So This Is Love

Julia Gaitho

Welcome to So This is Love, a podcast about love, the loss of love, heartbreak and the meeting of self. We share stories on how the relationships we once had teach us about who we are and define who we become. And maybe through these stories, we can answer that age old question; is it better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all?

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S7 · E4
Thursday · 1 hr 13 min
Loise & Clark - S7 | E4
She used to run towards the wrong kind of fire, you know, the kind that burns fast and leaves you cold. Loise knew this pattern well. Handsome trouble, charming exits, a heart she kept handing to partners who kept dropping it. And sometimes, she did the same. Especially to the good ones. Then came a heartbreak that forced her to ask herself the harder question: not "why do they fail me," but "why do I keep choosing this?" Eventually, Clark, who was always in the background, steps into the foreground. Some love stories start with lightning. This one started with someone looking in and finally looking up. Please support this podcast via our mpesa till number 9095819.
August 13 · 1 hr 6 min
Eva & Captain - S7 | E3
A father-daughter relationship is one of the most important bonds a girl can have. It is often where she first learns her own worth. Eva didn't get that early on. She grew up the odd one out in her own home with a mother who saved her warmth for her two brothers and a stepfather who filled a space but never quite stepped into the role. Then, in walks Captain; calm, confident and even a little bit flashy. Here stood the father she did not know she had and one who, through gentle persistence, teaches Eva something she had never been taught: what it feels like to have someone in your corner. Please support this podcast via our mpesa till number 9095819.
S7 · E4
July 30 · 1 hr 52 min
Athens & London - S7 | E2
Athens and London found each other in that classic boy-meets-girl love story, one many of us wish for. Their connection was almost inevitable, unhurried and felt certain. They said "I do", ready to start their lives anew, eager and optimistic with their faith, love for one another and ambition steering the ship. What they didn't know yet was how one word would touch every part of their lives: endometriosis. It would move into their relationship without warning, rearrange the furniture, and stay. This is a story about a body that felt as though it was at war with itself, and how two people refused to let that war become their ending. Support this podcast via our mpesa till number 9095819. If you're looking for Endo support, check out a group on Facebook called ‘Nancy’s Nook Endometriosis Support Group’.
July 16 · 52 min
Candice & Henry - S7 | E1
( ( ( And we are back, baby!!! 📣 ) ) ) After years of talking to people on the other side of relationship breakdowns, this season, we’re doing something different. We are going in search of the ones who made it, those who are still together and continually choose each other. Relationships that have stood the test of time. Kicking things off, we have Candice, who met Henry at work while deep in her “sprinkle sprinkle” era; juggling multiple men in search of financial security. And then, in a twist of fate, we see her falling for someone who was actually all in for her, but this meant confronting habits that almost cost her everything. This is a story about how a young woman found her way to becoming a one-man woman and what’s kept her and Henry together since. Support this podcast via our mpesa till number
April 23 · 1 hr 55 min
Smurf & Bill - S6 | E10
Season 6 Finale! At 17, when Smurf meets Bill, she thinks she has found true love and a way out of poverty. Guided by a mother who should have protected her, Smurf is led down a path that forces her to make desperate decisions to survive. Years later, an unexpected connection shows Smurf something she has never truly felt before: love. But what happens when you finally discover your worth after building a whole life with the wrong person? And if leaving means risking everything, do you stay? Consider supporting this podcast via our mpesa till number 9095819 or PayPal ⁠⁠⁠sothisislovepodcastke@gmail.com⁠ If you or someone you know is affected by domestic or sexual violence, find support here:⁠ ⁠https://www.instagram.com/s/aGlnaGxpZ2h0OjE3ODUzNDUyODYyMzIwNDA3?igsh=eXkyNWRmZW1lenh5⁠
S6 · E8
April 9 · 1 hr 26 min
Wangari & Raymond - S6 | E9
Wangari & Raymond Wangari and Raymond met young. The kind of young where love feels like forever, and questions about marriage and children don’t feel premature. He was her first love, and for a long time, he felt like her safe place. But somewhere between growing up and getting closer, Wangari slowly started disappearing. What begins as a tender high school romance unfolds into a deeply layered coming-of-age story about love, guilt, power, and the quiet ways we lose ourselves trying to keep someone else. The voice in this narration has been altered. Consider supporting this podcast via our mpesa till number 9095819 or PayPal ⁠⁠⁠sothisislovepodcastke@gmail.com⁠ If you or someone you know is affected by domestic or sexual violence, find support here:⁠ ⁠https://www.instagram.com/s/aGlnaGxpZ2h0OjE3ODUzNDUyODYyMzIwNDA3?igsh=eXkyNWRmZW1lenh5⁠
March 26 · 2 hr 28 min
Biggie, Maria & then, Clara - S6 | E8
Biggie’s story is a journey through love, chaos, and self-discovery. From one relationship to the next, he finds himself caught between extremes, intensity and softness, control and freedom. But no matter where he goes or who he is with, something within him remains unsettled. What unfolds is not just a story about the women he loved, but about the parts of himself he kept running from. This is a story about how far someone can go in search of themselves, and what it really takes to come back. Consider supporting this podcast via our mpesa till number 9095819 or PayPal ⁠⁠⁠sothisislovepodcastke@gmail.com⁠ If you or someone you know is affected by domestic or sexual violence, find support here:⁠ ⁠https://www.instagram.com/s/aGlnaGxpZ2h0OjE3ODUzNDUyODYyMzIwNDA3?igsh=eXkyNWRmZW1len
S6 · E7
March 12 · 1 hr 35 min
Wanjiru & Bett - S6 | E7
In this episode, Wanjiru shares the deeply personal story of her relationship with Bett. This love unfolds not as a dramatic coming-of-age queer tale, but as something quieter and more profound: the journey of finding yourself through another person. What begins as an unexpected connection slowly evolves into a relationship that challenges assumptions about identity, belonging, and what love is supposed to look like. With honesty, humour, and tenderness, Wanjiru reflects on the moments that shaped their bond - the beautiful, the complicated, and the transformative. Consider supporting this podcast via our mpesa till number 9095819 or PayPal ⁠⁠sothisislovepodcastke@gmail.com If you or someone you know is affected by domestic or sexual violence, find support here: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/s/aGlnaGxpZ2h0OjE3ODUzNDUyODYyMzIwNDA3?igsh=eXkyNWRmZW1lenh5
S6 · E6
February 26 · 1 hr 16 min
Basma & Omaya - S6 | E6
This week on So This Is Love, Basma shares a story that will challenge what you think you know about Muslim girls and choice. Basma grew up in a home where love felt distant, and approval, especially from her mother, Omaya, felt earned. A strong-willed daughter with a voice of her own, she often found herself shut down instead of seen. As the pressures of marriage and conformity started to build, Basma learns how to stand her ground - how to survive. Today, we ask, is there a meeting point between your independent desires and the life society expects you to live? What does it really cost to live authentically? And when the pioneering spirit calls your name, is it right or reckless to obey? Consider supporting this podcast via our mpesa till number 9095819 or PayPal ⁠⁠sothisislovepodcastke@gmail.com If you or someone you know is affected by domestic or sexual violence, find support here: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/s/aGlnaGxpZ2h0OjE3ODUzNDUyODYyMzIwNDA3?igsh=eXkyNWRmZW1lenh5
S6 · E7
February 12 · 1 hr 11 min
Faraja & Nanga - S6 | E5
Faraja and Nanga is a deeply personal story about faith, love and the quiet courage it takes to choose your own path. Faraja grew up cherished by her father, Nanga, and was the apple of his eye. She was raised in what she remembers as a happy and stable home after her mother’s sudden absence. When her family later became Jehovah’s Witnesses, life shifted in subtle but significant ways. Faraja followed the rules without question until romance, curiosity, and a growing sense of self began to ask more of her. Support this podcast via our mpesa till number 9095819
S6 · E2
January 29 · 1 hr 11 min
Jerry & Liam - S6 | E4
We have a man in the house! In this powerful episode of So This Is Love, Jerry shares his journey through childhood trauma, abandonment, and growing up in violent and emotionally unsafe spaces. With honesty and grace, Jerry speaks about healing and finding purpose after years of pain. He also shares about his upcoming book, Of Pain and Grace. This is a rare and moving conversation about resilience, vulnerability, and learning to feel again. Consider supporting this podcast via our mpesa till number 9095819 or PayPal ⁠⁠sothisislovepodcastke@gmail.com
January 22 · 1 hr 27 min
Amari & Rose - S6 | E3
Today’s episode is about two sisters raised by survival. One stepped in where a mother fell away, the other learned to run instead of stay. Through Amari’s emotional recollection, we observe how, through her eyes, love becomes duty, sacrifice becomes expectation, and resentment quietly takes root. This is a story about sisterhood, choice, and the kind of wounds that time alone doesn’t heal. Consider supporting this podcast via our mpesa till number 9095819 or PayPal ⁠⁠sothisislovepodcastke@gmail.com
Dec 18, 2025 · 1 hr 14 min
Peaches & Paul - S6 | E2
Consider supporting this podcast via our mpesa till number 9095819 or PayPal ⁠⁠sothisislovepodcastke@gmail.com If you or someone you know is affected by domestic or sexual violence, find support here: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/s/aGlnaGxpZ2h0OjE3ODUzNDUyODYyMzIwNDA3?igsh=eXkyNWRmZW1lenh5
Dec 4, 2025 · 1 hr 10 min
Makena & David - S6 | E1
Welcome to Season 6 In this episode, Makena looks back at a marriage she rushed into at a very vulnerable time in her life. What seemed right on paper quickly revealed bigger differences in values, expectations, and the reasons they both chose each other. As real life set in, so did the quiet tensions that slowly reshaped their relationship. This episode is an honest conversation about escaping, awakening, and the moment you realise love isn’t enough to hold two very different worlds together. Consider supporting this podcast via our mpesa till number 9095819 or PayPal ⁠⁠sothisislovepodcastke@gmail.com If you or someone you know is affected by domestic or sexual violence, find support here: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/s/aGlnaGxpZ2h0OjE3ODUzNDUyODYyMzIwNDA3?igsh=eXkyNWRmZW1lenh5
Oct 31, 2025 · 1 hr 50 min
Gathoni (Louisa) & Kevo - *Bonus Episode*
In this episode, we meet Gathoni (her real name, but going as Louisa in this episode), once full of promise, now caught in the quiet unravelling of a love that previously felt like home. As success shifts the balance of her marriage, admiration turns to control, and affection to fear. This is the story of a woman learning to recognize her worth again, a journey through naivety, power and the courage it takes to finally choose herself. Consider supporting this podcast via our mpesa till number 9095819 or PayPal ⁠⁠sothisislovepodcastke@gmail.com If you or someone you know is affected by domestic or sexual violence, find support here: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/s/aGlnaGxpZ2h0OjE3ODUzNDUyODYyMzIwNDA3?igsh=eXkyNWRmZW1lenh5
S5 · E10
Oct 9, 2025 · 1 hr 49 min
Valerie & Mama T - S5 | E10
Valerie’s mother grew up carrying the weight of a broken and unstable childhood, a stolen innocence and wounds that never found rest. In her longing to be loved, she searched for it in all the wrong places, leaving traces of that ache in her daughter’s life. In trying to outrun her mother’s story, Valerie found herself caught in its reflection, until grace met her where pain once lived. A story of inherited hurt, healing, and the unexpected beauty of redemption. Consider supporting this podcast via our mpesa till number 9095819 or PayPal ⁠⁠⁠sothisislovepodcastke@gmail.com⁠⁠⁠ If you or someone you know is affected by domestic or sexual violence, find support here: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/s/aGlnaGxpZ2h0OjE3ODUzNDUyODYyMzIwNDA3?igsh=eXkyNWRmZW1lenh5
Sep 25, 2025 · 1 hr 16 min
Wendo & Mwezi - S5 | E9
In today’s episode, a young, headstrong, and rooted-in-faith Wendo steps into what she believes is the relationship she has been praying for: a love grounded in her beliefs, intentionality, and shared Christian values. What begins as romance slowly unravels into a story of control and manipulation, where religion becomes a weapon and obedience is demanded at any cost. As Wendo struggles to hold on to her faith and identity, she finds herself isolated from friends, family, and her sense of self. Consider supporting this podcast via our mpesa till number 9095819 or PayPal ⁠⁠⁠sothisislovepodcastke@gmail.com⁠⁠⁠ If you or someone you know is affected by domestic or sexual violence, find support here: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/s/aGlnaGxpZ2h0OjE3ODUzNDUyODYyMzIwNDA3?igsh=eXkyNWRmZW1lenh5
Sep 11, 2025 · 1 hr 18 min
Sylvia & Peter - S5 | E8
A word from our sponsors Eyaly Skin: On So This Is Love, we always come back to self-love & self-care and for me, that now means investing in my skin. I’m starting a glow journey with Eyaly Skin, trying out treatments like HIFU, RF microneedling & wellness IV drips - so can you! Find them at Alta Towers, 3rd floor or call 0710203565 to book your consultation. I’ll be sharing the whole process on IG @jules_her tag along! Consider supporting this podcast via our mpesa till number 9095819 or PayPal ⁠⁠⁠sothisislovepodcastke@gmail.com⁠⁠⁠ If you or someone you know is affected by domestic or sexual violence, find support here: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/s/aGlnaGxpZ2h0OjE3ODUzNDUyODYyMzIwNDA3?igsh=eXkyNWRmZW1lenh5⁠
Aug 21, 2025 · 1 hr 44 min
Anne, Meg & Jez - S5 | E7
A word from our sponsors Eyaly Skin On So This Is Love, we always come back to self-love & self-care and for me, that now means investing in my skin. I’m starting a glow journey with Eyaly, trying out treatments like HIFU, RF microneedling & wellness IV drips - so can you! Find them at Alta Towers, 3rd floor or call 0710203565 to book your consultation. I’ll be sharing the whole process on IG @jules_her tag along! Tuwok Whether you're a consultant, entrepreneur, or just tired of pretending your dining table is an office (where is the lie?) TuWork offers flexible packages, beautiful garden spaces, private offices, communal workspaces, meeting rooms, and even a terrace bar! Try a day pass for only two thousand shillings by using my code tuworklove20 for a 20% discount. Call them on 0794 586 988 or email info@tuwork.co.ke. Website: https://tuwork.co.ke/ Consider supporting this podcast via our mpesa till number 9095819 or PayPal ⁠⁠⁠sothisislovepodcastke@gmail.com⁠⁠⁠ If you or someone you know is affected by domestic or sexual violence, find support here: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/s/aGlnaGxpZ2h0OjE3ODUzNDUyODYyMzIwNDA3?igsh=eXkyNWRmZW1lenh5⁠
Aug 7, 2025 · 1 hr 26 min
Olivia & Ethan - S5 | E6
Our sponsor for this episode is Tuwork. Whether you're a consultant, entrepreneur, or just tired of pretending your dining table is an office (where is the lie?) TuWork offers flexible packages, beautiful garden spaces, private offices, communal workspaces, meeting rooms, and even a terrace bar! Try a day pass for only two thousand shillings by using my code tuworklove20 for a 20% discount. Call them on 0794 586 988 or email info@tuwork.co.ke. Website: https://tuwork.co.ke/ Consider supporting this podcast via our mpesa till number 9095819 or PayPal ⁠⁠⁠sothisislovepodcastke@gmail.com⁠⁠⁠ If you or someone you know is affected by domestic or sexual violence, find support here: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/s/aGlnaGxpZ2h0OjE3ODUzNDUyODYyMzIwNDA3?igsh=eXkyNWRmZW1lenh5⁠

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