Pardon the Mess with Scarlet Hiltibidal - Christian Motherhood, Biblical Parenting, Raising Christian Kids

Scarlet Hiltibidal and Christian Parenting

As parents, we know raising kids is the opposite of neat and tidy. Pardon the Mess is a podcast for Christian moms who love Jesus, love their kids, and still feel behind on most days. Each week, host Scarlet takes one real parenting mess (morning meltdowns, discipline guilt, raising kind kids in a world that doesn't feel kind) and untangles it with honesty and grace, one small, faithful step at a time. No five-step systems. No longer to-do lists. Just clarity about what matters most and permission to let the rest go.

Pardon the Mess is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcast Network. To find practical and spiritual advice to help you grow into the parent you want to be visit www.ChristianParenting.org

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I Feel Like I’m Losing Myself in Motherhood
Have you ever looked in the mirror and wondered, Who even am I anymore? Motherhood is beautiful, sacred, and deeply meaningful, but it can also feel all-consuming. Somewhere between diaper changes, school pickups, endless laundry, and caring for everyone else, it's easy to lose sight of who you are. In this episode, Scarlet Hiltibidal shares honestly about what it feels like to lose yourself in motherhood and why the answer isn't finding your "old self" again, but anchoring your identity in Jesus. Through personal stories, biblical encouragement, and practical rhythms, you'll be reminded that your worth isn't found in your productivity, your parenting, or your season of life. It's found in Jesus.. If you've been feeling unseen, overwhelmed, or like you've disappeared beneath the title of "Mom," this conversation is for you. Special thanks to Katie Hinson, who shared her own experience with this for this week's Messy Mom Moment! If this episode encouraged you, be sure to subscribe, leave a positive review, and share it with a friend who may need hope today. In this episode: Why so many moms feel like they've lost themselves The difference between your role as a mom and your identity in Christ The importance of friendship and Christian community Key Scripture Colossians 3:1-4 Ephesians 2:10 Resources: You are Not Forgotten by Christine Hoover The Adventure Bible Bridging Resilience Faith in Action: Prayers from James for the Next Generation Sign up for Morning Minute First15 Connect with Pardon The Mess: Get to know Scarlet here Christian Parenting Pardon The Mess Scarlet’s Instagram Scarlet’s Facebook Join the Pardon the Mess community by subscribing and leaving a review! Prefer video? This episode is on YouTube! Pardon The Mess is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcast Network. For more information visit www.ChristianParenting.org Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
Thursday · 29 min
Homeschool, Public, or Private...How Do I Choose?
How do you know you're making the right decision for your kids? Whether you're homeschooling, choosing private school, considering public school, or simply wondering if you're getting this whole parenting thing right, the pressure can feel overwhelming. In this episode, Scarlet Hiltibidal reminds us that while parenting comes with countless decisions, our greatest calling isn't to engineer the perfect childhood—it's to faithfully point our children to Jesus. Through biblical encouragement and practical wisdom, Scarlet shares how Scripture shapes our approach to discipleship at home, why prayer and wise counsel matter, and how resting in God's sovereignty frees us from the burden of believing everything depends on us. In this episode, you'll hear: What the Bible says about discipling our children in everyday life. Why God's Word should be woven into the rhythms of your home. How to seek wisdom through prayer, Scripture, and godly counsel when making educational decisions. The freedom that comes from remembering you are called to point your children to Jesus—not save them. How trusting God's sovereignty brings peace in every parenting season. Key Scriptures Proverbs 3:5–6 Deuteronomy 6 Key Takeaways God's Word is meant to shape the everyday rhythms of family life. Parenting is about faithful discipleship, not perfect outcomes. Every family and every season is unique—seek God's wisdom rather than someone else's formula. Prayer and biblical wisdom should guide every major parenting decision. God is already at work in your child's life, and you can trust Him with what you cannot control. Special thanks to Ever, Scarlet’s 15-year-old, who shared her own experience with this for this week's Messy Mom Moment! If this episode encouraged you, be sure to subscribe, leave a positive review, and share it with a friend who may need hope today. Prefer video? This episode is on YouTube! Resources: The Adventure Bible Cozy Earth (use code PARDONTHEMESS for up to 20% off! And if you get a Post-Purchase Survey, make sure to let them know you heard about Cozy Earth right here!) Bridging Resilience Get your copy of Faith in Action: Prayers from James for the Next Generation today! Get to know Scarlet here Sign up for Morning Minute Seeds Kids Worship Connect with Pardon The Mess: Christian Parenting Pardon The Mess Scarlet’s Instagram Scarlet’s Facebook Pardon The Mess is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcast Network. For more information visit www.ChristianParenting.org Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
July 23 · 34 min
Summer is Long…What Do I Do With My Kids?
Summer always seems to come with big expectations. We imagine memory-making adventures, endless family fun, and kids who magically never complain. But somewhere between snack requests, screen-time negotiations, and trying to keep everyone occupied, many of us end up wondering if we're doing enough. In this episode, Scarlet Hiltibidal shares why the best summer isn't necessarily the busiest one. Instead, she explores how the gospel frees us from the pressure to create a "perfect" summer and invites us to faithfully enjoy the ordinary moments God has already given us. You'll also hear from special guest Anna Van Dyke, who shares simple, practical rhythms that have helped her family cultivate faith, connection, and joy throughout the summer. Whether you're staying home, traveling, or just trying to survive another hot afternoon with your kids, this episode will encourage you to embrace intentionality over perfection and remember that God is already at work in the everyday moments. In This Episode Why summer can leave moms feeling overwhelmed How the gospel frees us from the pressure to create a "perfect" childhood Simple spiritual rhythms your family can build into everyday life Practical ideas for creating meaningful summer memories without overscheduling Finding joy in the ordinary instead of chasing extraordinary moments Scripture Focus Colossians 3:17 Luke 10:38-42 Special thanks to Anna Van Dyke who shared her own experience with this for this week's Messy Mom Moment! If this episode encouraged you, be sure to subscribe, leave a positive review, and share it with a friend who may need hope today. Prefer video? This episode is on YouTube! Resources: The Adventure Bible Cozy Earth (use code PARDONTHEMESS for up to 20% off! And if you get a Post-Purchase Survey, make sure to let them know you heard about Cozy Earth right here!) Get your copy of Faith in Action: Prayers from James for the Next Generation today! Get to know Scarlet here Sign up for Morning Minute Connect with Pardon The Mess: Christian Parenting Pardon The Mess Scarlet’s Instagram Scarlet’s Facebook Pardon The Mess is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcast Network. For more information visit www.ChristianParenting.org Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
July 16 · 30 min
I Don't Know How to Help My Child Through Friendship Drama
Few things are harder than watching your child come home hurt by a friend. Whether they're feeling left out, navigating conflict, experiencing rejection, or struggling through friendship drama, many moms find themselves wondering: Should I step in? Should I stay out of it? How do I help without making it worse? In this episode of Pardon the Mess, Scarlet Hiltibidal shares personal stories, practical encouragement, and biblical wisdom for helping children navigate relational conflict in a way that reflects the heart of Jesus. Through the lens of Matthew 18, she'll explore how we can teach our kids to pursue reconciliation, extend forgiveness, and find their identity in Christ rather than in the approval of others. If you've ever felt helpless watching your child struggle socially, this conversation will encourage you to trust God with their relationships while helping them develop the skills and character they'll need for a lifetime of healthy friendships. In This Episode: Why friendship drama affects moms so deeply The difference between protecting your child and preparing them What Jesus teaches about conflict and reconciliation in Matthew 18 How to help your child navigate hurt, rejection, and misunderstandings Teaching kids to pursue peace instead of gossip Helping children separate their identity from their friendships Practical ways to walk alongside your child without taking over How the gospel transforms the way we handle relational conflict Scripture Referenced: Matthew 18:15 Ephesians 4:31–32 Special thanks to Vanessa Dolberry who shared her own experience with this for this week's Messy Mom Moment! If this episode encouraged you, be sure to subscribe, leave a positive review, and share it with a friend who may need hope today. P.S. Scarlet also joined Steph on The Christian Parenting Podcast earlier this week for a great conversation on embracing the Gospel for real-life parenting messes! Listen here or watch here Resources: The Adventure Bible Get your copy of Faith in Action: Prayers from James for the Next Generation today! Get to know Scarlet here Sign up for Morning Minute Prefer video? This episode is on YouTube! Connect with Pardon The Mess: Christian Parenting Pardon The Mess Scarlet’s Instagram Scarlet’s Facebook Pardon The Mess is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcast Network. For more information visit www.ChristianParenting.org Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
July 9 · 26 min
I Don’t Know How to Trust God’s Goodness After a Miscarriage
In this deeply personal episode, Scarlet Hiltibidal shares her own experiences with miscarriage and the difficult questions that often accompany loss. Through stories of grief, fear, and surrender, she reflects on the difference between questioning God's goodness and learning to trust His goodness even when circumstances don't make sense. Whether you're walking through pregnancy loss yourself or supporting a mom friend who is, this conversation offers biblical encouragement, honest hope, and practical ways to care for those who are grieving. Together, we'll explore what it looks like to cling to God in heartbreak and find comfort in His unchanging character when life feels uncertain. In this episode: Scarlet's personal experiences with miscarriage Wrestling with faith in seasons of loss Trusting God's goodness when life doesn't feel good Biblical encouragement for grieving moms Practical ways to support someone experiencing pregnancy loss Finding hope and healing in Christ amid unanswered questions If you've ever wondered how to hold both grief and faith at the same time, this episode is for you! Today's Scripture Focus: Psalm 34:18, Romans 8:32, Lamentations 3:22-23, John 11:35 Special thanks to Scarlet’s little tiny infant baby sister (who is 32!) Aubrey Fuhrman, who shared her own experience with this for this week's Messy Mom Moment! If this episode encouraged you, be sure to subscribe, leave a positive review, and share it with a friend who may need hope today. Resources: The Adventure Bible Get to know Scarlet here Sign up for Morning Minute Prefer video? This episode is on YouTube! Connect with Pardon The Mess: Christian Parenting Pardon The Mess Scarlet’s Instagram Scarlet’s Facebook Pardon The Mess is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcast Network. For more information visit www.ChristianParenting.org Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
July 2 · 39 min
A Bad Diagnosis & Letting Kids See Hard Things
How do you talk to your kids about cancer, suffering, terminal illness, or the possibility of losing someone they love? Whether it's a grandparent's diagnosis, a chronic illness, a devastating loss, or another painful reality, there comes a moment when we realize we cannot protect our children from every hard thing this side of heaven. In this episode of Pardon the Mess, Scarlet Hiltibidal shares from a deeply personal place as she reflects on her mother's battle with stage-four cancer and the challenges of helping her own children navigate grief, uncertainty, and difficult questions. How much do we tell our kids? Should they see us cry? How do we help them process suffering when we're still processing it ourselves? Together, we'll explore what Scripture teaches about suffering, why Christian hope is different from wishful thinking, and how parents can model faith in the middle of fear. Rather than shielding our children from every hardship, we have the opportunity to show them what it looks like to trust Jesus when life hurts. This conversation is ultimately about more than cancer. It's about helping our children discover that God's presence is real, His promises are trustworthy, and His love remains steadfast even when life feels fragile. Today's Scripture Focus: 2 Corinthians 4:16–18 "Therefore we do not give up. Even though our outer person is being destroyed, our inner person is being renewed day by day..." Special thanks to Jennifer Sieber, who shared her own experience with this for this week's Messy Mom Moment! If this episode encouraged you, be sure to subscribe, leave a review, and share it with a friend who may need hope today. Resources: Get to know Scarlet here Sign up for Morning Minute Hopeful-ish: Sadness, Weariness, Donkey Attacks, More Sadness, and Other Stuff You Need the Gospel For Prefer video? This episode is on YouTube! Connect with Pardon The Mess: Christian Parenting Pardon The Mess Scarlet’s Instagram Scarlet’s Facebook Pardon The Mess is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcast Network. For more information visit www.ChristianParenting.org Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
June 25 · 34 min
I Don't Know How to Help My Kids Feel at Home When Home Keeps Changing
How do we help our children navigate change when their hearts are breaking over what they're leaving behind? In this week's episode of Pardon the Mess, Scarlet Hiltibidal shares from a lifetime of moving, from her childhood years spent relocating across the country to the many ministry moves she's made as a wife and mom. She explores the unique challenges of helping children process transitions, say goodbye to people and places they love, and learn to trust God in unfamiliar seasons. Drawing from personal stories of moving with young children, leaving beloved churches and communities, and helping her family build new lives in new places, Scarlet discusses the tension many parents feel: wanting their children to embrace what's ahead without minimizing the grief of what's being left behind. But this episode isn't ultimately about moving. It's about belonging. It's about helping our children understand that while homes, schools, churches, friendships, and circumstances may change, God never does. Through biblical examples like Abraham, Moses, Ruth, and the Israelites, Scarlet highlights a powerful theme woven throughout Scripture: God's people have always been travelers, strangers, and sojourners learning to trust Him in unfamiliar places. The Christian life has never been about finding perfect security in this world. It's about learning to anchor our hearts in the One who never changes. In this episode, Scarlet discusses: • How to help children grieve the people, places, and routines they love • Why grief is not evidence that a move or transition was a mistake • The tension of feeling both excitement and sadness during major life changes • Biblical examples of faithful people who followed God into the unknown • Why earthly homes, relationships, and comforts make poor ultimate foundations • How transitions reveal where we are placing our security and identity • Practical ways to help children build trust in God's faithfulness during uncertain seasons • How to cultivate gratitude for God's gifts without clinging too tightly to them Today's Scripture Focus: Hebrews 11:13–16 A special thank you to Caroline Downen who shared her own moving to Japan and back experience during the Messy Mom Moment! If this episode encouraged you, be sure to subscribe, leave a review, and share it with a friend who may need this reminder today. 00:00 Embracing Transitions: A Personal Journey 12:02 Navigating Grief and Change with Kids 17:50 Finding Home in a Changing World Resources: Get to know Scarlet here Sign up for Morning Minute Prefer video? This episode is on YouTube! Connect with Pardon The Mess: Christian Parenting Pardon The Mess Scarlet’s Instagram Scarlet’s Facebook Pardon The Mess is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcast Network. For more information visit www.ChristianParenting.org Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
June 18 · 31 min
Loving Each of My Kids Well (When They All Need Something Different)
How do you love your children well when every one of them seems to need something completely different from you? In this week's episode of Pardon the Mess, Scarlet Hiltibidal explores one of the most common tensions in motherhood: the desire to make sure each child feels deeply loved, seen, and secure, even when their personalities, needs, struggles, and seasons of life look nothing alike. Drawing from her own experience parenting four very different children, including sharing the adoption story of her daughter Joy, Scarlet reflects on the unique challenges and unexpected gifts that come with loving children individually rather than identically. From navigating a wide age gap between siblings to understanding different temperaments, emotional needs, and life experiences, she discusses the pressure many moms feel to keep everything equal, and why equal isn't always the same as loving well. At the heart of this conversation is a beautiful gospel truth: God Himself does not interact with every one of His children in exactly the same way. Throughout Scripture, we see a God who knows people personally, pursues them individually, and meets them in the unique circumstances of their lives. He is not a generic Father offering generic love. He is a deeply personal God who sees, knows, and cares for each of His children completely. This episode is also a reminder that our children's deepest security will never come from having perfectly balanced parents or perfectly equal circumstances. Their security comes from knowing they are fully known and fully loved by God. While we will inevitably fall short, the good news of the gospel is that our children do not need perfect parents. They need parents who consistently point them to the only perfect Father. Today's Scripture Focus: Psalm 139 A special thank you to Scarlet's 13-year-old daughter, Joy, for joining this week's Messy Mom Moment. If this episode encouraged you, be sure to subscribe, leave a review, and share it with a friend who may need this reminder today. 00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview 19:17 The Beauty of Individual Love in Family Dynamics 21:15 Understanding God's Personal Love for Us 23:32 Biblical Examples of Tailored Love 25:42 Practical Steps for Unique Parenting 27:30 Closing Thoughts and Encouragement Resources: Get to know Scarlet here Sign up for Morning Minute Moms, Dads, and Grads Gift Guide Prefer video? This episode is on YouTube! Connect with Pardon The Mess: Christian Parenting Pardon The Mess Scarlet’s Instagram Scarlet’s Facebook Pardon The Mess is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcast Network. For more information visit www.ChristianParenting.org Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
June 11 · 28 min
I Keep Feeling Like I’m Failing My Kids
It’s officially Scarlet Hiltibidal’s first episode as the new host of Pardon the Mess, and she’s kicking things off with a conversation every mom needs to hear. If you’ve ever laid in bed replaying your parenting failures, wondered if your bad moments are shaping your kids forever, or felt crushed under the pressure to “get motherhood right,” this episode is for you. Scarlet shares honest stories from her own home, the parenting advice that radically changed her perspective as a young mom, and the freeing truth that the gospel was never about pretending we’re perfect parents. It’s about pointing our children to a perfect Savior. She explores how our failures can actually become places where grace shines bright, why joy and peace in motherhood cannot be built on performance, and how repentance, humility, and dependence on Jesus create a healthier home than image management ever could. In this episode, Scarlet talks about: • Why motherhood often feels spiritually heavy and emotionally exhausting • The difference between parenting for performance versus parenting from grace • How our identity in Christ changes the way we respond to our failures • The beauty of apologizing to our kids and modeling repentance • Why children do not need flawless parents — they need parents who know Jesus • How the Holy Spirit empowers us to live with joy, peace, and dependence instead of striving • Practical ways to reset the tone of your home when everything feels chaotic This episode is a reminder that your worst moments are not the truest thing about you. Jesus is still present in the mess, still forming your children, and still offering grace for today. Whether you’re parenting toddlers, teenagers, or somewhere in between, this conversation will help you exhale, laugh a little, and remember what matters most. Today's Scripture Focus: Romans 8:1-4 If this episode encouraged you, be sure to subscribe, leave a review, and share it with a mom friend who needs some hope today. Special thanks to Michelle Glass who shared a beautiful testimony for this week's Messy Mom Moment! Resources: Get to know Scarlet here Afraid of All the Things Sign up for Morning Minute Moms, Dads, and Grads Gift Guide Prefer video? This episode is on YouTube! Connect with Pardon The Mess: Christian Parenting Pardon The Mess Scarlet’s Instagram Scarlet’s Facebook Pardon The Mess is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcast Network. For more information visit www.ChristianParenting.org Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
June 4 · 32 min
Trailer
As parents, we know raising kids is the opposite of neat and tidy. Pardon the Mess is a podcast for Christian moms who love Jesus, love their kids, and still feel behind on most days. Each week, host Scarlet takes one real parenting mess (morning meltdowns, discipline guilt, raising kind kids in a world that doesn't feel kind) and untangles it with honesty and grace, one small, faithful step at a time. No five-step systems. No longer to-do lists. Just clarity about what matters most and permission to let the rest go. Pardon the Mess is part of the Christian Parenting Podcast Network. For practical and spiritual advice to help you grow into the parent you want to be, visit www.ChristianParenting.org. Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
June 1 · 1 min
Meet your new host, Scarlet Hiltibidal!
Well, it’s a bittersweet day for me. I am delighted to introduce you to your NEW HOST of Pardon the Mess, Scarlet Hiltibidal. This is my last episode as your host, and I am feeling all the emotions. I am grateful and sad and feeling so much peace. Thank you for letting me into your lives for a few years. I pray God encouraged you in your role as a Christian parent. A special thanks to Jill Jefferson, Steph Thurling, Jeannette Tapley and the entire team at Christian Parenting. I couldn’t have done it without you all. Today, you will get to know Scarlet and her family. She has a beautiful heart for the Lord and the imperfect journey of parenting. She is passionate about the gospel and has a new twist on the Thursday episodes. And great news - the Monday prayer episodes will be returning after the summer! Much love and gratitude, Courtney DeFeo 00:00 Introduction and Family Dynamics 03:03 Scarlet's Unique Childhood and Background 06:00 Transition to Writing and Parenting 08:57 The Journey to Becoming a Writer 11:55 Joining Christian Parenting and Future Plans 16:15 Navigating Parenting Challenges with Grace 21:13 Embracing Imperfection in Parenting 25:00 Finding Hope Amidst Struggles 30:32 Preparing for the Future of Parenting Podcast Connect with Pardon The Mess: Christian Parenting Pardon The Mess Courtney DeFeo Resources from today’s show: Connect with Scarlet Hiltibidal Connect with Courtney DeFeo Open a LearningRX center Summer Reading Picks Prefer video? This episode is on YouTube! Sign up for Morning Minute Pardon The Mess is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcast Network. For more information visit www.ChristianParenting.org Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
May 28 · 39 min
Week 38: Be sanctified - Jesus
Fixing our eyes on Jesus, the pioneer and perfecter of faith. For the joy set before him he endured the cross, scorning its shame, and sat down at the right hand of the throne of God. (Hebrews 12:2) All the people we have talked about this year are heroes of faith. Whether they were named or unnamed, their stories hold significance in God’s word, which is always worthy of our attention! As much as we want our kids to take on the characteristics of the people in this great cloud of witnesses, our primary desire is that our kids become like Jesus, our rabbi, friend, perfect king, and our Savior. We become more and more like Jesus as we spend more time with him. It’s the process of sanctification, or being made holy. We cannot be fully sanctified on this side of heaven, but the Holy Spirit does work within us as we surrender, obey, and return to him when we get it wrong. We are shaped to look more and more like Jesus. Our kids will make mistakes, struggle with sin, and face challenges. We all do; it’s part of living in a broken world. But as they become more like him, their responses to those things will change because becoming more like Jesus means choosing truth over lies, kindness over gossip, love over selfishness, and obedience over comfort. As we end this year of praying for our kids, let’s pray that our kids become like Jesus, that they live such a full life of faith that others will say, “They loved like Jesus loved.” Jesus, sanctify __________ through your Spirit. Shape their heart to reflect you in how they love, serve, follow, and obey. May they go to you every day and learn to talk with you and listen to your voice all day long. May they allow you to help them be more like you every day so that your light shines through them. Amen. Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
May 25 · 10 min
When decisions are tough with Megan Jones
Big decisions in motherhood often come with uncertainty—especially when it comes to balancing family, work, calling, and the many demands on our time. In this episode, the tables are turned as Megan Jones interviews Courtney about her decision to step away as host of Pardon the Mess. The conversation explores the tension many moms feel when navigating career decisions, learning when to say yes or no, and discerning God’s direction in changing seasons. Together, they talk honestly about the twists and turns that can come with work and motherhood, the challenge of trusting God with the unknown, and the importance of following his leading even when the path forward isn’t fully clear. This episode is a thoughtful encouragement for anyone walking through a season of transition or making difficult decisions for themselves or their family. Chapters: 00:00 Introduction and Background 02:59 The Importance of Mentorship 05:56 Navigating Change and Transitions 12:08 Finding Purpose in Parenting 17:59 Reflections on Priorities and Regrets 18:48 Psst — we may have hidden a little surprise in this episode 🎉 In case you can't wait until May 28th to meet your new host! 23:56 Looking Ahead: Future Plans and Encouragement Connect with Pardon The Mess: Christian Parenting Pardon The Mess Courtney DeFeo Resources from today’s show: Connect with Megan Open a LearningRX center Summer Reading Picks Prefer video? This episode is on YouTube! Sign up for Morning Minute Pardon The Mess is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcast Network. For more information visit www.ChristianParenting.org Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
May 21 · 29 min
Week 37: Spread God’s word - Epaphroditus
How, then, can they call on the one they have not believed in? And how can they believe in the one of whom they have not heard? And how can they hear without someone preaching to them? And how can anyone preach unless they are sent? As it is written: “How beautiful are the feet of those who bring good news!” (Romans 10:14–15) Epaphroditus is not a name that many people know from the Bible, but his story is incredible. He was sent by the Philippians to bring a gift to Paul while he was in prison, but he did more than deliver a package—he ministered, encouraged, and served so faithfully that he became sick and nearly died. Once he recovered, he carried back the Letter to the Philippians, making sure that Paul’s message reached the church. Paul describes Epaphroditus as a minister, brother, coworker, and soldier. He was totally committed to both Paul and Jesus, and his story is a reminder that God uses all people to spread his word. Just like Epaphroditus was entrusted with a message, so are we. As soon as our kids accept Jesus, their mission begins. Sharing the gospel doesn’t require a microphone or a mission trip to a different city or country. Our mission to spread God’s truth happens in everyday conversations, acts of kindness, and bold faith. Whether at school, on the playground, or at home, our children carry the light of Jesus wherever they go. We are God’s first plan to spread the gospel, and not one of us is called to be quiet about it. So this week, let’s pray that our kids grow to know, love, and follow Jesus, and that they are so excited about their faith that they can’t help but share the hope of it all. Jesus, I pray that _______ will respond to your call to make disciples and share the gospel wherever they go. May they live in a way that reflects you working in their hearts. Give them the courage they need to share with others, and when they do, may they do so lovingly and gracefully. Amen. Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
May 18 · 8 min
Looking back over the years of parenting with Jeannie Cunnion
Parenting often feels like a journey of wondering whether we’re getting it right—and it can be easy to tie our worth to the outcome of our children’s lives and choices. In this episode, Jeannie Cunnion joins the conversation to reflect on the highs, challenges, and lessons learned through years of motherhood. Together, we talk about what really matters in parenting, how to release the pressure of trying to control outcomes, and why joy grows when we place our trust in God instead of our performance. The conversation also explores the role of the Holy Spirit in parenting and the reminder that we were never meant to do this alone. God is at work in our homes in ways we cannot manufacture on our own. This episode is a meaningful encouragement for moms who want to parent with more grace, freedom, and dependence on God. 00:00 The Exhaustion of Motherhood 04:10 Navigating Food and Family Life 06:04 Reflections on Parenting Through the Years 12:57 Faithfulness in Motherhood 15:48 The Importance of Instilling Faith 17:03 Cultivating Joy in Parenting 18:56 Relying on the Holy Spirit 24:29 The Power of Scripture in Family Life 30:03 Transformative Parenting Practices 33:32 Trusting God with Our Children Connect with Pardon The Mess: Christian Parenting Pardon The Mess Courtney DeFeo Resources from today’s show: Connect with Jeannie Closer to God Don’t Miss Out Mom Set Free Raising Boys and Girls ABC Scripture Cards I Can Learn The Bible - scripture memory source Open a LearningRX center Moms, Dads, and Grads Gift Guide Prefer video? This episode is on YouTube! Sign up for Morning Minute Pardon The Mess is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcast Network. For more information visit www.ChristianParenting.org Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
May 14 · 38 min
Week 36: A legacy of faith - Eunice and Lois
I am reminded of your sincere faith, which first lived in your grandmother Lois and in your mother Eunice and, I am persuaded, now lives in you also. (2 Timothy 1:5) Eunice and Lois are very briefly mentioned as the mother and grandmother of Timothy, but they are known for passing on a legacy of sincere faith. Have you ever thought about your kids being grandparents or parents one day? It’s incredible to think that what you pour into your kids now will influence what they pour into their own kids and impact generations to come. Sometimes, raising kids can feel mundane and like an unseen role, when the truth is that this important work can actually raise up generations of faith-filled men and women. This feels like a lot of pressure, but faith is so often caught, not taught. If we model a sincere faith to our kids, they are likely to follow the same path. We don’t know what the future holds for our kids. Whether they become parents and grandparents or not, they will have an influence on the next generation of believers. As they know, love, and follow Jesus, they aren’t just impacting the world directly in front of them. They are also impacting people they don’t even know yet. This week, let’s pray that our kids see the bigger calling on their lives and that their sincere faith will ripple out to many generations. Jesus, I pray that __________ is a godly influence on everyone around them, that they live out a sincere faith in a way that influences their family, their friends, and their future family as well. Lord, I pray that you would begin to create a legacy of faith in my children to love God and love others. Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
May 11 · 13 min
Why discomfort is critical for our kids with Sissy Goff and David Thomas
ATTENTION: I have a pretty big announcement in the introduction of this episode. Don’t miss what’s coming next on Pardon the Mess! Raising confident, resilient kids starts with helping them believe they are capable. In this episode, Sissy Goff and David Thomas—therapists and authors of Capable—share insight on how to help children build the confidence and resilience they need to face challenges. Drawing from decades of counseling experience, the conversation explores what it means for kids to develop a deep belief in their ability to do hard things and navigate adversity. We talk about the importance of allowing kids to experience discomfort, why stepping back can actually help them grow, and how everyday moments can build confidence and emotional strength. This episode is a helpful reminder that our kids are often more capable than we realize—and that giving them space to struggle can be one of the greatest gifts we offer. Chapters: 00:00 Introduction and Personal Stories of Capability 03:02 Understanding Anxiety in Children 05:56 The Role of Parents in Building Capability 08:53 Balancing Support and Challenge in Parenting 11:46 Real-Life Examples of Capability in Children 15:00 Encouraging Capability in Teenagers 17:48 Conclusion and Final Thoughts Connect with Pardon The Mess: Christian Parenting Pardon The Mess Courtney DeFeo Resources from today’s show: Raising Boys and Girls Connect on Instagram with Raising Boys and Girls Connect on Instagram with Sissy Goff New book - Capable Open a LearningRX center Moms, Dads, and Grads Gift Guide Prefer video? This episode is on YouTube! Sign up for Morning Minute Pardon The Mess is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcast Network. For more information visit www.ChristianParenting.org Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
May 7 · 29 min
Week 35: Proclaim faith publicly-the jailer’s house
Peter replied, “Repent and be baptized, every one of you, in the name of Jesus Christ for the forgiveness of your sins. And you will receive the gift of the Holy Spirit.” (Acts 2:38) There once was a jailer who was ordered to guard Paul and Silas securely. Around midnight, Paul and Silas were praying and singing hymns to God when an earthquake shook the prison, flinging open the doors and loosening everyone’s chains. The jailer woke up and saw the doors open. Thinking the prisoners had escaped, he was about to kill himself, but Paul shouted and saved him. He fell to the ground and asked Paul and Silas what he had to do to be saved. In that moment, the word of the Lord spoke to the jailer and his entire household. The jailer was transformed: He took Paul and Silas and cleaned all their wounds, he and his entire house were baptized immediately, and then he brought Paul and Silas back to his house and served them a meal and was filled with joy. He went from imprisoning Jesus’s messengers to joyfully sharing a meal after a baptism! Faith is meant to transform us, and baptism is meant to tell the whole world of that transformation! Baptism does not save us; it is an outward display of an inward decision. When we are baptized, we are publicly telling people that we are no longer who we were before we followed Jesus. We should desire that type of faith for our kids—a faith that means being not ashamed but proud of how Jesus changed their lives. This week, let’s pray that our kids tell people when Jesus changes their lives. When baptism is right for them, let’s pray they make that choice confidently and joyfully and let’s celebrate them big! Jesus, I pray that you change __________’s life. May they have the type of faith that immediately takes action because they know life with you is too good. May they publicly declare their faith, so everyone knows they follow you. Amen. Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
May 4 · 10 min
How do I grow in my faith with Shelley Giglio
It’s easy to focus so much on caring for our families that we neglect our own personal faith. In this episode, Shelley Giglio, co-founder of Passion Conferences and Passion City Church, shares wisdom on what it looks like for women to cultivate a strong, personal relationship with God. The conversation explores how our faith shapes our homes, why it matters for our kids to see it lived out, and how to keep Jesus at the center in everyday life. We talk about practical ways to grow spiritually, the influence of a parent’s faith on the next generation, and the lasting impact of consistently showing up with intention. This episode is a meaningful reminder that investing in your own faith is one of the most powerful ways to impact your family. Chapters: 00:00 Introduction and Early Impressions 02:59 Seasons of Life and Ministry 05:56 The Importance of Letting Go 09:00 Faith and Parenting Dynamics 11:58 Encouragement for Moms 14:55 Everyday Discipleship and Spiritual Growth 16:00 Building Consistency in Scripture Reading 20:09 Navigating Faith Amidst Illness and Disappointment 24:01 The Impact of Family on Faith Development 30:00 Embracing Unique Paths in Motherhood Connect with Pardon The Mess: Christian Parenting Pardon The Mess Courtney DeFeo Resources from today’s show: Connect with Shelley Passion City Church Passion Conferences Six Steps Records The Grove Open a LearningRX center Moms, Dads, and Grads Gift Guide Prefer video? This episode is on YouTube! Sign up for Morning Minute Pardon The Mess is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcast Network. For more information visit www.ChristianParenting.org Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
April 30 · 35 min
Week 34: Contentment - Paul
I am not saying this because I am in need, for I have learned to be content whatever the circumstances. I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want. I can do all this through him who gives me strength. (Philippians 4:11–13) In his efforts to spread the gospel all over the world, the apostle Paul endured trials that would break most people. He was beaten, imprisoned, hungry, and persecuted. He experienced dangerous travels, a shipwreck, and even a snake bite! But through all of that, Paul continued to praise Jesus. He even sang hymns while in prison! Of all people, Paul understood that our situations and our lives are temporary. He knew what it was like to have more than enough and also knew what it was like to struggle and fear. Through faith, Paul learned to be content in Christ, not his circumstances. Our lives can change in a second, and our emotions are fleeting. True contentment is learned, and it doesn’t come naturally, especially for kids. It’s so normal for our kids to want the next best thing. Of course they want the latest toys, electronics, shoes, or clothes, or a place on the best sports team. But when they base their happiness on these things, they are chasing a status and a high that will always leave them wanting more. Even though we know this as parents, we fall into that trap too! We will only feel truly content by trusting in God’s provision for us no matter what. Our contentment in Christ grows as we trust God more and more. This life is not about the latest and greatest, it’s about being in a relationship with God. This week, let’s pray that our kids shift their minds to Jesus and learn to be content in him no matter what. Lord, teach _______ to be content in you. Help them trust in your provision, rejoice in every season (good and bad), and find their peace not in circumstances or what they have but in you. May they, like Paul, decide that through Christ, they have all they need. Amen. Pardon the Mess is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcast Network. For more information visit www.ChristianParenting.org Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
April 27 · 13 min

Pardon the Mess with Scarlet Hiltibidal - Christian Motherhood, Biblical Parenting, Raising Christian Kids

I Feel Like I’m Losing Myself in Motherhood

Homeschool, Public, or Private...How Do I Choose?

Summer is Long…What Do I Do With My Kids?

I Don't Know How to Help My Child Through Friendship Drama

I Don’t Know How to Trust God’s Goodness After a Miscarriage

A Bad Diagnosis & Letting Kids See Hard Things

I Don't Know How to Help My Kids Feel at Home When Home Keeps Changing

Loving Each of My Kids Well (When They All Need Something Different)

I Keep Feeling Like I’m Failing My Kids

Trailer

Meet your new host, Scarlet Hiltibidal!

Week 38: Be sanctified - Jesus

When decisions are tough with Megan Jones

Week 37: Spread God’s word - Epaphroditus

Looking back over the years of parenting with Jeannie Cunnion

Week 36: A legacy of faith - Eunice and Lois

Why discomfort is critical for our kids with Sissy Goff and David Thomas

Week 35: Proclaim faith publicly-the jailer’s house

How do I grow in my faith with Shelley Giglio

Week 34: Contentment - Paul