The DAUGHTERED Podcast

Busy Dads, Burnout & Building Better Habits w/ Daniel Hong

Send us Fan Mail Daniel Hong is a father of two daughters, fitness coach, cancer survivor, and founder of DH Fit Inc., where he helps busy parents build sustainable health habits that actually fit inside real life. In this episode, Daniel and Oscar have an honest conversation about fatherhood, burnout, identity, fitness, and the emotional weight many dads silently carry while trying to provide for their families. Daniel also opens up about surviving cancer in his early 20s, becoming obsessed with fitness afterward, and how fatherhood ultimately reshaped his understanding of what truly matters. This is a powerful conversation for any dad trying to navigate work, family, health, and identity without losing himself in the process. Follow Daniel: 📲 Instagram/TikTok: @dhfitinc 🌐 DH Fit Inc. 00:00 Cancer Reality Check 00:43 Podcast Welcome 02:41 Simple Habits That Compound 05:01 Daniel’s Cancer Catalyst 08:17 Choosing Health Daily 12:58 Excuses and Identity Loss 19:10 Fatherhood Changes the Why 22:59 Fitness as Capability 25:08 Progress Over Perfection 28:09 Bedtime Talks Over Sleep 30:13 Adjusting Dad Standards 31:36 Permission Not Perfect 33:16 Paralysis and Bandwidth 34:35 Kids Learn From Burnout 37:55 Owning Mistakes Apologizing 40:18 Reading the Room 42:17 Safe Space Kindness 44:46 Family Transition Whirlwind 47:57 Fitness as Daily Anchor 49:19 No Time Mindset Shift 50:31 Five Habits Start Today 52:30 Wrap Up and Newsletter Guest Disclaimer: The views and opinions expressed on this podcast are solely those of the guests. They do not necessarily reflect the views or opinions of the host, any organizations, companies, or institutions mentioned, or corporate entities represented by the host. Our aim is to provide a platform for diverse perspectives and open dialogue. While we strive for accuracy and balance, it's important to recognize that opinions may vary. We encourage critical thinking and further exploration of the topics discussed. Proudly Sponsored by Few Will Hunt Restoring the dignity of hard work. 100%American-made. Everyone wants to eat. But only few will hunt Support the show Catch up w/ The Daughtered Podcast Oscar on Instagram Few Will Hunt. 10% OFF use GIRLDAD Want to be a guest on The DAUGHTERED Podcast? Want to collaborate? Send Oscar Pena a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/daughteredpodcast

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Stress Isn’t the Enemy | How Fathers Can Use Pressure to Grow

Send us Fan Mail Stress can either control us… or sharpen us. In this solo episode, Oscar talks about the pressure his family is navigating during a major transition and how stress impacts fathers, marriages, and daughters more than we realize. A conversation about emotional shutdown, resilience, stress inoculation, mindfulness, and teaching our daughters how to handle pressure in healthy ways. 00:00 Solo Episode Kickoff 00:41 Family Move Stress 01:38 Remember What You Prayed For 02:23 Stress Can Sharpen You 03:45 Tools to Manage Stress 05:18 Stress Inoculation Mindset 06:15 What Stress Reveals 07:04 Teaching Daughters Stress Skills 08:08 Community and Getting Help 08:50 Wrap Up and Stay Growing Proudly Sponsored by Few Will Hunt Restoring the dignity of hard work. 100%American-made. Everyone wants to eat. But only few will hunt Support the show Catch up w/ The Daughtered Podcast Oscar on Instagram Few Will Hunt. 10% OFF use GIRLDAD Want to be a guest on The DAUGHTERED Podcast? Want to collaborate? Send Oscar Pena a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/daughteredpodcast

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Fatherhood, Ego, and the Standard You Set for Your Daughter w/ Christopher Veal

Send us Fan Mail What does your daughter learn from you — even when you’re not trying to teach? In this episode, we explore the deeper side of fatherhood — the kind that challenges your identity, your ego, and the way you show up every day. I’m joined by Christopher Veal, a TEDx speaker, Certified Professional Co-Active Coach, and author of The Whole Man: Evolving Masculinity, and the host of The Vulnerable Man Podcast. His work centers on helping men better understand vulnerability and redefine what it means to be a man in today’s world. From emotional regulation to modeling relationships, this conversation dives into what it really means to raise daughters — and how the process transforms you as a man. You’ll hear insights on: The weight of being your daughter’s first example of a man How everyday interactions shape her expectations of relationships Why ego can get in the way of growth as a father The importance of repair, patience, and intentional presence How to shift from reacting to responding in high-emotion moments This episode is a reminder: You don’t have to be perfect. But you do have to be intentional 🎙 The Daughtered Podcast — Where fathers grow, evolve, and lead with love. The Vulnerable Man Podcast Book: The Whole Man 00:00 Choosing Your Response 00:35 Podcast Welcome and Guest Intro 02:07 Christopher’s Background and Mission 03:22 Life Feels Like Building a Plane 04:12 Why These Conversations Matter 06:16 Girl Dad Growth and Standards 07:44 First Man She’ll Love 13:12 Modeling Relationships in Public 16:42 Home as the Safe Space 23:04 Teaching Emotions vs Actions 24:24 How Boys Learn to Suppress Feelings 28:12 Redefining Strength and Masculinity 29:47 Repair After Anger 31:31 Daughters Change Dads 33:51 Media Models of Fatherhood 35:54 Community Over Certainty 39:14 Curiosity Not Combat 40:46 Identity Boxes and Growth 46:55 Ego Checks in Parenting 49:40 Bootcamp for New Dads 52:08 Not Babysitting Parenting 53:24 Progress and New Narratives 57:20 Keep Showing Up 58:53 Final Thanks and Subscribe Guest Disclaimer: The views and opinions expressed on this podcast are solely those of the guests. They do not necessarily reflect the views or opinions of the host, any organizations, companies, or institutions mentioned, or corporate entities represented by the host. Our aim is to provide a platform for diverse perspectives and open dialogue. While we strive for accuracy and balance, it's important to recognize that opinions may vary. We encourage critical thinking and further exploration of the topics discussed. Proudly Sponsored by Few Will Hunt Restoring the dignity of hard work. 100%American-made. Everyone wants to eat. But only few will hunt Support the show Catch up w/ The Daughtered Podcast Oscar on Instagram Few Will Hunt. 10% OFF use GIRLDAD Want to be a guest on The DAUGHTERED Podcast? Want to collaborate? Send Oscar Pena a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/daughteredpodcast

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Leadership Lessons Every Girl Dad Needs w/ Chip Scholz

Send us Fan Mail In this episode of The Daughtered Podcast, I sit down with Chip Scholz, a leadership coach, author of "Small Decisions Big Shifts" & "Every Dog Has Its Day", woodworker, and father of three daughters, for a powerful conversation on fatherhood, leadership, and the quiet weight of being a dad. Chip shares his unique journey into fatherhood, stepping in as a dad to three young girls after their biological father disappeared, and what it taught him about earning influence, not just holding authority. We dive into: • The difference between authority and real leadership • Raising daughters through every stage of life • Why dads struggle with imposter syndrome • “Not forcing the cut” in fatherhood and leadership • Small daily decisions that create big life shifts • Building family values, purpose, and intentional legacy • The tension between career success and being present at home This conversation is full of hard-earned wisdom for fathers trying to lead better, love deeper, and show up stronger for their families. Scholz Leadership Development Chip on Instagram Books: Small Decisions, Big Shifts Every Dog Has Its Day 00:00 Teenage Girls No Manual 00:49 Podcast Welcome And Guest 02:32 Chip Stepdad Origin Story 05:11 Earning Dad Influence 07:40 Teen Years Reality Check 10:26 Imposter Syndrome And Roles 11:40 Woodworking Leadership Parallel 15:55 Holding Space For Each Daughter 18:04 Four Games At Home 21:53 Systemic Versus Intrinsic Parenting 25:49 Bedtime Reality Check 26:31 Let Them Talk at Night 29:56 Career Grind Regrets 32:20 Second Mountain Shift 33:40 Adult Daughters Today 36:06 Memento Mori Parenting 38:33 Values Shape Decisions 43:56 Purpose And Character 46:12 Books Links And Farewell 49:38 Newsletter Call To Action Guest Disclaimer: The views and opinions expressed on this podcast are solely those of the guests. They do not necessarily reflect the views or opinions of the host, any organizations, companies, or institutions mentioned, or corporate entities represented by the host. Our aim is to provide a platform for diverse perspectives and open dialogue. While we strive for accuracy and balance, it's important to recognize that opinions may vary. We encourage critical thinking and further exploration of the topics discussed. Proudly Sponsored by Few Will Hunt Restoring the dignity of hard work. 100%American-made. Everyone wants to eat. But only few will hunt Support the show Catch up w/ The Daughtered Podcast Oscar on Instagram Few Will Hunt. 10% OFF use GIRLDAD Want to be a guest on The DAUGHTERED Podcast? Want to collaborate? Send Oscar Pena a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/daughteredpodcast

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Fatherhood, Legacy & Leading Daughters Well w/ Yusef Marshall

Send us Fan Mail What does it really mean to show up as a father of daughters? In this episode of The Daughtered Podcast, I sit down with Yusef Marshall—host of One on One with Mr. Yu, certified high-performance coach, leadership coach, minister, speaker, and proud father of three daughters, to dive deep into fatherhood, legacy, and what it takes to raise strong, confident daughters in today’s world. Yusef brings over 25 years of coaching, leadership, and life experience to this conversation, but more importantly, he brings the perspective of a man who has walked the road of raising daughters into adulthood... and now into grandchildren and even great-grandchildren. We talk about the biggest mistakes fathers make with daughters, why many men take a passive role in parenting girls, how fathers shape the standard their daughters will one day look for in relationships, and why being present matters far more than simply being a provider. This is a real conversation about growth, responsibility, and becoming the kind of man your daughters need. If you're a father trying to become stronger, more mindful, and more present—this episode is for you. Connect with Yusef Marshall: 🎙 One on One with Mr. Yu 🎙 Men’s Round Table Series 🎙 They Call Me Mr. Yu Listen, subscribe, and share this episode with another dad who’s working to show up better every single day. 00:00 Dreams vs Family Values 00:34 Podcast Welcome and Guest Intro 02:23 Yusef’s Many Hats and Legacy 05:56 Brooklyn Roots and Mom’s Influence 08:04 Values Across Generations 11:28 Becoming a Dad in 1985 12:35 No Playbook for Fatherhood 18:38 Pressure to Be the Role Model 19:49 Barbershop Scare Lesson 22:41 Raising Independent Daughters 23:09 Letting Go and Trusting God 25:44 Common Girl Dad Pitfalls 28:12 Showing Up in the Details 30:37 Media and the Passive Dad 33:25 Man Cave vs Being Present 34:42 Learning When to Listen 36:34 Are Dads Improving Today 39:00 Building Value as Men 41:29 Podcast Mission and Origin 43:57 Shows and Safe Spaces 47:07 Closing Thanks and Next Steps Guest Disclaimer: The views and opinions expressed on this podcast are solely those of the guests. They do not necessarily reflect the views or opinions of the host, any organizations, companies, or institutions mentioned, or corporate entities represented by the host. Our aim is to provide a platform for diverse perspectives and open dialogue. While we strive for accuracy and balance, it's important to recognize that opinions may vary. We encourage critical thinking and further exploration of the topics discussed. Proudly Sponsored by Few Will Hunt Restoring the dignity of hard work. 100%American-made. Everyone wants to eat. But only few will hunt Support the show Catch up w/ The Daughtered Podcast Oscar on Instagram Few Will Hunt. 10% OFF use GIRLDAD Want to be a guest on The DAUGHTERED Podcast? Want to collaborate? Send Oscar Pena a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/daughteredpodcast

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How Fathers Can Break Generational Trauma Before It Reaches Their Daughters w/ Jennifer Chase

Send us Fan Mail Breaking generational trauma as a father starts with the courage to face what you’ve been avoiding. In this deeply honest episode of The Daughtered Podcast, Oscar sits down with Jennifer Chase, founder of Rise Addiction Life Coaching, whose story spans generations of trauma, addiction, healing, and family restoration. Jennifer opens up about growing up in a home marked by alcoholism and abuse, her own battle with opioid addiction after brain surgery, and the heartbreaking moment she realized addiction had impacted her son as well. Together, she and Oscar unpack what fathers need to understand about the hidden ways pain, silence, enabling, and unspoken family wounds get passed down. This conversation is ultimately about courage—the courage to face the “ball of yarn” of unresolved pain, choose discomfort over denial, and model healing, vulnerability, and connection for our children. In this episode: How addiction and trauma become generational Why fathers must remove shame and talk about the “elephant in the room” The danger of silence, enabling, and emotional isolation Why vulnerability is one of the strongest things a dad can model How healing yourself changes your daughter’s future Why connection is the true opposite of addiction If you’re a dad carrying pain, patterns, or habits you know need to stop with you—this episode is for you. Rise Addiction Life Coaching 🎧 Listen in and ask yourself: What cycle ends with me? 00:00 Fear Shame And Courage 00:59 Podcast Welcome And Guest 03:19 Jennifer Family Addiction Roots 05:08 Brain Tumor To Opiates 06:59 Enabling And Medical Legitimacy 08:19 How Dependence Sneaks In 10:50 Opiates As Emotional Relief 13:43 Comfort Is A Slow Death 16:46 Generational Trauma Ball Of Yarn 21:25 What Dads Must Do Now 26:35 Wishing For Dad Healing 28:01 What Dad Could Have Done 30:12 Hospital Confrontation And Denial 31:16 Name the Elephant 32:14 Shame-Free Family Healing 33:52 Spotting Early Signs 36:38 Parenting Pendulum Swing 39:16 Grace Over Perfection 43:21 Choosing Courage to Grow 48:54 Find Your People 52:11 Modeling Vulnerability 55:11 Coaching and Resources 57:53 Closing and Next Steps Guest Disclaimer: The views and opinions expressed on this podcast are solely those of the guests. They do not necessarily reflect the views or opinions of the host, any organizations, companies, or institutions mentioned, or corporate entities represented by the host. Our aim is to provide a platform for diverse perspectives and open dialogue. While we strive for accuracy and balance, it's important to recognize that opinions may vary. We encourage critical thinking and further exploration of the topics discussed. Proudly Sponsored by Few Will Hunt Restoring the dignity of hard work. 100%American-made. Everyone wants to eat. But only few will hunt Support the show Catch up w/ The Daughtered Podcast Oscar on Instagram Few Will Hunt. 10% OFF use GIRLDAD Want to be a guest on The DAUGHTERED Podcast? Want to collaborate? Send Oscar Pena a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/daughteredpodcast

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How Men Reclaim Their Home, Health & Happiness w/ Mitch Osmond

Send us Fan Mail Strength as a father had less to do with muscles—and everything to do with resilience. In this episode, Oscar sits down with Mitchell Osmond, founder of Dad Nation Podcast and a coach who helps high-performing men reclaim their home, health, and happiness without sacrificing career success. Mitchell shares his powerful personal story of rebuilding his life, restoring his marriage, and learning how true strength is found in resilience, accountability, and emotional connection. Together, they unpack what it means to stop drifting in marriage, get off autopilot in fatherhood, and model the kind of strength our daughters will one day recognize in the relationships they choose. If you’ve ever felt disconnected at home while still winning professionally, this conversation will hit home. Mitchell on Instagram FREE GIFT: THE CONNECTION CODE™ On the Web Podcast Complimentary Strategy Session 00:00 Choose Your Hard 00:53 Podcast Welcome 01:07 Meet Mitch Osmond 02:09 Coaching Mission Today 03:36 Two Turning Points 05:31 Funeral Wake Up Call 06:49 Rebuilding in 18 Months 09:41 Six Months to Prove It 12:13 Iron Five Accountability 16:39 Advice Before Marriage 18:46 Turning Pain to Purpose 20:12 Redefining Strength 22:44 Resilience Over Excuses 24:04 Willpower Brain Growth 27:44 Model Strength for Kids 29:49 Marriage Autopilot Trap 31:54 Divorce Stats and Disconnection 33:12 Needs Seen Heard Secure 35:19 Respect and Competence 41:03 Programs and Free Resources 44:31 Time Is the Currency 45:30 Final Thanks and Subscribe Key themes: resilience, marriage, accountability, emotional intelligence, fatherhood, legacy, and leading with strength at home. Guest Disclaimer: The views and opinions expressed on this podcast are solely those of the guests. They do not necessarily reflect the views or opinions of the host, any organizations, companies, or institutions mentioned, or corporate entities represented by the host. Our aim is to provide a platform for diverse perspectives and open dialogue. While we strive for accuracy and balance, it's important to recognize that opinions may vary. We encourage critical thinking and further exploration of the topics discussed. Proudly Sponsored by Few Will Hunt Restoring the dignity of hard work. 100%American-made. Everyone wants to eat. But only few will hunt Support the show Catch up w/ The Daughtered Podcast Oscar on Instagram Few Will Hunt. 10% OFF use GIRLDAD Want to be a guest on The DAUGHTERED Podcast? Want to collaborate? Send Oscar Pena a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/daughteredpodcast

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Why Fatherhood Should Expand Your Purpose, Not Shrink It w/ Chris Avery

Send us Fan Mail Becoming a father isn't the reason to stop chasing hard things… It's a the reason to dream bigger! In this episode, Oscar sits down with a fellow father, Chris Avery, preparing for an incredible challenge: running 31 miles every day for 365 days around the perimeter of America. But the real conversation goes deeper than the miles. This episode explores how fatherhood reshapes a man’s sense of purpose, why our kids are always watching what we pursue, and how doing hard things becomes one of the greatest gifts we can model for our daughters. A conversation about resilience, discipline, presence, and why your mission as a father should grow—not shrink—after kids. 🎧 Dad challenge: What’s one thing you stopped pursuing that your kids need to see you go after again? Chris on Instagram Chris Runs America Donate to the Run Around America 00:00 Hardest Parts of Fatherhood 01:03 Podcast Intro and Guest 02:11 Chris Avery Background 02:42 Sobriety and New Life 03:58 Marriage and Kids 04:55 CD Player Nostalgia 05:35 Mortality After Kids 08:03 Birth Trauma and NICU 11:44 Being Present as Dads 14:46 Bedtime Lessons Learned 17:10 COVID Wake Up Call 20:06 Slow Down and Find Joy 25:23 Genius Brain Curiosity 27:48 Slowing Down to Connect 28:18 Puzzles as Presence Practice 31:19 Time Is How Kids Feel Love 32:41 One on One Moments 33:52 The 50K Every Day Plan 35:54 Pain Purpose and Perseverance 41:59 Family in the Journey 46:35 Race Not Pace Mindset 48:01 Support Sponsors and Links 51:24 Live for Your Family 53:07 Closing Thanks and Newsletter Guest Disclaimer: The views and opinions expressed on this podcast are solely those of the guests. They do not necessarily reflect the views or opinions of the host, any organizations, companies, or institutions mentioned, or corporate entities represented by the host. Our aim is to provide a platform for diverse perspectives and open dialogue. While we strive for accuracy and balance, it's important to recognize that opinions may vary. We encourage critical thinking and further exploration of the topics discussed. Proudly Sponsored by Few Will Hunt Restoring the dignity of hard work. 100%American-made. Everyone wants to eat. But only few will hunt Support the show Catch up w/ The Daughtered Podcast Oscar on Instagram Few Will Hunt. 10% OFF use GIRLDAD Want to be a guest on The DAUGHTERED Podcast? Want to collaborate? Send Oscar Pena a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/daughteredpodcast

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The Hard Truth About Fatherhood: Why Being an Engaged Dad Matters More Than Ever w/ Jon Hord

Send us Fan Mail Most dads don’t miss it on purpose… they just don’t realize it’s happening. In this episode, we dive into a realization that hits hard once you see it—the time you think you have with your kids isn’t what you think. Not the time in the same house. Not the time spent driving them around. But the real, meaningful connection time. This conversation unpacks how many fathers unintentionally trade presence for provision, and how easy it is to give our best energy to work while our families get what’s left. Jon Hord is a father, coach, and founder of The Engaged Father Project—a community and coaching platform dedicated to helping dads become more intentional, present, and connected before it’s too late. Through his work, he helps fathers recognize where their energy is going and how to shift toward what matters most. This episode is a gut check—but also a reminder: 👉 You don’t need more time. You need more presence. 🎙️ Listen now—and share this with a dad who needs to hear it. The Engage Father Project Jon on Instagram The Community on Skool We talk about: Why time with your kids feels like it speeds up overnight The difference between being physically present vs truly engaged How your actions (not your words) shape your child’s reality Why most dads believe “family comes first”… but live differently Simple ways to start showing up better—starting today 00:00 Time Window Reality 00:59 Show Intro Welcome 02:06 Guest Background Mission 03:46 75 Percent By Twelve 09:57 Family First Audit 10:20 Childhood Playbook 13:25 Provider Mindset Trap 22:08 Career Stress Breaking Point 27:28 Leaving To Coach 29:11 Engaged Father Origins 29:58 Retirement Myth 30:08 Jenny Sparks Idea 31:38 Engaged Father Project 32:38 Energy Pie Chart 34:37 Quality Time Presence 36:02 Kids Notice Distraction 39:22 Help Without Asking 41:16 Men And Vulnerability 44:00 Handling Family Conflict 50:29 Perspective With Kids 55:01 Find John And Join 58:30 Final Takeaways Guest Disclaimer: The views and opinions expressed on this podcast are solely those of the guests. They do not necessarily reflect the views or opinions of the host, any organizations, companies, or institutions mentioned, or corporate entities represented by the host. Our aim is to provide a platform for diverse perspectives and open dialogue. While we strive for accuracy and balance, it's important to recognize that opinions may vary. We encourage critical thinking and further exploration of the topics discussed. Proudly Sponsored by Few Will Hunt Restoring the dignity of hard work. 100%American-made. Everyone wants to eat. But only few will hunt Support the show Catch up w/ The Daughtered Podcast Oscar on Instagram Few Will Hunt. 10% OFF use GIRLDAD Want to be a guest on The DAUGHTERED Podcast? Want to collaborate? Send Oscar Pena a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/daughteredpodcast

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What Divorced Dads Need to Hear About Raising Daughters w/ Rory Paquette

Send us Fan Mail What does it look like to fight for your daughter without letting ego destroy the relationship? In this episode of The DAUGHTERED Podcast, Oscar sits down with Rory Paquette for a real, honest conversation about fatherhood, divorce, masculinity, and the weight dads carry when raising daughters. Rory is a father, podcast host, podcast coach, public speaking coach, and mentor who helps men grow in leadership, marriage, and fatherhood. Together, Oscar and Rory unpack the fear many men feel when becoming fathers, especially to daughters, and how unresolved wounds, pressure, and pride can shape the way we show up. Rory shares his deeply personal story of becoming a dad young, navigating divorce when his daughter was still an infant, and learning how to lead with peace, ownership, and consistency even when the system felt stacked against him. This is a powerful conversation about what daughters pull out of us as men, what it takes to stay present through pain, and how to build a lasting relationship with your child even in incredibly difficult circumstances. If you’re a father trying to show up better, especially in hard seasons, this episode will stay with you. Rory Paquette Power of Man Podcast 00:00 Fear Behind Fatherhood 00:36 Clueless to Purposeful 01:32 Podcast Welcome and Guest Intro 04:07 Why Daughters Change You 06:46 Meet Rory Paquette 09:07 Before Becoming a Dad 11:27 Birth Night Turning Point 13:33 No Playbook and Isolation 15:22 Fear of Failing Your Kids 19:55 Divorce and Co Parenting Ego 25:57 Grounded by His New Wife 30:49 When the Fighting Stopped 32:31 Custody Reality for Dads 34:48 Custody Reality Check 36:21 Child Support Incentives 38:23 Surviving the System 43:17 Owning Your Side 53:38 Blended Family Dynamics 58:00 Teen Years Guidance 01:03:47 Wrap Up and Resources Guest Disclaimer: The views and opinions expressed on this podcast are solely those of the guests. They do not necessarily reflect the views or opinions of the host, any organizations, companies, or institutions mentioned, or corporate entities represented by the host. Our aim is to provide a platform for diverse perspectives and open dialogue. While we strive for accuracy and balance, it's important to recognize that opinions may vary. We encourage critical thinking and further exploration of the topics discussed. Proudly Sponsored by Few Will Hunt Restoring the dignity of hard work. 100%American-made. Everyone wants to eat. But only few will hunt Support the show Catch up w/ The Daughtered Podcast Oscar on Instagram Few Will Hunt. 10% OFF use GIRLDAD Want to be a guest on The DAUGHTERED Podcast? Want to collaborate? Send Oscar Pena a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/daughteredpodcast

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When Dad Is There But Not Present | The Hidden Impact Fathers Have on Daughters w/ Dr. Susan Schwartz

Send us Fan Mail In this episode of The Daughtered Podcast, I sit down with Dr. Susan Schwartz, a Jungian analyst, clinical psychologist, and author of The Absent Father Effect on Daughters. With decades of experience working with women across all stages of life, Dr. Schwartz has seen firsthand how a father’s emotional presence — or absence — can shape a daughter’s identity, confidence, and relationships for years to come. In this conversation we explore: • Why daughters feel emotional absence so deeply • The difference between being home and being truly present • How fathers influence their daughters’ self-worth and development • Why many fathers were never taught emotional connection themselves • The powerful role awareness plays in breaking generational patterns One of the most powerful ideas discussed is that fathers influence their daughters far more than they realize — even through subtle emotional signals and unspoken expectations. This conversation isn’t about guilt... It’s about awareness. Because when fathers become more intentional with their presence, they have the power to change not only their daughters’ lives — but the generations that follow. Dr. Schwartz's Work Susan's Instagram 00:00 Father Absence Crisis 01:26 Podcast Welcome 02:23 Why Fathers Matter 03:29 Guest Background 05:47 Daughter Impact 09:13 Nature Versus Nurture 11:02 Pregnancy Influence 14:00 Single Mother Context 15:50 Filling The Void 18:36 Emotional Absence 19:18 Host Personal Reflection 20:46 Emotional Honesty as Dads 21:32 Fear of Messing Up 23:31 Raising Girls vs Boys 25:21 Beyond Parenting Recipes 26:49 Fathers Thoughts Shape Daughters 29:01 Know Your Daughter Deeply 31:25 Dialogue Builds Connection 34:04 How to Be Present 36:47 Books Resources and Farewell Guest Disclaimer: The views and opinions expressed on this podcast are solely those of the guests. They do not necessarily reflect the views or opinions of the host, any organizations, companies, or institutions mentioned, or corporate entities represented by the host. Our aim is to provide a platform for diverse perspectives and open dialogue. While we strive for accuracy and balance, it's important to recognize that opinions may vary. We encourage critical thinking and further exploration of the topics discussed. Proudly Sponsored by Few Will Hunt Restoring the dignity of hard work. 100%American-made. Everyone wants to eat. But only few will hunt Support the show Catch up w/ The Daughtered Podcast Oscar on Instagram Few Will Hunt. 10% OFF use GIRLDAD Want to be a guest on The DAUGHTERED Podcast? Want to collaborate? Send Oscar Pena a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/daughteredpodcast

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Community, Discipline vs Discipleship, and Healthy Masculinity w/ Olaolu Ogunyemi

Send us Fan Mail What does it really mean to be a strong father? In this episode, I sit down with Marine Corps officer, children’s book author, and founder of Parent Child Connect, Olaolu, to talk about raising daughters and sons in today’s culture. We dive into: The power of community (especially in military life) Why perception shapes how kids see “present fathers” The difference between being stoic and being emotionally unavailable Raising boys with strength without shutting down empathy Modeling masculinity in a healthy way This conversation is real, practical, and deeply relevant for dads trying to show up stronger, more mindful, and more present. Listen in — and let me know what part hit home. Parent Child Connect Olaolu on Instagram Olaolu on YouTube 00:00 Leadership for Each Child 01:11 Podcast Welcome and Guest Intro 03:08 Ola’s Background and Marine Path 05:40 Writing Children’s Books 07:16 Becoming a Dad at 19 09:29 Military Life and Finding Community 15:13 Why Community Drives Success 19:08 Mentoring Girls and Trust Barriers 22:38 How Men Can Show Up Safely 27:23 When Good Dads Trigger Jealousy 32:21 Handling Animosity 32:43 Full Circle Perspective 33:44 Perception of Richness 35:46 Values Talk With Kids 37:15 Returning Home Changes 38:10 Becoming a Young Dad 41:22 Spoiling Isn’t Love 43:17 Raising Son Among Sisters 44:29 Masculinity and Emotions 50:52 Stoicism vs Disconnection 53:25 Modeling Healthy Reactions 56:52 Books and Resources Plug 59:00 Final Wrap and Newsletter Guest Disclaimer: The views and opinions expressed on this podcast are solely those of the guests. They do not necessarily reflect the views or opinions of the host, any organizations, companies, or institutions mentioned, or corporate entities represented by the host. Our aim is to provide a platform for diverse perspectives and open dialogue. While we strive for accuracy and balance, it's important to recognize that opinions may vary. We encourage critical thinking and further exploration of the topics discussed. Support the show Catch up w/ The Daughtered Podcast Oscar on Instagram Few Will Hunt. 10% OFF use GIRLDAD Want to be a guest on The DAUGHTERED Podcast? Want to collaborate? Send Oscar Pena a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/daughteredpodcast

Girl Dad Lessons on Consistency, Kids’ Struggles, and Parenting Without the “Easy Button” | Kyle Hill

Send us Fan Mail What happens when a 20+ year educator — who has worked with thousands of children — becomes a father of twin daughters? In this episode, Oscar sits down with Kyle Hill, longtime educator, intervention leader, professor, and father, to unpack what decades inside classrooms have taught him about raising daughters at home. Kyle has spent over two decades helping children with: • ADHD and neurodivergence • Behavioral and emotional challenges • Academic struggles • Confidence and resilience issues And now he brings that experience into his own home as a girl dad navigating adolescence, medical challenges, and the daily realities of fatherhood. We dive into: • Why kids copy what we do — not what we say • The difference between reacting and responding • Why consistency beats big speeches • How to build a “village” around your child • When dads need coaching — not just their kids If you’re serious about becoming a stronger, more mindful, more present father… this conversation delivers. RechargeED Dad's All In Parent Hub 00:00 Kids Are Watching 00:45 Penn State Fan Control 01:18 Podcast Welcome 02:44 Kyle’s Dad Journey 05:25 Twins and No Sleep 06:59 Helping Kids With Needs 10:05 The Easy Button Trap 14:43 Coaching Beyond Sports 17:10 Finding the Right Help 23:37 Laugh and Let Go 30:14 Becoming a Girl Dad 32:10 What Daughters Teach 34:22 ADHD Hyperfocus Lens 35:23 Boys vs Girls Reactions 36:04 Protecting Sons and Daughters 38:00 How Daughters Rewire Dads 39:07 Boy Brain Girl Brain 39:57 Aggression Nurturance Story 43:51 Emotions and Hormones 46:13 What Daughters Teach 47:40 Individualized Discipline 50:36 Help Framework for Parents 54:00 Type One Diabetes Example 58:18 Find True Specialists 01:00:59 Podcast and Resources 01:02:34 Final Takeaways and Outro Guest Disclaimer: The views and opinions expressed on this podcast are solely those of the guests. They do not necessarily reflect the views or opinions of the host, any organizations, companies, or institutions mentioned, or corporate entities represented by the host. Our aim is to provide a platform for diverse perspectives and open dialogue. While we strive for accuracy and balance, it's important to recognize that opinions may vary. We encourage critical thinking and further exploration of the topics discussed. Support the show Catch up w/ The Daughtered Podcast Oscar on Instagram Few Will Hunt. 10% OFF use GIRLDAD Want to be a guest on The DAUGHTERED Podcast? Want to collaborate? Send Oscar Pena a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/daughteredpodcast

Why Dad? The Hard Question Every Father Must Answer w/ Paul Wandrey

Send us Fan Mail Why are you a father? Why should you show up when it’s hard? Why does being a dad actually matter? In this powerful conversation, I sit down with Paul Wandrey of the Why Dad Podcast to unpack the question most men never slow down enough to answer. We talk about grief, miscarriage, losing a child, emotional exhaustion, anger, therapy, and the pressure to be the “strong oak” for your family. But what if real strength isn’t about being unbreakable? This episode dives into: How loss reshapes a man’s identity as a father The myth of emotional stoicism in men Processing grief without shutting down Holding boundaries without losing connection How to redefine strength as a husband and dad Why defining your “why” changes everything If you’ve ever felt tired, frustrated, disconnected, or unsure how to lead your family well… this one is for you. Stronger. Mindful. Present. Instagram Youtube Podcast 00:00 Becoming a Dad: The Steeper Learning Curve & the Big “Why?” 00:37 Welcome to The Daughter Podcast + Meet Paul 01:48 What “Why Dad?” Really Means (Kids’ Questions, Future Fathers, Showing Up) 04:10 Intentional Fatherhood & Paul’s Co-Host Perspective (Before You Have Kids) 06:07 Sponsor Break: People Will Hunt 06:53 Paul’s Origin Story: 1 of 9, Military/Catholic Upbringing, Seminary Years 08:43 Loss, Grief, and Fatherhood Tested: Miscarriage & Isla’s 22-Week Birth 12:38 Turning Pain Into Purpose: Becoming the Best Dad + Starting a Podcast 14:47 Processing Miscarriage as a Couple: Dad vs. Mom Experience 23:21 Honoring Amelia: Naming, Art, and Learning How to Support Sarah 26:55 The “newborn smell” & instant bonding as a dad 29:32 Racing to the hospital: unexpected labor at 22 weeks 31:02 In the OR: helplessness, waiting, and Isla’s final moments 33:31 After the loss: choosing to heal together (not break apart) 35:47 Redefining strength for dads: grief, pressure, and leading as one 41:01 Tools that helped: therapy, anger triggers, and parenting with empathy 46:48 Modeling growth (not perfection) + the host’s own dad journey 52:47 Looking 50 years ahead: health, presence, and lasting connection 56:16 Advice to dads in grief: find your “why” and keep recentering 58:42 Where to find Why Dad + final thanks, subscribe, and newsletter outro Guest Disclaimer: The views and opinions expressed on this podcast are solely those of the guests. They do not necessarily reflect the views or opinions of the host, any organizations, companies, or institutions mentioned, or corporate entities represented by the host. Our aim is to provide a platform for diverse perspectives and open dialogue. While we strive for accuracy and balance, it's important to recognize that opinions may vary. We encourage critical thinking and further exploration of the topics discussed. Support the show Catch up w/ The Daughtered Podcast Oscar on Instagram Few Will Hunt. 10% OFF use GIRLDAD Want to be a guest on The DAUGHTERED Podcast? Want to collaborate? Send Oscar Pena a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/daughteredpodcast

How Fathers Shape Their Daughters: Moving From Reactive to Intentional Parenting w/ Dr. Lindsay Emmerson

Send us Fan Mail What if the most powerful influence on your daughter’s future isn’t what you tell her — but how you show up when life gets stressful? In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Lindsay Emmerson, a psychologist and parent coach, to break down the science behind how children actually learn from their parents — and why modeling matters more than lectures. We explore: The difference between reactive vs intentional parenting Why “being strict” can create compliance without character The parenting style research that leads to the healthiest long-term outcomes A practical 3-step triage plan for handling discipline moments without damaging connection How fathers can hold high standards while still building emotional safety This is not theory or gentle parenting trends. It’s psychology-backed, real-world guidance for dads who want to lead with strength, clarity, and presence. If you’ve ever walked away from a moment with your daughter thinking “that’s not how I wanted to handle that” — this conversation is for you. Dr. Lindsay on Instagram Dr. Lindsay Parenting Tips Dr. Lindsay on Youtube 00:00 Introduction: The Impact of Fathers on Daughters 01:05 Welcome to the Daughter Podcast 01:42 Meet Dr. Lindsey Emerson 03:15 Parenting as a Learned Skill 06:38 The Five Cs Parenting Framework 11:11 The Importance of Authoritative Parenting 32:58 The Role of Consistency and Communication 36:18 Establishing Consequences 36:47 The Importance of Authoritative Parenting 37:42 The Five C's of Parenting 38:47 Intentional Parenting and Self-Check 40:55 Introducing the Three-Step Triage Plan 41:31 Step One: Respond, Don't React 45:49 Step Two: Teach, Don't Punish 57:08 Step Three: Monitor and Reinforce 01:02:10 Final Thoughts and Resources Guest Disclaimer: The views and opinions expressed on this podcast are solely those of the guests. They do not necessarily reflect the views or opinions of the host, any organizations, companies, or institutions mentioned, or corporate entities represented by the host. Our aim is to provide a platform for diverse perspectives and open dialogue. While we strive for accuracy and balance, it's important to recognize that opinions may vary. We encourage critical thinking and further exploration of the topics discussed. Support the show Catch up w/ The Daughtered Podcast Oscar on Instagram Few Will Hunt. 10% OFF use GIRLDAD Want to be a guest on The DAUGHTERED Podcast? Want to collaborate? Send Oscar Pena a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/daughteredpodcast

Season 3 Trailer | The Daughtered Podcast Effect

Send us Fan Mail Season 3 of The Daughtered Podcast is here—and it goes deeper than ever. This season isn’t about how to raise strong daughters. It’s about how raising daughters shapes stronger, more mindful, more present men. In this short solo episode, host Oscar Peña—father of three daughters—shares what’s ahead in Season 3, including weekly conversations with psychologists, educators, endurance athletes, and fathers who are doing the real work of growth at home. This season explores presence over provision, emotional regulation, humility, leadership in the home, and the quiet work of becoming the man your daughters need you to be. New episodes drop weekly. This is an invitation to slow down, reflect, and grow—together. Support the show Catch up w/ The Daughtered Podcast Oscar on Instagram Few Will Hunt. 10% OFF use GIRLDAD Want to be a guest on The DAUGHTERED Podcast? Want to collaborate? Send Oscar Pena a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/daughteredpodcast

Key Lessons Learned for Fatherhood: Season 2 Finale

Send us Fan Mail In the Season 2 finale of the Daughter podcast, Oscar Peña shares valuable lessons learned throughout the season. Key insights include the importance of modeling behavior, the balance between high standards and perfectionism, the power of apologizing, and the significance of emotional availability. Oscar emphasizes the role of gratitude and self-reflection in fatherhood, the impact of real moments over perfect ones, and the importance of preparing daughters for life's challenges. He also discusses the differences between leadership at work and at home, and the need for fathers to continuously evolve. The episode concludes with a heartfelt thank you to the community and a preview of exciting changes and new perspectives coming in Season 3. Catch up w/ The Daughtered Podcast Oscar on Instagram Few Will Hunt. 10% OFF use GIRLDAD 00:00 Introduction and Season Recap 02:06 Lessons Learned: Imitation and High Standards 03:34 The Power of Apologizing and Belonging 05:42 Gratitude and Self-Reflection 07:24 Honesty and Ending Excuses 08:37 The Importance of Sharing Your Story 09:27 Real Moments and Handling Challenges 11:21 Emotional Availability and Teaching Autonomy 13:09 Leadership at Home vs. Work 15:26 Embracing Change in Fatherhood 16:13 Conclusion and Season 3 Preview Support the show Catch up w/ The Daughtered Podcast Oscar on Instagram Few Will Hunt. 10% OFF use GIRLDAD Want to be a guest on The DAUGHTERED Podcast? Want to collaborate? Send Oscar Pena a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/daughteredpodcast

Raising Daughters Who Can Advocate for Themselves Through Adulthood w/ Evan Sanchez

Send us Fan Mail In this powerful conversation, Oscar sits down with Evan Sanchez, life coach and founder of New Grad Launchpad Coaching, to talk about the often-ignored phase of fatherhood: coaching our kids through early adulthood. Evan works closely with parents of teens and new grads navigating what he calls the quarter-life crisis—a stage filled with uncertainty, anxiety, and pressure for both kids and parents. Together, Evan and Oscar explore how fathers shape their daughters’ confidence, boundaries, self-advocacy, and resilience long after childhood ends. This episode dives into: Why daughters learn how to treat others by watching their fathers The shift from director to coach as kids grow Trusting daughters instead of controlling them Navigating entitlement vs preparedness in today’s world Supporting neurodivergent children with empathy and clarity Teaching boundaries without fear or intimidation Why praise, patience, and presence still matter in their 20s If you’re a father who wants to raise a daughter who can speak up, set boundaries, and navigate the real world with confidence—this episode is a must-listen. Evan's Coaching Evan's LinkedIn Catch up w/ The Daughtered Podcast Oscar on Instagram Few Will Hunt. 10% OFF use GIRLDAD 00:00 The Influence of Fathers on Daughters01:36 Introduction to the Daughter Podcast01:52 Guest Introduction: Evan Sanchez04:10 Support the show Catch up w/ The Daughtered Podcast Oscar on Instagram Few Will Hunt. 10% OFF use GIRLDAD Want to be a guest on The DAUGHTERED Podcast? Want to collaborate? Send Oscar Pena a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/daughteredpodcast

Be the Example of What Right Looks Like: Stoicism for Dads w/ William Spears

Send us Fan Mail What does it really mean to be “the example of what right looks like”—at home, not just at work? In this episode of The Daughtered Podcast, Oscar sits down with William C. Spears, a U.S. Navy submarine warfare officer who writes on leadership, ethics, and military life—and the author of Stoicism as a Warrior Philosophy. Even though William is a father of three boys, his message is deeply relevant for girl dads and boy dads alike: your kids aren’t just listening to what you say—they’re learning from how you manage pressure, handle conflict, and take responsibility in real time. This a packed episode: Why fatherhood is the most important job The leadership-parallel that keeps coming up The difference between controlling emotions vs. suppressing them A practical Stoic framework The hard-but-powerful practice of “negative visualization” (and why it can make you more present) William also shares where Stoicism gets misunderstood online, how he thinks about service and sacrifice as a dad, and why your kids watching you “own your reactions” may be one of the greatest gifts you can give them. Connect with William: Website: WilliamCSpears.com William C. Spears Book: Stoicism as a Warrior Philosophy Catch up w/ The Daughtered Podcast Oscar on Instagram Support the show Catch up w/ The Daughtered Podcast Oscar on Instagram Few Will Hunt. 10% OFF use GIRLDAD Want to be a guest on The DAUGHTERED Podcast? Want to collaborate? Send Oscar Pena a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/daughteredpodcast

I Can Because I Will: A Girl Dad’s Lesson in Leadership at Home w/ Albert Butler

Send us Fan Mail What does real leadership at home actually look like — and why do our daughters expose the gaps faster than anyone else? In this powerful episode of The Daughtered Podcast, Oscar sits down with Albert Butler for an honest, deeply personal conversation about fatherhood, marriage, emotional intelligence, and what it truly means to lead your family well. Albert Butler is a CPA, MBA, national accounting firm partner, published author, and a devoted father of four (three daughters and one son). With decades of leadership experience in business, Albert brings a rare perspective on how professional leadership principles must be refined — not replicated — at home. His work has been featured in outlets such as Forbes, Business Insider, and Yahoo Finance, but he proudly identifies first and foremost as a husband and girl dad. He shares how becoming a girl dad — starting with a life-altering NICU experience — reshaped the way he views responsibility, leadership, and presence. Together, they unpack why many fathers excel at leadership at work but struggle to translate those same principles at home, especially with their daughters. Albert also opens up about marriage, humility, and the mindset that has guided his life and fatherhood journey: “I can because I will.” Albert is the author of Life: Truth, Love, Loss, Success & Failure, a book inspired by fatherhood and legacy, written to pass wisdom down to future generations. If you’re a dad raising daughters, navigating marriage, or trying to become a more present and emotionally grounded leader at home, this conversation will challenge you — and equip you — to do better. 🎧 Listen now and ask yourself: Am I leading my home with the same discipline and intention I bring to my career? Albert's Book Albert on Instagram Daughteredpodcast.com Oscar on Instagram Few Will Hunt. 10% OFF use GIRLDAD 00:00 Emotional Beginnings: NICU Challenges01:38 Introduction to the Daughter Podcast01:49 Meet Albert Butler: A Relentless F Support the show Catch up w/ The Daughtered Podcast Oscar on Instagram Few Will Hunt. 10% OFF use GIRLDAD Want to be a guest on The DAUGHTERED Podcast? Want to collaborate? Send Oscar Pena a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/daughteredpodcast