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Parenting with Impact

Elaine Taylor-Klaus and Diane Dempster

The Parenting with Impact Podcast with Elaine Taylor-Klaus and Diane Dempster, co-creators of ImpactParents.com, inspires parents and professionals guiding complex kids, teens and young adults all over the world to become capable, independent adults. ImpactParents.com is an online community, award-winning blog, and direct service provider for parents and professionals. Elaine and Diane are certified professional coaches with their own lived experience raising children with complex challenges such as ADHD, anxiety, depression, learning disabilities, gender identity issues, and more. Drawing from both personal and professional experience, they teach and inspire parents and professionals to raise and empower complex kids with confidence and calm. Scroll down for links and to download a free parenting guide. The Parenting with Impact Podcast will:Feature leading experts, bringing you cutting edge information to address your child’s challengesTeach you real-life, practical strategies for creating lasting changeDemonstrate how a coach-approach can improve all of your communications, one conversation at a time For the essentials of ImpactParent's coach-approach to parenting, download a free parenting guide at: ImpactParents.com/Podcast Find out about Sanity School®, a program for Parents, at: https://impactparents.com/programs-offerings/parent-training-sanity-school/ For information about professional continuing education: https://impactparents.com/for-professionals/ Visit Impact Parents at: https://impactparents.com/

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#291
Wednesday · 30 min
EP291 Is Attention Really the Problem? What ADHD Research Shows
What if attention isn't actually the biggest challenge in the ADHD brain? Cognitive psychologist and ADHD mom Dr. Amy Moore joins Diane Dempster to share research on more than 5,000 children and adults with ADHD and discuss why working memory, long-term memory, and processing speed matter more than we think. Diane and Amy dig into the idea of connection before compliance and discuss how parenting a neurodivergent child starts with you—and how to repair when your words land wrong. You'll walk away with simple, real-life ways to strengthen connection with your kid every day, no matter their age. Listen now, then follow or subscribe so you never miss a conversation. What to expect in this episode: Attention is not the weakest skill with ADHD; Dr. Amy Moore's research found working memory, long-term memory, and processing speed were more affected. Putting connection before compliance helps parents build the relationship and resilience their kids with ADHD need to succeed. Parenting a neurodivergent child starts with the parent's own regulation, including restorative sleep, nutrition, and resilience. Openly naming your own struggles, like a bad night's sleep or stress from work, models self-awareness and helps kids connect actions to family values. Every word either strengthens or weakens connection, and repairing well after a misstep is a skill families can practice together. About Dr. Amy Moore Dr. Amy Moore is a self-proclaimed quirky and klutzy cognitive psychologist, clinical researcher, Christian counselor, and parent educator who's spent her career untangling how brains learn, focus, and grow. She specializes in translating the science into real talk for real families. She hosts The Brainy Moms podcast and the Hearts On ADHD YouTube show and is the author of Hearts On ADHD: Brain-Based, Grace-Filled Strategies for Raising Kids with Big Emotions and Challenging Behaviors, where she brings equal parts research and heart to the chaos of raising neurodivergent kids. Connect with Impact Parents: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/impactparents Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ImpactParents LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/impactparents Connect with Dr. Rebecca Resnik: www.amymoorephd.com www.thebrainymoms.com www.amymoorephd.com/media www.instagram.com/heartsonadhd www.instagram.com/thebrainymoms
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#290
October 28 · 29 min
EP290 Executive Function in Neurodivergent Kids: What’s Going On
Ever feel like your kid’s meltdowns come out of nowhere? Or wonder what’s going on when they don’t seem to hear what you say? Neuropsychologist Dr. Rebecca Resnik joins Elaine to explain how executive function works in neurodivergent kids: why frustration is a “late-stage” signal, why “put your tablet away” doesn’t land the first (or fifth) time, and what a neuropsych evaluation can actually tell you. You’ll come away seeing and understanding your child’s behavior differently. Hit play, then share it with a parent who needs to hear it. What to expect in this episode: Executive function is the brain’s system for reaching goals, and neurodivergent kids often have very different profiles even when they share a diagnosis. Emotional functioning is the “rudder” for executive function: when kids feel stressed or unsafe, their attention, memory and planning all suffer. Low frustration tolerance is usually a late-stage signal of overwhelm or an environment that doesn’t fit, not a character flaw. Behavior that seems to come “out of nowhere” has usually been building for much longer, especially in kids who mask. A neuropsych evaluation can replace the “bad kid” story with real understanding and give parents what they need to advocate. About Dr. Rebecca Resnik Dr. Rebecca Resnik practices neuropsychology at her group practice, Rebecca Resnik and Associates. Dr. Resnik serves on the American Psychological Association's Board of the Association for Clinical Neuropsychology and the Clinical Psychology's Assessment Board of Directors. She served as President of the Maryland Psychological Association and was a board member for eleven years. Dr. Resnik regularly speaks at national events and offers continuing education and professional development for clincians and educators. Connect with Impact Parents: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/impactparents Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ImpactParents LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/impactparents Connect with Dr. Rebecca Resnik: Website: www.resnikpsychology.com Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/cultivating-excellence-podcast/id1796003751 Facebook: facebook.com/resnikpsychology Instagram: instagram.com/rebeccaresnikandassoc LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/rebecca-resnik-740a9b4
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#289
October 21 · 27 min
EP289 Leadership Skills That Transfer to Parenting
Something's going on with your kid. Maybe you have a diagnosis, maybe you don't, but it feels like someone should be able to help you make it all easier. In this episode of Parenting with Impact, Elaine and Diane look back at what they wish they'd known when they started parenting their own neurodivergent kids: how it’s a long game, how you'll end up as the expert in your child, and why it’s so important for relationship to come first. If you're at the start of your ADHD parenting journey (or wish you could start over), hit play—then pass it along to a parent who needs it. What to expect in this episode: You’ll learn why so many capable professionals feel competent at work but uncertain at home, and why that gap is understandable. Elaine and Diane explain how familiar workplace leadership skills, like empowering team members, building trust, and giving people agency, can transfer directly to parenting complex kids. You’ll hear why “onboarding your kids to adulthood” from ages 18 to 25 takes the pressure off getting everything right today. Elaine names asking for and accepting help as the single most important life skill for kids and adults, and shares how parents can start modeling it now. The episode closes with a practical mindset shift: parent from inspiration instead of desperation, and lean into hope. Download free guide: Top 12 Tips To Help Your Complex Kids Connect with Impact Parents: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/impactparents Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ImpactParents LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/impactparents
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#288
October 14 · 32 min
EP288 Childhood Trauma Affects Your Parenting: How to Break the Cycle, with Dr. Robyn Koslowitz
Ever know exactly what you’re supposed to say to your kid, and then it just doesn’t come out? Clinical child psychologist Dr. Robyn Koslowitz, author of Post-Traumatic Parenting, joins Elaine to talk about how trauma shapes the way we react as parents, and how to break the cycle. You’ll learn why yelling, freezing, and checking out don’t make you a bad parent, they’re just reactions your brain learned. And it can learn something new. If you’ve ever wanted to change how you handle tough moments, this one’s for you. Listen, then share it with another parent who needs to hear it. What to expect in this episode: You’ll learn why we as parents react in ways we don’t intend, and how those reactions are coping strategies trauma taught the brain, not personal failures. Dr. Robyn Koslowitz explains her “trauma app” framework and how parents can reprogram learned responses like yelling, freezing or dissociating. You’ll hear why acknowledging “I can’t because of my trauma” is step one, and how accommodations, new skills or support from another adult can be step two. Elaine and Dr. Koslowitz explore the overlap between neurodiversity and psychodiversity, including Elaine’s own experience as a parent with undiagnosed ADHD. You’ll come away with the acknowledgement that parenting a neurodivergent child can be traumatic in its own right, and that this doesn’t mean you love your child any less. Connect with Impact Parents: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/impactparents Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ImpactParents LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/impactparents
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#287
October 7 · 29 min
EP287 After the Diagnosis: Raising a Neurodivergent Child
When your child gets a diagnosis, the next question for most parents comes fast: now what? Author, professor, and adoptive mom Nefertiti Austin joins Elaine Taylor-Klaus to talk about raising her spirited, neurodivergent daughter. They cover the "pinball of parenting," the expectations that didn't work out, and the moment she stopped trying to squeeze her kid into a box she'd never fit and started encouraging the person she was. They also get honest about adoptive parenting and what happens at school when race is added to neurodivergence. If you're wondering what comes after diagnosis—or if diagnosis wasn’t the fix you’d hoped it would be—this one's for you. What to expect in this episode: A diagnosis is a starting point, not an endpoint. The real work begins with the question "now what?" Therapies and tools can help, but expecting them to change everything in a few months sets everyone up for failure. at your child's pace, and asking them directly "is this working for you?" builds progress that lasts. When adults insist a child fit into a box they'll never fit, both parent and child get hurt. Trusting your instincts and following your child's lead can change everything. Kids of colour with brain differences are often labeled negatively before anyone considers an assessment, so parents and educators need to give every child the benefit of the doubt. About Nefertiti Austin Nefertiti Austin is an adjunct professor of History and African American Studies, a speaker, and the author of two books exploring race, motherhood, and neurodiversity. Her newest book, She's Just Spirited, offers a lens into parenting a neurodiverse girl — navigating schools, therapists, and the emotional terrain of raising a child whose spirit is worth protecting at every turn. Connect with Impact Parents: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/impactparents Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ImpactParents LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/impactparents
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#286
September 30 · 30 min
EP286 New ADHD Diagnosis? What We Wish We'd Known Sooner
Something's going on with your kid. Maybe you have a diagnosis, maybe you don't, but it feels like someone should be able to help you make it all easier. In this episode of Parenting with Impact, Elaine and Diane look back at what they wish they'd known when they started parenting their own neurodivergent kids: how it’s a long game, how you'll end up as the expert in your child, and why it’s so important for relationship to come first. If you're at the start of your ADHD parenting journey (or wish you could start over), hit play—then pass it along to a parent who needs it. What to expect in this episode: You'll learn why an ADHD diagnosis is the start of a long-term journey, and why setting that expectation early reduces overwhelm. You'll hear why parents have to become the expert in their own child, and how that helps you educate and advocate with schools and providers. You'll see why how you show up (calm or escalating) shapes your child's experience more than any single strategy. You'll get a practical approach to deciding whether and how to tell your child about their diagnosis. You'll learn why kids thrive when parents believe they're going to be okay, and why the relationship is the foundation of everything else. Download free guide: Top 12 Tips To Help Your Complex Kids Connect with Impact Parents: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/impactparents Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ImpactParents LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/impactparents
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#285
September 23 · 26 min
EP285 Parenting a Young Adult With ADHD: A Real Success Story
When it comes to parenting a complex kid, the change you've been working towards often shows up over years, not overnight. In this week’s episode, Elaine and Diane sit down with longtime ImpactParents member Andrea Osborne for a success story about parenting her ADHD daughter from the diagnosis she received after middle school through her big leap into college. Andrea gets real about letting go, grieving the kid she thought she'd have, and learning to lead with acknowledgment instead of correction. If you've ever wondered how things can feel like a mess and like you’re making real progress at the same time, this one's for you. Give it a listen. What to expect in this episode: Andrea Osborne shares how her ADHD diagnosis journey with her daughter began after a difficult middle school experience and evolved through high school, the pandemic, and the transition to college. Listeners will hear a practical reframe for staying connected to a young adult child: giving them room to lead while remaining close enough to offer support when it's needed. The episode offers a clear example of leading with acknowledgment before correction, and why that shift changes the tone of a parent-child relationship. Andrea describes the process of grieving the child she expected in order to make room to fully embrace the child she has, a theme she and the hosts return to throughout the conversation. The conversation shows how caregiving for a parent with dementia and parenting a child with ADHD can draw on the same coaching tools and the same core skill: letting go of what you can't control. Download free guide: Top 12 Tips To Help Your Complex Kids Connect with ImpactParents: Instagram Facebook LinkedIn Substack
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#284
September 16 · 31 min
EP284 Why Neuroinformed Workplaces Keep Their Best People
Ever notice your team runs smoother than your household, or vice versa? Elaine sits down with her husband and colleague David Taylor Klaus (DTK Coaching) to unpack how parenting and leadership draw on the same skills and why understanding neurodiversity at work isn't just kind — it's good business. They dig into masking, quiet quitting, retention, and why "all boats rise" when workplaces are designed for how brains actually work. If you've ever wondered how the coach-approach you use at home could change your team at work, this one's for you. Listen now, and find out how to bring a neuroinformed approach to your workplace. What to expect in this episode: How neurodiversity shows up the same way at home, at work, at school, and in clinics — and why that matters for parents How masking damages people emotionally and physically, and what "quiet leaving" looks like in practice Why onboarding is one of the most underused tools for supporting neurodivergent employees and family members alike The idea that designing for neurodivergence benefits everyone — "all boats rise" How the same communication and trust-building skills that work at home can transform a team, and vice versa About David Taylor-Klaus is a Master Certified Coach, speaker, and author on a mission to unearth and unleash the personal mastery of entrepreneurs and senior executives. Since 2008, DTK has empowered his tribe to take an active, intentional, and dynamic role in their development and create the kind of life rhythm that enables them to build profitable businesses, raise thriving families, and live wildly fulfilling lives. His best-selling new book “Mindset Mondays with DTK: 52 Ways to REWIRE Your Thinking and Transform Your Life" is available on Amazon. Connect with Impact Parents: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/impactparents Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ImpactParents LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/impactparents
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#283
September 9 · 26 min
EP 283 Why It Takes 17 Years for Research to Reach Your Kid's Doctor
Ever leave a doctor or therapist appointment thinking, "They were smart and kind — and still had no idea what to do to help my kid"? Elaine Taylor-Klaus and Diane Dempster explain why that happens: it takes an average of 17 years for research to make it into everyday practice, and many professionals working with neurodivergent kids simply haven't received the training yet. In this episode, they unpack the shift from a "diagnose and treat" model to an "identify and support" approach, and introduce the NeuroInformed Institute — a new training pathway for parents and professionals alike. Tune in for a clear-eyed look at why you're often ahead of the curve, and what you can do with that. What to expect in this episode: Why an average 17-year research-to-practice gap can leave parents feeling unsupported by professionals How the diagnostic understanding of ADHD and autism has evolved — and where it still falls short The shift from "diagnose and treat" to "identify and support" Why coaches and parents are often ahead of clinical training What the NeuroInformed Institute offers professionals and parents Download free guide: Top 12 Tips To Help Your Complex Kids Connect with ImpactParents: Instagram Facebook LinkedIn Substack
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#282
September 2 · 26 min
EP282 How to Reconnect With a Disconnected Kid (Part 3)
Reconnecting with a kid who's pulled away doesn't have to happen all at once. Elaine and Diane wrap their three-part series on relationship repair by focusing on small, doable steps — texts that don't ask for a reply, sharing popcorn on the couch, asking permission before offering advice. They talk about why their sense of safety (not your good intentions) is what determines whether your kid lets you back in, and how the phrase "up until now" can free you from the guilt spiral so you can actually get started. If you're rebuilding trust with your neurodivergent kid, this series is your roadmap. Catch up on parts one and two if you haven't yet, and let us know: what's one small reconnection move you're going to try this week? What to expect in this episode: Why small, everyday gestures — not big talks — are the best starting point for reconnecting with a disconnected kid The "up until now" reframe and how it helps parents let go of guilt and blame so they can move forward Why their feeling of safety, not your good intentions, determines whether your kid lets you back in How asking permission before offering advice restores a kid's sense of agency The four phases of parenting (director, collaborator, supporter, champion) and why so many parents get stuck in director mode Download free guide: Top 12 Tips To Help Your Complex Kids Connect with ImpactParents: Instagram Facebook LinkedIn Substack
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#281
August 26 · 23 min
EP281 When Your Teen Pulls Away: Rebuilding Trust After Conflict
Does it feel like your kid is pulling away? Always closing their door, avoiding you, or talking to you only when they have to? For neurodiverse families, this shift often comes from normal development colliding with an already taxed parent-child relationship. In this episode, Elaine and Diane dig into where that disconnect happens and what actually works to rebuild trust and connection with your kid. They unpack the shift from "I'm afraid for you" to "I believe in you," and why that one mindset change can transform your dynamic. If you've been feeling shut out, this is your on-ramp back in. What to expect in this episode: Why a teenager pulling away and closing their door is often a normal part of development, not necessarily a red flag How the parent's role as "director" can create a second layer of disconnection on top of natural individuation A reframe of "trust" as a felt sense of safety and comfort, not just honesty or truth-telling A practical mindset shift — "I believe in you" instead of "I'm afraid for you" — and why it changes how our kids experience us Why creating space for an uncertain (but very possible) positive future can help you calm enough to make reconnection possible Download free guide: Top 12 Tips To Help Your Complex Kids Connect with ImpactParents: Instagram Facebook LinkedIn Substack
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#280
August 19 · 22 min
EP280 SODA: The Four Ways Parents Get Reactive (And How to Recognize Them)
Ever feel like you're spiraling? If it seems like nothing you try is working and you're somehow driving your kid further away, you're not alone—and it's not just about your kid. In this episode, Elaine and Diane dig into the parent experience—the overwhelm, frustration, guilt, and worry that show up when we're raising complex kids, and why noticing our own reactivity (hello, SODA: shut down, offense, defense, avoid) is the first step to showing up differently. If you've ever wondered why you react the way you do, this one's for you. Hit play. What to expect in this episode: Why the parent experience—not the kid's—is often the missing piec An introduction to SODA: the four common reactive patterns (Shut down, Offense, Defense, Avoid) and how to spot yours The difference between being "aware," "alert," and "alarmed,” and why many parents live in alert without realizing it Why uncertainty, even more than the actual problem, is often what makes parents feel unsafe A reminder that feeling alone in this struggle is a signal worth paying attention to, not a truth about your situation Download free guide: Top 12 Tips To Help Your Complex Kids Connect with ImpactParents: Instagram Facebook LinkedIn Substack
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#279
August 12 · 32 min
EP279 Why Won't My ADHD Kid Just Start? A New Theory of Motivation
Ever look at your ADHD kid and think, "I know they want to do well — so why can't they just get started?" This week, cognitive engineer and ADHD coach Jeff Copper joins Elaine to break down a completely new way of understanding motivation and executive function. You'll learn why "unmotivated" is almost always the wrong word, why extra time isn't the accommodation you think it is, and why talking things through with your kid might be one of the most powerful tools you have. This one's dense — you may want to listen twice. Tap in for a total shift in how you see effort, motivation, and what your ADHD kid is actually up against. What to expect in this episode: A new way to understand ADHD motivation using Dr. Russell Barkley's two-brain model Why calling executive function an "impairment" can actually reduce shame, not increase it Why rewards and willpower fall short as long-term motivation strategies Why extra time isn't the relief parents assume it is Why talking things through with your kid is a real, research-backed accommodation About Jeff Copper Jeff Copper is a cognitive engineer and ADHD coach. He is founder of DIG Coaching Practice, Attention Talk Radio, and Attention Talk Video. He holds professional designations from ICF and PAAC and certifications from ADD Coach Academy and Coaches Training Institute. A member of ADDA, CHADD, ACO, PAAC, and ICF, Jeff developed Cognitive Ergonomics From the Inside Out®, a radical departure from the current ADHD intervention paradigm. In recognition of his contributions, he received the ACO's 2022 Professional Excellence Award. Jeff continues to innovate in attention coaching, helping individuals understand and manage their ADHD challenges. Connect with Jeff Facebook (optional): https://www.facebook.com/adultaddcoach X Handle (optional) https://twitter.com/digcoaching Linkedin (optional) https://www.linkedin.com/in/jeff-copper Instagram (optional) https://instagram.com/dig.coaching Connect with Impact Parents: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/impactparents Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ImpactParents LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/impactparents
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#278
August 5 · 38 min
EP278 High-Conflict Divorce to Co-Parenting Peace: A Real Success Story
High-conflict divorce can feel like a life sentence — especially when you're fighting over your child's health and well-being, and neither parent will budge. In this episode, Elaine sits down with Alanah, an attorney and civil rights advocate, who shares how she transformed a near-litigation co-parenting nightmare into a working relationship built on mutual respect and collaboration. Alanah breaks down the exact shift that changed everything — and what she did when her co-parent wasn't on board yet. If you've ever felt trapped in a conflict you can't get out of, this one's for you. Listen now and find out what's actually possible. What to expect in this episode: The parenting covenant strategy: How Alanah transformed a stack of legal pleadings into a clear, shared vision, and how to distill what you actually want from a conflict so you can start working toward it. What to do when your co-parent isn't on board: Practical guidance on enrolling a resistant co-parent in a new vision without forcing it on them. Why alignment beats agreement: The crucial difference between trying to agree on specifics and starting with what you both already share: your child's well-being. Real-time coaching and "texting from the ledge": Why practicing new patterns in the middle of a real conflict, not just during a coaching session, is what makes change stick. The shift from "have to" to "get to": How Alanah moved from feeling like a prisoner in her co-parenting dynamic to feeling genuinely liberated and what that shift actually required. Download free guide: Top 12 Tips To Help Your Complex Kids Connect with ImpactParents: Instagram Facebook LinkedIn Substack
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#277
July 29 · 26 min
EP277 Why Systems Fail—And What Actually Works for Complex Kids
You’ve tried the systems recommended for helping complex kids—reward charts, planners, new morning routines—and they’re just not sticking for your kid. It isn’t that you’re using bad systems, it's that often we’re starting with the solution before we understand the problem. In this episode, Elaine and Diane unpack why systems and structures are the last piece of the parenting puzzle, not the first, and walk you through a practical, personalized approach to building routines that actually hold up for neurodiverse kids. Ready to stop guessing and start problem solving? This one's for you. What to expect in this episode: Why systems and structures come last in the ImpactParents model. The real reason reward charts and planners only work some of the time. How to problem-solve before you pick a system using real world scenarios and practical examples. Why buy-in and ownership are essential for complex kids and how to get them on board without a power struggle. The concept of "flexible structure": how to build routines that are solid enough to hold, but have enough give to survive a hard day. Download free guide: Top 12 Tips To Help Your Complex Kids Connect with ImpactParents: Instagram Facebook LinkedIn Substack
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#276
July 22 · 23 min
EP276: Shifting Expectations for Complex Kids: How to Meet Them Where They Are
Are you holding your complex kid to expectations that weren't built for their brain? In this episode, Elaine Taylor-Klaus and Diane Dempster dig into one of the most misunderstood concepts in parenting neurodiverse kids: shifting expectations—not lowering or eliminating them. You'll learn why the gap between expectation and reality is the root of most conflicts, the reasons why your complex kid might be struggling to meet the bar you set, and what it means to meet your kid where they are. If you’re raising a kid with ADHD or executive function challenges, this one’s an essential listen. Tune in, then head to ImpactParents.com to find out how you can keep learning with Sanity School® for Parents. What to expect in this episode: The 30% rule explained: Kids with executive function challenges are often 30% behind peers developmentally, which translates to 3–5 years for younger kids and 8–10 years for young adults. Shifting vs. lowering—they’re not the same thing: Understand the difference between abandoning your expectations and moving them to where your kid can actually reach them, then growing from there. Every trigger starts with a gap: The space between what you expect and what your kid delivers is the root cause of most conflicts at home. Process over outcome: Holding neurodiverse kids accountable to how they approach tasks (rather than just whether they finish them) is what really builds long-term capability and self-worth. The collaborative piece: Setting expectations isn't something you do to your kid, it's something you do with them, and buy-in from your child is what makes the whole thing stick. Download free guide: Top 12 Tips To Help Your Complex Kids Connect with ImpactParents: Instagram Facebook LinkedIn Substack
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#275
July 15 · 23 min
EP275: Positivity and Communication: The Second Cornerstone of Parenting Complex Kids
Being nice and being positive aren't the same thing—and if you're parenting a complex kid, that distinction matters. In this episode, Elaine Taylor-Klaus and Diane Dempster dig into the second Sanity School® cornerstone: positivity and communication. They cover why resilience more than intelligence influences success, what the "independence pyramid" is built on, and how the way you talk to your kid (and to yourself) shapes everything from relationships to self-regulation. It's part two of a four-part series. You can catch up on the first episode about activating your child’s brain and follow along so you don't miss the rest. What to expect in this episode: Why being positive isn't the same as being nice, and why that distinction matters for parenting complex kids Why resilience, not intelligence, is the biggest predictor of a kid's long-term success, and how to build it What the "independence pyramid" is, and why relationship, trust, and communication have to come in that order How tone, timing, and what your kid actually hears (versus what you meant) shape every conversation Why self-talk is a form of self-care, and how changing your own internal dialogue changes how you show up for your kid Download free guide: Top 12 Tips To Help Your Complex Kids Connect with ImpactParents: Instagram Facebook LinkedIn Substack
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#274
July 8 · 25 min
EP274: How to Activate Your ADHD Child's Brain: Executive Function, Emotions & Motivation
Your brilliant kid can't get out the door in the morning, falls apart over homework, and goes from fine to completely overwhelmed in seconds. You want to help them out, but it feels like you've tried everything and nothing sticks. In this episode of Parenting with Impact, Elaine Taylor-Klaus and Diane Dempster break down what's actually happening in your child's brain, and why executive function, emotional regulation, and motivation are the three most important things every parent of a neurodiverse kid needs to understand. This is part one of a four-episode series built on the framework ImpactParents has been teaching with their Sanity School® program for 15 years. If you're tired of jumping from strategy to strategy without meaningful progress, this episode gives you a powerful place to start. Hit follow so you don't miss what's coming next. What to expect in this episode: Why "activating the brain" is the foundation for everything else you'll do as a parent of a complex or neurodiverse kid—and what it actually means day-to-day The real reason your brilliant child struggles to organize, plan, or follow through (it has nothing to do with how smart they are, it just requires a completely different part of the brain) What executive function looks like in daily life, and how Dr. Thomas E. Brown's six-area model helps you pinpoint exactly where your child needs support Why your child probably isn't really going from "zero to a hundred"—and what's actually happening in their nervous system before the meltdown Why your child isn't unmotivated — they're differently wired, and understanding that changes everything about how you show up for them Download free guide: Top 12 Tips To Help Your Complex Kids Connect with ImpactParents: Instagram Facebook LinkedIn Substack
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July 1 · 29 min
EP273: Parenting Ahead of the Problem with Dr. Ross Greene
When rewards, punishments, and consequences aren’t working, it may be time to ask new questions. In this episode, Dr. Ross Greene explains why challenging behavior isn’t usually a sign of defiance or poor motivation, but a signal that a child is struggling with expectations they cannot yet meet. He introduces the Collaborative and Proactive Solutions mode and explains how shifting from behavior management to collaborative problem solving can reduce conflict, strengthen relationships, and help kids build the skills they need to succeed. Discover how changing the way you see challenging behavior can transform the way you support your child. What to expect in this episode: Why challenging behavior is often signals a struggle with skills rather than defiance The difference between managing behaviors and addressing the causes behind them The role of collaboration in helping kids build problem-solving skills How proactive conversations can reduce power struggles and emotional blowups What schools and families can do differently to better support complex kids About Dr. Ross Greene Ross is the originator of the Collaborative & Proactive Solutions (CPS) model, as described in his influential books The Explosive Child, Lost at School, Lost & Found, and Raising Human Beings, and the forthcoming The Kids Who Aren't Okay: The Urgent Case for Reimagining Support, Belonging, and Hope in Schools. He served on the faculty at Harvard Medical School for over 20 years, and is now an adjunct Professor in the Department of Psychology at Virginia Tech and in the Faculty of Science at The University of Technology Sydney in Australia. He is deeply involved in fundraising efforts at Lives in the Balance, CPS model projects, and Lives in the Balance documentaries and mini-documentaries. Connect with Dr. Ross Website: Lives in the Balance Instagram: @livesinthebalance YouTube: Lives in the Balance (Dr. Ross Greene) Book: The Explosive Child by Greene, Ross W. | The Explosive Child by Ross Greene The Explosive Child [Sixth Edition] by Greene PhD, Ross W. The Kids Who Aren't Okay by Ross W. Greene Ph.D. Get your FREE copy of 12 Key Coaching Tools for Parents at https://impactparents.com/gift. Connect with Impact Parents: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/impactparents Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ImpactParents LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/impactparents Sponsors "Cognitive Ergonomics from the Inside Out" – A New ADHD Intervention Do you recognize current ADHD interventions fall short? At DIG Coaching, we've developed a groundbreaking field of engineering called Cognitive Ergonomics from the Inside Out. Discover a fresh approach to ADHD care that looks beyond traditional methods. Learn more at www.cognitive-ergonomics.com
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June 24 · 34 min
EP272: How To Build the School Support Kids with ADHD Need to Thrive with Jenny Drennan
Getting your child through school should not feel like navigating a maze, but for many parents, it does. When learning differences, executive function challenges, or other school struggles are a factor, it can be hard to know which supports will actually work and how to find ones that will be a good fit. In this episode, educational therapist Jenny Drennan unpacks the differences among tutors, coaches, educational therapists, advocates, and other specialists, and shares what parents need to know before investing their time, energy, and resources. Get ready to cut through the confusion and discover how finding the right support can strengthen not only your child's growth, but your relationship with them. What to expect in this episode: The differences between tutoring, educational therapy, coaching, and school-based supports What cognitive assessments reveal about how a child learns and struggles Why executive function support requires more than just organizational tools The role of authentic buy-in in determining a support’s success How the parent-child relationship impacts learning and growth About Jenny Drennan Jenny Drennan is a Board-Certified Educational Therapist, Founder of WeThrive Learning, and a featured speaker. Her private practice specializes in supporting students with ADHD and math and language processing challenges. Drawing on best practices and the latest research, WeThrive Learning provides 1-1 tailored support for students and parents globally, taking into account their complex learning profiles. She is certified by ImpactParents as a Sanity School® behavior therapy program trainer. Her passion, work, and insights have earned her recognition as one of the top 10 most influential educators by MSN. Her contributions and presentations have also been featured on numerous podcasts, in organizations, at workshops, and in parent groups. Connect with Jenny Website: WeThrive Learning Podcast: WeThrive Learning Facebook Group: Parent Your ADHD Child with Confidence! Get your FREE copy of 12 Key Coaching Tools for Parents at https://impactparents.com/gift. Connect with Impact Parents: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/impactparents Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ImpactParents LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/impactparents Sponsors "Cognitive Ergonomics from the Inside Out" – A New ADHD Intervention Do you recognize current ADHD interventions fall short? At DIG Coaching, we've developed a groundbreaking field of engineering called Cognitive Ergonomics from the Inside Out. Discover a fresh approach to ADHD care that looks beyond traditional methods. Learn more at www.cognitive-ergonomics.com
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