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Still Not Straight

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Still Not Straight with Tessa & Shannen is a bold, unfiltered podcast about sexuality, identity, relationships, and late-in-life coming out stories.

Hosted by Tessa and Shannen, each episode dives into real experiences of falling in love with women, questioning identity, navigating dating, blending families, and redefining life beyond labels. Expect honest conversations, relatable chaos, and the kind of moments people don’t usually say out loud.

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  • Tuesday · 45 min

    We Probably Shouldn’t Talk About This… The Taboo Episode

    We’re back and after a quick debrief of the SNS Social Club (which absolutely popped off), we’re talking about all the things you’re apparently not supposed to talk about. Money. Relationships. Religion. Aliens. Nothing is off limits. How important is money in a relationship? What do we actually believe? Are there some things you just shouldn’t say out loud? And, naturally, do we believe there’s something else out there? We go there and Shan may or may not be the reason we’re not here next week. It’s chaotic, questionable and very SNS. Keep up to date with the chaos: Instagram TikTok Merch Leave us a message ☎️ here

  • August 18 · 42 min

    What Happened in Europe Was Supposed to Stay in Europe

    We thought what happened in Europe stayed in Europe… Apparently not. Tessa’s back and recapping the entire trip, the good, the gay, the unexpected homophobia, and the story she genuinely thought she’d never tell. Oh, and apparently we need to address the Sarah rumours too. We’re back babies. Keep up to date with the chaos:Instagram TikTokMerch #lesbian #sapphic #podcast #storytime

  • August 9 · 17 min

    Shan Says: Their Denial Doesn't Rewrite Reality

    Shan is back on the couch, solo, with a stack of questions and she's ready. Well. She says she didn't get cunty enough. You can be the judge. Welcome to Episode 4 of Shan Says - the mini-series where you send in your questions and Shan tells you exactly what she thinks, even when it's not what you want to hear. This episode:👻 She had a 10/10 first date. Kissed. Got the "I had an amazing time" text. Then the texting went weird, he forgot their second date entirely, and now complete silence. Did she get ghosted or did she accidentally ghost herself? Shan investigates. 🏳️‍🌈 She's a lesbian who's only attracted to femme-presenting women, has zero game in real life, and lives in a small town in New Zealand where the queers are few and far between. Shan has a PSA for any gay femmes in NZ listening right now.🥹 Her best friend cancels on her constantly but loses it when she makes plans without her. Shan has two words: absolutely not.📧 A coworker keeps reply-alling the entire team to correct her tiny mistakes in front of everyone. Shan calls it what it is and tells her exactly what to do about it.🚩 Her partner likes his ex's posts within 30 seconds of them going up. She thinks she's overthinking. Shan doesn't think she's overthinking. Also: Pete Wicks gets a mention and Shan owes him an apology.📱 Her 14-year-old is begging for Snapchat because literally everyone has it. Shan has opinions about Snapchat. Strong ones.🌟 Her friend posts nonstop "living my best life" content online then texts her at midnight falling apart. Do you say something or just keep showing up? Shan is not here for the highlight reel.💔 She was in a relationship for a year. She did school pickups. She built a little family. She was always kept a secret. She walked away when it wasn't enough. Then she found out her ex has been telling people they haven't dated anyone since their divorce — five years ago. Shan gets personal on this one. Plus: Shan announces Tessa might be back next week and genuinely seems conflicted about it.📩 Got a question for Shannen? Send it in - relationships, coming out, family drama, the stuff you can't say to anyone in your actual life. We want to hear it. Email: hello@stitchupstudios.com.au DM us: Instagram 🎙️ Shan Says is a mini-series from Still Not Straight, produced by Stitch Up Studios. Subscribe so you don't miss an episode ↓ Keep up to date with the chaos: Instagram: TikTok Merch

  • August 2 · 12 min

    Shan Says: She's Fallen For Her Straight Best Friend. Again. AGAIN.

    Shan is solo this episode and she has things to say. A lot of things. Mostly about best friends. Welcome to Episode 3 of Shan Says - the mini-series where you send in your questions and Shan tells you exactly what she thinks, even when you don't want to hear it. This episode: 💔 Her best friend just went on a date with a guy and her whole world is falling apart. She's not out. She doesn't know what she wants. She just knows she can't watch someone else have what she wants. Shan has two options for her and neither of them are easy. ✈️ They're exclusive, happy, and both moving abroad in a few months so they've agreed to just go back to being friends. Shan has one question: why though? 🚗 Her sister borrowed $4,000 two years ago, has never mentioned it since, and just bought a brand new car. Shan has a word for that. Several words actually. 🤍 She grew up in a house where "I love you" was never said. Her parents are getting older. She wants to start saying it but doesn't know how to introduce it after 30 years. What if they don't say it back? Shan gets into it — and has very strong opinions about "love you" versus "I love you." 💍 Married to a man. Loves him. Not in love with him. Two kids. Nothing is wrong but something doesn't feel right. She doesn't even know what she's asking. She just needed to say it to someone. This one hits different. 😭 She's in love with her straight best friend of 10 years who keeps joking about switching sides after every failed situationship with a man. Does she shoot her shot or stay quiet? Shan has officially had enough of these questions and is asking the comments to intervene. 📩 Got a question for Shannen? Send it in - relationships, coming out, family drama, the stuff you can't say to anyone in your actual life. We want to hear it. Email: hello@stitchupstudios.com.au DM us here. 🎙️ Shan Says is a mini-series from Still Not Straight, produced by Stitch Up Studios. Subscribe so you don't miss an episode ↓ Keep up to date with the chaos: ⁠Instagram⁠: ⁠ TikTok⁠ ⁠Merch⁠

  • July 26 · 18 min

    Shan Says: The Ring Doorbell Outed Her and We Cannot

    She's back. The cowboy hat is back. And this time she's brought G - who, for the record, did not volunteer for this. Welcome to Episode 2 of Shan Says - the mini-series where you send in your questions and Shannen (and apparently G now) give you the most unfiltered, honest, been-there-done-that advice on the internet.In this episode, Shannen and G tackle: 🚪 She hid her girlfriend from her religious parents for TWO YEARS. Then mum saw her on the Ring Doorbell. Then she invented an entire clothing resale business on the spot. What the fuck is wrong with her? (Spoiler: nothing. But also, it's time.) 🏳️‍🌈 Her best friend came out as a lesbian — because of advice SHE gave her. Now she's watching lesbian shows on purpose, saving edits of women, and has a little secret Spotify podcast habit. Shannen has some thoughts. So does G. 👵 She's in her 60s, just downloaded Hinge, and thinks she might be bi. The app's given her crickets so far. Shannen and G give her actual tips — and extend a very special invitation. 💔 Her daughter's dad left when the baby was eight months old. Five years later he made a move when she visited Perth, told her he wants to be with her — just not now. Shannen has a word for him too. (It's cockhead.)🎭 Someone sent in a question so confusing that Shannen, G AND ChatGPT couldn't figure out what they were asking. The audience had to be called in. 🌈 She's been bi since she was eight, only wants women now, and has never actually been with one. She's terrified she'll be shit. G has the most reassuring answer you'll ever hear. 📩 Got a question for Shannen? Send it in - relationships, coming out, family drama, the stuff you can't say to anyone in your actual life. We want to hear it. Email: hello@stitchupstudios.com.au DM us here. 🎙️ Shannen Says is a mini-series from Still Not Straight, produced by Stitch Up Studios. Subscribe so you don't miss an episode Keep up to date with the chaos: ⁠Instagram⁠: ⁠ TikTok⁠ Merch⁠ #StillNotStraight #ShanSays #QueerPodcast #LGBTQAdvice #BabyGay #LesbianPodcast #ComingOut #QueerAustralia #Advice #wlw

  • July 19 · 14 min

    Shan Says: Heart Eye Emojis & Hard Truths

    She's not a therapist. She's not a life coach. She's just someone who has been through it — and she will tell you exactly what she thinks. Welcome to the first ever episode of Shannen Says. The mini-series from Still Not Straight where YOU send in your questions and Shannen gives you the most unfiltered, honest, been-there-done-that advice you didn't know you needed. In Episode 1, Shannen tackles a big stack of your questions including: 💌 Your best friend's ex is liking all your stories with heart eyes — is there any world where you pursue it? 🚩 She's funny, gorgeous and she's into you. She also still lives with her ex. Your friends say run. Shannen says... it's complicated. 🛒 You're new to the scene, she's been out for years, and you cannot stop thinking about where those toys have been. Do you just... buy new ones? 💔 You present masc, every woman assumes you're a stone top, and all you want is to feel wanted. Shannen has a lot of feelings about this one. 🌈 Your mum has put you on a pedestal your whole life. Now you're out and she thinks you've been brainwashed. How do you make her understand? 😮 You fell for a straight girl. She has a boyfriend. She's texting you while she's on dates with him. Shannen has one word for you. (Okay, a few words. None of them are nice.) 🏳️‍🌈 Your best friend loves hearing about your sex life with men. The moment you mention a woman? Shut down. Shannen calls it like she sees it. Nothing is off limits. Nothing is sugar-coated. This is Shannen Says. 📩 Got a question for Shannen? Send it in — relationships, coming out, family drama, the stuff you can't say to anyone in your actual life. We want to hear it. Email: hello@stitchupstudios.com.au DM us here. 🎙️ Shannen Says is a mini-series from Still Not Straight, produced by Stitch Up Studios. Subscribe so you don't miss an episode #StillNotStraight #ShannenSays #QueerPodcast #LGBTQAdvice #BabyGay #LesbianPodcast #ComingOut #QueerAustralia #Advice

  • S3 · E8
    July 7 · 53 min

    Attachment Styles, Never Have I Ever & Absolute Chaos

    It's the season finale of Still Not Straight, and G is joining us on the couch for a conversation about love, relationships and the patterns we carry into both. Together, we unpack attachment styles, how they show up in dating and friendships, whether they complement or clash with certain personalities, and if it's actually possible to become more secure in the way we connect with others. Of course, because this is Still Not Straight, we couldn't end the season without a little chaos. Never Have I Ever and Two Truths and a Lie quickly reveal sides of each other we weren't expecting, proving that after an entire season together, there are still a few surprises left. Thank you for coming along for the ride this season. Here's to loving ourselves, understanding each other a little better, and never pretending we've got it all figured out. Keep up to date with the chaos:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/still.not.straight/?hl=enTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@still.not.straightMerch: https://tullylou.com/products/still-not-straight-baseball-cap

  • S3 · E7
    June 30 · 40 min

    Coming Out Later In Life | It's Never Too Late To Choose Yourself

    Michelle has been with Still Not Straight since the early days, and today she's sharing the story behind the comments section. A story of knowing. Of denying. Of trying to fit into a life that looked right from the outside but felt impossible to live from within. Because of cultural expectations and her own beliefs, Michelle married a man and followed the path she thought she was meant to take. But in her 40s, the weight of not living authentically became too heavy to carry. This conversation is honest, tender and deeply hopeful. It's about grief and freedom. Fear and courage. The cost of hiding and the joy of finally choosing yourself. Most importantly, it's a reminder that there is no timeline for truth. If you've ever wondered whether it's too late to change your life, this episode is for you. Keep up to date with the chaos:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/still.not.straight/?hl=enTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@still.not.straightMerch: https://tullylou.com/products/still-not-straight-baseball-cap

  • S3 · E6
    June 23 · 47 min

    What Makes A Good Friend? We Have Thoughts..

    Friendships can be some of the greatest love stories of our lives. This week, Tessa and Shan unpack what makes a truly great friend, the heartbreak of friendship breakups, navigating changing relationships, and what it was like telling the people closest to us that we were gay. It's a conversation about loyalty, growth, grief and finding your people... with just enough chaos to keep things interesting when Shan introduces a surprise game for Tessa that quickly sends the episode off the rails. Whether you've outgrown a friendship, found your chosen family, or are figuring out where you fit, this one's for you. Keep up to date with the chaos:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/still.not.straight/?hl=enTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@still.not.straightMerch: https://tullylou.com/products/still-not-straight-baseball-cap

  • S3 · E5
    June 16 · 54 min

    Who Would You Be If You Stopped Hiding? | Mitch Brown on Bisexuality, AFL & Freedom

    For years, Mitch Brown lived with a secret he wasn't ready to share. In this honest conversation, the former AFL player and the first openly bisexual man in professional Australian football talks about when he first knew, the fear and shame that kept him silent, and what happened when he finally chose authenticity over hiding. We unpack masculinity, sport, sexuality, and the pressure so many people feel to fit into the version of themselves the world expects. And, because this is Still Not Straight, Shan somehow manages to bring ass play into the conversation too. Whether you're queer, questioning, or simply tired of shrinking yourself to make other people comfortable, this episode is a reminder that the life waiting on the other side of fear might just be freedom. Join the SNS social club here.

  • S3 · E4
    June 9 · 44 min

    Urban Legends About Lesbians: True, Bullsh*t or Depends?

    LESBIAN URBAN LEGENDS: TRUE, BULLSH*T OR IT DEPENDS? From U-Haul culture and ex-girlfriends staying friends, to "who's the man in the relationship?" and whether lesbians somehow know every other lesbian on Earth, we're putting the biggest myths about lesbian life under the microscope.Some stereotypes exist for a reason.Some are wildly inaccurate.And some hit a little too close to home.This episode goes completely off the rails as Tessa and Shannen rate the internet's biggest lesbian urban legends and decide once and for all whether they're TRUE, BULLSH*T or... IT DEPENDS.Comment below: Which lesbian stereotype is actually true... and which one needs to die immediately?Keep up to date with the chaos:InstagramTikTokMerch

  • June 2 · 53 min

    “You’re Basically A Lesbian” Julia Vogl, Bisexuality, MAFS & The Conversations We’ve Been Avoiding

    Julia Vogl joins us for a vulnerable, funny and very honest conversation about bisexuality, reality TV, queer identity and the assumptions that still exist around being bi in 2026. From MAFS edits and public scrutiny to dating men, dating women, queer spaces, insecurity, labels, and the pressure to “pick a side” we unpack the conversations people usually avoid. We also get brutally honest about our own experiences, misconceptions we’ve had in the past, and what bisexual representation actually means. Whether you're queer, questioning, bisexual, lesbian, or just curious… this one’s for you. Join the chaos. Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/still.not.straight/?hl=enMerch: https://tullylou.com/products/still-not-straight-baseball-cap https://www.stillnotstraight.com.au/

  • S3 · E2
    May 26 · 54 min

    Expectations vs Reality: Things That SHOCKED Us About Dating Women

    Dating women comes with a few surprises no one really warns you about. In this episode, we unpack the expectations vs reality of dating women, the emotional awareness, the trauma, the jealousy, the communication, the things that shocked us, and the parts of lesbian relationships that aren't always talked about. From bad dates to relationship dynamics to the infamous Tessa & Riley Jacob Elordi situation… this one gets honest, chaotic, and very Still Not Straight. Keep up to date with the chaos:InstagramTikTokMerch

  • S3 · E1
    May 19 · 51 min

    Exes Came Back, The Universe Sent Signs… & The Lesbian Signs Were There…

    Still Not Straight is BACK for Season 3… and a LOT has happenedAfter a minute away, Tessa & Shannen are catching you up on life, chaos, questionable universe signs, exes making unexpected appearances (because… of course), and everything in between.But somehow this episode takes a turn into one of our favourite conversations yet:What were the signs you were gay… before you knew you were gay?The childhood clues. The “very straight” obsessions that absolutely were not straight. The friendships. The denial. The hindsight moments that now make way too much sense.If you've ever looked back at your life and thought “oh… THAT should’ve been my first clue” this one's for you.Let us know what’s your biggest “how did I not know I was gay?” sign in the comments. Keep up to date with the chaos:InstagramTikTokMerch

  • S2 · E8
    March 31 · 39 min

    Icks, Chaos & Questionable Advice

    The girls understood the assignment. This one is pure chaos, laughter, and a little bit of very honest advice. This week on Still Not Straight, we’re diving into: - The ultimate ICKS
 - Unsolicited advice no one asked for (but everyone needs) -
How to actually deal with a breakup without losing your mind -
How to become more irresistible (according to us, so take it with a grain of salt)
 We even manage to make Tessa blush, which honestly might be the biggest achievement of the season. It’s fun, it’s chaotic, and it’s a little bit rogue. Keep up to date with the chaos: ⁠@Still.Not.Straight ⁠ ⁠TikTok⁠ Still Not Straight merch - ⁠Online Store⁠

  • S2 · E7
    March 24 · 43 min

    Riley’s Back & We Took It Too Far

    The most requested guest is officially BACK, Riley is in the studio and yes… it’s just as chaotic as you’d expect. We catch up with the girls, dive into everything you’ve been dying to know, and finally ask the questions that have been sitting in your group chats. From updates, stories, and a few unexpected moments, this episode feels like one big catch-up, until we decide to take things up a notch. Because there’s one very specific way to make Tessa rage… and naturally, we had to test it. Let’s just say Riley was not a very willing participant but we did it and we may or may not have pushed things a little too far Keep up to date with the chaos: @Still.Not.Straight TikTok Still Not Straight merch - Online Store #StillNotStraight #RileyArmitage #LesbianPodcast #TessaAndShannen #QueerPodcast #WLWContent #FunnyLesbians #GuestEpisode #GayChaos #LesbianTalkShow #SapphicEnergy #UnhingedPodcast #LesbianBanter #LGBTQPodcast #PodcastGuests #tessaandriley #wlw

  • S2 · E6
    March 17 · 45 min

    Love Is Blind Reunion

    Well… that escalated quickly. What started as a chaotic blind date experiment somehow turned into something very real, because the date went so well that now she’s officially on the couch. Yes, you heard correctly, Shannen has a girlfriend. Ladies (and maybe gents)… it’s time to officially meet G. Tessa is obviously thrilled, slightly shocked, and already asking the questions everyone else is thinking. It’s cute, chaotic, and a little bit surreal but we’re here for it. Welcome to the next chapter of the Still Not Straight dating experiment… because apparently it worked. Keep up to date with the chaos: ⁠@Still.Not.Straight ⁠ ⁠TikTok⁠ Still Not Straight merch - ⁠Online Store⁠ #wlw #LesbianYouTubers #lesbianpodcast #QueerPodcast #datingshow #lesbiandatingshow #LesbianBanter

  • S2 · E5
    March 10 · 48 min

    We Were NOT Ready For Shan’s Mum

    This week’s episode of Still Not Straight is completely unhinged and honestly, we don’t think we’ve laughed this hard in an episode before. Ladies (and gents)… it’s finally time to meet the woman responsible for bringing Shannen into the world — her mum, Michelle. Michelle joins the girls in the studio and wastes absolutely no time sharing stories, memories, and the kind of mum insights that only a parent can deliver. Nothing is off limits and yes, Tessa is loving every second of it. Keep up to date with the chaos: ⁠@Still.Not.Straight ⁠ ⁠TikTok⁠ Still Not Straight merch - ⁠Online Store⁠ #StillNotStraight #ShannensMum #Michelle #LesbianPodcast #FamilyEpisode #QueerPodcast #FunnyLesbians #TessaAndShannen #WLWContent #GayChaos #LesbianTalkShow #FamilyStories #UnhingedEpisode #LGBTQPodcast #SapphicEnergy #podcast #comedy #funny #wlw

  • S2 · E4
    March 3 · 47 min

    The Infamous Aunty Shannika Is HERE

    You’ve heard the stories. You’ve seen the clips. And now… she’s finally in the studio. The one and only, slightly chaotic, wildly entertaining Aunty Shannika joins us on Still Not Straight, and yes, she absolutely understood the assignment. After popping off on Twitch and building her own little internet cult following, Shannika is bringing her wisdom, her hot takes, and her completely unfiltered Tessa stories to the show. Keep up to date with the chaos: ⁠@Still.Not.Straight ⁠ ⁠TikTok⁠ Still Not Straight merch - ⁠Online Store⁠ #StillNotStraight #AuntyShannika #TwitchCreator #LesbianPodcast #QueerPodcast #FamilyBanter #FunnyLesbians #TessaAndShannen #SapphicEnergy #GayChaos #LesbianTalkShow #LGBTQCreators #TwitchStreamer #wlw #storytime

  • S2 · E3
    February 24 · 38 min

    What Don’t We Agree On?!

    We’re back with another episode of Still Not Straight, and this one turns into a full-blown lesbian debate. What are the things Tessa and Shannen do not agree on?
Turns out… quite a lot. This week, we unpack:
 Being public vs keeping things private
 Emotional attraction vs physical attraction, what actually matters more?
 And the controversial one… why do some lesbians only date straight girls? It gets honest. It gets heated. It gets a little too real. But before we spiral completely, we can agree on one thing:
Tessa and the producers absolutely smashed the blind date episode. Credit where it’s due. This episode is playful, chaotic, and surprisingly deep, the kind of conversation that starts as banter and ends with you questioning your entire dating history. Keep up to date with the chaos: ⁠@Still.Not.Straight ⁠ ⁠TikTok⁠ Still Not Straight merch - ⁠Online Store⁠ #StillNotStraight #LesbianPodcast #LesbianDebate #TessaAndShannen #BlindDateEpisode #QueerPodcast #WLWContent #FunnyLesbians #SapphicEnergy #GayChaos #LesbianTalkShow #LGBTQPodcast #QueerComedy #LesbianBanter #UnfilteredLesbians

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