Pillow Talks

Vanessa & Xander Marin

Meet Vanessa and Xander Marin, your new BFF couple friends! She’s a sex therapist with 20 years of experience and he’s a regular dude. Together they’re the shockingly open, slightly nerdy, and seriously funny couple you want to grab sushi with. They share the ups and downs in their relationship while giving you step-by-step techniques for improving yours. Subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally do-able sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors, and so much more. It’s the sex education you WISH you’d had!

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Jul 29, 2021 · 46 min
Episode 10: Communication Breakdowns: We Coach Real Couples Through Their Worst Fights So You Can Get Better At Yours
Good communication is really hard. We'll be the first to admit that in the heat of the moment it can be really tough to validate your partner's experience, use clear and empathic language, and also ask for your needs to be met. We make a...
Jul 22, 2021 · 53 min
Episode 9: How Often Is Everyone REALLY Having Sex? And What's Healthy For Your Relationship?
Everyone wants to know what the magic amount of sex is to keep their relationship healthy. So many of us think that if we hit a certain quota, it means out relationship is successful. So we decided to do a little experiment to see what the sex...
Jul 15, 2021 · 1 hr
Episode 8: Has Purity Culture Harmed Your Sex Life? How To Overcome Religious Shame
Did you grow up in Purity Culture? Purity Culture teaches that it's important to wait until marriage to have sex, because people who wait are more pure, wholesome, and desirable. It also has a lot to say about dressing modestly...
Jul 8, 2021 · 1 hr 3 min
Episode 7: What Makes a Great Kiss? And What to Do if You Don’t Like the Way Your Partner Kisses
When was the last time you had a truly amazing kiss? The sad reality is that most couples just don't really kiss anymore! A lot of us, if we're really honest with ourselves, feel a little insecure about our kissing technique. And if we're even more...
Jul 1, 2021 · 56 min
Episode 6: This Is Why Your partner Won't Work On Your Relationship With You - And How To Finally Get Them To!
Do you think that relationships should be effortless? Or that having to work on your relationship means there's something wrong? Or does your partner think these things? A lot of people think that they should only need to put effort into...
Jun 24, 2021 · 51 min
Episode 5: How to “Let Go” During Sex
What’s keeping you from letting go in the bedroom? People we polled said that body image, kids, and to-do lists all contributed to having a difficult time staying present during sex. People tend to feel that “letting go” is the...
Jun 17, 2021 · 1 hr 8 min
Episode 4: Mental Load: What It Is and How to Stop It from Destroying Your Relationship
Do you secretly keep score of who does what in your relationship? Do you feel like your partner gets to be carefree and happy while you’re stressed out trying to hold it all together? In today's episode, we talk about one of the...
Jun 10, 2021 · 43 min
Episode 3: Should Sex Happen Naturally?
Should sex happen naturally? This is one of the most common questions we get asked, and it can cause some serious tension in relationships. You may want to work on improving your sex life or making changes, but your partner refuses because they think...
Jun 10, 2021 · 54 min
Episode 2: Can You Actually Solve Problems In Your Relationship?
Has this phrase ever been uttered in your home: “We’ve talked about this a million times before”? So many of the arguments we get into with our partners are different versions of the same argument we've already had. And it can feel...
Jun 10, 2021 · 38 min
Episode 1: The Secret To Hot Sex? Talking About It!
How comfortable are you talking about sex with your partner? If you’re like most people, your face is already bright red! You need to be able to talk about sex if you want to have an extraordinary sex life. So to kick off the Pillow...
May 25, 2021 · 3 min
Welcome to the Pillow Talks Podcast with Vanessa + Xander
Meet Vanessa and Xander Marin, your new BFF couple friends! She’s a sex therapist with 20 years of experience and he’s a regular dude. Together they’re the shockingly open, slightly nerdy, and seriously funny couple you want to grab sushi with....

Pillow Talks

Episode 10: Communication Breakdowns: We Coach Real Couples Through Their Worst Fights So You Can Get Better At Yours

Episode 9: How Often Is Everyone REALLY Having Sex? And What's Healthy For Your Relationship?

Episode 8: Has Purity Culture Harmed Your Sex Life? How To Overcome Religious Shame

Episode 7: What Makes a Great Kiss? And What to Do if You Don’t Like the Way Your Partner Kisses

Episode 6: This Is Why Your partner Won't Work On Your Relationship With You - And How To Finally Get Them To!

Episode 5: How to “Let Go” During Sex

Episode 4: Mental Load: What It Is and How to Stop It from Destroying Your Relationship

Episode 3: Should Sex Happen Naturally?

Episode 2: Can You Actually Solve Problems In Your Relationship?

Episode 1: The Secret To Hot Sex? Talking About It!

Welcome to the Pillow Talks Podcast with Vanessa + Xander