’d had enough and started posting about fatphobia on socials. Now Bella is a popular body acceptance content creator, happily married and about to become an author. In this chat, she shares her journey and advice on how to have a better relationship with your body. SHOW NOTES: Would You Still Love Me If I L
October 19 · 43 min
Would You Still Love Me If I Looked Different?
The way you look can completely change over the course of a relationship. Maybe your weight has fluctuated. Or you’ve drastically changed your style. Maybe you’ve been in an accident. Maybe you’re dealing with an illness or taking medication that’s changed your physicality and features. In this episode, we want to explore what it’s like when you or a partner looks different from when you first started dating - and how it affects the relationship. SHOW NOTES: https://www.psychologytoday.com/u
October 14 · 34 min
Is Masculinity Actually Under Attack?
A lot of manosphere influencers create content about how ‘masculinity is under threat’ and we’re seeing this impact how young guys are learning about what it means to be a man. So in this episode, we chat to Josh Glover from The Man Cave and Dr Jacko Jackson from The Global Institute for Women’s Leadership to find out what the research shows when it comes to ‘masculinity threats’, the impact of rigid gender expectations, and how guys can feel more confident in embracing all parts of themselves.
October 12 · 49 min
Getting Out Of The Manosphere W/ Flynn Martin
Over the last few years, the manosphere has been a hot topic. We’ve watched investigations by doco makers, interviews with incels and pick up artists, and popular manosphere podcasters continue to go viral on social media. But what about the “red pilled” men who’ve changed their mind and come out the other side with a new POV? In this ep, special guest Flynn Martin joins us to tell us his story of being radicalised by manosphere content and how he got out, alongside hearing your experiences of t
October 7 · 34 min
Is Abandonment A Form Of Abuse?
Alpine Divorce has been a big convo this year, with people all over the world sharing stories of a partner abandoning them in a remote or dangerous place like a hiking trail or mountain. So does someone storming off mean they need to cool down, or is it a sign of abuse? In this ep, Elisabeth Shaw from Relationships Australia helps us learn the signs. SHOW NOTES: 1800 RESPECT - 1800 737 732 Mensline Australia - 1300 789 978 13 YARN - 13 92 76 Relationships Australia - https://www.relatio
October 5 · 31 min
Alpine Divorce: When You've Been Abandoned By Your Partner
“Alpine divorce” is when someone abandons their romantic partner in a remote or dangerous outdoor setting like a hiking trail, bushwalk or mountain. The term went viral this year, and women all over the world started sharing their own stories of being left behind by their male partners in the wilderness. But can it happen to anyone regardless of gender? And is it happening in places other than out in nature? In this episode, explore this phenomenon with your stories of abandonment and hear your
September 30 · 29 min
What It Means If You Like Getting Caught Or Watching People Have Sex
Over half of you told us that the idea of being caught having sex turns you on! So why are so many people into this? In this ep, Dee chats to sexologist Laura Lee to delve deep into the psychology of this kink, the ethics and nuance of consent, and the best way to live out your fantasy of watching people or being watched in real life. SHOW NOTES: Getting Caught Ep - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0Yx76xUZ5cE Laura Lee IG - https://www.instagram.com/lauraleesexology/?hl=en DM us your t
September 28 · 42 min
Do You Wanna Get Caught In The Act…?
Whether it’s the thrill of having sex with a window or door left slightly open. Maybe you fantasise about having sex in public, or being watched at a sex party. If the thought of being seen doing something private or intimate turns you on, this ep is for you. We hear your fantasises and experiences of getting caught, and how you feel about consent with this kink. DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: thehookup@abc.net.au The Hoo
September 23 · 33 min
We Need To Chat About Smart Glasses and Consent
How do you feel about smart glasses? Lots of people are loving them with Meta selling millions this year, but lots of people are worried about surveillance, the potential harm, and being filmed without consent. In this ep, we chat to Dr Milly Stilinovic who’s been researching the impact of smart glasses and pick up artists, to find out why she wants them banned altogether. SHOW NOTES: 1800 RESPECT - 1800 737 732 Dr Milica Stilinovic - https://profiles.sydney.edu.au/milica.stilinovic Res
September 21 · 41 min
Why Are Women Witchy Again?
While we’re past the days of witch hunts and trials, some people think there’s something magical that still lingers in our blood - some would even call it “women’s intuition”. But why are we now seeing a resurgence of modern women engaging with the spiritual and supernatural world, and reclaiming the word ‘witch’? In this episode we take a look at the history of witches and paganism, and figure out why in modern times we’re seeing women turn to the ways of old - crystals, tarot, manifesting, ast
September 16 · 22 min
No Ones Wearing Condoms Anymore And It’s A Huge Problem
Apparently condom use is at its lowest recorded level since 1992 - and it’s causing a national emergency of STI rates. So why are people avoiding the rubber? In this ep, you’ll hear about the latest research from sexual health expert Jason Ong and get advice on what to do if someone’s shaming you for wanting to use one. SHOW NOTES: Jason Ong - https://www.mshc.org.au/about/our-team Stay STI Free - https://www.staystifree.org.au/ Sexual Health Victoria - https://www.shvic.org.au/ La Trob
September 14 · 31 min
Best Of Hook Up Guests
We’re on a little break! But we’re dipping into the archive to bring you the best moments provided by some of our favourite guests! From VERY controversial hot takes from comedians Will Gibb and Daniel Foxx, to Angela White’s sex advice on squirting and eating pussy, chatting threesomes with Hunter Smith and unpacking queer female sexuality with Jordan Barr and height in dating with Blake Pavey - we revisit our favourite moments! DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at
September 9 · 34 min
Embracing Single When It Wasn’t What You Wanted w/ Sheree Joseph
What happens when you don't end up with the life you always dreamt of? For writer Sheree Joseph it was getting married and having kids. But after her long-term relationship ended and an unsuccessful fertility journey, she had to face a future she never expected for herself. In this chat, Sheree chats to Dee about her journey, the grief she experienced, and what it’s been like to embrace being single and child-free in her early 30s. SHOW NOTES: Sheree Joseph Memoir Juicy - https://publishing.h
September 7 · 28 min
Best Of Your Stories
We’re on a little break! But we’re dipping into the archive to bring you the best stories provided by YOU - our extremely sexy smart cool listeners! From cum-piphanies and public break ups, to pleasure dom mommy’s and meeting soulmates in the rideshare - we revisit our favourite and most memorable voice memos sent in by The Hook Up fam. DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: thehookup@abc.net.au The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, prod
September 2 · 32 min
Investigative Journalist By Day Sex Worker By Night w/ Bension Siebert
After being made redundant from his dream job as an investigative journalist, Bension Siebert turned to sex work to make money and surprised himself by how much he enjoyed it. In this ep, Bension chats to Dee about ‘coming out’ with his new profession, the reaction online and what he’s learnt about the industry. SHOW NOTES: Bension’s Cheek Article - https://cheekmedia.substack.com/p/how-sex-work-saved-my-investigative Bension’s IG - https://www.instagram.com/bensionfindsout/ DM us your
August 31 · 41 min
“Opposites Attract” But Do They Make Good Partners?
We all know the phrase but does dating someone who’s completely different to you actually work? In this ep, we hear your stories of dating people who are opposite in lifestyle, interests and core values, compared to people who’ve dated similar - and find out if compatibility can work both ways. SHOW NOTES: Why Do Opposites Attract? https://www.verywellmind.com/is-it-true-that-opposites-attract-in-relationships-5194818 Global study on opposites do not attract: https://www.psypost.org/why-opp

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