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The Girl Defined Show

Bethany Beal and Kristen Clark

What is God’s design for women? In a world that is constantly redefining our worth and identity, we need to know that the only one who can define us is the One who designed us. The Girl Defined Show is for Christian girls everywhere, offering a distinctly God-centered view of beauty, femininity, identity, and worth. Join Kristen and Bethany every Monday for a hope-filled, counter-cultural, and totally down-to-earth conversation about God’s radically better vision for femininity.

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#208
Jun 9, 2025 · 44 min
Is He a Godly Guy or Smooth Talker? How to Tell the Difference
Send a text Marrying a man of godly character sounds amazing... but how can you know if he’s actually walking the walk — not just talking the talk? You need more than good vibes and sweet words. You need real answers to questions like: “What kind of character does this guy really have?” “Where does his heart stand when it comes to God’s Word?” “Is his love for the Lord visible in his daily actions?” “Does he truly live with Scripture as the highest authority in his life?” In today’s episode, Kristen and Bethany get real about what it looks like to truly discern a man’s heart — so you can make wise, Christ-centered relationship decisions that stand the test of time. GRAB THE DIGITAL GUIDE: How to Discern a Guy's True Character *This episode originally aired as EP 159. Support the show RESOURCES: Made to Be She: Reclaiming God's Plan for Fearless Femininity Love Defined: Embracing God's Vision for Lasting Love and Satisfying Relationships Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart Support the Show FOLLOW US: JOIN US ON PATREON GirlDefined.com Instagram YouTube
#207
May 28, 2025 · 38 min
How to Spot the Legalism Hiding in “Godly” Womanhood w/ Leslie Ludy
Send a text Is it possible to pursue godly femininity without getting tangled in legalism, fear, or performance-driven faith? In this eye-opening episode, I sit down with best-selling author and speaker Leslie Ludy to unpack the subtle (and sometimes not-so-subtle) ways legalism can creep into conservative Christian womanhood. We talk about the pressure to "look the part," the danger of equating holiness with a lifestyle checklist, and how to break free from rule-based faith and walk in true intimacy with Christ. Whether you’ve felt burdened by expectations or just want to cultivate a deeper, more authentic relationship with Jesus, this conversation will challenge, encourage, and refresh your soul. Get ready for a grace-filled reset on what it really means to be a set-apart woman. **We hope you enjoy this replay from episode from 181** Connect with Leslie Ludy Made to Be She: Reclaiming God's Plan for Fearless Femininity FREE BOOK - Battling Sexual Temptation: A Biblical Toolkit for Christian Girls Support the show RESOURCES: Made to Be She: Reclaiming God's Plan for Fearless Femininity Love Defined: Embracing God's Vision for Lasting Love and Satisfying Relationships Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart Support the Show FOLLOW US: JOIN US ON PATREON GirlDefined.com Instagram YouTube
#206
May 20, 2025 · 19 min
Cosmo Lied to You: The Truth About Sex, Identity, and God’s Design for Women
Send a text You’ve seen the headlines: “Her Wildest Night Yet!” or “10 Secrets to Epic Pleasure.” Cosmo and other mainstream magazines have been feeding women these so-called empowering stories for decades. But what if those stories aren’t even real? What if they're simply propaganda? In this episode, we’re pulling back the curtain on the glossy lies and exposing how these narratives are shaping our view of sex, identity, and womanhood—and not for the better. God’s design for womanhood isn’t boring, outdated, or shame-filled—but actually freeing, fulfilling, and rooted in truth. Sister, you don’t have to chase culture’s version of empowerment. Let’s discover how to walk confidently in real freedom, defined by God—not Cosmo. Support the show RESOURCES: Made to Be She: Reclaiming God's Plan for Fearless Femininity Love Defined: Embracing God's Vision for Lasting Love and Satisfying Relationships Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart Support the Show FOLLOW US: JOIN US ON PATREON GirlDefined.com Instagram YouTube
#205
May 14, 2025 · 21 min
Masculine & Feminine by Design: The Biblical Breakdown - Part 2
Send a text We’re constantly told men and women are the same — just interchangeable parts in a genderless machine. But is that actually true…? What if gender roles aren’t sexist, but sacred? What if God meant for men to surge with testosterone and for women to overflow with estrogen? What if wombs and muscles weren’t random, but radically intentional? According to Scripture, the differences between men and women aren’t outdated — they’re divine. And they hold the key to understanding who we really are. For more on God's incredible design for your womanhood, grab our newest book, Made to Be She: Reclaiming God's Plan for Fearless Femininity. Support the show RESOURCES: Made to Be She: Reclaiming God's Plan for Fearless Femininity Love Defined: Embracing God's Vision for Lasting Love and Satisfying Relationships Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart Support the Show FOLLOW US: JOIN US ON PATREON GirlDefined.com Instagram YouTube
#204
Apr 30, 2025 · 22 min
Masculine & Feminine by Design: The Biblical Breakdown - Part 1
Send a text We’re constantly told men and women are the same — just interchangeable parts in a genderless machine. But is that actually true… or just cultural noise? What if gender roles aren’t sexist, but sacred? What if God meant for men to surge with testosterone and for women to overflow with estrogen? What if wombs and muscles weren’t random, but radically intentional? According to Scripture, the differences between men and women aren’t outdated — they’re divine. And they hold the key to understanding who we really are. Support the show RESOURCES: Made to Be She: Reclaiming God's Plan for Fearless Femininity Love Defined: Embracing God's Vision for Lasting Love and Satisfying Relationships Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart Support the Show FOLLOW US: JOIN US ON PATREON GirlDefined.com Instagram YouTube
#203
Apr 22, 2025 · 27 min
Breaking the Porn Cycle and Finding Authentic Intimacy Instead w/ Dr. Joy Skarka
Send a text Women struggle with porn too. Have you ever experienced the fear and shame that follows the vortex of graphic movies, erotica, promiscuity, or porn sites? You may think you’re alone and feel like hiding. But you’re not alone—and there is hope and healing. We are all sexually broken. And we are all invited to participate in the love, forgiveness, and healing of Jesus. The great joy and passion of Dr. Joy Skarka is calling women to God’s gracious power of redemption. Today we're chatting about her new book, Her Freedom Journey: A Guide Out of Porn and Shame to Authentic Intimacy. For more on God's design for sex and purity check out, Sex, Purity, and the Longings of a Girl's Heart: Discovering the Beauty and Freedom of God-Defined Sexuality Support the show RESOURCES: Made to Be She: Reclaiming God's Plan for Fearless Femininity Love Defined: Embracing God's Vision for Lasting Love and Satisfying Relationships Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart Support the Show FOLLOW US: JOIN US ON PATREON GirlDefined.com Instagram YouTube
#202
Apr 8, 2025 · 17 min
Practical Tips for Embracing Purity in a Dating Relationship
Send a text Let’s be honest—pursuing purity while dating someone you’re seriously into can feel next to impossible. The butterflies are real, the chemistry is strong, and suddenly you’re wondering... is kissing too far? What about cuddling on the couch? Holding hands? Where's the line?! Navigating physical boundaries in a dating relationship isn’t always black and white—and it can be so confusing. But here’s the thing: honoring God and each other is totally possible, even when the sparks are flying. In this episode, we’re getting real about the struggles, the questions, and the practical steps that helped us set Christ-honoring boundaries and actually stick to them. If you’ve ever wondered how to keep it holy while falling hard, this one’s for you. Sex, Purity, and the Longings of a Girl's Heart Am I Ready to Start Dating? (PDF Download) How to Know if He's the One (PDF Download) Dating Resources from Girl Defined Support the show RESOURCES: Made to Be She: Reclaiming God's Plan for Fearless Femininity Love Defined: Embracing God's Vision for Lasting Love and Satisfying Relationships Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart Support the Show FOLLOW US: JOIN US ON PATREON GirlDefined.com Instagram YouTube
#201
Mar 31, 2025 · 33 min
Pursuing Crunchy Wellness as a Christian Mom w/ Elizabeth Parsons (of Purely Parsons)
Send a text Can you be fully "crunchy" while staying fully committed to Christ? Is there such a thing as being too crunchy? How do we juggle our health goals without losing sight of our faith? Elizabeth Parsons is here to help us navigate this balance. As a popular "crunchy" mom and passionate Christian, Elizabeth shares her wisdom on how to live out both wellness and faith without compromise. If you're already following Elizabeth and her brand, Purely Parsons, you know her down-to-earth, relatable approach. If this is your first time hearing from her, get ready for an insightful, no-nonsense conversation that will leave you feeling inspired to pursue both health and faith with purpose. Purely Parsons Website Elizabeth Parsons Instagram Support the show RESOURCES: Made to Be She: Reclaiming God's Plan for Fearless Femininity Love Defined: Embracing God's Vision for Lasting Love and Satisfying Relationships Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart Support the Show FOLLOW US: JOIN US ON PATREON GirlDefined.com Instagram YouTube
#200
Mar 21, 2025 · 17 min
An Honest Conversation About Saving Sex for Marriage
Send a text Is saving sex for marriage really worth it? Will the wedding night be totally awkward if we don’t "practice" first? And what about sexual compatibility—doesn’t that matter?? We’re two Christian sisters who made the choice to wait until marriage, and trust us—we’ve heard all the questions (and plenty of skeptical comments). So let’s have an open, honest, and totally unfiltered conversation about it. After 6 and 14 years of marriage, do we regret waiting? If we could go back, would we do things differently? And were our wedding nights as awkward as everyone assumes? Let’s talk about it. Sex, Purity, and the Longings of a Girl's Heart The Ultimate Christian Woman's Honeymoon Prep Guide (PDF Download) The Ultimate Sexuality Mentorship Course for Single Women Support the show RESOURCES: Made to Be She: Reclaiming God's Plan for Fearless Femininity Love Defined: Embracing God's Vision for Lasting Love and Satisfying Relationships Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart Support the Show FOLLOW US: JOIN US ON PATREON GirlDefined.com Instagram YouTube
#199
Mar 13, 2025 · 15 min
Should Christian Girls Send Nude Photos?
Send a text It seems like everyone is sending nude photos these days...even Christians. So what's the big deal? Isn't it good for me to keep a little spice in my dating relationship? What about the fact that I'm engaged and going to marry this guy? What's the harm anyway? Sex, Purity, and the Longings of a Girl's Heart Support the show RESOURCES: Made to Be She: Reclaiming God's Plan for Fearless Femininity Love Defined: Embracing God's Vision for Lasting Love and Satisfying Relationships Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart Support the Show FOLLOW US: JOIN US ON PATREON GirlDefined.com Instagram YouTube
#198
Mar 7, 2025 · 15 min
4 Things Every Christian Girl Needs to Know Before Getting Married
Send a text On a scale of one to ten, how prepared do you think you are for marriage? Seriously. Most women who get marriage look back on their single years and WISH they had done more to prepare for being a wife. So...why not get prepared? Here are four things you can do right now to begin preparing for married life. LOVE DEFINED BOOK 170 QUESTIONS TO ASK IN A RELATIONSHIP Support the show RESOURCES: Made to Be She: Reclaiming God's Plan for Fearless Femininity Love Defined: Embracing God's Vision for Lasting Love and Satisfying Relationships Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart Support the Show FOLLOW US: JOIN US ON PATREON GirlDefined.com Instagram YouTube
#197
Feb 14, 2025 · 27 min
Our Best and Worst Valentine's Days EVER (in Singleness and Marriage)
Send a text Ep. 197 - This is a replay. Let's be honest. Valentine's Day isn't always what it's cracked up to be. Regardless of what we see on the Hallmark Channel, rarely do things turn out that perfectly. In singleness, we often feel bummed because we don't have that special someone. Then in marriage, we often feel bummed because our special day isn't turning out to be as romantic as we'd imagined! We can attest to feeling both of these ways. In today's episode, we're going to spill the beans and tell you about our worst and best Valentine's Days ever. Then, we're going to get honest about how we can all benefit from pursuing a more Christ-centered "Agape love" this Valentin'e Day and ditching the shallow version of "Hallmark Love." To take a deeper dive into all things love, romance, dating and marriage, check out our book, Love Defined: Discovering God's Vision for Lasting Love and Satisfying Relationships Support the show RESOURCES: Made to Be She: Reclaiming God's Plan for Fearless Femininity Love Defined: Embracing God's Vision for Lasting Love and Satisfying Relationships Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart Support the Show FOLLOW US: JOIN US ON PATREON GirlDefined.com Instagram YouTube
#196
Jan 15, 2025 · 29 min
Why Christian Women Should be Beautiful but not Seductive | REACTION
Send a text God created women be beautiful AND to posses the allure of feminine seduction. But beauty and seduction are not the same thing. In our celebrity society today, beauty and seduction have become synonymous. In this episode, Kristen and Bethany react LIVE to their 2016 video about this topic and share honestly where they stand today. NEW BOOK - MADE TO BE SHE FREE BOOK - Battling Sexual Temptation: A Biblical Toolkit for Christian Girls MUST READ - Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart Support the show RESOURCES: Made to Be She: Reclaiming God's Plan for Fearless Femininity Love Defined: Embracing God's Vision for Lasting Love and Satisfying Relationships Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart Support the Show FOLLOW US: JOIN US ON PATREON GirlDefined.com Instagram YouTube
#195
Dec 9, 2024 · 28 min
Why Sex is a Huge Disappointment for Many Christian Women
Send a text Ep 195 - Many conservative Christian women saved sex for marriage only to wake up on the other side of their honeymoon feeling disappointed and disillusioned. What happened? Why is sex such a huge disappointment to many Christian women? Take a deep dive with us on all things sex, intimacy, orgasm and how to make it GREAT. NEW BOOK - MADE TO BE SHE Support the show RESOURCES: Made to Be She: Reclaiming God's Plan for Fearless Femininity Love Defined: Embracing God's Vision for Lasting Love and Satisfying Relationships Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart Support the Show FOLLOW US: JOIN US ON PATREON GirlDefined.com Instagram YouTube
#194
Nov 20, 2024 · 27 min
Modesty Used to RULE our Lives...Here's Why it No Longer Does
Send a text 194 - Modesty used to be a foundational topic here at Girl Defined. We become known as the "modesty ministry." Looking back, here's what we got right and wrong about Christian modesty. NEW BOOK - MADE TO BE SHE Support the show RESOURCES: Made to Be She: Reclaiming God's Plan for Fearless Femininity Love Defined: Embracing God's Vision for Lasting Love and Satisfying Relationships Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart Support the Show FOLLOW US: JOIN US ON PATREON GirlDefined.com Instagram YouTube
Nov 12, 2024 · 6 min
Protesting Against Men isn’t the Answer to Women’s Happiness
Send a text Today is the release of our newest book, "Made to Be She: Reclaiming God's Plan for Fearless Femininity." Fighting men won't solve the deepest longings of a woman's heart. Turning to Christ and finding your complete identity in Him is the answer. NEW BOOK - MADE TO BE SHE Support the show RESOURCES: Made to Be She: Reclaiming God's Plan for Fearless Femininity Love Defined: Embracing God's Vision for Lasting Love and Satisfying Relationships Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart Support the Show FOLLOW US: JOIN US ON PATREON GirlDefined.com Instagram YouTube
#193
Nov 8, 2024 · 17 min
Liberal Women are Refusing to Have Sex with Men
Send a text Ep. 193 - Liberal women have been in full on panic mode since Donald Trump was elected President of the United States. Many of these women are refusing to date men, have sex with men, get pregnant or have babies. They are in full on strike against men. What exactly will this plan accomplish? Let's find out. MADE TO BE SHE ---> PRE ORDER BONUSES NEW BOOK: "Made to Be She: Reclaiming God's Plan for Fearless Femininity" Support the show RESOURCES: Made to Be She: Reclaiming God's Plan for Fearless Femininity Love Defined: Embracing God's Vision for Lasting Love and Satisfying Relationships Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart Support the Show FOLLOW US: JOIN US ON PATREON GirlDefined.com Instagram YouTube
#192
Oct 31, 2024 · 29 min
Answering Your Guys Questions | Girl Defined Reacts
Send a text Ep 192 - What's a good age to start dating? What is the purpose of a romantic relationship? These are some of the questions we answered in our 2016 YouTube video titled, "Answering Your Guy Questions About Dating, Bad Relationships, and Guy Friends." And today, we're looking back and reacting to this content for the FIRST time. How do we feel NOW about what we said THEN? GRAB "Made to Be She" and get your FREEBIES PRE ORDER BONUSES NEW BOOK: "Made to Be She: Reclaiming God's Plan for Fearless Femininity" Support the show RESOURCES: Made to Be She: Reclaiming God's Plan for Fearless Femininity Love Defined: Embracing God's Vision for Lasting Love and Satisfying Relationships Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart Support the Show FOLLOW US: JOIN US ON PATREON GirlDefined.com Instagram YouTube
#191
Oct 24, 2024 · 41 min
Is Gender a Personal Choice? | Girl Defined Reacts
Send a text Ep. 191 - The issue of gender has exploded over the past few years. Can a man become a woman? Can a woman become a man? Should we support the trans movement? In today's episode, the two of us are looking back at one of our first YouTube videos ever where we ask the question, "Is Gender a Personal Choice." Here's our reaction. PRE ORDER BONUSES NEW BOOK: "Made to Be She: Reclaiming God's Plan for Fearless Femininity" Support the show RESOURCES: Made to Be She: Reclaiming God's Plan for Fearless Femininity Love Defined: Embracing God's Vision for Lasting Love and Satisfying Relationships Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart Support the Show FOLLOW US: JOIN US ON PATREON GirlDefined.com Instagram YouTube
#190
Oct 16, 2024 · 42 min
Do We Regret Wearing Our Purity Rings?
Send a text Ep. 190 - The two of us grew up at the height of the purity culture movement. We read the classic "I Kissed Dating Goodbye" and every other Christian book on courtship. We dated intentionally, wore our purity rings religiously and saved our kisses for marriage. Do we regret wearing our purity rings? What was the impact of purity culture in our lives? How are we going to raise our kids? Let's jump in. NEW BOOK: "Made to Be She: Reclaiming God's Plan for Fearless Femininity" Support the show RESOURCES: Made to Be She: Reclaiming God's Plan for Fearless Femininity Love Defined: Embracing God's Vision for Lasting Love and Satisfying Relationships Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart Support the Show FOLLOW US: JOIN US ON PATREON GirlDefined.com Instagram YouTube

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