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The Female Dating Strategy

Welcome to the Official Podcast of The Female Dating Strategy, once dubbed the ”meanest female-only place on the internet”. Join Patricia and Rose on a journey into finding personal power while dragging the scrotes by their ever withering hair follicles. Part social commentators, part ruthless strategists, these Queens will dissect dating, relationships, sex, pop culture & politics to their most raw & real parts. Get Ready to LEVEL UP SIS.

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September 4 · 1 hr
Summerhouse & Ciara Miller: an FDS primer
Guest host Anne-Sophie joins Rose to discuss the lessons learned from the reality tv show Summerhouse and Ciara Miller: how her charisma elevated her platform on the series, and how FDS queens might learn from her journey navigating dating, friendship, and racial/class differences as a reality tv star.
August 16 · 44 min
No Matter What, People Will Always Have an Opinion
Patricia brings another fascinating topic to the table as the Queens return from summer break to resume FDS talk time! In this episode, we delve into self/identity as a woman and human being, and how we fully embody our selves in the face of non-stop criticism and ceaseless attention.
July 11 · 31 sec
Summer Break
Rose checks in with an update: summer break is in session! Patricia and Rose will be back in August with new episodes and guest hosts! Stay tuned!
June 26 · 1 hr 1 min
The Secret Palermo Bodega
Patricia shares a useful metaphor to an open heart, but only partially open. That is until a visitor earns access to the full treasures of the secret bodega. No scrotes allowed.
June 13 · 1 hr 5 min
A Pocket Full of Maybes
Why online dating is weird, and why the same strategies apply What does it mean to be a woman - an FDS queen - in the era of the internet? How do we date and approach online dating as a strategy? What approaches do we take and what are the means by which we vet and protect ourselves? Patricia and Rose host a freewheeling discussion of life, love, and FDS tactics online and on the ground! Are you interested in participating in a documentary series about being a woman in the world of the internet? Please reach out with an email to us and we will forward it along to the documentary crew! contact@thefemaledatingstrategy.com Also email if you want a PDF of the FDS Handbook!
May 30 · 1 hr
Freeze, Flight, Faun. Are There Better Options?
What to do in situations that are not outright violent, that fall under the umbrella of plausible deniability, but that leave you feeling uncertain or fearful? Patricia and Rose discuss the four F's: Fight, Flight, Freeze, or Fawn, and how we can learn to say "no" with our whole chest. "Isolate, Inebriate, Intimidate, Repeat": article link from the Journal of Interpersonal Violence Thich Nhat Hanh youtube video on helping hungry ghosts
May 12 · 51 min
The Not-Dating Female Strategy
Sometimes the best dating strategy is not dating at all. Here are 3 introspection questions you can ask yourself to figure out how that looks for you. We loved getting all the episode ideas as well as co-hosting offers from you! It will take us a moment to get back to everyone Let us know what you think via Spotify comments or email as at contact@thefemaledatingstrategy.com Love you queens! Scrotes die mad
May 1 · 2 min
A Quick Catch-Up: What Would YOU Wanna Talk About?
Let us know! contact@thefemaledatingstrategy.com love u, see you next week
April 21 · 54 min
The Perils of Pretty Privilege with Savannah
FDS OG Podcast Queen Savannah makes an appearance to offer her insights on pretty privilege and challenge the narrative. Is it really a privilege? Savannah and Rose discuss lesser-known facets of what pretty privileges signify for both the pretty and the plain. If you would like to be featured on the show to share your dating or level-up lessons with the community, please shoot us an email at: contact@thefemaledatingstrategy.com Scrotes be mad and take it out on pretty ladies
April 4 · 57 min
Overriding your Body's 'No' with your Mind's 'Yes'
Ladies, never date a philosopher - unless you want a masterclass in whataboutism, sealioning, gas lighting, and debates about your needs and boundaries! Want your dating lessons to be featured on the show? Submit your Roast-a-Scrote to: contact@thefemaledatingstrategy.com
March 21 · 59 min
My Kink is Shaming
In this episode, Patricia & Rose examine shame as a tool that shapes social norms and etiquette, and its usefulness in particular situations, often those involving men and male entitlement. Do we need to bring back shame as a social consequence? Is a Shame Renaissance on the horizon? Can or should FDS Queens embrace shame as a necessary behavioral corrective in dating and courtship? Share your thoughts in the comments below!
March 14 · 59 min
Breaking News: Men Are The Ones Who Can't Handle Their Feelings
Join us today as we embark on a journey to men's emotional regulation, or lack thereof. Scrotes die mad but it's actually tragic Join the conversation by commenting on Spotify Also, apologies for missing a week. Life happens sometimes, but we are here and aim to keep the consistency ♡♡♡
February 20 · 52 min
You Are Entitled to Sexual Attraction
Picking up on an ongoing conversation the previous FDS queens began - please revisit the classic recording, "We Like Big Dicks and We REFUSE to Lie" (May 5, 2021) - Patricia and Rose delve into the joys of sex and intimacy. They touch on the role of social media, the influence of porn, and the importance of sexual education in advocating for one's own pleasure.
February 9 · 54 min
A Sobering Tale: Rose's Journey to Sobriety
In this episode, the Queens discuss how Rose's commitment to sobriety dovetailed with her discovery of FDS. Correction: Rose is coming up on 3 YEARS of sobriety in March/April 2026 🎙️ Episode Resources & Links 📘 Free Download – FDS Handbook Level up your dating strategy with the official Female Dating Strategy Handbook. 👉 Download here 💖 Support the Podcast Like what you hear? Help us keep the message going: 👉 Donate via PayPal 🌐 Explore More FDS Website: thefemaledatingstrategy.com Twitter: @femdatstrat Instagram: @_thefemaledatingstrategy
January 25 · 52 min
Should You plAy gAmEs? FDS is not a rulebook
Rose and Patricia delve into the timeless question: should you play games? In the ensuing discussion, they find answers that underline how important FDS principles are in ensuring a healthy approach to dating and life. Would you like to share a Queen Level-Up Story? Or a roast-a-scrote tale? Write us at contact@thefemaledatingstrategy.com
January 10 · 44 min
What Is FDS: Rekindling The Communal Flame
Welcome back, queens! We are hyped and honored to kick-start the new era of FDS, and we hope to bring back the liveliness and zest of the OG days. We shall do our best Buckle up for the first episode of the year. We are going to publish every other week and make sure we are consistent before getting back to weekly episodes, and ultimately open the subscriber-only content back up. As we shared on Savanna's Swan Song (last pod), If you are still subscribed to the Patreon, we very much value your contribution that goes solely towards production and maintenance costs at the moment. FOR YOUR REFLECTION: pillars of FDS, or layers of the cake, or stories of the pyramid Leveling up - "who do I want to be?" Standards and boundaries Date with intention - continuous vetting that reflects (2) SEND US YOUR Level-up stories Roast-a-scrote tales Advice (tough love) Guest suggestions at: contact@femaledatingstrategy.com We love you all and are super excited to restart the conversation and to keep the flame alive 👑
January 3 · 17 min
Savanna's Swan Song
Join the FDS hosts as they fete and say a bittersweet goodbye to the GOAT: Savannah, OG FDS Queen! We discuss her plans, the State of the Pod, and the goals for FDS in 2026!
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Jul 16, 2025 · 44 min
Logical Fallacies Part 2
Originally released as bonus content for our Patreon queens, the Bonus Queens dive deeper into the manipulative tactics commonly used in debates about dating, relationships, and gender dynamics. 🎙️ Episode Resources & Links 📘 Free Download – FDS Handbook Level up your dating strategy with the official Female Dating Strategy Handbook. 👉 Download here 💖 Support the Podcast Want more FDS content? Join us on Patreon! 👉 Join the Level Up Lounge on Patreon 🌐 Explore More FDS Website: thefemaledatingstrategy.com Twitter: @femdatstrat Instagram: @_thefemaledatingstrategy
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Jul 9, 2025 · 25 min
How To Have A Hot Girl Summer
Originally released as bonus content for our Patreon baddies, we're bringing this one out of the vault just in time for summer. In this episode, the Queens break down what it really means to have a Hot Girl Summer FDS style. 🎙️ Episode Resources & Links 📘 Free Download – FDS Handbook Level up your dating strategy with the official Female Dating Strategy Handbook. 👉 Download here 💖 Support the Podcast Want more FDS content? Join us on Patreon! 👉 Join the Level Up Lounge on Patreon 🌐 Explore More FDS Website: thefemaledatingstrategy.com Twitter: @femdatstrat Instagram: @_thefemaledatingstrategy
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Jul 2, 2025 · 1 hr 5 min
Emotional Maturity: The Foundation of a Secure Partner
The Queens unpack emotional maturity, why it’s the core of any functional relationship and how to recognise it (or the lack of it). 🎙️ Episode Resources & Links 📘 Free Download – FDS Handbook Level up your dating strategy with the official Female Dating Strategy Handbook. 👉 Download here 💖 Support the Podcast Want more FDS content? Join us on our NEW and IMPROVED Patreon! 👉 Join the Level Up Lounge on Patreon 🌐 Explore More FDS Website: thefemaledatingstrategy.com Twitter: @femdatstrat Instagram: @_thefemaledatingstrategy

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