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Shamelessly Ambitious I Helping Ambitious Women Prevent Burnout + Create Nervous System First Success in Business, Motherhood, & Life · April 7 · 22 min

185. The Control Pattern Driving Your High-Functioning Burnout

Control is a belief your nervous system learned a long time ago… the belief that if you stay on top of everything, nothing bad will happen. The problem is that belief doesn’t know when to stop. And the cost of running it every single day is higher than most high-achieving women realize. TOPICS WE EXPLORE: What control actually is (and why it’s a nervous system pattern) Where the need to control comes from How control shows up in business How control shows up at home Why your nervous system is exhausted The one question that interrupts the control spiral How to train your brain toward safety Ash reads from her personal writing on vitiligo, control, and the thing she still hasn’t figured out how to stop trying to fix THE POINT: Every time you hand something off and it works out, every time you take a day off and your business is still there, every time you don’t pivot and the thing you were doing actually holds… you’re teaching your nervous system what’s true. That’s the work. MENTIONED: Episode 179 — Decision Fatigue Is the New Burnout (the middle school / false emergency story Ash references) Are you loving it? Send Ash a text! MORE ABOUT ASH I'm Ash McDonald — the Entrepreneur's Therapist. Trained therapist, seasoned entrepreneur, mom of 3, && the person you call when your business coach doesn't get your brain && your therapist doesn't get your business. I built the thing I couldn't find anywhere else: whole-picture support that holds your strategy && your humanity in the same conversation at the same time. LINKS: Work with me 1:1 → Deep Cuts Fast-track your results → The Green Room Solve one thing right now → Studio Sessions Burnout-proof your life && business → Mixtape Get your free podcast playlists → The Soundcheck Weekly emails that tell you what your business coach won't && your therapist can't → Subscribe to The Beat Website: ashmcdonaldmentoring.com

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Control is a belief your nervous system learned a long time ago… the belief that if you stay on top of everything, nothing bad will happen.

The problem is that belief doesn’t know when to stop. And the cost of running it every single day is higher than most high-achieving women realize.

TOPICS WE EXPLORE:

  • What control actually is (and why it’s a nervous system pattern)
  • Where the need to control comes from
  • How control shows up in business
  • How control shows up at home
  • Why your nervous system is exhausted
  • The one question that interrupts the control spiral
  • How to train your brain toward safety
  • Ash reads from her personal writing on vitiligo, control, and the thing she still hasn’t figured out how to stop trying to fix

THE POINT:

Every time you hand something off and it works out, every time you take a day off and your business is still there, every time you don’t pivot and the thing you were doing actually holds… you’re teaching your nervous system what’s true. That’s the work. 

MENTIONED:

  • Episode 179 — Decision Fatigue Is the New Burnout (the middle school / false emergency story Ash references)

Are you loving it? Send Ash a text!

MORE ABOUT ASH

I'm Ash McDonald — the Entrepreneur's Therapist. Trained therapist, seasoned entrepreneur, mom of 3, && the person you call when your business coach doesn't get your brain && your therapist doesn't get your business.

I built the thing I couldn't find anywhere else: whole-picture support that holds your strategy && your humanity in the same conversation at the same time. 

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