The Estranged Heart

Support and community for navigating the emotional storms of parent and adult child estrangement and repairing and transforming relationships with one another in healthy and productive ways.

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S5 · E270
August 23 · 23 min
EP270: The Grace We Give
In this episode of The Estranged Heart podcast, Kreed shares a deeply moving letter originally published by Dr. Joshua Coleman, written by an estranged mother reflecting on her relationship with the mother who abandoned her and the daughter from whom she is now estranged. At the heart of the letter is a question that reaches far beyond estrangement: Can we tell the full truth about how someone hurt us without reducing that person to the harm they caused? This episode explores the difference between understanding and excusing, and what it means to hold accountability, impact, context, boundaries, and humanity at the same time. Why understanding is not exoneration and context does not erase impact How curiosity can help us see the person behind the behavior without denying our own lived experience Why someone else's suffering does not have to be required for our suffering to be legitimate The difference between accountability and reducing another person to a verdict How multiple truths can coexist: You hurt me. You had your own wounds. Both matter. The difficult question at the center of the episode: Am I asking for a kind of humanity that I am unwilling to extend to someone else? RESOURCES & SUPPORT Facebook Support Group (facilitated by Kreed) - https://www.facebook.com/groups/estrangedmotherssupportgroup One-on-One Services Private coaching Consulting Mediation services Connect with Kreed: Website: theestrangedheart.com Email: hello@theestrangedheart.com Support the work: Buy Me a Coffee (donation platform) Disclaimer: Kreed Revere is not a licensed therapist. Nothing in this podcast should be considered or taken as therapy. If you need therapeutic support, please seek out a therapist near you.
S5 · E269
August 19 · 14 min
EP269: Shame - gasoline, not water
In this episode of The Estranged Heart podcast, Kreed explores the dynamics of shame in parent-child relationships, highlighting how shame can hinder genuine understanding and repair. This episode offers insights into recognizing shame-based communication and fostering healthier interactions. Takeaways Shame is often unintentional and can be rooted in fear and terror. The shift from behavior-based feedback to character judgments triggers shame. Shame activates protection responses like defensiveness and withdrawal. Effective communication requires distinguishing between feedback and verdicts. RESOURCES & SUPPORT Facebook Support Group (facilitated by Kreed) - https://www.facebook.com/groups/estrangedmotherssupportgroup One-on-One Services Private coaching Consulting Mediation services Connect with Kreed: Website: theestrangedheart.com Email: hello@theestrangedheart.com Support the work: Buy Me a Coffee (donation platform) Disclaimer: Kreed Revere is not a licensed therapist. Nothing in this podcast should be considered or taken as therapy. If you need therapeutic support, please seek out a therapist near you.
S5 · E268
August 16 · 32 min
EP268: What TikTok Taught Me
In this episode of The Estranged Heart podcast, Kreed explores the complexities of family estrangement, social media's impact on understanding human relationships, and the importance of emotional maturity in reconciliation. Key Topics The impact of social media on perceptions of estrangement The importance of holding multiple human experiences simultaneously The difference between understanding, validation, and endorsement The danger of binary thinking in family conflicts The need for nuanced conversations about pain and accountability Strategies for creating safety and capacity in difficult conversations RESOURCES & SUPPORT Facebook Support Group (facilitated by Kreed) - https://www.facebook.com/groups/estrangedmotherssupportgroup One-on-One Services Private coaching Consulting Mediation services Connect with Kreed: Website: theestrangedheart.com Email: hello@theestrangedheart.com Support the work: Buy Me a Coffee (donation platform) Disclaimer: Kreed Revere is not a licensed therapist. Nothing in this podcast should be considered or taken as therapy. If you need therapeutic support, please seek out a therapist near you.
S5 · E267
August 12 · 19 min
EP267: Invisible
In this episode of The Estranged Heart podcast, Kreed explores the impact of emotional neglect and the importance of curiosity in healing family estrangement. This episode highlights how patterns of disconnection are passed down and how parents and adult children can foster understanding through genuine curiosity. Takeaways Most family patterns are stored in the nervous system, not consciously remembered. Relational patterns are often automatic, like balancing on a bike. Parents may parent from their inherited nervous system without awareness. Absence of curiosity creates a gap that affects future generations. RESOURCES & SUPPORT Facebook Support Group (facilitated by Kreed) - https://www.facebook.com/groups/estrangedmotherssupportgroup One-on-One Services Private coaching Consulting Mediation services Connect with Kreed: Website: theestrangedheart.com Email: hello@theestrangedheart.com Support the work: Buy Me a Coffee (donation platform) Disclaimer: Kreed Revere is not a licensed therapist. Nothing in this podcast should be considered or taken as therapy. If you need therapeutic support, please seek out a therapist near you.
S5 · E266
August 9 · 21 min
EP266: Did They Really Know?
In this episode of The Estranged Heart, Kreed walks through why "knowing better" quietly conflates two different things: awareness that something was missing and access to a practiced alternative and why that gap matters more than intent does. "You knew better. You just didn't do better." It's one of the sharpest sentences an adult child can hand a parent and it sounds airtight. In this episode, Kreed takes it apart, along with a second claim making the rounds in parenting content: that some parents raise children out of obligation instead of desire. This one applies whether you're the parent trying to understand what you did or didn't have access to, or the adult child trying to understand why "and they loved me" and "and they harmed me" haven't felt like they could sit in the same sentence. Key Takeaways: "Knowing better" and "having access to better" are not the same thing. Harm doesn't require intent to be real, and it isn't the same claim as abuse. Regulation - not love, not intention - determines whether Both/And is possible. RESOURCES & SUPPORT Facebook Support Group (facilitated by Kreed) - https://www.facebook.com/groups/estrangedmotherssupportgroup One-on-One Services Private coaching Consulting Mediation services Connect with Kreed: Website: theestrangedheart.com Email: hello@theestrangedheart.com Support the work: Buy Me a Coffee (donation platform) Disclaimer: Kreed Revere is not a licensed therapist. Nothing in this podcast should be considered or taken as therapy. If you need therapeutic support, please seek out a therapist near you.
S5 · E265
July 26 · 17 min
EP265: One Relationship. Two Experiences.
In this episode of The Estranged Heart Podcast, Kreed explores one of the most painful and perplexing questions estranged parents ask: How can my adult child remember our relationship so differently than I do? She introduces a perspective - that there was never just one relationship. There were always two: the relationship the parent experienced and the relationship the child experienced. Rather than asking whose memories are "right," Kreed invites listeners to consider a different question: What was it like to be my child inside the relationship I remember? Through a relational lens, she explains why parents often remember the relationship through their intentions, sacrifices, and responsibilities, while adult children remember it through their emotional experience, sense of safety, and whether they felt truly seen. This episode challenges the assumption that shared events create shared experiences and explores how curiosity - not certainty - can become the first step toward greater understanding and, when possible, reconciliation. In this episode, you will learn: Why parents and adult children often carry two very different experiences of the same relationship. The difference between remembering events and remembering emotional experiences. Why understanding another person's reality does not require abandoning your own. Takeaways 1. There was never just one relationship. Parents and children often experience the same family through entirely different emotional realities. Both perspectives can be genuine without being identical. 2. Intentions and experiences are different kinds of truth.A parent's loving intentions do not automatically determine how their child experienced the relationship. RESOURCES & SUPPORT Facebook Support Group (facilitated by Kreed) - https://www.facebook.com/groups/estrangedmotherssupportgroup One-on-One Services Private coaching Consulting Mediation services Connect with Kreed: Website: theestrangedheart.com Email: hello@theestrangedheart.com Support the work: Buy Me a Coffee (donation platform) Disclaimer: Kreed Revere is not a licensed therapist. Nothing in this podcast should be considered or taken as therapy. If you need therapeutic support, please seek out a therapist near you. In this episode, you'll learn:Key Takeaways
S5 · E264
July 19 · 26 min
EP264: Hard Truths Require Soft Landings
In this episode of The Estranged Heart podcast, Kreed discusses the difference between measuring a moment and measuring a pattern, why safety and comfort aren't the same thing, what repair actually sounds like, and Kreed's answer to the parents who ask if any of this just amounts to walking on eggshells.A viral claim says adult children who won't tolerate "difficult conversations" are setting themselves up for a lonely life. Kreed pushes back on the premise and makes the case that the real question was never whether hard truths get said, but whether the relationship is strong enough to hold them. KEY TAKE AWAYS Challenge isn't the problem. Shame paired with challenge is. Most adult children aren't asking for relationships free of disagreement. They're asking that hard truths stop arriving bundled with contempt, dismissal, or a demand for compliance. Repair predicts outcomes more than conflict does. Two people can say the exact same hurtful thing. The one who gets curious about the impact instead of defending the intent is the one building a relationship that can survive being wrong. Safety and comfort are not the same word. Growth requires discomfort. It doesn't require unsafety. Confusing the two means fighting the wrong battle - trying to convince someone that life is hard, instead of asking whether the relationship stays intact while they move through something hard together. RESOURCES & SUPPORT Facebook Support Group for Estranged Moms of Adult Children (facilitated by Kreed) - https://www.facebook.com/groups/estrangedmotherssupportgroup One-on-One Services Private coaching Consulting Mediation services Connect with Kreed: Website: theestrangedheart.com Email: hello@theestrangedheart.com Support the work: Buy Me a Coffee (donation platform)
S5 · E263
July 15 · 40 min
EP263: Fitting In vs Belonging in Families
In this episode of The Estranged Heart podcast, Kreed explores Brené Brown's distinction between fitting in and belonging and how it may help parents understand one of the most painful disconnects in family estrangement. What if the closeness you remember with your adult child was real and your child was also adapting in ways you could not see? Kreed examines how adaptation can be mistaken for closeness, why sibling comparison tells us very little about an individual child's experience, and why adult children sometimes appear to change after therapy, marriage, parenthood, or exposure to a different family culture. For some adult children, what parents experience as distance may be the beginning of the child's effort to develop a stronger sense of self. The episode also explores why renewed contact does not automatically create belonging. During reconciliation, an adult child may still be determining whether they can remain connected without returning to the role they once occupied in the family. For parents, this creates a deeper question than whether their child has returned: Can the relationship make room for the person their child has become? Finally, Kreed turns the question of belonging toward mothers themselves. Many mothers learned to preserve relationships through sacrifice, accommodation, and self-abandonment. Understanding the difference between fitting in and belonging may require parents to examine not only the emotional culture they created for their children, but whether they have ever truly experienced belonging to themselves. Take Aways Adaptation can look remarkably similar to closeness. Belonging becomes visible when a child stops fitting the familiar role. Reconciliation asks whether both parent and adult child can belong to themselves while remaining connected. RESOURCES & SUPPORT Facebook Support Group (facilitated by Kreed) - https://www.facebook.com/groups/estrangedmotherssupportgroup One-on-One Services Private coaching Consulting Mediation services Connect with Kreed: Website: theestrangedheart.com Email: hello@theestrangedheart.com Support the work: Buy Me a Coffee (donation platform) Disclaimer: Kreed Revere is not a licensed therapist. Nothing in this podcast should be considered or taken as therapy. If you need therapeutic support, please seek out a therapist near you.
S5 · E262
July 8 · 16 min
EP262: The Right Words
In this episode of The Estranged Heart podcast, Kreed explores the emotional dynamics behind parental responses to their adult children's expressions of hurt, focusing on trauma responses, emotional safety, and healing practices. Key Topics Trauma responses in parents and children The importance of emotional safety in repair The role of curiosity over control Patterns of defense: denial, deflection, dismissal The impact of childhood home environment on adult reactions The process of genuine repair and healing RESOURCES & SUPPORT Facebook Support Group (facilitated by Kreed) - https://www.facebook.com/groups/estrangedmotherssupportgroup One-on-One Services Private coaching Consulting Mediation services Connect with Kreed: Website: theestrangedheart.com Email: hello@theestrangedheart.com Support the work: Buy Me a Coffee (donation platform) Disclaimer: Kreed Revere is not a licensed therapist. Nothing in this podcast should be considered or taken as therapy. If you need therapeutic support, please seek out a therapist near you.
S5 · E261
July 5 · 44 min
EP261: What Holds Families Together Now?
In this episode of The Estranged Heart podcast, Kreed explores how the digital age has transformed family dynamics, shifting the role of information and connection. She discusses the impact of technology on relationships, the changing ecology of family, and how to foster deeper, more meaningful bonds in a digital world. Key Topics The impact of technology on family communication How the environment has changed the role of families The shift from practical needs to emotional safety The importance of curiosity in relationships Reimagining family connection in a digital world RESOURCES & SUPPORT Facebook Support Group (facilitated by Kreed) - https://www.facebook.com/groups/estrangedmotherssupportgroup One-on-One Services Private coaching Consulting Mediation services Connect with Kreed: Website: theestrangedheart.com Email: hello@theestrangedheart.com Support the work: Buy Me a Coffee (donation platform) Disclaimer: Kreed Revere is not a licensed therapist. Nothing in this podcast should be considered or taken as therapy. If you need therapeutic support, please seek out a therapist near you.
S5 · E260
June 15 · 16 min
EP260: Pain - Where Does It Go?
In this episode of The Estranged Heart podcast, Kreed explores the profound emotional and physical impact of estrangement between parents and adult children. She discusses the biological basis of attachment, the importance of proper pain management, and pathways toward healing and reconciliation. TAKEAWAYS - Estrangement causes a unique form of grief. - Reaching out to an estranged child is driven by attachment biology, not manipulation. - Pain should not be displaced onto other children or social media. - Healing involves understanding and metabolizing pain, not just managing it. RESOURCES & SUPPORT Facebook Support Group (facilitated by Kreed) - https://www.facebook.com/groups/estrangedmotherssupportgroup One-on-One Services Private coaching Consulting Mediation services Connect with Kreed: Website: theestrangedheart.com Email: hello@theestrangedheart.com Support the work: Buy Me a Coffee (donation platform) Disclaimer: Kreed Revere is not a licensed therapist. Nothing in this podcast should be considered or taken as therapy. If you need therapeutic support, please seek out a therapist near you.
S5 · E259
June 10 · 18 min
EP259: How Power Kills Empathy
In this episode of The Estranged Heart podcast, Kreed explores the impact of power on empathy within hierarchical relationships like families and workplaces. She emphasizes the importance of tenderness and perspective-taking for healing and reconciliation. Key Topics The impact of power on empathy and compassion Hierarchical systems in families and organizations The importance of tenderness in repair and reconciliation Perspective-taking as a tool for empathy and healing Structural causes of estrangement and pathways to reconciliation Resources & Support Facebook Support Group (facilitated by Kreed) - https://www.facebook.com/groups/estrangedmotherssupportgroup One-on-One Services Private coaching Consulting Mediation services Connect with Kreed: Website: theestrangedheart.com Email: hello@theestrangedheart.com Support the work: Buy Me a Coffee (donation platform) Disclaimer: Kreed Revere is not a licensed therapist. Nothing in this podcast should be considered or taken as therapy. If you need therapeutic support, please seek out a therapist near you.
S5 · E258
June 3 · 28 min
EP258: Beneath The Control - the fear-driven parent
In this episode of The Estranged Heart podcast, Kreed shares a personal and professional exploration of controlling parenting rooted in fear, its impact on estranged relationships, and pathways to healing by understanding underlying fears. Key Topics - Fear as the root of controlling behavior - The cycle of fear, control, and estrangement - Different fears manifesting as control behaviors 02:57 Understanding Control in Parenting 06:12 The Cycle of Fear and Control 11:57 Estrangement and Its Impact on Parents 16:59 Reframing Control and Fear 22:10 Conclusion and Final Thoughts Resources & Support Facebook Support Group (facilitated by Kreed) - https://www.facebook.com/groups/estrangedmotherssupportgroup One-on-One Services Private coaching Consulting Mediation services Connect with Kreed: Website: theestrangedheart.com Email: hello@theestrangedheart.com Support the work: Buy Me a Coffee (donation platform) Disclaimer: Kreed Revere is not a licensed therapist. Nothing in this podcast should be considered or taken as therapy. If you need therapeutic support, please seek out a therapist near you.
S5 · E257
May 31 · 27 min
EP257: Reconciliation Grief
In this episode of The Estranged Heart podcast, Kreed shares a personal and professional exploration of grief in reconciliation, emphasizing the invisible and complex nature of grief beyond death, especially in estrangement. The episode offers insights into managing hidden grief, the realities of reconciliation, and practical steps for healing. Key Topics Invisible losses and hidden grief in reconciliation The difference between contact and closeness in relationships The importance of naming and owning grief The emotional complexity of reconnected relationships Practical steps for managing grief and building safety Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Grief and Estrangement 06:36 Understanding Hidden Grief 10:50 The Complexity of Reconciliation 14:31 Navigating Grief in Relationships 18:22 The Reality of Reconciliation 22:35 Naming Grief for Healing Resources & Support Facebook Support Group (facilitated by Kreed) - https://www.facebook.com/groups/estrangedmotherssupportgroup One-on-One Services Private coaching Consulting Mediation services Connect with Kreed: Website: theestrangedheart.com Email: hello@theestrangedheart.com Support the work: Buy Me a Coffee (donation platform) Disclaimer: Kreed Revere is not a licensed therapist. Nothing in this podcast should be considered or taken as therapy. If you need therapeutic support, please seek out a therapist near you.
S5 · E256
May 24 · 27 min
EP256: Labels - "Intimate Terrorist": What Labels Do to Families Already Breaking
In this episode of The Estranged Heart, Kreed explores the harmful use of the term 'intimate terrorist' in family estrangement contexts, emphasizing the importance of nuanced understanding and curiosity over labels that deepen divides. Key Topics The impact of language in family estrangement The difference between control and boundary-setting The consequences of labeling a partner as a terrorist The importance of curiosity and nuance in reconciliation The role of generational conditioning in family conflicts Chapters 00:00 Understanding the Term 'Intimate Terrorist' 06:31 The Impact of Labeling on Relationships 12:33 The Consequences for the Adult Child 15:39 Generational Perspectives on Estrangement 19:13 The Importance of Curiosity in Estrangement 22:40 Reframing Language and Its Power Resources & Support Facebook Support Group (facilitated by Kreed) - https://www.facebook.com/groups/estrangedmotherssupportgroup One-on-One Services Private coaching Consulting Mediation services Connect with Kreed: Website: theestrangedheart.com Email: hello@theestrangedheart.com Support the work: Buy Me a Coffee (donation platform) Disclaimer: Kreed Revere is not a licensed therapist. Nothing in this podcast should be considered or taken as therapy. If you need therapeutic support, please seek out a therapist near you.
S5 · E255
May 14 · 28 min
EP255: Who's Holding Your Pain?
In this episode of The Estranged Heart, host Kreed Summary explores the complex emotional landscape of estranged parents, emphasizing the importance of nuanced support and understanding. It challenges simplistic narratives and advocates for compassion, curiosity, and the recognition of complexity in healing relationships. KEY TOPICS The emotional impact of estrangement and the search for grounding The difference between validation and support that enables growth The role of echo chambers in reinforcing binary thinking The importance of context and complexity in family relationships Strategies for providing nuanced support to estranged parents CHAPTERS 00:00 Introduction to Estrangement and Searching for Answers 07:12 The Nature of Estrangement and Its Emotional Impact 10:15 The Dangers of Echo Chambers in Support 13:21 Binary Thinking and Its Effects on Relationships 16:28 Navigating Support Spaces and Complex Emotions RESOURCES & SUPPORT Facebook Estranged Moms Support Group (facilitated by Kreed) - https://www.facebook.com/groups/estrangedmotherssupportgroup One-on-One Services Private coaching Consulting Mediation services Connect with Kreed: Website: theestrangedheart.com Email: hello@theestrangedheart.com Support the work: Buy Me a Coffee (donation platform) Disclaimer: Kreed Revere is not a licensed therapist. Nothing in this podcast should be considered or taken as therapy. If you need therapeutic support, please seek out a therapist near you.
S5 · E254
May 10 · 44 min
EP254: Self of Mother (Mother's Day)
In this deeply reflective Mother’s Day episode of The Estranged Heart podcast, Kreed explores motherhood not simply as a role, but as an evolving identity - one that changes across the lifespan in ways many women are never emotionally prepared for. From the intensity of early caregiving to the shifting terrain of adolescence, adult independence, estrangement, reconciliation, and everything in between, this conversation examines the often invisible grief that emerges when motherhood changes shape. Together, we explore the emotional complexity of developmental separation, ambiguous relational grief, the hidden challenges of reconciliation, and the ways identity disruption can quietly shape maternal behavior. Most importantly, this episode invites a deeper question: If motherhood is meant to evolve, what does it mean to remain connected to yourself as the role changes? This is a conversation about grief, identity, emotional maturity, and the woman who continues becoming beneath every version of mother she has ever been. Key Takeaways Motherhood is not a single transformation; it is a lifelong identity evolution. Grief can emerge not only from estrangement, but from healthy developmental transitions and changing family roles. Emotional pain does not automatically make our interpretations accurate or our behaviors relationally helpful. Reconciliation does not always restore emotional ease, certainty, or maternal confidence. Becoming more fully yourself is not abandoning motherhood - it may be one of its most mature invitations. Chapters 00:00 The Complexity of Mother's Day 06:50 The Evolution of Motherhood 10:01 The Invisible Labor of Motherhood 12:43 Navigating Developmental Changes 16:10 The Emotional Landscape of Estrangement 18:53 Reconciliation and Its Challenges 22:03 The Impact of Uncertainty 24:51 Grief and Its Many Forms 27:49 The Journey of Self-Discovery 30:46 Finding Balance in Motherhood 33:47 The Invitation to Evolve 37:09 Grief Support and Moving Forward Resources & Support Facebook Support Group (facilitated by Kreed) - https://www.facebook.com/groups/estrangedmotherssupportgroup One-on-One Services Private coaching Consulting Mediation services Connect with Kreed: Website: theestrangedheart.com Email: hello@theestrangedheart.com Support the work: Buy Me a Coffee (donation platform) Disclaimer: Kreed Revere is not a licensed therapist. Nothing in this podcast should be considered or taken as therapy. If you need therapeutic support, please seek out a therapist near you.
S5 · E253
May 3 · 29 min
EP253: Grieving Lost Potential (for estranged parents)
Estranged parents carry a grief that doesn't fit any of the containers we have for it. It's not the grief of death. It doesn't come with rituals or recognition. And much of the world around them doesn't know how to hold it or quietly questions whether they have a right to it at all. In this episode of The Estranged Heart podcast, Kreed names a specific and often unspoken layer of that grief: the grief for the potential. Not the relationship you had with your adult child - the one you always believed was coming. The closeness that was supposed to develop. The grandmother you expected to become. The years ahead that had your child fully in them. In This Episode Why estrangement grief doesn't fit our existing containers for loss and why that makes it harder to move through What "grieving the potential" means for estranged parents: the specific futures that were lost, not just the relationship that exists now The particular grief of estranged mothers - including the grandmother grief that is often the most acute and least witnessed Anticipatory grief in the estranged parent experience: what it means to live in sustained, unresolved loss when reconciliation is still theoretically possible The grief of not being chosen - one of the most tender and least-named layers of the estranged parent experience How the "they'll come back eventually" narrative can become a way of skipping grief rather than sustaining hope - and why that matters Practical guidance for how to actually grieve the potential, including why specific grief moves where vague grief stays stuck Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Estrangement Grief 06:36 Understanding Potential Grief 12:10 Anticipatory Grief and Its Impact 14:35 What This Grief Is Not 17:11 The Grief of Not Being Chosen 21:39 Navigating Grief and Hope 23:53 Practical Steps to Grieve Potential 26:14 Finding Wholeness Beyond Grief Resources & Support Facebook Support Group for Estranged Moms (facilitated by Kreed) - https://www.facebook.com/groups/estrangedmotherssupportgroup One-on-One Services Private coaching Consulting Mediation services Connect with Kreed: Website: theestrangedheart.com Email: hello@theestrangedheart.com Support the work: Buy Me a Coffee (donation platform) Disclaimer: Kreed Revere is not a licensed therapist. Nothing in this podcast should be considered or taken as therapy. If you need therapeutic support, please seek out a therapist near you.
S5 · E252
April 30 · 24 min
EP252: Grieving Lost Potential (for estranged adult children)
There is a sentence that follows estranged adult children like a slow-moving storm - especially when a parent is aging, ill, or has died: You're going to regret this. It sounds like concern. It lands like a verdict. In this episode of The Estranged Heart podcast, Kreed unpacks the critical difference between regret and grief and why getting that distinction wrong does real harm to estranged adult children. Regret implies a wrong choice. Grief honors a real loss. And most estranged adult children aren't carrying regret. They're carrying grief for the potential - the relationship they always hoped was possible and they've often been grieving it long before the estrangement was ever named. In This Episode Why "you're going to regret this" is a verdict dressed as concern and what it gets fundamentally wrong The difference between regret and grief, and why that distinction matters more than it might seem What "grieving the potential" actually means for estranged adult children and why the loss of a hoped-for relationship is just as real as the loss of one that existed Anticipatory grief in the no-contact experience: why many estranged adult children have been grieving their parent long before the parent dies What the "you'll regret it" message is often actually doing and whose discomfort it's really managing What grief after a no-contact parent's death actually looks like, including the complicated presence of relief Why estranged adult children are so often denied permission to grieve and why that needs to change What estranged adult children, the people who love them, and the professionals who support them can each take from this episode Time Stamps 05:55 Understanding Regret vs. Grief 10:33 The Complexity of Anticipatory Grief 16:49 The Impact of Estrangement on Grief 22:12 Navigating Grief and Moving Forward Resources & Support Facebook Support Group (facilitated by Kreed) - https://www.facebook.com/groups/estrangedmotherssupportgroup One-on-One Services Private coaching Consulting Mediation services Connect with Kreed: Website: theestrangedheart.com Email: hello@theestrangedheart.com Support the work: Buy Me a Coffee (donation platform) Disclaimer: Kreed Revere is not a licensed therapist. Nothing in this podcast should be considered or taken as therapy. If you need therapeutic support, please seek out a therapist near you.
S5 · E251
April 26 · 30 min
EP251: Rethinking Tough Love
In this episode of The Estranged Heart podcast, Kreed explores the impact of tough love parenting, its roots in cultural beliefs, and its effects on attachment and estrangement. She advocates for a presence-based approach that fosters genuine connection and healing. Key Topics The origins of tough love in cultural and generational beliefs How tough love affects attachment and emotional regulation The long-term impact of estrangement and emotional withdrawal A presence-based approach to healthy relationships Chapters 02:33 The Impact of Tough Love on Children 06:58 Understanding the Child's Perspective 11:49 Estrangement and Performance in Relationships 15:49 The Defense of Tough Love 20:41 Alternatives to Tough Love 24:49 Conclusion: Rethinking Love and Connection Resources & Support Facebook Support Group (facilitated by Kreed) - https://www.facebook.com/groups/estrangedmotherssupportgroup One-on-One Services Private coaching Consulting Mediation services Connect with Kreed: Website: theestrangedheart.com Email: hello@theestrangedheart.com Support the work: Buy Me a Coffee (donation platform) Disclaimer: Kreed Revere is not a licensed therapist. Nothing in this podcast should be considered or taken as therapy. If you need therapeutic support, please seek out a therapist near you.

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