
71. What Do You Really Want? How to Find Your Way Back to Yourself
What Do You Really Want? How to Find Your Way Back to Yourself We often think desire is something to suppress. Something selfish. Indulgent. Even irresponsible. But what if your deepest desires aren't pulling you away from the life you're meant to live... what if they're pointing you back to it? In this episode, I sit down with my dear friend Dr. Chrissie Ott, founder of Joy Point Solutions and host of the Solving for Joy podcast, for a conversation about one of the most misunderstood forces in our lives: desire. Together, we explore how reconnecting with your desires can lead to greater integrity, deeper joy, and a more authentic relationship with yourself. We also unpack the difference between desires rooted in conditioning versus those that emerge from your deepest values, and why learning to trust yourself is one of the most important practices of all. In this episode, we discuss: Why desire isn't selfish and how it can become a compass for your life The difference between social conditioning, biological programming, and authentic desire How to discern which desires are aligned with your values Why so many high achievers lose touch with what they truly want The relationship between desire, integrity, gratitude, and joy Practical ways to reconnect with yourself through curiosity and awareness Chapters: 00:00 Why Desire Matters More Than You Think 00:40 Desire as a Compass for an Authentic Life 02:36 The Connection Between Desire, Joy & Integrity 06:05 Where Do Your Desires Really Come From? 12:41 Material Desires, Spirituality & Conscious Choice 17:16 How We Lose Touch With What We Really Want 22:23 Desire as a Path Back to Yourself 23:17 How to Desire What You Already Have 26:59 Reconnecting With Joy in Everyday Life 31:59 How Fear & Cynicism Block Joy and Desire 35:33 How to Listen to Your Desires With Integrity About Dr. Chrissie Ott Dr. Chrissie Ott is a double board-certified physician in Internal Medicine and Pediatrics, founder of Joy Point Solutions, and host of the Solving for Joy podcast. Through coaching, speaking, and teaching, she helps physicians, creatives, and purpose-driven professionals reconnect with joy, meaning, and sustainable fulfillment in both work and life. Learn more about Dr. Chrissie Ott: https://joypointsolutions.com/ Listen to the Solving for Joy Podcast: www.solvingforjoy.com Follow Dr. Chrissie Ott on Instagram: www.instagram.com/chrissieottmd How to work with me: https://www.calderonco.org/workwithme About me: I'm Dr. Vanessa Calderón, a Harvard-trained physician, Master Coach, and leadership expert with over 20 years of experience. My clients create meaningful results fast because we combine neuroscience, psychology, and proven coaching strategies to get right to the heart of what drives transformation. I work with leaders, entrepreneurs, doctors, and other professionals who want to elevate their performance, create lasting impact, and live a well-rounded, fulfilling life without burnout. This episode explores how to reconnect with your desires, distinguish authentic desire from social conditioning, and use self-awareness, integrity, and self-trust to create a more joyful, fulfilling, and authentic life.
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